We Were Wrong: The Most Wanted Type of Gay in Japan is...

[@TokyoBTM]

Hi Tokyo Tops! This survey BLEW OUR MIND! Just want to shout out to Don for making and conducting this survey. You guys probably have a lot of opinions and thoughts! Please comment below and let's discuss!

[@itzmaik8337]

Having never been to Japan this is a really good insight into people’s preferences there. I guess it’s no different to anywhere else to a certain degree. I think people want to have options in a relationship, to be able to care of someone while at the same time have the opportunity for someone to take care of them (inside and outside of the bedroom 😉). Loved the survey though and I hope Don will do a followup maybe 4-6 months later to see how opinions changed/evolved. Everyone in the LGBTQIA+ community knows how difficult it is to find someone and when they do it’s such a huge relief. So don’t give up guys. Someone’s out there for everyone :)

[@RosaUnschuldslamm]

I'm surprised that the major body type the ppl are looking for is not the slender type. You don't see many buff or bigger men in most of the Japanese Media. 🤔

[@johnsoncylee]

That was a fun video! I think vers x vers relationships are probably the most "fun" 😜.

[@TokyoBTM]

@anton birkholz, yeah, that is why we guessed low initially, but I guess as we talked about later on, straight (as seen in media) depictions of ideal types are different from those in the scene (gogo boys), so maybe that influences people in different ways.

[@silverliening6511]

@@TokyoBTM I don't get why you were so confused by the verse thing it makes sense. You approached it viewing tops as the biggest category but all 3 categories were less than 2% apart, it was very even. AND THEN when you consider everyone other than total tops, total bottoms and No Anal are open to partners that switch it up occasionally that's 5/8 cetegories that don't stick strictly to one role, so of course, vers will be the most popular.

[@theafterglowavenger]

I was a total top until I got married... my husband wants us to stay monogamous (which is fine with me). Over time, you do start to try new things and switch it up, so now I would probably label myself as vers. Feeling comfortable and safe with my partner is what made me feel okay with trying out bottoming. Thanks for this episode! It was pretty informative! And Meng, don't let anyone change you if you don't want to! You keep that bottom card for life! 💖

[@TokyoBTM]

Feeling safe to explore in a relationship is the exact relationship goal we strive for! Thank you for sharing!

[@Toneclark-kk6kt]

This was a cool video

[@hanna-pl9fx]

Are you gay, bi, pan or etc?

[@anoushkap4368]

i have been addicted to your channel these past few days i ain't stopping

[@TokyoBTM]

So glad that you are enjoying ❤❤❤🙏

[@nicolaslorenzovaquero549]

SAME

[@anoushkap4368]

@@TokyoBTM Omg I didn't know you replied!! Yes I am enjoying it a lot ❤️

[@andrijor]

I like to think that people are just getting over having roles like strict top and strict bottom and care more about having a connection with someone that is also open to have fun and varied sex.

[@TokyoBTM]

Perhaps!

[@Bergkatse2]

The fact that you’re expected to be a more toppy as you get older is the great gay irony. Bitch I’m pushing 50! My cardio fitness is nothing compared to when I was in my 20s. I should be the one laying there taking it easy 😂

[@TokyoBTM]

lmao!!! This comment is gold👏👏👏

[@davegriffin4225]

I hear you sister. Early 50's and I'd rather lay there and think of England. 🤣🤣🤣

[@andrewzheng-macdonald9887]

I am over 50yrs, originally was pure Top. Then went vers, but due to health reasons my Testosterone went very low I have become pure Bottom now, and loving it (Think of England). 😁

[@TokyoBTM]

I feel a topic coming on...!

[@blueyonder1233]

@@TokyoBTM Titled "Flat out at 50"

[@irule10338]

Meng looks so disappointed that he might actually need to top in the future xD LOL

[@TokyoBTM]

Future video challenge? 🤣

[@KingKikikoi]

“BTM DNA prevented him from evolving”- had me wheezing 😩🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Chivaughn13]

Meng definitely edited this one 🤣🤣🤣

[@TokyoBTM]

Actually this time was Andrew. You guys are always so curious about who edited the video 🤗

[@Chivaughn13]

@@TokyoBTM thought it was you poking fun at yourself and the BTM DNA

[@makkonen0]

I choked on my Starbucks 🤣🤣

[@erich7861]

For channels that have duos, Im usually not a fan of guests cause it disrupts the dynamic, but I think you guys have such good chemistry with all of your guests!

