How to Become a TRADITIONAL WIFE

[@ashirmalik2310]

I'm a young man, and I'm very thankful that woman like this still exist. Once I'm ready I will find my future traditional wife and provide for her and our family.

[@anyamiranda9452]

If only men like this also still existed...

[@ashirmalik2310]

@@anyamiranda9452 they do as I have lots of friends and family that are have similar views.

[@ArielGonzalez1]

@@anyamiranda9452 we do. just the idea of us being the problem and pos have been shoved down our throat for a long time

[@a691-v9y]

@@ashirmalik2310 x

[@ashirmalik2310]

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[@emerie44]

If you are interested in staying home later in marriage (such as when you have kids), I highly recommend living off one income from the very beginning of your marriage! Use the other income as savings or something, but prepare for when you only have one.

[@amandaparrish9128]

Great advice! My husband and I did that. When the children came along, it was a seamless transition for me to stay at home.

[@circesoul2218]

Plus learning skills that you don't have to pay others for, sewing, cooking, baking and budgeting. Even cleaning your house and doing minor repairs when your husbands not home. Learning to create a weeks( or more!) Menu based on what's on sale or what you have on hand. Using leftovers so they don't go to waste. Learning these skills while caring for small children isn't impossible but it is extremely hard.

[@jessicaflo5126]

Wow thats actually the BEST advice. Thank you!!

[@claubit32]

That’s a very wise suggestion.:)

[@CynthiaL]

Great tip!! I forgot to add it but I should have!

[@insightbytes2136]

I'm 45, been a stay at home mom for 20 yrs. Happily married. Husband is a truck driver and makes great money. But we still sacrificed things for ourselves, in favor for the girls. I was made to feel less than around most of my peers. But my girls 20 &17 are both doing great! Oldest is going to nursing school, has a long term bf, lives in her own and works at a nursing home. Solid foundation Leads to solid humans.

[@balerion77]

That's great, Nice to see someone sticking with the husband and working as a Unit. Also, If she's gonna be a Nurse soon, Please Beware of the Environment and Nurse Friends she keeps. Cheating is encouraged and is rampant in the Nurses. Almost every male In the hospital environment warns about it. Hundreds of men /BFs/ husbands write to Men's chanels how they were destroyed and betrayed by their Nurse Spouses/GFs . I hope she makes the right choices and is the exception to the rule.

[@ashledashnaw2575]

I'm 30 and been a stay at home mom for 6 years, my husband is also a truck driver. We also have sacrificed many things for ourselves. Unfortunately my husband's job doesn't pay well at all, he's looking for a different truck company that may be able to pay him more. His main issue is the hours and the pay, sometimes he's on the road all week and barely gets paid anything, sometimes he's not working at all because there isn't any loads to pick up which then means there is no pay at all. We have 3 kids (mine, his, and ours). His daughter is an adult with a baby of her own that comes over often. And my sister lives with us and she's new to the adult life and still needs me to help her. So I'm constantly running around doing kids stuff. We tried me working outside the home and it helped financially a bit until I got laid off, but the house went to shambles because I was barely home. We have found it's best that I'm at home for the sake of the kids and the house, but hurts us financially.

[@carrieprivette3032]

Something I did to make sure my husband was happy day to day is I asked him what three things at home bother him the MOST when they're NOT done. Dishes, and running out of clean clothes/socks. He didn't even have a third one. Now I do those first, every day and he acts like I hung the moon for him, even if I'm not able to do anything else. I can see that the floors need vacuuming and bathrooms need cleaning, but doing what makes him feel the most comfortable makes us both happy. :)

[@jmr8265]

This is such a good idea! I want to be a homemaker and homeschooling mom, and I was worried about the "work load," so I asked my boyfriend a similar question. He said having dinner ready (or almost ready) when he comes home from work. We are trying to figure out finances and such for when we get married, and I made a sample meal plan for a month to help in prepping for budgeting and also meal planning. I found it to be such a great exercise!

[@CynthiaL]

This is great!! Love this tip. I’ve done this too and was surprised my husband prioritized things that I did not (for ex. Laundry and having a bunch of ready snacks available).

[@gaby5546]

Ooh that's a really good tip!!! Thank you so much, I didn't think of that, I could definitely use that in the future! That'll definitely help me prioritize and help keep us both happy, especially on the days I'm tired or not feeling well.

[@gaby5546]

@@jmr8265 Ooh I also want to be a homemaker and homeschooling mom! I'd like to do it in a holistic way too, I think that'd be fun!

[@Abmarp]

Love it

[@mrs.ana93]

In my old job before I became a homemaker I was a maid. It's interesting how someone could say I am lazy or wasting my life away by taking care of my own home, but if I work myself to exhaustion cleaning and taking care of other peoples homes then all of a sudden my life has more purpose. I am grateful that my husband and I are on the same page of living a more traditional lifestyle! It's much less mentally taxing and I am truly happier. The workforce was not for me.

[@bunny_0288]

Haha this is the point I make all the time. If a woman is a maid or child care worker or cook no one would ever say she was lazy or didn't work. But apparently doing the same thing for someone else counts as work, but not doing it for your own family. It makes no sense 😂

[@mrs.ana93]

@@bunny_0288 Exactly!! And this year I am starting a vegetable and fruit garden. So soon I will be providing food for my family! I might even be able to sell things at a farmers market some day if I felt like it. But right now my focus is still on my family! Also I’m going to homeschool too! So add in “teacher” to the list of things we do for free lol!

[@bunny_0288]

@@mrs.ana93 That's amazing! I've been dying to start a vegetable garden, but I've been busy with some home renovation projects. If I am ever able to have children, I plan to homeschool as well, so that's a great point! Man I wish it was easier to find like-minded people like you in the real world. ❤❤❤

[@eddie9420]

I'm 19 and I'm already burned out from the work force. 💀 I find home making and stuff to be so much better.

