Tom Papa | Conflict Resolution with an Old Friend | Mike Birbiglia's Working It Out

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10 ай бұрын

Mike welcomes comedian, author, and podcast host Tom Papa. The two old friends get candid about a bump in their relationship and how they reconciled. They also share advice about the best ways to tell stories about real people in your life, and when profanity is and isn’t necessary. Plus, jokes and stories about Colin Quinn, loud Italians, and writing comedy books.
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Hosted and Produced by Mike Birbiglia
Producers: Peter Salomone and Joseph Birbiglia
Associate Producer: Mabel Lewis
Consulting Producer: Seth Barrish
Assistant Producers: Gary Simons and Luci Jones
Video Consultant: Graham Willoughby
Special Thanks: Marissa Hurwitz, Josh Upfal, David Raphael, Nina Cwik, J. Hope Stein, Oona
Music: Jack Antonoff and Bleachers

Пікірлер: 58

@user-nj3gy6th8k 8 ай бұрын

Cannot get enough of Birbiglia! Funny because of his genuine vulnerability,,,sometimes I cry real tears because I can finally face that same "thing" with love & forgiveness.

@xiiota584 10 ай бұрын

I love this conversation! I think it is so important, for men especially, to see this is a great way to look at fights with one’s friends.

@wildboer 4 ай бұрын

Yo shouts out to City Green! My mom helps out with their books and actually saw the donation from Mike Birbiglia and mentioned it to me. Which led to us watching his new special as a family the other day, which led to me bingeing his content today, which led me to this comments section! Small world man.

@paulferranti8536 2 ай бұрын

Don’t know Mike…came for Tom….gonna check out Mike more..

@avgregerson15 9 ай бұрын

My amateur punch-up: “Sometimes I’m doing the dishes and think that life is a-ok. Other times, I hold onto the steak knife in the sink juuuust a second too long.”

@A6uh 10 ай бұрын

I am so happy you're putting out the videos now!

@colinchung775 10 ай бұрын

Exactly! it worths the wait!

@mshannahloganshow 7 ай бұрын

God, I love men coming around to vulnerability and truthfulness. Brave stuff. #bromancing

@SeeStuDo 9 ай бұрын

Some deep and interestingly layered conversation, very much appreciate the openness of these two to share this.

@jrpipik 10 ай бұрын

Two of my favorites together, that's pretty good.

@HellSpawn83 Ай бұрын

The conversation that you had about your relationship with each other was nice to hear. I like listening to both of your comedy specials. This was really nice to listen to. Thanks

@e.goodman51 5 ай бұрын

Mike! Loved seeing you working it out in Indianapolis for my 40th with my Mom. The joke where Clo says you don't seem happy definitely works. I think a side that could perk it up is to define "happy". It's such a limiting word for such a complex feeling. They say Eskimos have like 200 words for snow. Maybe we just need more words for happy. Like recovering from cancer is a very specific happiness. Taking off socks at the end of the day is a different kind of happy. So on and so on. I think the goal isn't happiness, but maybe satisfaction or belonging.

@seakelp3508 4 ай бұрын

Contentment.

@risumon 10 ай бұрын

I kind of love Birbig's sweatshirt..

@MikeSchmidt969 8 ай бұрын

This was a wonderful video to see, both as a new comedian and as an older person (54) who has trouble with conflict. It's wonderful to hear about your experiences and how you moved to a new level in your relationship, while also sharing how comedy doesn't always have to be a "me against the world" kind of conflict. Bringing the audience in as part of the conversation and just enjoying the idea of making them laugh is all I've ever wanted to do. Thank you, Mike and Tom for sharing your thoughts.

@mrjs8611 Ай бұрын

I picture Tom adding an Fbom to every act now and nobody knows when it's going to happen but everyone is waiting for it.

@Killdreamsdead 10 ай бұрын

What a fantastic podcast

@kristenwhite2701 9 ай бұрын

Papa has the same delivery on a Podcast as in his stand-up. Guess that makes him genuine.

@EpicScreenReviews 10 ай бұрын

This was great!!

@lynnturman8157 9 ай бұрын

What is it about two comedians talking to each other that is so entertaining?

@paulferranti8536 2 ай бұрын

They’re funny.

@lynnturman8157 2 ай бұрын

@@paulferranti8536 Comedians...are funny.....BY GEORGE, I THINK YOU'RE RIGHT!!!

@bean1999 10 ай бұрын

Oh, video content too! I have been listening since episode 1! Now I can watch too! Yay! Great episode! Thanks!

@williamcarman7118 10 ай бұрын

This spreads joy. Rock on guys!

@suzannefarrington4143 9 ай бұрын

Mike initially sounded like he didn’t remember at all. Wow. I really love that they’re rehashing this, because it helps me to see how people handle these things.

