Your child is transgender, and it's going to be okay.

[@qphid]

i would love to use this to come out, i might actually

[@ConnorOKeefe]

Whether or not you do, best of luck!

[@wtfhappened1965]

no!!!!! Don't come out please!!! can't take anymore.

[@robinjames333]

I used ally hills coming out song to tell my parents I'm gay. I was looking for another song to tell them I'm trans but this video is so good I might use it.

[@robinjames333]

I'm doing it tonight. 222 days after I told them I wasn't straight and 40 days before my birthday, can't think of a better time to get this done.

[@balloons2388]

Robin James How'd it go?

[@abandonedchanneld8031]

My mom today called me a frankenstein because I'm trans. I needed this, not for my parents, but for myself, to keep hope that one day I can be accepted.

[@one-onessadhalf3393]

Do you want to be Frankenstein’s together? (Also you’re mom doesn’t know her monster mythology)

[@henkkahenrik4183]

You should tell her that Frankenstein was the doctor and not the monster. XD But I actually think it's often a very accurate way to describe a trans person. The story of Frankenstein's monster is all about how cruel judgemental people can be for no reason, especially for those they see as different. It's about the inherent unfounded fear and hatred of anything new and different, and how that fear can turn people into the real monsters. Frankenstein's monster himself was very kind, peaceful and sensitive. He tried his best to fit in with people, but people rejected him simply for his looks. Even his own creator feared and hated him for the way he looked, despite being the one who made him. I think it's a story that most trans people can relate to, being judged, shunned, feared and hated by people, including our families, for no real reason, simply for being different from most. A lot of people can't see trans people as people, but instead see just what's on the surface, not even trying to see who we are as a person.

[@adammakes6673]

Same I got called everything and rejected 4 times

[@oramus5754]

Late but if you haven't read it already, Susan Stryker's literary analysis of frankenstein and transgender rage is very cathartic. Got me through the first few months of transition when my parents tossed me out and I was left homeless

[@adammakes6673]

@@oramus5754 yikes no one and i mean no one should go through that.

[@a.kap1]

I remember watching this video the night before I came out as trans: December 1st 2019. I was struggling and shaking just by the thought of telling anyone at all. I ended up telling my parents myself, and I'm extremely lucky to have loving, supportive parents. If anyone needs to hear this, trans or not, you're going to make it and It's going to be okay.

[@CryingARiver]

Thank you for this. I really mean it

[@hollymartinez1911]

I really needed this video today. my son Charlie just got his first shot of testosterone today and though I'm happy for him its still a little scary. thank you for making this video.

[@obsolete5697]

Holly Martinez can you tell my mom

[@artisticanxiety6399]

Thank you for using his preferred pronoun and name. I know he appreciates having an accepting mom like you. :) From a fellow scared trans boy.

[@baconnation1042]

Bad parent

[@hollymartinez1911]

@Delilah Duran Thank you! It's been three years now. He's had top surgery ( that was nerve wracking) I was there all day until I could see him and know he was okay. He healed and now feels more like himself, more comfortable in his own body. He also got married last year. I'm so proud of him and love him so much. If other parents read this, it's true that everything really will be okay.

[@asmrtok689]

@@baconnation1042 what do you mean she is an amazing parent

[@prosediva]

As the parent of a trans daughter, this video just warmed my heart. Thank you, Connor!

[@christynash6417]

I'm a struggling parent

[@terryhudon2071]

I’m a trans girl 17 and scared to come out but this video helped me feel better and I’ve seen it so many times because it helps me feel better

[@johndiaz4296]

@@christynash6417 please support ur kid how they are don’t stop them from transitioning or them dressing how they want to is very overwhelming when our parents don’t support us for who we are don’t listen to what ppl tell u about ur kid

[@xshh_sz]

@@christynash6417 just be there for your kid. listen. respect them. that’s all you need to do

[@bellaxxi4116]

I’m a 23 year old trans woman and I’ve told everyone close to me except my father. We have a great relationship with each other and I asked him the other day if he loves me don’t matter what happens in my life and he said yes I’ll always be there. But I still haven’t as an adult found the courage to tell him.

[@snnd2794]

This might sound weird but I'm so happy this video exists that I was crying whilst watching it

[@dannydecker3970]

Toby_Is_Random, I completely agree!

[@iamzero6507]

Toby_Is_Random I am too

[@mflores7064]

I was crying so much just watching it

[@rainbow-tp2tx]

Me to 😅

[@seanecus33]

Same here I’m having a depressed meltdown right now 😭

[@adiaz3497]

I'm a 13 year old trans boy, and I think I'll use this video to come out to my parents

[@ihaveaprofilepicturebutitw3527]

HeyItAlex I see by your profile pic it must've worked!😁😁

[@thomasturrell4309]

Update!!!

[@makeawishkid1339]

@@krislara9372 my parents already know that I'm trans its been really hard and complicating lately. Absolutely no point telling that I am gay because they're Gonna take it differently

[@anonx3332]

Hey, you’re 15 now, right? How did it go? Do you have any tips? I’m thirteen afab and about to come out as NB

[@ms.raincloud]

UPDATE ! UPDATE! UPDATE!!

[@KitKatThatAnimates]

I'm currently 14 years old and a trans female and I am actually considering telling my parents who I really am. Thanks buddy!