[@circesoul2218]

You can get burnt out from being a homemaker also. It's never ending work.

[@eddie9420]

@@circesoul2218 I can see how it can burn someone out. So far I haven't been burned out from it. ^^

[@xmochix604]

I worked when i was young and I never once liked working even in the field i thought I would love. I got burnt out and I hated ALL of it. SOmetimes I think about working again, but remember how much I hated everything. So I am grateful to be at home for 17 years and nope I do not get burnt out. You actually enjoy it.

[@louisetooze6076]

I love being a homeaker but I have also worked around my family by working from home looking after working mums children, playmate for my child and earning a little to.

[@salmiakki7652]

20 and also burned out, I'm being forced to be in the workforce by society and I'm done being what I don't want to be

[@melilifabulosa5505]

After so many years as a professional woman, my traditionally raised husband has nervously given support for me to work part time to be more with family and create the home environment I've always wanted. I'm so excited!

[@xmochix604]

what an amazing man you have! Have a blessed family, create that beautiful family and home.

[@CynthiaL]

Awh congrats!!

[@AC-mp7cx]

that professional life takes a toll on all

[@stephanieandersen462]

Wow you just blew my mind when you said being a housewife is a CAREER! I myself am transitioning and have fallen victim to the world’s viewpoint of cooking/cleaning is very simple… It. Is. Not. Simple! One of the best/practical videos yet Cynthia. Thank you so much for this fresh (epiphany like) statement! It is truly a blessing that I really needed to hear. May God bless you ❤️

[@CynthiaL]

It definitely helps to think of it as a career! I’m so glad you liked the video ☺️💛

[@itsacarolbthing5221]

I realise that this lifestyle would have likely been right for me. However, I'm now 53, not married and no children, so it's too late for me. If this is the life for you, go for it. Ignore the haters.

[@gigibeah524]

I don’t believe in “too late”! Yes it’s not conventional at 53, but you’d be surprised how many people get married and start families at 50,60 years old. If it’s something you truly desire you shouldn’t give up ❤️

[@CynthiaL]

It’s never too late 💛. There’s an older homemaker online (I think her name is “coffee with Kate”) and she has shared her story about becoming a homemaker later in life

[@summerrose4286]

Oh it's not too late. My grandmother was a homemaker her entire life and my friend adopted 4 siblings at 52.

[@MsSimsima22]

It's a Carol B thing it's never too late 💗 the beauty of your heart will always be shining when you are truly feminine, so go for it 🥰

[@idkwhatsmynamelol9281]

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[@amandaneumann5452]

Preach!!!! I knew back in 1994 when I got married that I wanted to be a stay at home housewife/mom and my husband and I agreed to our lifestyle choice. Boy oh boy have I gotten flack for that decision over the years. I really went against the flow on that!! I LOVE this video, SO validating for me!! Thank you!!

[@AC-mp7cx]

being a traditional wife is much more than just about staying at home

[@HabitsofaHomemaker]

Cynthia, this was such a great video…filled with so much wisdom and helpful tips🌸. I’m so grateful to be married to a traditional, God honoring husband who makes it easy for me to flourish in my role as a housewife/homemaker and mother. Sadly, we have encountered couples where the wife is overwhelmed and desiring to stay home but the husband feels it’s her duty to work outside of the home, and isn’t even open to her staying home. Even after having children. This video definitely made me appreciate my husband even more. ❤️Thank you for sharing such valuable information. I’m sure it will help many 😊. You also sparked some video ideas in my brain. Lol. Have a wonderful day, beautiful! You are carrying this pregnancy so well 🥰🌸.

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you!! 😍 You are definitely lucky to be able to have that family dynamic! ☺️ also, yay, we need more women talking about these same topics because everyone has their own unique points to add on! 🤩

[@elenavalentina4608]

I'm 21 years old and I feel blessed for content like this. Thank you Cynthia! I still think I'll work part time or as a freelancer, but I absolutely agree with you. Women are now expected to work both outside and inside the house, but also to always look impeccable and cultivate their femininity. My mother used to take care of all the house chores even though she worked just as much as my father. She had a burnout and they went through a very bad divorce. He wouldn't even agree on getting a maid at least once a week once my mother had my sister and me. So she would take us children to kindergarten or to our grandparents', go to work, get home, cook dinner and clean the house. My father would do the bare minimum and still complained when she basically lost it and found himself another woman. He's a great father and I love him so much, but I will never ever want a husband like this.

[@jliA7]

Hugs, I feel you 😔 Sounds exactly the same as my parents.

[@elenavalentina4608]

@@jliA7 I feel you sis. I'm sure things will work out completely different for us 😊

[@anakarina1011]

Ugh my parents aren’t divorced but my Mom does everything and has to work...so sad.

[@jmr8265]

Similar to my parents, and I'm so sorry you had to experience the divorce of your parents. It was the hardest thing for me. If you are in the dating world, definitely make it clear from the beginning that your goal is to be a homemaker. My boyfriend is so supportive of me in this, and whenever issues come up at work in the office, he always tells me how excited he is for the day when I don't have to work outside the home. I think women do need "professional" skills because we need to be able to take care of our kids should our husbands die suddenly. But also telling a man from the get-go can be really good (and many men do desire a homemaker!)

[@CynthiaL]

I’m so sorry your mother went through that. So many women are suffering and burning out 😢

[@michelletackett9489]

Being a traditional wife is a great thing. A lot of younger women are very interested in it. Also, I think people think of the 50s bigotry which keeps some women from wanting to be a traditional women. That isn't what it is. It means that home and family are our main priorities.

[@andreaa.1393]

Yes exactly

[@michelletackett9489]

@@andreaa.1393 People have such a misconception about why we want to do this.

[@elenavalentina4608]

What would you say is the key to being a good feminine wife and mother in your experience?

[@michelletackett9489]

@@elenavalentina4608 Being kind, loving, accepting, listening, taking care of your family and yourself.

