To The Angry Mother: You Have HOPE

[@mustardseedfaith21]

“As mothers, our voices should be the most comforting thing to our children. Our hands should be the most gentle touches that they feel. Our children should never hear our voices and want to run away. Our children should be hearing our voice and want to come running into our arms. That is what God has designed mothers to do. We are to be tender and soft and gentle. That is precious to God.” Wow! This is SO true and has really encouraged me. Thank you so much for this incredibly timely word.

[@Laurentss.x5]

i want to cryyyyy because i’m struggling so so much with getting rid of just in a negative mood all the time and idk why

[@Godsdaughter771]

I'm the same way so much mom guilt

[@AllieGreenxoxo]

Me too😢 I’m in a bad mood all the time. Ughhhh it sucks im so sorry you’re struggling too. 💔

[@IvyNelson-ur9eo]

GIRL SAME

[@katiegodinho2275]

Me too. It feels like I'm trapped in irritability.

[@HomemakerDaze]

I recon its not enough sleep and hormones issues that drs never seem to help with. There is natural supplements that help balance hormones.

[@shantalaguilar9887]

PLEASE continue these mothering videos they are GOLD so much insight it’s truly a blessing

[@katie4036]

Literally how? Like how do you make the exact videos every time of things I am currently working through?? The HOLY SPIRIT is so good

[@Klaudyacampos]

I have been putting off her videos exactly because of what you said. And wow, I feel so convicted. Every. Single. Video. Its like she's looking into my life

[@PaytonHaggart]

Yes same!! I commented a few videos back a piece of scripture the Lord had laid on my heart and I had been meditating on she started discussing in a video. I noticed this video she is reading feminine appeal by Carolyn Mahaney, again I laughed because I’m literally reading the same book. The Lord uses people ❤️ thank you Milena for being obedient.

[@maritzah.4039]

Oh my gosh this was for me. I grew up in a house where yelling and cursing were the norm. Got married and it happens in my house now. I NEED to pray over my house with verses every hour like our lives depend on it!! Thank you for this!!!!

[@IndigoJebus]

I’m already crying just seeing the title because I feel like this is the video that I’ve been waiting for, for the longest time.

[@PaigeSzupello]

This perspective!!! “If anything just look at the hands of our children. Nothing is more humbling than looking at our children’s tiny hands and feet” 🥺🥺🤍🤍

[@anestassia6346]

When I read the title of your video I broke down crying. I had just had a breakdown and cried out to God telling him how angry I am, with Him, with the world, with myself. I just lost my baby girl at the beginning of September, she was stillborn at 40 weeks and 3 days. I’ve been so angry at God for taking her from me, for letting me get so far along and to show up at the hospital thinking we’d be going home with our baby, only to leave empty handed. I just don’t understand why. My sister and I were pregnant together, she had twin girls and I just can’t bring myself to hold them. My sister in law is literally in labor as I type this and will be having her baby girl soon and I’m so angry and hurt that I don’t have my baby to hold. I feel so lost and broken and I feel myself getting bitter and taking it out on my husband and not being the best mother for my older daughter.

[@lisav4400]

😢my heart is with you! I hope things get better with time ✨

[@kamrynstewart6940]

i am so sorry, i am praying for Gods healing for you🤍God is a compassionate God so please keep crying out to Him, He holds our tears in a bottle. He is El Roi and He sees you even though it may be hard to believe right now. I love you sister in Christ 🤍

[@macypantana]

I’m so so sorry that you’ve had to experience such tragic loss.💔 truly my worst nightmare so I feel so much compassion for you. Our human minds will never be able to understand fully why things like this happen but I hope these verses can uplift you today.❤️ praying for you to heal from this trauma and not hold bitterness or resentment towards your sister or God.🫶🏼 “Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do… Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him.” ‭‭James‬ ‭1‬:‭2‬-‭8‬, ‭12‬ ‭NIV‬‬

[@carlaj8368]

Bless you. I’m so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in our lord. ❤

[@SilentahJ]

