Toxic Masculinity - 3 Girls 1 Kitchen EP 17

[@Kat-ot1pc]

Lana gets too defensive when they speak the truth to her. Lighten up.

[@bremcdonald]

I’m starting to see why she doesn’t have many friends

[@stephanieloayza5018]

Seriously lighten up and have fun with the girls

[@MrMitchywoo]

Lana is the hottest woman on the planet, she can do what she wants

[@Acehadock]

@@MrMitchywoo down bad

[@MrMitchywoo]

@@Acehadock all the way lol

[@Fiiifiiiii786]

Do you think these girls did any research before this discussion? It doesn’t feel that well structured or understood. Also hate these gendered descriptors to behaviour.

[@jennyakakwnwnwnww]

None lol

[@bremcdonald]

No lol. This podcast is a mess.

[@hakk9961]

they just using their own head

[@reneekent]

Yeah agreed, a lot of it makes no sense. I don’t think Lana understands what Toxic Masculinity actually is. I think they’re just pulling topics out of thin air at this point to keep the podcast going

[@moonmarie123]

@@bremcdonald they always seem well intentioned with the topic but then Lana misinterprets & it veers off course into something it’s not 😂😩🥰

[@user-iy9xg4uq9i]

I love Alexa, she always tries to keep things light and positive

[@LukasFichtner]

So true ^^

[@alexaadams4182]

It makes me so happy you guys notice 🥰

[@LukasFichtner]

@Alexa Adams 100. And please keep on posting whatever you like 😁😉

[@laynamurillo2518]

Yeah Alexa really is gold. Can you believe Lana called her a doormat?? Geeze I know they are friends but that’s gotta hurt.. she could of rephrased it.

[@jayay5881]

She’s probably my favorite one out of these three, she makes me feel good and like I could talk to her for hours. Cool personality

[@biancan482]

I feel like in 5 years Lana will watch these episodes back and realize how rude and close minded she is. It's a shame because I want to watch these podcasts but Lana is just not personable and just doesn't come off as relatable in any way. Olivia and Alexa are great. Wish they'd do their own podcast.

[@rickylopez5506]

You obviously don’t know what you are talking about or comprehend the Dynamic of the podcast.

[@biancan482]

@@rickylopez5506 Ricky, I can appreciate contrasting dynamics. Infact, some of my favorite podcasts have opposing personalities...but look at this comment section. Clearly Lana is just being a bad co-host and it isn't vibing well with the audience, which is sort of the whole point.

[@alexisbrooke3481]

I 1000% disagree. Ever since this podcast began I've found Lana more relatable and just have such a newfound respect for her. She's such a smart girl

[@biancan482]

@@alexisbrooke3481 So I started watching this podcast because I saw Lana on other podcasts (call her daddy....etc.) and I liked her. Unfortunately though, just because you're a good guest doesn't mean you're a good podcaster. I just don't think she is in the position to be giving out advice, especially because she is hurtful when doing it and her POV is just unrealistic. She said it herself, she has "never been blown off" and even thinks "it's not feminine to get upset when it does happen." ... How are these the statements of a "good host" ? It's actually quite toxic to young women.

[@alexisbrooke3481]

@@biancan482 I didn't even get to that part yet when she said that... yeah that was a bad look :/ doesn't feel good for other girls to hear that at all. I'm just now at the 28:00 min mark

[@karat252]

Props to Olivia and Alexa for always putting up with Lana’s rudeness lol

[@Iris-gy2mi]

For real, she came off super rude and stuck up in this episode. She's very critical of others and conveys messages negatively, she should learn from them rather than act like she knows it all.

[@christina6905]

I think that’s just who she is, those around her know she doesn’t mean it in a negative way

[@bremcdonald]

I feel bad for them. This is a really good opportunity for them so I feel like they bite their tongue alot.

[@stephanieloayza5018]

Seriously I’m starting to realize Lana is rude and interrupts. And I really like this show but I’m starting not to because of her . The other are amazing

[@samanthasanchez441]

She reminds me a lot of that one cohost on impaulsive 🤔... 🤣

[@tiffaniebaddie4781]

lana is very insecure you can tell by how she treats her friends , and a big give a way was the blow off comment . Andddd how many surgeries she’s done to herself poor woman I hope she finds herself

[@Mh-xe1zh]

“i would never get blown off” like girl your insecurities are showing

[@dali2469]

@@user-mg5nz6il3n 28:25

[@xoMrsWentzxo]

You could tell how insecure she was in her relationship with Mike too.

[@lilyg8142]

Agreed

[@bremcdonald]

You’re totally right!!

[@garrlex]

These girls seem to have zero natural chemistry or flow in conversation. If I had to guess I'd say they all had never met before starting a podcast together. I hope they get to know each other and find their groove. I will keep coming back to find out but this is hard to watch sometimes.

[@Mh-xe1zh]

well they have a lot of stories with each other from years ago

[@anubisthacutest4752]

Olivia and Alexa have been friends for over 6 years or something. Lana was friends with Olivia first and then became close with Alexa.

