Tosti Kaas Hack, Dutch Perceptions of Americans

02:20 Tosti Kaas Hack
10:50 American stereotypes
The Yafa Show, Dutch Perceptions of Americans: • How The Dutch View Ame...

[@Marianneduetje]

Dear Ellen, don,'t explain, don't apologise. You are you and that is fine. Do not become cramped trying to do Dutch, because that realy is fake. We Dutch have this annoying habit to wish to tell everyone around what they do wrong, because we are so direct. Well, there is a lot that we could do better ourselves, including to accept that other people may have other customs. Call it opinionated. And now see how many dutch people will jump down my throat for this.🤣🤣🤣

[@DYNASPORTS66]

That's a great comment i was thinking the same thing no tip toeing to fit inn just be yourself, and don't be scared to make mistakes also. Human smake mistakes sometimes thats no problem.

[@harmbooij8241]

The sentence "I'm his wife" made me smile. Dutch women have in general a more "I am me" mentality, that is one of the reasons weddings are less common, an other reason is more that half the country isn't religious anymore.

[@xXTheoLinuxXx]

Like the numbes of divorces in the USA are much lower? Well I have to dissapoint you.. Well I love you to death doesn't mean that you have to die, but it means that you are dead for them.. Just saying.

[@BrendonChase_2015]

As to the 'fake' thing, I reckon it has little to do with you acting spontaneous when you see a friend. It's more like the stereotypical scene: American asks "how are you doing?", which is translated by a Dutchie into "hoe gaat het met je?". A Dutch person will then assume that you're genuinely interested to hear abt his/her feelings, troubles, hopes etc. while an American is just being polite with no intention to hear all abt that. So a Dutchie will then conclude: phoney interest. It's somewhat of a cultural misunderstanding. What is also deemed fake abt Americans is the fact that many of them seem obsessed with not being "offensive" to anyone. Dutchies will find that bordering on being insincere, since they're more direct and used to speaking their minds. Again, an American might think himself to be polite, while a Dutch person concludes: this must be phoney, insincere just say what you really think instead of sugarcoating things. Americans otoh, will find Dutch people to be rather direct, bordering on being blunt.

[@nilsgroot]

A cultural misunderstanding, well said Brendon. I think you hit the nail on the head :-)

[@SePPiEx]

yep. THIS

[@HladniSjeverniVjetar]

Coming from a Croat living in Netherlands.....i didn't find Dutch any different than my own culture when it comes to "directness"....if you ask anyone that same question in Croatia you would end up going for a "drink" and talking for 2 hours....

[@dutchgamer842]

Depends on where you are, "hoe gaat het?" isn't always a genuine question.

[@enricio]

It's so nice to hear you speak about Dutch people and Dutch culture. I saw a bunch of vids of the stereotype guy you are using in your vid; he's nice. This society is much more friendly than the American society but, we live with 17 million people on a stamp! That's why people can be direct. There has to be some politeness among eachother to feel respected and all.

[@Marty74]

Be amazed by the beauty of Bruges, my favorite city. Looking forward to see your report here. Get well soon!

[@Keeplanders]

I love your videos! Thank you for putting all the effort into them. You are so chill, you remind me of an European person. :) Can you relate with Dutch / European people with the way your personality is? Do you ever have any "Yes, those are my people!" moments?

[@lienbijs1205]

My hack is to put the tosti for 30 seconds in the microwave first, it will melt the cheese really good. On this way I can make much faster tosties because what is left is just making a crispy outside so I can turn the heat higher to get the tosti faster ready.

[@pieternoord3287]

For the religion part, you always here when a speech or similar is ended "God bless you and God bless America" so think that's a reason.