[@ehsanakbar1701]

hope they abandon you

[@trash.x3]

@@ehsanakbar1701meanie

[@Angels_wifi]

@@ehsanakbar1701 are you okay? you seem to be envious of people actually being happy and true to themselves

[@theghost9140]

My mom asked me recently if I wanted to be boy, I didn't want to come out so I said I don't know and locked myself in the bathroom, the last thing I heard before closing the door was "god made you a beautiful woman" but she's wrong, I still haven't come out and the thought of doing so makes me feel physically ill. I don't think she or my father would go to the extent of kicking me out or abusing me but they haven't even let me cut my hair because they don't want me "looking like a boy" I'm in 8th grade so I'll be going to high school soon and I feel stuck. I need to transition or at least cut my hair I can't go to high school looking like a girl when I'm not one. I don't know what to do, I could write a letter or make a video or something but even if I come out I doubt that they'll let me transition. Since the incident of my parents thinking I'm confusing myself with a boy which happened a few days ago, they have called me nothing that doesn't have the word girl in it, they're making me grow out my hair (it's at shoulder length at the moment and I wanted to trim it to get it back to chin length) and I'm not allowed to wear my beanie out in public, although I've never been allowed to do that since ever time I tried my mom would say I have to look like a normal person. My close friends know I'm trans and call me by the right name and pronouns but idk what to do about my parents since without their permission I can't transition

[@ConnorOKeefe]

No matter what, your safety comes first. I was lucky enough to have supportive parents, so I can't speak entirely to what you're going through right now, but I know how hard it is to have to wait to come out or start transitioning. Do you have any friends or other adults in your life you feel like would support your transition? Somebody you can talk to outside of your parents? I remember I had a few close friends who would use he/him pronouns with me when it was just a few of us before I could actually transition. Those little moments really helped me keep going. Feel free to send me an email if you need somebody to talk to.

[@theghost9140]

Connor O'Keefe I've come out to a few of my close friends and they call me Kai and he/him and let me vent to them which really helps, and I think at least one of my sisters would support me or at least not put me down all the time. But with my friends i don't want to mention it too much, or vent too much. I'm like that with most of my problems to them because I don't want to annoy them, I know they'd support me and want to hear what's in my head but it's just hard opening up to people. I write and draw a lot which helps too since paper won't judge me, but even then I feel kinda hopeless. No matter what action I have motivation to take I'm scared to do it since my parents are kinda strict. I might just take you up on that emailing offer, thanks. Sorry I'm all over the place I'm very scatter-brained

[@KingShigaraki]

Kai The Ghost oh I'm so so sorry fellow Kai hopefully you'll be able to move if they don't accept you I love you mate just know that

[@annacatherine8627]

Kai The Ghost I’m honestly in the same situation. I’m in eighth grade and about to go to highschool and my mom thinks I want to cut my hair to be a boy ( little does she know) one thing that I’ve done is told my mom that I want to donate my hair unfortunately that means I’ve had to grow it out but I’m pretty sure it’s getting cut January. My advice is tell her that you want to donate it and if she doesn’t believe you go to a friends house and cut it yourself. They can’t do anything about it then. Good luck

[@alexmatthew2618]

I'm sort of in the same situation my hair used to be almost down to my butt but I told my parents I wanted to donate it and at first my mom was ok with it bc she said she liked pixie cuts and I was getting a unisex looking pixie cut pretty much bc that's as close as I could get to a guys haircut but then last minute like a few days before the appointment she suddenly decided she didn't want me to get it cut then she thought I was going through a stupid rebellious teenager phase, I'm probably one of the least rebellious kids ever honestly I don't know why she thought that, so she suggested getting the underside shaved like some ppl do and I told her no bc that's not at all what I wanted but finally she atleast let me get it cut to a bit below my shoulders which is better but it's still really girly and I hate it. I'm going to highschool next year and I would like to get my hair cut and maybe start going by a different name by then but there is no way I could do that bc I've heard them say they think middle school is too young or an age to decide if your gay or anything like that. I've been thinking I was transgender for about 2 and a half years now and I recently got some close friends to start use by my correct pronouns and stuff but it sucks bc I can be myself around them but then it's like a smack in the face when I go here me from being happy and called my correct name my pronouns all of that stuff and then I come home to something like " hey angel how was your day sweetie" or " you'll always be my little girl" and things like that I love them and all but it sucks I decided either freshman or sophomore year i think I'll come out but I don't know how they'll react bc right now everytimr we go shopping or anything I'll pull out some shirt I found I like that I either got from the boys section or it's unisex or something like that and then my parents get really mad and when they'll be pulling out things and I say something like " sorry o don't really like that that much" I'll get a response that is usually something like "you better start wearing something I fucking like why don't I just dress girly anymore your not a little fucking boy" and then I get sad blah blah blah this comment honestly just kind of turned into a rant oops but oh well

[@kawaiipotato7830]

Dear Connor, I'm trans FtM, I told my parents a few months ago my mum said give it a while and think I did but I'm scared to tell them what I want again

[@DReivenn55]

I'm also ftm trans. My mom and grandma did the same. She came around a bit my gram didn't... she just totally regressed to negating everything I said and I know she tries to tell me things she does out of love and also fear. She worries about me my mom does too but mom is trying to accept and help me the best she can for the way the rest of my folks are and it means the world to me that my friends are accepting that my grandma didn't disown me and that someone in my family was willing to at least try and let me sort it all out if nothing else. I haven't even been to a therapist to be diagnosed with dysphoria properly or get any of the help or what feels like completely necessary proof for the entire process to even start... I've been genuinely afraid to brin it up again around my grandmother or the reat of my folks cause I'm certain they'd by far take it worse if even she isn't on board... it gets better slowly but I hope your parents will come around and be there for you

[@sadpatheticbardboy]

they invalidate me too

[@linkharris42]