[@tygertailzz2]

I agree. The way they talk is very robotic.

[@bremcdonald]

There’s some underlying cattiness in these episodes lately. Not sure if anyone else is picking up on it...

[@zehra4416]

Soo apparent I agree

[@madisoncontroversial7348]

Not the only one

[@Mellovesdeep25]

Oh we all sense it. I’m waiting for a blow up

[@stephanieloayza5018]

Yes totally. Lana seems upset at something and now it’s not having as much fun and Olivia seems annoyed

[@moonmarie123]

they got better for a couple episodes

[@Fiiifiiiii786]

Wow! Lana seems really defensive and rude to the girls a bit in this ... what’s going on ... “I would never be blown off” “why are you girls saying these questions are about me” “your behaviour is toxic”

[@bremcdonald]

I have this weird feeling there won’t be many more episodes. She comes off so rude lately, not sure the other two will put up with it.

[@madisoncontroversial7348]

You can tell Alexa was offended by the doormat comment

[@Fiiifiiiii786]

@@madisoncontroversial7348 yeh it was unnecessary. She was too harsh and it’s prob the reason why she doesn’t have many female friendships. I know she is a boss girl or whatever but a bit of empathy and humility would be nice. I actually liked her when she was in vlogs as I thought she was a nice girl but this catty side of her just isn’t nice

[@karat252]

@@madisoncontroversial7348 yeh wth that doormat comment so uncalled for...

[@matkrek]

@@bremcdonald alpha female tendencies

[@jennismith6]

Lana is so full of herself this show is clearly all about her , why even have two co host when you constantly talk over them and think your point of view is the only valuable one . Let’s not forget where you came from sweetie ! Humble yourself

[@vertiic6737]

Well it's her show and her channel... I agree she's rude by interrupting. But the other 2 tend to take over the show. They are rarely integrating Lana unless she interrupts. If she wouldn't do it she'd just be interviewing the other 2.

[@lulamoss]

Lana seems to think she’s better than these girls

[@tedhu262]

Don't see it. She just has a cat personality.

[@annamlandis12]

Idk Lana seemed pretty controlling and insecure in her last relationship. Not hating, but we aren’t perfect sometimes and I definitely got that from the way she was so overprotective of what she had.

[@rampageGentil]

That’s exactly what I was thinking. She say she don’t want insecure man but she is insecure herself when it comes to Relationship

[@Gmenpg]

Exactly what I was thinking. Women want to be SUPERA CONTROLLING , but if a man doesn’t want her girl to post a pic of her half naked , he’s abusive

[@MsMisfits]

@@Gmenpg how about don't dictate what your girl can and cannot post though, especially when you know going in what their profession is (modeling, etc) which is what they were talking about. They didn't say half naked either.

[@vertiic6737]

Yes I know girls like her. I'm sure she also knows about this. It's just part of her character I guess. If she finds a guy that does the same and both acknowledge it they could have a lot of fun. Maybe even balance their traits out.

[@danebeee1]

Damn Lana the attitude is getting a bit crazy. Not sure if it’s just your dry personality or what but it comes off as pretty rude. Not trying to be mean just wanted to give up a heads up how it can come off.

[@bremcdonald]

I hope she reads these

[@hakk9961]

time stamp?

[@turtleface59]

the way lana snapped at olivia honestly triggered me. It put be right back to when I would get bullied by mean girls in high school..

[@bremcdonald]

Same. Made me really uncomfortable. Olivia seemed really reserved. You can tell something is going on.

[@mphasis1983]

what time was that at?

[@tennismm]

I need a time stamp.

[@turtleface59]

​@@mphasis1983 a little at 26:41 and again at 28:27

[@turtleface59]

@@tennismm a little at 26:41 and again at 28:27

[@tevinstvalle8704]

Lana is the Mike of this podcast.

[@mgchannel532]

Lol yeah she got the interrupting thing from him

[@matkrek]

no wonder why they dated

[@lilyg8142]

This is EXACTLY what lana wants....she wants people to comment saying how alike she is with mike because she’s THAT obsessed with him it’s disgusting

[@roxxwest3055]

They are both earth signs

[@Mh-xe1zh]

she would love this comment lmaoo

[@stephaniedouglas9615]

Did anyone else hear Lana say "I'm asking for them cause obviously I would never been blown off, but I'm asking for a girl that would be blown off" ugh!!! That just rubbed me the wrong way. I listen because I want to get advise on relationships and just basic topics for women but if she thinks she is so much better then other women it makes it hard to listen because clearly she can't relate lol

[@stephaniedouglas9615]

@@user-mg5nz6il3n start at 28. Mins and just listen close

[@stephaniedouglas9615]

@@user-mg5nz6il3n 28.27

[@mjmcg73]

It is just her insecurities coming out, the same insecurities that led her to porn. She is overly sensitive with how she comes across instead of just being real. But the truth is she is real, just like you. She is making progress becoming the true Amara instead of Lana, but she was overly harsh this episode and it is really unattractive. Overall she is making great progress though and growing as a person. That is all you can ask. Stick with her.

