Toxic MIL Invited Herself To Our Anniversary Vacation Trip Which I Paid & Completely Spoiled It

[@AC-ql9pk]

I choked when she said they were married for 10 years. I wouldn’t have made it 10 days 😂

[@carlamurphy9328]

I wouldn’t have made it past the engagement because that was a preview of a marriage of misery.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

It is amazing it lasted as long as it did because Tim is a complete wimp!

[@yeetdiscreet1278]

Comes from OP not having enough of a spine to put her foot down HARD. I'd never allow this type of invasion in my marriage, and if my wife allowed it she'd catch flack from me too.

[@blainekimmel3780]

​@yeetdiscreet1278 that's crazy, are you from America- no way. Wth?

[@blainekimmel3780]

There's no way this story is real

[@rebeccascott6508]

How is it a good relationship if you aren't being heard or protected?!? RUN!!!!!!!

[@jenniferslack-smith5129]

Tim wasn’t ready to have a child. A child cannot be a father to a child.

[@DrFruikenstein]

Tim never put his mother in her place, and lost the best thing that ever happened to him. I see it happen a lot, and it's sad, but not unusual.

[@ravenfox926]

Until he cuts the cord and gets his balls back, he will forever be alone.

[@yeetdiscreet1278]

I don't understand the mindset of a mama's boy honestly. Why would you want to be up your mom's ass so bad that you can't live on your own as an autonomous human being? Isn't it suffocating as hell? Don't they realize it keeps them from being with a woman?

[@Zurround]

If I was the OP I would have just had my husband and his mother go on the trip together and tell them to have a great time and when they return they would find everything I own gone, I would be staying in a hotel for the time being, and on the living room table would be the divorce papers with a brand new pen next to them signed by me and a note to him saying that once he is done filling out the divorce papers he can then get remarried TO HIS MOTHER.

[@arnoldnellis6120]

Floor Mat? Tim Was The Whole Carpet!!

[@jeanthree]

I bought a nice for my mother in Law she still trashed me. However when she dropped dead the family look @ me to pay for the funeral I said not my mother and not my problem😢

[@shegeek5559]

Nice backbone!

[@leelourose2503]

I would have offered to buy the gas and matches.. then shrugged when they got upset.

[@ravenfox926]

I'd have offered a container of lighter fluid and a cardboard box.

[@LadyA1111]

Bought what?

[@gillygilly3423]

@@LadyA1111- A nice.

[@amyk9397]

she knowingly married a momma's boy....

[@yeetdiscreet1278]

She made her bed, yes. I wasn't surprised about the drama that ensued.

[@dorotheapryce358]

If OP was driving, how did the car get from her house to MIL's house to pick her up? Just curious. That witch would have been standing on her porch all damn day waiting for me to pick her up.

[@Kumo5980]

Tim did this to himself He had a chance to stood up to his mother but he throw it all away the moment he try to lie in court on how unfit OP is Nobody gonna sympathize with you, Tim you lost your family You lost your right to your son And you lost all trust to your Wife! If you guys can’t even have a great trip without your mom bugging your wife and bullying her, then don’t even bother being together

[@Zurround]

The OP was not being fully accurate when she said that the vacation meant for just the 2 of them was his last chance to salvage their marriage. It was his SECOND TO LAST (penultimate) chance. I say that because when his mother was slandering the OP and lying about infidelity had he really manned up and fully stuck up for his wife and put her in her place, maybe cutting all ties with her THEN AND THERE and offered to even help the OP sue his mother for slander or defamation for spreading the rumors (if possible I don't know the law on that) my guess is that she most likely would have changed her mind about the divorce ESPECIALLY considering that they were about to have the baby. But nope, that spineless pantywaste @$$H0L3 fully sided with the mother. The OP was a much more forgiving person than me. I would have fought hard in court against him having ANY visitation with his son and if I could not prevent that he would get the absolute bear minimum that the court would allow.

