Cheating in Marriage: A dealbreaker ?

[@indecribindecrib9832]

True talk, imagine my seven year old son telling me that their teacher told them that a boy is not meant to be in the kitchen. Because of this he has been washing dishes as his core job daily. We really need to change this narrative.

[@Letstalkwithesiri]

I want to be sure you went to the school to have a conversation or called the teacher to order? Did you or did you not?

[@ezinneerhirhieneeukaogo1439]

Its even in Nigerian text books When they taught my son that mother's job was to do laundry, he quivkly told them thats the job of a washing machine , not his mom

[@kiv_daniels]

Please I’m a woman, don’t let him suffer for the teacher’s teachings. He is seven, is there anyone he can at least take turns with? Or maybe once in a while

[@chisomo8088]

@@kiv_daniels please rest. Boys need to learn, and what she's doing is her business. Let's stop telling parents how to parent their children. As long as they aren't harming the child, mind your business

[@this_shade_of_gold]

You see a guy and he's telling you when I'm gaming no one distracts me not even my parents..... Like are you serious!!! A girl child can't even breathe without being interrupted or distracted....smh My son is definitely doing the dishes he might even learn catering among others.

[@rubyben4337]

I want to give you a hug so bad Toke. I can imagine how much judgment you went through with the release of your book and how many uncomfortable spaces you had to sit in or friends that stepped back from you. I was one of those people who finished your book on the first day of release in one sitting in my college dorm room and thought, wow! this is the most courageous African woman I know.

[@TokeMakinwa]

Thank you this means a lot ❤️

[@seraphinemoses3486]

Name of the book please

[@Duloiam]

@@TokeMakinwa bless u Qing na woman u be ♥️ u much tnk u very much for being u

[@momoduvalentina405]

@@TokeMakinwa I love your audacity to be all you can and more. Keep going girl❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@florenceflourish6367]

@@seraphinemoses3486 unbecoming.....hope got it

[@reconnecttv1061]

Shame the culture of Shame. This conversation is closest to my heart. I love it al!!!

[@dolapom8735]

I genuinely love Toke and Toolz. I honestly didn’t know you guys had issues in the past and I sensed a hint of tension and distance during your conversation. But what I love most is the fact that you talked a bit about it towards the end, and that is growth and I am here for it 👏🏾 👏🏾 . Well done ladies 😘🥰

[@Dearanthonia]

So true! i didn't like Toke for a long time because of her book. I felt it wasn't a good idea but as i grow older and now married, i honestly don't blame her. I'm so obsessed with Toke 😍🥰

[@sonaodafen688]

Wow. The book made me humanize her. Lol

[@imoleayoomokoye6001]

❤😊

[@247tonytipon]

As for daughter and son thing it's all depends on the parents. My mom had boys before the girls. She made a point of duty to train us on how to run all the home chores! We all know how to cook, clean and wash. That experience kept us grounded! It deeply helped us as bachelor's.

[@ch_obi]

My darling TM, you spoke the truth, our mothers didn't try for us ladies, oddly remembering the time my friend's mum said a woman belongs to one man but a man belongs to many women, I kid you not, stared at this woman in disbelief.....well let God help us to find the right man/woman who believes in sticking to one partner.......

[@PaultheSheik]

Good luck finding that man. I am Ghanaian and I have to tell you that of the about 110 guys on my school year book platform, only about 8 to 12 that I believe don’t cheat. That’s about 10%. 10%. So good luck to you and all the women out there, you’re all going to be fighting to land that 10% of men who don’t cheat. 100 women each trying to land one of only 10 good men. Kpele for you 😁. Of course you can also choose to be single, your choice.

[@adebolaadewunmi177]

@@PaultheSheik Let's assume you are right, let me also tell you there are Loads of women who cheat too, I hope you except that your wife will cheat on you also.

[@PaultheSheik]

@@adebolaadewunmi177 We are not "assuming" I am right. I am speaking facts. It is your choice whether to accept it or not. Whether my wife will cheat or not is immaterial to the facts I have presented. It is not my fault you don't like the facts I have presented. It is what it is.

