three years without alcohol: a very honest q&a

[@justsmilelaet]

2 years and 9 months sober over here ! your answers resonate a lot with my personal experience, thanks for sharing

[@Torsee]

Good for you!

[@festergroove]

Lucy, I'm going sober in the new year after several years of heavy drinking. I needed to see this video tonight. Thank you.

[@Torsee]

All the best! Just decide

[@mollscadman]

You've got this

[@shegoisgay]

Sending you love and courage stranger you got this!!!!

[@jennieguinevere]

7 years sober here and I don’t do a lot of going “out out” anymore because it’s not really my vibe, but I have come up with a great thing to do to stop the sober anxiety/boredom, especially when there’s too much music and noise so you can’t really have chats with people. It’s called “how incorrectly can you dance to this song” and it is HILARIOUS both for the sober and drunk folks 😂 it’s a great one to just be silly and lose a bit of self consciousness

[@JimenaBlack]

I’ve been sober for almost 4 years now and i felt so listened when you said that thing about passing by a drinking place and your brain telling you that you should drink because nobody would now, omg, i still feel that way sometimes, especially when i’m going through stressfull or depresing times. Also i’m autistic and i didn’t knew until last year so i was drinking even more because i was trying to mask and blend in. I do think addiction can be hereditary, my upbringing was a bit shitty and i’ve been depressed since i was like 10 years old and maybe this made me an alcoholic but some people in my family also have this problem and i think thats why it was so easy for me to bécame an addict. Anyway… congrats on this 3 years of sobriety ❤❤❤

[@daisyrye]

Thanks for sharing this, I’m not sober but have reduced my alcohol consumption dramatically over the years. I have had many bad experiences with alcohol, my only purpose for drinking would be to get drunk and wash away my anxiety. A few years ago at a work do, I drank way too much to the point that my now husband had to come and pick me up well before the end of the night. Not only that, but he had to pull over on the side of the motor way so I could throw up on my hands and knees, I was completely out of action for the next two days. As humiliating and painful as that experience was, I told myself I had to stop, I never wanted to hit that point again. Since then, I have been a one or two drinks for special occasions only kind of gal and I can tell you this as a shy and socially anxious person who has stopped relying on alcohol to seem fun and interesting…I am fun and interesting. It takes being vulnerable and pushing through it to realise that you are completely capable, and if you're not enjoying yourself, you're allowed to leave.

[@greensteve9307]

Well done! I'm 41 years old, and now at 24 years, 11 months, and 27 days without alcohol. (Yes, you did the maths right). It has been a challenge at times, with peer pressure and the desire to forget my sorrows, but I am healthier (and richer!) for it.

[@shegoisgay]

congrats green steve ❤️

[@humanonline9605]

As someone who has very low alcohol tolerance and feels ill after just a fraction of a drink, this is also helpful for me when sometimes I feel self conscious about not drinking. I find myself overcompensating sometimes to try to match people’s energy to assure the group I don’t feel left out. I’ve also accepted that I can’t meet everyone at their level or find all the humour interesting. I get and give what I can to the experience and that’s that. Thank you Lucy!

[@anaelle1590]

Thank you for this video Lucy!! I had to stop drinking as it made me cry my eyes out every time I had a few drinks. As the years pass I don’t really feel the need to drink anymore and I’ve understood that drinking was more of a crutch for me than an actual enjoyable experience. Not drinking is also giving me the much needed space to look inward and take the time to figure myself out

[@almartin7]

Thank you for sharing! Turning 30 next year and thankful to finally have 1 full year of sobriety under my belt this month. Hearing from someone like you who is young and still social despite the lack of booze is so encouraging for me to keep going! Keep sharing and happy 3🎉🎉🎉!

[@lucymoon]

Well done!!

[@emma_margaret]

1st of jan will be one year sober for me and never been happier, very grateful to you for inspiring me to take the plunge

[@lucymoon]

Huge well done!!

[@Torsee]

Well done!

[@Figs_and_Peaches]

I’ve been sober for 126 days and it’s only gotten easier as I’ve gone. Every social situation I’ve been anxious being sober at I’ve surprised myself at how absolutely fine it’s been. I get a little bit of fomo but having a bitter mocktail or non alcoholic beer helps with that.

[@caparies]

4 years sober here. I'm 30 and the one thing you realise as you age is how drastically perceptions change as soon as you turn 29. It's kind of fun to get smashed in your 20s, but at 29 when you're basically only thinking about 30 and so is everyone else (when are you getting married? when are you having kids? buying a home? getting a promotion? visiting your aging parents? how's your health? etc.), having a bad drinking habit is a massive liability and you're going to get left behind. An obvious example is your story about that work event where you got too drunk and they had to put you in the shower. Imagine that but in your 30s where the stakes are much higher, your peers generally have less time/energy, plus your support network is busy with their own responsibilities. For every one of those obvious examples, there's probably half a dozen less obvious ones where a bad drinking habit will hold you back.

[@user-et5qp4id9j]

i recently watched the outrun (reading now) and it struck the biggest chord with me. thank you for making this content and talking about sobriety in an approachable and comfortable way.

