Trans 101: Ep 9 - Social Transition [CC]

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[@cameronmac4522]

OMG, I'm currently struggling so much with this, I'm dressing more "masculinely" but not being seen AT ALL as such, andI really want to tell people to start calling me by a more masculine name/nickname and he/him, but I feel like it's so awkward. Also, I've just barely fully accepted it myself, so talking about it with anyone else is super hard. You are the best! Thanks for all these videos, you are helping so many people!!!

[@simsamtimtam]

J Mac What I did and I know its kind of weird, but I tried having conversations with strangers and when they said she or asked for my name I corrected them and told them my real name and because they are strangers they just accept it, like even if you can see a little boob or my voice is damn high they just say "okay" and after two months or so of realising how little strangers cared I was "brave" (haha) enough to tell my friends and family. And most of them didn't even try and I was very mad and hurt, like Im still okay with those people but I was like: welp i need new friends and I guess it was kinda hard but I have some really cool friends that accept my pronouns and my name and its nice, because you can choose which strangers can be your friends. And Im a stupid piece of soap so if you really want to do it you can. (if you dont, dont, cause why would you)

[@simsamtimtam]

J Mac and also if u wanna talk to someone just email me on my gmail and I can be a pronoun friend that like lifts you up or whatever :D

[@finallyrob4231]

Just don't rush it. Take your time. You'll be fine.

[@cameronmac4522]

Thanks! That's an awesome idea, although I struggle with figuring out when I'd meet a stranger that wasn't connected to work, but would actually have a context to use my pronouns...although it did just happen to me the other day, so maybe I just need to be more aware.

[@phlrhl99]

J Mac I first told my best friend then some other close friends and everyone was accepting so I wrote my mom a letter and she was ok with it (well she's my mom so it's ok for me that she still calls my she and by my birthname at the moment) at least I told it my teacher and she talked about it with my class without me and I didn't even know about it but she was nice. Now I'm out to everyone I see daily/often and everyone calls me by he pronouns and by my chosen name. I thought it was harder than it actually was lmao

[@Isak-H]

I’m going to socially transition at my new school and I’m sooo terrified. My brothers don’t even know I’m trans yet. I don’t have any friends I can talk to so it sucks.

[@Gwallgofrwydd]

Here is a chatroom that is hosted by some transpeople. ftmichael.transboys.info/yayforqueers.html They are really nice to hang out with and if you need support or have any questions, I am sure someone there is someone there that can give you a answer or some comfort. Hope everything goes well for you on this journey, and that there are lots of chill people at your new school.

[@CarbonUnitX]

sakke surströmming I dunno if this is of any help but I found it easier to come out at work after I'd come out to all my family and friends first. When those closest to me were over with and I knew who my supporters were it was easier to tell the rest. How do you think your brothers would take it if you told them first? Anyway, best of luck!

[@daynaheald666]

Sameee

[@liamii5603]

Same I want so much to be called Kenneth at my new school

[@February_arts_]

Isak same

[@raymondfine7491]

Chase Ross just told me I look like a box

[@krakaottzen7398]

I wouldn't feel comfortable with the "u are so brave" but I think a small "thanks for your trust" would be appropriate

[@rileykohler1547]

I really love that the further you go down the playlist the less dislikes there are on the posts! I think this is a BEAUTIFUL thing and I am so glad that someone as amazing as you decided to do this! I am almost 4 years into HRT and since stumbling upon this video I have already shared it with multiple people in my life! Love you chase!

[@spicybiscuit5530]

I have such bad anxiety. I want to look more masculine, but I'm terrified of what people will think at school if I ever started hormones (mainly PE or people being nasty). I know I shouldn't care what people think, but I can't help but panic over it. I'm starting a new year of school, and I won't see most of the year group I have been before, so hopefully I can get more people to use my preferred name as a start...

