Those Left Behind: Son shares lasting impact of domestic violence

Ibtissem Trabelsi was stabbed more than 120 times by her husband, according to the Arapahoe County Sheriff's Office. Her youngest son shares her story.
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[@bethroesch2156]

As a mother, I would tell that young man that his Mom didn't take their falling out personally and she loves him. She will always love him ♥️

[@jennifersmith3245]

Your comment was the very first thing I thought of as well,. I could really feel his pain when he spoke about the last time he talk to his mom. I would tell that young man is that the last thing his mother would ever want would be for him to feel bad or guilty about their last encounter instead to remember all the beautiful times. I would also stress to him that she absolutely knows how much he loves her.

[@melissahannah587]

Yes she will always love her babies .

[@heatherbrown762]

She loves, forgives anything to matter what. I’m a mom of boys and no matter what happens, ultimately I love them unconditionally and there is nothing ever done or said that would ever change that. I think that’s the same for nearly all moms!

[@spidercherry108]

@@heatherbrown762 she doesn't need to forgive. The boy did not do anything wrong.

[@sambur6480]

There was no huge falling out. She made a stupid decision to involve herself and endanger her children with a deranged man. It’s just lucky that her children survived this.

[@shadow.banned]

Parents: anyone who tells you to kick your own children out is a bad person and would never treat their own family that horribly. Never side with abusers over your children. Never kick your children out of your homes. Protect your children first.

[@kosmicinclinations3333]

You think abused people are rational enough to make that decision...bless your heart

[@deliamartinex2710]

Unfortunately ...women at first always on the side of these so called

[@terenarosa4790]

She sided with the person who has the power and control in fear that she'd be kicked out too. She stayed hoping to convince him to let her son come back. She was afraid to leave and was delusional enough to think one day things would be better. When you love someone or even just feel you've invested so much time in them you're afraid to leave and realize that you actually deserve better. You think you won't be able to find better and you won't be able to support yourself or your children alone.

[@VioletJoy]

Yes, children first, love life second.

[@VioletJoy]

@@terenarosa4790 To be fair, it hadn't been that long. I understand how manipulation works, but one wrong move toward children is enough to get the heck out of there.

[@MouseToes]

The young man conducting this interview truly created an atmosphere that the Son could express himself fully. I am thankful 9News gave this amount of time for the interview and hiring this young reporter.

[@soni8995]

💯%

[@jabine59]

I'm not surprised the interviewer had the same experience as his interviewee. He handled the interview beautifully and is doing such important work to bring this to awareness.

[@rachelkmeck]

Love the interview and how it was conducted!!

[@as1985]

I agree I felt the interviewer was special in his approach and I appreciated that

[@katelynthegreatlyn4066]

I'm left just bawling for that baby. I'm a mom of 4 boys, and this just hurts to see that young man in so much pain.

[@laurenvega-cruz4718]

devastating..........

[@clipp7777]

What a lying , dirty killer! Poor kids.! Robbed of their Momma.💔😔🙏🕯️🕊️

[@nicholelivesay3828]

I pray that they find comfort in God and that God will ease their pain.

[@judyloera97]

And to the poor girl....she must hear her mom screaming in her dreams 😢

[@ladybrown6536]

KZbin Pyrex Pissy😎

[@marriejames01]

The term “crime of passion” really softens the brutality of the crime animals commit. The legal system should get rid of that term.

[@dawnatkinson7704]

Agreed! Passion my ar*e!

[@kimmichaluk3072]

Murder is murder

[@lydiaheelu2681]

I agree with you. It’s the same when they use words such as “King pins” and “Master Minds” to describe big criminals. There’s nothing kingly about them, just a bunch of wicked criminals.

[@InLoveWithaPaladin]

I agree...... "crime of passion" sounds romantic 🙁

[@laur-unstagenameactuallyca1587]

fr. it was a "Crime of Control" not a "Crime of Passion"

[@sonjabernard8994]

That reporter has such compassion for family. Bless him need more like him.

[@Brit943]

Darius, your mother is extremely proud of you and she is protecting you and guiding you, she is with you always.

[@youtube.silenced.m]

That's right, 🙏🌼🌻

[@deelawson34]

❣️

[@youtube.silenced.m]

@@Imanmohamed750 stop being a narcissist looking for attention

[@Imanmohamed750]

Ok no, she’s not always there , stop living in fairy tales folks! She’s not protecting, him, if he’s being protected then it’s GOD

[@youtube.silenced.m]

@@Imanmohamed750 So what! Who the hell are you to tell anyone how they should feel or what they should believe in? You're pathetic. You have a sad life and want to drag others down with you, like an anchor.

[@lauralafauve5520]

It's hard to see from the inside. You sometimes don't realize until you finally escape. Thank you, thank you for covering these stories.

[@tinawindham6958]

That’s what abusers do to you, they keep you on high alert, stressed out, second guessing, it’s like they hate the stability u have with your own family. ❤️

[@CreativeOne-ll8et]

I’m one that has escaped but still deal with Fear thoughts and every time I do I pray to God. He gives me strength and I thank God everyday for loving me.

[@chitocookiechihuahuaville4690]

@@tinawindham6958 l

[@LiveByDesign]

Yep bec it happens gradually

[@juneburns1565]

How very true

[@Potterhead50]

Her daughter had to listen to her being murdered. I can not even being to imagine what she is going through. Hearing your mom being killed, even call out to you for help but you’re so terrified.

[@susannlevy6625]

But i can not understand why she doesnt call Police...