[@jackwalker1822]

As a whole, I believe that "oppressed" 1950's housewives were many times more happy than today's empowered "free to do whatever they think they want" women. In a large part because they were not fighting against nature itself.

[@beautyofdawn9565]

I'm praying that I can find a man who will agree to being the sole breadwinner. Please, ladies, if you pray let's pray for husbands that value the traditional housewife!

[@nethanialal5619]

Yeah and when he dies you and your kids are gonna be are on the streets. It's important to be self-sufficient whether you are a man or a woman.

[@beautyofdawn9565]

@@nethanialal5619 A lot of men have wills to take care of their wife and children. And if I were a traditional housewife, I'd still probably have a side hustle while kids are in school. A person can value traditional roles while also planning for the future. I'm still praying for a husband that values traditional housewives.

[@iamgamer884]

@@beautyofdawn9565 your prayer is heard i am as god i granted you with your dream husband very soon

[@SanctifiedLady]

✔️ done and he is on the way

[@beautyofdawn9565]

@@SanctifiedLady Thank you!!!!!

[@andreaa.1393]

Thank you for this ❤️❤️traditional wives are amazing. I'm hoping to be one in the near future.

[@CynthiaL]

I hope this helps and I’m definitely hoping you can live your dream! ☺️💛

[@andreaa.1393]

@@CynthiaL awe thanks ❤️god bless

[@gaby5546]

Same here! All the best

[@Alex-hj1vk]

Loll I think the "pick mes" are the women who play housewife while still working, especially before they're even married to the man. The women who fulfill their own role while their man does not fulfill his. Great video🥰🌺

[@whatever7588]

That’s exactly what it is 💯 big difference.

[@DjKiller_B]

Pick me is a woman who puts down other women to seem cool for me. ..........

[@AC-mp7cx]

i dont think that woman is a pickme

[@mikhailboldt3417]

Quickest way to be a traditional wife: be exactly like Cynthia and you are all the way there :) you’re an amazing role model Cynthia and always with such incredible class. You really do carry yourself like a high society person but with the grace and kind heart of a regular person. God Bless you for giving young people something to aspire to as they seek fo honor the Lord and live lives that honor Him! We love you!

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you 🥺💛! I’m definitely trying to improve everyday, but I’m so happy that these videos help motivate people! Sending you lots of love!

[@sharon6981]

Even though you don’t make enough money from KZbin for you to consider this a job, I am so thankful you’ve taken up this hobby and continue to share your knowledge and experience with us. You help me further my journey as a homemaker and I just wanted to say thank you!!

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you! 💛 as long as you all keep watching I’ll be here lol

[@gaby5546]

Yes, I second that! SO grateful for Cynthia's support on this channel, I always come here when I start to feel discouraged or insecure about becoming a homemaker and wanting to be a traditional wife. It's so comforting

[@amberf8487]

Im a new sahm and "housewife" and i feel like im struggking so much because my whole life i wanted to be a traditional house wife and take care of my hubby and children but then its like social media gives me kinda like a mental battle. Like i cant be mad at what i wanted and doing but people posting on the interent and then "independent women" in my family try and call it abuse and not good for my mental health when in actuality ignoring them and everyone else has helped me and my relationship as well as being a mother. This video made me feel so much better that im not actually going crazy or doing something wrong when its not! ❤️

[@CynthiaL]

I’m so sorry you’re going through that kind of treatment from family and friends. Keep coming to these places and building your self esteem around the decision you have made. You are the one who has to live this life at the end of the day💛

[@jl7294]

When I started feeling like that, I got away from social media completely. Problem fixed 😊

[@jasmine_milkyflower]

I would also add that working experience before homemaking can be very beneficial for your productivity and for having an even better perspective on homemaking especially if you work "femenine" type of jobs. I worked as a teacher for elderly people and it helped me so much with my communication skills. After that I worked in a coffeeshop and I couldn't believe how much effort it is put behind it. It made me realize if I can do so much for strangers then i can do the same or even better for my family cause I d care even more! It made me undergo a lot of stressful moments but at the end of the day it felt like "wow I can make so many coffees/food in a day and clean so much and be kind to so many people in a day! I'm looking forward to have kids and be like that with them in my house! If I can do it in a job I definitely can do it better in my house!"

[@amandazplace5663]

Wow, Cynthia, you really covered this topic so well!👏👏 Your generation of homemakers is so fortunate to have like-minded women on the internet to support each other. I definitely had some lonely years, full of doubts around my choice to be a homemaker. I don't regret it. I can honestly see the fruits of those hard years now. The most important ingredient is a supportive husband.♥️

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you Amanda! I was really looking forward to putting out this video, so I’m happy it was well received ☺️

[@gaby5546]

Aw I agree 100%, the like-minded community helps me a lot when I start to feel insecure about my lifestyle choice sometimes too, it helps encourage me once again. I'm glad you have a supportive husband as well, I think their support is the only one that matters, and it deserves so much appreciation!

[@muvachi]

Just found your channel and I’m in love! I am a traditional wife and so wish this was pushed more in today’s society

[@Amber-ksr]

I work part time as a teacher cause I really love teaching, meanwhile my little boy is with my mom and dad :) it’s not many hours a week and I love it. I still feel like I put my family at the centre and I love taking care of my home 🏡 thanks for saying that there is not just one way to be a traditional wife :)

[@CynthiaL]

Love how that balance works well for you! ☺️

[@summerrose4286]

My mom balanced work and home once my youngest brother was in school and was very traditional. It was great practice for me as I was very responsible for the house.