I’ve never experienced this, but as a mom my heart hurts for you! What you feel is not surprising, and it can be super challenging to trust God in heart wrenching moments. But, nonetheless we have to hold on to what is true; that He is who He says He is regardless of any circumstance. He is the Lord your God, who is with you ( Deuteronomy 20:4). He is The God of all comfort, ( 2 Corinthians 1:3-4). I know that’s easier said than done, but as followers of Christ in are darkest moments we must cling to Jesus who is the truth, and light not turn away from Him. Use this time to speak scripture over your life (His truth). Give yourself grace, and know that you are not hurting alone. God feels what you feel, and He sees you right where you are. Nothing that has happened has caught Him by surprise. In this moment, grip His hand even firmer, and know that He has a plan for this. Everything is for His glory and for your good! Hang on sister. I know that it won’t be easy, but it will get better and God will heal you and turn this into something beautiful. I am praying for you!

[@stephaunmorrison101]

For future ideas. Can you possible write in the description every verse you’ve used. So we can also write down and study. I would love to have all the written verses and study it. Sometimes I don’t have all the time to sit and listen for all the verses. Mom 3 under 3 🤗

[@ameliaduden488]

This⏫️

[@SimplySami13]

yesss i was gonna comment this too! it would be so incredibly helpful!

[@KimisBeautifulLife]

This video is such an answered prayer! I’m six months PP tomorrow with baby girl #2 and have been struggling so bad with anger! I’m literally appalled at myself for the things I’ve done and said to my children. I love the idea of setting alarms for praying Bible verses. I’m going to screenshot what you have and get that set up right now! I hope this helps me memorize God’s word to fight against the evil one. Thank you Milena for following God’s will for your life so you can minister to us mamas. I know so many of us needed this video 🤍🙏🏼

[@abigail.l4990]

I'm 6 months PP with my third and have also been struggling so badly with anger. I've been feeling so guilty 😔 it's nice to know that a lot of other mommas out there are dealing with this.

[@BryceBlanchard-gh2yq]

Hey there ☺️ I saw your comment & I wanted to just say that I understand and i sit with you there, mama. The shame tactic of the enemy can [feel] so suffocating sometimes. ( but the truth is it ISNT cause he's a whimpy loser ) it just [feels] very intense sometimes.. 😉 I am almost 4 weeks PP with my 4th, and my oldest is 4. 💕 these past few weeks have been very challenging and refining in the area of anger. I too have been appalled by the things that have came from my heart, and off my tongue, then thrown onto my sweet babies and loving husband. And the actions I have so foolishly thrown at them too. I have spent much time lamenting and repenting for the way I've been... I've spent many *years* chalking it up to " post partum hormones, stress in life, I'm hurt in this area " and it never really hit the root. It hasn't cut it this post partum period. He has very gently exposed the root of this anger and rage being purely sin in my heart. Nothing more nothing less. He's validated, and healed the trauma and hurt that laid the foundation for the anger.. but it's time to take responsibility for my actions and behavior and hand that part over! Been a very mindful, every minute process. With forgiving myself and receiving his grace for my loses... praising him for my wins.. This video came at the perfect timing!! Didn't it?! God is so good to use his body to empower His people... I will be praying for you as you navigate and praying we remember to use these tools Milena provided for us. How awesome!! 💕 You are a beautiful mother, gentle and kind... you do have self control. compassion and love is your garment, and He is your covering. ☺️🌹 shalom to you! By his Grace, we can do this. 🙏

[@abigail.l4990]

@@BryceBlanchard-gh2yq Amen sister!

[@rgroves1484]

I’m only half way through but this is a great video thank you! I’ve really struggled with anger and I’ve found a couple of things helps me recently: 1) using noise reducing ear plugs (I’ve just got Loop earplugs and they’re v good)- can still hear the children but the crying and noise is reduced and less overwhelming 2) I wear a children’s teething toy around my neck as a necklace to squeeze when I’m really frustrated- having something to release my emotions onto is helpful. Thanks again xx

[@LilyRF]

Thank you so much for this!!! I really needed it. Sometimes I just want to squeeze something because of how overwhelmed, stressed and tired I am. But I just keep everything inside.