[@melissamack333]

@@susannlevy6625 maybe her phone was dead? Maybe he didn't know she was there & she had to stay quiet as to not alert him? Maybe she was just so petrified that all the logic escaped her brain?? It's easy to make judgments when you're not in that situation. Let's just be grateful that she's alive & keep our opinions to ourselves, yeah?😀

[@susannlevy6625]

@@melissamack333 my answer wasnt judgemental,i was asking me why....would be nice they would explain the reason.

[@melissamack333]

@@susannlevy6625 All I'm saying is I can't imagine having a video on KZbin of what's probably the worst experience of your life, and then seeing people questioning why you did or didn't do something different. It's also not really anyone else's business.

[@susannlevy6625]

@@melissamack333 thats right its terrible for the involved people.

[@raquelvasquez2080]

What a loving, well spoken, insightful young man, I can tell that his mom was a wonderful woman just by how he is mannered. My hope is that he and his sibling(s) lead a full happy life knowing that they have an angel very close to them.

[@ajl2232]

Your manners are not an indicator of your parents or upbringing. So many I'll mannered people come from good families and we'll mannered people from bad families.

[@raquelvasquez2080]

@@ajl2232 Manners are definitely an indicator of a good upbringing, it's not the only indicator of good parent or bad parent, but it is definitely one indicator and in this case his mannerism reflects the type of mother he must of had by how he speaks of her.

[@Tortilla.Reform]

The amount of police officers who commit domestic abuse and get away with it is staggering. When your friends and coworkers investigate you the cards are stacked in the abusers favor

[@tabbypanda82]

Sucks you only got 2 likes, I thought it would’ve been so many more🥺

[@tabbypanda82]

@Estelle well there are 67 likes now🙋🏾‍♀️

[@tabbypanda82]

@Jon Dough thank you for your service 🙋🏾‍♀️

[@justcypher8808]

@Estelle wow you’re just one bright cookie aren’t you

[@tracymarquez6875]

Abusers choose jobs that give them power such as policemen, managers, government high positions. To a malignant narcissist power over someone/others is what he craves/wants the most. So marriage/a relationship gives him that power as head of the household which he uses to abuse/violently control the one closest to him: his wife/girlfriend, but children are often victimized or shunned by the psychotic controller to punish the wife more severely

[@ivoted-5489]

Ladies and gentlemen, never let another person try to separate you from your own children. It’s the biggest red flag abusers wave.

[@Dollgrl1]

This is so heartbreaking to hear this young man 💔 .. my ex-husband of 12 yrs had beaten me down so bad physically but also mentally that I felt like the lowest person on Earth . I was the one working ,supporting my Sons and him too from a very young age . My oldest boy still felt sorry for his Father begging me to give him another chance . The last day he almost killed me in front of them , he was strangling me over a second story railing ready to drop me as police arrived . That was it for me , I chose life over a man who claimed to love us but it was never love it was control .

[@juliaweber212]

Wow I'm glad you survived

[@michelleshaw1211]

I am so glad you got out. You are brave and strong and ALIVE. Live a JOYFUL life. You are LOVED ❤️ A Colorado Mountain Grandma, USA

[@joannagreene8083]

I am happy you left... Sending healing and positivity

[@Maureen-MO]

Your kids need a lot a lot of attention and therapy. As a kid growing up in a house such as you described, those scars go deep and never heal even when you leave that environment. Their developmental progression is so staggered and they need security and comfort. So you need not only just leave, but heals the wounds that have been created so they can have a stable life.

[@ajl2232]

I am sorry for what you have to go through. There were similar things that happened in my family when growing up. I'm glad you have left. I honestly don't care about being politically correct and think meen for the most part are trwash.

[@TheLoveweaver]

Oh, wow! This reporter is amazing. These stories need to be told. I'm sorry he never got to experience his mother's love. He is a beckon for another families experiencing this by shining a light on Domestic Abuse.

[@eugeniapittman7413]

the reporter interview showed his passion for journalism in both a professional and empathetic manner...i agree...he is absolutely amazing!!!:)

[@VioletJoy]

@@eugeniapittman7413 I didn't even notice the reporter, which goes to show that he kept the spotlight on his guest, unlike many other interviewers I've seen. Edit: I realized later that I hadn't yet seen the last couple of minutes of the video before leaving my comment. I really wish we had more reports like him. 🤍

[@MsWhite-kp3ur]

💯🙌🏽💕💯🙌🏽💕💯🙌🏽💕

[@primate4]

That reporter is a good man.

[@heathermetz3974]

Absolutely!

[@loyceholland6201]

The suffering the survivors feel from violence never goes away. It is heartbreaking how willing some are to change the entire course of so many lives.

[@americasamericas5782]

and that it does.

[@KT-pw1cq]

The emotional abusers get away with it smh

[@devgovea]

I left an abusive controlling relationship to prevent my son from witnessing the pain and depression I went through daily. Never being able to achieve my own full potential. I’m so free, grateful and I’m proud to say I have a happy young child 5 years later who doesn’t even remember living in abuse. He’s right, so many people love you & care for you and your well being. Your mother is proud of you for sharing her story and may you guys know her death wasn’t in vain. She’s raised such a beautiful well spoken son.

[@ajl2232]

I'm proud of you. I wish some mother's would do that instead of sticking ina relationship and using the kids as pawns. It could prevent a lot of anger and resentment later on on life. You did a good job. Now your child will grow up without all the negativity around him.

[@isisg666]

Same here. Even though she asks for her dad because she was too little to remember. It was much better to leave than to go through all that Bull crap and haveher think it's normal.

