Friendship lessons we learnt the HARD way as adults | Episode 151

[@malkiawaalego2552]

Lydia the maturity and empathy you’ve displayed in response to some very harsh criticism is chef’s kiss.

[@Pink_dots]

Lyd is quite mature..All through!

[@sherrymungai571]

I love what Lydia said about giving friendships grace. People are too quick to judge someone as a bad person and fast to leave friendships but they will give romantic relationships chances over and over again despite the intensity of the hurt but Not with friend. Sad 😔

[@Augenia]

Murugi is so kind ❤when she said she elevates Lydia's opinion bcos she feels she is so wise😊that was so genuine of her,Lydia is so self aware she is always willing to have the difficult conversations and Murugi being a people pleaser like me staki mwingine afeel vibaya

[@petitgal_wakuache]

❤❤❤❤

[@conniegithegi]

I lost 3 friends last year, secret haters friends, two were effed by my ex, Funny thing, its the best thing that has ever happened to me. They were energy suckers, I learned nothing from them; they never made me a better person; they looked down on me so much, jealous for nothing, competition for nothing. It was really exhausting and God removed and replaced. I now have good friends, and I have learnt alot from them. We are making money, and the moments we share are not draining. God will always replace with Better🥰🥰

[@essynimor8182]

The greece chat was so believable esp if you are from seeing Lydia's stories😂😂 , anyway happy birthday to AGGZ

[@faith.adeyaa]

Ikr

[@LonahShee-fp5qr]

😂😂😂 i know but me watching this after viewing her stories now i relate

[@ruthchep2356]

I always love these friendship topics from you guys. Taught me a lot. Thank you❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Karibu sana ❤️

[@andrewlemayian]

I just told my best friend that I am literally going through what you guys are mentioning with one of my other friends and the TIMING??? the timing is impeccable Jane and Sally!!

[@TiffahLabeeb]

That last point hit home... YOHH!!! Sometimes the friendship is nootttt about yoouuuu!! It's just about this other person... And I believe that's absolutely okay coz that's your friiieenndd, your sisteerrrr ♥️ Loved this episode!

[@pamelamuchira3925]

Super excited for this episode.. because friendships aren't easy attimes they need even more work than romantic relationships

[@cynthiawangui2115]

I love the way you guys have the difficult conversations .you guys are self aware.giving other people grace is my take home

[@edwins..kitchendiaries]

Murugi looks awesome. That's it

[@lira-jennyatanga1404]

I am happy you 2 brought up the comments from the other episode. I was legit worried not knowing how Lyd took it. Thank you for sharing this beautiful friendship with us and letting us in. We are family now. lol. We love you 2!

[@peacefulliving2906]

The abuse part is so relatable. I had this one friend who would get jealous of my looks and constantly try to put me down saying that I am much older than I really am. Also she was jealous of my cooking skills and would not allow me to cook while we were living together saying that I dont cook well. If I ever pointed it out, she would cry and defend herself saying that she always means well, its only her words that hurt

[@Fidey_Kokonya]

Friendship topics are less talked about.A relationship that needs so much effort just like a romantic relationship. Could be toxic as well😢,eeeii ..I love love love you guyz ❤for putting out this content and also I always admire your friendship Lyd and Jo❤

[@jacqkamush2103]

Omg you guys are looking stuning,I cannot get over your beauty ladies❤❤

[@therealteresia]

43:12 I'm jealous of Jo for experiencing a 'Lyd' 😅I always have to fight some people trying to explain that her brain is something else💫

[@HildahWambui-bm6ti]

..some friendships are seasonal... If you find yourself a solid genuine Friend out there kindly reciprocate ❤

[@Itscha254]

I enjoyed this topic a lot. I had always wondered why at different points in my life I had one best friend after another and when we go our separate ways they get other best friends . For example I had a primary school best friend, high-school best friend and college best friend but they all have new best friends. But I actually came to realise I was not putting in much effort in the friendships after we couldn't meet physically. And one of this years resolution I had was to be intentional with all my friends and to put efforts in them it doesn't matter whether they become my best friends or not . As long as I work on myself to see how much I contribute to the friendships. And I am honestly happy .

[@Asalix2]

I haven't watched you guys in a while and I have no clue about it (responses to a previous episode about Lydia dominating conversation) but minutes 49 - 5-ish warmed my therapist heart! The growth is beautiful to see....❤ I feel that the weight of your conversations differ depending on topic+passion about it, experience, expertise and yes, mood, state of mind, etc. Take the feedback, keep/discard accordingly, as you were. Looking forward to the next one!

[@THEWAWERUS]

Read somewhere that a friend is someone who is meant to witness your life and make it more relevant as you do the same.the book is called platonic

[@Spinkly]

I once had a friend that was sooo draining. She wanted to meet with me daily since we were neighbours at the time and when I missed one day she would say I was mean and didn't care about her. Oh and btw I couldn't meet her cause I was in the hospital... smh! She didn't even care to find out about my side of the story... or even care to visit. I realized it was one sided. Good riddance!

