This Reddit Post Was EXTREMELY Depressing

[@rumplstiltztinkerstein]

Person: "How do I make myself look better?" Reddit: "Just don't be ugly"

[@ArDeeMee]

That about sums up social media.

[@Supahdave1000]

Why do you attack me so :(

[@sillylittlemonkey7130]

literally just mew and jelqmaxx

[@0Fyrebrand0]

See also: "How do I get a job?" "How can I get good customer service?" "How can I get people to respect me?" "How can I get people to trust me?"

[@nickokona6849]

Social media has such a wonderful potential for sharing earnest advice to help out others, and it's so often used to just be mean to those in search of good advice. It's a cryin shame.

[@benjohnsonhorn]

Fashion channel called The Vaush Fit when

[@richardliu8785]

And Vaush sketch comedy channel The Vaush Bit.

[@catborg780]

Alternative title vaush drip

[@fatcat22able]

Could also double as a Vaush lifting channel

[@_exolite]

I would watch it lmao

[@KuLaydMahn]

Or an OF advertising channel called The Vaush Tit

[@madamek8656]

The most annoying thing about the “just lose weight” being the only solution that some people have for fashion woes is the fact that weight loss takes a long time. So what are people supposed to wear during the weeks, months, or in some cases years it takes for them to lose weight? Burlap sacks? Everyone deserves to be fashionable and feel good about themselves at any point in their journey.

[@psychicbyinternet]

And it's hard to maintain. You have to do it really slowly and gradually if you want to keep it off. I lost about 60 pounds but gained most of it back during the pandemic. Now my strategy is super super gradual changes, more fruits and veggies here and there, more exercise built into my routine very slowly, better self care, reduce my calories maybe every year by a small amount, you won't even notice I'm trying to lose weight it's that subtle lol. Not sure if it'll work but trying to go really hard changing everything all at once was only effective at the beginning and ended up failing in the end. And doing it gradually is so much less uncomfortable.

[@FelisImpurrator]

The people who do the fat shaming thing don't care about health or the person looking good, they just care about finding some socially acceptable way to smugly bully people.

[@Jeremy-hx7zj]

​@@psychicbyinternetthat's probably gonna work, honestly. Excellent plan, I wish you the best.

[@psychicbyinternet]

@@Jeremy-hx7zj Thank you, I hope so.

[@vladtheimpalerofyourmom-ag5112]

I’ve recently gone from obese to regular overweight and to be honest it has opened up a lot of clothing to me…sadly it’s reality that good affordable clothing isn’t really available to guys who are both tall and fat…being one is ok being both makes things hard.

[@pikgears]

Fashion should not be about changing your body to make your clothes look good, it should be about finding clothes that make your body look good.

[@appa609]

Fashion should be about looking good. Full stop.

[@adanester359]

This is woke nonsense. If you are fat, NO CLOTHES make you look good. Fat people look ugly.

[@adanester359]

Fat people live 20 years shorter than skinny people.

[@MerelvandenHurk]

Exactly! I fully agree. Clothing is so extremely versatile that it should be theoretically possible to make virtually any body type and shape look good. In practice though, it's a lot more difficult, especially when you consider that the more uncommon your body type is, the more expensive it's gonna be to find something that fits well. I'm not overweight but even I already notice it, for some reason the overwhelming majority of normal pants don't fit me. Either they're too low in the back, meaning I'd be showing butt crack every time I sit down, or they're high enough but they're hanging open at the back while being too tight in the front, as if the pants want to go straight up while my body angles forward.

[@kakyointhemilfhunter4273]

​@@MerelvandenHurkSame with being a smaller built guy without broad shoulders, finding any kind of tops including sweaters is borderline impossible. Ive had maybe 4 tops that actually fit well in my entire life💀

[@jloiben12]

It is depressing that people feel like they never look right. Fashion is most definitely a learned skill. I wish it was something that is treated more as the learned skill it is than as some inherent thing that people just know or they don’t. Especially because so much of looking right involves easy things that don’t cost all that much money. Like of course you’d look right if you got a Henry Pool navy suit with a Budd’s Budd Stripe shirt and John Lobb black oxford shoes. But you don’t need to spend over $10k on bespoke clothes and shoes to look right. Just “knowing the basics” gets you most the way there

[@reighfreuden6473]

it's incredible that knowing how to dress has been relegated to the gay realm, along with hygiene and not treating women like animals

[@Newton-Reuther]

It's actually super easy: Don't post pictures of yourself if you're fat.

[@jloiben12]

@@Newton-Reuther Nice meme

[@Tp_hedgelinghog]

​@JohnBrownsBody64920 okay what about if you're not fat?

[@Chatrbuug]

I don't know the basics and when I do try to learn, I feel like I just don't get it and I certainly don't have anyone who can help. 😕

[@BinaBecker]

The problem with that outfit wasn't the body in it. The problem with that outfit is that it's drab, ill-fitting, and unflattering. It wouldn't look good even on a runway model if it hung as poorly on him as it does on that chubby guy. Give the man some color and some clothes that fit! He'll feel much better about himself without having to lose an ounce.

[@uS0ra]

youre right but its not not enough colour vs more colour, he has like a pink shirt and blue trousers, the colours just dont work together, drab, neutral colours can make a really nice outfit its just about the combination, and i feel like people can easily go hard into colourful stuff thinking its the antidote to a bad fit, but end up still having a bad combination.

[@Newton-Reuther]

I mean, it's both. Don't post fat people online. Literally no one except fetishists want to see it.

[@sleepycowboy18]

The sweater aint it, it's so thin it'll just look bad even in a slimmer folks

[@bingbong1767]

I promise you if he didn't have lower belly pudge, abysmal posture, and like a slight semblance of shoulder muscle, that sweater would look fine.

[@henriquepacheco7473]

@@bingbong1767 It wouldn't. It would still look ass, especially over that same shirt.

[@kated3165]

I agree with Vaush. My bf trains everyday and has a nicely toned body, not remotely overweight. He wears those new stretchy tight shirts like in the first photo, and they make him look like he has a pot belly the moment he eats. Then he'll look in the mirror and complain that he's "getting fat" as he pinches the tight skin on his stomach...

[@appa609]

I mean it depends because he might have higher standards of leanness. Most guys think they look kinda fat if they have anything less than defined visible abs.

[@asum7213]

​@@appa609 That's a funny way of saying "body insecurity"

[@kated3165]

@@appa609 He sure does obsess over getting those bloody abs and seems insecure over not having the super defined ones he aspires to.

[@LeiranNZ]

Honestly knowing that the stomach looks the flattest when you wake up and have not eaten for hours might help. After eating a meal your stomach will be full and it will be a noticable difference on skinny an muscular bodies.

[@justalostlocal]

​@@kated3165 Unironically this weight centric society makes *everyone* miserable. (There was a really good video essay with this title perhaps I could find it again.) Fit? Not fit enough. Thin? No curves. Average? No definition. Fat? Lose weight you lazy mf. Underweight? Eat, you look unhealthy. Everyone is miserable so the capitalists make more money. AHHHHH

[@fulicious2991]

Despite me being a skinny person, this advice helped me as well 😅I never felt like I looked right, because skintight clothes make me look ill and too loose fitting make me look like a clothing rack You go plump kings!

[@biteofdog]

This randomly came to mind, but Sodapoppin (he's on YT and Twitch) is a skinny guy, and he likes to wear long sleeve crew neck shirts (he rolls up the sleeves) or sweaters because it's more flattering to his body type.

[@beatyoubeachyt8303]

The guy has man tities i have one and im skinny tbh the only way to get rid of it is getting surgery to remove them.

[@noahchopson7136]

Hey I'm not saying you can't feel insecure about being skinny, but at least the high fashion industry prefers your body type. Models are really lanky right now, especially male models. So even if you don't like it, know that the people making clothes think you look good!😂

[@craigstephenson7676]

That’s so true, I need some thick material so my arms don’t look like twigs. I started working out but they won’t be where I want them to be for a long time.

[@fulicious2991]

@@noahchopson7136 Yeah, I get what you mean 😅 I'm hoping modelling and tailoring in general becomes more flattering for more body types, I want the days of my very underweight body being a "model" body gone LOL

[@yogidevendrabiriyani1777]

I feel so awful for that poor, poor awkward, simply confused man. The responses are as per usual for the internet, cruel and completely unnecessary.

