This one hurts... R.E.M. - Everybody Hurts

[@LFRFAMILY]

*THANK YOU GUYS FOR BEING THE BEST SUPPORTERS IN THE 🌍‼️‼️*

[@joereyes7100]

🖤🖤🖤

[@nottherealhopsin1050]

one love!

[@angieormiston8028]

This is why you are my favorite

[@tysoncampbell4607]

U the man Van love all ur work and dedication to all of music fans everywhere. Much ❤️ from Iowa

[@bernadettefoster6038]

🖤🙏

[@destinyreelly2974]

I’ve seen my father cry once, when his mom died. My brother doesn’t cry either. I, on the other hand, cry frequently. It’s cleansing and I always feel better afterward. Food for thought. 😘

[@onechopbuddy3849]

A lot of men self soothe, the number of times I’ve cried on my own but never in front of anyone. It’s the equivalent of burying your head in the pillow or under the covers.

[@bassintermediary1960]

I bottle emotions and havent cried in years it'll happen at some point

[@brandonofthedead]

Some of us try and want to, but nothing comes out. Sometimes I use anger as a release. A lot of us don’t know any other way, and now we’ve come down the road so far we can’t find our way back. It sucks to be numb.

[@thechad1760]

Some think and others feel... Us feelers cry often so we don't murder.🤘

[@dsy4919]

I love your comment so much man! 🙏🙌 what a… just wow! I just love this comment so much!

[@rickybranch4547]

The song is an anti suicide anthem. If you feel emotion it's a good thing. Never be ashamed to feel.

[@DrMaiXiang]

Pretty ironic when you realize Kurt Cobain killed himself listening to this.

[@shannonwashburn4126]

I always feel better if I hear this song.

[@peggygallagher5802]

Van, sharing your vulnerability is absolutely beautiful. ❤ My husband "had enough" and hung himself at 45 yrs old recently. I'm lost. This song is extremely personal for me. Thank you Van.

[@The574crystal]

Hugs I understand... mine was 38

[@3generboiler]

Hope you are ok … I’m sorry for your loss

[@peggygallagher5802]

@@3generboiler Thank you. Struggling at the moment. October, used to be my favorite month as a child, has become a series of traumatic flashbacks and trauma. Suicides, deaths, and violence. Last suicide attempt less than a yr ago. I'm 59 and understand my illness well. My Profession is in Forensic Psychiatry ironically. Plead for help at a Compass Health Network here in Columbia MO, last week. I'm physically disabled and was told I would receive a Case Manager to help me get to my Psychiatric and Psychological appointments. However, because I don't have a drug addiction I don't "qualify". I'm beside myself as I face the abyss of October...again, thank you so much for your kind words 🙏💜✌

[@douglouthaine8799]

The person who can't cry, is one who has never stopped hurting.

[@crystalmorris215]

I hear you saying you struggle with showing certain feelings simply because you weren't raised that way. I personally feel you're pretty open. In the first 2 minutes of this video you were super vulnerable and open. Thats super hard to do. Give yourself the credit you deserve. 🖤

[@elliottcomer5352]

100%

[@amyhuggins9920]

Can I get an AMEN?!

[@imacpctunez7272]

​ Nut punch ! :) LOL dont be so hard on urself all good things in TIME MY GOOD SIR !@ greetings fellow earthling :) ! hello there .. everything happens for a reason in life .. not knowing why is a puzzle ..TILL you figure it out ... and sadly WE all do ,,, it just when we do ... :| peace + love keep moving forward ,,,, thought id share that :)

[@RockyMtnRebecca]

The current state of this nation of ours is making everyone hurt... If we just shut out the divisive media and start listening and talking to each other again, we're all good. We have to look at each other's eyes and not just yell at each other on social media, however. I can tell you have a warm and open spirit and aura through these videos. You are communicating who you are every time you look into the camera. Thanks ~ ♥

[@thechad1760]

Well said ❤🤘

[@danagraslie5718]

This song screams empathy...everybody hurts sometimes even if they aren't saying that out loud...exacly Van 😔💔💚💪💪

[@tombreeden595]

Music is a universal language that transcends. Superfiicially, neither of us would think that four white boys from Georgia could elicit these feelings in us. I am 72 years old and my mother made sure I was exposed to all music and performers as a child. I grew up with 50s doo-wo-, rockabilly, ballads, and so on into the 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s, and so on. Raising my kids, it was important to me to take them back and expose them to all that music and encourage them to stay current.in their lifetimes. Through music we can feel what the performer feels or what they want to convey. Some have more to say or say it better, but they all should get a chance to grab you. You are never too old to experience new feelings, meet new realities, expand your perceptions and understanding of your fellow man. I enjoy seeing your sincere efforts to give music a chance to expand your consciousness.

