He Left Me And Went Back To His Wife, What Should I Do? | TRIPP ADVICE

[@AprilGMckinley]

Best advise I can give is not to mess with a married man. PERIOD!!

[@TripperPlugged]

He was divorced

[@jerrybarnes8662]

He will not be faithful to her and may give her HIV. He will leave her again for another man, or may kill her!!!

[@ronnyeoff407]

You know what they say once a cheater always a cheater… 🙌👊🏻

[@Calida2308]

@@ronnyeoff407 Thts nonsense

[@mekadoe5902]

i never show emotion until i explode. growing up my mom nvr showed us love. i never heard ily or your enough, yur smart your beautiful. as a adult i have no friends its hard it let anyone get close because of how i was raised and how i was treated trying to grow.

[@lisajones1486]

If he had a wife he never was yours

[@littycityphuckthadumshat1328]

💯💯

[@Ty2Tito]

He is no commetmen to His Wife, so His no belong to no one. Wifes think the Husband are the Macho Man but... 👀

[@keevanrendall1641]

Hey cousin Tripp! This is your cousin Keevan all the way from Johannesburg in South Africa. I love your channel. I love your videos. Thank you for sharing your experiences with the rest of your cousins all over the world. You make a difference. Keep doing what you're doing. Much love to you!

[@catrinamalloy6876]

FACTS COUSIN!!!!An thank you for putting it out there for people to understand!My State has Bigger issues with this problem, So I'm trying to use my voice to HELP!!!We need to make this subject matter! cousin

[@josephterry245]

Tripp you gave great advice. Your life experiences have taught you well and thank God you're willing to share that wisdom. Bless you cuz! 👌🏽

[@joeltbrown1867]

Good Sunday Morning! Homie. Your a grown black man & it's time for you to be dam happy for yourself & find yourself true happnest & find the dude who wants to be with you only.

[@billymangrum8279]

Been there done that. Best thing to do is move on, no matter how hard it will be

[@chocobeachboy1]

Great advice Tripp!!! I’m impressed!!!

[@TripperPlugged]

Thanks cousin I tried 🤜🏾🤛🏾

[@rodneydjames5207]

Thank you!! Your advice makes a lot of sense! Slowing my roll cause I ain’t trying to get caught up!!

[@jasonrichard6539]

As a medical professional, you answered the mental health question very well and thoroughly. Our mind, body, and soul are connected and when one aspect is not well you can have bad manifestations in the other. Be an advocate for your health. Have a primary care provider (e.g., physician, nurse practitioner) and see a mental health specialist if needed.

[@robertharris9948]

Tripp, I know that you wear many hats; actor, rapper, chef, etc. but I did not know that you were a life coach. Great advice. There are lots of black gay men that need to come to your office for your advice. How much do you charge per hour? Keep up the good work!

[@quentinbraxston3254]

Salutations & Blessings Cuzzin , I Was Sleeping & Missed The Live!!! After Checking Out My Cuzzin' Channel I Came Across the Question When Someone Stated That DL Men Infuriates Them!! My Take on This is, Society Makes it Hard for Some of Us To Come OUT!! They Judge, Exclude & Sometimes Physically Harm Us!! In Some Families They Disown The Individual, I Agree With What You Said Some People Come Out in Their Own Time!! Thanks Again Cuzzin' for Your Love 💕 & Concern, Stay Safe & Continue To Elevate!!

[@zippdogg12]

Bro You are so understanding!!!

[@monsieurnoir207]

I love the variety of topics. I'm glad you're emotionally free. The term DL is only associated with men. Women have vacillate back and forth with men and women but they don't call them DL. Most men can separate sex from feelings and emotions. People enter your life for a reason, season or lifetime. If he leaves, let him go. If he returns, he's meant to be there. I love you too.

[@calvinfelton4077]

Awesome discussion. Real life, real talk.

[@MikeJones-xg4dr]

Really good advise. I really appreciate your views/options. Very insightful!! Let’s have more of this. Thank you!