[@mellie536]

I usually never apply on videos, but I just wanted to say I think its very cool you really try to understand the dutch culture. When it comes to mom friends I just want to ensure you that its not necessarily because of your age or because your a expat. In my experience dutch tend to be on themselves a lot. I don't know if you live in a smaller town, but I do and what I see is people know each other from preschool. So as a outsider its hard to get into that. I experience that to atleast and I'm dutch haha. Love the videos and I would totally be your friend😉

[@JerrySpark]

Yeah, Brendon described it quite well As I sidenote, I have the impression that you are genuine, so that does not apply to you personally in my opinion. Strangely enough about the bluntness, when I returned to The Netherlands after my expat period in the States, the feedback I got back from my colleagues was actually quite surprising .. Although it took some time for them to get used to the directness, multiple people told me they really appreciated the WYSIWYG mentality. I was often very direct, but it was thereby also very clear, and they appreciated this more than I expected. Regarding the "How are you" subject I would imagine, this is difficult to grasp. If I would meet someone for the the first time, I would never ask how they are, I do not know him, and could be a complete 'you know what'. If a native Dutch asks you how you are doing, you better have a good answer, because he/she really wants to know. We Dutch I guess see it a bit as inflation when certain style of communication is used, and choose our words carefully. Also, maybe you can confirm or deny, that from early age children in the US are learned to stand out from the crowd, to get noticed. In The Netherlands this is "frowned upon", we tend to wonder what makes this person so special compared with others to behave this way. Loved your video

[@ElMariachi1337]

I always spread some butter on the outside of the sandwich itself, we call this a pan tosti btw. I suggest to get a multigrill tho, it's great for tosti's or waffles, but you can also use it to grill hamburgers or any other meat you would normally put on a grill/bbq. And get well soon! Unfortunately the flu season came early this year, normally its more around fall/winter times.

[@51bikerboy]

Just enjoy Brugge, as you know it is a lovely place. I don't know if you drink alcoholic drinks but Belgium has the most fantastic beers! My wife (Scottish) and I always enjoy Belgium beers very much.

[@margreetanceaux3906]

Only recently (I’m 69…) I was converted to the (slow cooking) pan-pizza, and learned (better late than never) to apply not only butter but also some mayo on the bread. And to make a combination of (preferably grated) cheeses, one that melts easily, and another that has a stronger flavor. PS be yourself!

[@lienbijs1205]

You should try mayonaise at least one time instead of butter. I promiss you will never use butter anymore.

[@etiennedubois4050]

A belated congrats for your anniversary and hope all of you get well soon.

[@RichardRenes]

As for Dutch thinking Armericans are fake: we tend to see a lot of forced smiles and over kindness... so that rings all the alarms to a Dutchie. As for religious: You can not even state in some states that you are atheist or you won't be able to perform certain jobs. Also, if you want to have a political career: do not be an atheist or at least appear to be religious ( like Donald Trump did... talk about fake )

[@gerrygrouwe70]

You also can butter the outside of 2 slices of bread with cheese between and then put it in the pan and backe both sides. Also delicious with out cheese but with sugar between the bread

[@Roel_Scoot]

In my family we call that way of baked cheese on bread "Kaasdromen", very fat and high calory but very tasty. (Tosti 261 kCal, Kaasdroom 411 kCal)

[@elsiengale3125]

Finally someone who explains that Americans / American women are obsessed by weddings, marriage. I have been baffled by KZbin or reddit posts I've come across: bridezillas, Mother-in-law problems, wedding upsets etc. In my mixed Dutch - British family most of those who are in a long-term relationship are not legally married, but totally committed. Many of them have kids.

[@basweijers1951]

Of je koopt gewoon een tostie-ijzer

[@nuuwnhuus]

When we think of fake Americans I don't think it's the way they greet each other, that's covered by loud lol. It's probably the beating around the bush in too many situations, it contrasts with our directness to a point where it feels fake to us. The religiosity comment is probably pointing towards evangelicals and the power they have.

[@toaojjc]

Congratulations on your anniversary

[@TonBoon]

I saw a copy of "The Undutchables" at a thrift store - a book that is a great guide for expats living in the Netherlands. All about dutch culture and habits.

[@camillanonbinarylegend]

Thank you for another video! Please take care and feel better soon (: oh and do you have any other socials where I can maybe follow you?