[@julia.mattei]

Yes to noise reducing earplugs!!! I've gotten some for when I'm PMSing. The squeeze toy is a great idea, will try that

[@emilyebrown6037]

This video was such a blessing to me! I’m the mom who grew up in a very abusive household where hitting, beating, threatening and screaming was part of every day life for me. I vowed I wouldn’t be that way to my children but here I am… screaming my way away from the temptation to spank my children. I thought I was weird for being so angry at such little people or feeling as though yes I love my kids but I do not like them. I pray that the Lord make me soften my heart. I pray the eyes, mouths and hearts of all the mamas struggling with anger including myself. I’m setting those alarms now! Thank you x10000 Also, the entire proverbs 10 speaks much about our mouths. ❤️

[@gabymontrose9324]

“They’re exposing the sin that is already in our heart” moved my spirit and is so powerful. I’ve heard people say our children know our weaknesses and “push those buttons” specifically. This is a way better perspective on something us moms know to be true. Thank you 🙏 15:13

[@candicewells6618]

Amen amen amen!!

[@Velvetgreencouch86]

Ive struggled with this as well, but Mathew’s verse that says “for by your words you will be acquitted or condemned” convicted me so much and I work tirelessly to adjust my tone and the words I choose. Milena your encouragement and videos and testimony has helped me so much! I now pray over myself (hand on head!) and ask for a quiet and meek spirit and that my words be of peace, gentleness, light, and honor. Thank you for all the things Milena ✨😊

[@lynn5505]

Thank you for this God lead video, I’m almost 39 weeks pregnant. Hormonally I’ve been struggling- but in my fleshly sin nature I struggle with my tone. I’ve been praying that the Lord would help me have a positive tone, a softer tone. Crying/ screaming really makes me anxious and I often don’t handle these situations with a soft tone. Ive been super convicted lately- I was raised by a mother who had a very critical tone/ tongue. A learned pattern- but that doesn’t have to be the pattern I walk in. I love the tip to be comfortable with silence. A lot of times I get exasperated when my younger toddlers aren’t quick to listen or obey.

[@nicolejagdeo7409]

Praying for us mamas, this is not easy. Our children feel and see how we act and it all plants seeds, whether good or bad.

[@ahomemakersnotebook]

“We need to learn to be quiet” I agree 🤗 talking to myself here 😅

[@hellymia88]

„Set a guard over my mouth, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips.“ ‭‭Psalm 141‬:‭3‬

[@haileeraenichole]

Wow. Just wow. Look at how many mothers needed to hear this! Thank you for speaking the word of God over this topic that many of us didn't even know how to begin to handle. I wish I could like this video a billion times over. This video is such a help in giving us the scripture and the tools to handle this enormous challenge that many of us struggle with in motherhood. Thank you thank you. God Bless you and your beautiful family❤

[@MissAlexaKatherine]

I needed this right before the holidays because the holidays have been very stressful for my family and extended family. Thank you.

[@melissapaiz8717]

Ugh I been praying often about being released from anger but 😅 you mam, gave me a whole new perspective. Thank you. Your an answered prayer

[@stephaunmorrison101]

Using my husband account here 🥰 🤗Wow first time I’m a first commenter. Beautiful to see your transformation. Love what you’re doing for the Lord. I needed this video. 23 with 3 all under 3!!! And a marriage that isn’t at the state I would like it to be. Pray for the Morrison family. Anyone who reads this.

[@ShadesofSage]

🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@irinamo8512]

Just prayed for you! 🙏🏼 May the Lord give you lots of wisdom, love, health and patience to be the wife and the mother that the Lord wants you to be for His glory! ❤

[@elastinen80]

Yayy for us being a team husband's account 🙌🏻🥹🥰 Will pray for you and your family 💛

[@Sith_Mimi]

Such a blessing to listen to this today, thank you for sharing Milena! I’m constantly asking the Holy Spirit to touch my tongue, touch my lips, refine my speech, let me not speak without your direction, let my words be filled with your truth and love and kindness. In the name of Jesus!!!

[@cbhjsrmommy]

What you said about look at their hands....that is SOOO TRUE...❤

[@lindseycallahan3484]

Something I do and more so now when I get frustrated overwhelmed, I sit in the floor and have my babies sit by me and we sing primary songs. We are take a “time out” and hug it out.