[@emilygibbons9475]

@@mjmcg73 beautifully said.

[@tennismm]

I liked her a lot in the beginning but she is getting really annoying. She also always has to mention that famous people slide into her dms. Like girllll they only want to hook up with you because you were a pornstar, most guys dont take you serious.

[@ashkath9326]

Omg. I’m so sick of hearing about what we should all change about ourselves to make ourselves more desirable. Please remember that your soulmate (if you believe in them) will love you for who you are and what you naturally have to offer, flaws included. There are too many relationships out there where a square is trying to fit into a triangle. Don’t force anything that should not be. We should all work to be the best versions of ourselves, FOR OURSELVES, and nobody else. There should be no ‘I’m being this version of me for X person’. Who you are is what attracts your partner, and if you end up with somebody where you feel the need to behave a certain way in order to keep them around, that’s not healthy. Be your best you, for you, and keep working at that for yourself. Your partner will love and admire that about you, not push you down or behave negatively towards any mistakes or flaws you may have. Flaws are human, nobody is perfect, and it’s ridiculous to think we should be modifying our behaviour for the purpose of finding a mate. Of course, change unhealthy traits you may have, but once again, do that for your own success! That’s all I have to say. Thx for coming to my random KZbin comment rant.

[@vivek27789]

True..Very True 👍

[@toris5605]

This!! The last couple eps they’ve been saying things like “you need to be the best version of yourself to attract the best man” like no, maybe I wanna be the best version of myself for MEEE

[@ashkath9326]

@@toris5605 exactly :)

[@matkrek]

@@toris5605 toxic

[@vaztak4659]

Couldn’t have said it any better thx for giving us all such a great reminder

[@sab964]

now I know why Lana and mike didn't work out they both have the same personality.. they don't let anyone else speak

[@lilyg8142]

She only acts this way so she’s compared to with mike it’s fucking crazy she’s obsessed she wants the comments on impulsive to be like her podcast comments

[@angelanicoleny]

Yes she always interrupts, and she's so rude. Not cute.

[@vertiic6737]

My grandparents are both like that. Verrry entertaining. They've been together for over 50 years but to this day - everytime they're at a social gathering they annoy eachother that way hahaha

[@Hanna-us9pt]

Olivia looks so annoyed whenever Lana talks lmao

[@Jaay2o]

Stop shit stirring

[@nefertiti3515]

Shit, who wouldn’t be ?

[@jon-h]

Amara does come off as a very self-absorbed person sometimes. Often times, it appears to be her way to cope with some of her own insecurities, so I don't believe it is intentionally rude, but still.

[@hakk9961]

time stamp?

[@angelanicoleny]

I would be too, Lana comes off so rude and immature.

[@Ryan-po2ss]

Based on this episode, I think the next topic should be quieting the ego lol

[@whatsthetea5691]

Lana, let the others gals talk..not everything is about you and Mike.. stop comparing everything that happened to the girls with your relationship with Mike, they are clearly upset about your rudeness and we would love it if you let the gals finish their sentences.

[@jeonangelz]

alexa has such a cute personality

[@noresult9344]

who?

[@anna-nd6yb]

@@noresult9344 the girl in the middle lol

[@randomphil8666]

All three of these girls are cute in every way tbh.

[@titto2602]

What's the full name of the blonde girl far left?

[@randomphil8666]

@@titto2602 Olivia Davis.

[@parkerkamis9949]

I literally lost brain cells watching this. I should be doing homework.

[@Adino1]

Yes, work the big head first.

[@Twestliw]

@@Adino1 lmfao

[@sybilprentice3494]

I love these pods as background noise during homework lol

[@lucilleplourde1025]

Why the hell was Lana so rude to the other two ?? Now I see why she doesn’t have many friends 🍵🍵

[@Mellovesdeep25]

This episode was so awkward. I feel like Lana bullies the other two and Olivia rarely smiles. She seems miserable

[@Mscursed2]

Time stamp ?

[@jaysmith4635]

She is so incredibly rude and self-centered. And her interruptions provide no insightful comments - let me interrupt to talk about Mike for the millionth time!!

[@pinkrainbow1]

@@jaysmith4635 right and why would she even be obsessed with him or even dated him in the first place? She knew he was a disaster, a commitment-phobic drug addict who is living free off his rich friend. He never wanted to be with her and she constantly tried to force him into it. Does she not understand that a man has to want you? She needs to know not just who not to go out with.. but who to let go of. She basically ran after and chased down dysfunction.