[@stephenbarker1734]

This is a prime example of the skillfull use of written lyrics to accomplish the main Important aim of producing art that of causing a reaction, touching the soul, connecting, acknowledging, commenting and voicing concern. This song has saved many, many peoples lives since its release, proven by vast amounts of letters received over the years by the group /lyric writer. This song should be listened to at least once during everyone's life. If anyone listens to this and is never effected they must seriously be dead inside. As a suffered of depression and suicidal ideation this song has saved me many, many times.

[@gamechanger1687]

I came across this today and I listened to you talk bout different cultures and coming together. And of course this song. I have loved it since it came out. It saved my life. It has so much meaning ."Don't throw your hand "it's deep. Cause in the game of life. You only get one hand. But I'll be checking stuff out for sure. But yeah..this song hits home like beast..

[@jacquelinejob2766]

I can see this song got to you ,the words are so true no matter what colour, race you are we are all one race the human race and we all hurt. Bless you and your loved ones.

[@jchampboston]

My father was super macho and a definite man’s man. However he gave me one of the greatest gifts you could give your children I caught him tearing up to a movie we were watching on TV once and then I looked away really fast and he said to me or you and I turned around he said there ain’t nothing wrong with doing what I’m doing if you need to cry in life than you let yourself cry anybody has a problem with it that’s their effing problem not yours he said don’t ever stifle your own feelings for other people. Also I know somebody that committed suicide today so this song came at an unbelievable time for me. Keep up the good work big fan of listening to what you have to say in your perspective

[@mothermayhem3255]

Playing For Change: Peace Through Music. Songs from musicians, from all around the world.

[@flor9389]

This song saved my life too. Going through the motions, hurting inside, unable to cry. Driving to work one day and the song came on. I started sobbing in the middle of traffic during rush hour on the toll road. When I got to work I called a doctor and got help.

[@naterater100]

My first comment was right at the beginning of the video. Having heard the rest, I would like to pray for you, and your family. Whatever is going on, I can assure you, is in God's hands. Let it out, cry, scream, do what you need to do. At the end of the day, break out that good book, read your favorite passages, reflect on how it makes you feel, and what those passages and words made you feel the first time you read them. Then find something new, flip the pages, find new favorite passages, ones that will only make sense once you let them. Godspeed my friend, his word will heal you, along with prayer from yourself, family, and others. You are a great man, and a great father. I will be keeping that in my prayers for you and your family.

[@TheSloopyJoe]

A strong man showes tears... it’s human!

[@dorothyannford8448]

Everything REM touches is brilliant!!! Love these guys

[@chrismiranda2051]

Man, you are an inspiration. Your positivity and energy always makes my day. And as I have watched your reactions I have learned not just about you and your culture, but about the people who request the songs that you react too. It's a big circle on this tiny planet that we are floating through space on. If we could all just realize that we have more in common than we have differences, this world would be a greater place for it. Keep up the great work.

[@markgubala8868]

When I was in jr high school two sides battled rock boys and funk disco boys. I liked both and was a bridge of sorts pointing out the good on both types of music. Got flack but i won in the end by enjoying all kinds of music.

[@danalynch8889]

You have to watch the official video as it really brings out the meaning of the song.

[@goldengibson1958]

Thanks brotha! This song hit me a few times when I been needing a friend and it’s got some kind of presence in it... I dunno, I genuinely felt like I had the presence of a true friend while the song was playing. Really saved me then. Watching you experience this for the first time took me straight back into that memory, and with all that is going on in my life and in the world today. You were dead on with it being like a hug. Thanks for sharing!

[@ponfed]

Hey dude!!! I don't know what exactly you're going through with you nefew... but get that hug I'm sending you!!! We all need a hug sometimes... everybody hurts sometimes...

[@randy4life840]

look im struggling in life and on youtube this was the song i had on loop my last suicied attemt van van van i love you and your family ty for your broadcasts yallmake youtube a fun place atleast in my corner i wish you and yours well

[@wfchornet2]

I always find R.E.M. very cathartic and they've helped me through some dark times in my life ❤

[@stevewalsh4850]

I’m a white (not that it matters) 60 year old hippie from the 70’s, brother, we are all created by the same God and if I was there right now I would give you a big Bro hug !!!!

