I'm beginning to think excessive texting or emailing is a red flag for a toxic relationship...
@caseyw.65503 жыл бұрын
I don't know a single person who has time for that. I swear to God that's a huge reason I've been single for so long. To have to text a person more than a few times a day feels like an absolute chore to me. 😜
@Husckle23 жыл бұрын
@@caseyw.6550 agree
@Chipiliro6133 жыл бұрын
Or maybe it's a green flag...for a toxic relationship
@watcherwlc533 жыл бұрын
ya think?
@gustavocvieira85843 жыл бұрын
@@caseyw.6550 What do you mean with "Doesn't has time for that", it literally only takes 5 to 10 seconds to text someone
@schmidtmpa3 жыл бұрын
I was friends with Ryan and I had met Shayna. She wore a lot of makeup but other than that seemed normal to me. Admittedly I barely knew her and Ryan only spoke a little about her to me other than she was "exhausting." I can't begin to describe how shocking his murder was to all of us. She also joked about killing Ryan on Facebook before she killed him.
@mckrycek583 жыл бұрын
Interesting to hear from someone who actually knew them. Thanks for sharing!
@enitjuh33443 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry for your loss, my condolences.
@dirtysanchez9413 жыл бұрын
Wow, so sorry for the loss of your friend. It's really got to be shocking. Its a small world. One of my best high school friends was a victim of Gary Ridgway. When you find out, and then never hear from that friend again, it never ceases to be a shock. I understand what you're saying. Hug's 🤗💔🙏
@schmidtmpa3 жыл бұрын
@@dirtysanchez941Thank you. I'm sorry to hear about your friend. It's really crazy when you get pulled in to something like this. It made me very angry but at least some of my text messages with Ryan were used by the prosecution to obtain a conviction. That's a small comfort. I follow Dr. Grande's channel and I was stunned when I saw this one in my notifications.
@popescufelicia49623 жыл бұрын
Wow
@daljordan89212 жыл бұрын
When I was in school an alarming number of psych majors were unstable. I always wondered if they were trying to figure out what was wrong with them.
@Nat524Ricci7 ай бұрын
I agree w this statement. I think so, too. They have this curiosity because they themselves are mentally ill. I’ve met a few psychiatrists who terrified me. Have you seen the Johnny Depp trial? Shit! Fuckers are crazy
@whynottalklikeapirat7 ай бұрын
For people with a lot of issues - they often think they dealt with them and gained the wisdom to help others, when in actual fact they didn’t but were just drawn to the idea being a person who rose above themselves to be in a position where they can bestow graces upon other for being so fantastic themselves. If you essentially feel weak and vulnerable and confused, wouldn’t it just be a step up from that if you were then one to help people who feel weak and vulnerable and confused? This is not a particularly social aspiration mind you, it’s pretty self-absorbed and deluded. And those who succed in manoeuvring themselves into such a position one way or another - when they find that working with peoples serious issues is hard work doesn’t mean everyones thanks you all day for being so wonderful, affirming how it was only because you’re so fantastic and clever and wise they ever got better - they usually quit the job pretty soon, because they sense that in having to deal with all the actual conflict material and critical self evaluation associated with doing such work they will likely wind up having to face the fact that they did in fact NOT or at least only partially vanquish their own demons after all, and this was all just one huge dissociation manoeuvre. People like this do not really help others in the long term, they rely on others to be weak so they can feel or appear strong by comparison, and feel good about it because “helpers are good people”. They feed off the weakness and the people in their care somehow never walk away truly strengthened from the transaction or if they temporarily seem to do so - it’s usually because there is some co-morbid transaction happening where both parties dissociate from their true core issues and spiral down some toxic track of idealisation and devaluation acting out from their respective positions that usually involves some odd elements of dominance, submission and passive aggressiveness. Rant over but I’ve seen a fair amount of shit like that in my professional life. Especially where words and talking are at the core of whatever the proposed therapy or pedagogic approach. Lots of fairly intelligent people spend a lot of time converting their issues into complex verbalised structures which are somehow easier to deal with and toss around in conversation and manipulate than just getting in there with the dirty work. Words can offer the benefit of feeling like you are really doing the work and adressing your issues while you’re really just distancing yourself from action with more words. Talk is clever. Pain is raw. Fear is raw. Despair, grief, shame none of it is really much like an intelligent conversation. Not saying cognition is not important - but there is a fine line between going somewhere with yourself and just playing with yourself while sucking up a lot of attention and resources from others and having them validate your secondary dramas.
@Casca1997Berserk7 ай бұрын
@@whynottalklikeapiratExactly.
@binathere25746 ай бұрын
You will find that people become trained in the areas they are lacking. For example, unwell people will become healers, people who are mentally unwell will become psychologists etc... people who have lost in love will become a relationship adviser... people who have been targeted by a narcissist will become advisers to other targets.
@whynottalklikeapirat6 ай бұрын
@@binathere2574 The trouble is that you need: A. to have TRULY worked through the experience to a point where you control it and not the other way around. If you haven’t you’ll be as likely to hurt people in a vulnerable situation when you then find out under pressure, that really you were still trying to just save yourself or a loved one and you’re not as strong as you fancied yourself to be, being the helper and not the victim. B. To have more than just your personal experience but also a wider professional level knowledge of the phenomenon as well as how to apply that knowledge to specific situations, fields, demographics or issues. C. To understand how to work with the implications of other people likely being in a different life situations, having different resources and coping capacities than you - in other words you need to know what a professional knows about working with a wide variety of other people and not simply expect to be able to generalise from personal experience. In short: - Breaking a leg and going through recovery makes you neither a doctor, a psychologist nor for that matter a recovery life coach.
@paigejohnson3893 жыл бұрын
Also, just because someone is educated, doesn't automatically make them smart.
@flowergirl53363 жыл бұрын
I've been trying to put that into words for years. So true.
@pajeetsingh3 жыл бұрын
Defence shot on face.
@TampaJohn3 жыл бұрын
Another take on that is, just because someone is smart, doesn’t make them intelligent.
@megalopolis20153 жыл бұрын
Preach.
@tranquility93253 жыл бұрын
I mentioned that in my vid posted in reference to a dr who was abused by her drs and his so called staff. There are a lot of educated dummies out there.