[@oliviaclough6749]

@@pinkrainbow1 jusr shut up. Whether you think you do or not, you don’t see what goes on behind closed doors and you don’t know the intimate and personal details of their relationship. Stop acting like you do coz I’m sure you wouldn’t want someone else to comment on yours

[@Heelly100]

"You don't eat" "I’ve changed my ways" 20:48😂😂😂😂😂 No one talks about how funny Alexa is

[@whatsthetea5691]

EXACTLY..THE AMOUNT THAT I GET IN TROUBLE FOR LAUGHING MY ASS OFF AT 2AM BECAUSE OF ALEXA'S JOKES IS INFINITE

[@Mellovesdeep25]

She’s my favorite and the only relatable one.

[@NunyaBizzzzz]

I love her! Lol

[@mariah8336]

After Lana basically called her pathetic for posting a pizza on her story a few episodes ago.... why would she get her food 🤣

[@prettywhitney17]

how she had her coffee in hand while explaining how she “used to” only drink coffee ☕️ 😭😭

[@paoaotobs]

"I've never been blown off" yeah girl we seen who u date ... Of course they don't ...

[@lilyg8142]

Literally mike blew her off the whole relationship HAA

[@Ks-fb4gm]

Haha

[@dannibritton333]

She was messing around saying she had never been blown off. Come on everyone takes things so serious. Everyone has been blown off at some point 💕

[@vdiggity6621]

Watch lana is going to delete the comments calling her out for her bad attitude and her obvious insecurities ..

[@brandoncarlton8469]

Wouldn't surprise me

[@backtotheland274]

I try to listen because of how beautiful they are, BUT the way LA girls talk is just too much to handle lol they sound like middle schoolers tbh

[@iancameron5730]

It’s difficult huh. I don’t think they realise it either

[@prettywhitney17]

But didn’t u hear Lana say the word philosophy? Like 3 times? She’s obviously into the philosophical and metaphysical, and inner workings of the universe!!!!! Nah bruh I agree. Ngl the polished intellectual facade can only get them so far IMO... also this false depiction of “what is feminine” is nauseating.

[@moonmarie123]

@@prettywhitney17 when she started saying the toxic feminine I’m like nooo that’s not a thing 😂

[@celinalopez5778]

HAHAHA

[@blackhawk5724]

@@moonmarie123 Neither does Toxic masculinity.

[@danidumbbells]

Would love an episode dedicated to body dysmorphia, ED, etc. and how to cope/over come those types of things. I’ve always struggled w my weight and how I perceive myself/body.

[@ana-mp7ju]

fr all they talk about is about relationships and how to change youself for a man🙄

[@cobaincobain9352]

Btw Lana deletes comments she doesn’t like !!

[@vivek27789]

Does she?🤔🤔

[@jocelynes1853]

That’s kinda funny

[@alexandrac.2]

Well it’s her channel😬

[@delilahwesterlin2918]

lana is giving me high school bully vibes 😭😭

[@melxnielong]

I love all 3 of you. Lana, I was a fan of you first & you’ll always have my heart but I think you should be a little more mindful of letting Alexa and Olivia finish their full thought before talking again. & some of the comments you make are uncalled for. No hate at all srsly love u all but it’s just getting rlly noticeable & I want this show to thrive because I loveeeee it & want it to go on for much much longer 🥰

[@Clairebui]

100%

[@rslickerz838]

She’s the female mike majlak 😂

[@LeeorAlexandra]

There’s a lot of misunderstanding around the feminine/masculine in this video 🥲

[@OpheliaNL]

There were definitely a couple moments where they were conflating sex and gender, which makes it a tad offensive when they describe the ''masculine'' as more logical. The whole ying/yang thing also makes me think of Jung's anima and animus theory, only this wasn't of a psychoanalist nature, but more spiritual. It wouldn't be as bad if they didn't allude or flat out mention that certain traits are innate for men and women and kept it in a more spiritual realm, but they didn't. Imagine them actually reading into what femininity truly entails, how women are socialized into it and how it affects them. Don't think they are ready for that revelation yet.

[@ginamichelleromero]

Lana LET THE OTHER TWO FINISH A DAMN SENTENCE. She always has to interrupt and make it about herself and I just want to hear what Olivia and Alexa have to say too!

[@vertiic6737]

I'm pretty sure if you add it up Olivia and Alexa talk more than Lana. While of course it's rude of her to interrupt I see why she's doing it. Olivia and Alexa take over her show. I don't think any of them mean it in a bad way. It's just their dynamic.