[@TokyoBTM]

Thanks for that! We try! Glad to hear it is working out!

[@alexanderbinns5572]

Watching Meng internal temperature rise with every revelation made my day lol.

[@TokyoBTM]

This survey was rigged 😬

[@BoardroomBuddha]

Wise man say, "There are two types of people in this world: bottoms and liars".

[@TokyoBTM]

HAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHA this is kind of what we think/thought

[@heinuchung8680]

No not true I dislike bottoming have tried it many times hated every time had to stop after a few strokes . Anal canal just too tight

[@icyhugs]

@@TokyoBTM EXACTLY ;) The fem & btm shaming are still there

[@superduperandie]

I'm curious, how did Don advertise the survey/get participants? Depending on what methods he used/where he went to get responses, I'm curious if that maybe colored the final results (similar to how the hattenba survey had a higher percentage of bottoms!) Great video as usual, though!

[@Kazu-lk4tx]

Probably twitter. Alot of japanesse use twitter

[@frankiesanchez2319]

my mood from now on "THATS FOR STRAIGHT PEOPLE!" lol ooooo lord this one is goooood.

[@TokyoBTM]

🤣

[@nomads.landing]

The question about what role is preferable in a partner by a top , and the answer being verse is due to tops wanting to feel that they are more “toppy” if the can convince a vers person bottom. And bottoms know this and sometimes say they are vers for that reason. Your survey indicate that most men like men who look and behave like men, top or bottom and I concur.

[@TokyoBTM]

That's an interesting element I never thought of before...the top wanting to feel more like a top by convincing someone to bottom. Neat!

[@Love_TheArtist]

Okay, Tokyo Bttms are coming through with some research. Love it!

[@TokyoBTM]

So much love to Don for pulling it all together!

[@Love_TheArtist]

@@TokyoBTM Thanks, Don!!

[@Hazlius]

As a top myself I was rather hoping most people would be bottoms… though I think Andrew had a point in saying older people tend to be more toppy, meaning there probably is a higher percentage of bottoms in the younger population (at least I hope). It would be interesting to see those percentages broken down by age group.

[@TokyoBTM]

Sounds like it could be another survey!

[@kkal1183]

I've never met a top I couldn't flip, so to me everyone is a potential bottom. LOL

[@makkonen0]

@@kkal1183 if someone tells me they're a bottom, they're a bottom for life.

[@chenriva9105]

I laughed so hard at this episode 😂 I think it’s kinda ironic in gay community some people growing up struggling with being too fem. But after coming out and started to embrace yourself for being gay. There is still some expectation for you to being masc. Because people prefer masculine behavior and body types in gay community. At least this is my daily struggle 😕 Also Andrew looks so cute in that shirt!

[@TokyoBTM]

Gay irony! We work so hard to be accepted as more fem and then still strive for masculinity! haha

[@ivanbenitez567]

Gosh, this channel is amazing. The content is high-quality and you're so engaging.

[@TokyoBTM]

Very sweet of you to say - thank you ♥

[@stevenf8452]

In my experience, as we get older, we might experiment more with sexual position roles (ie. Someone who was a total top in their youth might explore bottoming more often and vice versa.) as a way to broaden sexual horizons and keep sex interesting. Also as you get older you may know yourself more and become more comfortable expressing other sides of yourself sexually.

[@TokyoBTM]

Yea, I think that change might really come down to getting to know yourself better as you age. Wisdom!

[@rezasimatupang4527]

This was so much fun, and the editing was so great. Thank you ^^

[@TokyoBTM]

Thank for that - much appreciated!

[@HeDoesWhatHeWants]

Don and Andrew are the DATA KINGS and I'm livin for it!!!!! Very insightful, if only for entertainment's sake. Although there's so much more to unpack here. This def needs a follow up with bigger of Tokyo Gayzzzz!

[@TokyoBTM]

Yeah, so much to unpack and dive into more! Hopefully we can continue digging into this topic!

[@Sayhoun]

Actually I agree with the servy. As primarilly top. Even time I want to get some versa action there to many bottoms, with most I end up being the top. Also with my bf (open rl) he is mostly bottom. Even if we both are bi, he can only top females. So as a top, actually most tops would look for a vera, cause when a versa tops it does not requere them a lot of effort to do it (or me to guide them, which can put me out of the bottoming zone). Plus with actual experience bottoming, the comunication will be easier since there is some base mutual understanding. Contrary to only tops, who often are not that good at all or have any understanding for the bottoming partner. Every top or bottom has to have some experience with the other role to be good in their role and able to effectively communicate. As for the body size it is an Asian think (all of asia heavy guys have there atraction), while in Europe thin is the second most prefered body tipe after muscled.

