What is Paranoid Personality Disorder? | Comprehensive Review

[@Pagan-of_GoodTimes]

You basically described my mother to perfection. I've tried to understand her for years & I think I get it now. Thank you. ❤

[@soozshooz]

MINE TOO!!!

[@tauresattauresa7137]

@@edinburgh1578 mine too. Can destroy their life with their husbands, family and even kids. Sad.

[@origamiandcats6873]

My mother has it and probably other personality/psychiatric disorders. She doesn't trust her own children but she trusts the crook who calls on the phone, pretending to be from Microsoft and needs access to her computer to give her technical support.

[@Yukai-ep2dv]

Same with my father! and he successfully trained me not to trust men! 😂😂

[@Yukai-ep2dv]

@countkalergi Yes that's right

[@zpxopop1134]

I have PPD. It's serious asf and not something to take lightly; living with this is no joke. It's like having an alarm that goes off every time you feel in danger/threatened, but the alarm is broken and severely overreactive. Everywhere I go, I'm always expecting a confrontation, I see people and I instantly start thinking what devious motive they're trying to use against me, I'm always thinking my friends and families have secrets against me and that I need to find them out. Anger is a big part of PPD, i get pissed off a lot; can't forgive jack shit, someone wrongs me 10 years ago its as fresh as yesterday

[@normanosborn1277]

Agree. What really makes life extremely hard, is the inability to forgive (I have grudges from when I attended kindergarten, more than 20 years ago).

[@trmp9923]

Or you are just a scorpio

[@FartSmucker]

I was told once i was a 'professional grudge holder' before being diagnosed, damned if that doesn't make 110% sense now.

[@jeanpaulmondragonrojas8735]

And dont forget always carryng guns or my knife

[@margaretwinson402]

That must be exhausting. The best of luck to you in creating an easier existence.

[@macmedic892]

5:08 "Irish Alzheimer's": a condition where you forget everything except a grudge

[@derekkras]

and to buy a pack of smokes

[@eagleeye2300]

Whoa!! First time I've ever heard that...(explains a lot, lol.)

[@malabuha]

Lol

[@mrs.reluctant4095]

❤ Love this comment.

[@terrijamison9154]

2 funny!

[@fasteverything5369]

Hello Dr. Grande, I wanted to thank you for not only making this video but also the original one from two years ago. For years I've always knew there was something "wrong" with myself, I was aggressive and hostile in situations where it wasn't called for and when called out on my behavior, I'd get more hostile. Looking back on these moments, I realize these people were right to call me out, even if I didn't like it at the time. I initially thought I had anger issues and tried to do research on the subject, but nothing seemed to "fit" until I deviated into research about personality disorders. There's a long history of mental illnesses in my family, including personality disorders, so it wasn't that far of a reach to think I might have something in this category as well. Then I found your videos, had a revelation, read what little articles there are about PPD, did a lot of introspection over months, and while I'm not yet professionally diagnosed, I am very certain that I have PPD. I'm looking forward to receiving CBT and learning stress management. My anxiety is through the roof and hovering somewhere in the stratosphere. It's horrible to live like this, and I don't know whether or not knowing that I have PPD makes things worse or not, because now I overthink things and doubt myself. Is it just my paranoia or are my feelings about a situation justified? My trust in people, including my own family, has always been near non-existent. Hopefully therapy will help with that. I can only do so much on my own. It also hurt to hear that PPD might be removed from the DSM, because this thing is the only thing that accurately describes what I experience on a daily basis since early childhood. Literally nothing else fits. It is very very VERY hard to be open about my PPD, but I can't keep discounting my hostility as just being a jerk, because that's not who I am. It's an extremely toxic behavior too, and I don't want to hurt the people around me anymore, including myself. I also hope to have the courage to start a series on KZbin about PPD and spread awareness. So, again, thank you for making these videos on paranoid personality disorder. You've helped me set down a path toward recovery and a deeper understanding of myself.

[@st.blackops2cel61]

The thing with this disorder is that if you think you have it, you probably don't.

[@2112emilio]

@@st.blackops2cel61 Yeah! It is congruent with the individual inner experience (Egosyntonic)

[@soozshooz]

I’m from the same Tribe. 😏 Did you ever start your channel mentioned above?

[@chrismallegol]

9-14-24 It seems that with approximately 4 million Americans with this there would be a significant area for a skilled individual to make a good living. Where are they?

[@crayonpaws2273]

This is one of the only videos ive seen where it didnt feel like i was being demonised, thank you.

[@DaniM0425]

Thank you for sharing your insight on this topic. I’m a social worker and I have clients with PPD. In my experience, setting firm boundaries, being honest & clear, and foreshadowing any potential disruptions in routine can be helpful. I would appreciate more feedback/info on how to work with this population.

[@yourenough3]

Whoop whoop 200k , Dr. Grande your channel has grown fast in a short amount of time. If anyone deserves a congratulation it you sir. Thank you!!!! Great topic. 🌷💮🏵🌷🌹🌺🤩

[@lillierose5304]

I wasn't so paranoid about people's intentions until I experienced so much trauma. I then became very overly weary of people. Especially new people who I don't know very well. The slightest sign of a red flag and I run. I cut ties. I just keep to myself, keep my head down and stay out of people's way these days. I don't think it's PPD, rather a trauma response. But it feels similar. I do cognitive behaviour therapy to try to calm my thoughts, but it seems I get more relief from the anxiety if I just stop associating with the perceived threat. It's lonely.