@johnnyflannigan1363 жыл бұрын
Her interrogation was insane. She was blissful and so excited that she murdered him
@ABeautfulMess3 жыл бұрын
I enjoyed her singing 😂
@catchtwenty223 жыл бұрын
I have to see this
@MateDrinker333 жыл бұрын
@@catchtwenty22 Sounds like a case for the "Jim Can't Swim" true crime documentary channel. :D
@tracietracie84543 жыл бұрын
Adderall’s a hell of a drug
@Ena481453 жыл бұрын
@@MateDrinker33 This one and the Dan Markel case!
@markschwartz15653 жыл бұрын
To me, the strangest thing about this case is Hubers being interrogated without the police asking her any questions.
@dontmindme6333 жыл бұрын
Obviously she wouldn’t shut up and they didn’t have to ask questions.
@MateDrinker333 жыл бұрын
Hey, if the interaction isn't broke, don't fix it. :D
@deshoncole24723 жыл бұрын
I really think they just let her act a damn fool completely telling on herself.
@trcsunny21873 жыл бұрын
That wasn’t an interrogation. It was a monologue.
@spoon52733 жыл бұрын
she actually requested legal counsel, so no interrogation took place. the woman police officer in the room with her while she monologues is literally just an officer waiting with her for legal counsel. all that talking and confessing was while hubers was apparently waiting for her lawyer. bet that lawyer had a field day
@francescawilliams81773 жыл бұрын
“She had a degree in psychology .” Imagine having her as your child’s shrink or yours? She can’t even control her own anger, jealousy tantrums and psychopathy.
@JoseRamirez-dv5uo3 жыл бұрын
80% or so of psychology students, get into it cuz they try to solve their own problems.... i know, cuz thats what it said in my psychology book.... lolol...... also, the pills they give, cause mass shootings/school shootings.... most of the shooters, if not all, were on psyche drugs, from what i remember, usually wellbutrin... so stop and think about that, if u ever go into a psyche place..... the person ur talking to, most likely has problems, gives drugs taht will make u act crazy, and they overcharge to be ur "Friend" sooooooo....... jordan peterson is the perfect example, if the doctor himself can't even control his addiction, if u can't live a day without being pumped full of pills, so much so it takes u out for a year or more, and nearly kills u......... u have to think, is this right? is this healthy? lol
@grogsmashrock72403 жыл бұрын
@@JoseRamirez-dv5uo what are you on about, medication can backfire yes but it’s necessary for many people to function
@grogsmashrock72403 жыл бұрын
@@JoseRamirez-dv5uo if you’re diabetic and you’re reliant on insulin how is that different
@nighttrain12363 жыл бұрын
Tacit vs explicit knowledge.
@JessMess4153 жыл бұрын
@@Lidia_AF I think he mentioned she was attending grad school to become a school counselor so if this hadn’t happened I think it’s more than likely she would’ve been treating someone eventually.
@joelrizzo27863 жыл бұрын
Einstein would have known to keep his mouth shut.
@DonPeyote4203 жыл бұрын
Einstein wouldn't shoot someone in the face to begin with. He was more into bombs.
@orueom77203 жыл бұрын
@@DonPeyote420 *atoms.... not bombs. The knowledge was just used to makes nukes. That's more on Oppenheimer
@janycebrown40713 жыл бұрын
No kidding 👌 good one 😆😂
@maryannebphillips91243 жыл бұрын
Einstein plagiarized his theories.
@THEFRISKIESTDINGO3 жыл бұрын
Epstein would have blackmailed the judge... oh Einstein... he would have brought bagels
@CarmelitasNannyGoat3 жыл бұрын
I suggested this! I didn’t think you would see it!
@nicolagraham16783 жыл бұрын
Good suggestion 😉
@HelloKittysFriend4183 жыл бұрын
He’s very good at keeping up with comments, I have a lot of respect for KZbinrs who take the time!
@Jaksi-a3 жыл бұрын
Nice, and also, others could have suggested it...
@humanipulationnation3 жыл бұрын
I did too, he told me he would do it
@ladymopar20243 жыл бұрын
Great suggestion!
@DEPARTMENTOFREDUNDANCYDEPT3 жыл бұрын
Many cases analyzed by Dr. Grande have made me feel very grateful that I am many years out of the dating scene and am no longer seeking an intimate partner.
@mckrycek583 жыл бұрын
Ditto!
@JennyT1013 жыл бұрын
Yeah, but it's not like most these people were hard to spot!
@johnm10663 жыл бұрын
You and me both bro.
@Mspoor703 жыл бұрын
Same 🙏🏼
@stephaniewhite56443 жыл бұрын
I agree! I got married before the digital age and I still am..to my only one husband! 🥰
@megalopolis20153 жыл бұрын
"Aristotle, Plato, Socrates? Morons!"--Vicini. "I'm smarter than Einstein."--Lady speaking for three hours without a lawyer to police.
@James-gk8ip3 жыл бұрын
on the internet, everyone has a 160 IQ
@therealmrfishpaste3 жыл бұрын
Inconceivable
@maniacalmadness54193 жыл бұрын
Who is vincini, Leonardo davincini🤔?
@therealmrfishpaste3 жыл бұрын
@@maniacalmadness5419 A character from the film The Princess Bride...well worth a watch...
@megalopolis20153 жыл бұрын
@@maniacalmadness5419 I spelled it wrong. It's Vizzini, from The Princess Bride, one of my favorite movies.
@GrafStorm3 жыл бұрын
So, this nugget; "Perhaps the couple was looking for a marriage with less prison involved." Thanks Dr. Grande.
@CAborn11123 жыл бұрын
One of his many greats!👍
@carolnahigian95183 жыл бұрын
Many gems! Thank you Doctor.
@pembrokelove3 жыл бұрын
Shady af 😂🤣😂🤣😂
@nancyevans79463 жыл бұрын
I live in NKY and followed this case! When I saw her in the interrogation room, very bazaar behavior!!
@MaffBowers3 жыл бұрын
There's always at least one nugget each video :)
@derekchauvinistrockwellthe49173 жыл бұрын
Wow, the similarities between her and Jodi arias are insane. Same motive, delusional, singing and doing weird physical stuff in the interrogation room, both had compared their IQ to Einstein.