Im 13 and when i came out my mum said she would support me if she belived me but she dont this video gives me so much hope even if it is years old 💙

[@kullinai]

I feel that. My mom says she's supportive but she keeps calling me her sweet little girl and it makes me cry myself to sleep 👍 I know I have to come out at some point because I can't just forget dysphoria

[@allowmetointervene]

The problem with my coming out is that I have two brothers. My biggest fear is that my family would be let down that they actually have 3 boys. My dad constantly calls me feminine names, sometimes I wonder if he knows and he's trying to change that?? Anyway, I'm scared my parents will think that I want to be a boy because of people I'm hanging out with, or even because of my other half of my messed up family. I really don't know what to do--

[@washyourmouthoutwithpope1334]

Payton Whitten i'm kind of the opposite, i only have two sisters and I'm pretty sure my parents are glad that it's an essentially "all female" household, that's how it's always been. they don't know what it's like to have a son and that freaks me out a bit.

[@blueuwu2388]

Holy crap we’re like exactly the same.

[@justdamienhere1325]

My mom and dad are on their way to five kids together me being the only one biologically a girl. They also happen to be very phobic to all of the LGBTQ+ community. I was not excepted when I came out as Pansexual- but after that I’m horrified to come out as trans. My mom loves to have me in cheer uniforms and to wear dresses and my dad doesn’t let me help out on his boat as much as I could because I’m not my brothers and am his only daughter with my mom. I feel that eventually it’ll get better and maybe if we learn to try and look at the good side of it... maybe things will get better. But try and find support in other places and you can help guide your family. It’s a scary thing, but sometimes things happen and they’ll need to learn to adapt at some point in time. You just have to be you.

[@amysievertokeefe8268]

Bob The Builder i

[@aimeebarry7958]

Im in your exact situation. I have 2 brothers and my dad and mum want me to be the perfect daughter :(

[@quinn9841]

I came out to my parents by letter and they spent what felt like forever screaming at me about chromosomes and metal disorders and wouldn’t let me say a word to defend myself. Maybe after winter break I’ll send this to them. I don’t think they understand how insanely sick it makes me feel presenting as female and hearing my deadname. They just want to have it their way and no other way. Edit, 5 years later: I'm a year on T now. It was hard, it was painful, but I've never been happier. I haven't told my parents and I plan on just letting them come to their own conclusions. But for any other trans people who couldn't see the end of the horizon like I couldn't, I promise there's an end. It might be messy, it might be long, but you're you and I'm proud of you for just being here. And if your dad doesn't like it, I'm your dad now.

[@simonm7572]

I feel your pain , dude...

[@quinn9841]

Aaron I still haven’t confronted them about it. But I’ve almost got a way for steady livable income, so that’s when it’ll happen. Man, this comment was a blast from the past.

[@blurryhds]

How are you doing, man??

[@mountain9310]

AYO, YOUR A F***ING MAN AND THERES NOTHING ANYONE CAN CHANGE THAT EXCEPT FOR YOU IF YOU DONT FEEL LIKE ONE FULLY OR AT ALL, YOU GOT SEVERAL COUNTRIES WORTH OF PEOPLE BY YOUR SIDE ON THE INTERNET And I really hope things get better for you man

[@jonahdavis6917]

I feel ya I feel like I'm in trouble for something that's out of my control. My mum told me about how hard it is to live as a trans woman and I'll get beaten up. She also said it would be hard to go to the loo in public and like yeah but who do you think that's because off, then when I get on the bus she texts me saying sorry if she made me feel unaccepted when she misgendered me constantly for a year when I first came out as enby (now identifying as nothing other than transfemme)

[@shrinkwrap1770]

Thank you. My child just came out to me and I'm so ashamed of my initial reaction. It's from a place of fear for their safety.

[@karengoetchius794]

Thank you for this video, Connor. I'm a momma of a 25-year-old adult child who is non-binary. This is a new journey for me. I really needed the encouragement you provided to parents right now. :)

[@bigtomboye]

@@karengoetchius794 your kid is very attention-seeking as a 25 yr old 😢 Hoping for the best outcome for your family 🙏

[@Somebody-g3i]

@@bigtomboye No, they're not. Are you attention-seeking for your identity? Probably not. All identities are valid. Wake up.

[@eyyaye3749]

I came out to my dad a few days ago as a trans dude, he told me im too young to understand all of this and he said he understands me more than i do. I cried everyday since then, i just wanted him to understand, i know i shouldn't expect him to know everything but some of the things he said hurt alot. He made me feel ashamed of who i am, and i haven't been able to shake it off. I hope this all gets better.

[@linex1780]

Hi. I don't agree with most transgender views, but I want to tell you that your dad most likely will come through. He won't value his view more than his son. He just knows you're not completely developed physically and shouldn't start hormone therapy or anything because you could regret it later on. I hope it gets easier for you.

[@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official]

He accepts you for who you are, not wild fantasies of who you want to be. Now, I say everything I say with outmost respect, you are only who you are born as. Your father is right, you are too young to be making life changing decisions like chopping off body parts and injecting experimental hormones into you. It’s expensive too, not to mention trans people have the highest rates of suicide. After you have read, if you feel comfortable, please give me an update on your situation.

[@MrBillagordon]

I'm so happy to have found this video!! My grandson is transitioning, and I have no issues at all with it. I'm fully supportive. What matters is a person's character! We are going to love her for the person she is ❤

[@Mrs.Robinsons]

I am so happy for you!! The world is rising to a higher vibration of love. Looking into a soul and loving an individual regardless of race, religion, political power, or wealth is as progressive as it gets.

