To Parents Who May Have A Transgender Child:

[@internationalaquarium8566]

*wants to show this to parents but is to fricking scared*

[@thatoneperson1783]

Akatosh thanks for saying the words for me

[@Chilidog02]

Akatosh same

[@michaeln3081]

Me to

[@diamondinthesky4771]

You have no idea how much I feel the very same way :( I would give anything to just be able to FEEL like I'm starting to transition.

[@TIKAL1973]

how the bitch stole Christmas same

[@sifinerdprincess]

Well, it's 7am, i haven't slept, I've been feeling extremely dysphoric and I've been crying a lot. Contemplating sending my dad a link to this video. I already came out to him but he basically said its a phase and pushed me back in the closet…

[@alimackenzie5251]

Me too

[@honeylemon1427]

Same here I understand that completely

[@hongry-life]

Wow, I'm seven. What is this about?

[@ashrasmussen6860]

Same here...

[@jacobclement3706]

Florence Weiser yep same

[@luvizia]

*"They're not gonna change because there's nothing to fix."* That hit hard😔 3:02

[@user-ge2ky3vy8b]

I'm thinking of sending this to my mom...wish me luck?

[@TatePhillips]

Did you ever send it to your mom? How’s did it go if you did?

[@kidsaccount9232]

:3 gl

[@user-ge2ky3vy8b]

@@TatePhillips yes! I did send it to my mom! I'm starting t in a few days!

[@mossiris816]

@@user-ge2ky3vy8b SO HAPPY FOR YOU GOOD LUCK!!!

[@TatePhillips]

:3 Yay!! So happy for you :D

[@tacoburger5]

i have two brothers. my parents tell me they are so happy they finally got a girl. but i am a boy inside

[@skylarkeleven]

if you had been born a boy in their eyes, i imagine your parents would tell you that they were so happy to have three boys. it may be hard for them to feel they are losing 'their only daughter' but they would be gaining a son. if you ever tell them, i hope they will see that :)

[@tacoburger5]

thanks youre sweet

[@lyndza1989]

+tacoburger5 you cannot live a fulfilled life trying to fill someone else's dreams/ideals.. if they love you they wouldnt want that fate for you

[@penelopecromd6852]

tacoburger5 its ok they'll except u and its harder for me im not sure if im transgender female use 2 think im a girl but then i shut that out growing up and im not labeling my sexuality im attracted 2 male and female because none of them feel right i looked at all bi poly pan none

[@larcenciel7428]

Omg so same. I'm the youngest child and the only "girl". I feel so guilty sometimes because I'm not a girl, but I just want to be happy.

[@alfaback1532]

I identify as a Trans girl, and i plan on coming out very soon. I'm already out as a gay cis-male and my parents accept me and say they love me unconditionally. But In the past I tried drag makeup and just really got into the makeup scene and this made them very uncomfortable and they didn't want me presenting myself as a "female". I tried explaining how it was just a mask or a character and they still didn't understand. But I'm hoping that coming out as a fully female identified individual they will begin to understand. And this video will definitely be played for them. Thank you so much for your wisdom and kind words Skylark.

[@arcade8706]

Alexander yo I hope it's going great!!!

[@hongry-life]

You are part of the (beast) system until you break free from it. Open your eyes and see the sick psychopath ruling class promoting to mutilate the bodies during all of our lives from birth to death. It is a dangerous death cult. WAKE UP.

[@arcade8706]

hongry life literally nobody asked you my dude

[@ifuckedyourdad709]

Alexander i hope it’s going well, girl!

[@hongry-life]

That is not true, Nathan Crouse. I am here because of the exhibitionism of others and them posting this and answering to those calls. God's way cannot be known by us, but they are there to take notice of. Me saying this is a straight and personal message to who calls for it.

[@jlavery1981]

My daughter came out to me as transgender a few days ago. I just told her I loved her and I'd love for her to become my son. She's still deciding on pronouns so for now I use the old pronouns, with her ok. I just don't know the first steps to help her on this journey. :(. Any advice would be great.

[@honeylemon1427]

Just listen to what he\she\they are feeling, I really helps even if you don't understand just the effort shows yourw trying💙

[@theretard9306]

I know im just a kid my self and i just came out but i hope this helps... Just sit down with her/him and say "this is your decision and a long journey but i want you to know i will be there with you every step of the way. I love you no matter what...boy,girl,gay,lesbian. Your still my child and this is your life. You do what your comfortable doing and being called And i love you" I wish my family said that when i came out....my family dosnt except me...

[@AB-uf1et]

Hey, can you give us any updates on your child and their transition (if they transitioned ofc)? I'd love to hear

[@ryderyoung3468]

Look, as a dude who’s mom is non supportive let me just tell you, listen and be open, tell them you love them unconditionally and they’ll be happy.

[@carelesslycareless9961]

I don’t have any advice, but I’d just like to say you are such a sweet parent. More children deserve parents like you.