[@yogidevendrabiriyani1777]

This is precisely why i loathe social media for its incel/chud like attitudes. Anyone with any ACTulAL fashion taste or sophistication would know that the entire point of fashion style and general care for your appearance is to make everyone look better not show off how good you already look. A good cosmetic artist makes your face look more attractive; a good stylist helps you find your best styles of clothing. This is about competence not ego. It's called maturity. If youre looking for help in mensfashion, the response should be ExaCTLY what vaush's was here: larger, boxy fit thick material sweaters, cableknit fishermens etc, and wider hip pants. Losers, uncool losers everywhere.

[@zebraskin]

I'm a seamstress that mainly focuses on fancy dresses, stage costumes (mainly burlesque), and historical stuff. While I mainly do womens clothing, the same stuff applies, and fit is everything. Fast fashion has warped everyones view of how clothing fit. Clothing isn't made to last these days and poor quality. The same problems come up with sourcing our fabrics, which I got into some discussions about recently with a suit maker. Unless you spend a lot of time researching or have had a good hook up for a long time, the quality of most fabrics have been going down. What I really hope is that we start moving back to better quality over quantity in many ways, but that would need a whole culture shift.

[@asherroodcreel640]

How much longer does good fabric last, and what makes it quality in the first place?

[@ahkosorsomesaykosby9999]

​@@asherroodcreel640years. Idk why exactly but like my grandparents clothes stay good for decades

[@afroponix3414]

I compare 800 thread count Egyptian cotton sheets from 10 years ago to the “same” quality bought 1 year ago and it’s INSANE what passes for quality nowadays

[@zebraskin]

@asherroodcreel640 I mean that all depends on the fabric combined with other factors. Most clothing today is a high percentage polyester, which causes a lot of other issues like nano plastics but also loses it's shape, or melts, or wears out long before a good wool, linen, some cottons etc. Also fabric being a lot thinner therefore it wears out sooner. For a historical reference though, cotton use to be woven very tight so the seam allowances for say those all white dresses that many people think about as a "titanc" dress didn't have to finish their seams like we do because it wouldn't unravel like our modren counterparts. And that fabric is a very light weight cotton. As for fast fashion, a lot of the clothing is of course mass made with fast and cheap being the main concern. If someone brings me a dress they found on temu or even the mall and I remake it, my dress not only will fit like a glove but it will hold up longer simple for the face I use a smaller stitch than a mass produced piece. I source quality fabric that will last years, and for the most part I will also repair things for free or very minimal price compared to buying a new one.

[@nonniperkl6273]

⁠@@asherroodcreel640 as a sewist as well, we are talking difference of years if not decades here but it is not only that but the comfort of use. Good quality natural fibres breath helping with temperature control, some posses anti bacterial qualities (eg linen) and just simply look better. Wool skirt or pants will last for long ass time and you will look good while doing so. Caring to use a fabric piller, washing them correctly and doing basic repair should be in my opinion regarded as self care. It will improve your quality of life with quite little effort. However there are use cases for artificial fibres. For example, point of polyester is that it doesn’t wrinkle. If you want pair of pants you don’t want to iron, those are your bet. Another department where investment into natural fibre could be a good idea is bed sheets. Linen has anti bacterial properties, regulate moisture and are more sustainable than cotton. and they will only get soften over time but are unbelievably durable. This Christmas I got a new set and I am pretty sure that it should last at least 20-30 years if not longer.

[@kirbysthiccthighs]

*your body isn’t meant to fit the clothes. your clothes are meant to fit your body.*

[@damiantirado9616]

Then just buy clothes that fit you. It’s that simple. If you are fat and don’t like how you look then I guess just lose weight.

[@ItsMinarmy]

That's okay, if you're fat you can still wear 5XL t-shirts and shorts

[@luiginotcool]

@@damiantirado9616what’s your point? That’s what Vaush has been saying for this whole video

[@gabriellegoodwin4422]

That post made me actually cry. I’ve been in the exact same position where I’m trying something new with my fashion, and I’m standing in the mirror and it just doesn’t look right. It’s a horrible feeling and I just wanna hug all of you who feel like you can’t look nice. You totally can, you just need to find the right style, look for good materials, and see what looks good on you. Please please please don’t think that because a pair of jeans doesn’t fit, or a shirt looks weird on you, or a hairstyle gives you a five head that you’re ugly or fat. You just found something that doesn’t work, and we can try again next time. It’s not hopeless, and you’re all very handsome and pretty, and I hope you have a good day.

[@saltiney8578]

I agree with you like 80% but some people are just legitimately really ugly. and its unfortunate but true.

[@pimentx3253]

@@saltiney8578 You are not wrong, but that doesn't mean they can't dress in way they feel good about themselves, and I think that is the point.

[@billhicks8]

As someone who is willing to say I don't have any of these issues, I will also say that irl most people just do not really care or see what you see at all when being down on yourself. The best thing you can do is ditch these social media circles and get a decent form of therapy that enpathetically engages with the war you're having against yourself. I don't say this to sound harsh. It is just obvious that the social conditioning aspect is out of control these days and can only be overcome from living in social spaces where you're accepted with ease, over and over again, to weaken the irrational inner voice otherwise cultivated in these unrealistic and deluded online spaces

[@Traditional_American]

I'd prefer to just stick to the truth, thank you. I look like a goblin, I'm working on it, but until I am no longer ugly, I'm not going to pretend that isn't the case.

[@gabriellegoodwin4422]

@traditional american I’m going to lovingly throttle you. I don’t know what you look like, but I guarantee you’re not a goblin. Stop talking bad about yourself, it’s cringe and also sad.

[@StruggleGaming]

As a fat boi who struggles finding outfits that look good to myself so I don't spend the money to look like a fool, this was very comforting.

[@ArDeeMee]

As a fat girl, same. I‘m also 6‘1“, so everything is always too short. These days, I just go for colorful t-shirts and fleece vests.

[@Southboundpachyderm]

being fat is so fucking isolating and lonely. I just stopped dating in my 20s because I just felt too unattractive to wear anything that's not baggy to hide my belly. I was 375 at my heaviest, and I got bariatric surgery because fuck turning 30 with a body the age of a 50 year old. But that insecurity still sticks with me because people STILL feel the need to constantly label and see me as a fat person. I can't tell you how many underhanded comments I got about my weight, and it would always be while I'm out door dashing to make some fucking money and try to turn my life around and all those comments ever did was make me not want to go out at all. Even just the dirty fucking looks people give heavier people, or the fact that kids stare or make comments and then their parents just pretend like you're not a person with feelings or worse they pretend you don't exist at all. That shit crushed me for so many years. I'm 30 now, i'm 150 pounds down since surgery and now I can finally actually deal with the problems that caused me to baloon in weight in the first place. That's what people don't understand. No one wants to be fat. NO ONE. And the fat person hates themselves more than anyone else possibly could because they're fat. It's completely isolating when your friends and the people around you give you nicknames, or constantly make comments about your weight, and for guys being fat is a fucking social death sentence because every joke that's ever made towards you will now be about your weight in some way. The way men treat fatness is way fucking toxic and a lot of it starts from misogynistic attitudes about how women should look and evolves into constantly making fat jokes at your big friend because it makes you laugh and feel better about yourself. I burned most my friend bridges because of being constantly picked on for being bigger, and then I got gas lit for being a shitty friend because I didn't wanna hang out with people who just make fun of me all the time. But that was a mistake. Don't do what I did. Don't isolate and piss away 10 years of your life being sad like I did. Burning friend bridges in that case was the right thing to do. Thinking that every single person in the world is like that and therefore I need to hide myself away for their sake, was dumb. But honestly society doesn't fucking help, and even in the leftiest circles you can find, fatphobia is still imo one of the BIGGEST societal problems we have because it leads into a lot of other really problematic phobic behavior, and it gets justified with the dumbest dietary pseudoscience possible. People need to understand in general a lot of dietary science isn't science. It's bought and paid for studies usually by companies like coca cola. But every week theres a new diet fad that's being sold as a miracle instead of addressing the problems that cause people to be obese in the first place. But that means companies like coca cola wouldn't get to sell cheap soda to dirt poor kids like me anymore.