[@lljunglefever]

Thanks for the insight!

[@Sayhoun]

@@lljunglefever yw

[@stephenbrooks9245]

Another entertaining yet informative video. It had me laughing and keenly following the answers! The edit of the video was so well done and it just love your contributions. Always a pleasure I look forward to. Such great presenters, who combine serous discussion and comedy in a meaningful way. Thanks so much!

[@TokyoBTM]

Thank you for your support and lovely message ♥

[@Jespro12]

Here is to the vers gays 🤓💖🍻! Could be super interesting to get some qualitative research where you guys interview the different biggest groups from your quantitative questioner! Thanks for the amazing videos! Keep it up 💖!

[@TokyoBTM]

Yea definitely! Maybe Don can help us out with that!

[@TedMeow]

Ok Don with the marketing research!! Congrats on another great video guys, this was a blast to watch! Don I came to Japan as a bigger bottom too, and I also experimented w topping bc I got so many requests due to my body type......but unlike you I decided it was not for me and I’m more confident than ever in being a Tokyo 🕳

[@lljunglefever]

And we love you for going through the process and settling in how you did

[@TokyoBTM]

I love how Ted turned Don's opening phrase into an Emoji: Tokyo 🕳

[@Mehmehxx]

This reiterates my pain living in Tokyo haha. I am not heavy, neither am I into heavy guys, I have very little to 0 body hair and I prefer the same for my partner, I have a normal-athletic body type and also prefer the same for my partner, well basically the guys I've been with are all bisexuals because it's been the same loop of "I'm attracted to you but you're into heavy guys or something" or "you're into me but I really don't feel anything for you". And this is just the superficial physical aspect of things so to top it off with their character and personality, etc. I'm basically dried out lollll Also...vers exists? I don't know why there is a huge denial thinking vers:bottoms or Vers bottom:bottom. It's like the whole bi-shaming thing and I really don't think we need that. Like there can be a masculine bottom or feminine top and you know it's all fluid and shouldn't matter. You should be the judge of what you prefer and I don't think anyone can speak for you.

[@TokyoBTM]

Yes, agreed, there are a variety of presentations and identities in the community that break common ideas of labels. We talk a bit about this in another video where we talk about feminine tops.

[@paulparker4240]

My preference would be a small fem man that likes to be held and cuddled.

[@ChasMusic]

People are complicated. This was fun, thank you Don/Andrew/Meng.

[@TokyoBTM]

Moral of the day!

[@stinkmeister2287]

I love the idea of turning the survey into a quiz. It’s probably worth noting that the respondents skew older in this survey so that might be why the responses might have been slightly more different than you expected.

[@TokyoBTM]

They have pokemon evolved already!

[@theuncommonsense193]

Yaaaas team vers!!! Best of both worlds!!! 🌎🌍🌏 I find it interesting that it's nearly equal with tops, vers, and bottoms. Now that has me curious about other countries such as the States and Europe. Enjoyed this video very much!! ❤🧡💛💚💙💜🤎🖤🤍🖤🤎💜💙💚💛🧡❤

[@TokyoBTM]

Made us wonder too! Glad you had fun!

[@bbukkegayo]

I'm curious about feelings regarding STIs\HIV (eg. disclosure, comfortability, etc.).

[@TokyoBTM]

😘If you guys want to see more surveys, we may do more in the future

[@romynardmendoza5043]

@@TokyoBTM Yes please!!!

[@romanmontoya5950]

I’m really curious about this too. I’ve heard that it’s quite common amongst Japanese, both gay and straight, not to use protection. So I wonder if that’s true; and what are the most common STIs among gay men in Japan, etc. Really curious about this topic. It would also be interesting to see the sexual habits/practices of gay Japanese men: what age did they lose their virginity; how often do they have sex; number of sexual partners, etc.

[@TokyoBTM]

Though this doesn't fully answer all of the detailed parts of your questions, we do touch upon this a bit in our HIV and PrEP video. Check it out!

[@romanmontoya5950]

@@TokyoBTM thanks! Will do

[@johnnzboy]

Don is a superb foil for you two, what an entertaining vid!