[@Kumo5980]

@@Zurround yup OP was super lenient to him till her patience broke Decades of this and Tim never defend her at all Yeah 10 F🤬🤬 years too late

[@shanewoody4232]

Well at least now tim can grow without his mother and now he has a life lesson

[@arnoldnellis6120]

EXACTLY!!

[@kennethboyer2338]

3:49 That first meeting was a whole parade of red flags, OP should've walked away at that point.

[@LordGertz]

That is an insult to floor mats. This story proves again the falsity of "all you need is love" and "love is enough". Their was no support, respect, protecting, nor honoring in that marriage on the part of Tim, and then he lied in court. Too much of anything is bad, even love. Tim's mom loved him so much it was smothering, inhibiting, and ultimately disastrous to his happiness. Personally I think before they go back to the courts over child visitation, OP should request as a show of good faith that he take out an ad in the local paper setting the record straight. (Linda's actions, the falsehoods spread in the community & in court.)

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. It isn't her son's house. It is yours and her sons house. She has no business being over. You can say no. Leave little mama's boy timmy

[@angelvan1052]

Tim is such momma boy and so incredibly slow that he FINALLY realized his mistakes!! that unfortunately come too late save his marriage.. but hopefully still redeem himself to be good father to his own kid and OP is better off as independent, wonderful and smart woman!

[@LizA-q6o]

Happy OP divorced the husband and got away from the MIL. She deserves better and now she’s happy with her son.

[@megamiet1210]

It is difficult to break free from a toxic relationship, but Tim did this to himself for not standing up for his wife. Her job now is to protect her child from toxic people.

[@bautistalover]

Why should he stand up for himself when OP didn’t stand up for her own self. She never said anything to her MIL about overstepping she stayed quiet and quiet until she tried to kill her MIL. Her marriage was over the moment she knowingly fed her MIL something she was allergic to. At least with her father they knew shellfish was served she didn’t give her MIL the same courtesy.

[@georgewashington4866]

"Tim" was a total momma's boy until the end but if OP wanted to stay married to her ex, she could have ended up saying, "honey, I've got some news and it can be either good or bad. We have to move to another country due my work so your mom can't visit us every day once we move." I bet then that "Linda" would tell them to get divorced if they have to move otherwise she won't be able to control them.

[@alissaroberts2545]

Tim had 10 years of chances.

[@matthowland1770]

He was a flat-out meow, any male that gives his mommy that much power over him that he sits there scared to breathe the wrong way begging his wife to keep on being a victim. I cut him some slack in as much as it was his way of survival, but when he couldn't even stand up for his wife, that was where I drew the line. I got my mother's uncle for embarrassing my wife at my grandmother's funeral. I went to his apartment the next day and handled it. I told him if he could not, at the very least, respect me enough not to treat her the way he did, then he could stay his @$$ on his side of town.

[@raphaelgreene5268]

Tim, Tim, Tim...that man has been brainwashed for a loooooooonnnngg time. And after the separation, divorce, and being apart from not seeing the baby is when he finally grows a pair and stands up for himself. And it is all his own mother's fault.

[@robingibson6561]

And Tim's too. He saw what his mother was doing and NOW after OP dumped his 'my mommy can do no wrong' ass he's still singing that come back to me song. HE wanted family therapy and learned nothing from it. He deserves to be alienated from his child because I think if he gets any time alone with the child he'll just run,with the child, to his mommy's house.

[@ravenfox926]

Too little, too late

[@ZeraSilvaFenritTheOokami]

the ex husband was a total mamas boy and a loser who didnt even stand up against his own mother op deserves better

[@Zurround]

Damned idiot. He disowned his mother anyway after losing his marriage. If its something he was going to do anyway he might as well have done it a few months SOONER and then both salvaged his marriage and been able to raise his son fully instead of just getting "visitation". I hated him even more than his mother. One thing he was WRONG about (though he still made the right decision to cut off all contact with his mother, if he ever remarried or got another relationship with a women she would have been a liability at best) was that his mother cost him his marriage. NO. Him being a spineless pantywaste wimp with no balls was what cost him his marriage. Pee Wee Herman probably frightens that guy as much as Mike Tyson frightens me.

