This Soldier’s Friend DIES in the Line of Duty, and his Manger Decided to do THIS

This ex-soldier was forced to pull out of an interview after his friend who he served with was killed on duty. Whilst at the funeral, this person was sent one of the worst emails I have ever seen from a recruiter.
The recruiter promised to blacklist him, ensuring he would not be able to get a job elsewhere, and she called out his character saying he lacked integrity. This was whilst he was trying to comfort his friend's family at the funeral.
What was ridiculous about this was that even if this had happened on the actual day it would still be inexcusable but he gave the recruiter a few days heads up that he would no longer be able to attend the interview because of the funeral.
It is one of the worst emails that I have ever seen.
#worstboss #veteran #recruitment

[@markwebb4154]

You did exactly the right thing. It wasn't your friend that passed, it was your brother. As an ex serviceman I would drop other plans to honour the passing of a brother.

[@Ben-Askins]

Agreed mate

[@ruthwalton3457]

Totally 🙏

[@BeardedChieftain]

Agreed 100%. I'd drop everything and fly from Aussie to any LOCSTAT where any of my Brother/Sister-in-Arms had passed and that would be my only focus... job be damned. "Facta Probant".

[@CC-vq1yg]

And any decent company would be completely ok with rescheduling an interview if they were told that this candidate served in the army and one of his friends is being buried when we were going to be interviewing

[@tomarmstrong3800]

My jaw actually dropped when you were reading out that email. What an awful person

[@Ben-Askins]

So did mine!!

[@theplasmawolf]

I can't believe such people exist. Any reasonable person would understand what's going on, I expect the company with the vacancy would be more understanding than the recruiter. She is the opposite of what she should be in this position.

[@t-and-p]

I want her name. As a Brit and a veteran, I will use every contact I have to have HER blacklisted. How DARE she treat our injured personnel like this, particularly on a day when she knew that a fallen soldier, his brother-in-arms, was being laid to rest. Utterly abhorrent.

[@fdm2155]

The idea that THREE days notice was considered unreasonable suggests the recruiter is genuinely nuts. How on EARTH did she not simply reach out to the employer right away and advise that you would be traveling for a funeral? Ask for a reschedule? I'd expect very few employers to complain under the circumstances. And the wild hyper aggressive follow up message was probably actionable. If someone sent me that, they'd hear from a lawyer! Recruiter likely realized this poor struggling vet was young and inexperienced.

[@Stinkehund]

The blacklist threat in itself basically amounts to an admission of slandering.

[@guyr7351]

Her e mail also smacks of desperation on her part so possibly they were under threat of losing the client company and the person should be named and shamed

[@malachiXX]

In Ontario, Canada, 'blacklisting' is illegal. Anyone who does so and can be proven to have done so has just made their company open to a lawsuit. A friend of mine was 'blacklisted' and they "turned the tables" on the person, got the evidence they needed and reported the behavior to the parent company, with a proviso that if nothing was done, they would be seeking a legal solution. The 'blacklister' was fired immediately and the company gave my friend a 'glowing recommendation' that got him a job in very short order. He didn't feel the need to go after the company for money.

[@paul8161]

Wow, well done to your friend for doing that, and we'll do the right to the parent company to doing the right thing, and I'm glad your friend got a job.

[@phiakate]

I doubt she actually has the ability to black list anyone she was desperate to intimidate him, which is funny because if so many people wanted that job she should have found loads in the 3 day notice he had given her.

[@scotiadragoon5974]

There are work-arounds to that law. I worked for a national company owned by several multinationals, and what they did was never recommend anyone. You existed for x-number of years at the company, and that was it. Management and supervisors were officially barred from commenting on former employees in any capacity. You could have been the best employee, ever, but officially, it all sounded like you were the worst, when searching for a new job. Couple that with targeting senior employees for layoff, and you have people long out of the job market, trying to become employed again with no references. You could get a co-worker to comment on your behalf, but it but it skewed a lot of weight against you when management refused to.

[@EikePilt]

When you started reading the email, I was ready for anything… except this. This lady is a prime example of a hypocrite.

[@Ben-Askins]

Agreed, really poor!