[@TokyoBTM]

Glad you had fun! Don wants to do more surveys so I think you'll see him again soon!

[@CanadaKeith]

Gawd! Not only 'fun', you guys are 'educational'!! Love this Channel, Tokyo VRS!!

[@TokyoBTM]

#TokyoVRS!

[@ERROR-ve5qg]

Meng being single still baffles me, my brain can't find any plausible explanation. 😅 Everytime I watch a video I just want to hug you both so much. 🫂

[@TokyoBTM]

Very sweet of you♥

[@tranuc4086]

Come to Japan and you’ll see why

[@samuelmingo5090]

Hahaha! This is a perfect example of a sociological study! It's always like this, where what people report as self identifying conflicts with the what they actually do. It's hilarious, but pretty normal data to get from respondents. Great video!

[@TokyoBTM]

Do as I say, not as do! In this case, write down what I say, not as I do! hahaha

[@ClearMountainWay]

I've never really been into Japan but I have to say I've been watching your episodes since I was thinking of good destinations to vacation that have a good gay scene and think you guys are awesome so you've become one of my favorite gay youtube channels. Keep up the good work! Also, Don's a great guest!

[@TokyoBTM]

I'm glad we are able to encourage people to come and visit the scene here!

[@jamesgavern2084]

You should do a video discussing the different body types and what the words to describe those are in Japanese!

[@TokyoBTM]

That's a good idea! Thank you!

[@charleswoodard253]

This video has given me the opportunity to say something that I have been thinking about since I started watching BL’s. I suspect that the reason so many BLs present stereotypical couples where one is tall or masculine and the other has feminine features, thin, small, slight, etc, the reason is because many of these BLs are made by straight directors and producers!!! This is what straight males are comfortable with - maintaining the appearance of the male/female dichotomy. I believe even the majority of straight females who love BLs would rather see two typical masculine males in these roles. I don’t have anything against any body type. I’m just speaking from the genre point of view.

[@YoSoyDavidGalleta]

"Our channel is cancelled!" haha Well, I'll stick around as long as you boys do. lol

[@TokyoBTM]

🙏🙏 arigatou!

[@RexCapulet]

As a bigger vers top waiting to move to Tokyo…LET ME INNN!!!! 😫😅

[@TokyoBTM]

We are waiting for you! 🤣

[@markmh835]

This channel is quickly becoming my favorite LGBT channel on KZbin. Keep up the good work guys! 😁👍

[@TokyoBTM]

On all of KZbin?! We are humbled! ♥

[@lucaa2672]

You guys are so much fun! I love your channel and content you bring is super interesting 🤩🌈🇮🇹

[@TokyoBTM]

I'm glad! Thanks for joining in all the way from Italy!

[@rickm5271]

Wow gents, I loved this frank conversation on sexuality in Japan. You all are amazing! I loved your guest in this video too! Have him back, he's stunning! Oh, and happy pride!

[@TokyoBTM]

Don is in a number of other videos already, please check them out and show him some love!

[@aceautonewportky]

You guys are so light hearted and this was just fun. Much needed. Plus you are all so darn cute.

[@ranjitsreeram]

I don't have a body type however I do have a personality type, and you both perfectly fit in that 😊

[@TokyoBTM]

Very cute - thank you♥

[@35wayneharris]

Another intriguing video Meng and Andrew! I feel preference is extremely complex. Quick example: Is the person a one night hook up? A potential long term partner that friends and family will meet? Many humans may find their preferences change based on situation and context. Can personality make up for a less than ideal body type? I love the direction your content is flowing. I’d love to learn more about the progression of queer representation in Japanese media, film, or television. Or maybe the acceptance or view of gay Japanese men throughout historic periods; same-sex samurai love! Thanks for being witty, handsome, and fabulous! Sending positive vibes from Canada!

[@TokyoBTM]

Thank you for this! Yea, it's like when Don was talking about the guys who go to Bathhouses to bottom but maybe are tops in their relationships. Can fluctuate all the time! And thank you for the recommendations, we will add them to the list!

[@jtklo]

This episode was so funny and interesting too. I was playing along too and I agree that more are wanting versatility, especially where I am from.

[@TokyoBTM]

How were your scores in the end?

[@jtklo]

@@TokyoBTMMy scores were pretty bad. I was surprised by a lot of the results.

[@TokyoBTM]

You and us all!