[@TDBee09]

I needed this. Just transitioned from a mom of one to a mom of two, husband and I both work outside the home, but we also keep our kids -no daycare so we woke alternate days of the week so one of us is always with the kids. We also started a new business this summer (luckily I was on maternity leave for 5months while our business opened and it’s been self sufficient and we have a great team running things now that I am back at my job/watching our kids. It’s so so much and there is so much emotion and I don’t want my 4yo to feel she’s the issue although her little attitude has been a lot, but I know I have to keep my composer and stay calm bc escalating the situation isn’t helpful. 😅 “A soft answer turns away rath.”

[@HisHolyPromises]

I needed this & didn’t know it! But God knew ❤ thank you milena ❤

[@SimplySami13]

i needed this more than you know! i’m a first time mom to a precious 11 month old and he’s getting into toddlerhood and this video was right on time. there’s been times where I’ve yelled at him and i am definitely not proud of how i’ve been toward him lately. thank you so much for this specific video. it’s actually helpful with tools to really help change me. wow. thank you Jesus!

[@littlevintagelife]

Im not even half way into this video and I'm already near tears. Thank you for sharing this 🙏🏻❤ so blessed to have women like you to look up to!

[@Skw384]

Can I listen to this on repeat forever? Thank you!!!!!!!

[@sarahhegedus9182]

My son just turned 8 weeks old. He’s my second, and I’ve been feeling overwhelmed with the transition from 1-2. His name is James. It’s so encouraging to be reminded of the fact that the book of James is saturated with truth about anger and how to bridle it. Thank you for this beautiful encouragement 🤍

[@JennaButryn]

hey melina! i was wondering if you could post a video talking about your kid’s schedules & how you manage them and how you change them as they get older? (bed times, nap times, meal times, etc.) I have a 2 year old and I’m struggling trying to find the right schedule for her 🥲

[@mbshelby18]

This is my hardest challenge and greatest sin. Thank you for making this video to help encourage 🙏

[@victoriamourier5085]

Thank you for your videos. I'm a stay at home mom to a 17 months old and I'm 3 months pregnant, you inspire me and help me a lot. Thank you, blessings over you and your family

[@Sophyagomez]

Oh how my heart needed this 😭 I have struggled with this for so long and God has been revealing this to me for some time and this was definitely a much needed reminder ♥️ God bless you Milena.

[@ashmckee]

Quietly hold it back! ❤ Your forest green dress is bringing me the joy of our season today!! ❤

[@ameliaduden488]

If you are new to praying and are having a hard time coming up with prayers, pinterest has a lot of great prayer inspo ❤🙏

[@cbhjsrmommy]

I have 8 children and i am loving these mothering videos!!! ❤❤❤ thank you!!! My parents were not normal towards me growing up and i really wanted to break that yelling and fits cycle so bad

[@Mintbumblebees]

this one is so so good thank you for this video i can tell a lot of women including me needed this!

[@thepursuitoffelicity]

Recently saved by God in March of this year, with your videos being a HUGE part of my testimony, and I remember in that first month I was so humbled when it came to my tongue as God quite literally tamed my tongue physically for about a week and a half. This video is so needed! Thank you for sharing ❤

[@MamaMinistry]

Literally brought me to tears!!!😭😭😭 This is exactly what Holy Spirit has been convicting me about. Thank you so much for following His lead Milena!❤

[@kassidy4976]

I think this is one of my favorite videos I’ve ever seen you post. This is exactly what I’ve been trying to figure out but haven’t quite known how to even begin this process. Thank you

[@jessicawallace7752]

Thank you so so much. My little one is teething and yesterday was tough. The anger was so present; definitely noticed an issue with my tone while homeschooling my oldest

[@WomanOfJoyPod]

Thank you Milena. 💛 This video truly blessed me. I am someone that struggles with opening my mouth too much when I’m angry, so your loving reproof to be quiet was what I needed to hear. Thank you for the practical tips as well, I never would have thought to just close my eyes! Your preaching style videos are great and so encouraging, keep going sister!