[@elmo4729]

Hey my cuz. Those were some heavy duty questions. I think you handled them well. You have such insight and offer a good point-of-view on topics that we face on a day-to-day basis. Thank you for your time and input on these. Definitely looking forward to more of this in the future. 💙💙💙

[@veniagivenchy1532]

I love your response to the person that become infuriated by dl men . I understand why he or she feel that way, but people need to find a way to get over that . Dl men has been here since the beginning of time & they'll be here until the end . You can't control, change, or stop the reality of life . Trip... I love everything you said . I'm a realist... I'm a very smart person . Not saying i'm the smartest, but i don't come across many smart people with common sense who can explain things the right way . You remind me of me... Because everything you said, i say lol... Our knowledge come from experience, other people experience, the things we saw, heard, & just plan ole common sense . I also feel that it could be a gift . Because majority of the things i think & feel, i find out they're true . ❤

[@charlesyost8507]

Cousin Tripp, First of all, very nice haircut 💈!. Tripp advice was fun, and good. Thanks for answering my question. You gave me great perspective on cheaters, and other topics. Can Ladybug give out the advice next time? Love From Orlando

[@onewxrldmusic7303]

I love your advices in general and many thanks. I loved the way you analyze it. You added the nuance that he may be divorced. He may be DL. He wants to search for a varied sexual experience. But in general, the INITIAL question most times is not "He Left Me And Went Back To His Wife, What Should I Do? " but "He Left His WIFE (and probably his CHILDREN) to Join Me, What Should I Do?"

[@shawnwhite6823]

My friend is so deep in the closet he told me he's never coming out and plans to take that secret with him to the grave. Based on what I've seen if he were to come out he'd lose his entire family because they made it clear it will never be accepted.

[@dayefubu1]

This need to be longer. Love it

[@vernonparrish7066]

This is your best video this year!!! Cousin, one question that need to be asked is, will you take the chance of building a relationship with someone who comes out of the closet and confess to having a mental illness? I don't think most people would. Mental illness is frowned on just as much as coming out of the closet admitting that you like other girls or guys. So knowing this, the mentally ill person stay on the dl. The dl person continue being dl..The HIV positive person, continue hiding the fact that they are HIV positive.

[@rocbody1]

Wow!!!! Tripp, I can’t find no fault in you bro!!! I loved this live chat! It was OUTSTANDING!!! I enjoyed you answering questions live so that we could comment! OMG! Thank you bruh, thank you bruh thank you, thank you!!!

[@TripperPlugged]

Thank you for watching

[@rocbody1]

@@TripperPlugged you’re welcome bro. I’m glad I was free to watch it

[@drderf10]

Great advice Tripp...this is something you definitely should continue

[@galinaioffe2250]

That depends on the cause of the "mental issue" because if it's caused by life trauma it's not the same

[@jett2605]

i had someone leave me to go back to his wife. he said the gay life was not for him. months later i see him in the bar with a drag queen hanging all over him. i'm still hurting from that and it's been years since that happened.

[@livelearnlaugh72]

This man completely destroyed the boys childhood with fear an anger an abandonment never made things right some of yall know

[@parisdavall]

Very good advice. Very level headed. You make me want to hold your hand and take you to a picture show to talk about life ...

[@doni_life]

I'm such a supporter of therapy, we in the black community need to get over the shame and seek it instead of walking around thinking they're sane. Therapy saved my life

[@oziewashington9146]

You just can't trust everybody with your personal business, sometimes people want to know your business just to spread your business. So the best thing to do is be quite. It's a need to know bases bro.

[@1babysag]

Very nicely done, good clear level headed and truthful advice. Most people know the answers, they just want someone to confirm their thoughts in a non-judgmental and hostile manner. You did a great job cousin. Please put more light on your very handsome face, maybe switch positions so that you face the window.

[@terrellwilliams1668]

Showing emotion lets me know where someone is coming from.

[@terrellwilliams1668]

Showing emotion always me to see where one is coming from!

[@499lex9]

Agree about the cheating discussion. I would just add that some people also cheat out of low self-esteem-they need validation, and the “safety” of a warm nest can’t always provide that. It’s a weakness, plain and simple.

[@catrinamalloy6876]

Cousin!great video.I enjoy you this morning

[@willofomphalosgroomslll]

Acknowledge the dysfunction in one’s family n internally deal with it.... 💯🔥🏹

[@TripperPlugged]

Exactly

[@galinaioffe2250]

That's the thing though that there is not always a dysfunction in ones family. Some people are just sereal cheaters with insatiable desire for new objects of lust

[@willofomphalosgroomslll]

@@galinaioffe2250 well it’s obvious the person is dealing with an addiction n if you truly and unconditionally love ‘em then you’ll be able to work with him in targeting the core of the addiction... keeping in mind that type of addiction has a lot to do with narcissistic behavior and satisfying a lustful nature... there’s a lot to be said but I think you get the idea...

[@TuscanWonder]

@@willofomphalosgroomslll And oh it's so prevalent in today's popular music culture

[@willofomphalosgroomslll]

@@TuscanWonderif you’re clubbing that’s just petty... it’s only music. They gotta be pretty weak to give info that or just don’t give a F about you... or just listen to Gospel.