[@JoeyWolfAngel]

Haha no, she gave him TEN years of chances. TEN! That’s more than what most women would have given him, heck I wouldn’t have made it to the wedding.

[@luceret]

I'd really like to know where this happened, because no family court judge in the U.S. is going to deny a parent at least visitation just because their mother is overbearing.

[@ashleyvogt4449]

The fact that you lasted 10 years is amazing

[@normanhutcheson812]

You ask if Tim was a “floor mat”? He was so bad, he should’ve had the word “WELCOME” tattooed onto his forehead! I’d just like to know why OP waited so long to finally get them out of her life? I don’t know of any woman who would allow their wedding to be hijacked like that! If OP didn’t want her wedding to be like that, then that was a wedding that NEVER should’ve happened! She should’ve known that it was only going to be worse from there on!

[@yeetdiscreet1278]

Who was the bigger doormat here, the mamas boy... or the one who MARRIED the mama's boy and stayed with him for a DECADE and put up with the toxic MIL?

[@lindalamaster3848]

If people came to me with her lies they would have heard a ear full. I'm sure they would have been shocked. Especially when they found out she went in the honeymoon and anniversary. I wouldn't put up with her crap.

[@naptime1900]

These MILs should be a cautionary tale and the reason for birth control so the DNA will not be passed on.

[@lauramiller7690]

I would have filed a restraining order against the nut

[@pbg0301]

She just had to not pick her up and take her on the trip why did she. I don't understand when they say she forced me. Cancel it then

[@bautistalover]

OP had no backbone and no personal accountability. It’s always someone else’s fault or she was forced.

[@andreavanhoof6047]

You never had a marriage OP because Tim never had your back when it came to his toxic mother!

[@mikehilbert9349]

Story 1: TLDR: Another woman marries into crazy and acts suprised when crazy rears its ugly head

[@rupturedduck6981]

The" SIMP'S , STRONG THEY ARE mmmm FLYING MONKEYS TO".

[@larenzostokes985]

OP was a damn push over… TEN DAMN YEARS!!!!

[@scriblarian]

I hope she sues Linda for emotional abuse and slander

[@NPRYRS]

OP let this happen 🤷🏽🤷🏽‍♀️ deserves everything 💯❗‼️

[@TimothySmith-yh4fu]

You can dump a momma's boy or you can divorce a momma's boy but you simply cannot change a momma's boy.

[@sandrajohnson6810]

How does she expect a grandchild when she interfers with their chance to have any alone bedroom time even on an anniversary trip. She stops any chance at intimacy between the couple. Tim didn't realize the extent of his mother's controlling behavior until he had it directed full force at him. There was nobody else for her to control so her empty life was now focused full force on him and she wanted to make sure this time around he was going to do things her way. He found out just what his wife had been dealing with and he didn't like it.

[@noelperry9228]

Yes, he didn't have a backbone until after he lost everything and still took him a while longer to see what his family was doing to his wife, which was truly sickening. Just yuck.

[@chung2055]

Tim was definitely a doormat for his mother.

[@lucillepfundt6757]

Linda deserved everything she got bc she horned in the anniversary vacation. Tim should've put his foot down regarding his mother. I have a feeling Tim will never have a wife as long as Mommie Dearest is still alive,

[@CareyBilley]

Never marry a momma's boy unless you like his mother otherwise you will be in a toxic marriage and family.

[@jeremyk.6456]

Never marry anyone who doesn’t get along with their family (unless you can clearly see before a relationship/feelings developed that the family are toxic aholes with the exception of the one person of the family that isn’t insane). Whenever a person isn’t able to have a stable relationship with normal members of their family it will carry outwards to other relationships. The biggest problem I see in today’s society is that narcissistic people (like Linda) end up destroying the character of their children unless that child is made out of “Vibranium” (the space age metal from iron man that is stronger than any metal or alloyed metal on earth) to be able to survive in a good manner with atrocious parents/elders like that. OP needs to sue linda/ex for harassment and the fact Linda is spreading the news to other people to get it back to Op would be violating the restraining order by the court.