[@devgovea]

It’s not easy, it’s harder then it looks, a lot of fear is placed in victims to the point where I thought if I left I would be probably die. I basically allowed myself to go so broke that I said I could no longer pay for rent and had to move in with family. I was the main source of income so he had no other choice then to let me leave because he couldn’t afford it either. I’m flourishing now. A year away from finishing my bachelors degree, financially independent and my son just entered the gifted and talented program. I wish this was the ending for everyone but I’ve been there and it really is hard to figure out a safe way to leave.

[@echarriknits]

He is incredibly mature, aware, articulate and very, very brave. God, bless this young man and his entire family with abundant resources at your perfect timing, to help rebuild their shattered world.

[@VioletJoy]

It would have been great if God had protected them in the first place. This is a horrifying nightmare that will never end.

[@Bambotb]

I love him

[@kalalooney5964]

Poor kids..this is so heartbreaking. I hope he breaks the cycle..

[@fern7306]

The kids seem pretty self-absorbed… TBH

[@d.froggiez369]

@@fern7306 very normal for kids to be selfish. Thought that was common knowledge 🤷‍♀️ Thankfully most grow out of it (if taught right).

[@SinisterScoundrel6562]

@@d.froggiez369 Some don't grow out of that especially after a traumatic event.

[@d.froggiez369]

@@SinisterScoundrel6562 you're absolutely correct. Cluster B toxicity usually occurs in those cases, which can be highly dangerous. Everyone should remember that therapy is key for anyone who's experienced trauma. From what I've learned over the years children who're abused or experience traumatic events do 1 of 2 things in adulthood, they become a narcissist (or cluster B personality that are abusive themselves) or they become an Empath. One far end of the spectrum or the other. It's odd, but what I've seen over & over & over I'm on the Empath HSP end 🤷‍♀️

[@mallorygraf8574]

Well, the son wasn't connected to the murderer. It was his step father whom he barely knew that did the abuse so he wasn't in the "cycle" to begin with.

[@hightopv1352]

My heart goes out to him. I pray each of those children heal and transform the heartache of such a major loss into something positive. I can't imagine the pain. I grew up in a household where I saw violence. Please do not subject yourself and your children to this type of environment. It's extremely dangerous and damaging. Please get out, and find help. Move in silence if you can. Such a brave young man. May he save others through his story, and inspire those in horrible situations to recognize the signs of abuse.

[@shawnalLovesJesus]

♥♥♥ My heart and prayer goes to the Father for those kids as well. April 9, 2021, before going to bed, my vision went black for a quick moment, and then I saw in gold letters: Thus saith the Lord. About four hours later, April 10, during my sleep I heard: Prophet. Tell them I am coming soon. Maybe 3-5 min after that, at 12:35 AM, our area had a small earthquake registering 3.1.

[@fern7306]

The teen girl was a coward. Heard her mother called her name for help while the guy stabbed her over 100 times… The teen girl heard the whole conversation and coward in the basement. Only after a LONG while did she run to the neighbors for help. These kids aren’t brave. They seem very self-absorbed

[@hillaryoi8946]

@@fern7306 Obviously domestic violence victims are psychologically attached to their abusers so they shouldn't be blamed for the harm they experience. But once you realise that individual is dangerous by continuing to allow them into your home and their lives you are actively facilitating their trauma. It's not a child's job to protect their parent. The daughter was probably so broken and shocked that she couldn't even react well.if anything it's a blessing that she survived because it could have easily turned into a familicide situation.

[@fern7306]

@@hillaryoi8946 It’s not a persons job to protect their parent when they’re being attacked❓….Glad you’re not my kid… at least get help SOONER …..15, 16, 17, 18… Is not a child BTW in a situation like that

[@KarlaLoves1D]

@@fern7306 He was probably going to kill the daughter too if she did anything. He's a full grown man and she's a teenage girl, who do you think is gonna win? The mother was stabbed over 100 times, and there's nothing that the daughter could've done unfortunately.

[@lisabowers2197]

Very heroic young men to be able to share such painful experiences. Many are left behind, when these types of tragedies occur.

[@martikagarcia6948]

EXACTLY TO MUCH OF THIS PEOPLE ARE CRAZY YOU NEVER KNOW WHAT SOMEONE IS CAPABLE OF

[@princessbuttercup8954]

I just want to hug the son and the reporter. This world can be so evil sometimes.

[@selenasanchez4244]

This young man has so much courage for sharing their story. I hope he knows that his mom is and always will be with them. Love transcends time and space.

[@tracymarquez6875]

Exactly, few women can leave safely when dealing with an obsessed violent controller who breaks/hides her phones, money, belongings, and alienates her family/friends then threatens to do horrific damage like breaking her ribs, legs , beating her to a pulp or ending her life if she disobeys/defies him. Plenty of women are mentally/emotionally paralyzed after long ongoing abuse and develop crippling Stockholm Syndrome, which makes a woman only focus on surviving moment to moment/day by day. Sadly too many end up dead when finally getting the courage to leave because it becomes a life or death situation

[@vegasgirl7O2]

These poor children. God guide comfort and keep them.

[@VioletJoy]

Sorry, but he's done a lousy job so far. They're going to need people to help - therapy, support, etc.

[@dfinite1111]

And sad for Darius!

[@dfinite1111]

@@VioletJoy who has done “a lousy job”?