[@jackwaycombe]

Years ago now, but I had boss who - hearing I was burying my grandma at 2pm - saw no reason why I shouldn't be back to my work by 3pm. My reply was predictably anglo-saxon, and I didn't return at all, ever. He promised litigation because of lack of notice, but even his own lawyer told him he was on a hiding to nothing. So many people in my working life so self-entitled and self-righteous I had to stand amazed they were still living.

[@chrisdonnellyofficial]

This was an infuriating story, so glad he's found his footing now, but what was that recruiter playing at?!

[@listey]

Recruiters are generally hopeless and only care about their commissions.

[@Ben-Askins]

It's unbelievable isn't it

[@ChrisWebDev]

He was spot on when he said they're good at making soldiers but not at making civilians. Once you're out you are on your own and forgotten (or at least it was like that back in 2000). It took me over 5 years from my date of leaving to properly convert to a civilian. The military way of life is a hard one to shake off

[@BeardedChieftain]

Pssst....you are not "properly converted" Brother. I say this as one who Med' separated in '96 after 12 years. Having said that however, I need to add this... you are a better version of yourself and a better civilian than most civvies.. Keep it up!

[@backyardtinkerer4951]

Unfortunately it's true to every service in every country, with the exception of specialist skillsets (doctors/lawyers etc). Admin discharged in 07 (AustralianArmy), and it took me years to get anywhere near "together"

[@BeardedChieftain]

@@backyardtinkerer4951 With you Brother. Med D/C 1996... 10 days post discarge from ICU Psych.

[@backyardtinkerer4951]

I saw the same thing happen to my old man (Vietnam era 64 - 82 full time, 84-91 reservist). At the time, the powers that be decided to clear out the senior soldiers (I.e. all but forcibly retired) to make way for new blood, and to save dollars. My mothers eldest brother (Korean war vet) also had a rough time readjusting. Of course, both grandfathers had their own story to tell after WW2

[@jakeking3859]

I am absolutely disgusted by the way that woman spoke to him in that email. No one should be speaking to ANYONE that way, no matter what their station or who they are. I'm glad to hear he's doing better now.

[@NavySeal2k]

Immediately report her to her HR and complete management chain! She has no right to have a job in a service business...

[@chernobyl169]

Who would want to work for such a ghoul Why are recruiters always so evil

[@Jalanko13]

They get paid by commission, that’s why.

[@nicolad8822]

This isn’t just about the military. There are people in my life who might not be a close family member but who I would absolutely want to honour by attending their funeral. If actually in employment I would take a day off as holiday, if this was refused for no good reason I would kick off. This women must be arranging multiple interviews every day with the same potential employers, a one time rescheduling should not be considered a problem.

[@SuprousOxide]

Apparently the recruiter refused to pass on the news to the interviewer, that the called had canceled. Then blamed the called for wasting the interviewer's time.

[@ritajames7797]

That odious so-called recruitment consultant was obviously both narcissistic and untalented. Most recruiters would say "Thank you for telling me. Sorry for your loss - please take whatever time you need and come back to us when you are ready". They would already have a couple of other candidates who would go to that interview. Glad that he did actually find a position in the police force.

[@auntienina3142]

Such a well-spoken young veteran! Still serving! So glad that he found his place. Thank you for your service overseas and now at home.

[@alisonjennings5053]

😢 I'm sat here in tears, that poor man, my heart goes out to him. Transition is awful!!! ....there's not alot of support, (both my children served and medically discharged). As for that 'woman' name and shame her AND her company!!! She's not fit to breathe the same air as you!! Stand proud, thankyou for your service ❤ Good luck in the Police force 🥰

[@susanrand512]

He needs to send that email to the recruiters boss. What a witch, you need an attorney.

[@melz3752]

She said good luck to finding companies that show respect to others and she is proving that SHE doesn’t respect this guy or the military. The fact that she thinks the interview with her is more important than this man’s family funeral. This woman does not deserve her job. That letter with info needs to be online for her company and clients to see

[@laulutar]

The idea that anyone would be in a fit state to interview the day of a funeral is wild!

[@trisblackshaw1640]

Thank you to all British servicemen and women- from AUS.

[@charlotteinnocent8752]

I really wish someone could reach out to this woman and give her a piece of all our minds and SHAME her for that! ANY friend dying, you should be able to go to the funeral no questions asked, but a friend who was in a foxhole being shot at with you?! How could she say that!