[@tuanminhnguyen4625]

I was just die laughing during the video 🤣🤣🤣. Pikachu refused to evolve because of BTM DNA? 🤣🤣🤣

[@TokyoBTM]

🤣🤣🤣

[@tuanminhnguyen4625]

@@TokyoBTM You guys ruined my childhood. I have kept thinking Ash is top since yesterday 🤣🤣🤣

[@TokyoBTM]

HAHA

[@viniciusamaral2262]

I had so much fun watching this video hahaha I loved the idea of conducting a survey with questions to gay Japanese men about their personal preferences. And I need to say that I'm shocked as well that most of them identify themselves as tops 👀 I mean... where are they when we need them? I can totally relate to Meng. I'm from Brazil and I can assure you that we Brazilian bottoms face the same problem. hahaha

[@TokyoBTM]

The survey was rigged 😜👏

[@viniciusamaral2262]

@@TokyoBTM STOP THE COUNT!!!

[@TokyoBTM]

Rewind! haha

[@garyduell3768]

The editing. Always. Off. The. HOOK! Also love the FF7 sound effect lol

[@TokyoBTM]

Good ears!

[@CoreyChambersLA]

Yes viewership will go up with Tokyo Vers channel.

[@quantafreeze]

I love this channel. When I was younger I was more vers, but currently I'm a top, and I LOVE a bottom. I'm just not interested in bottoming anymore. If someone I loved wanted to top I wouldn't have any problem switching it up, if it was a hook up it wouldn't interest me. I like being the provider in and out of the bedroom, it's just what I like.

[@TokyoBTM]

You can be our provider😂

[@myrchantkobold8268]

When you have a top who wants to bottom and a bottom who refuses to top, we eventually decided to just add a vers so the whole idea becomes irrelevant. We luckily had a really cute Aussie friend who likes us both.

[@TokyoBTM]

Just expand the number of players!

[@user-BigOrangeCat]

I love this episode! But I do agree that being vers is a journey from my own experience.

[@TokyoBTM]

We better start on that journey!

[@cgreene616]

This video was absolutely hilarious, and totally entertaining!

[@TokyoBTM]

Glad you had a laugh with us!

[@jagsmi3782]

Why am I finding your channel so late 😭😭 its been 5 mins and im already so much invested in your channel 😭😭✋🏻❤️

[@TokyoBTM]

Aww thank you! Hope you like our other videos too!

[@kasnarfburns210]

I think that the primary reason for men looking for head hair replacement ( places like Hair Club) is because of their women. I don't think gay men - in general -- are so into that. Gay men tend to focus on the body, the face and of course, the phallus to varying extents. Myself personally, I don't tend to favor LONG hair on men. I'm NOT into the whole Fabio look that SO MANY women seem to be into. I AM partial to facial and chest hair. (It did take me a minute to get used to BACK hair, I'll concede). Also more than ANYTHING I have to like the man's face - no matter what his body looks like. I find a lot of chubby guys very attractive in addition to gym wrought bodies. Interestingly, I can better tolerate long hair if the man ALSO has facial hair. I guess my ideal type would be a muscle bear type!! I've seen this muscle bear anime out of Japan which I always found intrigung. I also find the BALD bearded look really HOT!! Are you listening Don Cortez??......;-)

[@TokyoBTM]

I'll reach out to Don to see if he is listening hahaha

[@Myrope]

Bald with beard is *chef's kiss*!

[@poka5658]

You all are so fun and funny. Would be so fun to have these types of conversations with you all

[@TokyoBTM]

We should all have a kiki!

[@karln524]

Good video. Good information on it. I was supprized on some of the answers. Meng still looking good.

[@TokyoBTM]

These results were shocking. Thanks for tuning in !

[@dilichina]

My girlfriend came back from Belgium, I delayed our date for this incredible fun video 🤣.

[@TokyoBTM]

Hope you have a nice date tho!!❤❤❤

[@DelphicExpanse]

Wow! Those are some unexpected results. Another great video :D

[@TokyoBTM]

That's what we thought!

[@Hazlius]

So glad I found this channel. I have no plans to travel to Japan any time soon but when/if I ever do I know exactly how I’ll prepare 💖

[@TokyoBTM]

We are lucky to have you ❤

[@Hazlius]

@@TokyoBTM y’all are enjoyable humans. Keep on rockin 😁

[@serotonin9650]

Meng questioning his reality and life choices because of the survey 😭😭😭😭😭😭 Hope you can play this game more. Perhaps make it a series? 🤔

[@TokyoBTM]

My WORLD is falling apart! Glad that you enjoyed this video, we are happy to do more games if you guys want to see XD

[@xnonsuchx]

I call myself a “reluctant top” because I generally don’t care for that activity, but will do it if my partner really wants me to.