[@VioletJoy]

@@dfinite1111 "God"

[@Romina2711]

@@VioletJoy Humans have free will

[@janetrogers4738]

Thanks to the reporter for making a difference!! I also escaped an abusive home. We all got out but the scars are still there often verbal abuse and degradation go along with physical abuse. Possession and obsession are NOT love. If you see signs such as the man or woman in your life isolates you from others, is jealous etc. Run in the opposite direction. You can't change people.

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

Only 20% of men who call themselves Christian ever stop abusing!

[@barbarawilsonpadgett6400]

I escaped my abusive first husband with the clothes on my back, a diaper bag and my son. That was 38 years ago and the ex is dead. He was a horrible person

[@janetrogers4738]

@@barbarawilsonpadgett6400 I'm so glad your safe and free!! I'm just sorry you and your children had to go through this.

[@valeriehancotte-galan4790]

Amen, me too!

[@Swnsasy]

As a mother, please trust me, she's so very proud of all of you and is with you everyday even though you can't see her.. She's there... Liars ALWAYS try and explain they were defending themselves.. He's a murderer period! Then if course, like the pathetic coward that he is, he takes his own life..

[@SinisterScoundrel6562]

That's ok, he's now Satan's bitch!

[@elizabethecarlisle1045]

My heart breaks for these kids, for this family. What an exquisitely thoughtful interview. Thank you

[@bbloodyangel1]

This young black man, the reporter, is so empathetic and patient, he's done a great job. I hope he has a successful career ahead of him. ♥

[@ichloefetti]

What a great interviewer/broadcaster. Great commanding presence and he’s so great to watch because of his constant smile and mindful tone of voice.

[@shylincoleporter8347]

Ladies we have to make better Decisions when it comes to dating.....love doesn't hurts, separate you from your children,your family or friends.. We can't be so thirsty for love that we accept anything.... I've been guilty for chosing the wrong mate myself... Self love is the beginning to making better choices..Learn from this Story!!! My heart goes out to Her Children.

[@dialac1]

💯 I agree with you. Sometimes it’s better to be single for a while rather than jumping from one situation right into another.

[@alisha4635]

Sometimes you don't know until it too late and it's hard to leave an abusive relationship

[@neophantomyt1435]

Very true, and well said.

[@princessbuttercup8954]

A lot of the time the abuse doesn't start until they have them in a place where they're unable to leave so please quit making it seem like women are making the decision to be with these fucking abusers! My stepdad stalked my mom and the police wouldn't do shit about it. She left, changed her number, changed her job, changed everything about her. He still found her. How about we demand that domestic violence be treated as the terrible crime it is instead of giving these douchebags a slap on the hand and releasing them back out into the public. There is a serious problem in this world where women are shamed because they are stuck in an abusive relationship in which they have no way out. Most women in this position don't have money to go anywhere and they've been cut off from all their family and friends. I know this isn't true for every person in a busy relationship but it holds true for the majority of them and it's a lot easier to tell somebody to do something when you're not in that position. No one stays with an abuser because they like being slapped around, they stay because they have no choice. Our governments should do more to protect them and to help them start over.

[@kendrabennett2843]

It's sad, but yes. People have to have self love. Not be seeking it externally. These days it can and does get people killed.

[@ibjayb9785]

I love this reporter! Never seen this vulnerable side of any reporter..... We need more of it! God bless him for his delivery

[@nobullshytnx2264]

Pray for their healing. Always remember the good things. Still share with her, she hears you and will always be with you. My great-grandma died years before I ever thought of a child. I was bout 7/8 months pregnant. Mom and boyfriend stressed me out. It was cold and I sat on her graves and talked to her and prayed. Everything I said and prayed about was heard because it shines through my daughter who us now 17. Many Blessings to all three of you. 💜❤ And Blessings to the young man covering these stories. 💜❤

[@michelemcguire8995]

When a person dies, their soul returns to God,we don't get to hang around down here, but we can still talk to our loved ones through prayer, prayer is simply talking

[@kelsey394]

Please don’t stop doing this series. This is so important to hear and thank you for giving them the opportunity to share their stories.

[@blr759]

Thank you to both the young reporter and the brave son telling this story. I'm 72, from a different state, and just now after hearing this story am finally able to use the correct words to describe how my own mother died over 53 years ago: "my mother died of terrible, gruesome abuse". Most think she died of cancer; no, she died of abuse that used cancer to get rid of her; abuse that had gone on for long years before she got cancer. If she had been allowed to get medical help before large parts of her body was totally, horribly eaten away and the cancer spread throughout her body, she might have lived for many more productive and wonderful more years. She was the most beautiful, brave, loving, intelligent, and wonderful woman I've ever known. When it was too late, she was finally able to "trick my father" into letting her use the car for a "shopping trip" where instead she saw a wonderful and brave doctor that personally stood up and fought against my father and gave her all the help possible to allow her to live a little longer. Very few knew the real story; most of the community celebrated my father as "one of their best" and never knew how much cruelty he imposed on some of his family. Thank you for telling these stories.

[@redacted9506]

Denial of medical care for PAINFUL CANCER(!?) as a method of murder is so so cruel… I’m disgusted by this story. Your poor poor mother, she had so much courage to go to the hospital that day. Regardless of her death, that must have been a liberating day for her. Nobody could deny she needed help when the hospital saw the condition she was in…God bless that doctor who defended her. That man is most certainly in hell, if there is one. Im disturbed people like this walk the earth. I’m sorry your community never knew the real man he was. I wish someone had… ya know, did something to him to teach him a lesson. It scares me to imagine how many secret abusers exist around me… it’s one of the reasons my vice is nosiness.

