"TRADWIFE" MYTHS

[@NadiaPink]

Girl preach, I tried to work fulltime and take care of our home etc. and it burned me out and I asked my husband to work part time and life got so much joyful and peaceful for me. People made me feel bad because we don’t have children. And I feel like especially as a ethnic woman people treated me like I was entitled or lazy. And I am super busy. I make our place a home. And I take pride into providing that. I wish I had the energy to do it ALL trust me I wish I did. But right now I just don’t see me doing that.

[@CynthiaL]

I’m so sorry you got that treatment!! It sounds like you have a really good set up, people are probably just jealous.💛

[@alyciaosante5492]

You are not alone. I have one kid in school, And I work part Time. I feel you’ you’re awesome

[@ebbys]

Giirl the amount of backlash I got is unbelievable.. I got married 4months ago and started as a housewife right away. I’m relaunching my channel in english in wich I will be sharing more about the black-housewife life soon

[@NadiaPink]

@@ebbys Hate to say it I think they are just jealous.

[@JmGmail]

So your husband now works part time and helps you out?

[@MrsMidwest]

Love this so much. I’m proud of you and you are glowing with your new baby!! ❤❤❤

[@CynthiaL]

Thanks girl, your support means a lot💛💛

[@Cozy.Ghostess]

Don't even get me started on our country's attack on SAHM'S and moms in general, honestly. And most female dominated work fields(like nursing) while we're on the topic. Basically, it's just a bad time to be a woman here at all, but they keep claiming we're their top priority. Such a joke. Thank you for bringing it up. Not enough people are talking about it.

[@monicalong1371]

I can relate so much with what you said, both as a sahm/housewife and a nurse. I remember attending a party once with a good friend who is a paralegal, and us being asked in a patronizing way by a self proclaimed feminist, "Why do women become nurses and paralegals and not doctors and lawyers?" Geez, what a way to attack our professions!

[@Cozy.Ghostess]

@monicalong1371 Meanwhile you are both doing the jobs that keep those systems from falling apart!

[@gemsandpearlswithlove]

Yess!!! This is awesome Cynthia!! 👏🏽Thank you so much for speaking about these myths. As a black traditional/biblical wife myself, I know that myself and many others do not fit the image that is put out there for a "tradwife" I think it's great for us to let those who are truly curious and want to learn more know what is in fact a myth! Thank you so much for this!!💕🌸

[@CynthiaL]

Thanks dear friend💛💛

[@LilithCain]

One myth that drives me crazy.... stay at home, homesteading wives are right-wing Christians. Not at all true. I think the center, and left of center just don't talk about it as much. We also don't speak about our religion (or lack thereof) like our Christian counterparts do. I believe there's a seat for everyone at this increasingly large table 💙

[@paigecochran6071]

This!!!

[@SarahRyz]

Yes! I’m more centre right and not particularly religious but my husband and I have a traditional family life.

[@CynthiaL]

This is a good point

[@LilithCain]

We have a small farm, and over the last 3 years, I've been amazed by the diversity of homesteading women that visit for birds or eggs! We often end up chatting for a long time about what brought us to this lifestyle, and it's never a cookie cutter answer. These wonderful women are all races, different political and religious backgrounds, and even some in polyamorous relationships. The one this we all have in common is the love for our families and wanting a "simpler", self-sufficient lifestyle

[@seradeanmcforston]

Me too! I'm pagan, but I'm also a traditional, stay at home wife/mom who is working on growing our own food and who homeschools the children.

[@Chelseamayhew42]

I finally had time to watch this! I agree with all of this! My husband also has wanted me to do what makes me happy. When dating i told him i wanted to be a housewife/homemaker and he was totally fine with it and encouraged it, unlike the former guys i had dated who wanted more of the 50/50 bossbabe woman. I will of course share how being a homemaker is great, but i also celebrate those women who want to have a career.