[@bautistalover]

Well how could OPs dumbass know she was marrying a mommas boy considering she didn’t meet his mother until after she accepted the proposal. That’s part of the problem right there. Why are people going into commitments before they know how they interact with their families?

[@zoey5400]

If I was op I would had tim going around town and telling people his mom was lieing about op and tell the truth

[@centurycountess4949]

Tim found out too late, Even though he now has a growing spine, helping his mother lie about o.p in the court just to try and win custody as well as not coming to o.p's aid at all was his downfall.had he of stepped up or outted his mothers lying attempts at court, maybe. He's lucky very lucky O.p will let him have visits with his son. so hopefully that spine he grew even if it was too late to save his marriage hopefully he can use it to help o.p protect their son and show her insane ex mil try something crazy. that's literally the best he can do now in order to show o.p he has manned uo to be a better father figure. However if he fails, and he tries to involve ex mil in any way it's on him if O.p decides he can't see his son anymore. As for O.P, She's doing the right thing. Mil's only digging a grave deeper for herself by spreading lies, I am hoping that the ex mil has left o.p alone since the last update. her final coffin will probably be jail time time if she tries something crazy.

[@lynnechapman6204]

This is one of the worst MIL. The son is a bad husband. I'm so happy for OP.

[@angelicakaufman7183]

Man I really really wish she would have called the police before she left the house

[@antoinettebates244]

OP...You're hooking up with a Mommas boy!! Have fun with one..NEVER MARRY ONE!! WHY WHY WHY DID YOU SAY I DO?? NO is a full ducking sentence!! So is GET OUT!!

[@ifynwamma]

I know. People ignore red flags and complain later.

[@vesla266]

Tim was absolutely a doormat and a coward who didn't dare to stand up to his mother before it was too late. Best wishes for OP and her child ❤️☺️🤗

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

You did the right thing

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

She deserves what she got

[@jennilynne1977]

Thank you for the new story Mr. Reddito! You and everyone else involved in making these videos keep up the great work! I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! Peace ☮️, hugs 🤗 and love 😘!

[@delorescannon455]

Why in Gods name will you allow that monster in law in your 10 year anivesity trip......

[@evelynberrios8164]

You had to take care of your mental health. I’m so surprised you stayed for ten years. I would have ended it after my honeymoon. As for giving your ex visits with his son, nope, no. He has to stay in counseling. If after getting a letter from his therapist he does not pose a danger to his child and would protect him from his mother. I would really think on this. You’ve 10 years of experiences with that family. Look at your innocent baby before you invite that toxicity back in and someone hurts your child. If something were to happen is on you!!! I know is harsh but after 40 years as a Children’s Social Worker, I’ve seen the damage to the children due to thinking that having the father or the mother involved. I’m so sorry, you are strong. That innocent Angel has only you to defend him. Also, absolutely no one has the right to give you unsolicited advice. Rely on your own gut feelings. You are already a wonderful mother. You have become the woman you’ve always wanted to be.

[@stephaniewilson3955]

OP should have sued MIL for her comments and the stalking. The Court should have got them for perjury.

[@rose-marieclarke6206]

I believe that op's husband didn't stick up for her because he believed enough of his own mother's lies to convince himself she was after his money

[@sherrischweigl6860]

Tim should not have let his mother rule his life and unfortunately got what he deserved.

[@delorescannon455]

Ghost and Bounce from that toxic relationship you married a mamas boy.....

[@dustysimpson7864]

Your 2nd honeymoon was your falt. You let MIL go, all you had to do was not pick her up.

[@Zurround]

Then the husband would have been upset. It was a no win situation. I find it odd that the MIL did not go on their FIRST honeymoon with them? That would have made this story EVEN BETTER.