[@noahgrant4473]

Spicy Biscuit be what you are, and don't matter what the people will think

[@adamcastelsay]

Hey I just want you to know that I believe in you and that it’s so crucial to remember it does get better after high school when you can be more selective with who you say day to day! Much love !

[@HParadoxa]

As someone who choosed not to medically transition, I'm really glad you made this video. I guess what's hard when you choose not to medically transition (or you can't) is that you're basically socially transitioning every day of you're life because there will always be (for most people) some people that will see you as your assigned gender. So to all people in that case : I remember one year ago thinking I could never even coming out to any body, and one years later I'm out to everybody in my friends/family/work and talking about transness on stage (I'm a theater actor / dancer). I am aware that I'm privileged that my social transition was globally accepted around me, but I'd like to say to you that it feels so fucking great and it's like diving in cold water, scary but I swear, when you're ready and safe take a deep breath and do it : it is possible. My dysphoria (even physical dysphoria) decrease sooooo much since I'm out and even tho it's not easy everyday, but I've never been happier than now in my life.

[@shadirby]

THIS IS SO HELPFUL!!! i'm coming out at both school and work tomorrow and freaking out so thank you this helped calm me down a little

[@Ari_C]

alex I know this is a little late, but how did it go? Hopefully fairly well. You don't have to answer if you don't want to. I'm just curious.

[@alexxander966]

I can't even begin to explain how much I look forward to these videos every day. I wish it could be more than just this month, but I do understand how impossible that would be.

[@oliverc.3476]

These are honestly the best part of my day, even tho I kinda know most of this (being a Trans* guy myself)

[@CarbonUnitX]

Oliver C. Same. It always brightens my day.

[@JaysJourney]

These are gonna help so many people & know I'm gonna link these to everyone who asks me for advice on things you cover.💙

[@caseybc6342]

Social transition is so important and scary. I've had top surgery and really want HRT to help myself be seen as the guy I am. But I'm also in a marriage with a lesbian who really doesn't want me to take T. Social transition without T is exhausting because I am constantly outing myself as trans by correcting folks and wearing a he/him/his button. Thank you so much for saying great things and validating us as trans even if we aren't on T because I really fucking struggle with this. I love your videos and the shirt you are wearing is a total WIN!!

[@frankie1465]

I'm getting there, with coming out to my school counselor and therapist as trans. It's been very challenging coping with dysphoria and all, but I hope I have the courage to come out to my school's GSA club this year, and later come out to my family. Thanks for helping us trans people to stay brave, Chase. You are amazing.

[@harmbowsalem7314]

I quit my job in HOLLYWOOD , California because of a transphobic person at work. I told my managers three times about it, but the harassment preceded. The managers just gave him a talking to, but that was all. It's a huge mess. You would think that a place like Hollywood you would have more support. The transphobia is very real and everywhere.

[@duroorud527]

tell me how he was transphobic?

[@plott86]

Good job on the trans 101 videos, super informative and structured! Well done!

[@aarronsholar6404]

BLESS, I got an ad! Watched the whole thing for you, Chaseypoo! 😘😘

[@chrisbryce3988]

Been refreshing my page for half an hour for this. 💜

[@lunchedmeat]

me too man t uploads at 7am where i live and im blesst

[@MeitarA]

For me social transition was necessary before hormones because I wanted to check how I feel in this identity before I'm going through the permanent changes.. Thanks for your videos Chase!

[@wormslime]

When Chase whips out the chapstick, you know it's gonna be a good smack down.

