Trip to Scotland caused drama with my brother’s wife.

[@cthulhuspawn6290]

What did she want op to do? Kiss her feet as thanks or some shit? She already said thanks to her

[@reneeharper84]

That's weird af...why does she want to separate you from your brother so badly?

[@annibreakfast7928]

Okay...Seriously wtf. Op already did thank her. Plus, those are her kids. It's not like she was babysitting for OP. She also did go on a family trip herself recently, where I presume the husband already did his share. Plus, even IF her demands were more reasonable, you can't DEMAND someone to thank you and then get pissed for it not sounding sincere. Of course it won't! But what do you expect? You can't force gratitude. You either are grateful or you aren't. People, who get weirdly upset over social norms are always wild to me. Like what is OP even supposed to say? "Thank you for not abandoning your own children?"

[@scottibrown3274]

Wait so SIL got mad because OP didn’t thank her for having her stay home to take care of her own kids? Shoot I would be confused too! But I would like to know if OP bought a gift for SIL while in Scotland; usually if I’m helping someone out who is on vacation they usually come back with a gift for me (or cash). Or even when I’m on vacation and I see something for someone who isn’t traveling with me, I’ll get them a gift. So I want to know if OP literally didn’t do jack for her SIL. Like if SIL picked up her husband and OP from the airport and OP didn’t say “thank you for holding down the fort” then I can see why SIL might be annoyed…HOWEVER, SIL phrasing the message of “spending a week with my husband” is very odd. Makes me wonder if maybe not all is well in wonderland with the brother and SIL, especially since everyone else in the family is confused as well

[@stevealexander5415]

Sil is a karen

[@fishnkidneys583]

SIL is frustrated with her husband or feels threatened by his relationship and is taking it out on OP. If he wanted to keep peace, he should have just responded with a "Thanks, the trip was great." to her first text. Unfortunately, his f/u text gave her an excuse to go nuts. Not a good excuse, but an excuse... Now, his brother may be caught in the trap of "what relationship do I have to damage here". He lives with his wife, so he is choosing her. For the most part, this stuff blows over. It will be mostly a pain for OP's brother. He just needs to relax and let it go.

[@slipknota7xeg]

I'd tell them both to never do anything else for me again if thats how they want to act.

[@rickraber1249]

My goodness. Okay, OP, here goes. On a scale of one to ten, you not thanking SIL was a 2 on the rudeness scale. You pobably should have said thank you. On the same scale, your SIL's hissy fit was about an eight. She agreed with the trip, it didn't cost her anything, and she presumably takes care of her own kids anyway, right? It would have been a busier and more tiring week without her husband, but it's not like he abandoned her for a month without her consent. You should have replied to her text with an instant phone call, ignoring the snark and thanking her profusely, and said sorry, you hadn't called her just yet. A tiny fib would have kept the peace; it's called diplomacy, instead of the war zone you ended up with. As far as your brother's attitude, he has to live with her, not you, so of course he's going to side with her to keep the peace. You'll know better next time.

[@ecodiva7720]

I would give OP a 0 because she has a point since when do you thanks the person who is helping out the host? like that’s not a thing if someone plans a trip for you and let’s say they need a dog sitter so they can take you on the trip you don’t go over and thank the dog sitter. You thanks the person who takes you on the trip and then the person who takes you on the trip goes and thank the dog sitter going oh thank you for watching my dog so I could take my sister on a trip that’s how it goes unless the wife contributed to the trip financially, you don’t thank her it’s the brother’s responsibility to thank his own wife for holding down the fort not OP What the hell?!

[@Jumana04]

You are a fair person Thank you

[@annibreakfast7928]

@@ecodiva7720 Exactly this. The brother thanks his wife. NOT Op. Those are not Ops children. If she had been babysitting for Op, it would be a different story, but this? She would have watched her kids either way. With or without Ops brother. Yes, him not being there may make it more stressful for her. But OP is in no way/shape or form involved in this. Unless maybe Op had volunteered to babysit during that very week the trip landed on, but I highly doubt that.xd

[@evies1050]

To keep the peace, volunteer to watch the kids so brother and SIL can go somewhere together.

[@Jumana04]

You should have not said what you said Sorry you were wrong