@retic55 Ай бұрын

great convo

@tammyburke9453 9 ай бұрын

Mike, funny 2 have listened to ur Jim G podast first....jim gaficant😂😂 hearing u and Papas recalling is PRICELESS

@jackham2549 9 ай бұрын

I want to see a comedy special called "Cookies are Stupid" I like how you guys did the typical comedian chat and banter and then later dive into a real discussion when you're looking for a peer's opinion and insight on something you're mulling over in your head recently

@_JanetLouise 9 ай бұрын

the 'therapy thing' is good Tom .... keep going

@user-zr9th8nv6l 9 ай бұрын

so happyy i found this channel! Always been a big fan of Birbiglia! ill be coming back everytime now

@Jenny_Oblivion 8 ай бұрын

Thank you both for sharing your personal experience. I hope your conversation brings other friends back together ❤

@maryshyrock1770 9 ай бұрын

This was one of the best ytube casts, ended too soon. Please help Tom with the audio on his cast. You both have a way of showing us what is going on inside our heads, very calming, and hilarious.

@seakelp3508 4 ай бұрын

Root canals really, really hurt too, but are necessary in order to heal.

@mrJakestetler Ай бұрын

The algorithm put the Jim Gaffigan episode up next

@arribaficationwineho32 9 ай бұрын

Love you and Fortune on Sirius, now here too!

@aanchaallllllll 8 ай бұрын

0:55: 🤝 X and Mike were friends, had a falling out, and became friends again, with X criticizing Mike for always wanting something from him. 5:59: 🗣 The speaker recalls a conversation with their friend about constantly asking for things and the need for finesse in requesting favors. 12:16: 😅 The speaker reflects on a past argument with Mike Birbiglia and how they were able to repair their friendship. 17:37: 🎭 Comedians can be cruel to each other, but it's all in good fun and part of the love language of comedy. 24:30: 🎭 The comedian discusses his struggle to find humor in his personal unhappiness and the importance of bringing hope to his audience. 30:22: 💡 The comedian discusses the deeper meaning behind making people laugh and the importance of being conscious of the audience's feelings. 36:28: 💬 The comedian discusses the importance of jokes and secrets in society, as well as the prevalence of therapy and self-analysis. 42:39: 😅 The comedian talks about how he feels different emotionally at different times and how therapy is relatable in a self-obsessed culture. 48:39: 💔 Discussion about the power of dark thoughts and the importance of conveying emotions in comedy. Recap by Tammy AI

@paulferranti8536 2 ай бұрын

Thanks for your effort, it’s appreciated.

@Jenny_Oblivion 8 ай бұрын

Who could stay mad at Mike when he’s wearing that shirt?😊

@mikefetterman6782 8 ай бұрын

awesome.

@mshannahloganshow 7 ай бұрын

Re: asking peeps for help: asking the wrong people too many times that ignore, betray, or reject you... Makes asking anyone at all REALLY hard. Re: Are u happy? "Not happy" terrifies people hiding from the truth. "Not happy" (dependent on outside circumstance) does not preclude contentment (all inside job. ) Aaaaand the thing about guys like you using FUCK in your act is this... Ya gotta EARN it and ask is it the BEST art for the art. A-okay to Fuck is the greatest extreme. From purity to violence. It wins. Unless it's A-okay to "Other times I just wanna punt my kid's puppy."... But the people who laugh at that punchline are not your fans. Some people think meanness and dark truthful humor are the same. Wise comedians know they are not. May you both continue to use your humor and wisdom to benefit humanity.

@stongef 8 ай бұрын

Cursing is not bad, but what makes it the biggest laugh in your act is the element of surprise. If you curse every sentence, this wouldn't get you the biggest laugh. But the fact that you rarely curse surprises people when you do it, and it has more impact.

@aj-nz1kf 8 ай бұрын

I actually disagree at 36:46. The prison being Scandinavian helps the joke. & sure, most people don't know, but it's irrelevant. We all just assume that everything is easier there...

@wildboer 4 ай бұрын

I guess it's because I'm a political junky, but I totally knew what he was talking about and it helped the joke for me too.

@aj-nz1kf 4 ай бұрын

@@wildboer Absolutely. That shit fascinates me...but even for those unaware of their prison system & the Nordic model in general: if you were to ask whether they'd prefer to go to Riker's Island or some prison in Sweden, they'd probably think, "Well, you know it'll be furnished by IKEA & they'll have hot cocoa so yeah, not a tough choice..."

@JeremyForTheWin 9 ай бұрын

I know you didn't ask, but i think the therapy part should be the button. "and then we go to therapy and say 'hey doc, i only want to feel half of this... all the time"

@jenhawkins5980 9 ай бұрын

I interviewed Mike (for a small-town show) around the same time Tom called him out for social climbing. I admit Mike was kinda dismissive, which I found really discouraging. Nice to hear it was just a phase. Now I can love his comedy without that old sting.

@terrypatterson7992 8 ай бұрын

I'm going to start asking this question in comic's podcasts: How come there's never a mention of Marc Maron?

@lesgo6516 3 ай бұрын

A-OK my ass!

@jglassdude 4 ай бұрын

The problem with Tom trying to work out a joke with Mike is they’re in the same headspace so they’re not gonna pull the better line

@jaaustin500 9 ай бұрын

Wow- these guys just danced around each other without Mike saying sorry outright and Tom accepting it…I don’t feel like this was resolved at all so much as “let’s just move on since it happened a long time ago…”