[@ajl2232]

I am sorry. Maybe it's time to tell your story to the community that celebrated your father. Maybe post a video,a voice narration or even an article. I think it's important for the truth to be told so your mother can truly rest in peace.

[@mandyellis876]

@@ajl2232 whilst yours is a just idea, most people don’t care to change their minds about someone unless they are personally affected by them. It means that they’ll have to leave their comfort zone and in the long run, this might end up being more painful for the individual exposing injustices and abuse, as people show their disbelief…specially as the kid who actually lived it is in effect being labelled a liar.

[@ajl2232]

@@mandyellis876 I understand. I have also been labelled as suspicious by people that I have stopped talking or explaining myself.

[@maguidacadenas7340]

I was in a abusive marriage for many years. I agreed with this son. Get out a soon as you can before you die. Lord have a mercy upon all of us 🙏🏼❤😇🙌🕊

[@JessicaRamosMaskiell]

What a wonderful News reporter. He seemed so genuine and concern. Sorry to the young man who lost his beautiful mom. Best wishes to all who experienced tragic lost, my heart goes out to you.🙏

[@minimochi2206]

I know what he means about not talking to his mom.. I wasn't really on speaking terms but living in the same house with my mom.. She commited suicide one night while we were all sleeping. She did send me a text before hand though saying she loved me more than anything. This happened almost 10yrs ago and I still think about it almost daily.

[@maribelmaldonado252]

My cousin got killed domestic violence. I too was a victim and my daughter but we lived such a brave man I will be praying for him I moved to a different borough he does not no we’re I am at

[@renalandrum8208]

My nieces are still going through PTSD from domestic violence

[@JenWIL641]

I hope that they are receiving professional help and are doing better.

[@michelleshaw1211]

I am 65 yrs. old and happily divorced and far away from my abuser for 36 years. It will always be a part of me. I was lucky,. I ESCAPED and RAN. I and my two son's are alive. I could never marry again. Even with counseling, which really helped,. I just couldn't take the chance. Abusers DONT change. If you are being abused, get out as fast as you can. There is help now and there is always hope even when you don't think so. Reach out for help, you will be glad you did. Peace!!! A Colorado Mountain Grandma,. USA ( I rarely ever tell my story. I just felt the need to. I hope it helps someone.) ❤️

[@MsStephanieJane31]

I’m so sorry!💔💔💔💔💔😥😥😥😰

[@MsStephanieJane31]

So Sad!😥😥😥😥💔💔💔🥀

[@tracymarquez6875]

Good for you that you safely left. Leaving at the first sign of abuse is better but harder to do when bringing his children into the world, as most abusers increase the abuse gradually until the woman is brainwashed with Stockholm syndrome. He’ll pack on the PDA/charm/gifts just to keep a woman controlled while she’s blinded by his extra charming ways and hoping he’ll never repeat the abuse, but he does over and over again as a pattern of love/abuse on and on until it escalates to death threats or even murder

[@itsmomo777]

From a moms perspective, I just hope that young man knows that his mom loved him fully and unconditionally. Yes that man changed a lot of her normal habits, but it was him, not her. Your moms last thoughts were very likely "I love you kids" .

[@prettyladie8327]

The reporter did such an amazing job displaying empathy & compassion while allowing the Son a safe place to communicate his feelings ❤️💔❤️

[@TheIvymouse]

Can't always leave. The control is real. Sometimes it takes years of being away from it to see how wrong it is.

[@nayamacam1222]

This is so true.

[@kimberly007]

Omg so true, I think it's so shocking when it happens that you don't know what to do initially or even the degree of danger you are in

[@cdupont491]

I feel hope that these stories are being shared more. This happens far too often. These two young men would certainly make any mother proud and they are helping other families by sharing their stories. Thank you

[@Burnerbaby]

I appreciate this being a segment. This could literally save lives. I’ve been in this lady’s shoes but I was fortunate enough to realize that if I didn’t get out as quickly and quietly as possible, I wouldn’t make it out alive. If I hadn’t been thinking about my daughter, I might not have ever left. If you’re watching this and you’re in this type of situation, make an escape plan NOW. You can’t change these people or love these monsters back into being human. Your life, or even the lives of your children, depend on you leaving. It’s scary and overwhelming but it could save your life.

[@stefaniecordier2833]

My PRAYERS ARE WITH THESE KIDS IN THEIR TIME OF NEED! BLESS THIS MANS HEART FOR BRINGING THESE STORIES TO OUR ATTENTION WE ALL NEED TO BE MORE AWARE ABOUT THESE CRIMES.

[@KoiAi_]

This young man was courageous. I'm so deeply sorry for all of them. 💔

[@julianyc422]

Poor sweet young man, my goodness what he's going through.

[@amberedwards891]

Thank you for sharing. 4 years ago I was in this position. I was able to get out . I am truly sorry for what you and your family are going through . Prayers and hugs are with all of you.

[@justjulia8007]

I have to admit at first I was confused by his smiling, but after hearing he too lost his mom, I think it was more of a nervous and emotional reaction.. thanks for giving these families the platform to tell their stories 😢

[@VioletJoy]

That goes to show that body language is different for each person. He handled this interview beautifully. I'm so impressed.

[@georgiaamanatides4207]

Love the news reporter who interviewed the young man. Great questions, great demeanor.