[@robint8855]

"You're so brave" woooowwww

[@boflows]

I've been socially transitioning for nearly two years. I started identifying as genderfluid in September/October 2015, and I came out to online friends and stuff. I then came out to my mom in December 2015. July and August 2016, I came out to my family as transmasculine/ftm/demiboy, and in September 2016, I came out to my school. By October 2016, everyone who knew me, knew that I was trans. I've been trying to get on hormones for a good year now, but since I'm 14 the Dr I'm with doesn't want to let my start. I've been on blockers since March of this year, but the only thing they actually do for me is stop the "time of the month". Which is great since it used to make me extremely dysphoric, but that's really only one aspect. I have a large chest and many "feminine" features. The Dr I'm with literally told me that I'm "fully developed as a female" which made me cry. It's hard because I do not pass whatsoever. Thank you for this because my social transition is basically all I have at this point. I'm getting blood work done this month and seeing my Dr again in September, and I wrote him an essay a few months ago to try to persuade him to let me start Testosterone, so there is a chance that could happen in September, but really who knows. You make me stronger because I know that some day I'll be where you are (I fucking wish I was there now) and I just gotta get by. I love u so much thank u for this series. Thank you for inspiring so many people, myself included. You're amazing.

[@sporki4831]

I look forward to every episode! These videos are helping me so much! Thank you so so much!

[@kristalamont3546]

Such a great episode. You make some great videos. I'd love to see a video specifically for work. Meaning, some of the points you touched on are specific for the workplace ... A video from you that would be a "so your coworker told you they are trans .... What do you do?" This would be so useful in the workplace, I would definitely use it in my workplace and this could be monitized and sold as something for HR departments to use in either hiring, or helping when an employee comes out at work. Something a little more professional that what is here, with the flare and fun down to earth feel that you give everything! You are the best. Thank you

[@Chikorita2Chante]

Even though I'm already knowledgable about the basics, I still find this so helpful. Both as a way to help others understand (To share with friends and so on) and as a way to find words to things I understand, but can't explain. I'm awful at wording myself, so I struggle to put out my points when people want to know things about the LGBTQIA+++ spectre from me because they know me as an open and understanding person. SO THANKS

[@quenz.goosington]

Yeah... I could never socially transition without fully transitioning physically first...

[@ItsMarzCooper]

You save my life every fucking day dude.

[@noahgrant4473]

Same

[@jayharrison6971]

Can anyone relate to struggling to start and give up your old name?

[@chrisszostek835]

I'm loving these videos Chase, thank you. I work at a store and most of us are LGBTQA. One of my close friends at work is a trans woman with a wonderful sense of humor. At work we refer to her by her nickname because she is in the process of HRT and doesn't want to explain to every customer why she has a more traditionally feminine name while still having more identifiable stereotypically masculine features. I trip up because outside of work I use her real name and proper pronouns, but at work I do my best to refer to her using they, them, their or my friend or my coworker. We have talked about it and she is fine with this because she knows I'm not being rude. Her family is so supportive but her dad trips up sometimes and calls her by her male name. We always laugh after someone calls her sir. Anyway, keep posting videos, these are very educational. Thanks!

[@anngatita3831]

New t-shirt: Respect the trans in your life ✌️

[@isaacsinclair4290]

Thank you so much for making these videos! I've been watching you (and listening to the podcast) for almost a year now and I'd like to thank you for helping me realise that I can be a more feminine, but still valid, trans guy!

[@_darcy4027]

i'm planning on being out at university next month (first year) and it terrifies me because i'm only out to my friends and parents and I have no idea how to be myself in front of so many people openly -dan

[@kakapo3276]

thank you chase for making this series! it's so important!! (:

[@smudge8882]

Thank you for this! My grandparents only seem to equate trans-ness with medical transition, and when I tried to explain why they still need to respect my pronouns, they couldn't get over the idea that I hadn't medically transitioned. I think I am going to show them this next chance I get! This will help a lot. :)

[@kuroichan101]

Im nonbinary and way too scared to socially transition lol. Some of my friends are really excepting but I feel like it would be weird and I dont want to deal with that from my family. It would be even weirder if im out in some groups and not in some to me. I thought it would be easier to socially transition as a guy, as if im a trans guy even tho i dont pass, but i really cant.