[@evacreen5879]

The way Lana redirected her anger and tried to make Olivia feel awkward by questioning her on her situation after she got her back up about her own

[@learner5498]

“Awe he’s finally crying” is exactly why we don’t cry infront of you 😂😂

[@learner5498]

@@alexandrac.2 I ain’t generalising. I’m saying for women who say that, that’s the reason we don’t cry in front of them. As for men crying in general, never gonna happen cos of society 😂🤷‍♂️

[@hazekickzstorm1965]

Lana is the over obsessive one in a relationship yet calls Oliver “toxic feminine or not being feminine ” the reason Mike couldn’t make it work because she was too much. Blowing up his phone, obsessing over other women yet she’s on this podcast acting high and mighty. I’m sick of her and this dull podcast. Amara cannot keep a man because she is too much, once you’ve hit it and got past the hotness which is sugary you realise she’s a pain to be around. Most guys in LA only want to hit and run cause it’s well known she’s annoying AF hence no friends

[@gf1667]

Unless a girl has real brains no one wants to hear her talk I’d rather read cosmo there’s the same tips with less of this annoying chatter lol

[@LanaRhoadesand2G1K]

I’m sorry were you part of our relationship? Did it ever occur to you that was character I played for his vlog and a joke? That man was allowed to do whatever the f he wanted.

[@thegalhorowitz]

@@LanaRhoadesand2G1K I'm sorry you have to read comments like this where people think they know EVERY detail of your life from 10 mins of videos every few weeks...I honestly love your personality; there is lingering hurt and pain somewhere but you are building your future without needing anyone else and most of us are proud of you.

[@user-ky3oc7dj9m]

@@LanaRhoadesand2G1K you’re not that great of an actress lol

[@carmendelbianco319]

Wow !! Lanas true colors def came out this episode , not nice to Olivia or Alexa at ALL

[@cherubwrld]

Huh?!

[@Mh-xe1zh]

@@cherubwrld Yup, we all seen it, multiple comments said it too

[@Mellovesdeep25]

@@cherubwrld she literally said “I would never be blown off but let’s talk to the girls who would be” and pointed out something Olivia did and said I don’t find that very feminine, it’s toxic femininity” that’s more than being honest it’s like blunt rudeness. She’s not perfect, none of us are.

[@haileym576]

@@Mellovesdeep25 to your point about Olivia -we all can hold toxic traits, and a good friend will point it out to their friend and do their best to help the other person recognize that, if they aren't self aware to realize that on their own. & that was the topic it didn't just come out of nowhere. I appreciate being called out for toxic behaviour for the benefit of my personal development. I think it was good of Lana to help Olivia see that too for her own personal development, as any good friend would. as for your first point, I see how what Lana said came across rude, however, I don't believe that was how she intended it to sound. when you're in the moment and feel like your worth is being devalued (especially since this is being broadcasted to the internet ((hella embarrassing)) you try to protect yourself and say the first thing that comes to mind to steer the conversation off that. nothing wrong with Lana recognizing her own value and stating she would never be blown off. but the reality is, however beautiful or not you are, there are of course people out there who have been blown off, so she is catering to the wide variety of audience members who face that.

[@Mellovesdeep25]

@@haileym576 I never said her point about Olivia was wrong, just the way she spoke to her. Knowing your value and stating you would NEVER be blown off in a snooty way are two totally different things. You can put a pretty bow on it all you want, my opinion is that she was not very nice this episode. Doesn’t mean she is horrible or always nasty but she was this day. You can twist anything anyone says, I know a girl who makes people cry all the time because she tells people really mean-spirited and degrading things and then when she goes too far and someone is upset she spins it to her wanting to help them or them taking it wrong. It’s way more becoming to be accountable for your words and how they can be taken rather than make excuses.

[@cyber-cyco9232]

I really like what Olivia said about soul mates because I had to learn that lesson the hard way. I feel like I've lost some soul mate connections because either them or me weren't putting the same effort into the relationship or we weren't helping each other be better people. I've learned, grown and moved on from that, but it was a tough realization and am thankful for the experiences we shared. Also Sadghuru is hella knowledgeable about literally everything

[@biancagarcia-gf4wg]

YAAAAAS Alexa raising a voice at the end so she’s not interrupted 💕 I loveeeee her

[@disturbedlovely7515]

Funny how she telling us how to get a man, yet she single. Lmfao.

[@ghevisartor6005]

@@RCGolf the based department is asking for you at the phone

[@codel4043]

I love Alexa, she has a very cute personality and she seems very down to earth ❤️🥺

[@szafanxo3984]

It’s too painful to watch Lana like I love her but she makes me wanna curl up into a ball😂😂

[@kkrdln]

Why

[@dannibritton333]

She is so beautiful 💯💕

[@szafanxo3984]

@@dannibritton333 They all are😍😍

[@ghevisartor6005]

@@dannibritton333 doesnt mean she can be rude. Being beautiful is literally genetic luck.

[@anubisthacutest4752]

Lol love you guys but this episode was lowkey kinda weird 💀😂

[@Mh-xe1zh]

“i would never be blown off” wow Lana lol

[@Mellovesdeep25]

I cringed so hard

[@animehey7703]

So cringe 😬 this is a great podcast but sometimes Lanas immaturity really shows

[@biancan482]

She can come off so unrelatable sometimes 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@stephanieluminous3116]

“... but I know you’ve gotten really angry when you have- which doesn’t seem very feminine to me...” The fuck Lana?