[@WanjiruMuya]

Intimacy with borrowing my money😢i lost a great friend through that

[@sellahchabe1248]

Friendship breakups are really bad.They hurt more than romantic breakups.I still mourn a friend who broke up with me in 2017.Alot of years have past but I am still hurt and I miss her Alot 😭😭.

[@lucyosenyi714]

I love how you guys have handled the feedback thing.....I share the same sentiments on extending grace to friends and people around us especially when expressing disatisfaction or sth like that ❤

[@MellanWairimu]

Some friends are like snakes in a green grass,they pretend they like u bt in real sense they hate u

[@faith.adeyaa]

Friendship breakups are definitely worse💔

[@beatricesloan7063]

Love the Conversation ladies, my friend advised me to move out of thika town since she didn't feel like my friends were genuine. After moving, it was clear that the friendship i had were based on my ability to offer money to them. Most of them didn't survive 😅😅😅 i have new friends 😅

[@dorkydixxy]

Thanks for addressing the slight issue on you guys dynamic with y'alls opinion and whatnot. Some comments may have been rude but it was a nagging issue and I'm glad you addressed it

[@carolinemaina4330]

Yess!! I appreciated it too! Manze i was like..unataka kusema watatulenga tu??!! Anyway..Love how introspective they are...the hate was definitely unnecessary

[@phoebewasike5397]

One of the topics that made me love Tmi . Am always learning whenever you talk about friendships.

[@cynthiamunyalo8121]

Inspiration acquired for the live recording event 😊... Wednesday is Beautiful coz of TMI ❤

[@mollyjael6739]

I had to go back to the previous episode to read the messages. Sorry Lyd, that was a lot. But I genuinely applaud the approach and actions taken to explore the feedback for purposes of continuous improvement and learning ❤

[@ambisoul254]

Personally I've been an inbetweener for 2.5 years now I think Lydia & Murugi have a good balance, no one overtakes the other and if they need to agree to disagree I've observed that many times and every time very respectfully. Keep being you Lydia, we love and respect your perspective

[@beloncekamz2821]

Wueh! Let me tell you Maina. Friendship series is a fave,really uplifted my sad mood☺️. Warembo luku🔥🔥😍. 43:00 Aki go easy on Lyd😔. 45:52 💯. It's Definitely TMI ❤

[@esthernarosto9271]

Am now addicted to TMI🎉❤

[@peacefulliving2906]

Thank you so much for these episodes on friendship ❤❤❤

[@juststarskyye]

This was to be my first TMI love experience.. but alas...started my week with my foot doing a 360...now I'm here with a cast in pain ...I have gone back to Lydia's Instagram to see how she navigated those days. Guys😢...I can't believe this happened to me...but trying to stay positive.

[@malkiawaalego2552]

Feel better!

[@Bellaparrott]

To all who have been through or are going through a friendship breakup I would highly recommend/suggest listening to “Best friend Breakup” by Lauren Spencer Smith. Come back and reply with a thank you! 😅❤

[@monicahwaiyaki4219]

Thank you Bella. Such a beautiful song😍 I'm in that situation and listening to that was weirdly comforting. I guess knowing you're not alone helps

[@Bellaparrott]

@@monicahwaiyaki4219 You’re most welcome!❤️❤️ Keeping passing the song on and my hope is that it helps others. Music is really underrated therapy🎵🎧❤️

[@annenafula1]

Lovely outfits!❤ Both of you look phenomenal 😻

[@harmony3297]

Friendship is something we're all trying to figure out. My best friend of more than 10 years and I had a huge misunderstanding which caused me to just end everything. It was about money; which has never happened since we always lend each other and pay on agreement. This time however, she went silent and when I communicated I was stuck, she started playing victim blaming me for not checking up on her to see why she wasn't able to pay. At the same time, I was also having my own things going on. Asked her why she could spend 10k to fix a phone (she gave this as one of the reasons why she couldn't give back my 3k) and couldn't even communicate to me that she'll be late on repayment. She later went on to call me a terrible and selfish friend because I had the 'audacity' to ask for my money back when she was suffering. Lol

[@TheOrganizedLawyer]

Hugs, I hope y'all can fix it eventually

[@carolinemuya8598]

Wooow!! Really taking a lot from this !I think I was a shitty friend in so many situations actually currently between should I revisit some or should I just make peace with my decisions back then and let it go ❤! Thank you for always giving me something to ponder on!

[@linanjeri6912]

Oh my God .Thank you for this episode❤

[@Babykakesofficial]

Even a divorce wont let me get level one treatment😂😂😂😂 Murugi youre so funny

[@JustVibes600]

Right??😂😂😂I just love her

[@Babykakesofficial]

@@JustVibes600 me too😂♥

[@greatness23FL]

It's sad that I won't be in attendance 🥺😪. You guys have fun ❤❤❤.