[@ExpatEllen]

Hey yeah i’m on Instagram @ExpatEllen :)

[@colibri67]

A broodtrommel is better than just leaving the bread out, but we keep our bread in its packet in the fridge where it lasts twice as long as elsewhere. Furthermore we keep spare loaves in the freezer and take them out, half a loaf at a time and let them thaw for a short while before going into the fridge. Perhaps this works better for us because we only eat brown wholemeal.

[@ceesjanmol]

"That's just great! It's super! You are so special, girl! Just amazing!" The fake part is (partially) because there is no nuance in the higher register. Which is pretty frequently the only register people hear in public. Plus: one of the first things Dutch people in their earliest experience with Americans will run into, is that the question "How are you?" is not supposed to be answered. For Dutch people that translates as: "Why are you asking me a question you don't want an answer to? Why are you pretending to be interested in me, whereas you clearly aren't?".

[@Mrevolva]

Hey you, ive been sick last week but recovered fast, i wish you and your family the best! I like the younger cheese on the tosti, but your tastebuds are yours so bon appetit!😀

[@PR-on7qk]

The tosti Hack reminds me of dutch comedian Brigitte Kaandorp. She had an entire conference about a women ordering a Tosti cheese, apple, cinnamon... very funny :-)

[@doktergroen]

Enjoy Bruges but f you have a chance, visit Antwerp too, it’s on the way and has so much to offer! If you travel by train, just walk from the totally amazing central station to the River Scheldt and back, takes an hour and a half in total (even with a stroller), and you won’t regret it!

[@fransvantuil7894]

i bought a tosti- ijzer for about 12€. Works well. The cheese melting: use chaddar slices. I add a slice ontbijtspek or thin bacon on the cheese. Yummi. Suk6 Ellen, like your vlogs!

[@angelavm84]

I grew up in an Indonesian/Molukse neighborhood/buurt. The consensus was: hot sambal to help with colds. My grandmother swore by 'grog'. No matter which health hacks might work for you, hope you feel better soon!

[@sannynjoo9776]

Try 'kerok kerok'. Lol.. always worked for me

[@Captiv8ingChaos]

I had heard so many horror stories about long waits for IND related things so my partner and I (he is dutch, I am American) applied a few weeks ago for a residence permit knowing I wouldn't be moving until January. They not only approved my application in less than two weeks but told me I could come in any time to get my papers... So weird

[@accidentalgenius8252]

I am sorry they are far from perfect, also very busy right now

[@dutchgamer842]

I normally use a grillpress, if it is cheese that doesn't melt. I put the cheesee sandwich in the microwave 1st on 30 sec. Before putting it in the grillpress

[@MartijnFrazer]

I'm happy for you you've got a good broodtrommel to keep your bread fresh! I just have to laugh because the whole point of a tosti is to make your stale bread somewhat edible lol

[@nielsdebakker3283]

Correct, the whole point of tosties is to toast your stale bread. They taste even better.

[@eckligt]

Regarding American superficiality vs Northern European taciturnness, remember the expression: Still waters run deep.

[@mentos93]

Try the bread from the bakker (bakery) you will never go back to supermarket bread after it.

[@Zektor101]

In the Netherlands the majority of people identify as Atheist, in the US it's a tiny amount of people. Every day American school children worship their country and the Christian god by saying the pledge of allegiance, while here most Christian schools don't even have prayer. California is probably the least religious State in the US, but there are very large parts where everyone is Christian.

[@cyrielwollring4622]

Carnaval was traditionally tied to the Lent period before Easter. Vastentijd in Dutch. Another Dutch word for carnaval is vastenavond, lent evening.

[@frankgeurts3912]

Use grated old Amsterdam,it melts great

[@musicfromtheheart100]

Hey Ellen, I know I'm a bit late to the party but I just wanted to say that I loved your video! Also, I noticed someone commented on your pronunciation of 'knoflook' and you apologized for it, but I think he was trying to be funny with his remark, because, really, your pronunciation of that word is very close to the proper way of saying it. Just remember to leave out the 'uh' sound in between the first two letters of 'knoflook', and you're golden.