[@adebolaadewunmi177]

I understand you , I am also stating facts that women also cheat, cheating isn't gender based, Men are only indulged by the society when caught. Paternity fraud has always been in existence and is still in existence. Good luck to you in not raising another man's child @@PaultheSheik

[@PaultheSheik]

​@@adebolaadewunmi177 Paternity fraud is less than 2% meanwhile how many African men not only step out on their wives but actually have children with side chicks and second wives? I will conservatively say at least 10%. It is and remains a man's world in Africa dear. I must say I am very happy to be a man.😀 Are you perchance a woman? If so I can understand your frustration.

[@freshangel1]

Toke I love how Candid and open you are. You aren’t afraid of saying what’s on everybody’s minds - nobody does it like you

[@tutsypie]

Absolutely!! I like her openness when it comes to reality💯

[@kelechiwellington3303]

I wish Toolz talked more. Great episode.

[@dammieoke]

I sooo agre with Toke. Just because a man supports financially and the family doesn't lack anything is not a key to to behave anyhow

[@NinthJewel]

Cheating is a choice . If one’s partner cheats - the victim should leave without being judged 👏 thanks for sharing ladies

[@TokeMakinwa]

Absolutely. Thank you

[@sorunke2002]

You mean should be able to leave without being judged. There's a place for forgiveness for both sides.

[@taihannae9792]

@@sorunke2002 forgiveness doesn’t mean you have to stay, also you cant tell anyone what to and not forgive everyone has/should have a deal breaker

[@Joyof-Living]

"Shame the culture of shame." Yes ma'am!

[@bilikisolayiwola3136]

Toolz was so real . God bless her.

[@tutsypie]

Oh myyy Toolz went to Adrao Intl!! AMAZING!! An Alunmi💯💯 whoop whoop!!

[@ibhorsfall326]

Felt lots of awkward energy coming from this video. Love them both❤

[@simiwuyi]

I think it's because it is a very personal and often ignored conversation. Especially in Africa.

[@estarbablo5972]

Been waiting for this to drop on here 😍🥹! Yayy! Congratulations Toke!!

[@TokeMakinwa]

💝💝💝

[@VoyageFioreNetwork]

Don't interject when your guests are speaking, please, you cut your guest a couple of times when she tried to speak or explain something - I still love you and enjoyed this interview. Beautiful quality work my sister. 💖

[@maraaba6734]

I was about to type the same. I love Toke, but I think she interjects too much to talk about herself.

[@gcbaby100]

I am living to Tools Bubu... Love IT

[@jesselle28]

TM is amazing 🤩🤩 But being paired with toolz🔥🔥🔥🔥 Interesting conversation you both had. Keep at it!❤️

[@TokeMakinwa]

Gracias❤️❤️

[@okonkwotina2172]

This conversation is everything deep all round that one shouldn’t miss. Thanks for sharing this with us TM

[@nassambaolufunke352]

Toolz looks absolutely stunning ❤

[@eniolaodugbesan866]

I love this conversation very well. You ladies are really good at what you do

[@kind2423]

Toke is my bestie in my head. I love her

[@TheRealVeev]

21:53 and so on is a valuable lesson I learned in 2019. Marriage is like a business partnership. You don't own your spouse and you shouldn't control them. Very very key to have this in mind before tying the knot with anyone.

[@olubusolaawolaja6831]

Wow! This is deep- that you don’t own your spouse! Many women need to hear this

[@ebruphiyoemareyo7687]

Mostly men

[@talk2solum]

Really enjoying this conversation, the honesty from Toolz....👍

[@CommonSenseSisters]

One of the greatest power anyone can utilize on earth 🌍 , is your ability to tell your story unapologetically. Peace ✌️comes when you listen to that still voice within you to forge ahead ❤ be courageous, sooner or later you will find your tribe & impact lives in the process

[@marthaadebayo8035]

I love listening to TM 😊 it’s educating 🥺❤️

[@tianahz]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 a lot of young ladies or women in general needs to watch this episode.

[@peaceamgbapu3827]

Amazing! We need more of such conversations around. Love you TM

[@funkelovethowonla9402]

I've missed you so much. Welcome back.