[@mpmansell]

​@@Zurroundso qhat? Thoigh excrement on him. Op should have put her foot down or cancelled the trip and brought divorce into the equation

[@bautistalover]

Exactly she says nothing goes all the way there to pick up her and accepts no responsibility for contributing to the issues. OP didn’t exactly stand up for herself either. She should’ve been telling her MIL to leave instead of asking her husband.

[@charliepumel2854]

She shouldn't have needed to he should have told his own mother off

[@bautistalover]

@@charliepumel2854 yeah she did. She’s an adult with her own mouth. She should’ve said something long time ago before resorting to trying to kill her MIL with her allergy.

[@jeeseys9115]

Isnt it doormat? Not floormat?

[@cynthiaappleton4668]

It really is, NEVER too late.

[@gcarr1089]

Tim didn't care when OP was the one being bullied by his mum but soon as he became the target he finally grows a backbone. Too little too late, hope his next partner is treated better.

[@amberleeannalee1999]

Give it back to her FFS. Nope don’t be spineless

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

Yes he needs to put his mom in her place

[@jackiehenry3372]

Why did OP put up with it for 10 yrs? Yes he is a doormat, but she was constantly enabling him by letting him get away with it. Linda was a fool!!!. Was she afraid of being left alone. No one respects a bully. I'm praying for that baby.

[@nimisilverbird1239]

Nta. Sue her for slander and defamation of character

[@crystaline1093]

You should have left him years before.

[@BlueLine-d6n]

Why in God's name were you married for 10 years if if my in-laws did that we hadn't have made it ten seconds.

[@ricksimundza7125]

Mom needs to be put in her place

[@mwood99]

Why doesn’t OP let Tim see the baby with a monitor? That way baby is safe. Even if MIL wants to see baby, only with a court appointed monitor and OP get a child custody agreement

[@malayshamorgan3918]

"Tim wanted things to go back the way that they were" Yeah back when he could put on his shades, kiss his moms ass and pretend that 🌟EVERYTHINGS FINE 🌟

[@annaluvsbobmarley9130]

Run he’s always gonna take her side

[@josanchez666]

Never have I read about this awful Mother in law. Am glad she finally divorce and removed the abusement.

[@dustysimpson7864]

She is stalking you.

[@cindykirby6245]

I wouldn't have stopped and picked her up. Oooops we forgot to stop darn

[@nimisilverbird1239]

What goes around comes around

[@JackieStults-wg1ko]

Girl your going to be okay

[@raindancer1872]

Sounds like my ex MIL! She even would bring girls around and tell my children that the random girl was going to be their new mom and my daughter from a previous relationship that she would make sure my daughter ended up in foster care. 😮 After I left and divorced my ex the ex MIL came to my door and walked in and threatened me again but fortunately for me I moved in next to my parents and my dad heard the ex in law going off and walked in and told her off. She left and I didn't hear from her until she called me and said she couldn't get a hold of my ex and she wanted me to tell him to call her because her other daughter in law had committed suicide. The idiot ex in law had started meddling in her other sons marriage by bringing one of his ex's around and taking her to dinner and having the son show up. She also convinced her son to divorce his wife and take the girls away. The new girl had 3 sons while her son had 2 girls. The ex in law was in her glory telling the girls mother that she couldn't see them. On the day she killed herself she went to try to pick up and see her daughters and the ex in law told her she couldn't see her daughters without her son and his new girlfriends permission and the best thing she could do for her daughters was to disappear and never see them again. Which by the way was exactly what she used to do to me. The ex in law was riding high with all of the sorrow people were showing for the daughter in laws death that she caused. The saddest part is the new girlfriend attended the wife's funeral and didn't care she was part of the cause of the death.

[@brianward7550]

Okay, seriously? She came along on their honeymoon? Omg! And people think she was wrong to divorce him?

[@kikyrustam2435]

We dont know how she feels until we are in her shoes. I will say goodbye to my husband ASAP if he behaves like that to me.