[@jsmoor4988]

Lucky husband. Easy not to forget weddingday 😉 I saw you like tomatoes in a different reaction, did you already try them in/on your tosti with some black pepper (and mayo) ? Enjoy your Belgium trip !

[@jackvandersluis1723]

Put some mustard on both sides or hot tomato ketchup, inside of course! Just a thought! 🙂

[@nikkikamstra1671]

You should buy a tosti iron

[@a.ar-castrejon6014]

yeah I still don't get why "how are you?" comes off fake? I feel like sometimes its kind of like a filler to roll the convo forward into a meaningful connection (layers and layers). I'm not sure ...maybe sometimes it could be small talk at first for some people but, then a lot of the time being American, it just feels like we're extremely social with everyone. I can see why it can be perceived as shallow. I respect the reserved part too though, sometimes its more awkward and I'm at a loss with how to approach someone here without coming off too forward..."american" "loud". I love that you mention this, its something I've been overthinking myself!! I've been in some awkward situations in which I'm always worried about appearing "fake" but I genuinely feel like you, we just love being friendly and open.

[@maryamvannoort6970]

Tosti’s( pronounced with an o not oo)are nicer baked in a pan, I have a “tosti apparaat” but like it better in a pan, because of the added butter, I also bake it with a lid on but no water needed for same result.

[@gijsbertuslaurensvandevooren]

Don't you have a tosti iron?

[@michellezevenaar]

They do a biometric scan at the IND appointment, unless you already did that one.

[@gerbentvandeveen]

We also have very nice sandwich irons in the Netherlands. If you have 1 wild? Then I'll get 1. At home I have 1 and at work another 1, which is even better. for myself. A ham cheese sandwich with Ketchup is also delicious.

[@Beun007]

You better use a toaster for this! LOL!!!

[@woutmoerman711]

Just put the tosti in the microwave first to melt the cheese. Then put it in the pan to toast the bread.

[@ShipSpottingNederland]

Tosti ijzers zijn gewoon echt heel handig...

[@accidentalgenius8252]

People shouldn’t dislike stereotypes. They are funny and there is ‘zelf spot’ in them. People need ‘zelf spot’.

[@johnveerkamp1501]

Why not in the tosti iron or tosti machine.

[@oseijler]

Melting old cheeses? Add a little bit of young cheese … it triggers the melting.

[@jacobmannessen1191]

Americans are always excited to see even if they donot know and they will forget you when you are out of their sight. That is why Dutch people say Americans are fake.

[@michellezevenaar]

The first few years you live in another country you tend to get sick alot.

[@henkkelderman4182]

I agree with Ellen wrt spontaneous expressions of enthousiasm. I like the American way here.

[@victorsamsung2921]

Funny how the tables have turned, concerning Sleepy Joe now being a nightmare. Not just in Ukraine, but Korea and Israel too. As a Dutchman I feel a lot less safe now, with the "orange cheeto" lol gone.

[@fransezomer]