[@bigtomboye]

@@MrBillagordon I'm deeply sorry for your family and hope this young person figures Life out 🙏

[@TheWerewolfofNorway]

You should be nowhere near kids.

[@princerae1423]

Hi I'm coming out here to myself, to random people on the internet, but it will feel good i am trans i am a boy Thank you for seeing this.

[@plurple165]

I support you

[@AlexandMoon-up1do]

If you need to here this from a rando on the internet, You are loved, you are beautiful, you are perfect. Your name, it fits you, your pronouns are your own. You are brilliant you don't need to prove yourself to anyone. I love you. Always. 🏳️‍⚧️❤️🙂

[@annenoceda7715]

@@AlexandMoon-up1do this comment made my day thank you!

[@one-onessadhalf3393]

I love you, my dude

[@adammakes6673]

COOL, hope your doing well now

[@connor7735]

Watching this video brought tears to my eyes. For almost two years now I struggled with my gender and I think that I have finally come to a conclusion. I am Trans FtM and nonbinary. My closest friend told me I could not be both. My own father complained the day that same sex marriage was made legal in all 50 states. My family constantly deadnames trans individuals and uses the wrong pronouns. My mother is far more supportive but I am still terrified. I am terrified to tell them how much I hate my body, how my breasts make me feel nauseous some days and that is why I bind them. Being closeted is Hell but being out is unsafe. I hope that in time their opinions will change or they will at the most see eye to eye with me and respect me as their child. One day they will realize that top and bottom surgeries are not mutilation and that sex and gender are very different things. I just hope that day comes soon.

[@one-onessadhalf3393]

I love you

[@trashboi7835]

Thank you. This meant a lot to me. I feel like I should have shown this to my dad when I came out. He said that transitioning would kill me and he believed I was fine the way I am...and that was the end of it. He just pushed it aside. It kind of broke my heart

[@williamchilds216]

Tell your dad that you don't have to take t. Tell him that all he has to do is use your pronouns, and think of you as your son/daughter. Tell him that's all he has to do. Just those two things. That's it. That's all you need. That's all you need. The rest you can do when you're older/ accepted for t.

[@trashboi7835]

lakon childs that's a sweet concept, but I have and he won't.

[@williamchilds216]

Eh. HIs loss. He can loose his kid. Just remember that this has happened for a reason. If this doesn't happen, you might miss out on a load of experiences you could've, otherwise, missed out on.

[@richardkirk5098]

Connor: I can’t tell you how much your video means to me. I’m the father of a trans child and the awful fear I have had for his future has been killing me. To have reassurance from someone like you who seems so grounded and happy is a “HUGE” relief. Thank you and God bless you.

[@oregano6727]

I just sent this to my mom to come out, nervous as hell

[@vivalachestnut8820]

Reagan Is spooky how did it go mate???

[@crimsonsixx8113]

Did it go well?

[@red-qk3ig]

How'd she react?

[@oregano6727]

It went great, she uses my proper pronouns and everything :3

[@Mariagarcia-lx6vf]

I’m so proud of you 👏 i wish I could do the same things are so different for me my family would never accept me

[@myahall8013]

My trans brother is almost 13 and came out as trans (ftm) and that is why I am here, to support him and to send and show this video to my parents :)

[@facelesssmoon9765]

I’m in college and still never coming out to my parents. If your kid sent this to you the amount of trust they have in you is astronomical. Be proud of them.

[@jeffreyburton5929]

Why is everyone turning tranny? Dont yall realize this is something very strange and not quite right? I mean, all the white 14 year olds are either gay or wanti g to trans. The propaganda is everywhere. Im just a transphobe. Society is twisted

[@r1tzy5551]

@@jeffreyburton5929 Also the detransitions are real

[@Pattycakes_Cake14]

​@@jeffreyburton5929Tranny? Look at your name, it sounds like a troll name 😊❤

[@pahl2010]

Connor, compliments to you, this is powerful, articulate and something I wish I'd stumbled across 3 years ago! You are correct..... It is ok, it has been ok and my family are all OK! Blessings to you x

[@jakopoasmr5538]

Omg I'm so happy that this is here thank you I can't wait to just show this to my parents

[@sugarcube9128]

My friend is going through this and me and my other friend support her SO MUCH! she's planning to tell her mother on 11/17/2017(aka this Friday) Shes using this video for that. I am so thankful to you that you made this video and I know she is too.

[@nikkiaisakilljoy140]

I might go upstairs and air play this to the TV when my parents are watching...I'm 12 years old and all my life so far I pretended to be like a girl to make my family happy...I just thought today I should try to make them understand that I want to be happy for once...

[@sansincontrol4178]

Cipher Tittle im ten and i am coming out this year i just need to know, how did it go

[@samfox1404]

God I am 12 and trans I still haven’t come out but I think I will send this video to them

[@4ntiquity]

@@samfox1404 how did it go?

[@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official]

Oh god these poor children have no idea what they might get themselves into 😢

[@ORGANÑNNNNNNN]

​@@Hammer-n-Anvil-OfficialMost of the people here are like 17-18 now, and so what if a child is trans? Im a trans kid? Big deal.

[@zachncheese3107]

thanks I needed this :-)

[@hotpocketoverlord7800]

hey Connor, I just came out to my dad again with your video. if he ever texts me back saying he will accept me... it would be a dream come true

[@seb.is.missing]

How's it go??? I know I'm a year late lmao

[@Tadpole_Plyrr2]

@@seb.is.missing I’m 3 years late... I hope they’re ok

[@seb.is.missing]

@@Tadpole_Plyrr2 same

[@andrewjordan6013]

Thank you for making this, it's so good. I just sent it to my dad.