[@banuschka]

Thank you for this video. 💞 I’m 16 years old and already 100% sure that I want to have kids and stay at home after I finished my school, but literally no one in my age is thinking the same way because society (especially here in Germany ) is trying to make all of us work instead of investing in a stable family where both (husband and wife) know what value they bring into the relationship. They think that not working means that you don’t become the best version of yourself and don’t use all the potential that you have, when it’s not like that at all. I got so many hobbies and interests that I pursue everyday and I can create so many nice things on my own. Actually, I get most motivated and productive when I am at home, all by myself. But what’s missing is a masculine, hard working man who will know his job and appreciate my motherhood.

[@lizzylizzy4617]

Hey :) schön, hier noch jemanden aus Deutschland zu sehen! Ich bin 17 und sehe das genauso wie du. Mein größter Wunsch ist es, einmal selbst eine glückliche, traditionelle Familie zu haben. Ich kenne kaum jemanden, der die gleichen Einstellungen zu dem Thema hat. Total schade, dass es heutzutage eigentlich nur noch akzeptiert wird, wenn man als Frau Karriere machen will… Ich hoffe für dich, du findest jemanden, der deine Lebensziele teilt und mit dem du das Leben aufbauen kannst, dass du dir wünschst 💞

[@banuschka]

@@lizzylizzy4617 Dankeschön 💞 dasselbe wünsche ich dir auch!! Kennst du noch mehr KZbinr, die so content wie sie machen? Ich schaue sowas richtig gerne an, aber kenne nicht soo viele.

[@Laura-pd5es]

Please, consider looking for a German white man, don't contribute to the kalergi 's plan 🙏🏻

[@thymeandtenderness]

Omg there are so many misconceptions. I’m exhausted by it and I stopped using the TradWife tags. But I’m ready to start using it again because all these myths are annoying!!! Not to mention the journalists pick and choose who they talk to when it comes to the TradWife niche.

[@CynthiaL]

Exactly how I feel about it all too!

[@anr8507]

Personnaly I started not long ago to care only about the life that I share with my husband , I am just too tired to always explain why i don't work lol 😀

[@Laura-pd5es]

What's happened with you people? I mean, like many people believe that Internet is a real thing and it's not. Obviously a trend will be bad because okay, it's a trend. Something that's from Tiktok is something to distract the masses, common sense please.

[@thymeandtenderness]

@@Laura-pd5es I'm confused by your statement of “what happened go you people” as online content creators we exist in what’s known as niches. We use tags, keywords, and hashtags to help reach our target audience. The tradwife niche has been around long before TikTok and isn't a “trend” but rather a lifestyle niche and content niche. This became a controversy in 2020 when Alena Petitte of The Darling Academy of interviewed by the BBC. In that interview she said TradWife for the first time, shortly after a second journalist “uncovered the truth” and wrote an awful article linking the online niche to an altright subreddit. And it snowballed from there. Was this altright subreddit using the term TradWife? Yes. But most of the online creators who were using it at the time had no idea the subreddit existed nor hold those abhorrent beliefs. Because of the backlash, many stopped using the tag.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

Thank you for clearing up the misconceptions/stereotypes of our lifestyle. I'm a homemaker who doesn't have children yet, and the negativity/bullying got so bad around me that I had to cut off a few friends and family members...they were all women. This online taunting seems to be coming from mostly women too... the same women who claim they're vouching for women to do "whatever makes them happy"; what if being a housewife makes me happy? Some people will never understand the purpose, fulfillment, and peace of being a traditional wife no matter how much you explain to them because they're dedicated to misunderstanding you from the start. I wish you continuous joy and harmony in your role and congratulations on your baby!!🎉❤️🙏🏿

[@heathercrawford1870]

Say it again!!!!! Thank you!!!! SAHM of 4 daughters ❤

[@Lilly-ds8sn]

Congratulations on your little princess Cynthia 💖🎀🌸💐🩷 God bless you and your family 💜

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you! We feel so lucky to have her in our family 🥰

[@katieswan7385]

Allie Beth Stuckey recently did a video covering the trad wife movemnt. It also was extremely eye-opening. Itnwas a blessing to hear your baby's little chirps in the background. My baby is almost 4 months old and the time is flying by. I'm genuinely glad to see you glowing. I know you went thru alot. Prayers to you and your family!♡

