“Toxic Shame” - How to heal and break the cycle

[@JemVeda]

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[@chowell1451]

So true. My covert narc dad gave me cptsd but I never even realized because he was so good at manipulating and gaslighting my young malleable brain. I mainly have dealt with toxic shame, echoism and covert narcissism. My whole childhood I was stressed out but I never even realized until a couple months ago and I’m almost 20 now. I’m grateful I’m still young, so many kids throw their lives away cause they’re just misguided. I will say the trauma gave me lots of wisdom though.

[@MohammadIbrahim-cq4ew]

Omg, this video is so important to me because nearly all of those things I have had. Single parented Neglected Mistreated by family Shame Depression I am genuinely on the brink of tears.

[@FairnessIsTheAnswer]

At 5:30 the distinction is made between doing something stupid and being stupid. The assertion is made that doing something stupid doesn't make you stupid. We are not perfect and can make mistakes. It is a logical fallacy to think that doing something stupid is the same as being stupid. One act of stupidity does not logically prove that a person is stupid. Detecting logical fallacies can be helpful to gain understanding and clarity. Understanding what causes something and what does not cause something can help us predict consequences, and predicting consequences can benefit us. People commit logical fallacies very often, with detrimental effects. When Jem Veda realized that doing something stupid doesn't mean you are stupid, he discovered a logical fallacy. Logic matters

[@JemVeda]

Well said

[@psychedelicartistry]

I've recognized, now that I've overcome most physical addictions (Like substances), my emotional addictions. Validation and anxiety/negativity are two big ones. Splitting is a term used for ppl with BPD. It's one of the symptoms. I use DBT skills to address it. I'm starting to focus on emotional addictions now, though. Great videos, man!

[@dayamitrasaraswati6276]

There is a lot of toxic shame that is being forced onto society today. I think it's important to resist the mainstream and develop a good self image.

[@user-xn9iz4bh2o]

Thank you GOD for this video and thank you too. Verbal abuse, It was always my fault and I was always told I can't do that. But was never told Why I can't do it. No matter how many times I ask Why not? Those Wounds Have totally shaped my interaction with people.I see that now even more so with this video and again thank you.

[@JemVeda]

Glad it was valuable for you 💪🏿

[@Brahmana8]

This content is leading Me into the depths of My darkest reflection! EyE really appreciate this breakdown😌

[@Ultralined]

I was scared to watch this because I guess i made shame my companion. I'm glad to say I watched this from start to end and it's time to let go❤️❤️ thanks for this, definitely watching it again.

[@mbuso6208]

Thank you for the content. I always feel a weight off my shoulders after watching your material.

[@clark9369]

I love JEM VEDA, a life teacher

[@FairnessIsTheAnswer]

A distinction should be made between what is just and what is unjust. Is the feeling of shame that any one of us feels justified or not? Whether it's justified or not is a critical determination. If it is logically determined that the shaming is unjustified, then the person who is unfairly being shamed needs to realize that they don't deserve to feel that shame. We need to know what is fair and unfair, justified and not justified. That needs to be understood before a determination is made as to whether the shame is justified or not.

[@JemVeda]

Great point!

[@Laurencita]

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience with us. I am grateful for people like you who live to help others heal. I am grateful you exist.

[@JemVeda]

Thank you, that means a lot 💜

[@franksimmons9242]

Another possibility A person might refuse to give up on something that is never going to work and might even be bad for our health. Like eating peanuts, if you are allergic to them or drinking alcohol, if you are allergic to it. It's a challenge to discover our personal limits. in spite of what people may say or think It could be the same with how much money we do or don't have. Nothing to do with if we have enough. To prove a point to some unreasonable source.

[@kj5250]

Love your perspectives ❤

[@JemVeda]

Thank you 🙏🏿

[@numinous2506]

I'm guilty of this. I'm ashamed I didn't see this sooner.

[@JemVeda]

We all have to start somewhere

[@DONTMlNDTHIS]

Hey I dig these videos, keep it up!

[@JemVeda]

More to come!

[@celinhamaui2023]

ThankYou!

[@MrDopeContent]

Dope Content Jem 🤘😎💯💧 Still here bro, thanks for the Life Alpha

[@JemVeda]

I really appreciate the support :)

[@Aeond]

Thank you

[@JemVeda]

Thanks for watching!

[@gkhfbnhfvng]

Nice 👏🎉

[@JemVeda]

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[@fushmonttor]

Goodmorning

[@JemVeda]

Morning!

[@Tony-jn2rf]

First one here🎉

[@JemVeda]

Yupp!

[@Mr.CreamCheese69]

I have heart issues now due to this, as well as full blown terror attacks that have me faint. I can never catch my breath and I'm always squirming, is as if my nervous system is in agony

[@jonathanlefkowitz3515]

Hey, I feel you. Try somatic therapy, it relaxes the nervous system.

[@Mr.CreamCheese69]

@jonathanlefkowitz3515 I can't even relax enough to do that, it's sheer panic, I'm thinking of going to the er/psych

[@Mr.CreamCheese69]

@jonathanlefkowitz3515 it's true frantic terror, I'm rolling around screaming/groaning, shitting myself and puking.

[@Mr.CreamCheese69]

@@jonathanlefkowitz3515 I also have only eaten 1 or 2 small.meals in the past 2 weeks. I can't keep anything down

[@Mr.CreamCheese69]

@ranc1977 what scares me is, ide have a radical negative image of myself in my head, and then others would confirm it without me even saying so. People glance at me and think "what a retarded degenerate, he's never going to learn anything of the world, fuck you off a cliff bud you're lucky you were born at all" or "all you do is yap yap yap, you never have anything worth listening to to say". Ide levit tell people something basic, they'd go "yea yeah whatever" and someone else would say the same thing, ans they would brighten up and 3ntertain it. "Hey there's a great burger place doen the street" "yeah yeah shut the fuck up I'm not listening to you" someone else 5 min later would suggest the same burger place and they'd go "ooh awesome! Wish we knew that earlier!" Like fuck.... people.... to hell..