[@bingbong1767]

Hey I was 255, day drinking, and in constant pain. Took me 2 years to reach 170 but it was so worth it. Anyone saying just find good clothing to hide your fatness is only right if it's done as a transitioning thing. Being fat and lethargic is never good. We should always be trying to inspire others to be healthy and in shape. The feeling is irreplaceable. The "looking jacked" or athletic, is just a bonus.

[@bingbong1767]

I do not think making fun of fat dudes stems from making fun of women though. It's just low hanging fruit. If your so out of control that you weigh 255 then you should take the fat jokes as motivation. If you are fat, and people call you fat, yes it's mean, But you have 2 paths to take. Either go "yep. I'm fat and I need to change" or you go "woah is me". I've done both. One made me fatter. One made me not. 🤷‍♀️

[@andagean]

@@LiarCheatit is important if only because it’s used to abuse and mistreat overweight people. It also probably does have some factor on health outcomes why you’re obese like weight gain causes by another ailment just a short sighted reduction of the issue. Not me saying you shouldn’t lose weight but your reply was kind of inane.

[@andagean]

@@bingbong1767or stop talking to shitty people lmao. Friends don’t do that shit.

[@bingbong1767]

@andagean I don't think someone being honest and telling me I was fat was shitty. I value honesty. A friend who would lie to me and tell me to just buy better clothes is a bad friend. I like friends that keep it real. I took what they said and went "yep" now I'm in more shape than all of them. Or I could have been sour about it and remained fat. Like why are people pathologically afraid to let the homie know when he's fat lol

[@LunaGB]

Take the dandy pill. Become a dapper gentleman. Wonka-maxxing, if you will

[@Mankster23]

Can we call it Hat-pilled?

[@RyuKyu.77]

Drip-pilled if you will

[@kcryrine5056]

cant believe the mfa dudes told him to lose weight when the clearest easiest piece of advice is a thicker better quality sweater that can't cling to body shape that much

[@RavenDumpster]

In terms of women's fashion, it's become damn near impossible to find summery clothes that aren't either cringe dresses or cropped tight fitting tank tops. I love loose sideboob tanks to death and nobody sells them cause women's fashion is nothing but crop tops and bodycon shit these days.

[@appa609]

Really curious what do you consider cringe dresses?

[@RavenDumpster]

@@appa609 extremely tight fitting backless type shit, I just don't like dresses to begin with

[@alexisauld7781]

@@appa609 No stretch, backless, keyholes in *stupid places,* often designed to fit this goddamn "sl*tty" aesthetic crap that very few of us actually want to wear day to day, but the fashion corpos have dictated it to be just about the only thing that gets made...

[@theclownschooldropout]

Omg PREACH ​@@alexisauld7781 I literally never go clothes shopping nowadays because I hate everything being sold. Most of the time it doesn't even fit, and if I does it's bodycon that looks terrible on me because my fat distribution makes me look pregnant.

[@KL-uv3ts]

Yeah that's the one thing about this clip I didn't agree with -- it only seems easy for women to shop if 1. they have the expected body type within a certain height and weight range and 2. they are happy following the exact fashion trend of the moment. 90% of new women's clothing cleaves to a particular aesthetic, and even if you find something you like, it's only made to last until the next trend cycle. I love wearing classic, plain white 100% cotton t-shirts, but i have to shop in the men's section and get them tailored unless I want to pay $40+ for something without weird aesthetic touches that isn't paper-thin.

[@angelaa7388]

The other downside to these cheap, soft, thin, stretchy fabrics, besides being unflattering, they are garbage and will stretch and warp and fall apart with very little use. Edit to add: if you must buy cheap slimfit tops, size up. Consider learning a little mending to adjust hems and shoulder seams.

[@joshuaporterfield6774]

Srrsly. Better quality fabric can improve a lot.

[@jloiben12]

I like how there are people who watch Vaush who don’t like the fashion arc. Like Vaush is one of the most rhetoric-pilled streamers. Of course he is going to take an interest in what is effectively the equivalent of the physical version of rhetoric seriously. How one dresses is just another form of rhetoric

[@e13kid]

Stop nerding out

[@YourPetSnake]

Nerd

[@anzaia2164]

I love this take, please elaborate Edit: Unironically. I think I believe the same thing, I just want to know how you'd express it

[@ActuallySatan]

This is it. This is the most Vaush-pilled take. Based beyond imagining.

[@Tatchko]

This would be a good point if like, 90% of the "fashion" shit didn't make him and anyone wearing it look like an actual literal clown. Edit: That being said, everything he said in this segment was 100% correct.

[@AndaraBledin]

Fixer vs Sympathizer - I'm a fixer, too, and it took me ages to figure out that sometimes my friends just want someone to validate their frustration and not give them advice, at least not in the moment. Since I'm no good at knowing when those times are, we set up a discord channel that is a safe space to vent and get support and not have to worry about any of us trying to help fix whatever it is they've got going on. Was totally going to suggest that the guy from the pic go for a cardigan over a pullover. I've started really falling in love with cardigans to really mix up my look as a multiplier.

[@bavarianbanshee]

Exact same here! I've really annoyed my bf before with my incessant "fixing".

[@SirThinks2Much]

That Mr. Rogers classic look

[@dinodare1605]

I still don't really know how to do the role of the sympathizer. The best I can really do is ask questions so that the other person can keep talking, be quiet, and say things like "that's rough."

[@AndaraBledin]

@@dinodare1605 Honestly, that's pretty much most of it. Be present with them. In whatever form that takes. Be supportive of their emotional situation. Be mindful that everybody's feelings are valid, even when they're irrational - nobody can help feeling how they feel, only how they act on those feelings.

[@Whomwompwomp]

Im someone who sympathizes and commiserate, because i assume that the people i have chosen to be around know how to solve their own problems and i dont use the mental energy of coming up with solutions if an 'oh thats awful im sorry.' is enough. If im asked i could but generally i just assume my close ones are intelligent enough to manage their issues on their own, once i help them calm down.

[@ratiquette]

I'm a big guy. I'm 6'1" and 250lbs with a 38" waist. It is absolutely attainable to look stylish and handsome as a guy with some weight on. Pay attention next time you're at an event, you'll see lots of heavy guys who look good. I know self-esteem can be challenging sometimes, but try to buy clothes that fit and to think of it as "worth it because I deserve to look good." Try to look in the mirror and tune out your internalized fatphobia (most of us have it), just look at styles you like on others and try them on. The best advice I ever saw for "fashion for fat guys" was to learn the principles that everyone else applies; they work for us too.

[@ghostgamergaming]

Holy shit dude! Me and you have the exact height, weight (granted, I'm a couple pounds below), and waist lol.

[@Xenuite81]

For me, my obstacle is the old frontbutt. I have an overhang that makes wearing pants in the right place difficult, and I've yet to find a solution. Honestly, sometimes I wish they made something constructed in a similar way to maternity jeans for larger guys.

[@new_at0m]

@@Xenuite81suspenders?

[@HereticsHeroes]

I'm a fairly heavy guy, I got a custom suit from Suit Supply, and their cuts absolutely cater to very slim builds. I had to order a chest size nearly 2 sizes larger than I normally would have just because I know how slim they run from being in store, and then I manually adjusted all the ancillary measurements; I had to increase the waist and hip from what the system automatically calculates based on chest size AND THEN had to have it let out slightly across the waist and seat by a local tailor. So even providing my EXACT MEASUREMENTS their patterns are so biased towards certain body types it didn't fit on delivery. That being said once I made my own adjustments, it's easily the nicest suit I own.