[@Allisonloosemore]

Me too. But, the way we are self managing, not self medicating, is harming ourselves! I do the same. Your world becomes smaller and smaller and the relief of retreating into a private domain where you can feel your anxiety decline.. isn’t a healthy place either.. especially when you do this long enough… 🧡

[@heavymetal7628]

I think a lot of the paranoid disorders are from are from lifelong incidences of people letting one down. And overthinking things of course just my opinion.

[@kathrinjohnson2582]

Absolutely!

[@lisasmith516]

Yes, probably "Kick-starts" it, and then it just takes over!

[@carmenj268]

One feeds the other maybe?

[@user-pb8ec9gy2x]

exactly

[@metalman4393]

It sure seems that way, from my experience with paranoia. Idk if I ever had PPD, but if I did, it probably woulda seemed normal and appropriate to me \m/

[@cvdevol]

How many people, or what percentage of the adult population, have no psychological disorders whatsoever? These exhaustive lists of disorders seem to include everyone I have ever met!

[@Herr.P]

Majority decides whats normal.

[@twiggy1415]

Lol. Yeah I understand what you mean. I suppose it's when an individual displays say 4/7 criteria of a listed disorder for a period of time or they struggle to live mainstream life eg relationships, hold a job down etc. then they might have a disorder which needs treatment. I think social media is mentally unhealthy and see a lot more NPD evolving! Rared by 2 narcs......if you come across one turn on your heels and run!

[@GnosticAtheist]

Most if not all have issues, but would not be diagnosed with a disorder. Being anxious for instance, is not a paranoid disorder.

[@justice8575]

I don't think so bud.. With a personality disorder everyone has it to an extent but it becomes a personality disorder when it fucks up your life it becomes a disorder when it fucks up your life. Not everyone is mentally ill.

[@mgal6234]

Exactly! If a person has ever suffered depression, (and who over age 40 hasn’t?), they have technically suffered a mental illness. I think they’ve even pathologized **grief** for chrissake. It gets absolutely ridiculous!

[@cliffordbodine5834]

I have had PPD since the age of 17 and am now in my 60's. I fit all of the diagnostic criteria for PPD, except for suspecting that my spouse is being unfaithful. I believe that my PPD was caused by excessive and incessant bullying in elementary and junior high school. Thanks for posting this video.

[@galnajjar]

Same with my mom and she is 60 too! I am doing my best to educate myself how to help her, I know she wouldn’t approve to get help at all. Do you have any advice?

[@cliffordbodine5834]

@ghadeeralnajjar8599 I can tell you from experience, it's incredibly difficult to confide in anyone. I'm afraid that she'll have to come to the end of her rope, then MAYBE she'll give in to therapy. But for me, I just don't have the strength to do it right now.

[@joselassalle5906]

You just described my wife! She refuses treatment. This condition is devastating for the loved ones. Sometimes I feel I can't deal with her any longer.

[@AprilStormBroughton]

I am so sorry to hear that. I have a family member with this. Its killing me. I sympathize with you. Wish you strength.

[@pennyherndon2407]

My son has it. I'm so stressed. Its killing me also.

[@charlotteamalie]

You can read some survival tips in "Emotional Vampires" by Dr. Albert Bernstein.

[@b-k-creations]

This is incredible. I have been so worried about the partner I had to leave, because of the hostility and accusations I received. It was terrifying. Literally, stage-by-stage you have pinned down my experience. I am completely amateur and untrained, and have hunted high and low, read articles, joined groups, asked questions, I was stuck between PPD and NPD, and wondered if the two might be a possibility. That, or maybe there is something wrong with me. But he has ended up isolated, and I am fearful for his future. He rejects everyone eventually, for the slightest non-comment. And I daren't tell him. But thank you so much for this. It's incredibly clear and informative.

[@robertrochester3797]

I believe you nailed it with this one. I appreciate your scientific approach, instead of a casual condescending one. I believe PPD and other personality disorders specifically in cluster A to be MASSIVELY misunderstood. Thank you.

[@eagleeye2300]

Thanks, Dr. Grande... You make complex information understandable. This information is very helpful in moving through life in today's world. where it seems that there is an abundance of troubled people.

[@rejaneoliveira5019]

Congratulations on 200k!!!🥳🍾👏🏼 What a great achievement Dr. Grande, you earned each one of your subscribers due to your professionalism, hard work and delivery of outstanding videos! I am so happy for you and I wish you get many more subscribers!! About the video- this was a fantastic analysis! I personally enjoyed this video very much because I know someone who presents all the signs of PPD. In fact, that’s how I found your channel, because I thought something was not right and I wanted to understand if there was a disorder behind the peculiar behavior. That being said, after understanding this condition I was able to really have more compassion for this person and provide encouragement to seek treatment. Thank you again and again for your outstanding work Dr. Grande!

[@cjzanders5430]

Please do a video on the relationship between people who think they’re victims of “Gang Stalking,” and Paranoid or Schizotypal personality disorder. Gang stalking is very relevant and pervasive even on KZbin. Thanks Dr. Grande!

[@PitterPatter20]

I second this idea. Looking at gang stalking would be extremely interesting and relevant.