[@tylerremussobolewski1819]

I get that. I can't offer much advice sorry, but I totally get what you're talking about. Same on my part, but I'm a Demiboy

[@duroorud527]

how many nonbinaries are there? Answer: None

[@ghostbill1010]

2:54 They're so brave

[@WallebyDamned]

My social transition has taken baby steps. I informed my co-workers since I started T and will be doing that seeing them 5 days a week. I am doing a soft social transition- I have indicated my preferred they/them, though stated that I would not be going out of my way to correct customers, and that gendered but neutral phrases were perfectly okay (ex. Peace out, girl scout!) I told my sister/roommate. Otherwise no other family will be told for a while. My father especially, given his recent increase in Trump/Anti-Liberal fanaticism...

[@daltonbrown6417]

Thank you for adressing this issue. I feel this has been the hardest part of my transition.

[@nutellaunicorn2799]

Considering showing this episode/the name episode to my little brother cause he's the only one who doesn't respect my new name

[@thatonewayyyyoverthere]

Sorry I hope he starts respecting

[@nutellaunicorn2799]

Interrobang Apparatus thanks ☺️ I actually showed it to him and now he calls me by my new name so it helped! 🤗

[@jakeadrien1411]

Same but my stepbrothers 6 and his moms gonna be pissed if I do cuz she's all like "my kids won't get it they're 6 and 11" soo :/

[@phlrhl99]

I social transitioned like 8 months ago and now I go to therapy since 2 months. My social transion went/goes sk fast At first I told my best friend, a few weeks later I told my mom then I told some closer people in my class and my dad and when we had the date for my first therapy I told my teachers and my brother. My grandparents, neighbors and friends and siblings of my mom still don't know about it but that's because I don't really know these people and I usually don't speak with them but my mom does so I told her she should tell them but she didn't yet idk In school everyone uses he pronouns for me and my chosen name (or tries to) and my brother does. My mom has some problems with it but I'm sure she will in a year or some Not every coming out was easy but all in all it went well and everyone is okay with it So it went much better than I thought😂

[@Novjuly]

Im not getting an ad for any of these videos and I'm starting to get pissed off

[@margaretpepper3550]

I don't know if this helps, but when I transitioned I wrote a letter explaining what was happening together with my new name change certificate, & photocopied them 27 times!! Every time I told a new person I said "read the letter" & TBH nobody had a problem. At that time I was 57 holding a responsible position in industry, so I was taken far more seriously than had I been a teenager. Had I been a teenager at school I think it would have been far harder to come out & demand people take me seriously...which makes the bravery of those younger people all the more impressive...

[@themoribundapathetic4530]

Thx for being proud of me chase, you may be the only person other than myself, and I'm working on it

[@adamwise1111]

YEET I'm in the middle of this and am fucking terrified. I just started school and idk what to tell my teachers because most of my classmates don't know, and I still look pretty feminine, but I don't want my teachers to get used to calling me something that's not my name. They're asking "name and pronouns" so ideally now is the time to tell them, right? But I'm so scared of how others who don't know will react and what if I want to take it back and just AAaaAAAGH! I feel like a coward so thank you for calling me brave, I needed that.

[@TheShadowCrewNumber1]

I really want to socially transition at school but I'm really worried about being picked on when my friends aren't around. Also, I know loads of people in my classes are transphobic because the topic came up in class once 😢

[@13Sammy]

In Germany it's more or less required to social transition (I'm not sure how long exactly but I think it was about 6-12 months) before you can medically transition... it's kind of the way that you "proof" that it's not a phase and that you won't regret anything

[@DiMon-jd4lf]

Thanks for helping 9thers be allies. You're the best

[@avernuao3448]

I live in a really toxic community of people, and I’m trans. I also have a lot of family members and I don’t know how to come out to everybody. And half of the people in my school know me, I’d also have to come out to them. I don’t know how to do everything, I’m scared of judgment. Sometimes I’m scared to talk to my own mother about this, because I’m so pressured by this. I have anxiety, which doesn’t make this situation any better. I would love to just let everyone know how I feel, but I’m holding back. I wish I could just not be anxious for once. I don’t know what to do about this, because the country I live in is really toxic about trans people. Some people say, “aha just go out and say it”, they don’t realize how painful it is, to go through social transition. I just need help with this, and myself.