[@SmileyMack]

He offered his life to protect our freedoms. A freedom that that vile creature can't even understand. Thanks for your service Finn. I appreciate it.

[@razzor222]

Then he became a cop going from the army to a gang

[@SmileyMack]

@@razzor222 hes a Bobby, not a cop. Cops are American. That aside, he's still put his life on the line.

[@selenacaemawr]

A bobby is a copper. He didn't actually say he was a bobby though. There are many roles within the police force than being on the beat, which is a bobby's job.

[@nicolad8822]

I cringe at the freedoms thing, our governments send them into some shady situations, not their fault.

[@nicolad8822]

@@razzor222So you are saying we don’t need Police?

[@brianmooreshead]

Absolutely should name and shame. They have no business working in a sector that involves working with people.

[@NavaSDMB]

Video interview for IT consulting. On the manager's side there was a noise that sounded like something had fallen over but probably not broken, and what sounded like a child's yelp. Interviewer looked startled, interviewee exclaimed "child takes priority, GO!" The interviewee didn't have as much experience as some of the other candidates, but that moment was when she got the job: techniques can be taught, empathy and the ability to deal with the unexpected, not so much (I was one of the veterans who got to train her). The funeral of a brother-in-arms is more important than a freaking interview, too, and I for one wouldn't want to work for people who don't understand that.

[@IndianaKeks]

I know there are regulations and laws; but if that woman can blacklist him and point him out to other companies as not being useful, is there no way to get the name of those recruiters/company?

[@dustyking8851]

Sounds like slander to me.

[@tdannyboy]

It's only slander if it's untrue

[@fitzpatrickken]

@@dustyking8851 Maybe more like defamation!

[@user-mv5zt8qd9l]

​@@tdannyboy It's a good job she made false representations in her messages, then!

[@travelwell6049]

I think she can refuse to represent him any further but I don’t think she can “blacklist” him. I expect she was just really angry and I see elements of narcissistic personality disorder. She was unable to empathise with something whilst instead took it as a personal attack on herself and was worried about how it made her look.

[@NeversurrenderMM66]

Finlay, my Dad was just like you. Dropped out of high school and joined the Army. He was injured and medically discharged. He had planned on being a lifer in the Army, so was very bitter and became an alcoholic. I hope you don't go down that rocky road of only thinking "what should have been" and not "what could be". I'm happy you found a career you love.

[@otakelblanchemanor0659]

What hit me the hardest was he was injured in the line of duty.... then treated like he was by the recruiter! Taking a line from a popular song.... It's a damn shame what the worlds come to.... And thank you for your service young man!

[@tylergodefroy8713]

sorry but if anyone needs to called out its her and her company

[@t-and-p]

Agreed! I would love to know who she is (and who her company is), so that I can ensure that nobody I know uses her services. I wouldn't want to pass a single penny in her direction.

[@bradburchnell2341]

Ben if this gentleman is still looking I have a wonderful contact in the UK - Abbie Taylor CEO of Recruitment Hereos. She’s an absolute gem. I served for 15 years in the US Navy and Naval Reserve. I despise people treating people like it.

[@dustyking8851]

❤ We have to take care of all vets, not just American vets. ❤❤

[@bradburchnell2341]

@@dustyking8851 I totally agree as I have friends from many nations that served.

[@spectrelead]

All vets are my battle buddies, no matter the nation. It takes a special breed of patriot (anyone who loves the nation in which they live is a patriot) to write blank check of up to and including your LIFE to your nation.

[@listey]

Popcorn out ready to listen to the manager's incompetence...

[@listey]

Ok, so it's not his manager. It's some absolutely disposable recruiter who probably couldn't get a real job herself, so has made a "career" out of belittling others.

[@Ben-Askins]

@@listey Spot on!

[@SimplyMariaC]

Where does this person get the nerve??? Unbelievable!!😮

[@tinalisapattern]

If there was a prize for the lowest possible level of empathy, this woman recruiter would win it by far. Just disgusting 🤢

[@Daysgobye52]

I think the CEOs of whatever companies she is involved in should be sent this email.

[@JGS123WRPTP]

What an awful person that recruiter is. Glad you’re doing great things now 👍

[@nicolad8822]

He might have struggled at school but he’s so obviously a smart guy. Good luck in the Police.