[@cjzanders5430]

PitterPatter20 - yes. Lol.

[@cjzanders5430]

PitterPatter20 - a lot of those people who believe they’re victims of it, do not see much possibility of their victimization being untrue. You can kind of tell what cluster that would be in.

[@PaulSmenis]

@@cjzanders5430 I'd really like to see this too.

[@qiuwbr091]

I don’t know how appropriate or inappropriate this is, but criminals have always stalked. These gang stalking groups probably formed because they didn’t catch on to why criminals would do that to them. Especially if they are older and born in the 50’s. People in large areas do it all the time. Especially, L.A., Boston, definitely New York, and New Jersey. (Did I leave out Mexico City, and Juarez?) I agree people who say they are gang stalked should look at the density of crimes in the areas where they live. I don’t think they are mentally ill because they aren’t socially astute. For example- the area I live in had a statistic for having THE MOST arrests for methamphetamine distribution in ALL of the United States. There were 2 methamphetamine labs in my IMMEDIATE vicinity for TWO decades. Not everyone looks these issues through thoroughly. I wish therapists looked before they leap in these issues. It isn’t paranoid to have methamphetamine cookers stalking you. It’s a real thing. P.S. no one in their best mind would state on- line if they had higher law enforcement clue them in! Not me! But, if the Feds know, the Feds know. It’s child like to ignore crimes and those who condone it in your area.

[@alexmack8054]

i stumbled across this video looking for the did ones, i suffer from ppd and it made me really happy to see it so well explained. i try to be open with my loved ones about my ppd but of course i find it really hard- i don't like telling people because i don't want it to be used against me and i don't like to leave a paper trail. i'm definitely going to show this video to people in the future when i want to attempt to explain it. thank you.

[@heartpoint5289]

Alex, would be willing to tell me how you became aware that you had ppd? What helped give you insight and understanding? And did anyone help you in a way that was especially significant or useful? I’m asking because I love someone who has this. I’ve tried for about a year to figure out what was happening. I saw overlaps with other Personality Disorders and I saw PTSD (which makes sense for what he’s been through), but nothing made total sense until I learned about ppd. I’d be grateful for any insights you can share.

[@KittehNow]

You are a master speaker, making it so much easier to understand. Thank you for the help you have provided for me and I'M SURE for so many others.

[@martyturcko8]

This is the best description of PPD I have found anywhere. Thank you so much for taking the time to explain this.

[@sahamal_savu]

You mention with these disorders that you would need to meet at least 4 of the 7 criteria and I meet all 7. Also the high rate of comorbidity with other personality disorders, which I believe I am experiencing. Specifically Paranoid Personality Disorder comorbid with Avoidant Personality Disorder, again meeting all criteria for both disorders. I just wanted to thank you for uploading these videos because as you well know, I am VERY reluctant to seek any further treatment due to the nature of what I'm dealing with. I have read through the DSM in the past but these videos have really helped my understanding of what it is I'm dealing with and how I can possibly go about approaching recovery. You've given me some hope that there are caring and competent counselors out there.

[@niltomega2978]

Very in depth description. My wife is symptomatic of this and its been a looooong 26 years

[@anamello674]

Another great video. Thank you, Dr Grande. Two questions please: (1) When you mention " Negative childhood experiences, specifically early body contact trauma", are you talking about physical abuse?; (2) Signs/Symptoms of this personality will appear only if triggered by a certain circumstance?

[@Allisonloosemore]

Same. I’m thinking, bodily trauma.

[@adhdsuperpowers1257]

YAY!! 200K subscribers - congratulations 🥳 and once again, thank you for the fantastic videos. I’m improving in my mental health with lots of professional help, self help, friends, family and lots of therapy! 💪🏻 👊🏻 💥

[@jerrymarshall2095]

Good work Dr.,pause,rewind,pause rewind.alot to assimilate for a novice like me,but it sure was interesting.

[@warrenhebert1926]

Please consider adding educational content for the spouse or family members of the person with PPD. Thanks for this enlightening discussion.

[@betsy3075]

Could you please do a video explaining the difference between PPD and CPTSD.

[@carlainsensed3858]

I appreciate the attention to nuances, co-morbid aspects,and detail given in your presentation Dr. Grande.

[@VictorAhn]

Thank you for this video, Dr. Grande. I'm a person with diagnosed DID and first came on your channel when I saw your video commentaries on DID channels. I was pulled into a lot of your other videos, now I watch them whenever I can. This video on PPD is very helpful in understanding the psychology and trauma I've gone through living under an individual with this disorder who aggressively displays these symptoms every single day, for more than a decade of my life. Aka my parent. I've been on a path of healing and this gives me a much bigger resolve.

[@Allisonloosemore]

To all out there, thinking about the Etymology of Paranoid Personality Disorder.. and the point Dr Grande made about “bodily contact trauma” and early negative childhood experiences, I delved into brain trauma in children and found these to be helpful:

[@katayna_girl8468]

Thank you for explaining this so clearly Dr. Grande! I was hyper focused on everything you said, and every time a question would pop into my head, your next sentence was answering it. 😄

[@malabuha]

Congrats on 200k :) it's a great channel with interesting content

[@elisamastromarino7123]

Complimenti, Dr Grande! 200k!? That is almost 10 times the amount of people that can fit into Madison Square Garden. No pressure, though. I just want you to do well and come up with some interesting scientifically informed medical health topics - like you did today. 😉😊 👍🌹

[@AnimalsMatterMorally]

My opinion is that I love your videos! Calm, rational, and educational, always.👍

[@Allisonloosemore]

Agree. Plenty of food for thought.

