Trusting Yourself: How to Stop Self-Abandonment | Being Well

In this special episode, @RickHanson and I explore how we can become more self-reliant, and learn to trust ourselves. This helps us be resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and it’s a key resource for people who tend to abandon their wants and needs. We start by discussing why some people struggle with self-trust, the difference between inside-out and outside-in safety, and changing the model we have of ourselves. I introduce a framework for developing self-trust based on self-efficacy, flexibility, self-advocacy, and accurate appraisal, and Rick applies this to how we can build self-worth and feel strong and capable.
Key Topics:
0:00 Introduction
1:00 Why some people have an easier time trusting themselves than others
4:25 An outside-in vs, inside-out sense of safety, and feeling reliable
9:55 Welcoming positive feedback, and psychological flexibility
14:15 Sticking up for yourself
19:05 Stabilizing yourself when feeling helpless
24:15 Evaluating internal stories, and living moment to moment
29:40 Feeling like someone who matters, and feeling seen by others
34:30 Three aspects of self-regulation, and self-appraisal
40:10 Object relations, and focusing attention on your inner world
47:40 Seeing yourself as the creator of your world, and authenticity
54:20 Recap
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