[@NannyRose2289]

And I would have sent that email to the company that I was going to interview with, along with an explanation for calling off the interview and wish them the best of luck with their future if they continue to use such and evil individual.

[@angusmacintyre2414]

don't stop there. search out all the companies she works with and show them who she is.

[@cts3md]

He should contact the interviewer directly and let them know why he wasn’t there and who was really to blame for their time being wasted. He’s got all the receipts.

[@CoffeeBeanWitch]

First off to all the currently serving and ex military men and women out there, thank you for your selfless service. Also army personnel are deemed your brother/sister so that vile woman will do well to remember that and to remember due to yours and your brother that was lost whilst in service the selfless act to defend this country gives her freedom. I have never enjoyed recruiters because they can be so damn pushy and very rarely factor human emotion. When I was in the police I noticed a lot of officers were ex-army so it made a lot of sense to me that that deep passion to defend nevers goes away. All he best to this man in all he does ❤

[@pg4662]

I so angry at this woman, I'm shaking!! Who the hell does she think she is? The level of disrespect she has for a fellow human being, let alone one who has served his country and one who has died for his country, is mind blowing. I'm retired now, but the ex military staff I hired during my career, were, without exception, great employees.

[@edlacey4888]

Obviously not an employer who's signed up for the Armed Forces Covenant

[@kristicitak3932]

Oh my heavens. What a heartless person who wrote this letter. 😳😱

[@yippee8570]

I went for a special offer of three free sessions with a personal trainer-type-person, with a view to paying for her services longer term. My MIL died and the day before the funeral I had a session booked. On the morning I realised I couldn't do it. I was too upset. I messaged her and explained. A day or two later and she forwards me an email that she had sent to someone else. I then learnt that these sessions were not free but being paid for by some kind of charitable group. I had no prior knowledge of this and she had never mentioned that she needed 24 hours notice or anything like that. She also included personal medical information to this stranger! I was so upset. Who does that when you know a person's loved one has died? I sent an email to her and to the previously unknown charity person, stating that I was distressed and could not trust her and hence would not be partaking of any more of her services. It angers me still that this woman is still peddling her stuff in the local community and that she never replied to my email and I never heard from her or the charity person again. Absolutely disgraceful. So my heart goes out to the guy in the video. It's just appalling.

[@Nyghtmayor]

As a veteran, this woulda been an asskicking.

[@missflowerpower8724]

I’m from America and recruiters are not used in many job searches. This fiasco is one reason that Americans still work with the at-will concept. Yes, the employer can fire you, but YOU can QUIT at your own will!! The problem with recruiters is that they are making cash when you get hired (UGH!). All this lady had to do was notify the potential interviewer and say what was going on. And talking about “being honest”, it is a sure bet that this woman did not even try to notify the interviewer or explain the situation. This shows that if a potential employee were to have a child or spouse fall ill and go to the hospital, she would be just as harsh. If she is married with kids, I feel so sorry for them and those around them. No need to be so very harsh and rigid.

[@peggyoconnell5775]

I'm only 1/2 way through the video but please god tell me that he contacted this vile woman's superiors and reported her!

[@selenacaemawr]

She was the most senior person in the company as a company director.

[@markevans959]

Should name and shame and teach them the real meaning of “blacklisted”!!

[@charliehiker2247]

I would have been tempted in contacting a news organization, just to gauge the 'human interest' aspects of the story.

[@markbooth3066]

For anyone who finds themselves no longer able to serve, please keep an eye out for employers who have signed up to the Armed Forces Covenant, a sincere commitment to understanding the needs of those who have served, their families, their strengths and their sacrifices. I see that many Police Forces (possibly all) have signed the AFC, publicly committing to abide by it's guidance, but if that's not for you, there are many companies in science, engineering, and healthcare who are crying out for people. Several of my colleagues found us through our activities supporting the covenant, so it's great for the business as well as being the right thing to do.

[@thebladeofchaos]

friend of mine recently passed. ex-service, from what we know he just...couldn't adapt to life outside the military. saw and did too much as I heard it. I didn't exactly know him post Uni but he remembered me. I didn't serve myself but I have a metric ton of respect for them I don't even have that bond between battle brothers and I dropped EVERYTHING to make sure his family were ok. I'm East Midlands. recently went to Wales and then Northumbria to help out. I'm glad this lad has found his way. this woman should be named and shamed even if it's just for 'you probably stayed home instead of going to the funeral'.