[@goose7574]

As a Survivor is DV this breaks my heart. I'm so glad I was able to get out safely with my daughter and feel so strongly that we need to create more programs and help for victims who need help. I was very lucky to have a great support system of family and friends to help me, but can't imagine how things would've been if I hadn't have that. I still have a DVPO (Domestic violence protection order) after 7 years later (Dec 10, 2014 was when I got out), but ended up getting my Concealed Carry as well, because I'm not going to rely on just a piece of paper to protect me. PLEEEEEASE if you are in a "bad situation," even if it's not physical yet, get out! You deserve better! ❤

[@babzcandlenook26]

Big thank you to the reporter for being vulnerable and willing to share. You're doing a service to these young people.

[@Karenforcompassion]

Our neighbors were having a domestic dispute the other night and she was screaming like in a horror movie so I decided to call the cops. It literally took them 2 hours to come and then they came to my house first to ask us about it never even checking the woman next door that could have been dead. Cops are a joke in these situations

[@loz911]

WHAT A REMARKABLE YOUNG MAN YOU ARE DARIUS. THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR STORY & HELPING OTHERS TO SHARE THEIRS. ❤

[@jenniferalexander5423]

This is extremely impactful. Happened upon this story. My three boys almost had to live their life without me bc of dv. This son is brave. Bring dv out from behind the closed doors. Your voice will be heard...and one families pain will be lessened.

[@tonyas1011]

This makes me so sad! What a compassionate young man!! So sorry for his loss! His mom loved him with all her heart!! 💗

[@annwe6]

My controlling father beat my other to a pulp and threatened to kill her many times. He also threatened to kill her parents, making her too terrified to leave. One day, after a particularly brutal beating, she ran off with a small child in each arm and the clothes on her back. He hunted her down and nearly killed a man as he violently abducted my 4 year old brother. Many women can't just up and leave these relationships. The perpetrators are often charming to begin with and the abuse slowly creeps up. Too often, victims don't realize how deep in they are until it's too late. My sincere condolences to the brave boy who lost his mom, and my deep thanks to the young reporter who's bringing these stories to light. Domestic violence is as old as the human race and it's gone on for far too long. We need to educate ALL children in how to love and respect one another, and how to recognize the red flags before it's gone too far.

[@arcticcat7142]

As a Mom who was in that shitiation, I see so much more clearly, now how incredibly wand most fortunate we are to be O-U-T and ALIVE, regardless of our struggles on the outside! Your Mom knows that you weren’t the problem, young man not your siblings. She’s incredibly proud of you.

[@annarasmus8737]

Darius. You've made the right choice here to talk about this. So important. To warn others of the signs. To save others. Your mom is proud. 💕

[@judygantz1005]

I didn't catch the name of the news reporter but I have to say my heart goes out to him. I noticed he's a young new to the career. And I am so impressed by his work performance, And then in the end I realized. My condolences to him. And to say your doing awesome and I look forward to following you and the stories you report on!! God bless you sir.🙏♥️😊

[@amberthomson4813]

What a strong young man! What sorrow! What grief! I'm so glad he is advocating for others aside from his sadness. What an amazing kid!

[@issacguerro9329]

She did try to leave... his abusive step father... took her life.. please if you need help leaving a bad relationship call people or do it in public

[@wownewstome6123]

You leave in a way that won't make the manipulator/abuser fear their reputation or livelihood will be threatened. You also don't announce you are leaving. If need be, you try to get placed in a safe house/secret temp shelter.

[@JenWIL641]

@@wownewstome6123 she probably didn't believe that he would become that violent. A lot of women misjudge how threatening change is for abusive men.

[@tracymarquez6875]

Often relatives/friends fear the psycho abusers and don’t want to get involved or he could hurt/kill them also. So they just ignore the battered women who often stay because they have no one to turn to except domestic violence shelters which are strict places with strict rules that a victim with ptsd/emotionally distraught feelings dislikes having to go to. Men have also killed their partners staying in shelters because they stalk/hunt viciously when she leaves him for good

[@elsie3724]

Her daughter heard everything?! These poor kids. I cannot even begin to imagine the pain and trauma they carry with them everyday. Absolutely devastating. The son giving the interview is doing such a incredible job of sharing with us how much he loved his mother and to warn and hopefully help even just one other person. (I do not mean to imply that the other children are wrong or anything for not also speaking out. They’re going through the impossible and speaking out about it, and putting their faces out there, etc I completely understand why they are not ready to speak with anyone on camera).

[@lauraf9600]

This is what actual journalism is, so much respect and empathy for the others and I’m so sorry for this tragedy.

[@danieltadesse969]

I'm sending you so much healing my friend

[@kpax2066]

My heart goes out to these children.

[@mindydeoliveira4307]

I'm so sorry young man, praying for you and your siblings

[@Just_JennAy]

He seems like an awesome guy. His mom loved him and she knew he loved her. Lots of love to him and his brother and sister from Little Rock, Arkansas. Thank you for sharing this story. 💔🙏😓

[@Theepiphanyroom]

My heart breaks for all involved, including the reporter. He did an amazing job highlighting their stories. And the son being interviewed was so very brave. ❤

[@bobbiejean3346]

I'm sorry for your loss. My kids and I lived in abuse for 14 years I grew up in it. Thank God each one of my boys have strong wives who have already broke the cycle. All happily married with children. When I go to their homes, what I witness are normal lives. Lives I never gave them. Fine strong young man. You will do well prayers and blessings to you always. Blessings to your sister. This is horrible. I don't understand why these murderous people don't realize you're leaving your children or somebody's children without a parent. I hope he has a family that is very strong and supporting. I would love to work and assist people who have issues like this since I had been through so much myself just to let them know they're not alone. Sometimes people need to talk and as my friends know, I always have an open ear. Good luck!

