TWO Types of HIGH MAINTENANCE WOMEN!!!

[@tebogosello4864]

Most guys who fall for these type of women you’ll find out that they don’t have experience in dating, most of them started dating when they had money or whey they started working….😊I can’t explain further coz I’m so lazy to type.

[@nathii_lalela]

You have a Point✔️

[@contentedtiger_]

You know, I enjoy your videos but as a woman, I actually don't know how we are meant to show up. I'm talking about decent women with values. What is the expectation anyway? Are we meant to be fully independent or just a little bit? We also walk a thin line. It's a mess out there. I just don't want my magic going to waste, so it's easier to just not date until God delivers someone undeniably chosen for me. Full stop. That's why I watch your channel. It helps me understand what's going on out there in the wild. And I laugh, A LOT!

[@gintoki_sakata__]

"My magic" 😂 Bathathe melificent. Side note.. God never said he'll give you a partner "meant" for you.. You choose who you want and make that work. Its not rocket science

[@contentedtiger_]

@ 🥵 You’ll find me right here, in the comments sections 🤣🤣🤣 in one piece 🤣🤣🤣

[@tshepomaieane6458]

The best way to show up is by being authentic. If you both like each other and want it to work you will both put in the work or sacrifice or compromise depending on the given situation.

[@njabulodube1267]

high maintenance 🤔, to maintain is to uphold standards that were pre existing, if umthole engakwazi ukuzenzela yonke lento, you are dealing with a HIGH DEPENDENCY case, bafethu don’t be shamed 💪🏾💪🏾

[@friedakutumela5906]

Great content Pen. I agree with the first part about some women being entitled, we must all learn to work and contribute something to the relationship. I think a lot of young women should learn to tell the Instagram life, fairytale and real life apart. You can't always want to take, take and take. However as a woman I would not necessarily look to date a man that earn at my level or above while overlooking his character, beliefs and principles. Sometimes men have the capabilities, skills, passion and drive to go beyond what they currently do or earn. I believe if you have a man whose supportive of your dreams and goals, who loves and wants to build with you, that is all that matters. We should not always base relationships on money, although it is an important factor. Today you can be a high earning woman and tomorrow he might earn more than you or you can both start something and build together.

[@SOLUTION_PROVIDER]

Gents have standards & self respect 😂😂😂

[@pensonmlotshwa]

We need to have standards…

[@RefiloeMahlaku]

There’s a third type😪the one that actually gets things done with or without you!!! The one that doesn’t have to ask for your approval. The one that does not ASK or hint for things to get done. If she sees something that should be fixed, bought or done, whatever it is she will do it regardless! Wherether you notice or not, this one doesn’t care for your opinion that much. She’ll pay for own nail, hair, clothes and petrol/uber. How you found her is how you’ll leave her type!!! Just an addition to the types of independent women out there😂🤷🏽‍♀️ Love the video🫶🏽

[@gintoki_sakata__]

Theres no such type. Cos what you described isnt a person who wants to be part of a team

[@RefiloeMahlaku]

@ i understand what you’re saying but are we also going to say that an independent man, 1) who has his act together, 2) who knows what he wants 3) who has his bag 💸right and 3) and would leave a woman if he feels his not bringing him peace, does not exist🤷🏽‍♀️?!

[@wandilemthobisizwane6372]

Unjani rifi i think being independent in a relationship doesn't make sense, then what would be the reason for any1 to be in relationship,cabanga nje uzihlelele bhobo umuntu ne kari telling u then hey I bought a car unless surprising ur partner ws the purpose, communication is key.

[@RefiloeMahlaku]

@ i agree with you 💯. But what i am saying is lets not discard that these women do not exist. A person’s independence should not threaten another person’s ability to show up in a relationship right. There are men for this specific type of women who can handle her. Like Penson mentioned in one other video, “date in your lane”. If she is not you’re type then do not discredit her nature. There are men who would love her regardless. A lot of men can view her as being toxic but 🤷🏽‍♀️ some men may adore her for that. So lets not sit here and say that this type of woman does not exist. I am just saying🙏🏽. Maybe she moves like this because thats how she was raised and thats all she knows.