[@YhelloWish]

I'm a guy. I watched tons of Redpill contents and improving my life, keep grinding my goal, I'm glad that accidently discovered your channel, I'm grateful that traditional women community still exist, good work and keep uploading :)

[@iwillgowiththatcat8667]

All I can say is Please be careful in what you take from the redpill community bc a lot of it is less “help men,create a positive uplifting movement and environment for men” but more about let’s focus more about “let’s bash women and create generalizations and create more negativity then necessary” if you get what I mean.always make sure to get therapy and socialize with all sorts of people while still maintaining a healthy lifestyle.women are a monolith.I wish the best for you 💕💕💕

[@aniket04b]

My Red Pill Brother ... Hi fi 👋

[@janicenm9147]

Red pill movement are against marriage

[@quorrakai]

New subscriber! I love your channel! I've always been a traditional girl. My mum was a stay at home mum and it was so beneficial. I am one now, although more of a homemaker since my hubby and I don't have kids, just a furry baby. My husband loves having me at home. He works the 9-5 type corporate job and I love being at home. I have two university degrees but never used them due to illness. I don't have any social media so I'm not exposed to any of the negative SJW types or trolls. I don't care what society thinks about my role as a homemaker. I live like I did pre social media. Living my life with my husband and family. I don't care what random strangers on the internet think. Ladies, if you want to stay home and live a more traditional role, do it. It's wonderful. 😊 I honestly could give a crap if it's accepted or not. And I think this is just in the small toxic echo chamber of social media. In real life, I don't encounter any problems. We need more channels like yours! Really enjoying and support the content!!

[@CynthiaL]

Love to hear how confident you are as a homemaker! We need more women like you!

[@quorrakai]

@@CynthiaL Thank you! ❤️ I'm a generation one up from you so I grew up in a different time. I'm pretty much living my life like I did before social media. In real life, I honestly don't encounter any toxic attitudes towards what I do. Or at least they won't say anything to my face lol. Social media reality is completely different from real life reality. If more people deleted it, they would find life is so much more positive and peaceful. Don't ever let a cowardly keyboard warrior take your confidence or judge you. My best advice, is seriously not giving a crap and living your life. 😊😊. Will be watching your new video on a coffee break later today!

[@elliedaisy1799]

You have a wonderful glow Cynthia!Your little baby is so lucky to be coming into the world with a feminine homemaking mum like you! I can't wait to join you on the same life path! 💕

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you! 😍 it’s such an amazing time!

[@0iron0maiden]

These are some great practical tips for a newlywed who wants to live a more traditional lifestyle! I know you talk about this on your channel, but the hate is real toward more traditional women (especially housewives who don't have children for one reason or another.) I've noticed even on Reddit threads, women who want to stay home are called lazy and leeches. I've had a little bit of confusion around my desire to work part time so I can stay home and help my husband who works full time and is in school full time. I notice the people who judge me tend to be very progressive, like they don't know any other way. I'm still at the beginning stages of home making as I just got married, but so far so good!

[@CynthiaL]

This is true! I have a love/hate relationship with Reddit lol. People can be extremely supportive yet also cruel on there

[@Pumpkinpie1980]

I am so glad I found you. My husband and I get chastised for being a more traditional lifestyle. He prefers me at home cooking ect.. which I very much enjoy. Our families have not supported this choice of ours. Happy I still have fellow sisters in this world. I make a small supplement income off poshmarkcanada and Etsy designing jewelry. I used to work as a paralegal when we first met. It was burning me out so bad it was making me sick

[@Parfumchloe]

My higher self brought me to this video, because I am tired of working! I've always desire to be a kept wife and mother. Thank you for being brave enough to share your thoughts on this. If I could quit my job yesterday, I will lol. My time is coming.

[@1queenruler]

I’m glad you brought up the mindset aspect. As a former executive that went homemaker in my late 20’s it was find for quite sometime having frequently seeing other women in the same position due to our children growing up. Events, activities etc you’re constantly busy however when the children grow up that all slips away. If you didn’t go to college and therefore so don’t have a thriving “side hustle” you can maybe then venture in or have changed completely with what you enjoy this is a perfect time to start learning even at home. Late to the party but have developed this for myself in the online journey I developed new skills by doing online courses (not college courses but others) in areas I enjoy, Skillshare to also learn better tech skills or creating, speaking etc and numerous others some as long as 6-12 month training courses online. Thank you for the video Content Cynthia~we can all learn, no matter what age you are!! 💕 🙏🏻 👸🏼

[@CynthiaL]

Definitely agree! ☺️💛

[@packnetadaija]

This is such a great video, I have been living for your videos and being a traditional woman and an shm, these tips have really helped me with that :). I hate the whole thing of "pick me" as well when it is really being overused just like how if a guy does anything nice for a girl they get called "simp" people love to throw insults at people as a way to almost shut them down to make themselves feel better, it's like yes there's nothing wrong with wanting to be a catch. Also, I do wanna say too that for young women when they see housewives they usually see the "real" housewives and things like that, but if your gonna sit down and talk to your husband about being a housewife, homemaker, or stay home mom then you need to have a clear conversation about what roles you're going to be doing like if your gonna be a housewife there is a certain aspect of expectations that are expected. Like if your man is gonna be out and working and providing then it should be expected that the home will at least be tidy(I'm not saying spotless, but at least tidy), not just sitting down all day on social media and letting the house get messy. Idk that was just something I thought about when my bf and I talked about me wanting to be a stay home mom. I also agree with you Cynthia about maybe finding ways to supplement income at home, like being a KZbinr, or having an Etsy shop or even you can substitute teach part-time and you don't even need to have a teaching degree to be a sub. Great video as usual and you look amazing

[@CynthiaL]

Definitely good points! Also yes, because we want to be productive at home or else resentment might grow in the relationship for example. Having clear expectations is so important and revisiting those helps too!

[@itsmrsmaria0611]

This was such an amazing video! Thank you Cynthia. 🥰 I'm currently not working because my previous workplace made me depressed and anxious so much that I had to take medications. And as soon I quit my job I got pregnant after 5 months of trying. I'll probably go back to work from home or part-time when my baby turns one, but it's so wonderful to have a husband that understands me and supports my decision to focus more on our growing family.