[@Allisonloosemore]

A great reference.

[@debsabatino311]

Wow, thank you for this. It answers the final questions as to what I was dealing with in a past relationship. So excited you reached 200K too! Congratulations!

[@xagon2012]

Hello Dr. Grande, I was thinking if you could make a video about toxic shame. I have now very clearly identified that shame lies at the core of my avoidant personality and I would be interested in a more detailed review of toxic shame, its origins, function, impact, how it can be healed, etc.

[@Allisonloosemore]

You really should be congratulated for focussing your topics on the DSM manual; facilitating, accurate access to current, definitive, black and white data to the general population, to which, they may be otherwise, unable to access independently or understand, or unknowingly be unaware of! Cheers and Merry Christmas Mr Grande🫶🏻

[@benjaminwiner6220]

THANK GOD YOU INCLUDED THE FIVE FACTOR MODEL ANALYSIS. thanks

[@marystevenson9303]

How about a video on differentiation? Signs of being high and low in, and how your family of origin affects it. Love your videos! So happy for you!

[@Allisonloosemore]

Good request

[@rm6857]

After watching your videos, i think i have every single personality disorder.

[@stephenpowstinger733]

☹️

[@sahamal_savu]

That's common but easily dismissed if you do your best to be objective about your symptoms and only come to a conclusion after analyzing your behavior for a long period of time like writing in a journal and looking back and finding the consistencies. Also that you meet ALL or nearly all of the criteria for that specific disorder before you can be fairly certain.

[@kellyannallen2454]

Thank you Dr.G ( so informative)😉and congrats on 200 . You are the best! Hope you have a amazing day😌

[@terrijamison9154]

What is body contact trauma you mention in this video. Is it sexual abuse or lack of nurturing?

[@kellyyork3898]

Beating the heck out of a very young child.

[@franmellor9843]

CONGRATULATIONS Dr Grande 200k! Very well deserved it can only keep going UP woohoos too you Sir !

[@junerittmeyer1794]

I think all your followers, Dr. Grande, will be able to diagnose soon. Probably won't see our own problems but, oh, we'll "know" what others have got!

[@devinplaatjes6242]

Very insightful perspectives being brought to the forefront in this video. I wouldn't be surprised if there were a statistic that could represent a majority of those individuals with PPD being misdiagnosed as schizo-typal or schizophrenic. I understand that you don't normally diagnose real life individuals, but I find some of these characteristics overlapping in some predominant historical figures. Alexander the Great for example showed many signs of being a particularly paranoid person, or perhaps under the spectrum of bipolar. What would your professional opinion be in regards to certain eccentric individuals like Beethoven, Winston Churchill or Gandhi? Perhaps you could make some enlightening videos to cover this topic?

[@nathanroberts7693]

This would be amazing I would love to look into historical figures and look at there attributes/disorders to see how it shaped them, great idea 👌🏻

[@Allisonloosemore]

Yeah! 😃

[@Allisonloosemore]

Yeah😃

[@MasterMalrubius]

I know you’re posting this about me!

[@colleenharding8665]

LMFAO

[@colleenharding8665]

Yep. You should probably sue him for defamation, "the song of your people. "

[@jeanettewaverly2590]

Andrew Boehmer He’s also got your house surrounded.

[@MasterMalrubius]

Jeanette Waverly Never take me alive! Unless there’s beer and pizza.

[@jeanettewaverly2590]

Andrew Boehmer And chocolate.

[@isaacthomas6544]

Has there been anything about PPD and abuse? There's someone I know who says he has PPD (I don't know if he's actually been diagnosed with it or not) but he's been harassing and stalking me for months because he's convinced that I'm conspiring against him because I want him dead for whatever reason. I haven't talked to him in almost six months, but he just messaged me again a few days ago about how I should be happy that he tried to kill himself and this behavior is so baffling to me. I had to report it to my boss and such because it got so serious and I was so scared he'd commit suicide and frame me for it (he wrote a whole suicide note in third person and posted it a few months ago).

[@stephenpowstinger733]

You might want to talk to someone about that. I hope you get him off your back.

[@lisamichelle8413]

Dr Grande .. how do you explain cognitive impairment in PPD ?? Would you please explain this ? 🤔

[@ishayabulus1993]

Sincerely speaking, your explanation and presentation to me is just superb. Thank you so much

[@jinojikitomo5065]

Do i have an disorder if my "paranoid" assumptions are most of the time right?

[@evantheking6218]

I always think people are trying to belittle me or “double talk” like say something that could mean a few different things.. I also think people try to intimidate me on purpose, like they sense my vulnerability and want to take advantage. I also think people spit in my food and drinks, I have a 5 year old son that I hate sending anywhere because I’m afraid people are trying to hurt him or poison him. I’ve come to hate people even my own mother. I fantasize about their deaths. Im a recluse and truly think that this lifestyle staying away from people is the only way I’ll be able to live on this earth.