[@faith.adeyaa]

Oh and yes you are right, friends for EVERYTHING

[@valentineanyenda6411]

This is good. I hope you give us some corporate etiquette, or how to survive in corporate world. Can't wait

[@juliesmith6817]

Actually I love both of you and I believe both of you have different and sometimes the same opinions about certain things that’s why the podcast is really interesting to watch and listen too…buh from the last episode I also kinder felt that murungi was kinder of interrupted repeatedly which was noticeable and I personally wanted to continue to hear what her opinion was which was abit frustrating on my end…Buh I also don’t think that lydia was aware she was doing it…I love that you’ve addressed it

[@LIFEWITHROROO]

Loveeeee this episode!!!🎊

[@veenahr7683]

loving the colors girls, you look awesome beautiful ladies🧡❤💚

[@AchiengAbby-o6s]

I've been in abusive relationship it scared me Yoo!,thank God for growth and forgiveness.

[@marywanjiku1586]

😂😂i didn't even need my wedding ring

[@estherchibutia3283]

Looking good ladies ❤good to see you healthy n kicking

[@jerry-xt2sh]

I love this episode. Just had a friendship breakup.i have learnt a lot from it.

[@joymunyuah496]

You guys look amazing today❤

[@ZippyKazi-Carzy]

Looking mzuri ladies.

[@patriciapatience2170]

It's definitely TMIIIIII😊❤

[@lindawaweru74]

The hard lesson i learnt from friendships i cant trust noone

[@RahabKariuki-x2g]

🎉🎉🎉🎉 it's definitely tmi😂😂

[@carenkurui3882]

Nimefika😂on time📍

[@tmipodcastke]

Love it 😍

[@petitgal_wakuache]

😂😂😂😂 friendship conversations are so hard to discuss

[@nancymarende1003]

Looking forward to the live experience

[@dak_tari7613]

I ALSO FEEL I OVER VALIDATE LYDIA🤣

[@rao023]

Babes😊😊you look so so beautiful 😍😍

[@hamelynmotika1807]

Lydiah those are your colours, gal you look super. You guys are rocking it today!

[@ashleyogonda9047]

Just like you Lydia, I realised one of my friends was quite toxic after leaving an abusive relationship. It made me look at all other relationships in my life, to assess how my people pleasing attracted not so pleasant people in.

[@RahabKariuki-x2g]

🎉🎉 it's definitely tmi🎉🎉

[@Jacquelinembugua]

Is it normal not to have a best friend?

[@CholeSarah]

It's definitely tmi 🎉❤

[@Wahomekids]

Love your English ❤❤

[@sunshineheaven1802]

😂😂 I find it hard to believe that Lydia does not value other people's opinions and that Joan has no fair chance to speak? when? I have to go back and watch lol because I must have missed that part; But also, I am going to attribute this irk to just having a magnificent mind. This feeling can be attributed to how we are raised and how we are affirmed. I think all my British friends and family are this way but when they interact with African relatives, it comes off as they are so opinionated and overly smart that they think they are always right. But for people who do research and do more homework on things, it is easy peasy.

[@StephanieRehema-d1v]

points on points😎😎

[@beatricenjeri5256]

Guys I don't think I know how to have deep friendships. I have friends but not the die for each other kinds of friendships. My sister is my best friend. Cliché but so true.

[@agolladamar1557]

She made a comment that she found a friend in me,unfortunately i never found a friend in her.

[@purymukua]

Here as always😊

[@BerylTSandi]

The friendship breakup. Wueh hurts like hell💔 All of a sudden you can't call them to narrate your daily escapades 😢 Worst experience of my life, honestly.

[@irenearionget2821]

First 🎉

[@tmipodcastke]

😍

[@muthonisonderleiterkanyoi]

I always disagree with mum friends because I don’t attend their kids birthday parties. I personally hate 🎈 balloons 🎈 and the fact that it’s loud .. people think it’s petty but there is a reason I don’t want kids 😮. It’s too much . I get tired after two hours

[@MissNdirangu-r4n]

Gosh, a CF girlie…can we be friends?😊

[@rosiekarosie8760]

Hi twiin

[@andabwarosekiarie5477]

Lyd😍😍😍

[@dukeshaven]

😍😍😍

[@bethnjeri1191]

Second❤

[@tmipodcastke]

🥰

[@_clemo_official]

🚀

[@mercykitolo6871]

How's Greece now? Why?😕... Lyd hahaha come on.

[@carenkurui3882]

second😊🎉

[@BrookCara-d2i]

Taylor Christopher Lopez Helen Clark Donna

[@DaisyMbugua-1990]

But Lyd though

[@GloriaWambui-c4y]

Lyd can talk eiii

[@VanAntony-l3k]

Wilson Larry Robinson Betty Harris Jessica

[@harmony3297]

The

[@user-dt8rv2ew2c]

I'm so excited 🥹🥳❤️‍🔥

[@Hazel-uv2yb]

Y'all look stunning.😍