[@Eli-sp8fl]

Andrew Jordan dude we have the same names 😂

[@LucyPipkin]

Connor, you are an amazing and thoughtful guy and I'm so happy I found this video and your channel. Gender is fluid, sexuality is fluid, and your incredible empathy for parents of transgender kids is incredible. Look at all the people you are helping and who have commented that this has made a difference in their lives. Keep fighting the good fight

[@kimmorgan1064]

What an amazing young young man you are! The more people understand, the more acceptance there will be. Kudos to your parents! You are making a difference. Well done!!

[@HezrouDhiaga]

I've been hiding my whole life (I'm 31) and I can't take it anymore. I dont know how to tell my mother, who is my only support and parental figure in my life, so I'm going to try showing her this video...wish me luck.

[@sunskist]

hey I hope you're doing better now. I turned 32 a few months ago and I had a breakdown at 30 and it took me over another year to begin accepting myself and secretly begin hrt. I'm still closeted I'm so scared of telling my family they are so conservative. I do not hate them, they tried their best w what they knew and were capable of ik they love me but I'm so fricking scared to tell them who I really am. I so hope to hear good news from your story and I hope you're doing so great these days as your real self ❤️

[@sunskist]

I need hope so bad

[@askyoursoul5775]

I'm definitely sending this to my mum. This is the way I'm gonna come out.. Again..

[@dudebro3825]

Well good luck! I hope it goes better!

[@therealhinatashoyo]

I’m going to do the same..

[@askyoursoul5775]

@GD Electro I forgot about this comment. I'm here now though :D I came out again to see if she would accept me. It's been 3 years and she still thinks I'm confused. She shuts me down everytime but says she still loves me. I'm almost an adult now, and I don't think she won't ever see me as me. It's a bit of a shame but, what can you do ya know?

[@askyoursoul5775]

@@therealhinatashoyo good luck my friend

[@spacecakery]

@@askyoursoul5775 Did it work?

[@carolinegriffin5068]

I have watched this video a lot over the last 48 hours and it has made me cry every time. Thank you for making me feel so much better while we take this journey with our new son

[@freelancebioexorcist174]

Thank you for this video. I have been in the closet for two years, and I’ve been terrified of what my parents would say and think. I needed this. Although I’m not my parents, I needed to be told that things would be okay for them. I’m currently composing a coming out letter, adding links for them to read. I’m adding this link in before anything else. Thank you.

[@justanaverageboy3983]

13 y/o trans gay boy here. Realised I was a trans at the age of 8, 5th year in the closet, I thought it was about time to come out as who I really am. I think I will be showing this to my parents. I hope they accept me:)

[@KellaiaMakori]

I realised i was bi in 2021 And nonbinary in 2022

[@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official]

Trans and gay? Defeats a lot of the purpose of really anything doesn’t make it? Anyway, thirteen and trans? Who ever raised you needs to be talked to.

[@wesanderson7918]

Thank you for making this video Conner. My son came out to his mother and me yesterday or he asked his therapist to tell us. This is so scary to me, I'm sure much scarier for him. I love him so much and want him or her to have everything she wants. I'm just terrified about the high suicide rate. Trying to process this all the best I can. I just want him to be okay. Thank you.

[@spiritmusicorum]

Connor, I'm 41 years old, and only recently started my journey. I do not have the fears or struggles that most children have coming out to their parents but I was terrified coming out to my wife, thankfully she's accepted me and is now my biggest supporter. Regardless, I found some peace and comfort in your video. You are an amazing young man, and thank you for creating this. I come back to it every so often to remind myself, it's all good. So please know, your message is powerful

[@ConnorOKeefe]

Thank you for your kind words! It's an 8 year old video (I'm pretty sure I was a Sophomore in undergrad when I made this. Now I'm teaching the undergrads!), and it really is touching for me to see it continues to be a source of comfort for some folks. I'm so glad your wife is along for the ride with you! Much love to you both

[@rayek.2672]

I'm about to send this to my I already know unsupportive mother. Hopefully this might change her mind

[@alexwestphal200]

Raye K. How did it go?

[@ihaveaprofilepicturebutitw3527]

Raye K. How did it go?

[@bluefoxdoodle7172]

My mum is like that I can relate and I’m gonna send this to her to help change her mind

[@artbookgaming]

I know it's been a year, but this never really got closure. Are you okay? Did they accept you? I'll respect that, if you don't answer, but I hope you're alright.

[@holaxd14548]

It's been 7 years, how did it go

[@andrewgills1306]

Hey Connor. I know my comment is late to the party. This video is lovely and refreshing. I’m a transgender man in my 40s. I commenced transition when I was 18 years old. That was over 20 years ago before KZbin and tumblr etc. Every so often, I come to KZbin to see what is being shared about the transgender experience and rarely have I seen such a strong and positive message. One that is compassionate to parents and acknowledges their feelings.

[@sarahwhite6584]

throughout the whole video you kept stating that 'it's gonna be okay'... man, i really needed to hear that :) thanks a lot

[@PunkPrince420]

I used this video 6 years ago to come out my mom's so incredibly supportive and I'm so happy, thank you Connor

[@loudestcloud]

Coming out to my family was super easy for me as my mum is Pan, my oldest sister is demi and my middle sibling is non binary so it wasn't scary at all. I am so lucky to have this kind of family Edit: I left this comment when I was 15 in 2017, 2 months after I came out and while yes, things are still going okay for me, I came back to this video because a family friend has came back into contact with me and her she refuses to accept her child as non binary but she accepts me just find. I'm trying to find a way to help her understand better but it's so hard

[@mariarench3177]

I have researched how to help my transgender child for days now and I have found this video to be the best source by far.