[@Ad-Lo]

My thoughts and prayers are with the reporter as well. 27 years later. God bless him.

[@kirstenbarbero1099]

This breaks my heart. Your mama loves you!! And you sharing her story could be saving lives! I'm so sorry for your loss

[@michelleshaw1211]

I am so, so sorry you have this in your life. As a victim of extremely violent abuse with two son's, I know a lot of what you have gone through. I was one of the rare lucky ones. I escaped with my son's and ran far away. We survived. I am so saddened at the theft of your Mother's life. She sure raised a beautiful, strong, intelligent, sensitive, ultra brave son. I am so proud of you for telling your family's nightmare. I believe the more we speak out, the more people are awakened to this rampant evil. You did a great job. You are right. LEAVE. Figure the rest out later. JUST LEAVE AND RUN I'm so grateful you are alive. Your Mother would be so proud of you. Thank you. You are not alone. YOU are LOVED. 💕 A Colorado Mountain Grandma,. USA

[@Godisgood173]

I lived with someone like this, it’s terrifying. The fear paralyses you. Mentally and physically. I’m so sorry for the kids, losing their beautiful mum.

[@thebarnezcouplez9036]

As a mom I feel his pain & I hope & pray that one step at a time god will carry him & his rest of family through no one deserves to die in this manner rip to this beautiful soul 💐🙏🏽💔🙏🏽…

[@lc2296]

Very powerful.... thank you for sharing..

[@smallhouseinthemeadow6131]

I am so sad for these poor children.The interviewer was amazing.When he reminded the young man that his mother was changed because of her husband, it is so true.She loved her children but was under this monster's control. I am a survivor of domestic abuse and they control every aspect of you in bits and pieces before you are even aware what is happening.

[@marilynmainwaring9978]

I love the passion and COMpassion this reporter has ❤️ Praying for him as well as the loved ones in the story 🙏🤟

[@alexandraschuster9700]

Why ?? The daughter never tried to call 911???

[@elsands9774]

I question that myself

[@JimiBegbaaji]

@@elsands9774 probably why she declined to join the interview

[@GodsChosenMekAmoR]

Maybe she was petrified or in shock

[@jamiekelo]

The reporter is great! So caring and well spoken!

[@francesrose18]

God bless that family and the reporter. In tears praying here... As a woman who somehow saw the signs n got out, please... anyone watching this n reading here... get out (quietly and silently) if you xan. Don't tell your abuser... because "leaving" will trigger them.

[@Organize-pv7ys]

Right before I watch this video I talked to my brother. When we were 12 and 14 our mother was murdered. We were experiencing very similar things. We're in our thirties now and it's truly terrible the lasting effects. The effects on our whole family! We never ever recovered. I hope this young man does!

[@madelinestory4230]

Having been a survivor of severe domestic violence ( breaking nose, choking me with belt, trying to make me kill myself yelling at me for hours then handing me a gun) by a narcississt by my daughters biodad who recently once again began stalking us my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you.

[@claracarpenter8913]

I'm so sorry about what you have lived with. Please take all precautions to be safe. Take care, other people really love you. ♥️🕊️

[@icucingme]

When are women going to put their children first above some man? A man throws your kid out and you "work something out". Nope. You don't want my kid, you don't want me.

[@natalata1435]

💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@prettyxbonez96]

PERIODT

[@mekasims1981]

💯

[@brontesegard8305]

I'm confused why there was such a gap from when the daughter escaped to a neighbor and when the murderer called 911. They said it was 58 minutes. Did the daughter and neighbors not call the police?! I ask because I was tricked into an abusive relationship and I had no family in the country at the time but I lived in one of the "safest" neighborhoods in the city (Chicago) and I lived on a small quiet, private street, only 7 houses and mine was directly in the middle. The abuse came out of nowhere within 6 weeks but he had MANY friends and connections in the police force so getting help was VERY hard! But the 1st part that let me down were my neighbors that had known me for 13 years(I am no Karen, ever) before this and finally confessed they heard my screams for help and my furniture and walls being broken with my body. When I tried to call and get help the cops protected him and threatened/implied problems for me if I pressed charges or filed restraining orders. It took for a night that after 6 hours of screaming and beating me, always yelling he was going to kill me, he did. He suffocated me by putting it his hand over both my nose and mouth tightly. He had me pinned on the floor and I fought with all that I could. I pleaded with my eyes and scratched, pulled... I had imagined when you suffocated that you would get a terrible migraine from lack of oxygen but it is the blazing fire that goes through your lungs and throat. Toward the end I thought even if he stopped now I would not be able to be rececitated because I thought my lungs were ripped and shredded inside from the burning terres. As my sight started to fade I tried to plead with him again with my eyes but he saw it and pressed harder as he hid his face on my shoulder. I woke up to my tenant giving me CPR. Once I was dead he packed a bag and stormed out of my house screaming "fuck you Felicia" it was my silence that made my tenants and neighbors finally decided to check on me and found me unresponsive and blue on my living room floor. They did finally also call the police who still tried to scramble to make the scene less then it was AND he came strolling back into my house as they were putting me in the ambulance. He tried to act surprised and as if it wasn't him. My tenants and neighbors gave weeks of statements that night but he was not arrested, just told not to stay in or come by the house until this was worked out. A Sgt. and other buddies came to the hospital trying to be my friend and offer to make him get counseling, etc. The nurses got their own security and police connections and kept them away whilst I was in the hospital. My male family from England came and made a settlement with him because it was easier and cheaper then fighting him and the police in Chicago. He was never arrested or charged though we tried. What probably saved me in the end was selling my house in Chicago, making a financial settlement with him to stay away and I would not fight further and moving back home to England never to return. Every bad thing that happens to everyone involved except those that helped, is richly deserved and I am hopeful everytime they hear a scream they are reminded of hearing me beaten and murdered for 6 hours and finding my lifeless body on the ground. For reference we were all white and upper middle class, white men have incredible privilege. I already knew that and NO I never thought it was ok and I always tried to use my privilege to protect those not as fortunate. There is just as much crime in white communities if not more it just doesn't get reported or prevented because white men govern almost every position of power in the western world and they have to keep that power and privilege protected at the cost of white women and children and even family pets. The police are all rapists, murders, abusers, pedophiles, thieves, drug addicts and dealers and whatever else you can think of. The FEW good cops are still complicit because they see and know what goes on and look the other way.