[@Judymoe]

Yeah, I'm a woman, so I've been dealing with this all my life, whether I was 'too thin' or 'too chubby'. It's a sad world that not only have we not progressed in putting down women for every little fault, but we've managed to spread it to men. Maybe let's not be so judgemental about other people? Maybe he'd feel better in a cable-knit sweater? Also, thanks for spreading the Guillermo love! He IS a sweet cinnamon roll! I've noticed that men's clothing is getting tighter, which I just think looks uncomfortable (when I was a teen, I was anorexic, and I still wore baggy clothes, because they're way more comfy than tight-fitting clothes, so I am biased). Men's Warehouse I've heard of, and thanks for the education in men's suits; I learned something new today. I think lighter-weight fabrics are not very forgiving to anybody that's not very lean. Boxy t-shirt fan, here. I'm going to pass on some of these tips to my husband, but he's a t-shirt guy, so I don't think I'll ever get him in a fisherman's sweater, but I appreciate all of the tips. I'd favor cardigans, because they look cozy. As a woman, that cartoon meme was never my experience. I HATE shopping for clothes, because like that poor man, no matter what I look like, I feel like I look wrong. Apologies for the post, but I was responding as you made points.

[@MossyToomes]

FINALLY someone who agrees that the meme was just nonsense OMG I was worried it was just me 😭😭😭

[@MrGksarathy]

Men's clothing is getting tighter for sure, and my saving grace is that I'm also getting fitter/more ok with displaying the contours of my body. I honestly think we need to normalize a little chub because a lot of dudes, myself included, can have it and be perfectly healthy.

[@fee6362]

@@MrGksarathy Not only can be healthy. Studies have show that people with BMI from I think, 23 to 27 / 28 have higher life expectancies. ( I know the BMI is a very flawed system, but still)

[@FelisImpurrator]

The important thing to consider is that people who constantly rag on others' weight aren't concerned with health or appearance, they're concerned with finding something easy to shame someone else for so they can feel superior. It's just low effort bullying.

[@heartbeat3572]

Oh thank goodness, I thought I was going crazy. As a woman, clothes shopping has never been easy for me and I always used to prefer to shop for stuff in the men's section because their clothes tended to be sturdier and fit my proportions better. Because women's clothes have had these problems for at least the last 100 years. We aren't built as rectangular as men, in addition to just size, many of us also have boobs and butts that may not be completely proportional to our other measurements. So in women's fashion, clothing has had this stretchy skin tight nightmare situation for years now. Part of why women's clothing doesn't have pockets is because of that. When the clothes are skin tight, having pocket bulges messes with the silhouette and makes you look bulkier. The other reason is to force women to buy handbags. I feel so sorry that now men have to deal with this shit too.

[@Eden_Laika]

This is like if you were looking for help to repair your car's fan belt, and everyone just kept saying "Buy a new car."

[@ItsMinarmy]

Nah it would be like telling you to take the bus

[@funkrobot9762]

Not really though.

[@TheScrubmuffin69]

No lmao. If you were looking for help to repair your fan belt, reddits response would be "go learn how a car works" which is actually fair

[@Eden_Laika]

@@TheScrubmuffin69 Do you not understand how analogies work?

[@rosecity_chris]

The point of the fashion reddit is supposed to be to tell him what clothing would look best for his body type...not whats wrong with his body

[@jeremylackey6587]

I just dress like a homeless wizard. Got that full length wool cloak over my jacket. Warm as hell, and who's gonna tell a wizard he lacks drip

[@laurenwalker1048]

When you’re clothes shopping online, Don’t just remember that the model is super tall and thin (which is f hard to forget) but also remember that they use clips and stuff to make the clothes sit on the model better for the photos. Even if they have a video of the model turning around, the clothes will still be pinned tighter at the back to look more flattering and they do a jump cut to hide the fact that when the model turns around they’ve removed the back clips and popped them on the front side of the model so you can’t see them. This is definitely true for women’s fashion, i don’t see why they wouldn’t do it with menswear also.

[@spacegirlfriend42069]

There's a trend with women's fashion communities called "is it a 'fit or is she just skinny " where plus sized women will replicate a poplar outfit to see if what people think looks good about the outfit is the clothing or the wearers body. It's actually a really helpful and interesting commentary on women's fashion and is helping to normalize the notion that a lot of what we consider fashionable is actually just thinness. It also helps to spotlight fashion brands and designers who succeed at making clothing that looks good on a range of body types. I think the men's fashion world could benefit from their own version of this

[@DoritoBot9000]

That’s actually brilliant! Finally! A decent trend

[@spacegirlfriend42069]

@DoritoBot9000 sadly a lot of people hate on the trend bc lots of people get salty when attention gets called to thin people getting preferential treatment. Even tho like, in the fashion world, thin people getting preferential treatment is more obvious than a damn foghorn

[@jlp6864]

thank you!! that was the first thing that came to my mind and i wash shocked no one in chat brought it up.

[@spacegirlfriend42069]

@jlp6864 I don't know how far outside of the body positive fashion community the trend goes tbh, I'm very much an active consumer of that stuff so I see it a decent amount but idk how far to the fences the content swings tbh

[@Jankyito]

That sounds incredibly stupid, clothes complement the body. The clothes that complement a skinny girl are going to look far different on an overweight girl and visa versa. The premise of this show is assuming that there is an objective standard of fashion which is also incredibly stupid.

[@walexander8378]

Never looking in the mirror was the best decision I ever made. You'd think that means I gave up but for some reason I actually do more for my appearance now and I don't even think of it as being for my appearance as exercise and eating right actually helps you feel better. And feeling better is all you have when you have no clue really how you look. I walk out the house everyday feeling my best and it has paid off quite a bit...been doing it 3 years almost now and Ive changed my whole life I just made this post because that guy seems like he hates his appearance. I felt that. Appearance is like 80% mental.

[@davitdavid7165]

Interesting strategy.

[@crowposting]

Hell yeah. Mirrors don't work on me, so this is also my strategy.

[@FelisImpurrator]

The vampire guide to drip. Based

[@FelisImpurrator]

​@@crowpostingDon't work? Vampire confirmed.

[@ArDeeMee]

This probably only works if you have short hair. An adaptation for long haired people might be one of those styling mirrors on an extendable arm. You can flip it around and push it to the wall after you‘re done. But yeah, not obsessing over your mirror image is so important. The longer you stare into it, the more you hyper-fixate on unimportant and invisible flaws, down to individual skin pores, or small hairs in your skin folds. Dress, brush your hair, THEN look in the mirror.

[@noaha6185]

Unpopular opinion: The Amish are hella drippy. Their aesthetic is dope and their clothes are still incredibly high quality.

[@vincenzonapoles4371]

No

[@Xenuite81]

Love the hats.

[@appa609]

​@@vincenzonapoles4371 Yes

[@Maxisamo1]

The fabric I imagine is good due to the fact it's more carefully crafted since they don't use any high-tech stuff or assembly lines, but "drippy"? Nah man lol

[@JamieElli]

To their credit, they are masters of their aesthetic.

[@ThothGrowth]

Makes a lot of sense, men generally don't care about clothes, so men in better shape look even better compared to average looking poorly dressed guys. A lot of bigger women tend to dress very well, which can play in to why women overall seem more attractive than men overall.

[@Xenuite81]

I feel like women have a lot more options. This is something that occurred to me when I worked in an office setting. Men are pretty much limited to slacks, button-up shirts, and ties (optional), maybe a polo if the dress code isn't too strict. Meanwhile, women can walk around looking fab in something that looks like it came off the set of Star Trek and no one bats an eye.

[@Xenuite81]

@@taimaannorppa8782 In what way did I put women down? I love that they have those options. I think you might have misread my comment.

[@Purplesquigglystripe]

⁠​⁠@@Xenuite81menswear is much more diverse than that. You don’t have to stick to modern western business fashion.

[@theeccentric7263]

@@Xenuite81As a woman I don’t think your assesment is accurate. You cannot wear whatever you want as a woman, there are still (sometimes extreme) social consequences even if that article of clothing is literally physically available.

[@DoritoBot9000]

@@Xenuite81women are definitely more conditioned and encouraged to dedicate lots of time and effort into looking good, whilst a lot of guys seem too think that a tshirt and pants without too many holes is good enough.

[@Westlander857]

Big ups to Vaush for discussing just how wildly different bodies can be, and sometimes it doesn’t even have anything to do with weight. Things like shoulder width, how beefy your legs are, and just how your body stores fat in general. Every body is different, and men are no exception. Men’s fashion should reflect this! I’m 5’7 and kinda chubby with broad shoulders. I’ve tried on shirts that are a size 2XL that don’t fit me well, and shirts in a size L that fit me just fine. Especially those 90’s boxy tees that he mentioned. Men need the same amount of choice and variety in fashion that women are used to. It would do wonders for our confidence.