Lol, don't be disturbed by the 'fake' comment. I think it has more to do with the 'customer is King' culture in the US than anything else. When customer service is so much driven by the tips one receives, or by the complaints one gets when something is not up to par, then to the Dutch, that level of service is perceived as fake (that can't be real... no person is that nice... or that smile must be fake, no sane person smiles that much!). Also, when Americans compliment something or someone they tend to overdo it a bit in the eyes of the Dutch. ie. after a good meal Americans tend to say 'this is the BEST meal I ever had!', 'or this is the BEST vacation ever!'. Which to the Dutch may sound like 'Wow, really? The best (whatever)? That must be fake... Also, the plastic surgery culture in the US adds to the stereotype of the country and the people being fake. We, the Dutch, are just a bit more reserved than Americans are, not as much as the Brits though! But pretty reserved still. Just act 'normal', that is crazy enough to most Dutch... But you will also find that when a Dutch person says something, it usually is truthful. So, fe. when a Dutch person asks you: How are you? They then genuinely ask you how you are and expect or are open to a real answer. They genuinely want to know about what's going on in your life. The Dutch often perceive many American relationships as fake. fe. because of the young age that Americans tend to get married. Around age 20 is pretty standard for some parts of the US. To the Dutch that is strange as the human brain, thus one's personality, is only fully developed at around age 25. How can that marriage ever stand or be real? Same as with the golddigger culture in some areas in the US. And lastly, many things in the US landscape and architecture are cultured. Man-made. Like parks, or buildings that are so big they become unnatural - out of this world, so to speak. Surrounded by fake grass and fake trees. BTW, the IND is swamped with Ukranian and Russian immigration at the moment, on top of the regular immigration requests, so they are a bit stretched at the moment... Greetz from Amsterdam xxx

[@Bramfly]

What works really well too: take the 2 slices of bread with the cheese(old!) in between and put them in the microwave for about 20 sec (800 W) that will melt the cheese a little. Then put it in either like you did a frying pan or in bread toaster wide enough for the tost or under the grill. Good luck 👍🏻

[@ahkotl8269]

At 10:30 he says the city is one of a kind and that there are no other cities where you can do so. This implies that there are no other cities in the Netherlands, which is quite insulting.

[@marcovtjev]

US small talk with all its hidden pitfalls feels like natural to Americans, but feels stilted, forced and artificial to Dutch. The same with all other social niceties, those simply don't travel cross-culture very well. Probably in both directions, it is simply an impedance difference. Strangely enough, somehow it is easier with other Europeans (I'm thinking of Spanish, Italians, Polish), even if the language barrier is higher than with Americans.

[@LovelyDoetje]

In my experience spending a vacation in NY and touring the west coast the idea of fake starts when entering a store in LA or SF and being overwelmed with friendlyness just to sell something. When there is nothing to sell I didn't experienced any fake greetings and kindness. Shopping in NY to me was a nicer experience because it was a little less of a show but still more friendly than Europe. In general I find Americans friendly and more open. Although being invited for a coffee at someones home but never receiving their adress was also a little strange.

[@markjacobs1086]

Haha 😆 that last part took me a little while to process, which is ironically exactly what happened to you. 😂

[@mandje2002]

14:06 and there's a reason Americans don't travel, they can't take a vacation (just watched a video on another YT channel on that topic) and they have to keep working to survive.

[@nikkikamstra1671]

Well.. you might be genuinely happy to see ppls.. A while ago I called a american customer, and they ask ' how are you ' I needed to find some information and needed to call themback... when i did after 5 minutes they asked my again.. I just started to laugh and answered them ' Still fine '

[@jimmymiata]

when the supermarket cashier greets you with: Hi !!! how's your day today? that's what we call fake cos she dont wanna know

[@peli71]

Let me as a tosti-lover share a secret about preparing the best tosti’s: buy a “tosti apparaat” (sometimes called a wafel apparaat). Buy one with at least 1000W power :-)

[@vikingking1]

You need a toasty iron You have different ones I like the one Yeah that encloses the ham and the cheese

[@jimmymiata]

Gent not far from Brugge, is also beautiful

[@mormacil]

Compared to the Dutch the Americans are very religious. Now that doesn't mean other countries don't rival or surpass the US. Even within Christianity I'd argue that Romania, Italy or Paraguay are more religious but from a Dutch perspective Americans are extremely religious. This is mostly down to how public expressions of faith are. I might miss someone obscure but I don't thing the US has ever elected a non-Christian as president. There have been several non-religious Dutch prime ministers. That to us reads as religious. That image is then reinforced with things like heartbeat bills, the ten commandments displayed in secular institutions like court houses and the dominance of mormons among government agencies. That doesn't mean the US is a Christian country founded on Christianity or that every American must be Christian. But it does mean it's an inescapable part of public daily life. And that to use is very religious. As for the tosti, grating the cheese and mixing in a soft cheese creates a superior melt. Also buttering the bread, even a little bit creates a far better crust!