[@sierragracemusic]

Shared this with all my postpartum mamas! Such a great reminder.

[@melissaherrera5773]

I needed this and I needed to hear this, god bless 🙏🏼

[@kelly_keepsitreal]

Wow what a blessing.. I’m so thankful for the light you shine, Milena. When I saw this video title, it was a very hard day for me and I knew it was the Lord orchestrating His will that you posted this. I finally had a chance to take time to watch and I am in tears just so thankful. ❤

[@jesusisthelordofall4715]

Woah.. you talking about our tone. That is definitely something I need to work on. Your videos are a blessing.

[@feetjeforever]

I never comment, but boy this got to me. I was praying this week to the Lord to help me trough the arrows of the enemy, he really triggered me and I was so so so angry, I couldnt reconize myself… it was awfull. This really is a God sent message to my heart ❤️😭

[@iyagamboa]

I didn’t want this video to end because i was learning soo much from it. Thank you for posting this. God bless you and your family always 🙏🏼

[@esteph154]

Such a much needed topic! Thank you Milena ❤️ Struggled with postpartum rage and the Lord is healing me in such a profound way. There is hope mamas ❤️🙏

[@simmipreeti9322]

I’m doing laundry as I listen to this frustrated and down but truly God is Good! I really needed to listen to this thank you so much May the Lord keep blessing you and speaking through you . ❤

[@siarrahkallai]

I opened KZbin to type in “How to correct in love rather than anger.” This video showed up first when I opened the app. Coincidence, I think not.

[@sondrahaywood4781]

On the other hand, if you are at the receiving end of anger and can’t remove yourself, “a soft answer turneth away wrath”.

[@DeeRiv5]

10:38 Anger is energy for me too. Recently learned from a woman in a book about using angry energy. She would go outside and hand-till her garden or go and dig a hole. She got good exercise and ended up growing beautiful flowers because she really churned up that soil. 😅

[@La23Lu]

Praise God. I needed those words. Thank you for this content.

[@AbbeySchroder]

I so needed this. Thank you. What an intentional God.

[@maryalicelaub5615]

Thank you. I saw this and thought. Yep. I neeed to listen to that.

[@HeadHeartandSoul]

This felt like a total God thing! I just asked my husband to pray over me for this last night!

[@andersonsapphire575]

thank you so much

[@haveyousuitedup]

What a timely message! I am just starting to watch this but this has been a big prayer of mine. I grew up in an angry family and have been very convicted lately of my own struggles with anger. I have been praying for wisdom and how to navigate this, especially as now I have a 2 year old and I am 30 weeks pregnant. I have been meditating on the scriptures that speak of it and started reading a book on it as well by Gary Chapman. Thank you for this!

[@pmk5030]

Thank you for this. God bless you and your family. Love you 🤟

[@NoemiV]

10:43 that is the cortisol (stress hormone) telling your body to move which is the best thing to do to release that spike of cortisol or going for a walk is good too 😊

[@Dana-mb1hd]

Oh Milena I NEEDED THIS I struggle with anger THANK YOU ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@crystalortiz6786]

I needed this so badly. I am going to listen to James and pray over myself. I am going to set up timers for myself. Thank you. Please pray for me. I need help to not be so angry with my 2 year old when hitting/ throwing tantrums. I don’t wanna be this person.

[@ellajoseph4866]

I love and prefer relatable videos like this where I can apply in my own life as a working mom and wife 👏🙏 thanks doll ❤

[@tiaratran]

Honestly needed this so badly. Thank you

[@adrianareyes9216]

Thank you Jesus for a sister like you Milena 💝 I needed to here this I pray you do more just like this

[@zeiramonserratcelsoramirez2532]

I’m struggling so much with myself. I’m easily irritated, frustrated, stressed, angered, exhausted, annoyed. I need help from you guys as moms. I don’t want to be the angry mom. I use to be so calm and patient

[@SavannahPortillo]

Praying for you right now!

[@LoveAndTruth-n7v]

Needed this as I’ve just given birth and my toddler has not been destroying my house so I’ve been reacting sinfully

[@dorthyalice]

Thank you for this video! Also leaving an inch or two of ash in your fire place helps with the heating process.