[@cojodotgg]

I just found your channel and as someone that is planning to go back to Japan and actually live there... this. is. the. type. of. content. I. need. to. see. (also your editing is *chef's kiss*)

[@TokyoBTM]

Thank you! Hope our videos get you excited for your move!

[@cojodotgg]

@@TokyoBTM just gotta figure out the “making money without working at a Japanese company” part

[@MrMacbeth234]

In my experiencie , i have always been top but now in my 30´ s, I explored the versatile way of life, and let me tell you ,with some people is an amazing experience.. so like your friend said, pick the fruit ( in the moment) and enjoy the ride!. Love you guys!.

[@TokyoBTM]

Gotta find all that fruit!

[@flojj]

You guys are so creative each week, i love that! Thank you Tokyo VRS or whatever you may become, we love you no matter what xD anyway now that we know, can't wait to meet all these Tokyo tops ahahah

[@TokyoBTM]

Thank you! Glad to hear you'll stick around regardless!

[@zalanahara270]

This was so educational and informative. Thank you for posting.!!!!!!!!!

[@dynamojoeful]

Very insightful! A lot of work must have gone into conducting this survey, well done guys! But could one of you please give Meng a hug, he looked a little sad towards the end 🫂

[@dynamojoeful]

Excellent work Don!

[@TokyoBTM]

Would you like to see more surveys?

[@dynamojoeful]

@@TokyoBTM Very much so! Perhaps you have a unique survey opportunity given that the audience of your channel is from all around the world?

[@TokyoBTM]

I'll let Don know!

[@SockBot]

Lost it when T.O.P. dropped the beat at 7:14 Very pertinent

[@TokyoBTM]

Makes me want to daaaaance!

[@cameron99901]

This channel has got me so intrigued to visit Tokyo!!

[@TokyoBTM]

Glad to hear!

[@MDonuT-of7px]

I need to be studying for college, but I keep watching your videos!

[@TokyoBTM]

Thank you.I didn't learn a thing in college..so no big deal 😘😘 just jk. GO STUDY!

[@Becausing]

Ugh, Don is SUCH a delight!

[@TokyoBTM]

Agreed! I hope he'll come back again!

[@nyxn8]

This was the best episode of Tokyo BTM for me! It was absolutely entertaining 🤣 and Mengs expressions were priceless!😂 #TokyoVRS

[@TokyoBTM]

Yay! Glad you enjoyed it! hope you'll stick around for more!

[@lee_akira]

"Tokyo whatever" 😂. I loved the experiment so fun and insightful, It would be awesome if you could repeat the experiment in the future with a larger group to see if the results vary 🤔.

[@TokyoBTM]

Part 2! Good idea

[@1756ronald]

i loved 😍♥❤💗 thank you .. I never miss one of the video...

[@TokyoBTM]

Thank you so much for your support! ❤

[@mannyquinn8624]

OMG I have been binging your content instead of studying like I should 😂 I mean this is important info too, right??

[@TokyoBTM]

We procrastinate all the time too! 😂

[@frax9204]

Hey guys! Love the channel! In another video you talked about the "different kind of Japanese," being completely native, I was wondering if you could talk a little about that of someone wanted to learn Japanese. Thanks! Keep up the great work!

[@TokyoBTM]

You mean Japanese gay lingo?

[@frax9204]

@@TokyoBTM you guys talk about this in the Valentine's Day episode. It seems like the difference between formal and informal Japanese, but also an in between? I'd love to hear more about that. Love your channel!!!

[@TokyoBTM]

Ah the different "registers" I think they are called (different levels of politeness, honorifics etc). Ok, will do!

[@eduzz4655]

Don is absolutely a saviour OMG.

[@TokyoBTM]

If you see him out, say hi!

[@zackaerith1872]

This is educational. And I really have a great laugh 😂

[@tonyboy8946]

I liked this kind of content for this video. Very insightful and funny. Best part is the drop bomb. He refused to evolve. Haha

[@YelloLibra83]

I won’t ignore someone either based on their body. I was raised that it’s rude to ignore and better to show respect by acknowledging even if it means telling them you’re not interested.

[@TokyoBTM]

That's a good way to be raised!