[@andreslucero81]

I agree, there are many more public displays of religious faith in the US than in the Netherlands, and the evangelical right has a total stranglehold over the political system. On Koningsdag, there was an LGBTQ party hosted by the Homo Monument in front of the Westerkirk, which in the US would have been seen as sacrilegious and an act of defiance/aggression against the Christian church.

[@robertboender5816]

I think they mean by fake is the way Americans great. Dutch people think that Hi how are you means that they really want to know how you are. But it's just the same as hallo in Dutch.

[@Harrypjotter7]

That looks like a croque monsieur

[@H1SCOTTY]

@dutch amrricano went a fee days ago i think.

[@Beun007]

with that small cover you damage the teflon layer in your pan which will ultimately result in burning your food faster!

[@lindaraterink6451]

The lid wasn't touching the the pan.

[@Beun007]

@@lindaraterink6451 hoe kan jij dat nou zien van bovenaf?

[@zzp1]

In any case, this is not the way to make a proper tosti, or croque monsieur, as the French call it.

[@Beun007]

You should use jong belegen kaas 48+!

[@Linda-hs1lk]

I don't think anyone uses old cheese for tostis. Like you said, it's difficult cheese to melt.

[@tante_Ique]

I know a lot off people who use old cheese for tosti's. But they use a tostimaker or a compact grill so the heat comes from both sides.

[@tante_Ique]

*of

[@Meine.Postma]

You are in no way fake. Cute and smart.

[@Uwe_Ludolf]

If it feels fake for you not do greet in the way you are used to, you might understand that we think it's fake since that's not how we are used to. Are you really interested in a whole story if you ask someone you don't how they are doing? Or are you hoping for "fine"? 😄

[@antbrk986]

But but ... what happend to the tosti? I was on the edge of my seat how you cracked the code and was wondering if your "steam method" would affect the crunchiness of the tosti. Oh wells. As you obviously like cheese I'd suggest going next level with "boerenkaas" as opposed to the "factory cheese" you find in supermarkets. Boerenkaas is not a marketing ploy ... its EU protected and guarantees artisan cheesemaking.

[@mirjamvond1731]

Americans think we are blunt, and we feel Americans are fake, and the truth is, like so often, probably in de middle 😉 We just think it's not necessary for a waiter to ask how we are because we know they don't really care. So it feels like fake interest 🙂 On another note, I just made a tosti in the airfryer today, and it was amazing ☺️ (and fast!)

[@charlyvanbuuren2947]

My wife and i got married in 2002 may 1... But having been living together since 1995. And no wedding rings... Today we celebrated just by working in the garden me coocking and drinking a fine glass of wine...

[@mormacil]

Why did just you get a drink? :P

[@charlyvanbuuren2947]

@@mormacil Because to really celebrate it we have little vacation planned this week...

[@mormacil]

@@charlyvanbuuren2947 I meant why you and not your wife. Your comment implied you got to cook and drink but you excluded your wife. Which I'm sure is just in error but I felt it was humorous to point it out.

[@charlyvanbuuren2947]

@@mormacil Ah, but in fact my wife doesn't drink alcohol and yes i prepared dinner...

[@mormacil]

@@charlyvanbuuren2947 Yeah but then you're celebrating by having a drink and not we. Which implies the celebration is shared through your drink. I assume the celebration was the shared dinner and afternoon, not the drink.

[@lejanvandijk4743]

Probeer eens tosti quick( potjes gewoon te koop in de supermarkt) ,dan krijg je een pizza tosti.