@morgancharlotte99493 жыл бұрын
This type of person literally feels like their life is a movie, and they alone have the starring role. It’s fairyland.
@mainecoon65142 жыл бұрын
Hubers and Arias are legends in their own minds.
@inferno00202 жыл бұрын
I think she is very different from Jodi. Jodi is more street-smart and cunning. She doesn't mind highlighting that the man he murdered was a pedophile in front of the Jury after stopping pretending to be a bimbo. Shayna's problem is that she thinks she is much smarter than she actually is. She might have a much better chance if she stopped talking in the room (there is still no guarantee since Ryan Poston was a rising star lawyer himself) but she constantly said things that even the least experienced officers and prosecutors can use against her.
@MentokTheMindTaker2 жыл бұрын
Except he wasn't a pedophile, she just lied about that to make him look bad and try to sway the jury
@inferno00202 жыл бұрын
@@MentokTheMindTaker She didn't really directly call Alexander a pedophile and I don't think Alexander was either. I just think it is a very dirty trick after she ruined someone's family once and then wanted to stab them again.
@pretentiouscabbage2323 жыл бұрын
This is my new favorite KZbin channel, its everything good about the internet, educational informative and very entertaining due to Dr Grande great sense of humor. Thank you Dr Grande ❤️
@ipsygypsy163 жыл бұрын
A moment of silence for the schools who missed out on their future school counselor; the new-age Einstein.
@GGE4152 жыл бұрын
tahahaha better send time travel us a clone so we can cope
@ronricherson66853 жыл бұрын
"Stop texting me, I don't have the patience to deal with you, I'm turning off my phone and locking the door." I'd say that's more than a "speed bump in the relationship!"
@derstoffausdemderjoghurtis3 жыл бұрын
You obviously have never been in a relationship with someone with BPD^^
@joeytilbury34003 жыл бұрын
@@derstoffausdemderjoghurtis And never will thank god
@quanbrooklynkid77763 жыл бұрын
@@joeytilbury3400 hahaha
@Sarablueunicorn3 жыл бұрын
But I'll open it when i feel like having a release and i have a load of laundry that i don't want to deal with.
@ronricherson66853 жыл бұрын
Yeah...it could've been one of those kinda relationships.
@sandydee80033 жыл бұрын
When she emptied the gun I’m pretty sure the “mercy killing defense” was out the window..
@robinrubendunst8693 жыл бұрын
In for a dime, in for a dollar...
@angelogandolfo41743 жыл бұрын
She had so much mercy that I guess she just wanted to be certain......
@wascawywabbit09873 жыл бұрын
@The Ol’ Babaganoush He did not, "Daniel Jackson."
@trex20923 жыл бұрын
At least she did not reload, that would have been damming.
@shantoreywilkins6513 жыл бұрын
🪟
@jayuhoo48063 жыл бұрын
I had a terrifying experience with someone with borderline PD. I missed a phone call and got tens of messages accusing me of cheating, which quickly escalated to more phone calls and threatening voicemail. I ended up moving to a different apartment and changing my number. Dr. Grande’s I thank you for shedding a much needed light on personality disorders and increasing our awareness.
@cerveza22973 жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande is becoming a legend 👍😎. I look forward to these.
@polarbearsrus69803 жыл бұрын
"not a message you would see on Valentines candy hearts", LMAO!!! Doc., you're all over the board, love it and thanks for sharing. 👍
@elisabethtyler8593 жыл бұрын
BPD is no excuse. I’ve had it my whole life and two different types of it at different stages. I also have complex PTSD, even as a narcissist teenager, I’ve never been violent or hurt anyone. Even when being assaulted I did not kill anyone. This is not an excuse!
@ShireenLilith2 жыл бұрын
All I can say is SAME
@xKarenWalkerx2 жыл бұрын
Borderlines are way more violent than Narcissists and kill more often.
@justthatgirl-ct4jo2 жыл бұрын
1. I don't think understanding why something happened is the same as excusing it. 2. Just because something didn't affect you a certain way, doesn't mean it won't affect someone else that way.
@freyamariano1062 жыл бұрын
I wish the press and courts would stop throwing around this sort of information. BPD does not explain murder ffs. This is so stigmatizing!
@maybelikealittlebit2 жыл бұрын
Lots of people smoke and don’t get cancer, lots of people don’t smoke and get cancer. Your point is irrelevant. Do not mix up excuse and explanation.
@micahb63223 жыл бұрын
Wow... as a clinically licensed therapist, I have a real appreciation for Dr. Grande's knowledge and expertise. I literally binge watched his videos when they were suggested to me on KZbin. I re-watch certain ones. Whether you are in the field or not, there's a lot to be learned here.
@Miss_Wonderful13 жыл бұрын
It's scarier when a murderer is a psychology student or work in the mental health field.
@TheDrakelicious3 жыл бұрын
Not at all. Most start on that field to understand themselfes. To self diagnose if you wil.
@wiluqx3 жыл бұрын
Funny enough, my older cousin told me to avoid all psych majors in college 😂
@trex20923 жыл бұрын
@@wiluqx Good advice.
@sorayaalcyone27263 жыл бұрын
People who are often drawn to that field are trying to find out what tf their issues are.
@julievorensky82503 жыл бұрын
If she was worried about his looks, maybe she shouldn't have shot him in the face!
@broGabiza3 жыл бұрын
Well she said in her interrogation that she have him " the nose job that he always wanted" and laughed. They should throw her in jail and throw away the keys too. She is evil and deserves her sentence.
@mariemoncada69803 жыл бұрын
Actually in the 911 phone call, she says, "He would have preferred to die than be disfigured."
@alyciamarie41633 жыл бұрын
@@mariemoncada6980 I never heard the whole 911 call wow!!! She also claims she shot him once he was down bc he was making weird noises and she couldn’t handle it. So she admits he was still alive when she decided to shoot him several more times. 🤔
@FungiRy913 жыл бұрын
But he wanted a nose job so bad.
@laurelbenedetti80893 жыл бұрын
@@broGabiza q
@wascawywabbit09873 жыл бұрын
This vid should have been titled "Hubers Hubris."
@erichoberg35023 жыл бұрын
It does sound like the good Dr is saying Hubris.