[@Sebastian-if9ii]

I love this kind of video. This is an enormously important topic for so many people, who are not yappin' in the Twitch chat saying that "This is not important", or that "This is wrong". I am sure there are many people who feel like the guy who made the original Reddit post, that appreciate this more than you can imagine. I've been up and down the weight train, so I learnt all this first hand over the past 7 years..

[@gingersasquatch94]

Am I alone in wanting to wear hooded robes all the time like a wizard?

[@Cyanopteryx]

No I have been thinking this a lot lately

[@guillaumelagueyte1019]

Be careful with the cut, and funny go for all white, people could misinterprete your intentions

[@aquabluerose7734]

Nope

[@blankspace6367]

being better at pulling off minimalism is more important than copying what is imagined in the mind as ‘trendy’ or ‘impressive’

[@nonniperkl6273]

Investment into natural fibres and quality graftmenship is good idea for sustainability and comfort. If you find way to buy rich people’s old stuff, you will have it cheap too

[@SkylerDK]

I hope this takes off in the algorithm and guys outside Vaush’s community sees it.

[@profilore]

All of this applies to women too! I've felt five times less ugly after figuring out where my waist should be

[@jlp6864]

yesss im a fat girl and i used to never want to get a bigger size (it was like acknowledging i was fat) but once i got less fatphobic i ironically started looking less fat because the clothes fit me better.

[@Erndea]

I've never felt I look right in clothes. Since I was a girl who developed early, I've been told in myriad ways that my body isn't right for clothes. "You can't pull that off, sweetie." Dress-coded for wearing the same sweater as another girl because I have boobs, told I look slutty in shorts because I have hips. It doesn't matter what I wear or how I wear it, I never look acceptable. Even after losing massive amounts of weight. I've stopped caring.

[@theLeomega]

The problem is not that he's fat, he's skinnyfat, and you can see the difference between that and the examples Vaush presents (Especially Guillermo) in that they fill out their fit much easier. Skinnyfat is unfortunately the worst of both worlds and is a nightmare to fit (Both Brother and close friend have worked in fashion retail for years). Also when the vast majority of affordable clothing is garbage made with cheap polyester by exploited workers in sweatshops doesn't help.

[@Newton-Reuther]

It's actually even easier: Don't post pictures of yourself to the internet unless you're skinny. Worked for me for several years now.

[@FellaGuy2]

Skinnyfat people should focus on weightlifting and building real muscle and a solid frame. Unfortunately if they just aggressively cut they usually never look the way they envision. The fat around their breasts remains and since they have zero lats, shoulders, chest, or traps the love handles stay super prominent. Dudes gotta hit the weights and get some real compound movements under his belt and then move on to isolation movements. Also don't skip leg day, don't be that guy.

[@Terminalsanity]

Its an unflattering cut and fit made of overly thin material all he could do to look better in that thing is wear shape-wear under it.Even losing weight wouldn't help that much.

[@joshme3659]

He just needs bigger trousers, brighter colours on the jumper and the shirt and a thicker jumper that is maybe also a size bigger

[@bingbong1767]

I mean you tell him to go jog or do some form of cardio for 30 min a day, then do some upper body weight training (mainly delts) and he will be fitting that same shitty sweater so good in like 6 months. It's really that simple. In the time it would take for him to replace his wardrobe with slightly better clothing for a skinny fat build, he could just weight train like 3 times a week and walk hills. It's so fkn easy lol

[@ItsMeGPZ]

the fact that waistcoats have trended out of men's fashion is a crime against humanity. Waistcoats+unbuttoned jackets/suits are fire.

[@SuperCatfire]

the amount of people in the comment section acting like theyre disagreeing then following up with "yes you SHOULD lose weight"

[@Bladeofwar94]

It's the most depressing shit when people ignore the problems others might be facing and just shit on you and say "just do it". As a 6'3" 240 pound guy fuck skinny clothing. They're trash. Even if they fit my weight size they don't fit me. Fuckers skimp on the shoulders like no tomorrow.

[@mrsnrub282]

I wish plus sized men got the same support that plus size women do. The idea is that if you're a man with a little extra weight, then you may as well not bother with fashion. It used to be like that for women too until recently

[@Serious_Face]

Is the universe showing me this video because I looked in the mirror this morning and wanted to take me life?

[@ahkosorsomesaykosby9999]

Bro don't take your life man whatever is in the mirror you can change. And even still if people only see you for how you look in the mirror fuck em. Love you man do well okay brother

[@Metallijosh100]

I'm glad you didn't bud. Keep going strong!

[@MossyToomes]

18:27 Kinda hate that people perceive women shopping for clothes is easy as well. I can't find ANYTHING in my size. And I have the same problem where every single solution I get from people is "loose weight" or they'll be like, "Go on Amazon" and then I look at what their showing me and it's a pair of high waisted pants that would go up to my boobs. Cuz that's all that's anywhere. High waisted pants and shirts for women who are average in height and fairly skinny. As someone who's short and fat, I'm lucky if I find a single pair of jeans that I have to roll up the bottoms so they don't go over my toes. Even plus size stores online don't even have anything that fits me as a short person. Everything is way too long so I have to go to the children's section and there I still can't find anything because shirts there are meant for flat chested people. Bullshit that I go shopping and find 2 pairs of jeans, a jacket, and 4 tops for $100. That's literally made up. That NEVER happens. Don't even get me started with the excessive amounts of crop tops. I don't need just my stomach hanging out of my shirt because that's all that it's going to do.

[@Purplesquigglystripe]

Also things are cheaply made or very expensive or both in many cases. You can shop at a discount stores, but it becomes challenging to find exactly what you want. You have to get lucky to find something you will actually wear that’s not a basic piece.

[@Coolgravy]

I swear all the cute clothes I want to buy end up being crop tops. Like, I'm not comfortable with my stomach showing like that 😔

[@DanaDark]

The correct replies to him should be about advice for clothing that fits him better which can be brand specific, types of clothes, etc. not that he has to change himself for clothes to look right. People of all shapes and sizes should be able to find clothes that look terrific on them.

[@maciejglinski6564]

oh my god the thing about poorer gals dressing way better than the rich ones is so trueeee (im punk btw, kinda biased, still right)

[@HaleyStark.]

He has a sort of feminine weight distribution. As you said he isnt that fat but he already has tiddies. One of those loose, wide shouldered leather jackets would be good.

[@joonashapponen2384]

My tip for people who feel like they dont look right is that, materials, material thickness and the shape and overall fit of the clothes you wear matter, if I buy t shirts I usually go for thicker shirts with a boxier fit since normal t shirts dont really fit me. Also using oversized clothing is not a bad thing at all and sometimes might fit you better than your normal size. Just experiment with different materials, sizes, fits and material thicknesses and you will find clothes that you look great in. Dressing up is a skill and you will get better the more you experiment

[@tylerhackner9731]

We need a separate fashion channel

[@psychicbyinternet]

Someone in the comments said The Vaush Fit lmao

[@dragontears]

Now I want him to watch some of Bernadette's historical clothing stuff.

[@seamstressdragon8707]

Or get Bernadette on stream and do a fashion history lesson 😊

[@thatswhaturmomsaid3062]

I love how after that 2 hour long Vaush fashion rant he said he wasnt going to talk about it anymore...only to rant about it again in another video for 30 minutes

[@hughquigley5337]

What’re you gonna do? It’s like Hasan or Sam Seder saying he won’t pause the video again

[@davitdavid7165]

It's a genuenly good take though

[@thatswhaturmomsaid3062]

@@davitdavid7165 I don't deny that

[@Neonseasnake]

I cant find the other video you're talking about can you pls send me the link to it I'm interested

[@thatswhaturmomsaid3062]

@@Neonseasnake I just replied with the link but in case you cant see it, it's on his second channel "Vaush Pit" and it's called "YOU CAN'T HANDLE THE DRIP"

[@TheBrickMasterB]

I see a lot of queer folk gas each other up and it can be really demoralizing when it's never extended to you. It tells me either 1. I'm viewed as a threat who can't be "safely" complimented 2. I'm not "in" the friend circle enough for anyone to want me there 3. My body is too "wrong" to even get emotional support. The best I ever hear is "you look good" or, if it's a partner, "handsome," and it just feels incredibly insincere.