[@peterverbogt3870]

I think most has been discussed below. On the part of the kids gym and general interaction. Just try it! Most of the times its just the upfront but when you start a conversation you'll get a curious responce as most people would like to know why you're in Holland. Even more at the kids gym, its the experience that bonds people not age! And in general compair the Dutch to Belgium or Vlamish then we (the Dutch) are loud and direct. Second like you choose to put the 'are Americans fake' in your title but is the video about it? You can also think the video you derive the info from is that the general opinion or the opinions to get the most viewers? Good luck with the Dutch lessons! As a fair part of the jung Dutch will see you as an "English language try out" if they only think your not Dutch ;)

[@Dutchbelg3]

Hey Ellen, Most things you said are covered by others but I do want to get back on your opinion US-citizens are not that religious: I think a very high number are! I have travelled many times to the USA and there are soooooo many churches even in the smallest of communities! (OK The Netherlands also has many churches but there are a smaller number of active believers - but those that are are usually real hardcore christians ;-) ) Just the fact that in the last days the US high court leaked that they are considering to ban the federal right for women to have an abortion.. And I have noticed many young Americans get married to be allowed to have sex... That type of thinking is (luckily) getting fast extinct in the Netherlands! The whole dating to get a ring is an obsession! The Dutchies like to shop around and try to explore what kind of person would fit them best to go into a long term relationship. And exploring your sexual life before marriage is not a bad thing imho.

[@gerrygrouwe70]

No top on then your tosti gets crispy

[@henkoosterink8744]

Hiiiiii how are you.

[@SAMUDRAMAC]

I start the melting by microwaving for a bit,

[@klaasvanbeek5985]

Brugge is the most beautyfull city in the Benelux!

[@florisvansandwijk6908]

well, I haven't visited all of the cities in the Benelux, but I do concur that it is one of the most beautiful cities in the Benelux.

[@erictheuns184]

for Dutch and most Europeans ''how are you doing'' very strange even rude to ask unless your are really aquinted. Dutch will usally say the truth like '' meh not very good'' ect. So the best tip for visiting us citizens ^^ . btw firts over the post is really strange to us too. we have like 23 parties in parlament, even one especially for animal wellfare . Two political parties is very close to one party rule don't you think people ? But get better , nasty cough you have there .

[@ronaldderooij1774]

It is not toasty, but tostie in Dutch. The "o" being the same as in "vlog" and "ie" is like "y" in English. As for the fake part, it is considered fake questioning if you ask "how are you"? And not expect an honest answer. Furthermore if Americans want to say something that could be perceived as sensitive, or negative, they circumvent the topic often. A Dutchie would say straight, hey, you are getting fat, should you eat less? No harm done, just be clear in a few words. That indirectness of Americans, "are you feeling allright in your body? Do you need new clothes often? Is Fake in dutch eyes.

[@Bowwow30]

I think this man said 'religious' because every American politician (mind you: not a priest, but a politician) always does something the Dutch find very weird. They always end with something that would be impossible here: saying "God bless America." We have a separation of church and state, so even politicians of a Christian party would never say 'God bless the Netherlands'. I think this is one reason why the Dutch would think of Americans as religious. The other thing is the Puritan way of dealing with sex and other normal things of life in public. Hell breaks lose if a nipple is shown in a movie. Why? It's just a nipple, nothing more, nothing less. And there are more examples like these. And you'd say: but the majority of the Americans isn't religious anymore. For the Dutch this makes us wonder why the American society is still living up to these Christian prohibitions.

[@HaKi1950]

In my opinion there simply are neither stereo type Dutch nor stereo type Americans. People are individuals and everyone is different.

[@markjacobs1086]

The one & only truth!

[@falcotol9299]