[@dsy4919]

You’re my favorite reactor! I was deciding this 4 videos back, but this one really hit home for me! Thank you for this one, and thank the patreon member that picked this one! Thank all of yall! I remember hearing this about 14 years ago for the first time, maybe more ago, but thought “ i can play this easily” started learning it and when I really read the lyrics, I got stopped up like damnnn wtf?! This confirms what I was feeling back in that time! I love it! I appreciate you and y’all reading this that can understand that I don’t wanna leave this world too soon! 🙌❤️

[@TheBoethius03]

So, I’m bored at work and just stumbled upon this video. Your comments on the song were the exact same thing I was saying when I was 13 when the album Automatic for the People was released. I remember all the kids at school saying Everybody Hurts was the most depressing song, and I would argue back that the song is not depressing. Michael Stipe is hugging us with his lyrics, and the strain in his voice is empathy. And, I was so excited when you said in the video this song is a hug. I couldn’t believe it! I was saying to myself in my head “He gets it!” I wish I had found this video when it dropped. But, better late than never right?

[@irreverendian5581]

If you ever do hit that wall, that time when it all comes out... remember this song and put it on replay. it saved my life, and I'm sure I'm one of many. Every one you meet, everyone you interact with, family, friends, even mere acquaintances all have a call on your life. That realization, the hurt and damage I would cause by committing suicide is what stopped me. the path back is so long and so difficult, but it is possible. And joys unknowable are there at the end. Bless you Man. whatever the world would have you believe, that you are only answerable to yourself, is bullshit.

[@kathryntague543]

That’s awesome. A beautiful WHY!!

[@agallimoreagallimore2126]

My mom was into country. Hated my music. Except REM. She would play this CD often. Automatic for the people is in my top five favorite albums.

[@Sissysuez]

Sometimes everybody hurts.... hold on my brother you are not alone!! xoxo

[@edvinlaine]

You are a brave soul brother. Let go and let God, he is on your side.

[@brandonofthedead]

The reality it is easy to divide us, but we all experience love and loss, successes and failure. We all have dreams and nightmares that haunt us. More of us share the struggle than don’t. Life is tough no matter if you are poor or rich, black or white, nobody knows the pain each other carry. Just understand we are stuck on this little blue speck of dust trying to figure it out.

[@bryanjensen5357]

REM, Really Emotional Music and is great to listen to. Thanks for sharing your experience with it!

[@ianmclaughlin4043]

Am 53 everybody cries 💙🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿💙🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿💙💙

[@TW-me4lw]

I'm 420th on 4/20! - I'll toke to that. Great reaction to a timeless, incredibly important song. It's hard to tell how many lives this song has saved from suicide. But, I'm sure it's in the hundreds, maybe even thousands. And, because of you, just now, LFR Family, a few more people (who really needed to hear this message), will. That's not a bad day's work, any way you look at it. Good on you!

[@brianclift606]

We don't know each other but I support you and I hope you come through this strong. I enjoy your media. But that's because I like what you show of yourself as a person. Take care, feel that you are loved and supported.

[@braddicken6776]

Beautiful song. Reminds me of Simon and Garfunkel

[@JirkaHeyduk]

Video for this song is also worth checking... so amazing.

[@deltabob830]

I loved the sincerity you gave in the opening to this reaction

[@Sunsets330]

May God bless you, your family and us all.

[@star06able]

Beautiful, timeless song

[@terriecooperman7232]

He was the first to bring divide to the line light

[@joshbrown8299]

Nothing wrong with emotions, don't need to be the man in the box. Losing my religion is also a great song

[@terriecooperman7232]

The most emotional song ever bow try losing my religion

[@juan_81614]

Gotta do “Losing My Religion”…it’s a classic REM song

[@jennybird6268]

My favorite line is don’t throw your hands

[@ginafragata2947]

Yes these are amazing ❤

[@margaretmax-community]

That was the best reaction video ever and I send all my love and positive energy as a first time viewer. love from Australia

[@melissasabido1289]

Been a while since I’ve heard that one! “Like a hug” what a great way to put it! I wish I could afford things like paytrion, however I’ve always been an empathetic person & your eyes say it all...I’ll I have is much love to send an long distance hugs! You & the fam will be in my thoughts!

[@bethkelley575]

Oh yeah--BIG HUGS!

[@johnnyblaze24]

Prayers to you.

[@tigerwilliams7723]

This one gets me every time. We need to hug each other. I don't know what you're going through, but I'm sending prayers and hugs out to you.

[@iainprendergast8311]

Same reason why I watch reactions…it’s to get to know about people that I wouldn’t have a chance of getting to know.