[@bw3283]

Great topic! I’m a center left housewife (the only one I personally know, which is quite lonely) To be honest, I only feel safe in very few tradwife online spaces, your channel being one of them. I do understand that social media is fed to me in a way to make me feel icky and lonely, and it works, so I try to focus on my authentic values versus fitting into any kind of box. So many online spaces feel politically extreme, talk down on divorced women or single moms (I was both in my early 20’s), or spend way too much time judging feminine men and masculine women. That’s really not how I’m trying to spend the time I have here on earth, comparing myself to others, taking notes on why I’m superior or inferior. I just want to focus on being a better wife and mom everyday, take care of my home from a place of peace and security, and create a space that nurtures my feminine energy because that’s *my* personal calling. IMO, most of the online noise and debates are just another intentional distraction to keep us from being our highest selves.

[@cjax6671]

In February of this year I finally resigned from my job of 10 plus years. At first I was feeling a great sense of purpose taking care of my family but now I feel so discouraged. Everyday I encounter a lot of criticism even from relatives. I am especially being labeled as crazy for leaving my employment to do ''Nothing'' (because keeping my home isn't a real job to them). I even had to stop answering my phone as often because everyone calling is usually doing so to ask me if I'm crazy. My husband keeps telling me it's none of their business so I need to ignore them , but honestly it's very very frustrating. Feeling as if all the enjoyment I had at first is being sucked out of me, and instead, I have to spend my days blocking harsh insults .

[@Roxie1255]

Highly recommend reading Eve in Exile. It has honestly changed my outlook on being a SAHW. People are going to make assumptions regardless. I think the most hurtful is when people say, “ So you sit at home and do nothing?” “ What do YOU do ALL day?”

[@cjax6671]

@Roxie1225 I will definitely give it a read. I honestly don't get how people think keeping a home is doing nothing though. It's a lot.

[@sophiethomas2715]

So glad to see you dissolve these myths. It's such a wonderful blessing to live as a homemaker. Quite happy to see your new video, I just had to click in :) Bless you and your family!

[@MrsRoy-fm3sh]

So I've been a homemaker for 14 years now. My husband and I have 7 children. He works full time, is our provider, protector and also the fun parent. 😂 I take care of the house and the kids and the pets. This is the life I wanted. I chose to be a stay home mom. I knew I could best serve the world by helping and nurturing others. We aren't a religious family though. I'm personally not trying to serve God, it just so happens that I'm doing stuff he likes apparently. 😂 Our kids still get to use technology and video games. We go to the grocery store. it's just like any other family, if a bit bigger, but I just don't get a paycheck 😂

[@shadynail4723]

Still might be good to give god a ring sometime, tell him thanks for the gifts in your life. Ya know?

[@MrsRoy-fm3sh]

I need you to know that this comment spoke to me in the most unexpected way, You were and are so right. I felt it. Its been on my heart to tell you that I believe the Lord moved you to move me. Thank you ❤

[@shadynail4723]

@@MrsRoy-fm3sh glad to hear it, sister.

[@samantha_budhu]

Cynthia, great to see you again. Congratulations on your new addition! 💖

[@pavel0900]

I have a lot of respect for stay at home moms. It is a full time job. Even if you choose not to have kids for whatever reason, being a homemaker (like my wife for example) is totally fine. My home is clean, our dogs are always taken care of. We have traditional roles and enjoy it very much. The attack on nuclear family and traditional values is ridiculous in my opinion.

[@EsteeWilliams]

You nailed this Cynthia! You explained these myths so well ❤

[@CynthiaL]

Thanks girl! I love how bold you are in this movement as well!’💛

[@Redwhitebluegarden]

Yes to all of this, I saw my mom get very depressed, burnt out, a lot of family chaos and broken relationships because of trying to do it all. It left me with a genuine fear of being a stay at home mom and I didn't know what being a stable mom could look like. Thankfully my mom and family are in a much better place, and I want to learn as much as I can so I can reframe in my mind how a happy household works

[@APeacefulPursuit]