[@waLobengula_kaMzilikazi]

You are right such women do exist...but not in relationships...you can't be independent and be in a relationship

[@itumelengmahaole5890]

You can't be sending money for an outfit,nails and such things on the first date! Dude we're basically strangers 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@supremeclientele83]

100% correct on both. Worst part is that the second ones that you describe will want to be your girlfriend by force if you look like youre doing well financially. Don’t even mention if you look like you’re doing well and are somewhat good looking. She will be blowing up your phone, pushing for you two to happen. Your big mistake will be accepting her as your gf. They will even lull you in by pretending to not want money from you, they’re truly in love. Give it 3 months the indirect requests start - car, hair, outings. There’s really nothing out there in the streets, this is all there is. As a man you need to be very analytical and logical when dealing with women, move like you would in business - risk assessments. Black gents need to start considering dating other women than black women.

[@AndileMM608]

I wish we could learn to meet each other half way as men and women, especially when we are seeking a stable relationship. Life isn’t easy for anyone, we can’t be entitled to people’s money. If you can’t maintain yourself, stay away from dating

[@mazal9895]

Men get your money up! I repeat - GET YOUR MONEY UP! Ok have a blessed day ❤️

[@pensonmlotshwa]

GET YOUR MONEY UP!!!

[@zee-zm1io]

I’m 100% the second girly. Some men have not made it. Plus I’m a first born African daughter

[@justs7605]

Lol nifunani kanti? Number 2 is a great hun... Just step up 🤣😂

[@Nthabeleng507]

Exactly. Men don’t want to step up. They can tell women are going up the game they just chill. Aowa

[@persiizee1819]

​@@Nthabeleng507 that's oddly specific, sounds like projection

[@sibongisenisakhele3114]

Bra Pen, I have never understood females who are leeches. I also did not have my father early on. But I had a hardworking mother and my siblings. That said, as people we have different experiences and most importantly, characters. We may grow up in the same family or community but become completely different adults. Unfortunately, some people don't develop capacity to be proud and independent individuals. We can judge and criticise as much as we want. The reality, the leeches converge with good and responsible people. In fact, the leeches probably target them. I continually reiterate the importance of character to my children. Our boys and men are at risk!

[@vagrant_ijn]

Its not the woman's fault nkabi. Women are what they are naturally. We messed up when we started to listen when women talk about what they want. That's like listening to a teenager's views on geopolitics. The predictable outcome of that was confusion and situationships.

[@mandlenkosingcobo9608]

There’s a difference between how you have been raised versus how you have been influenced, I’ve dated women with and without fathers and I can assure you better to be with one who has had a father or positive male role model in their life - the other ones speak on men without experience and will never get what they want because important part if her character is missing.

[@tshepang7922]

i thought we left the nail paint in the past grootman laam

[@pensonmlotshwa]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@refilwelegae4575]

You are brilliant my guy!! Thank you for this!

[@contentedtiger_]

😂😂😂 So from day one, she's told him that she can't maintain herself without him? Recipe for DIZASTA! But he must pay for the first date.

[@jovialcadence]

We're having it hard as men my sister, honestly😅

[@contentedtiger_]

@ It’s a mess out there. You’ll find me on the bench after injuries, prepared for when people get serious about winning 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤐

[@sbonzama7013]

The entitlement of these modern women is wild!

[@cosmic_sunflower3864]

That role reversal really is a beautifully disguised trap men fall for daily....nothing worse than seeing your woman turn to other men (Dad, brother, colleagues) for help because awu afford(i) and those men calling to ask YOU what's happening 😂😅yoh

[@SOLUTION_PROVIDER]

As husband luhlazo mara as a boyfriend go get a job I don't owe her nothing financially

[@cosmic_sunflower3864]

I agree with you 100% men don't owe girlfriends financial support, women don't owe boyfriends sex.