[@ThomasEKouri]

Hi Ladies,I really enjoyed again the topics are really good😜

[@JaclynDoll2]

Lana sounds like she’s reading from a teleprompter. Girl. Get it together

[@bremcdonald]

She is. Can’t stand it.

[@Mh-xe1zh]

“3 girls one KETCH-EN”

[@stacey5680]

People tend to think having feminine energy or traits is weak but the amount of giving and forgiveness to someone requires strength. Alexa seems to have that.

[@chloewinterz6750]

lana is the most boring I tried to listen to her and give her a second chance but after how I saw her talk to Olivia and Alexa it’s done

[@bremcdonald]

Doesn’t help that she reads off a script for part of it. So lame.

[@lilyg8142]

It’s so cringe she has no idea what she’s talking about

[@vivek27789]

Woaaah...chill girls..retract your cat nails back a little...it's a podcast.. let's not judge people and their personalities just by this.😂😂😂

[@lilyg8142]

@@vivek27789 I know because I’ve watched every podcast she’s on and every single aunthenix vlog of mine that she’s in....ppl are giving her excuses but hey I see a bitch when I see one

[@lilyg8142]

*mike

[@HeyMichaelLeo]

It's really simple, Expectations are a killer of all relationships. Expectations set up disappointment for both the one having Expectations as well as the one they are imposed on. Like Lana said live and let live, change is good and necessary for personal growth. "Cheers"

[@melly8623]

28:40 how is Lana so rude to them and they’re just chill, I’d freak the fuck out lol

[@vivek27789]

Bcoz she is actually their boss and it's Amara's podcast i.e she is the one who finances the production.

[@solacelivie5312]

Also because newsflash, they are friends.. they know her and her intentions. This journey is new for her, it’s clear they are trying a dynamic, if it’s stiff or not working, they would reevaluate. People need to fuckin chill with being so judgemental over topics other than their own.

[@melly8623]

What does them being friends have to do with anything? Whether they are her friends or not, it’s not okay to be rude to anybody like she was to them in this episode.. I’d never treat a stranger, let alone my best friends, like that.

[@andyapple7176]

I relate to Olivia so much rn! I’ve had a toxic friendship before and it leaves u so exhausted and defeated. With curling in body language. And so so difficult to speak bc that friend constantly negates every single thing u say. Ugh. Shes gonna leave and get free soon

[@stephaniedouglas9615]

Lana is so rude. She is constantly interrupting and slick putting them down. I don't understand how they put up with her. She clearly thinks she is better than them. They are all beautiful but Lana is very ugly on the inside.

[@vivek27789]

A little bit too judgemental?

[@stephaniedouglas9615]

I take this comment back and I was being just as ugly on the inside by even making this statement. We all have insecurities and today she was just having a bad day or maybe its me having a bad day and taking her comments the wrong way. Either way I still love and I should have worded this different instead of attacking her character. She is very beautiful and successful and everyone has days where were more snappy with our words. So I should have handled this way different.

[@vivek27789]

@@stephaniedouglas9615 👍🙏

[@julianamartinez3062]

Alexa is so positive I lOVE her!! & Olivia is so sweet and real, I appreciate I can connect with Olivia!

[@hanzo133]

Lana needs to let go of the "bride at the wedding complex" where no other girl could look, feel or do anything better than the "bride" she ends up minimizing her self instead of encouraging the development of her co-hosts, understand they have different skills and personalities that you do not need to shut down. It's evident that her insecurities are pushing them away... You are better than this.

[@iamrose8709]

LANA YOUR GLOWING SO MUCH VIRGO BABY IM SO PROUD OF YOU i see u loving yourself so much and your surrounded by great people

[@LanaRhoadesand2G1K]

Thanks cupcake!!!! I have a really exciting and intimate episode planned for you guys next week!

[@iancameron5730]

Emotional regulation is not a feminine or masculine energy, it’s a skill, it’s something you can learn and something you can forget. I don’t enjoy these generalisations when they refer to mental wellness or health

[@vertiic6737]

Well speaking mythological they are not wrong. What you say tho is also correct. You both are talking about the same thing but from different perspectives.

[@Nomiprincesstarot]

Lmao I love how Lana tries to slide in that question about her own personal dating situation and then try to play it off lmaooo

[@juanita_deagrela007]

Love the podcast💞 Too many people being rude and hating on Lana FOR being rude. That just don’t make any sense🤣 Love all three of you

[@geminibaby3606]

I love olivia so much! I relate to her and i agree with her mindset! So open and letting them know how you feel is the best way to be!

[@vertiic6737]

While I somewhat agree with the essence - there's a fine line where it becomes toxic. Too little and you hurt yourself directly. Too open and you'll hurt the other person and ruin the realtionship. It can be soooo tricky god damn hahah

[@kieranaicker8665]

And keep staying" idk why you think you we talking about me" when she's literally brings up her own life throughout all of these podcasts?

[@e.tphone9039]

I think lana needs to take her own advice because she wouldn't let mike do shit. Would u lana mike wanted to do things go places and u would not let him. Take your own advice lana.