LOVE this. You're so right - it's just become the norm. I recently transitioned to being at home full time (though I do work part time flexibly from home in our current season) and I really struggled with exactly this - the weight of feeling like I was doing something wrong was huge even though nobody made me feel that way. It's cultural for sure - and most women seriously can't do it all. Something HAS to give - I always say that. Thank you for this 💕

[@harriet_at_home]

Congratulations to you all! Another great video, thank you. I love your hair and hope you're coping well as a mother of two ✨

[@amandazplace5663]

The important thing to remember is that all forms of social media thrive on extremes. It's causing our society to become extremely polarized in our beliefs. If you don't spend your whole day on social media, you will discover that, in reality, most people are somewhere between 2 extremes in all areas. That's called being mentally balanced. I'm a Christian, but I fully support the right for women to choose homemaking or career or some combination of the two. But, I've had influencers say that I'm sinning because I'm supportive of my daughters going to University & having a career. I find that interesting. It's THEIR choice to make and I want their choices to be between two equally valued options; not that one option is sinful (or wrong) and the other is more righteous or valued. That's not a fair choice, is it? Make your choices based in truth. Make them carefully and try & ignore the "noise" because the noisemakers aren't in your home, helping you raise your kids, look after your home, pay your bills, or care for your marriage. ♥️🇨🇦

[@sarahplife]

Excellent video! Congratulations on the new little one! ❤

[@andreeab7176]

So good to see you back ! Congratulations on your new family addition!❤

[@madmomma5331]

I'm SO happy that you're back! I would have 100% understood if you had decided not to come back, because you always made clear that your family is top priority. But I'm so happy you took a bit of your time for us!

[@orchidswithnina]

Congratulations on the new arrival ❤🎉 And being a mother is hands down the hardest. It takes alot of energy and i think people of lost sight in that.❤

[@magdaa.1210]

Beautifully said, and you look amazing! Congratulations on your 2nd baby and many blessings to you and your family. ❤🕊❤

[@quorrakai]

So happy you are back! You have been missed. Congratulations on the new baby🎉🎉 Great video! I'm not on any social media, I live in the real world ( lol) so I've never heard of the tradwife controversy. I am a housewife, my mum was a housewife. I have two university degrees. But I wouldn't trade being at home for anything. I love it. So does my husband. It was a mutual decision. Don't argue with strangers on the internet, your life is none of their business! And if you have people in real life who are negative about you being at home, you might want to rethink those relationships. I honestly don't care what people do. Work, stay at home, do it all. It is not my life. Doing it all however, is impossible and not anything to strive for. The current agenda and indoctrination of brainwashing women into thinking they need to be a girlboss is ridiculous and honestly, breaking up the family unit. Love these discussions!

[@cindy_h]

So nice to see you Cynthia 😊

[@Offthebeatenpath.]

After having a child and 13 jobs, I agree being a stay at home mom is by far the hardest!

[@tbm.marketing]

As you say, the problem very often is purely economical. I would love so much, to be able to only work at home, but it's unsustainable. It's a very difficult moment in general.

[@justinecurtis1753]

Side note you are making me want to grow out my natural hair colour and stop getting highlights 🥰 yours looks so good!

[@rachelsmith5643]

Congratulations on your baby girl Cynthia! I agree, it's always the bad apples who give a whole movement a bad name. I know I won't fit in with the radical feminists or certain tradwives. I think most women are reasonable people who believe in the choice to be a career woman or stay-at-home, mom no matter how they identify.

[@jamiestanley9234]

I was so excited to see a new video from you! Hope you and baby are doing well 🙂

[@michelletackett9489]

Thank you for doing this video. Tradwife doesn't equel bigot, or we are judgemental. Good lord. Also, good to see you back.

[@daniela.nuness]

Great video, Cynthia! 💕

[@chandler9304]

Well said, Cynthia. You have such a eloquent way of putting words together. It’s really sad to see even Christian’s (just saw Allie stuckey’s recent podcast) bashing trad wives, though, like you said I know there are many bad apples.

[@icthys2024]

I just learned about you as I was looking up what a trad wife was, it was a wiki article. Best wishes to you and your family.