[@Miguel-td2qg]

I'm not crying you're crying. my parents weren't supposed to find out and it's really damaged me the way they reacted. I needed this

[@limestorm8015]

Mikey Johnson Yeah me too

[@brisaweinert8952]

Same... my mom found out while I was telling my friends who understand and don’t give a crap honestly but my mom she’s so confused like what I’m telling you I’m just not a girl and I’m non-binary it’s that simple god damn it hurts so much

[@Color_me_Rorange]

My 13 year old told me today.I love my child and want my child to feel supported and loved. I am struggling to wrap my head around it.Thanks for pointing to some resources.

[@deborahrolski7737]

Hi! I hear ya!

[@breannas2869]

And same I fully support mine is anxious and quiet and hard for her to task reigns but this topic more so so def need help

[@WellnessSocietyUSA]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3XPmH2loJiGqZo&lc=UgydiMDQbNJZEYVZ8TB4AaABAg.9mocDzIsDmr9mocjWgVmkM

[@jennyolivia1998]

I'm a boy. I don't know how I'm going to transition, but I'm going to do it. I'm going to become the Riley I am inside.

[@VulpisDraws]

i believe in you, riley 💙

[@ceecue5367]

Wherever you're at now, I hope you realize that you're making a mistake

[@dragonflysage6206]

Best of luck, Riley! I believe in you!

[@dragonflysage6206]

@@ceecue5367 No. You're making a mistake. Let this person be who they really are! Don't be a f***ing dumbass. Have a nice day! 😁

[@basma.gogogo]

@@dragonflysage6206 haha I really like you bro :)

[@kairose3161]

My mom is very transphobic and I'm really scared to come out but I want to be happy and start to transition

[@GalaxyGal-]

Whatever your mom decides, you are who you are, and if she hates you for who you are, she doesn't deserve you.

[@rachelheffron224]

My dad was phobic of everything lgbt and openly opposed it all my life. Up until the moment I came out to him as trans with tears in my eyes. He cried with me and held me for hours when he saw how upset I was. Then said it didnt matter to him if I wanted to be his daughter insted of his son as long as I was happy. Even the most bigoted parents can find instant acceptance in their hearts when acctually confronted with what they fear. Youd be supprised just how far a parents love will go. Dont be afraid to tell your mom, it WILL keep you in the closet and that is a dangerous place to be. Have faith that your mother will understand and want to help you. Best of luck with what ever you decide.

[@transgamer2826]

+Rachel Heffron My dad and mom will accept me only as gay, I don't even wanna ask them if they accept transgenders but I hope you get to transition. may god bless you.

[@finnelijah829]

Rachel Heffron The exact same thing happened to me. My mother was always joking about LGBT people... But after I told her I was trans she was so sweet and I guess she got over her hate.!

[@little_sky2441]

Kai Rose Mine too

[@rmmartin92405]

As a trans (parent) I love watching your videos and getting this type of advice information. Seeing you happy and thriving gives me confidence that my little guy is going to grow up and continue to be as happy as he is now even though at this point he's still so innocent and young and it's us as his parents who are dealing with the majority of it at this point. But I'd do it all over again any day. Anyway great video and great tips.

[@skylarkeleven]

that is truly amazing. thank you for being that parent :)

[@Kiki-lx8wz]

You are truly amazing parent

[@milkita2816]

Does it matter what age you are when you come out

[@rat3905]

please adopt me

[@sushilovermf]

@@rat3905 same

[@Rid97527]

How are you so well-spoken & grammatical? Beautiful, Skylar xx

[@bestmusiccompilation7339]

I want to come out to my parents as ftm, however they are incredibly disrespectful towards anything LGBT+ related, and I'm terrified that I will become further alienated from my family. Part of me wants to wait until college, where I'm in a safer situation but the other (larger) part wants to come out now so I can be in a better mental state.

[@bestmusiccompilation7339]

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[@sagoens8512]

Same I really want to come out but my parents are extremely LGBTQ+ against so I’m coming out when I’m 17or18

[@sushilovermf]

SAME, I’m in the exact same situation

[@WellnessSocietyUSA]

You are confused. You are a GIRL. kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3XPmH2loJiGqZo&lc=UgydiMDQbNJZEYVZ8TB4AaABAg.9mocDzIsDmr9mocjWgVmkM

[@thehomohomie5259]

The urge to send this to my mother after she gave me crap about being trans grows with every minute I'm alive ò-ó

[@manonj1364]

THANK YOU. Just... Thank you. I almost cried of happiness when I saw the title of this video. I looked for videos like this one for days, and I couldn't find a single one. I want to come out. I need to come out. But the idea of being rejected by the one that I love is even stronger than my dysphoria. I want my parents to understand me, to understand what I am and what it's like to be a transgender person. And I think that you - through your videos - will help them to. You're just amazing : handsome, clever, and just fucking useful. You probably don't realize it, but seing you being proud and open about being trans really helps desesperated trans teens - like me - to be positive about the futur. You're a fucking inspiration.

[@Atoruja]

Im showing this to my mom I can't stand this hate anymore .. She is the only one who understands me My dad..I just don't know anymore..