[@thebestjanel1969]

I've got my appointment with my doctor to see my options as a trans man, I'm going to come out as trans at my school. I'm terrified haha because they've known me since I was 4 gah

[@alexrose6471]

I'm stuck in the somewhat scared, half closeted stage at the moment. I'm very lucky that my existing name is already considered unisex and I like it, and I'm also already blessed with quite a wide/square jaw and small chest, but I don't even really know how I feel about the whole pronoun thing. As someone that presently isn't planning on HRT or surgery, I'm still aiming for serious muscle gain and the ability to speak in a lower register just through working hard on those things, and I feel like until they're both much more apparent, I don't really want to talk much publicly about being transmasc. I'm only really out in full to my other trans guy friends, and my partner. Especially as someone that wants to talk about social issues etc on KZbin, I just can't be bothered with the discourse.

[@rorysmith7187]

I'm going to socially transition at my new school and I'm simultaneously scared and excited. Scared because of transphobic bullies and excited because there may be a gsa and/ or other LGBT+ people to relate to.

[@ReineDeLaSeine14]

Some places require social transition prior to medical transition

[@camshabam4483]

I’m am trans but also non-binary so I sue he/him pronouns. I think I do look more masc then fem which helps a lot because I key throw on a binder and vuala. My voice is also pretty deep so yeah

[@oakleyspiceyweiner8358]

What if you did a video on what to do after you've been a victim of a hate crime? I feel like it would help a lot more trans people go and report what happened to them. Also people always talk about what a hate crime is or how to avoid it, but never talk about the aftermath

[@georgebach10]

Do you think you could make a video it doesn't have to be with this series but just a video about socially transitioning when you are in high/middle school?

[@Spries-is-me]

I love your shirt!

[@selenas.laclaire3419]

I have a question: Aren't non-binary individuals also considered to be transgender? It sounds like you're saying they are not. As I understand it, they are. Uh, and I also am so happy you decided to make this series! Now I finally have videos to send aaaall the people who don't understand me, even though I've told them everything a million times. Thanks! :D

[@oliverlikescats4736]

Slamfetamin yeah non binary is under the trans umbrella, but not everyone that's nb identifies as trans. It's a nuanced terminology that's caught between the definition of trans and the identity of trans. I think he says "trans and nb" to be more inclusive.

[@o_lymbias4159]

THERE WERE AN ADD! I'MMMM SOOOO HAAAPPPPYYYY!

[@alexanderchambers7941]

i am non binary, but am very undereducated on most matters because of where i've grown up. can someone please explain the difference between non binary and gender non conforming? thanks :))

[@HarryPotter-fn1ou]

Gender non-conforming is where someone won't put themselves in a box, or label themselves as a gender, i believe.

[@raephillipssmith4125]

alison chambers - I'm non-binary and I'm not 100% sure on this but I think gender non-conforming means that the person doesn't really conform to have a gender or doesn't really label themself. I know that non-binary means someone who is not completely male or female.

[@hallwnby]

alison chambers gender non conforming is someone who identifies as the gender they were assigned at birth but don't dress like that gender but they are still that gender enbys are just not male or female

[@girliewilson9074]

For me, gender nonconforming is anyone who does not conform to traditional gender roles or expression. I use it mostly for cis and binary trans people because for non binary people there is no standard for them to conform to. Non binary is a term used to refere to any peson who is not strictly a man or a women. As you can see from tbe responses, everyone has their own definition.