[@budgetmicro5387]

I kid you not, this is what I'm seeing myself becoming. I'm 17 right now and I've come up with procedures to check whether or not somebody has done something to my stuff, spit in my food and drinks, or somebody has gone into my room. I always check the status of said thing before I leave, I don't even ask, others ( mostly in school) if something has happened because they'll take advantage of it. Except my closest friends who know about it. And now I'm beginning to worry about my family. My older siblings are in university and I'm scared that they might run into psychos who might kill them or do worse. That's why I've decided to not marry, and never have a kid. I don't want someone to care about. Recently I'm even thinking of living in isolation one day and saying goodbyes to family and friends, I just dont want to hear that one day they're dead. Better to say goodbye now than not saying it ever.

[@Allisonloosemore]

@@budgetmicro5387 what about also having the thought, that, if you were in trouble, nobody would know, because you’re not keeping in touch, or worse still, thinking nobody would care if they knew… I feel like nobody would know if I’m dead or alive at any given moment in the future… and that no body would attend my funeral, remember my wishes to be buried with my Son, or care to attend. I have lost contact with just about everyone.

[@sammychicken3457]

Hello, I'm new to the channel after being introduced to it by our daughter. As Registered Nurse, I was wondering if many new & / older ailments have now being added to the DSM 5. I'm curious as for example if it has been determined by Physicians' that an individual had taken a myriad of illigal drugs (poly drug use e.g. ice) which I expect were not either developed &/ used when the initial DSM Guide was pubished. It had been determined that the poly drug used has severe mental health damage. Sorry to babble on, but just wanted to ask, as mentioned above, whether it has been determined that these mental health concerns are published in the DSM 5? Kind regards from Adelaide, South Australia.

[@irenewatson]

Spot on,I've just realised that the nearby narcissist also suffers with paranoia,thanks to your detailed information.We have had incidents of huge trucks coming into our area due to missing the turn for their depot.They then have to manoeuvre these huge trucks out of the cul de sac we live in.Sometimes they don't succeed so well.The narcissists front rockery was damaged in the middle of the night by a tyre 3times larger than normal.The tyre marks left confirmed it. They became suspicious of me and I don't drive,but that's not something that's relevant if you want it to be me in their mind it must be.The fact that my pillar at the end of the driveway had been taken out was ignored as all their minions/family gathered to discuss the level of retribution that was to follow.I would never have understood all of the traits and how they come together and most of all how to manage them,except for the kindness of Dr Grande in sharing his wealth of knowledge.Thank you so much for what you do.

[@DetoNaGamerscom]

I think I have PPD and evolved a little OCD to feel more comfortable, because little mistakes always made me fearful that someone would use them to take advantage of me, so I always followed patterns to avoid mistakes, even as a kid forcing my self to follow the most populated paths to school because I was scared of being mauled by bullies. Example: I used to check all doors and windows before sleep, but later in the day I wasn't being 100% perfectionist, just doing it because I felt necessary, but now I just can't sleep If I don't check them, even when it's not necessary, like when I have visits or I'm just going to take a little nap during the day.

[@Allisonloosemore]

It does not hurt to keep yourself safe! I resonate with ‘evolving’, or developing some OCD as an adaptation, subconsciously, to cope. Me too. I too, was terrified of a male high school bully, as a primary aged (5-6 yr old) child and getting from school to home particularly.. so much so, that it was organised for me to walk with an older girl to a certain point… where she went one direction and I the other..still a fair distance for me to walk alone… one day she crossed the road on our way home and asked me to wait on one side for her. I saw the bully looming over the hill, about 100m behind where I was standing,waiting. Terrified of being alone, to get to my support person, I ran in front of a car and luckily only was clipped on the foot.. I vividly recall

[@DetoNaGamerscom]

@@Allisonloosemore My incidents are/were only me being too much aggressive towards someone based only in my pre judgement, so it's only PPD. But on OCD, I can deviate, it's just that I feel anxious, that's why it only bothers my sleep. Maybe what made you cross the road without thinking was your desesperation on PPD, not your OCD, like me, I act agressive because of desesperation for confronting a "big threat", it's only that you chose to flee instead of fight.

[@mahwashsamadi]

How can you get help for PPD person if they think there’s nothing wrong with them?

[@yoko7395]

please more videos on schizotypal personality disorder!!!!! your videos are very important and information packed! I love it! that you so much

[@jenlovesthisstuff]

Congrats on 200K subs Dr Grande and thankyou for making this video.

[@awkwardzoltar3529]

I’m getting better but there is still things I’m still paranoid about, because there is some logic to my fears. Mainly I have fears about smells that cause some kind of reaction, though most of them are due to allergies. I’m a pretty shitty person my paranoia has harm mostly me but also my father. I’m not a good person, and now I feel so lost. I’m just faced with the reality of how many time I’ve constantly failed, I need to give myself a purpose. My sleep schedule is abnormal as well and I don’t know if I could ever really fix that. I hate being here in isolation with no breaks to make feel oh no I’m normal and everything is fine. Nothing is normal and I’m completely useless and also garbage.

[@alpage9306]

Look it will get better

[@stefanlindstrom-entreprenology]

Really congruent video,interesting and well-put conclusions.