[@noellll3903]

Did you do it?!

[@rat3905]

I feel you. My biological "dad" is transphobic and my stepdad thinks that I can't be non-binary as a minor.

[@basma.gogogo]

@@rat3905 I don't get the connection... Do you have to be 18 to understand what is your gender identity...?

[@rat3905]

@@basma.gogogo No, but that's what my stepdad thinks.

[@basma.gogogo]

@@rat3905 yeah that doesn't make any sense, I'm sorry for you 😔

[@DamienCoppersan]

Thanks again Skylar. I feel like your timing is always right because I was looking to make another attempt to get my mother to understand me better and lo and behold, a video that deals with just that. Man, it would've been cool if you could talk to my parents in person. You're a wonderful human being, you're the type of person I want to be in life.

[@skylarkeleven]

that's so funny because i truly wish to someday work with lgbt youth and their families to have these conversations :). and just as i am the type of person you want to be, you are a part of me and vice versa. my existence is only made real by your perception of it - so know that all of the good you see in me is the reflection of the good you would see in you if you were to look.

[@EthanEatsFlowers]

I wanna show this to my parents... so bad...

[@EthanEatsFlowers]

dat random pinecone they'd kill me...

[@thegirlnextdoor4939]

Ethanhasnothing totalkabout I want to show mine too but they'll kill me too

[@happylittleflower7335]

Ethanhasnothing totalkabout I wish I could show my mom this because she told me I "can't be trans" I tried to tell her 2 years ago and I was so upset when she aid that. I pretended that I didn't want to be a boy at all for 2 years. I've recently accepted it.

[@katelyndickinson3458]

me too! i think when they are less busy ill just be brave but fuck im so scared

[@kai-of2wx]

2:06 is how my grandma reacted. She's the first and only family member to know. I'm going into 7th grade, and I know when I'm going to come out to my (obviously homophobic and transphobic) parents. When I have moved out fully and I don't need them for anything, because they are not gonna be accepting at all. I'm also gonna have to be emotionally ready for them to yell at me, because for now everytime someone yells at me I cry. Idk why. So, in probably like 7 or 8 years, can my future self reply to this comment? Tell me how it went? If you need a reminder of what part if your life this is, I just turned 12 seven days ago. I'm about to go to Chelsea's to summon Camio, the dog translator one. I'll probably reply to myself each milestone of the way, but, I hope I'm still alive by then. And if you're me in a couple years, about to end it, don't. For me. There's so much hope. Alright, that's it. Thanks for reading.

[@yunus1947]

Your grandma sounds amazing so there is hope for you you wouldn’t believe the amount of support and understanding people have today

[@supernaturaldestiel1830]

this made me cry tbh. ur voice is so calming. ill show this to my parents. thanks❤

[@izzynarnia3619]

I just know I'm one....I was literally jealous of everyboy who got to wear bowties and suits...and I had to wear dresses....I-I...I just don't know anymore =(

[@letterstoyou6737]

All those things that you said not to say is what was said to me in the 9th grade, so I completely shut down and dissociated myself from myself and became full of self hatred. And now that I'm here as an adult, I'm like it's time to stop pushing myself to be someone else to make everyone else happy

[@BlackxSkittlez]

As a child of a foreign mom who has never heard about transgenderism until the day I came out, I wish this video was here in 2009 then I could have shown this to her. She's fully accepting now though but back then, she was in a huge denial of me. Thought it was a phase and it couldn't be right. Now, she's the one who got me the Testosterone I've been taking for a while.

[@skylarkeleven]

that's amazing how she's come around. i too wish my parents could've seen this in 2009. thankfully being trans is more talked about now than it was 6 years ago, but having to wait for acceptance is really hard. i'm glad you are where you are now!

[@buffysummers138]

Omg I love you so much. Thank you for this upload. My mom is trying to be supportive to my little sister. She just came out over this weekend (her 14th bday). She wants to cut her hair like a boy and ditch the girly shirts in favor of guy clothes. My mom is working thru what it means to have a trans gender child and she is fighting her on the hair cut saying everything was happening too fast. She loves my sister's hair. (It is beautiful) I was searching KZbin to find parents of trans videos to send her to try and help her through what has to be a very scary and emotional experience, and this is the best one so far. You touched me in so many ways. My sister knows that when she's able to be a boy, I will love my brother just as much as I loved my sister because no matter the gender our love is real and unbreakable, but because of your video I will keep a conscious effort to remember to ask specifically "how can I support you better" especially in these early stages. Thank you so much for this video. I hope you have peace and love and a huge support system and lots and lots of friends and that you are a genuinely happy person. You made an impact today on a random stranger and gave them words to live by. Thank you so much for that. Peace forever and lots of internet hugs, a tear or two and well wishes, Nicole

[@misslinda6699]

My grandkid, who I love with all my heart, recently came out and is transitioning. They don’t yet know where this journey will take them, but the process has begun. My immediate reaction was letting them know that I love them, but also surprise because I know nothing about these sorts of feelings or processes. I’ve been searching for thoughtful direction, ways that I can fully love and support them, and found my way to your video. You’ve been so very helpful. You have a loving and kind heart and the fact that you would take the time to help parents/grandparents says so much. I hope you have found the love and acceptance that you are entitled to. Thank you, again.