[@Catlandian]

The difference has to do with gender identity and gender expression (which are different) Nonbinary or some call themselves genderqueer, are usually those that do not identify with either gender. Gender non conforming is when someone identifies as one of the two binary genders but does not conform to the 'standard' expression of those gender roles. So they may wear men's clothing, or wear makeup or have an outward expression that is not conforming to stereotypes about the gender they identify with.

[@deathjones7148]

I always felt so bad, because everyone expects me to be amazing with pronouns, but it can be difficult sometimes. It was pounded into my head so much as a young child what each gender looks like and because of that, if someone is nonbinary, but looks female or male sometimes then I'll misgender them and I'm trying really hard. I've gotten better, but gender roles and images were pounded into my head so much.

[@deathjones7148]

Loraine Papong Thanks man.

[@duroorud527]

don't be afraid to misgender them

[@ashtonsimmons9953]

I have that same shirt! It's from H&M!!!

[@mothbulb]

Yeet. I am box. Respect the box. 😂

[@selenas.laclaire3419]

I live in Denmark, and here you HAVE to have socially transitioned in order to even be considered for HRT...

[@cameronm_c314]

I'm currently in this process! I'm going to talk to family and I'm kinda scared about coming out at school. I mean a couple of people already know and I know I've known all of the people in my class sence like the third grade but it's still kinda scary.

[@LilKirschkid]

I love your videos Chase! I have a question here, Chase said himself in this video its very brave to social transition when you didnt medical transition. A few minutes later ( 4:12 ) he said not to tell a trans person that you find it brave. Why is that? Of course we should never overreact in a way it feels fake. But why is it a bad thing telling a person what they are doing is brave?

[@randomfandom3343]

I think it's mainly because a lot of people who are trans feel weird about the term 'brave' in that sense because they're coming out out of necessity most of the time, and brave doesn't quite fit that even though it's true in a way. It's not coming from a place of bravery for the most part, it's more an actual need.

[@feralpossum2089]

I came out to my mum and she reacted so bad.. she called it a mental illness (in a really bad tone if voice), said that I am ruining my life (jokes on her, it's already ruined), am too young to know (Ok wow.. you expect me to make money next year but I am too young to know that I want to go be he/him?) and am just faking it (No. why. I don't even like attention exept it's for my art) So I am watching this because I am thinking of sending it to her..

[@rachelmigotti6098]

I have come out as female socially and at first i was scared of rejection but most people haven’t hurt me. My mom refuses to use my new name but i am letting her use my old name but with all the new people that i will be meeting i am expecting them to use my new name.

[@yonbroda3529]

I just wanted to tell you about something that I am doing. hi my name is Yon broda and I am a slam poet. I have recently posted on a group that you're probably in on Facebook for trans and non binary people about a poem I put together using the words from the community (people commented on the post and pitched what they felt) it's called "dear cis people" I will soon be posting a video of me saying it out loud. but I just wanted to let you know in hopes of getting it out there. I really want to make a difference in the world as a community and I think this is one of the ways to do that.

[@artbookgaming]

Could we all just have pins on our shirts depending on our pronouns? Like full time? I'd like that, could use that to come out. (Even though my native language doesn't have gendered pronouns)

[@ZRaye1]

I appreciate u chase

[@august1451]

Does anyone know when the Arielle video is coming out????

[@yonatonheit8397]

Oscar chill, it is only 9 Eastern Time

[@august1451]

Yonaton Heit I know, I'm just wondering if anybody knows if there's a scheduled time. Also, I live in Scotland and I'm REALLY excited for it, so it feels like I've been waiting for years!

[@uppercaseCHASE1]

12pm EST

[@august1451]

uppercaseCHASE1 oh fantastic, thank you!

[@A.The.H.]

I came out as trans ..i feel way better than i was but I'm having a hard time dealing or accepting it and have tons of self doubt... i don't even know what to do...im not exactly a super excited or happy person so i don't even know if my feelings warrant me.. being or not being trans? I just feel so confused .. my head keeps confusing myself with all this..