[@Beitlet]

So glad you didn’t play the video version of this song. Without it is much better, imo. ♥️♥️💔💔

[@jigokuryouken8939]

Realization of our own faults is a very hard thing for anyone. Many go through life without ever doing so. It requires a good level of self-awareness, honesty, and high levels of courage to face yourself like that. A lot of music helps with doing so, you just have to find the right song and artist at the right time for you. I find Bill Withers 'Lean on Me,' Shinedown's acoustic cover of 'Simple Man,' Johnny Cash's cover of 'Hurt,' Rolling Stones 'Salt of the Earth,' and this song you just watched good ones to help when I'm feeling down and out. I hope my words help you in some small way.

[@Arael_Angie]

Well said x Sending ♥️

[@evawebster7259]

Hugs and love 🙂

[@ralphwatts8993]

Beautiful reaction.❤️🤘🏻

[@stephenpriola4301]

Just found you , ya got me!! Type o negative “ everything dies” heavy, lyrics and telling his for real story…

[@chrisjohnzo5235]

great message in the beginning there my friend

[@MichaelDavis-bj2bs]

Another song like this one is "Just Wait" by Blues Traveler. Worth a listen.

[@jameskearney4100]

So much pain !!!

[@cullenbohannon7099]

I just recently found your channel and I know this video is a few weeks old but I wanted to say I'm praying for you and hope you're doing well. We as the human race need to show each other more love and stop with all the hate. We're not here very long and need to spend that time loving and dispense with all the other things that don't matter. I have seen a fair amount of death in my life and at the end all they talk about are the little things that meant the most. Sorry for the long comment ❤

[@johnmorris5384]

Keep hangin' in there, man! 😊👍 I'm new to the channel and I like your approach!

[@Stacey67643]

I so want to hug you right now....we all need to teach each other...

[@derekharley7343]

Check out James, Sit down. Look for the live version. You will like it.

[@paulharbron361]

Hugs brother

[@aronp7097]

Basically the theme song for suicide prevention. ♥️

[@suzannebaan1337]

shout out to you

[@lmk1971]

You should see the Father Ray Kelly version on Britians Got Talent.

[@SirStarGazer00]

Thank you for not filling your background with kid's toys. And for the speech you gave. Thumbs up!

[@debwest6586]

cry you freakin eyes out it heips i would be dead if i did not cry it out sometimes

[@Wundernuts]

Maybe turn the mic volume up? Super hard to hear you but the music volume is great. Love the reaction though, from what I can hear. And FWIW, I personally don't mind you stopping to share a particular insight or feeling. Carry on.

[@scottmckenzie2585]

“Like a hug” What a great way of describing this song. Thanks Van

[@linzyaz920]

DITTO! 🥰

[@SillyUncleAndy]

Yes I agree that was perfectly worded, thank you

[@susanconstable2113]

I was thinking the same thing!

[@tobyorcutt7863]

Big hugs. Semper Fi

[@rickjend6667]

You had me on the verge of tears Van as you were speaking. Everybody needs a hug sometimes. You just don't know when. Be observant folks, especially to those close to you. Don't be afraid to hug someone if you think they need it. I remember once my brother gave me a hug when I didn't expect it. Somehow he knew I needed it, and it made such a difference that day. Thank god!

[@joereyes7100]

“If no one got you, I got you” You have a bunch of people supporting you right now. We got you Fam.

[@JulieLWilliams]

This song was released in 1993. My mom committed suicide on 4-20-95. I was 17. This song makes me cry every time, but the words keep me going.

[@alesiaking5578]

I’m so very sorry 🙏❤️ I’m still alive bc of my daughters

[@aliciacureton4679]

My sister did this too and I saw my mom collapse when she heard. I’m just now really dealing with it a decade later.

[@kittenklub1964]

😢This song has SAVED so many lives....including mine...in so many dark and hopeless times.💔 It has been used a lot in suicide awareness campaigns - it's heart-breaking, but somehow gives you hope? Such an important song for so many people. Like the song says Everybody Hurts & some of us almost take that final step. Michael Stipe was a good friend of Kurt Cobain, and was devastated when he committed suicide just a year after this single was released. But as we know, for some people, the PAIN is just too much 🖤 R.E.M. will always be remembered for giving people this timeless saviour.

[@WillBennett-z6e]

Same I don’t understand how anybody could not love this song because all that does is give people hope

[@sharonmmurray1945]

This song was played to me when I was struggling to get clean and sober and that was 29yrs ago and as you said it was the hug 🤗 I needed and Iv not looked back, love from Scotland 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@michelleedler3414]

It's funny you say that. I started watching reactions because it's nice to interact with adults (stay at home mom), but I've really enjoyed learning about other people's perspectives throughout the country. It's really a blessing to be able to do this.