[@colleenorrick5415]

I’m a grandmother to a transgender grandson. I’ve told him that I love him no matter what. But I still keep slipping in the wrong pronouns. It’s not because I don’t support him. It’s that in all my 70 plus years I’ve never had to adjust the pronouns I use for someone. So I keep slipping up. He’s pretty forgiving. I guess I’m just writing this to say, even if we slip up, we love you!

[@markiplier1482]

Thank you

[@arrowhead8856]

I came out, but my parents won't use my pronouns or help me with my name. I feel like they're not even trying. They didn't have a negative reaction, but they said I've always been a girl and I've always acted like a girl, which really hurts me.

[@WellnessSocietyUSA]

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[@KimmyHearts1D]

Whoever has your heart must be the luckiest person in the whole entire world. You are hands down the most sweetest awesome person ever I am so happy I discovered your channel!

[@gshockbabe6144]

My family abandoned me when I told them I was a girl and not a boy.Thank you for posting this because it may save many lives.

[@sheilaj.1163]

Great advice for parents... I hope alot of them take a look and listen!

[@Thisismyhandle329]

Sheila J. Shiela! :))))

[@shadowclaw9369]

Hello :)

[@WellnessSocietyUSA]

No, horrible advice! Wait and see what happens to this person in a few years! kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3XPmH2loJiGqZo&lc=UgydiMDQbNJZEYVZ8TB4AaABAg.9mocDzIsDmr9mocjWgVmkM

[@immortalcheeseburger5228]

The last part made me cry, alot I have been looking up videos because I came out to him a few weeks ago and he doesn't believe me, on Wednesday I broke down hard and cut most of my hair off and he doesn't know yet I NEED him to understand and ik he might see this text once he goes down the comments I just want to be his son

[@carolinechuter9546]

just watching , my daughter is mtf and i fully support her, shes now nearly 10 xxx

[@neolicious3323]

She's 15 now, is she ok?

[@KamrynAsterisk]

Hows she doing

[@basma.gogogo]

Uhh that's awesome :)

[@amygriffith8224]

Hows she doing?

[@wesanderson7918]

Thank you for putting this out here for parents to watch. My transgender daughter came out to us the other day and I have been so full of emotions but I am happy for her. She has been struggling with a darkness we never understood for 5 years and now we do. Time to heal and be you Noah.

[@HeyItsEmilyLove]

Parents like you are very inspiring. I hope your family is doing well and she’s happier now. Thank you for caring 💙

[@enajd9552]

Just found your video, months after my 16yr old came out to me - thank you! She transitioned at home with us first then, in school. To reconcile the emotional turmoil I feel as her mother, I think of her as my hatchling. It took 16 yrs for her to break the shell of her assigned gender but she’s done it! Some days my heart aches with fear for her future in this cruel world. Other days I marvel at this confident glowing personality that always seemed to be unable to connect with her friends or be completely at ease in social situations in the past. The personality is still the same, wickedly smart, funny, sensitive but now it seems to flow unfettered by the sadness that I could never reach when she was younger. Thank you for you, for your visibility, for your inspiration to other trans kids & to parents like myself & my husband who will always love our kid.

[@thundercat287]

I'm no longer a child by age, but my parents still treat me like one. I've come out to my parents but they are not unconditionally accepting. Right now they're acting like they're putting up with my gender and want to hide it from our relatives. My cousin is having a wedding in less than two months and my parents are considering not having me attend just because I cut my hair short. They say they are accepting but it's not accepting if they don't let me be myself. It's like I went back in the closet and my parents hide there with me, and they look out if the coast is clear for me.

[@Invisible.fatty99]

Can you talk about one where they keep trying to introduce doing? Asking “are you sure?”, “if you change your mind”, “are you sure you want hormones, they’re permanent” Things like that say they think it’s a phase without directly saying it

[@williamchilds216]

First emotion I've felt in a few weeks. Well, it wasn't an emotion. Its was just tears. Tears of something. Thank you, mate. Thank you.

[@theaudienceofdeath6380]

sending this to my mom, she doesn’t support me from what i know but i really need her behind me right now. wish me luck

[@HeyItsEmilyLove]

I hope things went well and you’re in a better situation. No matter what happened, please know there’s a big community of people that will love you just the way you are 💙

[@skunkite8156]

I need to show this to my dad... He needs to understand that his daughter is not his daughter but his son...

[@noellll3903]

Same but they are Christians who tell me it’s a phase and I will grow out of it. The other day my mum said “your brain isn’t even fully developed till your 25, so that’s why I say it might not be true”

[@skunkite8156]

@@noellll3903 that's a very poor excuse, some kids realize they are transgender at the age of 2 or 3, I wish you the best, hopefully, your parents will grow and learn to accept you!