[@marinerb]

Yeah people don't compliment men enough and it's a real problem. I do mean this fully sincerely, I think it's something that leads to a lot of issues even beyond the obvious negative effects it has on men's self-esteem.

[@TheBrickMasterB]

@@marinerb It sucks even more when you're enby and don't look super colorful :/

[@justcallmekai1554]

I feel like it's both men generally don't get compliments and a personal insecurity. I used to be the same way but I'll tell you this. Just take the compliment. You should talk to them about how you're feeling cause it sounds like your perception of their intentions and not their actual intentions. When you ruminate that much without looking for answers it creates a cycle of everything said to you being the worst possible, interpretation. Let's say men got more compliments. But you still view them as insincere. What really changed? I'm not trying to dog on you but I've experienced that myself :).

[@TheBrickMasterB]

​@@justcallmekai1554 Ah, right. I should clarify that it was one person out of the entire group and it only ever happened after I told someone in our circle about my dysmorphia. The rest offered genuine advice - which was helpful and I adopted - to fix some of the issues, and I've enjoyed experimenting with my aesthetic, but the fact remains that you can only gas yourself up so much before it just feels like you're huffing your own 15-hour-old farts. Of course I don't debate-bro my partner or friend and challenge them on it, but like, I'll see others get incredibly enthusiastic praise of their aesthetic and then the most I'll ever hear is a casual "Looks good" or a meaningless term like "Handsome" being used by the person who's... well, kinda responsible in part for helping me feel better in my skin (as in making me feel wanted).

[@MalditoSonhador]

Never heard a compliment coming from a person of my age (20)

[@davidnguyen7891]

People are not aware of how important proportions are when it comes to clothes and fashion. Tight fitting clothes usually only looks good on muscular people or people with muscular/athletic builds. Im a skinny guy so tight clothes would just emphasize how skinny I am because the tight shirt be tightly wrapped around the boney areas and the shirt would be tightly wrapped around my small waist. For chubbier guys, tight clothes would emphasize the chubby rolls around the waist and emphasize the man boobs, as seen in the Reddit post . His sweater is too slim fitting for someone of his proportions and shows his rolls and man boobs. His sweater is also of thin material so it’s more malleable and more form fitting, if it were a thicker material then it’s likely his man boobs and nipples would not be poking out as much. Cool looking clothes are great but the material and the fit are also very important I am a somewhat skinnier guy, so I like to buy shirts and sweatshirts and hoodies with a slightly oversized/relaxed fit so that I appear a bit bigger and not as skinny. A chubbier person wearing slightly oversized clothing would also be beneficial because it would hide their chubbiness.

[@danielkrohn4980]

Like many people with an eating disorder, I've yoyo 'd around a lot in weight. Vaush in 100% right. I wear the kind of natural fabric archaic clothing he's talking about and it's much more flattering. This entire society is kind of hell because everything serves to make to self-conscious. Because I've fluctuated so much in weight, I also know that people legitimately treat you like less of a human when you're fat.

[@damham5689]

Having grown up long before the internet became public, or a world wide web, or social media world, I can say from decades of real inperson interactions with physical human beings that many overweight and unfit people do a lot of the body shaming of other unfit and overweight people.

[@jambott5520]

One thing I do dissagree with, I don't think losing weight is simple. It is technically, calories in vs calories out is the golden rule, but most people only ever think of the simple solution, that is eating less. For an example of what I mean, depending on what it is you are eating you can be more or less full. A lot of the struggle of losing weight is being hungry, take away that struggle and its easier. There is more to it than just eating less. One thing I found is that I often snack when I am bored, if I am doing stuff, anything, I will end up eating less.

[@jhonshephard921]

As a short guy, I recognise that fat people go through a lot of issues unfairly but why are short men completely out of the body positivity movement, why is there no such stream or defense of us short men. Some fat people have a tiny amount of choice, its almost impossible but its there, we have NONE unless we do a surgery that breaks our legs. We got born short and have NO way to fix it.

[@Echo81Rumple83]

as someone who gained and lost a lot weight due to medical issues (crohn's made me lose weight when i wasn't exercising, and prednisone, even for a short period of time, to treat another autoimmune disease that baffled me and my dermatologist, made me balloon up against my will after experiencing some of the worst hunger pangs i can remember), it is important in maintaining weight not just for looks alone, but for overall general good health. (there are distinct differences between being overweight, obese, and just plain ol' fat but healthy as a horse.) and because of that, i'm STILL afraid of losing weight, even though i can stand to lose, like, a LOT of it at this rate, because my body will panic if i lose too much too quickly, and i can never be sure if it's because my gut is declaring a psyop warfare on me for the next round of flair-up. that being said: at first glance, the guy in the first photo could opt in for some diet and exercise, but not as extreme as those on The Biggest Loser crap reality show, so he can easily lose the weight slowly if he chooses to; in the long run, it's doable, and no doubt a change in diet alone could help with his mental health if he already does exercise from doing daily house chores or walk/bike to work. however, i wouldn't be surprised if there are undergarments for men, not just for women, that can help slim up his gut a bit (a body suit i think). as for the guy you're obviously drooling over, yeah he looks good the way he is. you can be fat but not obese; being fat is how you look, being [morbidly] obese is a health issue. it's a complicated issue, still, so it's still up for debate as long as there's no fat-shaming but concerned about potential future health issues like type 2 diabetes. Edit: oh, crap, i didn't think to factor in food reactivities and other aspects that causes inflammation and water weight gain to the entire body. also: look up Kushing's disease; not fun.

[@HicSvntDracones]

In the past, people used to literally pass down clothing as if it was a house, I just bought some shirts that literally started falling apart after about 2 months.

[@Julian-jd5yj]

Brooo don't sleep on Brooks Brothers suits. Classic American brand and honestly they're decently high quality. Just got my first couple suits on my own dime (I'm 24/25) and it felt really cool to have one. I bought three actually: Brooks brothers, Ralph Lauren, and a burgundy banana republic suit for fun. Men: wear more suits

[@Kriegter]

I miss the baggy slacks you see in Heat: 1991. The shootout scene has some of the best fashion in existence

[@user-vc7ur1hd2s]

i wont lie- excersizing and becoming more fit will make everyone look better. dont even have to be skinny, you can keep the bodyfat but in general excersize and activity improves aesthetics.

[@theresaurus9820]

That’s fatphobic

[@Nei982]

@@theresaurus9820 Sarcasm right?

[@theresaurus9820]

@@Nei982 how?

[@Nei982]

@@theresaurus9820 Yeesh

[@midigate]

I figure the main issues are posture and possibly the material of the clothing eg; polyester/polyblends fit a lot differently vs 100% wool & 100% cotton - it really makes a difference on how that material lays on you. I never knew it until i started watching fashion design tiktokers... Its really true.

[@midigate]

Plus tailoring + alterations can affect how something fits in a positive way

[@JourneyLT]

The fashion arc continues, and I love it.

[@Allison_Hart]

"How come I never look right" is honestly the modern version of the Hemingway six word long story. ("For sale: baby shoes, never worn")

[@_exolite]

What the fuck? He wasn’t even really fat. Chubby MAYBE… but fashion should look good on you regardless to your weight. It’s about what goes well with your body.

[@ultrafivethousand]

Confidence is the number one factor when it comes to personal style. And confidence is the easiest thing to fake-it-til-you-make-it. You don’t need to be smart or rich to fake confidence, and the more you fake it, the easier it gets. If someone criticizes your style, all you have to say is “oh, you don’t like this?” I say this as someone who has been bullied and picked on, and I wish I had figured it out earlier.

[@FullShade]

Thank your for this public service. Can’t wait till men care more about their appearance, so I have something nice to look at from a safe distance.

[@markmclaughlin3277]

I mean, that was my first instant thought, the dude doesn't look good because his shoulders aren't broad which makes his belly look bigger. so yeah, he would look better if he lost weight in that exact outfit but I'm sure if he looked around for a man of his composition then he would look fine.

[@prageruwu69]

wait, i don't get it, he looks perfectly fine to me. he doesn't even really look fat. it just looks like regular clothes.