@anastasiabeaverhousen90673 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@anastasiabeaverhousen90673 жыл бұрын
@@erichoberg3502 Not to me,now that I know.🤣
@blackychouette3 жыл бұрын
Note to self: never play poker with Dr. Grande
@donnamathoslah81833 жыл бұрын
Good one!
@JiveDadson3 жыл бұрын
He would not diagnose the hand, only speculate on what might be happening during like a hand like it.
@star_blazer3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Dr. Grande would make the ultimate poker player.
@The20thHijacker3 жыл бұрын
@@star_blazer (Un)fortunately, none of this stuff works in poker. Tells are overrated. That's why all the pros play ranges.
@star_blazer3 жыл бұрын
@@The20thHijacker That’s interesting. Thanks for mentioning it.
@lancel713 жыл бұрын
He lost his life so I don't think she should ever get out. Thanks Doc!👍
@Rouge_Wings3 жыл бұрын
"Perhaps the couple was looking for a marriage with less...prison involved." 😆 Your brilliant humor is only rivaled by your mental health knowledge and analysis! Love it!
@dirtysanchez9413 жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande is the master. 😅
@alhana82933 жыл бұрын
Well said! Couldn't have been explained better
@brianpratt32243 жыл бұрын
If a person keeps breaking boundaries then its a good idea to end a relationship even if they are attractive. Man, I could have used that advice with my ex wife.
@pajeetsingh3 жыл бұрын
Simp.
@ShadaeMastersAstrology3 жыл бұрын
Folks having sexual intercourse with people that they don’t know. And then once they discover who these maniacs are it’s too late for them.
@billhildebrand50533 жыл бұрын
A lesson learned.. Is a PhD earned. 😅😄😅
@alexialira3839 Жыл бұрын
He told her straight up he wasn't into her ...and this woman wasn't attractive 🤷🏻♀️ He was muuuuuch better looking and could've done better.
@Star-Boarder3 жыл бұрын
I know of someone that Poston purportedly dated. From my perspective, he was attracted to girls who were category 5. Maybe initially attracted to the excitement but he didn't want long term, serious relationships with them. Sounds like she overcompensated for his attention/affection by doing stuff for him even though he was rejecting her. The girl I know has a history of not accepting rejection too and doing similar things like showing up at a guy's house or where she found out he was on vacation. She, from what I understand, tells people she was dating Poston were dating at the time. Guys and girls, I think he may have unwittingly strung this crazy one along too long. Probably bc she was willing to do anything for his affection. If you don't want someone, tell them immediately and break it completely off. Don't let it get to Fatal Attraction. And for Christ sake, get your locks changed and a security camera.
@alexialira3839 Жыл бұрын
I don't think it was because "she was willing to do anything for his affection." For starters Ryan was a very, very good looking young guy, was on track for success and was kind too. The guy probably had an arena full of women drooling (I'd be in there) and ready and willing to do anything for him. He didn't need this nutcase for that. He was going on a date with a beauty queen right before he was murdered...she testified in the trial. She was an upgrade... beautiful and looked sane. That said, he told her straight up he wasn't into her, but she kept forcing herself on him, stalking him and breaking into his place with a copy of his key (which he didn't know she had.) Him talking to her on occasion was him just trying to be nice and letting her down gently hoping she'd get it. She was pathetic and he felt bad for her. I can understand him as I've, regretfully, done the same in past relationships...being romantic relationships or friendships. Lastly, the woman you know that claims dated Ryan ...pics or it didn't happen. You say she's"off" too so it's not far fetched that she makes stuff up like this murderer does too. I've met plenty of women irl that say so and so was her boyfriend when in reality, they just went on one date or had a one night stand. So, it's not ludicrous to hear of crazy women out there claiming a hot guy in a high profile murder case was into them at one point.
@deathstar7543 жыл бұрын
It's really disgusting how she is eligible for parole. I bet if she was a scary looking dude, she would get life without parole.
@FungiRy913 жыл бұрын
Parole doesn't mean shit if they just keep denying it. There's scarier people than her up for parole and scarier people than her who have already been released from prison.
@derstoffausdemderjoghurtis3 жыл бұрын
I wonder if jurys have to be gender balanced.
@jennyjen70003 жыл бұрын
She died in prison.
@SS-zr3xd3 жыл бұрын
@@jennyjen7000 when?
@trex20923 жыл бұрын
@@jennyjen7000 Not according to the Kentucky D.O.C. website.
@solala13123 жыл бұрын
I'm quite impressed by the amount of content you put out and still work as a counselour!
@lorettathanksjesus3 жыл бұрын
SH was a Psychology Major. She must've missed the class where students learn about how to identify certain personality traits (HER OWN!) through the Acronym, O.C.E.A.N. ... 😒
@henkbarnard15533 жыл бұрын
She went to school to try to get better.
@fluxpistol36083 жыл бұрын
@@henkbarnard1553 she went to school to learn how to manipulate people (very common)
@PlsWaLuigiDomMe3 жыл бұрын
lol to be fair most of those disorders have the symptom of not being able to understand their behavior is odd
@gail95663 жыл бұрын
@@henkbarnard1553 so many people in psychology programs do go to learn about themselves, many drop out when they discover that its clinical work thats somewhat dry at the entry level.
@lilrabbitcuz3 жыл бұрын
Every girl I know that majored in psychology did it Bc it was easy. They have no insight.
@Garian93 жыл бұрын
I had a neighbor like this that was obsessed with me. Thankfully I didn't find her attractive and sleep with her but we did exchange numbers at one point. The texts started out normally but in just a few days I would get dozens for every 1 that I sent. If I didn't reply back to her within a few minutes, she'd get angry and send me a string of hatefully messages and go silent for a couple of hours. Then she'd restart with another set of texts like nothing happened. After some time I told her to stop texting me all together cuz no sane person would entertain having even an acquaintance like this. I sent her my last text to leave me alone yet she still sent141 of hers over the next 4 months to which I ignored. She finally did move out of my building and 6 months later sent a text asking if there were any mail that had still been delivered to her old address. Like a sucker I took the bait and a flurry of messages from her began again. I couldn't stay quite away and told her off in the most stern way I could without setting her off into some kind of rage. Finally that was the last time I heard from her. I still have all the texts saved to my phone in case they find my dead body somewhere.