[@ildolorelamorte]

Thanks for making this video, it seems really helpful and I think I'll show it to my mother after I come out! :)

[@oliverjace3406]

Im currently 17 and am a Trans boy. I've tried telling my mom with the hopes she wouldn't just immediately tell my dad and I was wrong. I did this via letter/note and I told her in the letter that I wanted it to be between us and she completely ignored my wishes and told my dad. It didn't go well with him... He said he was there for my birth and I was born a girl and always will be that way.. I've come to the terms that I may have to leave my family behind when I move out of my parents house to insure my safety and happiness and I'm prepared for that knowing I have friends that support me and will be there for me in my process and journey. I'm hoping by sending this video to my mom it will help some of that and get her to realize that it's always going to be this way and its not me trying to rebel on her. i'm not sure what I can do to help myself because i'm not allowed to cut my hair super short or dye it tell im 18. and I only just turned 17, 2 weeks ago. I've had a lot of time to think about this since I was sure of myself when I turned 14 and have kept it inside ever since. My family has always been very religious, My moms side is Catholic while my dads side is Christian so it's very hard for me to do much of anything at this point. If any of you have advice on what to do or where in my situation before and know how to help please let me know! I need as much help as I can get at this point...Thank you for coming to my TED Talk. I know this comment maybe a little all over the place i'm sorry for that.

[@Ooccrim]

The thing is my mom "pretends" to support it. And it hurts. Last night she was mad at me and I guess she was so "mad" that she yelled at me calling me by my dead name then said "Everyone else gets to call you *dead name* why can't I?" It hurt so damn much that I threw up...I just want support from my family.

[@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official]

You *want* support from your family, but what you need is to research gender dysmorphia.

[@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official]

You *want* support from your family, but what you need is to research gender dysmorphia.

[@Ooccrim]

@@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official this was years ago, they support me now. And I embrace who I am

[@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official]

@@Ooccrim who you want to be, as stated in my first comments.

[@Ooccrim]

@@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official Cry about it why are you on this video if you dont like trans people

[@sam-qo4rh]

I’ve only just came across this 3 years since this came out. My mum went through my phone and she told me I’m too young to know that I’m trans which really made me upset. When my mum comes around I’m going to use this. Thank you❤️

[@luckii7017]

I really hope my mom comes across this video

[@Caffeinated_Arden]

Thank you so much for this video, I came out to my mom yesterday and I just sent this to her. I hope now she understands

[@AavaSelonen]

Omg thank you. Even tho this has been made over 6 years ago in still gonna use this, thank you so much I need this. I'm gonna use this to come out

[@nyaninjo]

2:03 thank you, I'm laying here on my bed crying my eyes out, this video might just save my life,,, thank you 💜

[@TheWackoGreenAlien]

Connor so lucky that his parents accepted him pretty much straight away

[@turningwrenches89]

My child just told us today that is transgender. My child is 10 years old. We are Christians, and active in our church, and I will be having a conversation with my Pastor that may or may not push us out of the church. Praying for Gods will here.

[@alittlecornerofearth5595]

I just came out not even an hour ago using this video, thank you so so sooo much Connor! Without this I would have never been able to do it. I have lived with my grandparents all of my life, & ive been in the closet for 9 years (since 1st grade). I could never find the right words, but this was absolutely perfect. If you were curious, yes, my grandma excepted me! It was such a huge relief & I've never felt happier! I am going to wait to come out to my grandfather after High School though (if he doesn't catch on that is) since he Isn't as open to this kind of thing like my grandmother is, so I'm sure in 4 or so years I'll be pulling this video up again! Just... Thank you so much again, you really helped me make a huge leap in my journey & you calmed my grandma down to the point were she understands a bit more now. I love you so so much & I hope you have a wonderful day!

[@jeffreyburton5929]

So you have been wantimg to fuck dudes since the first grade? Being molested or manipulated doesn't make you gay. It just makes you confused

[@D1008-hgf]

How did it go?

[@aureliagrey8072]

I'm 27 and just starting my transition. I am scared to death to tell my parents and so I am putting together a playlist of resources. This video is so affirming that it is going to be the first video on that playlist for when I come out to them.

[@Mystic-j41776]

I’m a 15 year old, transgender, bisexual woman, and my parents are VERY religious. I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to come out to them, at least until I’m 18, but if I do decide to this video would be a big help. Thank you ❤🏳️‍⚧️

[@CottenVee]

I am trans masc, bigender, abroromantic, and asexual. No I am NEVER coming out to my parents. My mom is super religious, meanwhile my dad being conservative.

[@ssanzi5909]

Thank you. I really had no idea of how to explain this to my parents. Your video helps. A LOT.

[@livc9182]

im 12 and ive told my mom a few months ago and all she had was questions, she told me she had a daughter and not a son, so i just told her i will paint my nails and wear skirts more often because she doesn't like seeing me wearing my brothers clothes to make me feel more comfortable, she was so hesitant even she put me in therapy and thinks im just going through a faze and thinks all i need is to let it out, so i agreed with her and because i want to avoid those questions i just let her do whatever she want with my life knowing she wont accept me again, im thinking about telling her again by sending her this video trying to make her understand more sorry for my bad grammar ):

[@tsukki9345]

i've hidden your jams You shouldn't care what your mother wants to do with your life. It's yours for a reason. Being more girly just gives her more of a reason to think it's a phase. Just be yourself

[@wathiq117]

This made me so sad. I hope your situation is better now.