[@angelonintendo]

My mom has this disorder, she also has been highly abusive to me, its very hard to understand in terms of diagnostic criteria there was a narcissistic component to it, almost like psychotic narcissism. Paranoia and rage was the main component, but when I seek counseling on the matter of the abused I suffered, was overall narcissistic and borderline abuse

[@viriescalona2628]

I would love if you could check the case of James Saroka.. I believe that the videos that he made could show how manupilative tactics work and maybe, how a disorder looks like. He filmed himself and how he treated hi's girlfriend and it is horrific the way he treats her and gaslight her. *sorry for my bad english

[@PitterPatter20]

I second CJ Zander's idea of looking at the gang stalking phenomenon. I think that's a great idea. It would also be great to see a comparative video between clusters a,b, and c. Perhaps framed as "if there was a new personality disorder, how would psychologists decide which cluster to add it to?" (Assuming it would be added to at least one of them).

[@cjzanders5430]

- I didn’t think about a new personality disorder. If the symptoms of “victims of gangs talking,” are all the same and they differ from other disorders in substantial ways, I would expect this to be new in the DSM or it’s newer version.

[@PitterPatter20]

@@cjzanders5430 I'm proposing a different video idea when I mention the clusters. One video should be on gang stalking, another (totally different) video should be a cluster comparison. The cluster comparison isn't about gang stalking, just some hypothetical new pd. These videos would be totally unrelated.

[@junerittmeyer1794]

Kurt Cobain is quoted as saying: "Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they aren't after you."

[@Auriflamme]

That's actually from the book Catch 22, by Joseph Heller.

[@st.blackops2cel61]

@@Auriflamme your argument is not mutually exclusive with the comment.

[@Auriflamme]

@@st.blackops2cel61 The quote is commonly misattributed to Cobain. That is my point.

[@becca7038]

So I don't have bpd, I got ppd lol. I been diagnosed bpd but paranoid is by far my worst symptom. I know my whole life ppl complained about my paranoia but in my mind they don't like my paranoia because they can't get away with alot with me.

[@belgadog99]

omg you just described my significant other. I was basically reading about narcissistic personality disorder. it seems like he may have both?(comorbid?) He will never get any medical help. He even told me, do not tell my dr everything cause my own dr will "use it against me" WTF. He has a big ego, very self important and convinced that he is totally normal and other people are "dumb/stupid/naive". gives me lectures on how naive i am..i just leave the room and lock myself in the bathroom and run the water. I cannot really change him, he is what he is. He does not drink/smoke/use drugs.

[@Dialysispctgirly]

My boyfriend is the same way. He your got any better or worse?

I wanted to find out where I could find a meeting for paranoia anonymous but they won't tell you where they hold there meetings.

[@swanseanetherlands6996]

Your video was inspirational it helps me to identify some of my circumstances I face in the environment I adjust to dealing with severe mental illness.

[@georgewashingtoniv8745]

Another thing that's extremely saddening to the family members and people suffering with PPD, is that their loved ones that suffer from this will often times feel too exhausted to even want to try to have a "heart to heart" with you or really externalize/share what they are experiencing. Especially when they don't possess the capacity to not be suspicious even when you simply ask, "Is it ok if we talk? I love you." I honestly don't know of what form of potential solution there is to be governed when sincerity, kindness, altruism, basic rational thinking, caring, attentiveness, and love all fail. What else is there? They can become so fatigued to where the only thing they want to do is a form of entertainment for themselves while they wake up and repeat this cyclical, Hellish, nightmare every single day. I don't even understand how my brother functions at work at all or lives in another "normal" sense of reality alongside this devastating and agonizingly horrific disorder.

[@yarazard]

Yes, it causes exhaustion and stress in their loved ones.

[@georgewashingtoniv8745]

@@yarazard Yes

[@EgaoKage]

If the "Dark Triad" is comprised of Psychopathy, Machiavellianism and Narcissism, what would we call it if Narcissism were entirely absent, and in its place was PPD? Its been my experience that Narcissism is often at odds with both Psychopathy and Machiavellianism, in a number of ways, within an individual. That is to say, a person afflicted with those three conditions, would often feel at odds with themself; their motivations often in conflict with one another. Whereas, Paranoia seems to be "complimentary" to Psychopathy and Machiavellianism (in the worst possible way, of course). Any thoughts on that?

[@queenofyoworld]

I have this. From trauma from my childhood and toxic and dangerous family that disrupted the process of my life. I was verbally abused at home and lived in a dirty home. My peers bullied me from 1st to 11th grade. I had to seek professional help. I recently started getting help again.

[@andreakoroknai1071]

Why does this person want to know how I am? :O I feel like this is me sometimes lol, I don't have this disorder though, just anxiety and depression

[@stephenpowstinger733]

If one goes along in isolation for awhile, hearing someone suddenly ask how one is can sound a bit odd. 🤔

[@racheltheehermit7314]

But do you feel they are automatically “out to get you”? I think that’s the key difference. Sometimes people with anxiety have had bad things happened to them, so the brain just reacts.

[@racheltheehermit7314]

Came here after watching the Dave Chappelle Oprah interview. It’s fascinating viewing with this in mind.

[@Hilz28]

Can we get some going about the more dominant presenting PDs? BPD and Narcissistic PD? That would be interesting to hear your perspective!