[@CynthiaL]

It’s definitely nice to hear that you have the flexibility of a great husband and can choose when to work and work part time ☺️

[@the6ixman416]

Great video! Too many young people today love labeling other girls as "pick me." So foolish because even men have to level up in self improvement when trying to attract a good lady for marriage. The immaturity in today's generation is nauseating.

[@bethanyostrom8796]

Great points! I really enjoyed this video. I'm a young woman in my 20's, and expecting my second kid, and personally, I find being a stay at home mom to be so fulfilling and rewarding. I'm thankful that my husband and I are in 100% agreement that it's the healthiest thing for our family. Yes, it annoys me how in movies (like the new Mulan), where it's portrayed as SUCH a negative thing that her parents want her to marry someday and Gasp! Be a good mother. The parents are portrayed as out of touch and having this archaic women-oppressor attitude that's threatening to stifle her dreams and prevent her from being herself. But this is the message I see everywhere! The world sends this message that the pinnacle of success is climbing the corporate ladder, and Planned Parenthood is constantly act like being pregnant is going to prevent women from going to college and living their dreams. But they don't acknowledge that being a mother is a lot of people's dream! Education is so important, and I'm so glad my parents encouraged my education, so please don't misunderstand me, but I've noticed that for many women, well, their dream is to have a family, and they're so embarrassed of admitting that that is what they want in life, and they don't know what they want to study in college, but they go anyways just because it's the "smart" thing to do, so they take on 60-80K in debt, and it forces them to work into their mid-30s to pay it off, when all they really wanted was to have a family and stay home with their kids, but now they can't afford to because of finances and school loans. It's really sad. They only end up working in their careers long enough to pay off their loans, and then they realize that their biological clock is ticking and finally reach a place where they can leave their career to finally go live their dream of staying home. I know that it's not for everyone, and I salute and support all the talented women in our workforce, but also, quit demonizing us homemakers!

[@AnnaAnna-st2je]

This is so true. You have the exact same values as me and it helps me so much to find someone like you. This year I have taken a year of after university and my fiancée and I have been living together now. He works full time. Before we never thought that I could be a stay at home wife and later mum. But I slowly got into being more traditional and I showed him your videos and he now sees how valuable I am to him. I take care of his emotional, mental and physical health. And I can do that because I have the time to do that. Before that I couldn’t do that because i was busy with work. Now he loves the idea of me being at home. So to all the ladies who want to stay home and you haven’t had this discussion with your fiancee/ husband just start slowly. And show him how valuable you would be as a stay at home wife/ mum. For example I started watching your videos on our tv and he got interested in this lifestyle as well

[@CynthiaL]

Awh i love hearing stories like this!

[@sambailie4773]

I am a homebody, I love being a traditional wife despite excelling academically. Many women are turning their backs on the rat race to find what truly matters. Re dating, I'd say date intentionally, not just for the sake of it and respect your body. Seek a hubby who is kind... Kindness is beautiful x

[@StephtheHomemaker]

CYNTHIA! I think this may be one of my favourite videos of yours, it is so so full of wisdom and fantastic and well-grounded advice. You always preset your points well, but this video really captures a lot of little bits and pieces that I feel just aren’t spoken about enough. That this lifestyle is a privilege. That we need to balance this lifestyle with our modern culture and sometimes that looks like part time work. This is such a beautifully inclusive and helpful video 🧡

[@CynthiaL]

Awh thanks girl! ☺️

[@annipounds3031]

Thank you. I am leaving my career after another failed effort. But my family is the most important to me and my marriage suffers when I work. I do have my self worth wrapped up in building my business and clientele and I am trying to transition to being a HAPPY tradition wife and mom. Transition is hard so thank you for your words of wisdom. :)

[@amde8554]

The great thing about modern society is people can choose what’s right for them, although in true human nature people will criticize what they didn’t choose

[@CynthiaL]

Good point!

[@classicFASHIONISTA]

Have you ever thought about adorning your home with Catholic Christian art? I’ve done this over the past few years and it’s so beautiful. It really helps me stay close to Christ and the Saints. I also rotate the art for the seasons, both the general calendar and the liturgical year. These little devotions can also inspire your guests to become more devoted as well. 🙏🏻

[@CynthiaL]

I really do want to!! I love using bibles as decorative books, but I definitely need to add more Catholic focused specific art

[@overthetopwme]

New SUBSCRIBER here I love your break down. I'm a housewife of 11 years and it's always been a honor for me. Thank you for your insightful comments.

[@zoeyrose1846]

You are a breath of fresh air!!!!! I also stay home. My man is masculine and I am very feminine and I love our life. Take care!!!! ❤️

[@jadenallman]

My fiancé and I have grown up together and been neighbors all our lives. He has 4 sisters (2 of them babysat me and my brother when we were young 😂) and 13 nieces and nephews in total😳😄🙏🏼 So you can say he is very experienced with children and women. He is always there for them and his mom and my mom (his mother in law) He told me right when we started dating that he didn’t care what I did concerning job or stay at home. That he would take care of me no matter what and wants me to follow my dreams 💓 I have been blessed by Jesus! 🙌🏼💓💓

[@alicia.michelle]

Men really want a woman who is: Supportive Loving Selfless Patient Happy It’s very simple and perfection is not necessary❤️ well said!!

[@anyamiranda9452]

You forgot "a perfect 10/10 with a VS model's body". If you don't have that, they won't be interested in your personality. I know this from experience, so I pretty much gave up on finding "him".

[@alicia.michelle]

@@anyamiranda9452 my husband doesn’t care about me having a perfect body and never has. Good luck dear❤️

[@iwillgowiththatcat8667]

I wish that was but maybe I have to be patient? We never know, right?