@trentbrownstone14817 ай бұрын
Hey it's me
@binathere25746 ай бұрын
@@trentbrownstone1481😮 lol
@interglutalkleptomaniac84233 жыл бұрын
The plants are moving... Perhaps on their own? :o Top notch content again Dr.Grande! ^^
@LaceyAnn3 жыл бұрын
This comment is a result of elf on the shelf trauma 😆
@interglutalkleptomaniac84233 жыл бұрын
@@LaceyAnn Haha, i concur! :)
@dianac41873 жыл бұрын
The scenario I can’t get over is Ryan not being able to get her to leave, so he just goes to bed (exhausted and utterly frustrated) hoping she’ll just give up and go home, and then he wakes up to find that, not only is she still there, but she’s invited her mother over. He had to have wanted to bang his head against the wall. And then she spends all day looking up heart medication and texting him about her health. Why this man didn’t change his locks, block her number, and call the police every time he saw her, I just do not understand.
@Sarahahahahah3 жыл бұрын
“Not exactly messages you would see on a Valentines candy heart”- okay it is NOT too soon for Dr. Grande to make “unstable candy hearts” with those exact messages on them and for all of us to purchase them
@akuiper26543 жыл бұрын
I’d buy that
@cottontails90033 жыл бұрын
"She gave him the nose job he wanted" that statement sort of tells me the relationship was really "unstable ". Thanks Dr Grande that was interesting topic . Thank you Dr Grande you are the best!
@runningthunder69233 жыл бұрын
Yeah, was she in shock dang, probably better not to say that out loud . What was he 9 years older, she was 19. Played the wrong the girl
@cottontails90033 жыл бұрын
@@runningthunder6923 l couldn't agree more with you.
@nycgweed3 жыл бұрын
Did she shoot him in the face?
@elperroloco19883 жыл бұрын
@@runningthunder6923 you hit the nail on the head. That’s one of those “really really dark” sarcastic quips that popped up in her head in the interrogation room and instead of maybe smirking at that thought she needed to say it.
@floraposteschild41843 жыл бұрын
When two narcissists meet... Too bad this fun couple couldn't make it work.
@heathernikki57343 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@FreedominLove7113 жыл бұрын
I agree with you. He did not treat her with respect, but he did not deserve to be killed
@krasnodar943 жыл бұрын
beautiful isnt it
@FreedominLove7113 жыл бұрын
@@nowirehangers2815 No, I just do not agree with the overwhelming sentiment. This society is, "if you don't agree then you are wrong".
@kkheflin33 жыл бұрын
Oh Dr.G!!!!........ "Perhaps the couple was looking for a marriage with less prison involved." "Sounds like the happy couple may have hit a speed bump." You think??? "Maybe just a bit of narcissism there?'" Just a bit..... I'm choking here on my coffee....You are so priceless. Absolutely priceless.
@refinemelikesilver3 жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande, serious question, why didn’t you go into the forensic psychology field? Maybe a good question for a q&a Just curious as you seem to be very good at it.
@JaZmine1473 жыл бұрын
We also what to know about your gun knowledge, Dr. G.
@angelogandolfo41743 жыл бұрын
12:35 - “Perhaps altruism was not his strong suit.” OMG 😂👍
@joanrankin28273 жыл бұрын
I love your "lessons learned" conclusions! Always on point and often tongue in cheek funny!
@lornaginetteharrison71683 жыл бұрын
Good to see Private Hudson back on his lower pot stand shelf!...I’m concentrating on the wrong thing again, aren’t I?🤦🏻♀️
@Sanne783 жыл бұрын
Definitely not the only one 😃
@Ali-kb8gr3 жыл бұрын
Lol
@alice_rabbit83453 жыл бұрын
Yes, I was worried yesterday!
@michelinegosselin38793 жыл бұрын
I also looked for Private Hudson 😂
@SpitfireLionheart3 жыл бұрын
Private Hudson from Aliens?
@LaceyAnn3 жыл бұрын
That was a very interesting point when you mentioned why they may have passed over the ptsd diagnosis in favor of the bpd diagnosis and how personality disorders can be viewed in the courts. You've given me something to think about, thanks!
@comegetpsalm73623 жыл бұрын
I've dated someone with Borderline personality disorder and she reminded me of Jodi Aries everyday. Lucky I've made out of that relationship alive.
@melissam5973 жыл бұрын
My college roommate had BPD, she was not a murderer but horrible regardless...
@McSnezzly3 жыл бұрын
Borderline PD doesn’t mean someone is a horrible person. It’s one of the only PD’s where the person has full guilt for their actions and don’t want to be this way. As long as they’re seeing a psychologist and keep up with their therapy, there’s no reason to assume someone with BPD is evil. However, if left untreated they can be abusive just like anyone else with any mental disorder.
@comegetpsalm73623 жыл бұрын
@@McSnezzly did I say they were horrible persons? No. I was just pointing out how hard it was to be in a relationship with a person who has BPD. Its rough.
@comegetpsalm73623 жыл бұрын
@@melissam597 it can be scary once they are raging about something.
@skeevynicks3 жыл бұрын
I don’t know your ex, but just because someone has BPD doesn’t mean they are capable of murder. There are many functioning, intelligent people with good hearts and morals that feel a lot of stigma and guilt over their BPD, and this is often buffered with substance use. It’s a hell of a disorder that’s for sure.
@lightseeker1343 жыл бұрын
As I was listening to your analysis and understood that those with BPD feel that they would cease to exist if a relationship were to be lost and that their fighting to keep a relationship is a fight for their life, I had a better understanding of her motive. Although it doesn't excuse or justify her actions, it does explain why she acted in an impulsive manner and commited this heinous crime shortly after learning Ryan was pursuing a relationship with someone else and that their relationship had come to an end. Another tragic and senseless crime. As always, thank you for another analysis that was not only educational but a cautionary tale!
@LEV1ATHYN3 жыл бұрын
Man, teach your kids to be good judges of character. That's all I have to say. So many young people begin relationships with unstable / dangerous partners.
@runningthunder69233 жыл бұрын
Or teach them don't use people or play games. Most people come wrapped in a neat package, you don't find out till later on....
@secretlifeofa19263 жыл бұрын
This wasn't a relationship. She was a sex object to him. Millions of women fall for the modern scam: "keep having sex with me, and eventually I will fall in love with you." These aren't relationships.