[@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official]

The only way to get better is to get diagnosed and help for your gender dysmorphia, may God be with you.

[@ASingh-yb8tv]

@Spookymcspookface spelling error, you mean dysphoria, there's a difference between "body dysmorphia" and "body dysphoria"

[@vaatisrevenge4663]

Sent this to my mother, now we await a response. Thank you so much for making this Mister Connor. I admire your care for other trans individuals, please keep doing what you do and stay safe! Lots of love and support.

[@ty-ri9zp]

Thank you for this video. I am coming out on January 10th to my mom as ftm and I'm going to use your video. Thank you very much Connor!!

[@marisam.]

I’m not transgender but I was curious to see what this video was about. This video is awesome. If you’re going though a hard time remember your going to be okay :).

[@ReaofDusk]

Im using this to finally come out to my parents, I am a transwomen, but I havent even started the transition because im only 11

[@tomorrowweeekly4339]

Meme Team Im a transgender male. And i’m 10. Im also going to use this video when I come out. I know this comment is random, And you don’t know me. But I just wanna say. Good luck on your journey I know you going to get there

[@ReaofDusk]

@@tomorrowweeekly4339 thank you so so much for believing in me, this journey is definitely gonna be wild

[@brownpridemexican5212]

Aww I hope u both get accepted by parents and remember god loves you

[@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official]

@@brownpridemexican5212 God loves you for who you are born as, not who you want to be.😊 hope this helps.

[@emmettfatcheric9798]

Thankyou so much for this overwhelmingly beautiful video!!!! You spoke the words that I'm not strong enough to say and I am so grateful:) I'm showing this to my mother soon so I'm hoping it goes well!!!!

[@dead.weight3604]

Ok but question... my parents found out I was going by trans at school by going through my phone and they weren’t happy in the slightest bit. They kept asking me why and I had no idea what to say.. if I replied, “because I feel like a boy” the response was “you don’t feel like anything, you can feel emotions but it doesn’t make sense to feel like a gender.” And if I use the reply, “I want to be a boy..” the response was, “well I wanna be a billionaire, oop- look at that it didn’t happen!” So if you read all this please can someone help me say what I need to because frankly idk how to.

[@Ziggyx626]

Hey I know you commented a month ago and you probably won’t see my reply and I know i might not the best person to help but I really feel you I went through something like this and personally I feel that a lot of transphobia from parents stems from a place of ignorance my parents really came around when they learnt more about what being trans meant and how happy it made me I hope this helps.

[@bloodmoonlps]

Hmm... I know it's been 2 months, but I'll say this anyway: You don't "want to be a boy" you ARE a boy (or if you figure out you're something else, that's cool to). You already are who you are. What you WANT is to be happy. And if cutting your hair, wearing boy stuff, doing boy stuff, being who you are makes you happy... Then that's what you want to do. You just want to do the things that make you happy, and for lack or words or putting it as simple as possible that means "being a boy"... you. I know that's something that may be difficult for a lot of people to understand. You need to realize that they might see and think of things very differently than you do. They don't understand what you are taking about and so if you explain it they just see it as you not being able to "proof them wrong", because in their mind they are talking of something completely different. It's not your fault. Just know you don't need to "proof" anything to them in order to know who you are. It's they're own loss if they refuse to meet you. Hope you're doing well, as well as you can.

[@arnotts_2k184]

I'm a 15 year old trans male and I came out 1 year ago to my parents. They now openly ignore it and i'm thinking of using your video to help talk to them about it. I have no clue how its going to go or if ill try to talk to them at all but I just wanted to say thank you for making this video, it will and probably already have helped a lot of people.

[@lemnlyme]

I’ve been searching for a video like this to send to my friend to send to her parents. I’m a lesbian, I grew up in the Mormon church, so did my friend. I don’t particularly want to be Mormon, I don’t really believe in a god at all to be honest, but my friend is very much devoted to this religion. We were at a church camp this summer, about a couple of weeks ago, and my friend and I are talking. She’s seemed to be very stressed recently and I could tell that something was weighing down on her. When I asked what was wrong she broke out into tears and told me that her eldest brother (she’s in a family of seven children, her being the third youngest) was researching online and discovered what it means to be transgender and felt so strongly that that was what was missing in his life. He came out to his parents and they’ve been having a very VERY difficult time dealing with it. I took that time as a moment for me to come out. I told her and she told me that she always figured, and that she doesn’t judge and that although she doesn’t accept it, (because Mormons have this whole plan that is very serious about Man and Woman joining together) she does love all people of the LGBTQ community. I told her how I am such a huge advocate of supporting our rights and I told her about all kinds of things she can do to support her older sister. She’s still shaken up about it, The way she put it was that she feels like someone she’s known her whole life is just gone, and I tried to word that that wasn’t true, but I lacked the way to tell her. Which is what led me to this. I’m so happy I found this and I love you so much for making it. I’ll send this to her right away.

[@lucylking]

My daughter shared this video when she came out, and I think it is a beautiful way to go about it. We're a progressive family, so there was never a chance that we'd be non-supportive, but I have shared this video over and over to help family members or friends who might be going through something similar. Thanks for your gentle words of comfort. :)

[@BrotherlyBearsBackbone]

I tried to send this to my mom and she responded with “🙄 Go to sleep.”