[@DiscoStuLikesDiscoMusic]

Oh, absolutely, the manager was spot-on! Because, you know, veterans are just machines, right? They should be able to compartmentalize everything, including their personal grief, because clearly, that's how service works. I mean, how dare a veteran, who sacrificed their health defending our freedoms, have the audacity to ask for a little consideration from a recruiter? It's not like they deserve any human decency or understanding, especially when it's inconvenient for someone else's schedule. And the nerve of mentioning their service in the same breath! Like, yeah, we get it, you fought for our country, but can't you prioritize a job interview over a funeral? Talk about responsibility issues, right? Missing a job interview because of a family death? Unheard of! How irresponsible can one get? Thank goodness we have managers who are quick to remind us that veterans should prioritize job opportunities over their own personal tragedies. Bravo!

[@spectrelead]

Can you drown us in the sarcasm next time instead merely splashing us with it? ;)

[@reneemcgowan5684]

Best. Use. Of. Sarcasm. EVER!! 🤣

[@philabrahams383]

NAME AND SHAME THIS SO CALLED RECRUITMENT COMPANY SO THAT THEY GO OUT OF BUSINESS 🤬🤬🤬

[@ingegerdandersson6963]

What company would like to use a recruiter like this.

[@chaoticwonder3278]

Publishing/posting a copy of the actual email from the recruiter sent to their management/corporate. If that doesn't get action, post the entire story on social media recommending any other veterans withdraw their business from said recruiter/company. Not defamation if it's in the recruiter's own words.

[@melz3752]

I think all people leaving the military should have to go through a mandatory class that gives training on finding a job. There should also be people they can contact with questions. Recruiters to help place people in jobs. How to do a resume, interview questions they’ll be asked and how to answer. Going into to the military right after high school means they haven’t learned these life lessons. Once done The government basically gives them the middle finger and says good luck. Really upsets me. Thank you to this man for his service. I appreciate the security to live my life 🙏

[@btecpostmaster]

Name and shame the recruiter. She has put it in writing that she is going to trash this persons career so use your reach to trash her career and make sure she can never work in recruitment again

[@markwebb4154]

Just on the topic of what the Army should have done to help him adjust to civilian life, he would have been entitled to resettlement courses, they help you put together a CV, how to spot transferable skills ect.. and he should still be entitled to his learning credits towards courses. If the Army didn't offer him these, then they have failed him. His divisional officer should have highlighted these to him. When I left the biggest adjustment was the banter and interactions. The military have a very specific dark sense of humour that isn't always acceptable in civilian life, it's knowing how to adjust to that and not to offend people. However your massive advantage to lean into is that you can think out of the box, time awareness, dependability and flexibility to various jobs. You have more transferable skills than you realise.

[@dustyking8851]

The military hasn't been doing a good job at transitioning soldiers back to civilian life since armies were invented. We have been aware of soldiers coming back shellshocked/PTSD for decades yet the lack of assistance has been appalling. Here in America it has been glaringly obvious that Congress refuses to use a small part of the Trillion dollar budget for integration programs. We are failing them, it makes me ill.

[@robertp457]

@@dustyking8851 That's not entirely true. When I left there wasn't much, but since 2011 there's a lot more to help people leaving the US military.

[@spectrelead]

@@robertp457 I see VA at least a little, since I got out of the Army in 2005, but change is slow because civilians just don't understand, and VA reports to civilians, not military whose contracts have expired

[@Mark-jp9dz]

What most civilians do not understand is that the military is not a career, it is a way of life. Some people can't handle that so leave early. Some wives cannot handle being almost second best. However, someone who does love this way of life, but have to leave due to injury, have a really hard job getting back into a civilian mind set. I wish this chap all the success for the future.

[@gypsygem9395]

You're not wrong. It's the same for many army brats. I was one and miss the life despite being in my 60s now.

[@WlmaAlexender-zl6nx]

This woman is the type of person soldiers exist to protect our country from.