Carnaval komt ook langs de oostgrens voor, hoor! Dat wordt nog wel eens vergeten. En ook in sommige Duitse dorpen vlak over de grens. Vraag aan allen die hun reactie in het Engels hebben geschreven: waarom doen jullie dat? Ellen woont in Nederland, zit op Nederlandse les en wil in de Nederlandse maatschappij functioneren. Dan moet zij ook Nederlandse antwoorden leren begrijpen, ze is niet dom! Maar natuurlijk zijn de VS religieus! Men noemt zichzelf "God´s own country" (Georgie trouwens ook ongeveer) en in het mid-Westen zijn er welhaast extremistische, oer-conservatieve christelijke gemeenschappen te vinden, in de Republikeinse staten, dus. En kijk maar eens wat er dreigt te gebeuren met de vrijheid op abortus, ingegeven uit conservatieve christelijke stromingen. Dus ja, de VS zijn een conservatief christelijk land waarop een aantal steden en staten een uitzondering vormen. Bovendien vinden de VS het nodig om een democratisch model op te leggen aan landen die daar helemaal geen behoefte aan hebben (oa Afganistan, Irak) Daar stap je makkelijk over heen; Trump is geen probleem meer want ik woon niet meer in de VS. Maar dat is het punt niet. Feit blijft dat toen Trump de verkiezingen verloor hij meer stemmen kreeg dan Obama toen hij ze won! Er is dus een zeer grote conservatieve, lompe massa kiezers in de VS. Overigens wil ik wel vermelden dat Trump natuurlijk ook veel kiezers kreeg, simpelweg omdat de democratische partij nauwelijks aandacht had voor de problemen van de onderklasse die de verliezers van de globalisering en automatisering waren.

[@Cl0ckcl0ck]

We're not reserved because we are distant. We are reserved because we are used to being very close. Just 100 years ago sleeping in a 'bedstee' wasn't unusual. Our culture reflects this. It's closer, not more distant. 'Gezellig' And because of this our social signals are toned down. The 3 kisses is a pretty clear example of this. Way too intimate for most cultures. Wide plains Yanks greeting each other 5 miles away from the top of their lungs... But who cares?

[@CobisTaba]

About the fairness; my impression is Americans constantly do superficial small talk, asking ‘how are you!’ A lot but not actually wanting answer. If I would respond with “horrible, total sucky day…” that is unexpected and not actually the intend. More examples like this are easy to give, but all the same point. Thenwords don’t meantime literal thing, it’s meant superficial and Dutch really don’t like that :)

[@ThirstyTunaTaco]

Just buy a tosti ijzer at blokker for 20 euro.. lol Just 1 little example of why we think most Americans are fake.. It begins with the phrase: Hello, nice to meet you how do you do? In The US they don't give a damn what the answer is.. So it's not a genuine question.. If you ask an average Dutch person the same.. He or she would think you're REALLY interested and he or she will say for example .. I'm fine but i have a horrible stomach pain and tells the whole story 😀

[@angelavm84]

And the sales channels they have: "hey Mike! Have you seen this amazing, wonderful, one of a kind toaster?! You have to buy one now, because..."etc. etc. It's the behavior we often see on TV that enhances the 'fakeness' I think. The 'money before everything' attitude (100% capitalism) might also have to do with it.

[@hunchbackaudio]

The fake part is partly due to all the American TV shows we get presented with this overly use of OMG and all the plastic enhanced faces. This might give some false idea of what America is like.

[@GabberPinda]

Use belegen kaas not jonge kaas. And don't use white bread it's garbage and dry a.f. personally I prefer the maisbrood(kornbread). Cheese, ham and another layer of cheese. Heat up your koekenpan and set it at 4. Little bit butter at both sides and your tosti wil be perfect (eat it with hela curry😍?.

[@pim1234]

or you buy a tosti ijzer ...

[@johnveerkamp1501]

AND THEY ARE ALSO OBSESD BY DIVORCES.

[@ExpatEllen]

Hahahahaha

[@SideWalkAstronomyNetherlands]

Why melt good cheese???? And why buy sliced cheese???? Don't you have a cheese slicer?

[@Whistler4u]

Try not buttering the pan but just spread butter on the outside of the bread. It will be crunchy and delicious. Why don't you agree on Americans being overly religious. I really noticed it when I was over there how much religion there is and how hard it is to tell someone you don't believe in a God.

[@clemenstremens1940]

Do not understand why you are using cheese from the supermarket, apart from the salt it is rather tasteless. Just go to a real cheese shop (kaaswinkel), better quality cheese and often cheaper than the cheese from the supermarket.