@LEV1ATHYN3 жыл бұрын
@@secretlifeofa1926 that is semantics. The relationship you described IS a relationship, a dysfunctional one.
@secretlifeofa19263 жыл бұрын
I wonder how many people *think* they're having a relationship with a person, but the other person thinks they're not. Probably a lot.
@mostafaphotography23713 жыл бұрын
Liking and leaving a comment before watching the video. Thanks Dr. Grande!
@marcdraco21893 жыл бұрын
I just press like when it pops up - because I know I'm going to.
@lujaynmigdadi3 жыл бұрын
Didn't finish watching yet but here to say i noticed the daily upload and i love it so much thank you
@TheBrillyx3 жыл бұрын
Jodi Arias also creates relationships in prison just to get rid of them when it's most convenient for her. Both sound like skilled manipulators, I wouldn't want to be stuck in a room with one of them
@dougrogan3793 жыл бұрын
Jodie would be ok without weapons
@MateDrinker333 жыл бұрын
@@dougrogan379 Wait until TheBrillyx looks up the Sante Kimes case! :D
@dougrogan3793 жыл бұрын
@@MateDrinker33 who is the Brillyx??
@darkmanj6663 жыл бұрын
Last time I was this early, Dr. Grande was Dr. Tall
@damian87923 жыл бұрын
good1
@melissam5973 жыл бұрын
Hilarious 😂
@maniacalmadness54193 жыл бұрын
I don't get it . I always get everything. Because I'm smart , I'm so smart like former President Donald J. Trump.
@worsethanjoerogan80613 жыл бұрын
@@maniacalmadness5419 Lol why do people randomly mention Trump so much?
@sambibambi54093 жыл бұрын
@@worsethanjoerogan8061 idk, why do people randomly mention einstein so much? studies show that sometimes Its Not That Deep
@thebluehotel4263 жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande, have you looked at Jeremy DeWitte? He is a long time police impersonator who occasionally dips into stolen valor. He's completely sincere and insists he's been unfairly treated every time he is arrested. His wife goes along with the whole thing.
@ashleewhittlesey78743 жыл бұрын
I would love to see that!
@HailWoden182 жыл бұрын
Sounds boring, just a Wannabe claiming to be something theyre not. Has zero place here.
@joemama-ej7kw2 жыл бұрын
Jeremy dewitte is certainly not boring. I highly reccomend going down the dewitte rabbit hole it is very interesting
@4eyemustsin3 жыл бұрын
I saw a tiktok vid on this story 3 hours ago. I checked to see if Dr. G did a video on it. Nothing. A short time later...there it is. That was weird.
@maressiapoole87163 жыл бұрын
What was the tiktok video?
@supernova117113 жыл бұрын
That IS crazy!!!
@lisab600683 жыл бұрын
Dating these days in bigger cities is horrific, with the social media all of these people think they can get someone better and backslide because its easy to reach out with cell phones for a late night snuggle. Its a dangerous game that people play.
@Trustworthyalma3 жыл бұрын
She and Arias should’ve just gone to therapy, left their ex’s alone, and upgrade their own lifestyles. The stringing along they experienced from guys was cruel....but no one deserves to be murdered over it. The best revenge is doing you, glowing up, and healing.
@lovelyjanuary Жыл бұрын
Exactly. I wonder what her past “relationship” history was like or if she had any other influential factors in her life like during childhood (narcissistic parent? past unregulated emotional relationship “models” like her parents relationship?) that might have been interesting precursors to this horrific outcome in hindsight or what exactly that personal past history might look like with her. Not as an excuse *at all* clearly but more to maybe understand how she could have consciously or unconsciously adopted that extremely maladaptive and (unfortunately in this case, literally) traumatic behavior pattern in interpersonal emotional relationships? It seems like it would be very surprising if this type of crazy/batsh*t behavior came out of nowhere with her or if she really did have primarily otherwise seemingly healthy and normally functioning relationships outside of this one in particular? It does seem like sometimes in awful cases like this one that two people can unintentionally but in a volatile way bring out the extra worst kind of crazy in each other- and then it’s obviously just exhausting af and infuriatingly bewildering for the rest of the people around them (and in this case, millions of the rest of humanity lol) to watch on as it turns into Fyre Festival the quarter life crisis dumpster fire edition and somehow go even more out of control…….. 🤷🏻♀️😬🤣😵💫 I just hope that there will be more awareness of these types of catastrophic issues that are discussed with young people to hopefully prevent any more proliferation of these horrific relationships and heartbreaking tragedies for the next generations of budding young “love stories” lol!!!!!!!!!!
@haintedhouse2990 Жыл бұрын
the "stringing along" was both Travis and Ryan's attempts at trying to let these psychos down gently. in the end they both got dumped!! - they needed to get in line and deal like the rest of us. their sense of entitlement is disgusting.
@TheMattTrakker Жыл бұрын
Do you see what happened when he stopped, "stringing her along"?
@Trustworthyalma Жыл бұрын
@@TheMattTrakker I can understand the fear of being direct with someone because of how they might respond if that’s what you’re trying to communicate. Maybe that’s what both of these men were going through. Still doesn’t mean that their actions (like continuing to have sex - like with Arias’ case) which did string these unstable women along, were no longer cruel. Does that mean they deserve to be murdered? No. These men are victims too. And both of these women deserve to pay for murdering them. In no way do I applaud them. I was simply stating that the best thing they could’ve done is get therapy and walk away from people you feel wronged or hurt by emotionally.
@zenawarrior74423 жыл бұрын
I really admired your advice on this. Men (& women at times) too often are physically attracted to a narcissist but then realize how dangerous they are often too late. Sex is a small part of a truly healthy relationship & young people don't realize that. Thanks always Dr G💌
@wascawywabbit09873 жыл бұрын
40 years in prison. How 'bout that, Einstein.
@marcdraco21893 жыл бұрын
Must be awful to be physically attractive... It's funny how the auto-generated closed-captions keep saying "hubris" when Dr. Grande says "Hubers" - which is delicious in its irony. I also feel bad that I fancy the pants off Jody Arias. That's just wrong!