[@camposporium4536]

The trousers make it look worse. His body is pretty normal but the cinch of the waist is accentuating his stomach and making it look larger proportionally. He'd look better in something midrise to make his torso appear shorter and to break up the continuity between his hips and shoulders.

[@markmclaughlin3277]

@@prageruwu69 the guy is at least 25% body fat with no muscle. Yeah, most people would say he’s fat. Sometimes it’s a hard pill to swallow.

[@Bandog-l8p]

And at the end not even the "lose weight" advice really is a good "fashion advice", I'm very skinny and weight like a 110 or 115lbs (and 5'7 that doesn't help that much neither) and still when I search for a Tshirt or any type of clothing for someone skinny that it's supposed to fit well, when I wear it, it's always loose and fits like a normal T shirt, so what they are promoting is not losing weight, is getting Chris Hemsworth type of body, that way you look good in clothing (I'm not saying loosing weight or getting jacked is bad but is not a real advice)

[@sleepycowboy18]

The sweater aint it, it is so thin you can see every little detail beneath the sweater, im thin i dont even look good wearing that. Anyways fashion is definitely a skill that requires time and attention to get better of. My sister was so bad at fashion stuff, she expressed that she wanted to get better at it, so we girls at home talked about it together and just let her try everything and then letting her forming her own style. It was a lot of failed ootd to get her to the style she likes and comfortable with, but that also goes to me too, i had so much failed ootd in the past to get a better sense of fashion and style im comfortable with.

[@carlwheezer2766]

One area I really struggle fashion wise is glasses, somehow (especially in photos) I kind of always kind of look shit in glasses and somehow it also makes my hair look worse and cheekbones less noticeable.

[@KL-uv3ts]

Everything people talk about in fashion also applies to glasses: proportions, width, cut (i.e. frame shapes), etc. Something I love about Warby Parker and a lot of online retail glasses places now is you can buy not just different frames but different widths, and WP also lets you try those on in the store. But if it's just an issue in photos, honestly it could just be the lighting, if it's overhead your glasses will cast darker shadows and obscure your features.

[@MultiKatieBee]

An easy way to make clothes look and feel better is to use shapewear underneath your clothes. Even if this man loses weight, he will likely have some loose skin, and shapewear is also a good solution for that.

[@ultratog1028]

My advice? A well fitting sweater vest over a long sleeve shirt will probably look better. It's not a body weight issue. Fashion is fitting clothes to your body, not fitting your body to clothes.

[@heathflick8937]

Some of the best clothing advice I can give to guys is to shop women's stuff. I personally find that a lot of men's stuff pretty samey, and there's a lot of women's stuff that's looser fitting and looks just fine on guys. There's also more variance in terms of sizing. And there are a lot of guys like me who have a small waist and narrow shoulders who just look bad in most men's stuff but look really nice in women's.

[@appa609]

True I got a women's USN peacoat for $4 from a yard sale and it's my best look

[@annafirnen4815]

We really reached this weird timeline where women can't fit in clothes made for women and they have to shop in men section and men don't feel comfortable in clothes made for men and have to shop in the women section. The (fast) fashion industry really sucks and noone wins huh

[@camposporium4536]

Yeah I got a really nice coat from the womens. I just have to size up because of my shoulders

[@nickokona6849]

I'm someone who really struggles with fashion and clothing. I was ultra slender growing up, but most of my adult life I've had about 20 or so pounds overweight. The difficulty I have always had is with a unique set of visual disabilities co-morbid with each other. In much the same way that I (functionally, but not literally) have prosopagnosia and thus, cannot recognize faces (literally my brain cannot put people's faces together into a cohesive image in my mind), I cannot put together in my mind what articles of clothing look like or might look like on any body including myself. I might be able to say "I think x outfit looks good/bad on y person" but I couldn't identify the things that make it look good or bad on a given person. I can only tell if something is comfortable on me. I've had my particular blend of vision issues my entire life, so being able to figure this subject out myself has been incredibly difficult. Lucky for me, I married a fashion forward boutique owner. But that's a crutch. I wish I had an eye for it, but as I don't have much of an eye for anything (except, a good view of nature, ironically), it's something I likely will always struggle with getting a handle on. It's tough having to rely on others for something like dressing yourself so you don't look awful.

[@apetchel]

As a woman who has a bigger chest but small to mid size waist, it was always sad going dress shopping. I could never find bras that fit me in stores (id have to order them from a catalog). Dresses would either fit in the bust but be tight in the waist or vice versa because clothing was designed with skinny girl/small boobs in mind.

[@appa609]

Take solace in the fact that most men want you and most women want to be you.

[@fluidthought42]

​@@appa609 Nobody asked

[@fluidthought42]

Have you considered altering dresses yourself or taking dresses in to be altered? That way your dresses can come out more flattering and comfortable for you. I mean I say this but I need to figure out how to sew a button back onto my shorts myself...

[@OwentheKingofDudes]

@@appa609 This. You have a gift.

[@OwentheKingofDudes]

@@fluidthought42 Epic white knighting, comrade!

[@namisue7293]

As a trans person...this is just horrible. "Why dont i look right" thats dysphoria levels of insecure, the treatment of this man was beyond sickening.

[@AR-de8qz]

Aaaah ok as a (almost dietitian) it's not actually that simple to lose weight. A calorie deficit can cause your body to think it's starving and slow down your metabolic rate to conserve energy. In addition your body creates more hunger hormones to increase you appetite. Meaning on a biological level, your body is hungrier, meaning it's only a matter of time until your willpower breaks and you overeat, and your metabolism is slower. Dieting has been shown to lead to greater weight gain over time.

[@loopholesloopy]

How do you lose weight then?

[@AR-de8qz]

@loopholesloopy it's different for everyone but generally I would recommend a very small calorie deficit which does deprive you of carbs. Carb restriction is very common in the diet space and since it is our bodies preferred source of energy, if we aren't getting enough and feel deprived it's only a matter of time until you binge eat carbs. Building a diet that feels fulfilling for you is also super important, so focus on what you can add to your current diet to improve satiety and that will be enjoyable for you. For me, I love desserts, but sometimes I don't actually want a slice of cheesecake, I'm craving something sweet with fat, and so chocolate milk can hit that craving. This means I'm feeling emotionally fulfilled dessert wise, but I didn't eat 900 calories of cheesecake. So learning about your hunger cues and what they actually mean is super helpful. Overall I would recommend trying to improve diet by increasing fiber and unsaturated fats and eating more mindfully. For a calorie deficit I would not recommend above 200 calories, and honestly I think it's unethical to promote dieting and weight loss as goals as Healthcare providers. Weight loss has time and time again been shown to be unsustainable and weight cycling is actually more detrimental for health than a consistent higher weight. Instead focusing on improving health through diet and exercise without the goal of weight loss is a better strategy. Anyway this is a subject I care alot about. I have a bachelor's in Dietetics and just finished my first semester of my masters program in Nutrition.

[@raingulfdrengot195]

@@AR-de8qz So calorie deficit will help me lose weight?

[@AR-de8qz]

@raingulfdrengot195 not all calorie deficits are created equal. Doing too much too fast will lead to cravings and a slowed metabolism, which can lead to stagnation and weight gain. So I wouldn't recommend a calorie restriction but if you did, nothing more than 200 calories.

[@smkh2890]

At 11:00 loose-fitting clothing , like wrap-around gowns and robes, were a liability in the new industrial context of 'looms', spinning machines, etc. That is why closer-fitting clothing became common.

[@smkh2890]

I reckon that hip-hop fashion has done a lot for bigger people to have options to look cool.

[@k992-o6r]

problem: mens shirts hang or cling to the belly poorly, making most people look bad answer: more men in crop tops 👉👈

[@alexisauld7781]

Let's take all the crop top crap being shoved into women's fashion... and push it onto the other main bit of the market! :3 (Like come on, if I keep seeing cropped jackets and crap like them being mass displayed come autumn I'm going to be *annoyed* xD)

[@boreanonekatto8146]

3:14 WWDITS Guillermo 8:58 fantasy of being muscular 10:20 old loose fit and thick fabrics 16:40 box fit 18:07 What's the point? 19:50 fishermen sweater 23:10 drip 24:34 don't hang well

[@boreanonekatto8146]

21:37 too tight, slim fit bad

[@theonlygoodlookinghabsburg2081]

God I fucking hate Reddit.