[@BeardedChieftain]

Finlay, Welcome Home Brother. We both know who the person with integrity and honour is. To all my fellow Cold War/GWOT Veterans (yes, some of us did both), chins up ladies and gents and remember *don't let the civvie twats gaslight you!*

[@PHILDEBEAST]

What an incredibly horrendous individual.she should be fired from her position

[@ryanmcewen415]

Honestly this recruiter and her company need to be identified. This story needs to be heard by anyone thinking of using her services.

[@maryarney1350]

Please name names. People can only be protected if we actually call these abusers out.

[@danner253]

As far as I know that isn't legal since that would be a personal data breach in most these cases

[@TheStevenWhiting]

Recruiters are genuinely arseholes. Not only this but the one I was with sent my payslip to another engineer, several times, recruiters at this company would send us all an e-mail without blind copy. I reported this several times and the owner said sorry but it continued to happen, being in IT the last time it happen I tracked one of the people down via the e-mail address. Worked out where they were working and could now send them spoof e-mails pretending to be the recruiter. I explained that to the recruiter who still didn't seem to understand the issue. The last issue, was after I was no longer a contractor with them. I noticed their website had been hacked, well a part of it. I reported it to the owner, he was concerned. Several months later I checked and it was just the same. All recruiters care about is their commission. If she gets your a job she gets her commission and potentially a cut in the pay you make each week. They are parasites. Sadly that company is still in business.

[@vincentsissom4180]

Depending upon what country this took place, she could have been sued for what she did. Though, I think the statue of limitations is likely expired.

[@forric23]

This is bonkers. Thank you for your service.

[@michaelpineiro533]

How to get a platoon of angry vets waiting for you in the parking lot.

[@Vormav777]

WTF did I just hear xD she is lecturing him on good manners and being a decent person? WHAT? xDDD

[@Ben-Askins]

I know, wild

[@bcpr9812]

Just a stunning lack of self-awareness. The same things she lectures him on could be said of her! Gods... and here I thought the one who fired a woman on her wedding day was a piece of garbage.

[@joe94c]

Some recruiters have absolutely no humanity. People are a commission to them

[@rosealee9367]

Oh to be able to list the bad bosses and recruiters by name! These videos need to be forwarded to the guilty parties as a wake up call to show them just how despicable they are

[@ceilidhblackbird6290]

It sounds like she didn't bother to tell the client that he had cancelled. What a wierd choice.

[@toonkrijthe7565]

I'm not an army guy, but there are no words to describe the actions of that recruiter. If somebody died or is injured while defending their country, they should be treated with respect and understanding. But still there are countless homeless veterans.

[@sueh2225]

One of the things that I think all of these stories have in common is that they could probably avoid a lot of harassment outside of the work place (during work hours) is to turn off their phone. Especially if they are at a funeral, wedding, meeting, driving, etc. People are a little too tied to their phones now, to the point that they don’t use common sense when in those situations. I just kept thinking: Turn your phone off! This young man didn’t even have employment yet as was being harassed by the recruiter - was she too lazy to make the phone call to re-schedule his interview? IF she had bothered and told the company the reason, I’m sure they would have had no problem rescheduling. Can he request to work with a different recruiter? The fact that this woman would continually harass him DURING a funeral - is it just me or does nobody have a lick of common sense anymore?

[@s88hon]

My god she's 😢😮only an effing recruiter albeit a director. Tell her to do one. She's the one that sounds desperate to get the commission. 😮 Sinking ship me thinks.

[@JamesNYCGuy3]

This was a good interview. Very informative about life after military service. I hope karma gets her. Ben? Thank you.

[@mrdrummer2564]

This is the definition of appaling. I know in America you'd sue in a heartbeat, but I am not sure about over here in the UK, and how well that works

[@thegreenmanofnorwich]

Blacklisting is extremely difficult to do lawfully, as it usuallt contravenes data protection requirements. It's very unlikely that any reputable company will agree to blacklist anyone.

[@ULTIMARAGNAR0K]

Normally only applies to internal companies. So Do not rehire is an example how it’s done legally. But you need to be sacked by the company to attain that.

[@davinasquirrel7672]

The recruiter clearly has a god complex. They really do think a lot of themselves. I hate them, and think they are unnecessary middle wo/men.