[@noellll3903]

ThatCrazyTimberWolf i hope so too シ

[@WellnessSocietyUSA]

You are confused! kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3XPmH2loJiGqZo&lc=UgydiMDQbNJZEYVZ8TB4AaABAg.9mocDzIsDmr9mocjWgVmkM

[@JimJimmy-lt5te]

Well that is true, it seems that a pretty big and important part of trans people accept their gender from 20 to 25.

[@TheKaineHill]

I was looking for videos to show my mom (whom I came out to just 2 weeks ago), but while watching this I realized my mom already did and said all the perfect things. I'm really lucky she's so accepting. Wish all of you the best of luck and lots of strength~

[@avyo8654]

Thanks for this, man. It's one of three videos I'm getting my parents to watch when I come out to them next week.

[@Disapproving_Welsh_Corgi]

Hey, thank you so much for making this video! My parents are finding it really hard to accept my transition but my counsellor suggested I send them a few videos and websites of information and advice and I'm definately sending them this video! I'm hoping too to make a channel about Trans issues and my transition so maybe one day I'll be able to make a video as helpful as this Ps. I love that we are both Skylar K's :P

[@HumanBeing5427]

How do I show this to my parents when Im not exactly supposed to have electronics rn, because I came out.

[@bangtanarmy6845]

I don't know why but this video made me cry especially the end. Coming out is scary as HECK we don't know what'll happen.

[@TheSilverWolf133]

Please write a book, I would read it religiously. You are perfection thank you I'm struggling with myself right now and you an enormous support and help. I'm sitting the HSC right now but as soon as it is over I'm showing this video to my parents. Thank you so much, I hope you know how lovely and helpful you are and that you're making a beautiful change in this world.

[@CGI_Andy]

My parents won’t let me come out publicly even though I am ready. My mom’s argument is that she can’t see me as a girl. My dads argument is that high school can be tough. I agree with my dad more.

[@flamewolf8007]

An actual conversation between me and my mom Me: mom I ummm I feel like I should be a boy I mean idk I think im trans Mom: Ha that’s a joke right? Me:oh uhhh Mom:Your not trans your not changing

[@eurusgeesusway4813]

Lmao, "No you're not" and "You're wrong" was exactly my mom's reaction it was awesome (but not really)

[@KaiMarieMartin]

Omg thank you it was looking for a video like this.

[@skylarkeleven]

i'm glad it was needed :)

[@tesseract7537]

Thank you so much for your compassion and understanding, you are a remarkable human being.

[@Sillmyril]

Thank you for sharing so much of your insight. I so much wish that more people could take your advise and love unconditionally. Everyone needs to feel accepted and everyone needs love. You are helping more people than can ever know even if they just start learning to accept themselves.

[@rat3905]

I came out to my dad as non-binary a few hours ago over text after he asked if my friend had a penis or vagina because I told him that they're non-binary. Mind you, he's a 55 year old privelidged white dude who supports Trump and doesn't believe in COVID-19. He basically said that my gender identity is a joke and not real and invalidated it and said it was just a phase and that I was "changing my identity because I'm unhappy". I hate him. My mom is so lucky that she got to divorce him. You can't just divorce your own parent from your life.

[@yunus1947]

Sorry to hear that, hopefully it gets better for you remember it’s his problem if he’s too ignorant to understand his own child tell me if it’s going well and talk to people who do understand you

[@CharlesAxtell]

This was beautifully balanced and well thought through. You're amazing

[@MizukiAkemi]

i came out a year and a half ago to my parents and was met with unacceptance. i was sat down with my drug rehabilitation therapist (disclaimer i wasnt an addict shit just happened thats another story) and was told that i couldn't "chose" this until i was 18 and would never be supported. I came out through a letter and my dad never read it. my mom did but it really got me nowhere so i spent a year and a half trying to be female but failed because im not and i cant change that. thank you for this video, wish i could've seen and shown this to my parents back then. i think next time i come out ill show this to my parents. :) (haha this is so much rambling)

[@Iittlebird__]

My mom says she's supportive.W hen I try to talk to her about how I feel or to try and help her understand she says its physically impossible for me to become a boy. She won't let me see my therapist, she will only let me wear male clothing. I can't even have my hair cut. I sob every night I have breakdowns at school, I become more suicidal every time she "forces" me to be a girl, I can't talk to anybody about how I feel she won't let me

[@aidenzaking8536]