[@brate2725]

@@anyamiranda9452 I'm a Bosnian Guy who lives in Switzerland and earns 140k+ what's quite a lot here. I could marry any 10/10 blond Botox Chick from Bosnia without a problem, but that's not what I am looking for. I'm looking for a bosnian traditional, modest, kind, feminin, respectful women who got natural beauty and aura. I don't want that she looks like out of youporn. In general Men are melting for feminin men and going crazy about hardcore feminists career woman who speak and act like men. That's unattractive as fu... Rather I would die alone. But the choices in Switzerland/Western Europe are restricted. In my homecountry the Balkans women are a lot more feminin and natural than in the west. Feminism destroyed women in the west. I feel sorry for the western guys and women.

[@AC-mp7cx]

omg yes!!!

[@renatavilas-boas4657]

Wow!! Wonderful video, dear Cynthia!! I am a big believer of comunicating our needs and Dreams to our partners. I told my fiance I have intentions of being a mom and a wife pretty soon in our relationship. It was 5 years ago. He was surprised with my sincerity, but in the end he appreciated it and now we are getting married in a month! 😂

[@josephinenelan4204]

Best way! ❤️ I told my husband before our first date I was only interested in dating if he was interested in dating to evaluate each other for marriage. It's crazy that I've seen this "don't talk about kids/marriage on the first date!" yet, it seems to work when there's a guy that actually is serious! Congrats girl!

[@CynthiaL]

I think I might have already told you, but again, CONGRATS! It’s so encouraging to hear you are on the right track with your relationship and goals ☺️💛

[@tranquility24]

This is a great learning . I myself preferred to be a homemaker even after being a scientist . I have two kids and a great life partner... I feel happy to be there for them. But our society keep buzzing us on our decision to be home stay mom....

[@claytonjanuary2580]

Hi Cynthia. I listen to your videos now and then to get a woman's perspective so that I can be a better husband to my wife. This has got to be your best video yet. Very concise in addressing all these areas. I am hoping to one day be able to say to my wife that she doesn't have to work and she can be a stay at home wife if she wants to. Unfortunately in a bad economy, this is not always the case. Thank you for your work.

[@michaelbell9992]

Get her to stop the game NOW and then work things out. Seriously!

[@jasmine_milkyflower]

I so much look up to you. The bigger sister I always wanted 😊! Thank you so much, your videos are so needed!

[@CynthiaL]

Awh thanks Jasmine!! ☺️💛

[@Shayycraft_]

I want a traditional lifestyle but I’m going to get a maid & personal chef. I’m tired of working, I want to be a housewife 👠 That’s why you have to pick the right man who can afford your lifestyle

[@trahadbad]

i’m 16 and i can’t wait to be a homemaker one day!

[@TheWellNourishedHomemaker]

This is one of my favorite videos from you..it went by so quick :) great video sis !!!!!!!

[@classicFASHIONISTA]

“Home-Centered Life” I think that’s a wonderful way to look at traditional womanhood. Psalm 31 describes the virtuous woman and wife as someone who also goes out into the world and trades to make money. However, the core of her life and even her “business” is done at home, not in an office. I would say that this is the way you, or anyone like you, could fight against those who may call you hypocritical for being a “traditional wife” with a KZbin channel. Many hard core trad men and women would outright reject your trad definition and way of life, but I believe Psalm 31 justifies it, as long as your business never takes you away from your duty. 🙏🏻Ave Maria🙏🏻

[@CynthiaL]

Great point 💛

[@b1789]

don’t you mean proverbs 31?

[@davidthelonewolf2078]

As a young man I do want to have a house wife , although young girls aren’t really into that. Thank you for your video btw👌

[@iwillgowiththatcat8667]

Even though I don’t see myself become a traditional wife,I enjoy working ya know.But as a feminist, I hope you ladies know that we working women support you and we will keep supporting you.Don’t think working is your only option and it’s not.I hope we can keep supporting each other in the end it’s us against the world and we need to stick together.And I hope you ladies express yourself in any way don’t stick to one things either.

[@taradc6037]

Graduating with my Master’s degree soon, and I love being both a trad wife/mom AND professional woman! (Although I’m def in the minority on this thread 😅) Agreed that as women we just need to support each other regardless of the paths we choose ❤️

[@AmyAmore99]

I recently realized that the only reason I was aspiring to have a successful job and wanting to put my kid in public school is because I was being selfish. I fell for the lie that women can’t be important unless they’re in the workforce. I’m glad I came to my senses while my son is still young, but it’s hard changing out of that mindset and learning to be something you really resented for a long time. Thank you for this video. I hope to learn more about how to be the woman I was made to be

[@erichuff8609]

I see a lot of women say how they feel insecure or conflicted about being a housewife from all the social media stuff but I wish you would just open up to us men about this cause I would simply just hug her tell her she makes me the happiest man on earth and you make our kids the happiest kids on earth and that's all that matters and take her out for a night dinner let us know these things

[@kyla593]

Have you ever read the book 'Playing with Fire' by Scott Rieckens? I think a lot of people who want to go to single income would benefit from reading that book. It touches on a lot of things that you talked about in this video like moving to a cheaper geographical area. It also just talks about budgeting and being smart with money. My husband and I don't necessarily plan to retire early but we have implemented a lot of principles from that book and it has been great for us

[@dinamac01]

Thank you so much for sharing knowledge

[@CynthiaL]

I have not, but it seems like a good book! ☺️

[@zenz0ha472]

Blessings to you, thank you for helping to bring back the amazing tradition of the true housewife lifestyle 💐

[@BackInYourLane]

I work outside the home as well as caring for the house and my family. I could quit my job tomorrow (we don’t need the $) but my husband supports my love for my job and the personal satisfaction it gives me. I do 90% of the cooking, cleaning, choring of animals and gardening. I am not overworked, oppressed or under appreciated. My husband is an amazing man and father. We have been together 13 years and he is my best friend. I do all of this for my community and family very willingly and happily. It means getting up 3 hours before work to get chores done, make breakfast, and check the garden. It means coming home and jumping back into cooking, cleaning, homework, etc. (We have 3 children.) I consider myself a very traditional wife and partner despite not being at home full time. I am also very fortunate to have the role I do for my family, no matter how busy it may be some days ❤