[@eugene1599]

God is so good❤ I really needed to hear that❤

[@larissas9287]

I needed this so much, THANK YOU!

[@sg8500]

Love the idea of alarm with Verse ❤

[@yanelihu5897]

This was such a beautiful video. I’m saving this video to favorites. Thank you for sharing. ❤

[@MakeupModaVida]

I struggle with this! I have prayed on this and the Lord always tells me to Sing my responses instead! I need to work on making this the habit; thank you for the reminder 🙏🏼

[@RXASKIN]

I am struggling being a single mom. And having to play mom and dad. I want to be more graceful but raising two boys they don’t respond well when I’m nice. They listen when I change my tone. I feel resentful I’m doing this without a partner to balance this.

[@sg8500]

Really needed this! Thank you ❤

[@priscillacervantes2061]

Great video, Milena ❤ and thanks for the homework 👍 I will definitely be using these verses in my everyday life going forward. God Bless!

[@amotherslittleway]

Beautiful message Milena blessings ❤needed this 🙏🏻🌸

[@homemoviestories]

I was just seeking God’s help about this very topic. Thank you ♥️

[@DarcyKnott]

I really needed this. Thanks Milena for always producing such great videos

[@357sammi]

Currently wrestling with this! Thank you. I'm gonna watch this video again, get into James and in therapy next week with my christian counselor address this. As it effects me, my child and spouse and most importantly hurts God

[@FaithFilledHomemaker]

Thank you 🤍

[@karlahigh]

This definitely something I needed to hear!

[@janrodriguez1135]

Thank goodness I need to hear this now because I been struggling with my mother hood lately

[@priscillaocasio3923]

Thank you for this video. ♥️ I needed these encouraging words from God so much this week.

[@luck13swr]

Oh how I needed this. I’ve been struggling with this one

[@МаріяНебожук]

Right in time ❤🙏

[@brittthebrat22]

I’ve missed your content it is so relaxing

[@OlyaTaranovich]

I'm the one who was not an angry person until I became a mom, it's been a few years of praying that the Lord would help me be a calmer mother. One thing that I can advise that has helped tremendously is to focus on the solution and not the problem. So as soon as I feel a little bit of anger stirring up in my head I will tell myself "get to the solution" this alone has helped me to remain a calmer and peacefull mother

[@itslaurenehaynes]

12:09 GIRL UR PREACHIN🔥

[@QueenD08]

Thank you God for this video ! I'm struggling with this very thing and have been all day today

[@melindarocuant]

Thank you, Milena. ❤

[@sanjanathakurta]

Thank you so so much dear sister in Christ, Milena. God always bless you and your family with the Holy Spirirt❤

[@SarahMiller-v6x]

Thank you Yah for MILENA, for giving her the courage to speak your truth, your way, and your love. Anger and the guilt is something that many many many mothers. I am currently still struggling. Thank you MILENA for providing practical tools I can put in place TODAY!

[@mylolagirl]

Thank you Milena, I needed this today ❤ you do not even know the impact you have made on my relationship with the Lord. God is truly truly using you as a vessel to bring His wisdom to so many mothers. I started reading my bible two years go because of your videos and your podcast with Jordan. I can not thank you enough for allowing the Lord to use you for His glory. Many blessings to you and your beautiful family.

[@kaitlinsmith843]

I skipped this video when it first came out. It’s felt like a nudge in the back of my mind every time I yell at my children. Praise God for the way He uses you to speak to other moms. Praise God for the conviction in my heart this morning. Thank you Lord for your grace and mercy.

[@cobaphotography1765]

Thank you Milena! The Lord has been speaking to me about this as well. Your video is so encouraging ❤️

[@Verdunfam2510]

Hi Milena, I know you hear things like this all the time. But Thankyou! And all glory to God. But I’ve been walking with God almost 12 years and I’ve been watching you since Alethea was born. I e seen the growth. And it’s because of these videos that I’m finally seeing fruit in my life. Actually trying to live the word of God out. I’m sure many of us here feel this way. May the Lord continue to use your life greatly.