[@vivek27789]

@@ahmettoktas8812 Is he really though? 🤔🤔

[@e.tphone9039]

She not living her best life. She got money nice home good friends all she needs now is a good man. Lana go get mike back fight for him

[@mellycone5317]

Olivia is so funny towards guys she’s so sassy lmao me af

[@ghevisartor6005]

What to take from this video: 1) so called toxic men are popular with women but no one want to admit it and ask why, because women are always seen are righteous and pure. 2) the title of the video should be toxic feminity or projection.

[@matkrek]

Lana got a lot of masculine energy highkey

[@brandoncarlton8469]

People are asking why the other two are tolerating Lana's behavior. They have to, or they won't have any status themselves.

[@beccccaaa]

Lana is so much better off without Mike ❤️ I’m so happy she got out of that situation, she deserves better.

[@bremcdonald]

She was the toxic one but yes they’re both much better off

[@matkrek]

@@bremcdonald someone had to say it

[@dirtjumper512]

She's the problem

[@kerrykoleszar]

Hahahahahhahahah the Pink eye / eating it oh my god I am not even five minutes in yet you girls have be staying laughing hahahahhahaha but which stone for the pink eye asking for a friend lmfao...???? Love this podcast!!!! So happy to have started since the beginnings. Xxxoxoxo

[@caslolll]

Hey Lana! Just wanted to clarify some topics that were discussed throughout this podcast that I find a bit harmful. I am a Gender Studies educator, so I do have quite a bit of background in this conversation. Toxic masculinity refers to masculine traits that cause harm to not only men but also women and society as a whole. Toxic masculinity could also assume that all men are straight and cisgender, and suggests this is the way they SHOULD be, which of course we know is not true. Also, you could say that toxic masculinity comes from trauma, but if a bit more research was done on the topic, toxic masculinity stems from society and the traditional stereotypical norms of masculinity and manhood. Toxic masculinity can turn into violent behavior that results when a man’s idea of “what it means to be a man” goes wrong. But there is no female equivalent to this. Toxic femininity does not exist. In any system that promotes the concept of a superior and an inferior, the group that is perceived as inferior will attempt to curry favor or avoid rejection from those perceived as superior. It’s not rocket science. Being an asshole isn’t a gendered trait. But being an asshole, or being manipulative, or being self-centered is not the same as toxic masculinity. Toxic masculinity refers to a specific type of man-on-woman violent behavior and it’s a serious problem.

[@katiepaint]

Lana : “I would never get blown off” basically saying the other 2 would omg so cringe and rude

[@danimarie9550]

I don’t think Lana was intending on being rude.. Some topics are sensitive and is normal for friends to get heated with each-other sometimes. Are they supposed to sit and giggle the whole time? Lmao

[@pintu9223]

Seeing Lana on her own..shows how much she is right for Mike....

[@blakeandrews3613]

I love how there’s like this underlying catty energy throughout the show, like Lana keeps making little passive aggressive comments, I feel bad for the girl on the left, but it actually makes the show more interesting

[@rhhea]

my fav podcast!! y’all always look amazing❤️

[@aaronchamberlain8058]

Hey Ladies! Happy to see another episode :) Great advice as always! I'll start sharing these videos, so more people can watch and listen. Lots more love to you, Lana/Olivia/Alexa!

[@lilyg8142]

I loved lana before I actually got to know her. Since dating mike she was always so insecure and acted like a desperate 5year baby...he left her because she’s got nothing to offer except her looks...she puts on this act as if she’s an angel who’s above everyone when in reality no once believes you go to book club and she’s rude

[@bremcdonald]

Nailed it

[@jon-h]

I don't think its entirely fair to judge someone based solely on how they present themselves on social media. It might not be the full picture.

[@lilyg8142]

@@jon-h I think after watching every podcasts she’s in and mikes full authentic vlogs of so much footage of lana being lana....I can get a clear picture...but thanks for the advice...in fact she’s probably worse off camera :)

[@lilyg8142]

@@jon-h there’s a reason why mike dumped and couldn’t stand one of the most attractive girls in la...she was willing to give him everything...is that not a fkn sign plus she has no friends :)

[@jon-h]

@@lilyg8142 What I'm saying is, you only get to see a fraction of other people's lives. Even knowing how they do or do not behave doesn't really change that - there is minimum one thing that will always be private yet is the most fundamental part of their character, i.e. thoughts, experiences and emotions. I obviously do have an impression from Amara. But I would refrain from calling that a complete picture - calling it objective would be even more egregious.

[@mgchannel532]

Yh Lana talking about how men should work on them self and shit and she broke up with Mike cuz he was talking with a girl in GTA like girl ! Stup

[@ponsk.]

when i think about all episodes i really like alexas way of thinking about relationships.