@polkadots7163 жыл бұрын
I don't play the closed captioning, but that it so interesting to know. After watching a video of this case a couple days ago, I was thinking her name should be Shayna Hubris. :-))
@heathernikki57343 жыл бұрын
Both he and T. Alexander were thoroughly unlikable but murder is not the penalty for being an insufferable jerk.
@rachelraquel7583 жыл бұрын
Did you know them?
@mbb--3 жыл бұрын
Hubers is beyond thoroughly unlikable. She makes Jodi Arias seem likable in comparison.
@heathernikki57343 жыл бұрын
@@mbb-- so true
@heathernikki57343 жыл бұрын
@@rachelraquel758 Did you?
@rachelraquel7583 жыл бұрын
@@heathernikki5734 no, that’s my point
@jmchez3 жыл бұрын
"If somebody is continuously violating boundaries in a relationship, one seriously needs to consider ending the relationship" Or, as it is colloquially known, "Don't stick it in crazy".
@ashleewhittlesey78743 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣
@gregwiens353 жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande is always so eloquent in the way he explains how someone is "coo coo for coco puffs". Sad, how delusional she still was in prison, misinterpreting "soul mate" from "cell mate".
@mariebernier30763 жыл бұрын
The LIGHTING, Dr. Grande! Fabuloso. I knew you and your team would adjust it until we could savor your salty expressions. Bravo! Love ya, mean it!
@taniaalgaba57853 жыл бұрын
Thanks Dr. Grande. I was looking forward the analysis of this case, from you.
@eastcoastjen66903 жыл бұрын
Bam! You hit on a giant problem I think we need more education on. Physical attraction but otherwise not a lot of liking or compatibility. I wish junior/senior high schools would have health classes on this. Physical attraction is so powerful, but can lead to so much pain, if other factors are absent. Loved your smart thoughts on weapons and volatile relationships. Great point. 🙏
@MIOLAZARUS3 жыл бұрын
Please take good care of yourself Dr. Grande. We need your service and insight for many years to come 😍
@valaries.59443 жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande, Once again you, hit it out of the ballpark. Explaining your analysis. I hadn't heard of this case.. Thank You!
@jonathankennedy47793 жыл бұрын
Keep em coming, Doc!
@JennyT1013 жыл бұрын
Wow. He knew she was nuts, but hey it's nice to have somewhere around to do he laundry, I guess. This couple was a real mess.
@ambera54483 жыл бұрын
Those plants would look amazing in ceramic pots!
@celeste81573 жыл бұрын
Why do people always tell other people in jail their truth?? You might be in jail for murder, but this person you're talking to may be in their for not paying a ticket. So, just because you're a POS, doesn't mean that everybody in jail is
@Sanne783 жыл бұрын
Must be that Einstein brain 😉
@blazinvenus39143 жыл бұрын
Best advice ever! Dang Dr Todd you really know your guns! That always impresses me n meant to say so b4. Thanks for your work.😊😊
@komoriaimi3 жыл бұрын
My brother is involved with one of those crazy women. She even steals. Nothing we do or say can help him. It's almost like a cult except with one leader and one follower only. Imagine my frustration that I'm venting such a thing on KZbin.
@southbug273 жыл бұрын
So sorry for you & your family. Try prayer & fasting when you get overshelmed by it all; it gives you a positive outlet rather than just basically beating your head against the wall. God bless you.
@komoriaimi3 жыл бұрын
@@southbug27 I really appreciate it. Good advice.
@lindamaemullins51513 жыл бұрын
Garlic and Holy water won’t work either?😔
@komoriaimi3 жыл бұрын
@@lindamaemullins5151 It almost needs an exorcism. That's one of the things that weights heavy in my heart. We just lost our dad to covid and she did something awful right then, that I don't even want to get into. My dad left sad for having in certain way lost his child. I lost my brother too. It's shameful and painful. And I can't tell people, so I just exploded here on YT.
@wisdomseeker33622 жыл бұрын
Congrats on your million subscribers Dr. Grande❗I've been here since one thousand. You are our virtual sofa!
@bootesvoid12753 жыл бұрын
Me before finding this channel: I want a good beautiful wife. Me 50 videos after: I only want a SANE wife.
@piperjaycie3 жыл бұрын
Just choke laughed on my cereal at the candy hearts imagery. I would definitely buy those.
@vallove4life3 жыл бұрын
I agree...people need to set clear boundaries...not have sex with the person and then try and dump them hours later...it can make the most normal person feel anger and even rage...both Alexander and Poston told their killers, Alexander said he was going to Cancun with another woman, a Mormon, (after having sex with Jodi) and Poston said he was going on a date with a beautiful woman (after having sex with Hubris). Not blaming the victims.....but not a bright move with these women that have shown their instabilities.
@heyitsme16183 жыл бұрын
"Not blaming the victims....but (goes on to blame the victims)"
@jericawoodward82 жыл бұрын
Your humor is pure platinum, it's beyond gold at this point. Extra points for never having to disrespect or disregard anyone's feelings just to accomplish it
@TouchofShunshine3 жыл бұрын
It is so heartbreaking to see that people blame the victim so much. I was stalked. The stalker would not leave me alone. I went to court to get a restraining order, he was sitting in my living room when I got home from court. He beat me and the police did nothing. He broke into my home and I cut him when he stuck his hand in through the hole that he made in my living room door. The police didn't do anything to him but they did ask him did he want to press charges against me. Stalkers will not leave you alone simply because you ask.
@SkyR453 жыл бұрын
Shay I’m so sorry you went through this .. I hope you’re safe and sound now
@Sarablueunicorn3 жыл бұрын
He didn't go to the police or was afraid of her, my dear. He only wanted her away when he was meeting other women, for the rest of the days she still had the key to his condo so she could go there do house chores and walk his dog. He hadn't end the relationship yet when he set a date with miss ohio, she came to his condo but she was still his girlfriend and had the key to get in, this messed up his plans because he had a date with other woman planned ahead, and that's when the conflict started ended up in shooting.
@aaronmatheson15433 жыл бұрын
That is a bad ass shirt your sporting today Doc.!!
@outaugust3 жыл бұрын
It almost sounds like you're saying Hubris instead of Hubers and I find that to be fitting
@lindamaemullins51513 жыл бұрын
Ikr 😼
@adelinediallo77753 жыл бұрын
messed with me the whole time
@drewisours3 жыл бұрын
I remember watching the Dateline episode of this case! Totally insane!