[@DeyvsonMoutinhoCaliman]

My crazy borderline ex always believed that everyone was badmouthing her, she couldn't see two people speaking that she always thought it was about her, and also had illogical jealousy. Certainly she had it to some degree. Once she stood up and got into a fight with two young girls out of nowhere. She sweared to me the two were speaking ill of her, but it was impossible to listen from that distance, she didn't hear anything, she imagined she heard, maybe even some hallucination. At the church she was always speaking about how people were looking at her with judgmental eyes. I didn't know anything about mental illness back then, I thought all of this was just common female behavior. She didn't have some grand conspiracy theory, but always expected the worst from other people. She also already had 6 psychotic episodes throughout her life, she is 32. She is considered borderline, but was also diagnosed as bipolar and obsessive compulsive in the past, even esquizoaffective. Eventually she turned against me and turned my life hell for a while.

[@Allisonloosemore]

I’m hearing you..I am…I feel sorry that you were ill-equipped to deal with that relationship.. I also feel for the ‘crazy’ ex.. very sad indeed. Hope you’re okay.🫶🏻

[@doctorstreamspunk9996]

I'm an animation artist and recently I was approached by a successful film maker who wanted to collaborate. He announced that he loved what I do and that he'd like to work with me and help promote me. However, in most of our communications since he has vacillated between admiration and derision, expressing a shocking level of anger toward me for not meeting certain rather vague standards. When I've asked for clarification he's also dismissive of my questions. In some conversations he seems quite vulnerable, perhaps excessively so, and in others cold aloof and dripping with sarcasm. He's clearly paranoid, not just on an interpersonal level, but frequently digresses into the various ways the earth is coming to an end. What initially appeared to be sensitivity and social consciousness soon began to look more like paranoid ideation.We've only known one another for 3 weeks but it already feels like years, and I can't imagine any reason to speak to this person again. What looked like an ideal collaboration now looks like a poisonous trap that needs to be avoided. Can anyone tell me what just happened?

[@srmillard]

Great vid! Great info. Thank you. My ex likely had BPD/covert NPD and PPD... super distrustful. She actually said "I don't want to talk to you about my mental health struggles b/c you might use it against me". (Ginormous red flag now). And she was also highly, highly litigious... at the end of our relationship I felt like I was dating a lawyer... and, let's just say that she was *very* comfortable (ab)using law enforcement as a tool to do her bidding, enact revenge, etc.

[@irisheyesofbelfast]

Was she one of those people to beat the crap out of herself then go to the police blaming you? My sil did that multiple times.

[@billhildebrand5053]

Comment 126: 2026 views. Congratulations on reaching 200K subscribers. 🥺😀🥺 I like the definition Ego-syntonic. Your view of Paranoia is very timely as it has had made some presence in where I have lived. I like your definition - esp the first about the individual thinking others are out to get them. Thankyou Dr. Grande for your work in making us more knowledgeable. 😄😄😄😄😀😀😀😀👍

[@justnoted2995]

Dr. Grande thanks again for a very informative video. Would you consider doing one on the 5 factor personality model, and how it may be applied to suicide vulnerability / risk

[@Allisonloosemore]

‘That I remember by the word OCEAN’ 🫶🏻

[@terrymoore565]

Having a family member with PPD I could write a few books on this disorder , from beginnings to on going, year after year, our greatest fear is someone will harm them, not them harming anyone else. Its been hell to watch this go on for the last ten years or so.

[@nowellburt6989]

Terry, I know exactly what you are saying, I have the same thing with my family member. Did you take them to a psychiatrist?

[@ieatgrass108]

@Gunel Hatami I am in the same situation as you except I am the child. My father has PPD and he always blames my mother and accuses her of things she never had the intention of. Like doing things disrespectful behind his back, exposing him to our friends, or even as far my mother being unfaithful to him and hanging out with other men. These are absurd claims that he has been keeping against her for 3 decades they are both almost 60 and yet my father still thinks she is using him, when in fact my mother is one of amazing people I have ever met. Recently is has reached a breaking point. I recently knew about this disorder and tried to explain it to him but he rejects and says “you don’t know anything, it’s all your mothers fault” he doesn’t see my picture and probably will never realize that he’s the one causing the issues. Your husband will probably never acknowledge that he is in the wrong and will always see you as a villain, my advice is explain to him that if you don’t get your issues solved you will divorce him. May god help us all in these hard times.

[@ieatgrass108]

@Gunel Hatami and also no matter how you act towards someone with PPD even if you act like an angel they will still find a way to accuse you.

[@ieatgrass108]

@Gunel Hatami whenever he blames you for something don’t talk back with anger or hostility, dismiss anything and make him doubt himself use words like “what are you talking about?” “Listen to yourself you aren’t making any sense” “why would that happen” try to avoid things like “no I didn’t” “you’re wrong”

[@nydcat]

If a coworker or loved one develop that personality disorder, what can you do?

[@derekkras]

whats the difference between someone with PPD and a person with high level of neurotisizm

[@dasein9980]

Good question

[@mgal6234]

He did say PPD is usually comormid with so many other disorders, so it probably has a lot of overlap with traits of high neuroticism.

[@kathrinjohnson2582]

Great question!

[@notvcinema8741]

Would you do a video on attachment disorder?