[@grandmasmagic3858]

it makes you wonder what she would have said if it had actually been a family member, as in mum, dad, bro/sis, grandparent...she had enough warning to cancel the interview, yet she bangs on about his integrity..she has no integrity..

[@fatbob3632]

Common sense would be not to send him even if he wanted to go.

[@testpilotian3188]

You should name and shame, they can’t sue you for telling the truth.

[@vahvahdisco]

I’ve just subscribed to your channel as I love putting the world to rights !

[@minimalistdad4925]

On an odd occasion some companies should be named… and this is one of them

[@MantisShrimpFJ]

Ben Askins, I know you make it a policy to not name companies, bosses, etc, but this recruiter needs to be called out. He has no business being in recruitment and deserves to loose her job. NAME AND SHAME HER!

[@MultiAnanab]

Such a horrible situation and really sad. Transition out of the military is something really under scrutiny at the moment and hopefully is improving all the time. Medical discharge and short notice discharge are a big issue. Frustratingly there is a lot of support out there, it's just not known about, so many third sector organisations around for veterans and new service leavers. The Forces Employment Charity is one of the big ones.

[@aixtom979]

I only was in the army during the then still mandatory 1 year service back then here, but the other thing I can completely relate to was the "I got my job because of a buddy of mine worked there", which is true of all the tree jobs in my life I so far. (~25 years at my current job now, even though my buddy quit about 18 years ago).

[@jackwaycombe]

I never served. Age-wise I was eligible for National Service back in the day, but the armed services seemed to take exception to the crutches I needed. That said - literally dozens of my extended family did - and not all of them came back. Lost family in France, Germany, Malaya, Korea, Palestine and Cyprus. I've since been of the opinion since that we should all spend a few quid modifying our war memorials. Strike out the part that says "We will never forget!" and replace it with "SOME of us will never forget. The rest have bloody forgotten already!"

[@jtixtlan]

Please tell me she was outed to the client.

[@TheJase8566]

Name and shame. Publish the email

[@paul8161]

I think personally ben you have the evidence infront of you and on this rare occasion you should have completely named and shamed her and her organisation..she needs to know her actions have consequences that effect others not just her!.

[@joe94c]

Send that email to the client

[@jpalmer999]

Just wondering, is it a legal reason why you don't drop the names of companies?

[@maceg003]

That is disgusting! First sorry for your loss. The recruiter should be ashamed of themselves! You gave plenty of time, it is their job to communicate with the employer which clearly they didn't and now are feeling the pressure they screwed up and either haven't told the employer, or they are not good at their job so can't talk the employer into waiting even a day to interview you. Blacklist you.... They should be blacklisted from being a recruiter... I think they should be named and shamed (the company)

[@DeathRogueTroll]

I feel like, at least US side, there would be legal action that could be taken, for defamation at the very least, for the way she blacklisted him from the other companies.

[@Thelordofalldarkness]

I would have her done for harassment and report her to her company. She is just a recruiter not a your boss.

[@icturner23]

Manger?!

[@stuartgrier5605]

This woman is just after the recruitment fee the "client" would give her. Tell her to "disappear" but with the initials F and O. Then go to another recruiter. I suspect the company would readily agree for a days delay because of this.

[@yogibear2k220]

This is a sad story and I really am glad this guy managed to get his life together and get another very worthwhile job. My only gripe I have is that like all stories on here the event happened years ago and to me makes what this woman did null and void now. We don't know anything about her presently. She may be dead, or working for a really bad boss or anything like that. We only ever hear one side of the story which what makes this channel hypocritical to me. Ben is a great guy, but swears way too much. I wish he would tone it down like 95%.

[@bcase5328]

The police and fire have a good number of former military or reserve military personnel.

[@stephenhollingsworth2530]

Just remember, a recruiter is chasing commission.

[@pg4662]

Sometimes they chase the money and leave their soul and humanity behind, along the way!

[@fitzpatrickken]

On leaving the military, the Officer Corps have a great organisation for finding jobs on going with a great support network but for the "other ranks", there's very little support!

[@gypsygem9395]

I don't think my dad got any support but it was in the early 80s so maybe have changed now. He was a Major when he came out.

[@arthurdaniel1046]

Ben would you get in trouble if you called out some of these people and companies buy name? I wish there was some way to bring consequences to their actions without getting you in trouble in any way.