[@pongogab]

We all hurt and we need to stop hurting each other. 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕

[@sparksdrinker5650]

yeah good luck with that

[@matimus100]

Praying or Karma doesn't save innocent children's lives

[@noahpatterson5430]

@@matimus100 You my friend need to find Jesus if you don't think praying can make a difference. I have seen many people brought from dark places through the power of prayer and supplication in the name of Jesus Christ children included.

[@danacasey8543]

I heard it said that "big boys don't cry, but men do".

[@shirleymongold9491]

I've watched many of your reactions and enjoyed them. But, this one showed your heart to me. Just know that you have a real fan now. God Bless and keep up the good work son. From an old white lady who now has your back in prayer.

[@Annicaha]

My dad's mother died when he was 17 from a long battle with cancer. His dad came home and said - mother is dead, we don't cry and walked away. My dad didn't mourn his mother until he was 50 when his father passed. He balled his eyes out at the funeral, not over his dad but over his mother, he only had anger left for his dad….. I think me and my sister's life would have been better if my grandfather had satt with him that day and cried together. We need the release tears bring, it's immensely important for your well being. I really liked what you said in the beginning of the video. I started watching reaction videos specifically by black americans as I didn’t know how else to show my support from the other side of the world. Plus all I ever knew was about the suffering and musical culture, this way I somewhat get to know you as people as well (sorry if that sounded ignorant, but we are all out here learning). Much love from Sweden

[@loriwishman1866]

That's so sad about your father's loss. Every generation gets better. Thanks for sharing. Hello from Pittsburgh, PA USA.

[@Annicaha]

@@loriwishman1866 thank you :)

[@DjMistoffelees]

If some songs can punch you straights in the feels, then "Everybody hurts" Is the Mike Tyson of songs.

[@bethkelley575]

Don't apologize for not looking at us--you were feeling the music dude. It's a hard song to "hear" and "listen" to.

[@jorel80]

I highly recommend checking out the video for this song. It complements the song perfectly. It’s about a bunch of people stuck in a traffic jam (separate but together) and subtitles showing their personal thoughts and struggles, then they all just get out of their cars at once and start walking together. It is absolutely beautiful.

[@pauletteraspberry2923]

I’m so happy you mentioned this. I feel the same way. When you read some of these “thoughts” it’s heart breaking and really emphasize the message.

[@clab5864]

When you open your mind, you open your heart.

[@steveyates768]

I'm sorry I don't have the money to be on Patreon. I got hit by Covid working in the restaurant industry and lost my job when I wanted to join. Van, my prayers are with you. God Bless.

[@MusicLover-dt7ic]

One of the best songs of all time in my opinion. Is in my book , Love it Thank you.

[@lfcgero35]

Lost my mam just over a month ago she was 80 and it still hurts like hell. To see your reaction proves we are not alone and we all have our own pain to shoulder. Take care my friend you bring joy laughter and have touched so many people all around the world. Thank you for letting us be a part of your life. Slainte from ireland take care.

[@LFRFAMILY]

So sorry for your Loss. 🖤

[@lfcgero35]

@@LFRFAMILY thank you shes at peace now. Keep doing your thang my friend.

[@thechad1760]

Love u my dude🤘

[@chrissemones6195]

This song tells us all that we are brothers and sisters that need each other. Awesome reaction. Prayers for you my brother.

[@lindseyherter6116]

Gen X really needed this song. We were all taught to "suck it up" and "walk it off." My dad was a Vietnam Vet, and depression, anxiety, and other mental illnesses were not "real. " I know that i can never understand what my father went through at 22, but everybody hurts

[@TerBear1985]

I used to play this when I was having a rough day when I was younger. R.E.M. has some super solid tracks.

[@annasaylor3566]

I was taught that it takes a strong man to cry. There's nothing wrong with showing emotion.❤️

[@MrRdh567]

amen

[@dianelockwood9282]

It is my understanding the song writer had read suicide statistics...hence this song came about...Hold On...One day at a time.

[@3feetawaystudios99]

It’s really such a hopeful song....it screams out for us to be human And please don’t punch yourself in the nuts

[@larsbonzai]

Wow- " you figured out your 'Why? '"... That is just amazing! Wish more people did what you're doing- listening and learning to appreciate someone/something different. Cuz that's the real path to peace and love and understanding! 🥰

[@sphinx3r]

R.E.M is one of the best bands to come out of the 80s. Personally I think the time around this album is some of their finest work. "Find the River" and "Nightswimming" from the same album are amazing songs.

[@jamiebroadbridge4776]

Find the river is pure poetry and perfection in every way

[@maxg5429]

Yes Find a river is perfection