[@billhildebrand5053]

12 people were happy you reached 200,000 subscribers and me too. Happy 😘😘 SUBSCRIPTION DAY CELEBRATION 😘😘😘

[@vondamorphew3505]

Dr. Grande, will you speak about Dissociative Identity Disorder and Multiple Personal Disorder? What, if any, are the differences? What are the symptoms and treatments? Can either be caused by early childhood medical trauma? Thank you for all the informative videos.

[@CaptainTae]

I like this series. I’d love to see more. Borderline. Bipolar. All the BPDs.

[@ritadoran5039]

Hi Dr Grande Would love to know what disorders person Stalks others.....the most and third party stalking is this a classic narcissistic trait???? Thanks 😊

[@Imtrying_girl]

My dad has Paranoid Personality Disorder and it's very pervasive. Why the hell would people want it removed??

[@yuansmart]

i didn't visit a psychiatrist yet but i have a feeling i have paranoid personality disorder. everytime i go outside i feel everybody is looking at me. and when someone look at me at the eye it feels like they stabbing me, i feel angry and afraid when someone look me in the eye.. everytime i go outside the house i feel unsafe

[@ibrarmushtaq2430]

Hi, people with PPD misinterprete their own partners face expression?

[@amandaj8028]

I Would bet money that my mother has this problem.She has always been very difficult to communicate with. Also with her brothers and sisters growing up. The worst part is when you try to tell them that they need help , they look at you like YOU"RE the crazy one... It's soooooooo frustrating.

[@jhammond2237]

Please do a comprehensive review of histrionic pd.

[@veganeater642]

Can you please do a PPD vs BPD "behaviour and thoughts" video?

[@shonyngapapa6504]

My son has got this and is spiraling downwards. Please help me ,he needs help. And is also taking drugs to cover it. He makes me nervous around him and upsets us all . All the time. He won't get help for himself and thinks we all against him. Desperately needed help. I rung mental health but they won't help either. He's angry all the time and has said he'll take himself out. I'm pulling my hair out. He also over thinks all the time. Who can help him...

[@twiggy1415]

Ok so I was following that really well but then... i didn't lol. I will watch again. It must be difficult diagnosing disorders. Another good one, thanks Dr Grande!

[@stephenpowstinger733]

I think there is more jargon in this one than usual so I agree, it gets hard to follow.

[@stefanmilanovic85]

Can you pls make a video on F29 Psychosis non organica, non specificata? My brother has a long time substance abuse and has developed many disorders such as F29, but I don't understand what that is? Is that schizophrenia or not? I read somewhere that it is a diagnose which is not permanent but my brother doesn't want to go into treatment so the doctors can evaluate him further. He hasn't taken a bath for 2 years, but he does wash his hands in bathroom for an hour and then cleans his hands for another hour with the towel. So he just washes his hands, not other (=more important) parts of the body.

[@deb_diaries]

Hello, Dr. Grande. Would you mind evaluating the mental health/personality factors that may have been present in 1) Marilyn Monroe and 2) Adolf Hitler? Additionally, are you familiar with the July 2014 murder of Dan Markel? Information regarding this case is readily available on the internet. This is a fascinating case, and I am interested in understanding it better. Specifically, what are the mental health/personality factors that may be present in Wendy Adelson and, more importantly, her mother Donna Adelson and her brother Charlie Adelson? Thank you very much for your willingness to educate the public on mental health. You are performing a much needed public service. The content of your videos is very appealing to me, and I get further enjoyment from them because the way you organize your thoughts and present information is very similar to mine. Additionally, I love your sense of humor as it is very much like mine. On occasion, your insights are hilarious. Your assessment of Joe Exotic is one such example. Again, thank you for educating the public on mental health issues.

[@mervatzaiter1711]

How would the spouse of the person with PPD deal with this condition? How to answer the person with PPD to calm the situation down during arguments or episodes?

[@zoeison235]

Hi there , been asking that question for 8 years now. There are times when I can't cope and handle things badly. I have found that if you just let them talk , answer firmly but kindly, generally they will eventually wear themselves out. Of course this takes its toll on you too. If you feel it getting to aggressive or you feel unsafe, try to remove yourself from the situation. I've on many occasions had to go for a drive to calm down. Go and spend an hour with a trusted friend or family member. I've accepted that things will not change. Take one day at a time. It feels like an impossible illness to deal with. I have very often felt that I need to leave. Then I see that my husband is suffering too. I don't know if I can stay indefinitely, but I will do my best to keep working at it.

[@G_ATA_7]

Now these are true for me but only ONE person and I do have many signs and confirmation from Private Investigator and I suspect my ex was a narcissist still entangled with his 'ex' who 'accidentally' claimed they were partners to PI and they spent his birthday, xmas together, train in gym together regularly and are in daily contact in person and on phone. Hence I cut all ties as I felt spiraling down with cognitive dissonance, anxiety etc. I have NEVER experienced anything like this before. I hope it will normalise now that I'm focusing on recovery from this toxic connection.

[@littlebruja7623]

I love your videos Dr. Grande! I’m working my way through them all right now. I’d love to hear a topic on kink and BDSM and whether or not they are healthy ways to deal with stress and anxiety and also whether or not they are healthy ways to express romantic love and attraction. 💕

[@Allisonloosemore]

Probably not the latter….😆

[@gsafadi2]

Facinating topic. Love those deep dives. 😆🖒