[@ambremichalet7533]

(I'm sorry for my English, I'm french and I'm not good in english) I don't like my body, but I don't want take testosterone or do surgery. But like this can I tell my parents, my siblings, my friend "I'm a boy" ??? Because you say "hormones, therapy and of that fun stuff", and with that I'm not sure if I can tell "I'm a boy".

[@yulpiewsert1520]

I'm really struggling with this part of the transition. I have come out to a good deal of my family and friends, but I don't know how to come out to others and how to tell people to call me another name and male pronouns (nobody does that now, yet) I'm just really scared of being bothersome and such I've always expressed myself as masculine, though, it's just that people think I'm a butch lesbian

[@pxtxrparkxrcos2172]

Love you dad thanks

[@glassofjuiceplzj2022]

2:15 We live in a society

[@alllivesmatter2075]

Hello, can I know about how will the college life be as a transman in Canada? And also about job opportunities. I major in IT. Currently living in Sri Lanka, considering about starting to testosterone in few months. I really wanna know about those two questions. Please help 🥺

[@reptile2141]

I came out to my parents and everyone but my brother has been ok(?) about it but they don't seem to understand or want to call me by a new name and pronouns. I'm already out at school and my mom knows but she's still not acknowledging that I'm actually trans.

[@tommoda9589]

wow i'm early, chase ur cute

[@misscrackwood]

What if a friend tells you they think they're trans (though they might be non-binary, I don't think it's pretty clear yet for them), but they haven't started any medical transition, and they don't specify how they want you to call them, and still go under their old name because they're not out to everyone yet? I feel weird still saying he and him but they refer to themselves as such so I don't know... And I don't want to bother them with millions of questions because I guess it's hard and complicated enough for them. That's one of the reasons why I love your channel so much, I get to have a better understanding of your reality without feeling like I'm bothering people with my questions! It would be so much easier to just do the switch instantly but I know it doesn't work that way and I want to be as respectful as possible :/

[@mrd4518]

I am currently in the same situation, and you just have to be patient while they work through it themselves. In terms of day to day, I try to avoid using any pronouns as much as possible and use friendly pet-names (eg love, sweets, babe, darling, dear, mate). Of course depending on the friendship and who you/they are as people that can be weird and not work, and also these names can sound really specifically gendered unfortunately. I think the only thing you can do is let them know that you love/care for them and will accept them no matter what. When they are ready they will let you know :)

[@misscrackwood]

I wish our language was more neutral, it would be so much easier! In french, everything is gendered, even a freaking object x_x

[@odinokyvolkk7625]

I picked to go on hormones without coming out, i tried to come out to my mom on her bday but i was aware that my family is both homophobic and transphobic so i backed up

[@luukseijsener3208]

what is the difference between a gender non conforming person and a non binary person?

[@meuanglao7]

GNC people don't adhere to the social gender roles placed on them, and not all GNC people are trans. Non-binary people are trans and have dysphoria, but they don't identify with male or female.

[@elizaengen4141]

no bullying.

[@jackieleddy7337]

What does CC mean in the titles?

[@Thecatnipproject]

If your talking about gold star try being assaulted by your own parents five different times over your gender identity and your own high school friends abandoning you and then having to recover from being a victim of domestic violence

[@caseyco3026]

I'm in 8th grade right now, I plan on telling my highschool about my transgenderness before highschool happens. I want to die and cut my hair, maybe get a piercing, anything so I look like myself in middle school.

[@SelkieGirl]

I kind of want to just change my name on Facebook and just see everyone freak out.

[@artsydream2737]

I feel like they\them pronouns should be used more in public\social places by workers too. Even thought someone my looke a certain way doesnt mean they are that certain gender. Also workers need to be able to be non bionary!

[@deniseemond9263]

How old is too old to trans?

[@jhivarr4202]

Denise Emond There is no too old.