@TomikaKelly3 жыл бұрын
It sounds to me like he used her and she became attached rather than letting her go and moving on. Why accept someone you dont like doing your laundry and your daily chores?
@polkadots7163 жыл бұрын
Maybe she insisted on doing those things for him? It could have been Huber's way of ingratiating herself to him.
@FreedominLove7113 жыл бұрын
I agree with you.
@Husckle23 жыл бұрын
Can we not make this a double standard
@FreedominLove7113 жыл бұрын
I pity this ENTIRE situation. Both parties are at fault.
@FreedominLove7113 жыл бұрын
@Mishra Dynasty How about your mom go there, garden tool
@christieburkett16073 жыл бұрын
Hi Dr Grande! I don't know if you will ever see this but I think a comprensive overview of Chris Cornell would be fascinating. Thanks for the great content!
@kimlarso2 жыл бұрын
The connection bt their lives ending!’
@SKY-wt2pp3 жыл бұрын
I am High in openness to this Content High in consciousness to this channel by way of Subscription. High in extrovertion when discussing its content Mid - High in Ageeableness to most of the content High in Neuroticism between viewing and Low in Neuroticism while it's on. Cheers Doc
@dirtysanchez9413 жыл бұрын
I just warmed up some dinner, and watching this video. I live for Dr. Grande. I'm obsessed!
@foxieroxieok3 жыл бұрын
You are not alone!
@dirtysanchez9413 жыл бұрын
@@foxieroxieok 😘
@foxieroxieok3 жыл бұрын
@@dirtysanchez941 🥰
@isabelvogt59983 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love your analogies Dr. Grande.
@lightningmonky76743 жыл бұрын
Your lessons at the end are why I'm here doc
@birch27663 жыл бұрын
Dr. Grande, have you considered doing a mental health/personality profile on Little Richard? He might be an interesting subject.
@LibraInSeattle3 жыл бұрын
I have been waiting for someone to cover this. This girl acted so unsettling in her interrogation. I got chills listening to her sing.
@seferinorino69513 жыл бұрын
She spoke to the police for 3 hours without being asked a single question? I know a woman who can do that. 😂😂😂
@polarbearsrus69803 жыл бұрын
My late husband could, easily... bless his heart. 👍
@mckrycek583 жыл бұрын
ROFL!
@seferinorino69513 жыл бұрын
POLARBEARSRUS I know one man who can talk a lot but this one woman could be the day talking non stop. She should get a job as a radio presenter
@Naz-M3 жыл бұрын
Really love these videos.
@gj42573 жыл бұрын
Listening to Dr. Grande makes me smarter. (Or at least helps me preserve the brain cells I have since I spend all my workdays in a place devoid of intelligence).
@stefani991003 жыл бұрын
The informative insight and dry humour make your videos addictive Dr. Grande! I would love to see a video about Dr. death (Christopher Duntsch)
@A.Krispy3 жыл бұрын
I was just thinking about that freak man. Guys scary as all fuk
@marlowebster4873 жыл бұрын
“50,000 text messages” 🧐 serial texting 😣
@lukehanley53923 жыл бұрын
Serial gibbering.
@Lizzypoohxo3 жыл бұрын
Hey doc, I like the new setup!
@boogiestreet5943 жыл бұрын
I have to say, the dude who this is about, was so INCREDIBLY vain it was crazy. Obsessed with his looks, and if you look at his photo's, he was so terrified he wouldn't look handsome for a microsecond in photo's, he wouldn't smile, he'd do the only face he's tested in the mirror for thousands of hours so he KNOWS that one is handsome, doin a random smile could make him look randomly goody, so best to pull that same "I'm posin for a photo, but im pretending i'm being cool". You could tell his whole life was about what he looked like, and thats why he treated women like dirt, i mean, you think it's just random luck the next girl he had picked out to date after he was just with a beautiful psycho just happens to be miss universe or whatever? no. he's so into himself he thinks his partner has to be even better lookin than him, but Shayna put him on front street "Crying because your nose is too big and you want to get plastic surgery" hahaha, don't tell a girl you're goin out with A N Y THING deep or important that you're worrued about dude, that sh*t will be on KZbin the day after you break up!
@autumnedwards44483 жыл бұрын
I was literally just watching a true crime video on this case a few weeks ago and found myself wondering. . . what would Dr Grande say about this case??😂Crazy! Get out of my head! Lol. Thank you for your astute and hilarious analysis!❤
@zwangie13 жыл бұрын
Been waiting for this one!! I've researched this case a lit and I did not know about her relationship with the new love interest. Thanks Doc, great video! 💕
@kshaw23073 жыл бұрын
Apparently Poston kept getting back together with her because he felt bad when she cried over them breaking up. Maybe if he had been able to end the relationship early on it wouldn't have escalated to this point.
@valeriodellacasa53603 жыл бұрын
Yep totally his fault he got his brains blown out
@kshaw23073 жыл бұрын
@@valeriodellacasa5360 not what I was saying. I think another lesson that could be learnt from this case is that if someone is using emotional manipulation against you it can be a sign of worse to come and you need to get out of that relationship.
@Mehki2273 жыл бұрын
@@valeriodellacasa5360 No it's not his fault, but people do have to understand that there are mentally and emotionally unstable people out there. And recognize when they're being gaslighted or manipulated and stop going back and forth with them. Get yourself out, And don't meet with them again for one last time. Don't go for threats if they're going to kill themselves. Make a clean, as clean, a break as you can.
@polkadots7163 жыл бұрын
@@kshaw2307 Those type of people seek out and attach themselves to people who are sympathetic and easily manipulated emotionally. There's nothing wrong with being sympathetic toward others, but these people take advantage of that. I knew someone with a personality disorder, but didn't know how bad it was until she came to stay with me temporarily (big mistake--she didn't want to leave; just wanted to leech off of me, when I was already struggling financially and health-wise). She had no sympathy for me, but made me feel guilty for not conceding to her wishes. I changed the locks on my doors immediately after she finally left. There were signs, though, that she tried to return at least a couple of times. I still have anxiety when I recall the experience. People like Shayna Hubers are very scary!