[@ajl2232]

I am so sorry. I just cried reading your story. Meen in general scare the hell out of me. I always pray to God that I wouldn't have a reason to love with one. They are wild and untamed animals. In ancient times they would murder and bury women that didn't satisfy them. They are biologically wired to abuse women. This part of them has been suppressed. I am sorry again and I'm glad you are gone. You should one day write a book and tell your story. Your ex husband the police should not just get away with it.

[@brontesegard8305]

@@ajl2232 Thank you! Just be careful and look out for yourself whilst doing your best to not let the fear of them prevent you from living a full life. If they take that from you then they win without even trying. God bless you with love, health, peace, safety and prosperity!

[@millenialsmom2214]

She was walking out with a packed bag she didn't stop to stab him on the way out the door. Stabbing someone 120+ times isn't self defense 🙄

[@tracymarquez6875]

The police knew that. They quickly hand cuffed him after they saw the woman’s bloody mutilated body repeatedly stabbed over 100 times which is murder in a fit of blind rage, not self defense as the suspect wrongly claimed.

[@berrypatch4yrsold249]

No woman should ever allow a man to be in control of her or the household. Any woman who allows a boyfriend or a husband to harm their child is a horrible, disgusting person. Either have and be a respectful 50/50 partner, or choose to be alone! Life with a controlling, manipulative man is actually hell.

[@mosweetseats1404]

I feel his pain and anguish, my dad murdered my mom and then committed suicide when I was 18. Everyday seems like the first day, but I know my mom would want me to continue to live a good life knowing she’s at rest with God! My prayers are with him and his siblings!

[@anlewi1]

This young man is a great reporter his compassion you can just sense it. And the young man he interviewed I could not be that composed.

[@vrijmatipersaud1256]

Domestic Violence is depressing. l went through 30 years of gruesome torments and abuse. It's not easy living with a NARCISSISTS

[@selkoa8384]

I am escape a narcissit . Very damaging to the soul

[@NC-wf4ki]

This is so heart breaking may she RIP. I pray for healing for her babies. The are ALWAYS signs that your dealing with an abuser. Pay attention for yourself and family. Run and don’t stop running.

[@katherinez9654]

I am one that got out in time. I had 2 boys from their abusive father. I spent 9 years in the marriage and I worked for 6 months to put everything in place for our escape. It’s been 35 years and I’m remarried to an amazing man. He adopted my boys and our life is amazing. Today I would have been married to that horrible man for 40 years. Please protect yourself and your children and make your life better. Get the help you need and make a call.

[@mandyellis876]

Congratulations on your courage for getting out and on finding a much better life for yourself. I’m sure your kids appreciate everything you’ve done for them.

[@roseguzmanchin]

Great reporting and reporter.

[@LemonDaisy4839]

That was such an important story. My complements to this young man for giving an incredible interview

[@sst6358]

Sending you prayers and love and your brother and sister💛💛💛 I have been in a abusive relationship, got out when l was pregnant thank god l saved my Son and my Daughters and myself. Thank you so much for this amazing support 🙏💛

[@back2seattle]

What an important piece of reporting! And what a brave young man.

[@vreese3350]

This is so sad I had to watch my mom be abused all her adult life My mother won't leave my father or go against him. He controls ALL the resources blocks her care, blocks her kids access to her which is both their kids. His neglect nearly killed her. She left house nearly dead. He blamed her being in coma on her. Sad to be born into domestic violence & be raised in it. The children can't understand why you choose to stay. There are long term mental effects of domestic violence & the kids raised in it. many times never recover. Will tell anyone in a toxic relationship once the mental & verbal attacks escalate to physical violence. Be safe make a plan of escape. NEVER give up working or your independence. If the hit you once it quickly escalate. Listen to love ones pay attention to warning signs there's ALWAYS warning signs

[@Toriaelizabeth]

When he said he couldn’t tell the signs of abuse goes to show that he was around such chaos all the time, it wasn’t anything abnormal. I hope he and his sisters heart heals..

[@louisaisthankful6455]

Comfort and peace to the reporter as well who lost his mom when he was a baby.

[@CulturalBackgroundsStudyBible]

So incredibly sad. Shalom to the children and extended loved ones and friends.🙏🏿🕊

[@user-eh8gt2xm7d]

This reporter is amazing. First time seing him all the way from NY but I really like him and I can see him going far in life. His way of telling a story is like noone else I've ever seen before. Amazing. And that young man is very brave for sharing his mom's story and creating awareness!!! Great interview!