I am 14. My aunt is completely ANTI-LGBTQ+ , my mom and I live with her because of my grandmother needing to be taken care of. I have had doubts that I am trans but I look at how I feel being addressed by my birth name and how I feel associated with female pronouns. My counselor uses my male nouns and it makes me really happy. I have asked my mom for a binder before but recently it seems she is becoming more supportive because I told her how my aunt called me disgusting, sick, twisted, and How I was born a girl for a reason. The first time mom said no to a binder. I want to ask again since it was so long ago. I am afraid and my Aunt is making me scared to be myself. I suffer from attentive depression and used to cut. But I have managed to control the urges for half a year now. I am proud f it to. But my dysphoria rising up once more and my aunt grilling me over and over again is making me want to and contemplate if I should or not. I of coarse choose not to but I don't know how long I can keep myself together. I want to text my mother tomorrow and tell her how I have been feeling and that I want a binder to help suppress my dysphoria. As I have said earlier I am scared to. She tells me she still loves me and that when we move out soon I'll be able to have my hair how I like and have more freedom as a Pan trans man. I believe her. I want to txt her and ask seeing I go home tomorrow for the week of Christmas and I really only stay at my grans on the weekends. It is currently 3:21 AM and I Cant sleep because I feel as if I will be disowned. My mother loves me but doesn't like having these conversations because it hurts her I am growing up. anyway, I wanted to ask if i should do it or if it is even A good Idea. Please I need support from someone.

[@crowfatality]

I've had many friends over the years throughout my transition where the parents would definitely have benefited from this video. But I'm grateful to say that my most recent experience has been with my friend, who is the mother of a boy who recently came out as trans; and she has dealt with the whole thing amazingly. Even without knowing that I was trans, she has interacted with trans folk before and was involved enough in her child's life to foresee this outcome and be there to support him in any way necessary. Her regret was that she didn't question him about it, she left it to him to make his decisions and come to her. But that was unfortunately after a failed suicide attempt and medical intervention. In the end, he's got a great mom, he's in a good place at school, supportive friends, and the other boy on his roller derby team is stoked that there's now two boys. He's one awesome little dude.

[@kaylincralax7815]

I identify as a trans man and I came out to my mom 2 times and she doesn't support me and I want to ask her for a gender therapist but i don't know how to. I am 13.

[@Lucas-ut7pz]

Kind of the same with me. My mom is fine with it but hasn't done anything to help me but I think my dad is in denial as he keeps saying things to me about being a girl or being a woman soon. I want to ask for gender therapy but am too scared of what my dad will say about it.

[@Lucas-ut7pz]

I am also 13

[@rachelheffron224]

talk to your shool guidance counselor. They arent experts on the gender part. But they can help you talk to your parents about it. Its part of their job to help students with these kinds of things.

[@orangestrawberry3671]

I don't know what to do, I just came out to my mom and she keeps using she/her pronouns and keeps calling me a girl, she says I'm too young but she doesn't know that that's the reason I'm diagnosed with depression and anxiety, I wish I hadn't came out, she doesn't understand

[@the_cass_castilian3653]

I have the same thing, but my school doesn't have a guidance counselor.

[@nevin1180]

I'm so glad I've found this I'm planning on coming out and I didn't know how I was going to but I found a way, thank you.

[@anthonyreppucci7086]

This is really good advice. I've been best friends with your cousin Cassidy and she told me last year and we are still the best friends that we are today and it really doesn't change anything. She showed me your transition today and it is good that you are happy the way you are! 😄

[@copinkprincess60]

I’m watching this after my child came out to me I was not surprised he has friends who are finding themselves too. He is not the only in our family to come out. I love all my children for just being them. I did suspect that he was finding himself and knew knew they loved rainbow and to color their hair currently purple. He is 11 and I love him for being him

[@blackradicalmonster9464]

“HOW CAN I SUPPORT YOU BETTER?” 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@aaronanderson5094]

I am FTM trans. The main reason I am scared to tell their parents is because they think they have a boy and girl and I don’t want to disappoint them. I also feel guilty about wanting to change the name my parents gave me.

[@deathlikereviews6648]

I want to show this to my parents but I’m not sure if I should,I’m just realizing all this. I’m 19 and have been living as a male my whole life. Thank you so much for this video.

[@HeyItsEmilyLove]

I hope you’re doing well and I wish you the best of luck!

[@deathlikereviews6648]

Thanks so much

[@HeyItsEmilyLove]

@@deathlikereviews6648 You’re very welcome 💙

[@chrisnr8638]

Thank you for your message. As a parent, it is helpful to hear what you needed. Hopefully, you can still bridge the gap with your own parents. Remember to also give them “yet another chance” if you guys are not in the best terms right now… I am unaware of your curent situation but it feels like there are still a lot of heavy feelings left… BEST OF LUCK!!!

[@moonbugyy]

O told my mum I was Trans awhile ago, but she obviously didn't grasp the meaning of it, so yesterday (1/12/19) after asking about getting my hair cut short and whatnot we were finally able to talk about it, and now she knows truly what I am. She seems accepting of me, but I still have my doubts. After all, she was happy to have me after having four boys... Good news though, I've officially gotten that off my chest with her, and I'm going to get my hair cut and dyed Friday as a day late birthday present ^^'

[@buttstain116]

I’m sending this to my mom because I’m 12 and she said I can’t do crap except cutting my hair, I don’t know if she knows about binders but she won’t let me do anything until I move out, she won’t help me with the Financial deals so I am now working for my brother to save up. I’m hurt because my mom keeps saying as long as I don’t get the surgery, as long as I don’t become a boy, I feel like she may never support me.. damn this was long and I’m sorry about that lmao

[@sera-jainerees4826]

I raised my brother's while my mum was sorting herself out! Now I've taken a step back and my younger sibling has come out to be as a transgender woman (please forgive me I'm learning terms to use and not to) I would love to know any and all advise to support them! I love my younger sibling so much and want the best for them! Can anyone leave some videos or just advice on what I can do?