[@valizaroschi6359]

I am happy for you! You are amazing!!!

[@hope3894]

Hi Cynthia! Congratulations on your new baby. What eyeshadow do you wear? Your makeup always looks so lovely ❤

[@gracefulhumble7248]

Aww congratulations Cynthia. You are so articulate

[@Tori-to9jm]

Well said!👏🏼

[@NadiaPink]

I am a semi traditional wife and I love it. But yea I see the weird commentary online and it turns me off. My lifestyle isn’t a game or trend.

[@TheWellNourishedHomemaker]

Well said Cynthia !!!

[@CynthiaL]

Thanks friend💛💛

[@Topaz_Soul]

After having my daughter, i wanted to work at a job just to get outta the house, my husband had my pay to be my own to spend and only asked for my help when we absolutely needed it; but it was a job of my choice, part time but than when covid hit my hrs went down to me making the bare minimum, boss was over hiring, so there was no point in me working, i only got scheduled once a month. During that time i go more into homemaking and enjoyed it, taking care of my little one and than work began to feel like a burden, i didnt look forward to work in the evening, i asked if i could quit cause i feel happier being home, and it did help my husband cause he didnt have to worry about who was watching our daughter when i went to work and he had a late night at work. And he was able to take on more hrs, it works and since we're able to afford it im able to use my free time for my much loved hobbies, he told me he'd rather me be happy and enjoy what i do than to HAVE to work and be burnt out, im so thankful and blessed for my husband always putting our family and happiness first :)

[@hannahcherney5627]

Welcome back!!!!

[@CynthiaL]

Thanks Hannah! 🥰

[@Vic2point0]

Well said! Traditional gender roles and norms are the way to go, but I don't think it should ever be forced (actually forced). It can be promoted in a tactful way though.

[@tanaconnelly6960]

Congratulations!🙏

[@lifeisbeautiful9455]

It’s crazy that you did this, because I was talking about this literally this morning and I feel like these devices are spying on me lol funny but not funny. This is true because I lost my mom 30 years ago because she was doing it all and she was trying to get away from an abusive man and she passed at 39. I lived with a guy when I was very young and no left because I didn’t want to play house and be intimate… i was of legal age but a teen, but he was the only man that took care of me and didn’t ask me about a job or anything. He just wanted me to rest and he wanted to pour into me, he wanted me to be happy, now,… I can’t do that because my own men want me to be ON all the time… There’s no support for anything creative that I want to do… they watch their mother do it all and want women to do it all. Women being bosses is ok but it’s glorified to the point that it’s crazy that if you’re not a party girl or busy 24/7 that something is wrong. I’ve had a few guys just in random conversations as me about what I do for a living and about money. A conversation no one should be asking me about especially since I don’t know you. I find that women in my face we want to stay home, be creative and rest in our feminine energy but our men won’t allow us but they’ll let other races of women do it! It’s a conversation o keep seeing over and over again. This one guy about 9 years ago, when he came across my blog and I was talking about faith, family and music and femininity… he became friends with me because I was so supportive of his creative interest, he just thought that he found a wife and he wind up stalking me and just thought that I was going to wake up everyday and make sure that he had money in his pocket. I lived in a different state at the time and moved. And it’s crazy that he thought everything I am as a woman, that he was gonna get it, just because he had a creative talent 😐 he thought that was enough. I’m tired of me. Asking me about money and expecting for me to do it all and when you have certain conversations with men, you can tell that you’re gonna be home all the time and they expect you to have dinner ready And to perform in bed every night and a clean home and to be at their beckoned call. And it is a race thing with some, sorry to say because when I’ve dated outside my race I don’t get that. They never ask me about money. They take their time, court me, and they see how I am as a woman, before it goes any further and it’s the same with me. They don’t start talking about sex or family and they literally just met me, but with my own race of men… that’s the first thing, even the married ones trying to have an affair.

[@Piromysl359]

Remember how feminism was about allowing women to chose? 😂

[@austinhall3937]

I had a stay at home wife/mom. We have 2 kids together. She decided she wanted to go out get her own money and cheat on me. She's currently miserable, living the life she's always wanted. She recently asked for us to try again and for her to go back to being my stay at home wife. Lol, no thank you.