[@FrauSjoeblom]

Congratulations on three years of being sober ♥️

[@laurat981]

I was just rewatching all of your videos on this earlier this week, I have always found your insight so so inspirational and I am so grateful for you!! Thank you so much for sharing this.

[@lewiscpowell]

Great reflection Lucy. I know quite a few woman who are sober but I don’t know any men who are. This would be a great topic to explore in a video essay. I’m sure you know more sober men than me though through your networks. Happy Holidays!

[@grovesy333]

3 months sober almost and Christmas was hard without any alcohol 🥲

[@lucymoon]

Well done!! Christmas is hard but you’re doing it 💪

[@TheKateP]

January 1st I'll be 2 years sober. Quitting alcohol was the best decision I have made in my life!

[@lucymoon]

Well done 🫶✨

[@Madedanielle]

Watching this video made me realize I might have an issue? I just moved out of my parents house and have had alcohol almost every weekend. Something that at my parents house I'd do exclusive on special occasions

[@amberglow7612]

I was sober for 3 years and a half and started drinking again in December 2023 and throughout 2024 mostly because of peer pressure as my social life has been busier this year. I want to stop again for 2025.

[@Torsee]

Good luck

[@amberglow7612]

​@@Torseethank you 😊

[@Torsee]

@@amberglow7612 It won’t be easy, but like me, I just decided.

[@shegoisgay]

Good luck, you've got this!!!! And even if you drink again in the future, you can control it and you are in charge, and you can stop again. No such thing as failure with this journey x

[@joeyfundz]

Hey, I've been watching your alcohol journey for a while, i rewatch some of your vids every year or so when i question my drinking habits. I may have missed a video but, ehen you stopped being sober for 5yrs, did you think you no longer have a problem? Did you miss drinking and try to drink "responsibly?" Did you fall of the wagon and spend a long time trying to go sober again? Just trying to work out the timeline

[@mimidolins]

hey i’m in my first year of university and considering quitting. the part about being depressed vs are some parts of your life depressing really resonated. i think i might be struggling with ocd (particularly existential) which flares up particularly at the end of the night and the day after, and i’d originally tried handling it by cutting out alcohol but i think maybe i should be trying to tackle the root cause, so thanks for the nudge. i struggle with sober nights out particularly when everyone else is drunk and i’m sober and having deep conversations because it feels non consensual if that makes sense? like i feel like i can’t partake in this conversation because the power dynamic is skewed. and from the romantic perspective i feel like nothing would ever start if i was sober so i have to get drunk because of the pressure to find a partner at university, and i feel so behind everyone in that regard. i don’t know i’m still so torn between whether i should quit or not. i feel like if i do (like when i took a month off before the end of the semester) i have to have a valid reason, and i don’t want to have to explain that i start thinking about death too much when i drink, because that’s a depressing and heavy way to start every night out. i guess i could lie or say i just don’t fancy it but feel like it wouldn’t be sufficient. i know this time will pass and first year of university is probs the hardest time to quit drinking bc it’s so culturally ingrained, but it feels like it never will. it’s strange bc i keep repeating the cycle of drinking, ending the night by telling my flatmate i cannot prove that he exists, or i cannot prove that no one hates me or the existence of an afterlife etc etc, and then waking up the next day with this dread, this feeling like i’m forgetting something objectively unforgivable that i did the night before, that (again) everyone hates me, just ruminating over memories to the point of trying to reverse any of the haziness of the night before, and yet i still feel fomo. i repeat the whole ordeal again and again and i know it’s illogical and i know i don’t enjoy it, or if i do the experience is rare. i feel like i’m grieving this thing, this liquid happiness which seems to work for everyone but me. i feel like i’m holding onto this hope that one day i’ll get what everyone’s been on about this whole time, but maybe i never will and maybe its time to accept that

[@Mustbehel]

I can't drink anymore because my antidepressant can't be combined with alcohol. I do miss it. I guess it helps that my friendship style is much more one-on-one rather than group settings, so there's less pressure, but I have had experiences on dates where people have seemed kind of disappointed that I'm not drinking, which has been hard to navigate.

[@robbie6724]

I’m 24 and I decided to go completely sober during the month of december after a particularly alcohol heavy birthday event (the second time in my life I’ve blacked out). I’ve loved how I’ve felt this month so I’m considering sticking with sobriety but the fomo I know I’ll get at certain events is making me hesitant about that idea ,, especially since I’m still so young , I don’t know ,, I don’t regret most things I’ve done while inebriated and I have some really lovely memories that wouldn’t have happened without that layer of , social anxiety being taken away after a few ,, it’s all very confusing ,

[@imogenotley3236]

where are your necklace and rings from? they are gorg!

[@miffy1239]

are these the vicky glasses by jimmy fairly? i need these glasses xoxox

[@lucymoon]

They’re the Elvie! Xx

[@noraadt]

me watching this as a muslim who never had a drink but love me some lucy’s content 😂♥️

[@AGND711]

Where is your jumper from? It's so beautifullll

[@lucymoon]

It was made by a gal called loops by Lauren! I ordered from her online shop x

[@elisa9041]

2 years tomorrow! Always love these videos every year, feels like I'm not celebrating my sober anni alone. They do however remind me how time flies, wow 😭

[@lucymoon]

Congrats!! 🫶