[@eidameidamovic5918]

Assure them that you love them no matter what. And then ask questions, as many as you can think of, stupid, deep, awkward, anything, ask thrice if needed. Wanting to learn is the best first step you can make. And for a KZbinr that might help you, Jamie Dodger (I might be spelling that wrong).

[@sera-jainerees4826]

Thank you so much! I really appreciate the help!

[@eidameidamovic5918]

You’re welcome. Hope it goes well for all of you! And btw if you need to ask something, I’ll be here for you.

[@Blueboooks]

As a parent looking for advice thank you. There is not enough resources 😢

[@PlvtinumPrincess]

Meh was told I was going to hell by my mom and I need help blah blah blah blah It's getting to the point to where my whole attitude and outlook on things is changing. And she knows how I feel about it all was told I was going to therapy never happened... Supposedly I'm not telling her enough but I don't see where telling someone you're not happy isn't enough to try and figure out what the hell is going on. Anyways now that I'm 16 turning 17 in April idk how to put it just the feeling of me being the way I am now is almost like I think to myself why even live if I'm pretending to make others happy for the sake of it. But I'm not going to try and kill myself already been there done that at around 13. I plan on talking to her again before my birthday and see what happens.

[@jasper6092]

What is it like to have an accepting family? (I sadly don't have one)

[@talvinmoore455]

I really wanna show this to my parents but I live in germany and they're not good at english but I think I'm gonna use this to try to explain it to my parents/family...

[@coolbruh1223]

I'm so glad this video was made, and I'm so glad someone finally said what needed to be heard.

[@TheStonyPuppy]

if I send this to my mom I'm scared she's going to bother me for hours until I give her the answers she wants, she asks and asks and asks why I'm trans but I never feel brave enough to say too much, she thought it was misogyny, she thought it was just body weight insecurity, she even said "I just love my only daughter, and find it hard to accept that she's going to leave to...y'know" as if she couldn't even refer to me as a boy, like it was painful. my dad is the only supportive one, I've asked them separately if I could go on t, my dad said "you can do whatever you want, as long as you're happy" while my mom said "do that when you're out of this house" I swear I love my parents to death but sometimes she gives me more reason every day to stay in my room on my computer

[@HeyItsEmilyLove]

I think I’m going to send this to my mom. I came out to her and she was accepting, but coming from small town Ohio, I feel she most likely has no experience with trans people. I know she loves me though and I think she wants to learn. Thank you for making this video

[@asher5690]

How did it go?

[@HeyItsEmilyLove]

@@asher5690 It went really well! I feel a lot better about things and am starting to feel more comfortable talking about things with her. I really appreciate this video 💙

[@asher5690]

@@HeyItsEmilyLove that’s awesome! Congrats :)

[@HeyItsEmilyLove]

@@asher5690 Thank you 😊

[@VivreAvec]

This is a beautiful love message, even though I'm not transgender I love watching your videos because it makes me discover and learn so much about gender identity and kindness.. Thanks you, really, you do so much good!

[@brycealexander7302]

I shared this on FB so hopefully my mum will see it, she usually ready my links and stuff...I just wish it would be easier than this, i wish i was born a Cis guy but then again i wouldnt be as strong as i am today. Skye u r such an inspiration and by watching your videos it shows me that life really does get better. thats why im still hanging on, bc i stumbled around this channel and watched ur timeline and just wow. your amazing. Thank you.

[@daeslepr400]

Always thoughtful & helpful, thanks.Sounds trite but 2 way communication is soooo important. Hope you're doing well, you're looking good.

[@mj_free_9025]

So crazy story I came out to my mother yesterday, telling her I was a boy and she was a lot calmer than I expected but then told me that she loves me but won't accept it and that I hv to go to a specific church that delivers people😩 I took so long to finally accept who I am and now I'm expected to "change" and I don't think I want to change. I'm a dude and I'm cool with it 💃

[@soccerdad3635]

i wish my dad would support me. he told me i'll always be a girl and he'll never call me a boy. i wish he would just consider that trans teens are more likely to commit suicide and havd have depression but he's to stuck in his own ways and oblivious :( i have to live with him until im 18. im already sad and anxious as it is and he just made it worse

[@russellgrice6966]

Good shit ❤️ working through this regarding my son, f>m. Given my breakdown with his mum (completly unrelated), it's been tricky for us all. But we're very open and looking to make things work in the best possible way. X

[@mordechai_rotwein]

Bro you pass like 1000% and I love your voice

[@jayharrison6971]

My dad is unsupportive but im so happy my cousin accepts it. I found out he researched ftm in his own time after i told him also with no reminders after i told him my name he was ok talking to a stranger (he was picking me up from work to see httyd the hidden world) saying he's my cousin im picking him up.