[@oparamesther]

Please Toke air your program on TV..this! your show is too good to be limited to youtube only

[@EnifomeEbufegha]

So true

[@winifreddokubo]

After 4years of following Toke, I finally achieved this 😂😂😂😂

[@Up_skye]

1st to view and comment??😂

[@TokeMakinwa]

❤️❤️❤️

[@winifreddokubo]

I’m literally going to faint right now, Toke liked my comment 💃💃💃

[@Zeiny905]

@@TokeMakinwa I love you sis. Thanks for connecting with us here.

[@bakareaishat529]

I love how Toke outrightly says what everyone is thinking but cannot say.

[@Dorastea]

This just revived my spirit. Thank you for sharing this with the world. I'm up again on my dreams.

[@abigailaduwe]

Thank God BBN is over she's back yayyyy!!!!

[@TokeMakinwa]

Back and better 💃🏾

[@abigailaduwe]

To think this was just a genuine comment with no expectation of you replying ahhhhh you've made my day❤❤❤

[@beea.9435]

Beautiful show... Love Toke's "as a matter of fact persona" and I could listen to Toolz speak forever...such a lovely voice, mannerisms and composure. Toke.... Try let your guests land on their points though. I understand your passion and excitement but be cautious.

[@maryambenson5835]

I agree 💯. Toke please let your guests land with their points and reduce interruptions / interjecting.

[@maameadjoapokuaaasare9572]

I agree

[@inthestyleofuzezi]

This I enjoyed conversation errthang. Host and guest and how the conversation flowed.

[@lauraezekwe]

Toke is such a breath of fresh air

[@OmaThompson26]

I loved everything about this podcast, toolz was a wonderful guest❤

[@florenceflourish6367]

I love this....Toke n Toolz.....Fire.

[@dhunnieakanbi696]

I love everything about this conversation.

[@winniepatricks2686]

Toke, you have a striking resemblance with mrs folorunsho alakija.

[@oginingangam6386]

This was lovely to watch❤

[@officialfiwa5000]

The thumbnail of this video is great, nice one!

[@AQUABEE19]

When I say toolz is my spirit animal 😊

[@talkwithlovetta05]

Wow!!!! So educative and interesting.. I mean I was glued to the end... Weldone babes💪👍

[@azeezatsule3412]

Toke your doing so well, Powerful Woman🙌❤️

[@adorable_hilda6247]

I love love love toke 🧚🏼‍♀️

[@halimayahaya4114]

Everybody should accept cheating has no gender. Women have endured a lot for a man's promiscuous attitude. Toke my darling, you are always speaking my mind. I love you and Toolz

[@puffcinnamoncloud]

Yay Toke has finally posted!!

[@christinaiornongu2571]

Toke, if you invite Guest, allow them talk. We all love the sound of your voice and the sense in things your points but allow your Guest talk well well.

[@florenceflourish6367]

I think it is common to all of them....Even Toolz and Gbemi does same...... It's not formal interview though..this is like gisting with your friend and both of you needed to talk simultenously

[@nimatdaud876]

Toke.. You and this your laugh 😂... I've always listened to your show... But this episode made me a fan..

[@officialfiwa5000]

I love toolz❤

[@ingotluxury9344]

I love you Toke hopefully soonest you will interview muah and tell my success story.

[@favouritefay]

Video is still downloading but I'm just excited knowing we have a new episode yo!! 💕💃

[@TokeMakinwa]

❤️❤️🥺

[@thehappyroom5673]

I really enjoyed this vlog 🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@saratuibrahim1348]

Omo toke has been a blessing to me

[@OnyinxE]

Loved watching this 🥰😍

[@mollys360kitchen7]

Thank you so much!

[@thedeoladollars]

Very interesting conversation…just to chip in something where you said “like is greater than love”, like can never be greater than love what happens is on the days your partner does something you do not like you go back to love which is patient and holds no grudges. So love is in fact greater than like.

[@queenruthy8406]

Very true 💯

[@williamsolawale4208]

Marriage comprises of love, passion and commitment. Like and friendship is never part of it.

[@thedeoladollars]

@@williamsolawale4208 friendship and fondness are a fundamental part of marriage.

[@williamsolawale4208]

@@thedeoladollars if you love someone won't you automatically be friends. I'm just friendships is never the basics to get married.