[@dannjam2515]

I’ve never been treated this way… but I honestly don’t know if it’s bc I don’t allow ppl to treat me like this or if I’ve just been privileged enough not to come across this kind of crazy

[@faraht1250]

Op: I am not a bad person. Me: Erm... You are not exactly a good person either😂. Getting smtg allergic for your evil mil and you don't care she would die part. If she actually did die, you would be now in prison.

[@tyffanypoudrier6610]

Tim was a floor mat but why did op wait so long to do something about it I would told him long ago to shape up or divorce!

[@susanthacker3286]

I loved this

[@mariopierre19]

You did it to yourself by not putting your foot down and telling her to duck off

[@sequoyasierra5671]

Why did Tim wait until after the divorce and the baby to cut his mother off? People don't fundamentally change until the sh!t gets too high. Without OP to run interference between him and his mother he had to take the brunt of her meddling, and he had nothing but time to contemplate where he went wrong. Too little, too late.

[@psrando]

They should have just moved away.

[@c16621]

Every woman needs to research the man’s phrase “tolerable state of permanent unhappiness” and where it originated.

[@shegeek5559]

No Epi? Sorry, if you have serious allergies, you carry your Epi. No excuses And OP never had a great marriage. Not ever.

[@kristinebryant9038]

Tell him to only get married when he mother is dead.

[@lindalanteigne8909]

Her mother in law tried to kill her father at the wedding by putting shell fish in the food. So fair is fair Is fair right.

[@Neyfufu00]

You let her control so much, and you just let her do it. You even said your husband is a pushover and you didn't scold him. Never marry a favorite child or mama's boy or Mama's girl.... Same goes for Uno reverse card

[@ChrisAndCats]

Also deliberately ordering something with peanuts in, especially if the mil didn't have the epipen was really stupid as it could land her with an attempted murder charge.

[@Neyfufu00]

@@ChrisAndCats agreed

[@GenZPhantom]

Tim's dad was a weakling who let some fragile creature control him. I guess his dad taught Tim to be as weak as him

[@mpmansell]

When the mil entered OP's house and threw out her stuff, she should have called the police and had her trespassed and sought a restraining order. She should also have very publicly sued her for defamation and documented the history, publicly. Loudly and publicly. Commenters abusing OP are excrement. Period. She was abused and treated abominably for years, all enabled by her husband. I guess they are just as abusive people

[@helenconnor3714]

Mr. Reddit, the comment is for you. I do follow you. I know the English language has words meaning different things in different places. It just makes me think "not again" and then "calm down" it's OK. Floor mat to me. Is the carpet in your car. Yes it gets dirty, but you generally don't intentionally wipe your feet on it. Door mat, is the mat in front of your house door(s) that you wipe dirty feet on. Please no, I'm not taking offense...just trying to accept this language difference. I do travel across the US and internationally, so am understanding of cultural differences. I just haven't figured out why this rubs me wrong, so I apologize for even momentarily thinking wrong, wrong. Actually laughing at myself at this. I have no intention of trying to change you, you are perfect. Just hoping writing this will stop this stupid thought that is bothering me. Thank you for being you!

[@metalmouth0413]

Sounds like mother-in-law has a simp for a husband, and a manchild for a son.

[@maliciouslogic3740]

Fully support her having sole custody given the circumstance. He was a weak excuse of a husband who let his mother dictate how his marriage would go. That being the case he shouldn't pay child support if she want sole custody. If she want no contact with the father nor dose she not want him to have a relationship at all with the child, let her have sole custody and sole responsibility to raise and care for the child.

[@jayshutman3101]

She says she has no control over her own marriage. He goes from one control freak to another. 😈

[@melaniebellingham5522]

OP was driving on the way to the 10 year anniversary trip. Why the hell did she stop to pick up MIL?

[@animesenpai1163]

Tim is not just a floor mat but an NYC sidewalk.

[@jefferypowell9885]

Make sure to tell your boy that Grandma is a witch

[@dueldr]

Seriously.. she put up with that crap for 10 years. What an awful waste of a decade.