[@Mario_Real_Talk]

If people go to someone to ask for advice about a problem, they already know what they need to do. They just ask just to clarify should they take that action, but I learned people going to handle the situation in their way regardless of what you tell them. That’s why I only give advice if it’s needed. These topics are needed. My friends don’t ask me nothing because my response is “only you know what you need to do”. Sometimes people answer their question by asking it.

[@lisajones1486]

When a leaf falls off the branch of a tree it hits the ground to the root of the tree which is the base, foundation and strength. So when we fall we get up to where that strength to build yourself Spirit,Mind,Soul,Body and HEART to love self to move on good single Man looking for that

[@kimsharp1900]

Great job very sensible stay blessed stay blessed for life keep up the good work

[@johnsonkevin32]

I come from a dysfunctional mentally Ill family. This was a famous line with my father your crying I'll give you something to cry for. Bottled up emotions are a very dangerous thing. I've since learned how to cry. I feel better. My thing is you can't tell people how to feel and don't do it to your children. You may whine up with a grown nut.

[@499lex9]

Cuz is 100% right as always. Take the sex out of this situation, and move on for your own sexual/emotional needs. It’s not your job to “fix” him, and he’s clearly not ready for a same-sex relationship.

[@user-qz5dq8kn4p]

And that’s the truth about the bedroom lol 😂 I’m like a dame cat in heat for real since I can go years with out sex lol 😂

[@catrinamalloy6876]

This happened to me!frfr but He lied to me an told me he was at his brothers house.I kind of felted it, but when I found out it was a Done Deal it was the last draw, Although they couldn't re-connect either because he was lying to her about things."Let that boat sail"

[@mikemkgta5988]

Really like this. It's time for the black Mas. Point of view keep this going

[@ernestfox4880]

Solution: Him and I were never together, but his sex life suffered. He kept coming back sexually and he was a very masculine, versatile man and an amazing father. He and I are still cool, but HE needs to open up to his wife. "Always be my Baby", even though he's got ten years over me lol.

[@clintkeene7865]

That’s okay. I would give anything to be a bottom for you. You’re sweet and sensitive. Only in my dreams I guess. Giving up on Love. Feels like no one wants me. Sorry for bothering y’all.

[@johnsonkevin32]

Never give up. You can be the strength you need to get what you want. I've been by myself and celibate for 15 years. I've just recently started to restart my life again for me that's exciting. Don't worry you'll be strong and you will be fine.

[@shawnwhite6823]

Tripp my friend has been talking to this guy for 1yr and this guy checks all the boxes; loves animals & works three jobs & wants to be with him and is not dating or talking to anyone else but my friend is afraid to commit because he has trust issues and even though he's yet to delete the hook apps from his phone I know he's not messing around so what do you tell someone whose never been in a relationship its okay to take a chance? My friend is an Aug. Leo and despite that mean exterior I firmly believes he likes dude but can't bring himself to admit it

[@jessemorman]

The issue is not the individual being DL - which by the way, is completely different than being in the closet. Being on the downlow means you're living a double life. You're living a life that would suggest you have no interest in men, when infact, you're using women as a shield, to cover who you really are - THAT'S the issue. If you are unsure of who you are, that is YOUR battle to defeat. However, it is unfair to the other party, to drag them on to that same battlefield with you, when they didn't ask to be there.

[@seeme7245]

I trip I really love what you're doing opening up hearts and minds can you do something on the androgynous type of guy who is really a nice guy but has a voice look or can have a girl look and how society treats them and how the straight guys go after them for the feminine side of them and then the gay guys go after them because they have that boyish look and a society changing and what are your thoughts on that topic

[@altonjohn6348]

You give GREAT advice

[@davidemerald7690]

Hey cuz. You give really good advice

[@galinaioffe2250]

Cut yo losses and move on wit yo life. You knew he was married or found out the fact at some point during your relationship so you should have been prepared or preparing yourself for the possibility of it occurring

[@Uncle_Ro]

Love you cousin!

[@TripperPlugged]

Love you back

[@moolahs1woman]

Good video, Tripp!

[@499lex9]

Love #trippadvice!

[@catrinamalloy6876]

Leave his tired behind alone💯

[@harperharp6836]

I've been hurt Tripp ,I really hae I'm hanging in there and people say they love me( I'm I always end up with beauty tho I got my own story man I wish I had the heart to tell it

[@TripperPlugged]

Tell it it helps heal

[@harperharp6836]

@@TripperPlugged I'll try lol Tripp I'm looking for my dang crowd..... OMG FAREAL lol ok thanks ,so to speak....... thanks for being here.. tho frfr.....lol wow man....okok..koo

[@bigfoot7323]

IF YOU FEEL ITS WRONG, THEN DO NOT. IT.