[@beea.9435]

Beautiful testimony and way to wrap up Toke 👏👏👏

[@maryslens5330]

Tokes you Know I love you. ❤

[@sandradabby4473]

Toke is so hardworking

[@sandradabby4473]

Toke my best ❤️❤️❤️

[@anthoniabalogun]

You don't own anyone!This is powerful.

[@AliyahAfolabi]

This was so interesting 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 we need more conversations like this TM !!! Thank you for being so Real Toolz God bless you and TM ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@abasifrekeetuk7997]

Toke is such a natural

[@graceweah3632]

Welcome back toke love 💕 you from Liberia

[@ashwithlovee]

I absolutely love how real this episode was. Thank you Toke❤

[@Joshuaolalekan]

TM!!!!was waiting for the visuals since 😭

[@eunicejoseph1080]

This was very nice….and I have always loved you Toke from day 1 despite how some Nigerians drag ur name cs of ur personal Life/lifestyle who are we to judge n I’m not Nigerian, but there is just something about you, you always speak the TRUTH, sense, facts n issue of what our mothers have done, the not to lose urself,..ppl can’t handle it cs they know they slacking as for Toolz mmh the lady just has wisdom 100% and kind and very cool. Both of you are great, God bless.

[@akakandelwakandepwe6061]

This my it conversation 🥺🥺❤

[@dancinginthepurplereign4126]

My favorite baby girl for life! Congratulations on your new podcast!

[@chiomaaloh6286]

Gosh, I had to comment. "When you are being honest, you get a lot done". Never heard a more true line Sis. 🥰🥰

[@augustaselorm2358]

Off Air ooo I can't wait oo

[@DrBarnsnation]

Love You Guys‼️

[@peejaytopbliss]

Toke, please if the situation happens to you as a mother or mother in-law that u were reported to what advise will u give? Sincerely I was thinking that is the best advice a mother.

[@damilola732]

Toks love your two piece,where is it from?

[@Ladyfaithke]

This video is worth every minute of one’s time!

[@temidayoowojori2317]

Thank you for this podcast...insightful..Many key take home words☺️🤗

[@eucheriajoseph8390]

Nice conversations and topics but I feel the guest is not open enough, Toke did most of the talking and the guest kept avoiding questions 😂 overall the show was amazing ❤

[@joyjames6753]

I Love The podcast, very insightful and I love your vibe. Keeping doing you.

[@estherjanet255]

Toke is a 💎 ❤

[@bgsonsthriving.]

❤❤❤loving every bit of this conversation

[@cenolynbenard4676]

I love this episode

[@Oluwadamilola.Adeola]

Such an amazing episode

[@lovelynjoseph8452]

Toke i love u ❤️❤️❤️

[@dancinginthepurplereign4126]

My dad was a philandering man. Never spent a full day at home. Had secret lives. Secret children Polygamy is very selfish on the parents parts. Until I cut off my father, I didn't trust men or even like them.

[@winifreddokubo]

First to view and first to comment 💃💃💃

[@folushojoke6146]

Love this episode. I really learnt a lot from both of you ❤

[@Monalisa.3]

This is very exciting!

[@reconnecttv1061]

Toke. Times are changing. Less and less is the Wife getting dragged. Case in point Yul Edochie and Mercy Signed Man.

[@ekeochaoluchisandra5868]

I enjoyed every bit of this... God bless you both for being real

[@carolynololade4126]

Agba Presenters🙇🏾‍♀️🙇🏾‍♀️🙇🏾‍♀️🙇🏾‍♀️🙇🏾‍♀️

[@byst8729]

A man cheats based on how he feels about himself. It’s based on insecurities and ego.

[@carolynololade4126]

Period!!! You said it all in a simple sentence.

[@mercypheltrum2489]

Pls throw more light pls

[@sweetspice9120]

@@mercypheltrum2489 if the guy needs external validation he will cheat. It has nothing to do with his partner. An insecure man with no personal discipline

[@themoneymo]

I love how Toke laughs😂🥰

[@busayomary6601]

Wicked kinda laugh 😂

[@tutsypie]

Everyyyyy needs therapy...Wellll done TM👌👌👌

[@DEJATHECREATIVE]

Love it ❤️

[@anthoniabalogun]

Great conversation!

[@hunyeiyanuoluwa8136]

Loved every part of this❤️