[@vanessalanessiiachannel9267]

Hi I just started watching am not married but started my family I appreciate a video were I can get great tips on how to be a great service to my family. I love gender roles and sometimes my friends don't get it so am glad to have found this space . I want to be a better mom / housewife so my son can be drawn to a good woman in the future and my bf can have low stress levels when he comes home from work :) looking forward to the vids

[@mercedesiryn2904]

I love this video of you , sounds like ur more comfortable with ur audience ❤️❤️ U look stunning in pink too 💐✨

[@ewura3397]

❤ for your energy and advice, thanks

[@sarah73015]

This is so helpful, thank you! Im 23 years old and a former emo/crazy metalhead kid and i have transformed into this beautiful enriching lifestyle of being a trad wife (aesthetics, lifestyle and all)! I wish more women were like this nowadays! I am so much more happier and feel more free. Also, I have noticed you get more respect from people when you also dress the look (more feminine, proper like). I got so many sexual unneeded comments when I used to dress Emo. This is definitely the way to go now!

[@CynthiaL]

So happy to hear how you’ve transformed your life. It definitely takes a lot of effort to make changes like that!

[@natalies753]

You are so lovely! Great video

[@CynthiaL]

So sorry to hear you’re in lockdown 😢. But the good point, like you said, is that people are learning to be better homemakers’

[@Aylo.G]

i respect any traditional future/current wifes thats the women i would walk the extra mile for, open doors, give compliments to, come home to then go on dates wherever she desire

[@Mdg307]

Always a pleasure to watch your videos 💛

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you for being here lovely ☺️💛

[@cindy_h]

Hi Cynthia, I hope you are doing fine😊 Thank you for another great video! I hope to be a traditional wife one day and making my home a safe comforting place to be from the outside fast pace world. For me working full time and managing all the household tasks causes burnout. I feel like it will be harder as time progresses to stay at home, for me in the Netherlands it is almost impossible to buy a house on two fulltime incomes, so on one income is not possible. We have a large houses shortage which also doesn't really help.. I hope the generations after us get the choice to stay at home and it doesn't go extinct. But I am a little scared.

[@CynthiaL]

I hope you can do it someday! 💛 It is also getting expensive here in Canada as well. I think another way to look at things could be to try to find a job that will let you prioritize your family or be more in line with your feminine energy, which could help with burnout. I know things aren’t as easy, but I do hope you can find the best balance for you 💛

[@BlessedGJ]

I met my husband at a hookah bar. 🙂 He works so hard to provide and is very family oriented. His hard work allows me to homeschool and create ongoing family memories with my boys.

[@SunshineBloom777]

Cynthia, how do you respond when asked in person what you do for a living/where you work? I am finding it a challenge to have the right words to say, as I want to showcase that homemaking is a lot of work, but also represent it well, in a good light. Of course most today do not see it either way. So, I immediately feel like not enough of a woman when other women ask me this because it’s basically immediate judgement and criticism on their face and a huge shell shock. I’d like to figure out how to answer this question simply and beautifully. I am continuing to learn how to not care about other’s opinions, but like I mentioned I have this burden to answer well so I can really showcase how much of a blessing and joy it is! 🌷💗

[@saramations]

I feel like honesty is going to be the best policy. No matter the answer, I feel like "what's your job?" It's going to often lead to a judgemental situation. That's just how it is... It's not good or bad, just the truth. You also need to be confident in your answer and keep the conversation going. 😇

[@malisacortes6417]

wonderful! ❤ thank you! as a sahw i receive a lot of negativity bc my son is grown and lives on his own. so as a sahw w no kids at home ppl always think I have nothing to do or that i simply dont do anything which is so untrue. you are a gift and thank you so much for spreading truth and for all of your inspiring videos.

[@jeremyn4912]

God bless you ! Women like you will be the heroes of this generation!

[@brettwarren9667]

Awesome video… If you’re united with your spouse and your goals are the same, everything should work out wonderfully.

[@lis_gow]

The proverbs 31 woman! Yes! So many yeses! I believe wholeheartedly in the proverbs 31 woman

[@keila_klips]

You seem like a real sweetheart. Thanks for the video

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you 🩷

[@el4276]

made a playlist with advice for traditional girls/women for those who are interested

[@missautumn764]

What a lovely top you are wearing in this video! Love the colour on you as well. You look radiant. Can't wait to see you with your little one soon 💖

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you! 🤩

[@louiseleite3866]

The most honourable job in the world......to be a loving supporting housewife who raises decent human beings. ♡

[@FlorasHormones]

4:30, this is SO TRUE. i'm not into any religion, so hearing that i don't always have to be wandering in churches to find a traditional husband is refreshing.

[@jarrettthomas4865]

I love these videos so much! Omg yes please make a video on how we can find a masculine man! Then we can all share the same experiences w our men! Part 2!! 🙏💕

[@dianavarona7144]

I’m 23 years old. I’ve had ex friends that have told me how being a stay at home mom is lazy. They also tend to think that if they don’t work and their man ever leaves they won’t have work experience. Todays generation tries to tear down women so much

[@HaleyMary]

What if you don't get asked out by traditional men? I find that the men I have met in the past seem to want the women to be career driven and the men I have met at church are either already taken or they just don't ask me out. I'm also older, so I am worried that men will think I'm some crazy cat lady.

[@xmochix604]

Sometimes you have to take the step of faith and ask the person out.

[@CynthiaL]

Yes, sometimes it is ok to show that you are interested in someone. The worst that can happen is they say no, and that is actually a good thing because then you can move forward and find someone who indeed is interested. Have you tried online dating perhaps? Not tinder or anything lol but a faith based platform. I’ve never done it myself but I have heard success stories.