[@simonbarker6531]

I was laughing all the way through this, such a great video! 😛

[@TokyoBTM]

Thanks so much, Simon!

[@sfmonkey]

This was great! I can’t wait for the next week video!!! Keep up the amazing work Tokyo BTMs ❤️ and thanks to the one and only… Tokyo TOP/ex total bottom Don!!! Haaaay 😈 maybe future one could be in person interviews of people in nicho? 😏

[@TokyoBTM]

Don recently suggested that actually!

[@herickgrullon3506]

I totally agree with what Andrew discussed @ 15:06 🤯. Sexual roles go beyond the bedroom and into social aspects. Your reactions to the survey results was awesome 😂 and watching this vid I was weirdly reminded of Björk’s song “Human Behavior”. I think she goes something like “if you ever get close to a human… be ready to get confused”. Thank you for creating these discussions, excellent video! 👏🏽🤗.

[@TokyoBTM]

Hahahaa omg, Björk is so right! I gotta go check out that song!

[@dcpjunior4256]

Discovered your channel recently and since then binge watching with a major crush on Meng. His voice, his tone and he's such a cute. And I'm a top... But from Brazil 🤣😘

[@TokyoBTM]

Come visit and say hi 😘

[@dcpjunior4256]

@@TokyoBTM I would love to. Tokyo is my dream place to visit. Now even more. But two things prevent me from going: Covid and my bank account.😂 But thanks for answering, very nice of you.

[@romynardmendoza5043]

Lol, in Shanghai I guess bottoms are taking over like Beyonce's "who runs the world", but the fun fact is now a lot of us are evolving from vers bttm to vers. Also, people are obsessed with as y'all mentioned, Go go boy's type of bodies, jocks, or slim-fit. Anything out of that spectrum has the PS3 syndrome, old, forgotten and less played...

[@TokyoBTM]

I guess us Tokyo BMTs need to start evolving too! Gotta catch up with Shanghai BTMs!

[@romynardmendoza5043]

@@TokyoBTM 哈哈哈，好啦。这边确实，0越来越假1

[@sugar_shohei]

This is super interesting and fun 😂😂😂 Great job 😂😂😂

[@TokyoBTM]

Thanks Shohei ♥

[@Person11406]

As a top I agree with Don, I want a verse bottom. I usually wanna top but there are some days every now and then where I wanna explore and switch it up. From my experience I feel like with strict bottoms comes negative or messed up ideas of masculinity and sexuality and it kinda just feels a little toxic or constantly on edge or pressure of not always being “manly” enough. but I do prefer topping 95% of the time but sometimes I wanna experiment and try things out 🤷‍♂️

[@TokyoBTM]

Verse bottom seems good for you then!

[@Xcorgi]

The truth of the matter is that most gays end up being versatile. Especially if they’re in a relationship we take turns as tops or bottoms. Especially among the 30 and older crowd. Sure, when we’re all in our teens and 20’s most of us can be uncompromising bottoms but that definitely changes later in life.

[@silverliening6511]

I don't get why you were so confused by the verse thing it makes sense. You approached it viewing tops as the biggest category but all 3 categories were less than 2% apart, it was even. AND THEN when you consider everyone other than total tops, total bottoms and No Anal are open to partners that switch it up that's 5/8 cetegories that don't stick strictly to one role, so of course, vers will be the most popular.

[@TokyoBTM]

my mind went: total top total bottom top bottom verse top verse bottom verse verse no anal no anal, so if most participants identified as top, then bottom should be picked. So verse as the most selected one didn't make sense. and other than total top, total bottom and no anal, other options are all switchable, not only verse. it is just the matter of how often

[@allansevilla5640]

Very intresting! Very educational, this was fun!

[@TokyoBTM]

Glad you thought so!

[@roberthutton9698]

Entertaining as usual and informative. Learning so much for my trip there! I agree fully with the evolving part, but took me a long time to get there. Meng, your hilarious and I love the shirt!

[@TokyoBTM]

Did you evolve too?

In my experience I feel like that sentiment that 'everyone around me is a bottom' and 'tops are unicorns' is a very common shared feeling amongst people everywhere that I've been to. Maybe the plot twist is that tops exist, but they're all (or mostly) taken? And if so, they're married to vers guys, so they can enjoy something different every once in a while. I don't know, maybe I'm just reading into it a little too much, I'm just looking for explanations because I'm on the other side of the world and we have the exact same perception over here.