[@glenndiddy]

I've actually been searching for looser jeans, t-shirts and button-ups. I have a flat stomach, but with my body proportions I just don't feel comfortable in skinny and slim fit clothes. I'm gonna be searching for a long time with the direction the fashion industry has been going

[@Gladvillainy-709]

Vaush needs a fashion channel ASAP this stuff is interesting

[@brandonthorpe9905]

The moment I broke down and started shopping in big and tall stores I started feeling less self conscious about how I looked, and actually wanted to drop some weight and put on a little muscle to keep it going. When you're just depressed and "fuck it" about how you look you tend to just give up on looking good in general.

[@lihchong2267]

My first thought when i saw the op was that he had lousy posture. The way he's taking the photo probably doesn't help either. Nothing to do with his weight.

[@meepmeepinton]

Vaush is such a fashion icon. The crumb on his chest is an innovative accessory

[@muzzlebait]

Dude really doesn't look that bad.

[@guillaumelagueyte1019]

Yeah he's fine, people online are insane.

[@KL-uv3ts]

Sure, but the point of the post was: he wants to look good. He's putting in the effort. He doesn't look good.

[@luluvanhoagland5348]

The reason clothes fit better was because clothes were mostly made for (or at least tailored to)the specific wearer. Yes, even if you were poor (you'd just do it yourself/have your wife/mom/sister etc do it) Clothes were more expensive, but people would have less of them. Fast fashion has killed good clothes.

[@Villaintrigue]

I say this respectfully but fashion is unfortunately an attractive person thing. You need specific body shapes, which usually means being relatively fit, to pull off good looks. I speak as someone built like Dr. Eggman and has to go to specialty stores to get shoes that fit so I'm waaaaaaaay to ugly to make any attempt to look fashionable.

[@RarityArchive]

Boxy t shirts have come back in style like crazy and i love it because ever since i got into fashion in 2016 ive usually gone with boxy t shirts and slim fit pants. Ill wear looser fitting pants sometimes depending on the look im going for but that's always been my go to.

[@RaineDraa]

Pro tip(s) for losing weight/having a more healthy diet: -When cutting back on calories, do not go "cold turkey" (never go cold turkey on any diet change). Change diet gradually. If you go from your usual caloric intake one day, immediately to your "goal intake" the next day, your body can go into a sort of starvation response, and you will actually have a more difficult time losing weight, and than get discouraged. -All calories are not the same. Or at least, that is a bad attitude to have, leading to excuses for bad habits. Try to eat minimal sugar or sweeteners as possible (I also include sweeteners, because sweeteners will not reduce sugar cravings. If you cut back on your sugar and sweetener intake, over time the cravings will reduce). Excess sugar (and potentially also carbs) are the main contributors towards weight gain. Try to drink more water and less soda and sugary drinks. And try to eat things high in fiber, as fiber slows down how fast your body processes food, leading to you feeling more full for longer. Sugar also affects the sensitivity of our bodies' hunger response, it dulls the affect of the hormone leptin, which tells the body when you're full. With a high sugar diet you might not actually ever feel very full. -If you have problems with snacking, try to have bigger more substantial meals, and slowly cut back on snacks. If you feel fuller from meals, you won't focus as much on casual snacking. -Both diet and exercise is important, but diet is far more important than excercise. Don't try to compensate for poor diet by over exercising. We actually don't need very much exercise to live a healthy life. And with how many calories foods have, trying to burn off "bad foods" on a daily basis is a losing battle. Also, with a better diet, you won't tire as quickly and will be able to exercise more efficently.

[@RobotMasterSplash]

Exercise is more important than diet. If you keep yourself immobile every day, it's not going to matter what you eat because your body wont use it. The only exception are things like soda, because people easily consume over 200g of extra sugar per day with a soda habit. Exercise will make your body crave nutrients and healthy foods more, and condition it to make full use of everything you eat. Managing your diet is 10 times easier and more effective when you're regularly exercising.

[@TheGoodDirtbag]

@@RobotMasterSplashthey never said to keep yourself immobile all day. They said a healthier diet is going to be more important than trying to burn something crazy like 1000 calories a day because you ate badly. You could do a small amount of exercise a day and eat healthy and that’s going to yield a healthier outcome. “You can’t out-train a bad diet”

[@forcastfascistfuture]

If you are talking about suits and more formal clothes, there is a trend to slimmer cuts, but elsewhere in fashion oversized and boxy cuts are very much the trend. I am a very skinny guy who always wore skinny jeans and slim fits, and over the past few years, I have felt a bit forced to embrace bigger cuts because slimmer pants have become quite hard to find. But now I love oversized clothes, and I especially love that fashion has become more accessible for more body types with this trend. Chore jackets are also a great, underrated item for bigger people to look classy.

[@softenbysam]

Losing weight would definitely make that person actually look decent. If you don't eat right, you won't look right. Take it from someone who has been on both sides from previously being obese, to getting six pack shredded. The fact someone thinks that his weight isn't that bad, shows just how skewed our society has become from how almost everyone is massive.

[@tirthpatel1562]

For me its usually darker colors without a lot of sheen and a sense of how it will fall over your body are key points. Also thicker fabric can be your enemy since the folds can be very prominent, much like strechy thin fabric. I go for a thin(er) fabric that isnt very strechy and that fits me well enough. Its also really hot where i live so layering is usally out of the question for me and when it comes time to wear warmer clothes, i usually go for the utility more than the drip so i dont look too deep😅 Also if you wanna go shopping take someone with you thats interested in fashion or shopping, they can gife you useful feedback but of you trust your gut then more power to you!

[@OwentheKingofDudes]

Eh, I'm a fat guy, there's nothing wrong with telling someone to lose some pounds, especially if the man literally asked "Is it because I need to lose some weight?"

[@asum7213]

Please, it's specifically a fashion subreddit. If anything it tells me the people there are incredibly incompetent. I don't care if you're fat and your entire extended family bullies you for it, you exist now in whatever shape you do and want whatever outfit you're wearing to look well put together, no?

[@OwentheKingofDudes]

@@asum7213 As someone who is out of shape, no. Just because I WANT to wear specific items, doesn't mean I can pull it off with my body type or appearance. Guys who are in shape almost always look better than guys who are not. Simple as.

[@camposporium4536]

​@@OwentheKingofDudesit's not about weight, it's about fashion. You can engage with fashion at pretty much any weight and while obviously being skinny is beneficial, carrying extra weight doesn't prevent you from looking good in your clothing. The fact that people told the guy to lose weight off the bat is pretty wack, because he's clearly wearing clothes that are just too small. He just needs to size up his clothes. Light grey is also a really unflattering colour especially if your body shape isn't 'ideal' and the guy seems to have mild gyno. He'd benefit from patterns, texture, dark colours etc.

[@OwentheKingofDudes]

@@camposporium4536 "The fact that people told the guy to lose weight off the bat is pretty wack" He literally asked, without prompting, if he needed to lose weight. Other people said "yes." Not "wack" at all. "carrying extra weight doesn't prevent you from looking good in your clothing." A 175 lbs man in a Hugo Boss suit will look better than a 600 lbs man in the same outfit, same with a 100 lbs woman in a Coco Chanel vs a 600 lbs woman.

[@Spectra651]

@@OwentheKingofDudes Did that guy *look* 600 lbs. to you? No, the dude was just a little chubby; there's NO comparison here. There's absolutely no reason this guy couldn't look good in a tailored suit that was properly fit for his body type. Jumping to the most extreme example just makes it look like you don't *actually* have a good argument and are desperate to construct a strawman to bolster your point.

[@GThe-su9kl]

18:15 Oh yes, I hate shopping for clothes - especially shopping for shoes. Just recently, I had to buy winter boots, but the only shop selling boots had like 2 remaining models of my size. The one that I picked had some weird ring on top that sinks in my skin, so now I have to wear them tied only at the bottom.

[@Kodisage]

Eating less calories isn’t “starving yourself” and that’s literally the mindset that creates eating disorders. You’re eating less than you were…. If you’re eating so little you’re starving yourself then you’re restricting too much