[@catrinamalloy6876]

Long distance relationship sucks!I say cut it off!if it's meant to be it will be!!!He will find his way back to you!My Ex was in California 4years an came back to NC I never called him Not once! While he was there!I needed him to find his self,but what came back was a 😈 so ladies be careful

[@TripperPlugged]

If it sucked that’s because he really didn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

[@catrinamalloy6876]

@@TripperPlugged You are right Cousin!I figured I had something frfr,Guess we all have played fool

[@jetmartin9501]

Very sage advice!!!

[@byronharper1138]

Move on with your life you knew he had a wife, and she is just as stupid for taking him back.

[@reiignkiingentertainment2737]

yes well trip we been off and on for 4 yeaar i ask him to marry e give m excuse he said comparsion ship we cant be he said he priest long distance relationship

[@johnmccall1142]

Good advise cousin.

[@johnmccall1142]

Don't mess with married men.

[@vincentb9159]

Just get to know each other and then take it from there. Just my two cents!

[@livelearnlaugh72]

God dont like ugly when most of the people involving out of hate all they doing is hating on a innocent baby boy that just wants his momma back. That is trifflin to make a momma look bad when the momma dont want non to do with the daddy because he's lied to everybody that he deal with when everybody know he in denial of his own sexuality

[@damianhollen5540]

My life completely just got of that situation...😶

[@romega951]

The DL could be about several things, DL, or in the closet? DL to me Is not the same as coming out-how many DL guys do you know that were DL and are now Ladybugs?👀 This is a broad topic about why guys are DL and lie -that sh** takes a toll on everyone involved and can end up very negative in many ways!

[@johnsonkevin32]

Please realize the power that your emotions carry in you spirit your soul your body and heart these are all separate things that are very hard to control for some of us. Please just love yourself so you know where you are in these different rooms of your life.

[@angelacarruthers6367]

How do I find that do some about it song on tube

[@TripperPlugged]

It’s not on KZbin it’s a song I recorded some years back

[@angelacarruthers6367]

@@TripperPluggedwell how can I listen to the song I'm trying to bump it at home I be dancing off that song going crazy do some about it🤍🤍🤍❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@gmcmim1]

I think folks who sleep around have a dark spirit on them. We can find a variety of folks attractive but that doesn't mean have sex with them. It's spiritually dirty and not good for you energy wise. Cause sex is sacred energy exchange. Do you really want to just exchange with people just because they look good but you're not with them in a relationship? Folks need to contemplate.

[@user-qz5dq8kn4p]

Well I can’t have sex with any man unless I’m in a solid relationship with when I love I love right since I’m loyal faithful and completely honest with the one I’m with and that’s also the same with all my friends as well and I’m very direct and to the point I’m real completely I say it the way I see it and I say it the way it is I don’t beat around the bush and I keep it real and I always communicate and it’s never is returned the same as I do I’m 💯 % in every relationship I’ve ever been in I always get 1% from the men I don’t understand why that is I make Betty Crocker and Donna Read look like hitler I make everything from scratch home made nothing from a box ugh 🤦‍♀️

[@michaelmcdougall7367]

Tripp the gay social worker. I love it!!!!!!!

[@livelearnlaugh72]

He got kids with different women's man come on irresponsible is not the way to be.. telling a baby to stop crying yet he suicidal an hit that child wow an the daddy show no love how the momma wrong for wanting her child back

[@victoriagomez5203]

😕💔💔💔 talk about double standards

[@bjjohn111]

Why is a person's sexuality so important to others??? Live your own life, and stop putting so much effort in worrying about a gay person! SMH

[@tenaz777]

True

[@edammyst8261]

I want to get it appropriate here but look I want some Lovin I had a female partner 16 years he died 40 mad cow³ I’ve been all alone COVID-19 the lockdown I could actually use some physical touch some Lovin I am going to get that soon I’m making friends that are eventually I’m gonna be with them hopefully you know I’m in Leo to I’ve had some horrible thing to help me I’m not African-American but I do understand their struggle a bit not exactly cause I’m not that I won’t claim that I don’t pop boss anything I’m not I’m not fake I don’t like back but I do appreciate the struggle that we all go through whatever culture by and what government oppression yeah I get it all but the person Mike you are Tripoli what about the biblical loving sexual healing Marvin Gaye was not wrong there hey

[@user-msjazzy]

❤️🙏🏾

[@bryantwittrell3067]

Hey cuz

[@darrellbowser2660]

💙

[@michaelmcdougall7367]

Tripp the gay social worker

[@bryantwittrell3067]

Hey cute

[@livelearnlaugh72]

Yep he married bet he didn't tell any of the trans an females dressed like men curiosity gets no where