[@mattnbin]

Wow! An American who pronounces “niche” correctly. Great vid. Femininity is wonderful!!!!God bless.

[@kimberlyippolito7292]

My mom was a traditional wife, but living in New York I don’t know how this is financially feasible. I do laundry, cooking, cleaning, dishes, take care of my daughter, keep up with the gym AND work full time while also helping my boyfriend run his acting company. Definitely experiencing burnout. Hopefully this is something that we can financially obtain in the future. 😊

[@jasoncarter4343]

I hope to live in a society one day where managing your family and caring for your spouse and children are no longer looked down upon.

[@Blossom835]

Of course it's reasonable to want to be a great catch and an asset! Pick me is something different and considered negative because some women have low self esteem and bend over backwards to get or keep a man like sleeping with him before she's actually comfortable doing so or over exhausting herself by trying to do everything like work full-time, do housework and care for kids or family members. It's basically not seeing your own power as a woman because you're not only to be picked but also can pick someone yourself! But a woman can be a pick me wether she works a regular job full-time, part-time or not at all. In my opinion it has nothing to do with a more traditional lifestyle (although some people may say so). It's more about how you treat yourself and allow others to treat you. Being provided for by a husband and doing some cooking and cleaning in return is not pick me behaviour if you're happy and your husband appreciates you!

[@Mrs.Deanna_Ember]

I feel like a lot of feminists think that we are being "forced" to live this kind of life, when really it's our own personal choice, and not something we see as a burden necessarily. It's only a burden if we are with the wrong man.

[@kiatalks555]

Being a homemaker is definitely a skill.

[@orchidswithnina]

Finally had time to watch your or vlogs i missed it ! 😍 your glowing 😍😍😍

[@ezemeza1363]

I support you. I just don't know how to help you. I mean, I think that we (men and women who think in a traditional family way) should help to plant the seed of these natural thoughts. "Naturally Traditional Movement"💪

[@kissedbyfireskye8428]

I would love to be married, be a housewife. Look after my hardworking husband and do something part time and have a happy home. I’ve always been drawn to a more traditional lifestyle 🥰

[@ChanelleEvans-tp5ht]

I have had an incredible fun career, but always said the day I become a mother I will not be going back to work. I’m so blessed to have a strong man who provides for our family! I’m still a feminist and believe that because of feminism I have the CHOICE to be a homemaker. Also I’m Australian, atheist and wear gym clothes everyday 😂 so kinda modern #tradwife? I have only just come across this community and very interested in seeing this community grow & learn from others. I just believe all of this is about choice… ❤

[@a.e.naturally]

Need tips, a guy I’m dating stated he doesn’t think I would be a good housewife or could be one because I don’t clean up his apartment and cook for him. How should I approach doing these things while dating. I actually enjoy cleaning and love clean environments, but we aren’t committed so I didn’t feel inclined to do these things for him. What do you think?

[@samaramcmanimon-myers7719]

No commitment=no expectations regarding homemaking for the man.

[@Mdg307]

Tell him you don't do wife work at girlfriend's price ;) if he requires wife material, then he needs to be husband material :)

[@CynthiaL]

I think the other commenters have a good point! I don’t think there’s anything wrong with showing him some of your skills in the sense that for example, you cook him a dinner as a date night idea. I have also heard of some girlfriends cleaning up their man’s space as a gift *once and a while* but making it clear it is a gift and not a normal occurrence. I think having an open conversation about your expectations of marriage and stepping into that role once you’re married, is a good idea. Of course communicating your expectations clearly but with love is the best way to go. ☺️

[@josephinenelan4204]

That sounds manipulative. Hope you are given discernment over this ❤️ The best example for your homemaking abilities before marriage are how you keep *your* home/room (not his). If you cook for yourself and clean up your place, then clearly you know what you're doing.

[@mercedesiryn2904]

Would you buy a car before a test drive ? All sealed in bags ?? Or u test drive different cars and see how you like it . I would say try to do alittle once in a while , he would appreciate tasting ur food , seeing how u clean once in a while Even just deeply cleaning his bathroom only ( after you bathe there ) would make a difference .

[@cynthiar7350]

I was a traditional wife & loved it.

[@CynthiaL]

Love your name! Lol ☺️

[@spinliquid]

More power to you. In a world deeply damaged by the noxious feminist propaganda, you come across as a breath of fresh air. I hope your video reaches millions of young women and shows them a path to a better way to live that's diametrically opposite to the one pointed out by the feminists.

[@helennethers9777]

Looking forward to that video you said you'll make on how women can date properly. My sister really needs it, she's in her 30s

[@janicenm9147]

Im a housewife non traditional, my husband is involved with house chores and our kids. Works for us perfectly. Before i have kids i make sure to have my degree in dental hygiene. And i have a back up plan for emergencies.

[@CeCe-os3ul]

Can you do a video for women who want to be wives and how to prepare. And what we should be doing in the meantime. I’m 22 and just left my first relationship of four years. It was going nowhere and I know I want to be a wife. I’ll be 23 on October and want to use these next years wisely to set myself up to be found and married.

[@xmochix604]

She has some older videos on what to do and how to be a homemaker. look it up. :D

[@CynthiaL]

I do have a homemaking playlist that is relevant for anyone! Also, I want to make another homemaking video in the next month and you might like that one because the tips will be broad for everyone ☺️

[@polishpsych]

Having a conversation and a debate is never bad. Advising someone to shut down arguments pro and against a decision is not in accordance to free speech. It’s good and healthy for mentality to see the arguments of the other side of the discussion is constructive and not offensive.

[@lis_gow]

It's been a while since I've agreed with a video on femininity as much as I agree with this one. Girl keep empowering young womem

[@CynthiaL]

Oo thank you!!

[@wildestdreams_b]

OMG Cynthia!! Love that pink color on you😍

[@CynthiaL]

Thank you ☺️☺️