[@mariajesuscarbone4238]

Ok, first of all, you can’t just always adjust your “femenine or masculine energy” in order to please someone or to reinvent yourself to connect for that person. Also, I’m not “unbalanced” for leaning more in one side than the other. Separating everything with “feminine or masculine traits” is honestly a toxic trend, because perpetuates symbolic violence, by saying for example, “men are more rational than women, so go do x” or “Women are more emotional, so go do y”. That’s a thing we made up in the 1900, a stupid social construct, so “we know our place society and our role in a heterosexual relationship” If you want to find out how a partner really is, you have to watch how they are with their family, friends, you (especially in bad moments, so you see true reactions and what they do about it), communicate, both understand your affective responsibility, work on yourself through therapy on your toxic behaviors and hopefully the other person too, decide everyday to love each other and work through it!

[@devonbrean4002]

Eeekk the energy on this episode is so rough... is everyone ok?!😳

[@bobdole991]

What I enjoy most about the podcast, are the topics that the ladies choose to discuss. Keep it up!❤️

[@halamikkawii]

gurlsss omg why am i so late to know that there is such an amazing podcast😩 i lovee youuu❤️ i'm watching every single podcast like this is truly amazing!!! keep the great work🔥

[@Laflareup1017]

These girls are about to break up, watch.. And any 'ex' in someone's life.. One person will always assume, that you're both getting back together. No question

[@jay36171]

They dont know what the hell they’re talking about lmao

[@maddyG7414]

I don't really get the hate towards Lana. Yes, I think she does tend to get defensive on occasion but the moments that are being pointed out don't really come across as rude to me, she just is a blunt person with a dry sense of humour. I don't know maybe it's just me.

[@vivek27789]

True

[@dannibritton333]

💯💯💯

[@pinkrainbow1]

For some reason Amara chooses horrible men. Men that she knows right from the start will NOT create the future she wants.. but she tries anyway.. then she tries to change them and make them into someone they're not. I wish I could speak to her and tell her it's all about who you allow into your life. It's not about trying to make dysfunctional men into healthy functional relationships. It will never work with commitment-phobic drug addicts who are broken.

[@chelsey9109]

Almost to 1,000,000 subs! Congratulations! 🍾

[@coolbrazilianwind6127]

Thank you for your insights, toxic masculinity is derived from insecurities and not to be confused with regular masculinity

[@christinecondrey9363]

These women are obv friends outside of the podcast .. I dunno why ppl say amaras rude she's just blunt .. She's super smart in business and I feel like she's an old soul .. Every girl brings something diff but def don't think amaras rude .. Loved this episode 💞💞

[@spencedog]

“I don’t really watch Tik Tok so I’ve never heard of masculine and feminine energy” LMAO like it was invented on Tik Tok. 😂 like it’s exclusive to scrolling through Tik tok.

[@jordanv6466]

i mean in all honesty, i never heard about it till tiktok really started emphasizing it

[@RobAllbanks]

Toxic masculinity and too much feminism needs to be banned!

[@lukasdohse1876]

They’d only talk about masculinity though because they probably think feminism is perfect rn🤣

[@biancagarcia-gf4wg]

Lana since you love giving rude criticism: You don’t have to bring up a bunch of facts to seem smart you’re doing the opposite 😂 LET THESE GIRLS SPEAAAAAK so frustrating to watch Watch what you say to your friends you’re going to end up with nobody!

[@celinalopez5778]

Lana how about you take your own advice on overly controlling situations for this podcast?

[@angelanicoleny]

Preach! I was going to say the same thing lol

[@kahleiahetaraka6718]

Came to the show for lana, left as an Olivia and Alexa stan! Wouldn't be mad if they started their own show without lana where they might get the chance to direct the show without being interrupted 24/ 7..💯 x

[@kateyaya]

I love it so much when u gals cover stuff like this and manifestation

[@minieminu4644]

Beautiful girls with beautiful minds! Love your podcast ❤️

[@Allseeingeyeris]

I don’t think some ppl understand that the term “toxic masculinity” isn’t trying to say masculinity is toxic as a whole. To suppress your own emotions to the point of emotional unavailability for example is toxic, or being prideful to the point that your ego can’t handle admitting your own faults, also toxic 🤷‍♀️

[@vivek27789]

True.. Very True

[@vertiic6737]

To the last point of this show... I believe that's excactly what it's about. My most successful relationships were about equal improvement for both partners. I admired and strived to develop certain traits that my partner was exceptional at while they did the same for some of mine. We were rarely equal in our strenghts but very relatable personally.

[@moreelosilva9407]

Did all of you do shrooms ??? I realy want to know how did y'll experianced it .how did you guys Feel the Day after.where did you guys do it ?? Questions questions questions 😋🤔

[@NinaBina_87]

I love this podcast! I think the girls should take turns hosting so they each get a turn to talk about whatever narrative they like ❤️

[@jcarlossgr]

I want a girlfriend like Alexa, she is so hot and so caring; whatever she said is like so easy to get love by her and make her feel reciprocal feelings...where should I send my resume ?