[@RosaUnschuldslamm]

I think that we reached a point where being bottom is not such a stigma anymore and more ppl are coming out with it. And maybe tops having it easier to match with someone. 🤔 Maybe we aren't balanced out enough actually.

[@TokyoBTM]

A friend said to me recently that maybe we just have this idea of bottoms everywhere because tops don't talk about themselves much hahaha

[@DJNightKat]

@@TokyoBTM Sometimes, but I can only speak for the US

[@DJNightKat]

@@RosaUnschuldslamm IDK. As a top, I kinda feel the opposite. (And this mainly applies to the US as I've never been to JP) I find myself watching scenarios, where Most bootms are chasing after specific types, and it's all the same type. So when all the Buff, Toned, or Hung tops are taken, as there is a lower number of those types, the rest of us are kinda just sitting here. lol.

[@manny1456]

We as queer men are so toxic when it comes to looks 🤣. And I am sure that people saying they didnt ignore someone because of body weight are probably lying lol. And everyone does it, as long as you are not rude or mean its ok. I also think most people are vers in some way. I find that usually tops tend to say most men they meet are also tops (like me, lots of cute guys I meet end up being tops) and then bottoms claim everyone is a bottom. PS: As someone who mostly only tops, truly, bottoms who eat ass are the best. And it is true, I find that having a bottom who is not afraid to top you once in a while is what I would prefer, because we all like options!

[@rugby1971]

GAY MAN NOT QUEER,STOP THINKING GAY MEN ARE QUEER , WE ARE NOT, QUEER IS A DEROGATORY WORD OF HATE

[@TokyoBTM]

I do think we can be toxic when it comes to looks...But I am probably guilty of this too. I just hope we can all be better versions of ourselves as we grow older!

[@davecarroll8186]

New to the site but 100% enjoyed this video. Being a gay man from America and single I loved the discussion. I especially loved Meng's expression's and answers. I have been in one Asian relationship and he was Chinese. Happy I found this site and will catch up by watching all posted videos. Always be safe ;)

[@TokyoBTM]

Thank you, glad that you are enjoying our channel

[@haotran2314]

Very enjoyable video! Keep it up friends ✌🏼

[@TokyoBTM]

Thank you 🤗 We will!

[@topogigio95y]

I had fun trying to answer along with you! What Don said at the end resonated with me: different people inspire you different ‘roles’. If I’m the youngest in the couple, I’d feel more comfortable as a bottom, it’s like saying: ‘I want to be taken care of’. Sexual roles really do go beyond the bedroom, as Andrew said, don’t they? Also, Meng, your Bugs Bunny shirt’s sooo cute!! That’s the second video in which you’re wearing it, so I can’t just ignore it :)

[@TokyoBTM]

Ah you noticed it was the second time he wore it! Thank you for watching us for so long! Yeah, I agree, different people can bring out different roles and desires in a person!

[@topogigio95y]

@@TokyoBTM I'm so happy I found your channel around 8 months ago. Sorry for not being very active so far! I'll make a vow to engage more 🤭 Have a great week, a hug from Italy!

[@TokyoBTM]

No pressure! But we also love hearing from you all!

[@ChristianRyanVlogs]

I really loved the Pikachu analogy, it had me dying 🤣

[@mcuggetmeal]

really interesting video!! i dont live in japan however i did visit there for a month and plant to go again! im pretty surprised bc i found people to be pretty black and white about their preferences and im more of a verse slightly top leaning (altho no one believes me probably bc i dont appear to their hyper masc stereotypes??!) that can keep ur dating pool pretty open however the survey is kinda making some points bc i do LIKE dating other verses simply for the options of explorations? so i think i really get that survey im also really surprised @ the options of "not caring about someones body" as a result bc i find that to be the case in the real world?? you guys might have felt really bad after being so confident in ur answer but i would have guessed the same thing bc among all sexualities i find a lot of people have preferences and make that apparent!! i personally dont care about body types i dont have a lot of preference personally!!

[@TokyoBTM]

We felt that more people were black and white too, so it was an interesting survey for us!

[@EightyFourThousands84000s]

19:39 "You know, the only time you have bottom DNA is when it's actually inside--DNA inside of your bottom" This made me laugh way too hard 🤣 Just subbed to you guys btw

[@TokyoBTM]

Hahahaha that was a hard part to hear, good ear!

[@dport9563]

Bottoms are more likely to be out in urban areas and also in rural areas. . Tops in urban and rural areas more likely to be closeted and less likely to be looking.