[@Demonsrulez]

It's very inspiring of what you said about transgenders. I thought it was very touching and agree with you. Its sad to have loss Leelah Alcorn because of not being accepted. I am thankfully have had a very supportive group and people being proud of me as a transgender myself f-t-m. I didn't know what I was until I was in college, for although I am born female I didn't feel right and prefer to be called male since as far back as I remember. Although there are some people I know that have a hard time believing and accepting it. My family really doesn't know and I have a feeling they probably won't accept it as Christians themselves. I am proud of who I am and glad to say i'm a transgender. I want to do all I can to help my people out. I also would let my own family, kids, spouse, and everyone else that comes along into the future of who I am. Thank you for taking the time to commit and support us transgenders. :)

[@mikaylaowens658]

I wish I had shown this to my mother when I came out. I guess my terminology wasn't the best... but describing me as confused just made me feel like crap. I'm almost sixteen... and I've felt like I was a boy since I was very young. Just because her transgender friends had specific experiences in common, doesn't mean I will transition that way or have those experiences. I don't understand why she feels I must fit into a catagory, and have a pigeon holed childhood/teenage life to be transgender. 10+ years is not a phase and I am not confused... of only she would understand that. She has agreed to let me see a gender therapist... but as someone who has spoken out and supported the rights of everyone in the LGBT community, with so many beautiful trans friends... I don't understand why she is having such a hard time with my wish the transition. Thank you Skylar, maybe if she sees this it will help.

[@skylarkeleven]

it sounds like she is comparing your life and experiences so far with her friends who also may hold a transgender identity. you seem pretty conscious of that - have you told her just that? that every experience is different and you're surprised by her lack of support for you and her considering this a 'phase' versus her supporting her friends? gender therapist sounds helpful - maybe even bringing your mom to her for a session sometime as well could be an idea :) i hope things get better, but in the meantime, definitely take advantage of seeing that therapist so that you have support and access to resources you may want or need down the line.

[@teresagonzales7285]

Thank you. I shared this with my brother as his daughter is starting her transition journey.

[@eskuriad]

I feel so bad for those without support.

[@myutube5882]

Absolutely beautiful! That is the best thing a parent can do. "How can I support you? What can I do to help? I love you no matter what." Parents need to get that this is not a choice. Who would choose this? It's not easy but parental support can make all the difference! If you love your child, love them unconditionally! "Unconditional love is the only love worthy of the word," to quote Leo Buscaglia.

[@dmitrigosha3805]

Im an adult.. it took years to get hrt. My mom is stll struggling with it.

[@thegirlnextdoor4939]

I'm transgender and a 16 year old girl and I've told my parents or wel they drew it out of me...And they treat me differently and mean now and they say it's just a phase and they are angry at me...they hate me now and they said they'll get me to a therapist and they say I'm just depressed and doesn't like my body and my mom said she knows I still wanna be a girl cause I was a "girly girl" but that's not true...I want to shout at them and tell them to stop cause this isn't a phase but they still hate me and find me disgusting and they are being sarcastic and saying such like you can buy boys clothes now or do you wanna go to school with boys clothes...I even made my mom cry on mother's day and I didn't even do anything.

[@lefr8]

Skylar you are truly an angle on this Earth. You inspire me as an activist for trans rights. You are powerful beyond belief. xx

[@kenamxo9056]

seeing this this 6 years later on my recommended is kinda hilarious for me 😂😶

[@atoliito008]

Hey Skylar. I have a petition, can I use this and subtitle it? I'm from Mexico and I want to come out to my parents but I'm afraid of their reaction and this might come handy the day I do it. I love your videos and you're one of my heroes and one of my role models thank you for all the things that you have done. I love you :)

[@grace1876]

This video is amazing- I need to show my parents to help them understand what my brother/sister is going through

[@derpothesquid3152]

I feel like I want to change but I don’t know what to do, how to tell my parents and if my age is too late.

[@eidameidamovic5918]

Wish something like that was in my language as well. Cis or trans hope all of you out there are doing good! ;)

[@HolyLesGod]

I would love to send this to my parents, but I most likely won't tell my parents until I move out because I know that my dad does not agree with being any gender other than the one you were born as. I am a female but I know I shouldn't be. I have been asking to get a haircut generally meant for boys. My mom was fine with it but my father said that I'm female whether I liked it or not and I was going to look like one. Hearing this broke my heart and caused my depression to skyrocket. I don't know what to do.

[@EJ_-yc9mv]

I came out to my parents once as trans and all they said that someone was putting that in my head. I want to come out to them again but I'm terrified.

[@jacksonswartz8544]

hello, for a couple months i have been writing a paper that will hopefully give my parents a better view upon hormone therapy and i am going to use this video to start off my paper. I really want to thank you and i hope your words can help my parents. Hopefully i will leave another comment later this summer telling you how my paper worked and how they reacted to me wanting to start hormones!