[@radcat8550]

I can imagine my mom yelling at me as soon as she sees the word “transgender”

[@Drekavacmilitaria]

Friend of mine came out to her parents and they flipped out I’ve been trying to help my friend get his parents to accept who she is, I’m not trans and I’ve never known anyone who has made that transition, I still slip up sometimes but I’m working on it best I can I feel lost but I want to help in any way that I can

[@toriandjoshschulte8135]

My 29 year old son just told me yesterday that he is trans. This video made me cry, made me smile and made me hope. Thank you for posting this. My head is spinning but I know this is not about ME! It’s about who my child truly is inside. I AM the parent that has been up for two nights researching, joining support groups…finding any way I can connect and support them during this time. Thank you again for this video. It truly helped my heart.

[@eliserivkin7853]

Holy wow I love this boy

[@salpappalardo7104]

^

[@hussicots]

Thank you for being on KZbin. My sister’s oldest child (15) just came out to the family as identifying as male. I’m open and supportive, as we all are, but we don’t know much about it and your words are very helpful.

[@carmendelatejera7448]

My child just came out to me. I am bawling my eyes out with this video right now

[@AmberKCreative]

Same 💙

[@ChaoticMeltdown]

Sending this to My Father. I recently Informed my Parents that I have Started HRT (March 7th) And I hope that he'll watch this.. since he said he would try.

[@batzy206]

I love you so much for making this. This will definitely make my coming out a ton easier. Thank you so much. You have no idea how much I appreciate this.

[@strawberrynans]

I just came out to my mom and sister and sent this to my mom, sitting here in tears. Thank you.

[@finngywingies]

My mom always talks about how all she wanted was a beautiful little girl and that she was so happy when I was born, that I was perfect. and my dad wanted a son too so then my brother was born. tomorrow she will find out she has 2 sons....

[@D1008-hgf]

How did it go?

[@Gamerstrats1987]

I am terrified to tell anyone other than my mom. My moms boyfriend wont like it probably, and i KNOW for a fact that my grandparents wont like it because they are christians.i only feel safe telling mom. Edit: i did it, and it was a success!!!

[@TheHouseAlwaysWins123]

thx bro I needed this to come out as a 700lb black trans woman

[@Hammer-n-Anvil-Official]

I used into to come out as a hippopotamus

[@ASingh-yb8tv]

🖕what the fuck is wrong with y'all it's not a freaking joke🖕

[@wyrmur727]

Thank you for this video! I used this to come out to my parents two days ago since I am not good at talking to them about anything that could be emotional. I expected to have them be upset but they were very calm. Now I'm trying to figure out the next step from here.

[@lizzyseed9138]

Every single person needs to watch this video

[@rileynavarra7652]

last night i sent this to my mom and this morning she came in to my room and comforted me. thank you connor 💕

[@yasussy]

I am a 11 year old trans guy. I might use this to come out to my mom

[@-candylovesans-]

I've been searching everywhere for a video just like this. I'm already half out to my mom, and I'm trying to find her stuff to give her that she can understand easy. I know this video is really old, but Connor, you're doing amazing. You've really helped so many people, and you're about to help one more. -KC, he/him

[@gh0stly.x36]

I recently came out as trans but my parents don't really understand or except it they think if I transition I'll be a lonely sad person when really it would do the opposite I'm having a hard time explaining this to them..

[@shaelynch537]

I watched this video and it literally brought tears to my eyes. I will be sending it to my husband to watch. Thank you for sharing this message.

[@alx3296]

My fellow trans people, (who've come out) How long was the time before you realised you were trans and when you came out? WOAH EDIT:: damn i been out since like a year since i wrote this :0 damn am i happier now??

[@butter366]

quinny the pooh I’ve known I was trans for a year, I started coming out socially at college in September, my family is yet to know, I hope that’s helpful

[@isaiah-ek4xb]

i was sort of questioning whether or not i might be in july 2017 but i pushed it out of my mind. it wasn't until october of this year that i finally accepted that i'm isaiah, a boy. i came out in november.

[@NKC228]

I havent came out but ive known i was trans for 4 years now. 4 years ago I found out about the word transgender

[@mylifehappinessiskey9150]

I was 13 when I came out

[@onepersoncovers81]

I was 11 when I first realized I was a trans male (username's my deadname so the parents don't find out), but it took me till I was 13, in December of last year to come out... did not go well, Dad's transphobic and Mom decided to go with him... I'm doing okay though

[@alexthetrashgod1047]

today I gave my grandmother a letter saying that I was trans and today I found this video thank you for making this video it calmed me down after crying for a hour I just finished crying

[@_thatoneguy_5127]

I know it’s 5 years later but I came out as trans and my mom pushed me back in I cried for so so long and I still do when I think about it so I’m thinking of sending this to her

[@dem2584]

I’m a trans woman (MTF) and I think I will be using this video tonight to come out to my mum thank you

[@hellofellowhumansstudios8335]

I would like to mention that being one of the sub labels of being trans (NB, gender fluid, bi gender, or anything else) are still trans gender

[@loser7562]

"you could be watching this video under a number of-" I'm a trans boy frantically trying to find how my parents could react to me coming out

[@rem6083]

It has melted my heart that this video has helped so many people, but I just cant do it myslef. I am a trans boy (ftm) and the only two people I have come out to is my closest friend and my sister. Any tips on how to come out? Ps. My parents are fine with anyone being LGBTQ but I am just to scared to do it, Thank you for your time ❤

[@dem2584]

I emailed this to my mum she doesn’t believe me since I’m in to male stuff mainly since I grew up with a mostly male family and friends I thank you for making this video

[@DeMasella]

I needed this so badly. *Sobbing*

[@kaisetic3150]

I'm making a playlist to help me come out to my parents. This video is definitely going in. Update: I came out to my mom and sister and told her to watch this but I don't think my mom did, but my sister did and is totally supportive!