[@Brambled802]

So, if you don't mind me asking, what do you think about your husband telling you what to wear?

[@treerollingfish]

You're like, the girly, cutsey animegirl equivalent of Jordan Peterson, and I say that with all of the love of a failing artist, lol You're absolutely right, I felt lost and less than but now I feel like there are real life tiny goals I can accomplish every day and still fit a proper role in life. ❤ Thank you so much for existing❤

[@CynthiaL]

This is the most unique compliment I have ever gotten, but I’ll take it lol!💛thanks girl

[@claudia5446]

Please tell me if you apply for a new job and the job inscription says: Cooking Cleaning Kids raising 8-hour job ouside home Super market shopping Would you accept it? I dont think so. But most women do... Thats the trap. Thinking you are super woman.... I stop working when i gad kids and it was the best thing

[@SmokeyJoe876]

In the wayback if hiring, yes I would have accepted that. Anyone who could do that job knows how to work!

[@Lady_Le_Fae]

Congrats on the addition to your family! Great video! I’m a dating coach, and I see more and more men who are looking for a more family, focused woman with more traditional values and relationship style. I also see a lot of my friends having babies and wishing that they had the ability to be a stay at home, mom and not have to balance a career with raising their children. I think this is a very important topic, I know you get a lot of hate for it, thank you so much for putting these videos out there! You inspire a lot of women.

[@CynthiaL]

Thanks so much for commenting your insight! 🙏🩷

[@leofender6622]

Correction... being a stay at home mom is an easy job. Being a good stay at home mom is a very hard job.

[@CynthiaL]

Good point

[@SRC692]

I'm a guy and I love watching these videos to get the perspective of a traditional wife. I just see how modern relationships are and everybody seems so miserable. I want my next relationship to be a traditional one. I hope I can eventually reach that status of being a traditional man 🙏

[@tigercub1998]

The problem with the Trad Wife online movement is that it was largely catalyzed/popularized by a specific poster girl who admitted to having a political agenda and (last I heard) has not apologized for it. I know you're classy enough to not name-and-shame or gossip, but that problem largely won't go away until she is dissociated from the movement. It probably won't happen until the movement dies and then revives under a different catchy name. (It is true that all movements have extremists, but again, this is someone who played a big part in making the movement known, not just someone that happens to be popular)

[@shahidulaleef355]

Smart

[@jamie7002]

I am not religious and I am common-law married for a decade, with 2 toddlers. But I am a political centrist SAHM, simple life/outdoorsy/homestead-y- minded person who likes “feminine” things with a “masculine” husband, and I’m sure people assume we are far-right and/or very religious. I don’t really care if people assume that but it makes me realize how if you share just one characteristic of a stereotype that is enough to stereotype you in many peoples minds lol. The trad-wife aesthetic is something I vibe with and probably do emit to a certain extent but I think further inquiry shows people that we are actually SO different from that stereotype and that the “traditional” stuff really speaks to many women/families and you can’t really encapsulate “trad” people into a particular race, class, etc Edit to add: and as you state so well Cynthia, (also a Canadian here) the “pay-off” or advantage to having two incomes isn’t always there these days. My time is better spent in the home. And I’m not really sad about it.😊

[@alyciaosante5492]

I’m so glad I found your channel

[@mz3735]

Trad wife is a natural choice according to natural law and is not reserved to a specific politics or religion. It is just common sense to choose to be a trad wife, just as it makes sense that dresses and skirts suit women better than pants, and boys prefer to play with building toys and girls with dolls. We choose things based on our biological role. Form follows function, function follows form.

[@bhumil2518]

Hi lady i love your videos,but i think you speak too fast and its a masculine trait.

[@Vic2point0]

How is that? I thought the stereotype of men was that we talked slower and less often.

[@sreyanandhini3944]

She should go back to kitchen and quit her u tube channel because real trad wife's don't state her opinion and don't have self income.. real trad wives are quite, reserved, and shy ..