[@cosmic_sunflower3864]

I agree with you 💯 men don't owe girlfriends financial support, just like women don't owe boyfriends access to sex. Either we negotiate or abstain comrade.

[@cosmic_sunflower3864]

I agree with you 💯 men don't owe girlfriends financial support, the same way women don't owe boyfriends sex. We either negotiate or abstain comrade.

[@itumelengmahaole5890]

Eish 😢

[@buyisiwe6363]

Dating these days feels so strange. It’s like you’re the one forcing someone to meet up for a date you’re already planning to pay for. The whole “pay for my nails” or “pay for my ride” on a first date is just bizarre. If that’s the vibe, does that mean you’re ready to sleep with him too? 💁🏾‍♀️

[@mbasamattz]

The entitlement is wild. I can never be that “baby pay for my nails“ kind of gal because sizohamba sijwaelane. Even though I’m married asingajwayelani kabi ngemali.

[@khensk]

True not going to lie, us miss independent want to be led by men, we dont want to be in our hyper independence when we want to look up to a man.

[@marthamolotsi645]

Bone marrow 🤣🤣🤣hi Penso❤.....mjolo ne

[@mohlala41]

Very principle man...

[@mohlala41]

Woodlands office park, salute am very previleged.... Till now...🙏😎

[@nkosimJabu]

😂😂Number 2 are the worst it’s better unondatshaza who says how much on the onset 😅😅😅

[@AndileMM608]

So between the two.. which one do you men prefer??? You gotta pick phela 😂😂

[@oarabilemoloto1376]

I don’t think it’s a conscious “pay back” that happens in their minds

[@KatlegoMolaolwa-cp3rm]

The sad part is that women were taught from an early age what to expect from a man but not how to treat a man and man were taught how to treat a women not what to expect from a women ...that's the reason some men tolerate anything women throws at them😌

[@fezokuhlehxolileh6858]

True i agree with u 98%🤣the 2%cum natural

[@persiizee1819]

quote of the year...

[@2melotrades]

There's a 3rd one.. the ones who paint their name then go on to proclaim they're men. What a time to be alive.💔

[@sembachitibwi5211]

If we have to be honest, sometimes these simp guys are to blame for being allowed to be dribbled by girls. The are signs, talk to people, communicate with couples that have successfully relationships. It's simple

[@raisingleadersfoundation9277]

Yes, nothing in life is for free, if it is you won’t value it.

[@NJChlongwane]

Theres something we are not getting in the whole thing. The status of a man being a provider, protector was given to a married man to his wife or wives and a woman was entitled to that because she submited to the vision of the man and bears chidren for and nature's them and takes care of the house. Dating was never in existence wen these laws culturally were created. They were never created for dating but for married couples, no man is culturally and legally expected to provide for a date or girlfriend and a woman submit to a man she's dating( not married to). No duties are required on both. Its just a fling actually its not vonsidered a relationship in cultural and legal terms. Hence in court you're considered single without marriage - no expectation of fulfilment of responsibilities

[@raisingleadersfoundation9277]

I was raised by my dad and I still expect men to do stuff for me. It is not daddy issues… I’m sure you were not raised by your dad.

[@BridgetCamagu]

Men love all those women

[@phiwokuhlegumbi5716]

We must have zoom dates now

[@EltonMatheko]

You will still be expected to pay for the data😂

[@kelebogilemaila604]

​@@EltonMatheko🤣🤣 True story

[@bigthangz5489]

pr0$titution!!!!!

[@duncantsolo3273]

I'm very conflicted on this, women want the whole ideology of 50/50 when it's time for them to be that they see a man as a problem! Please guys let's date within our money bracket please 😂!

[@AndileMM608]

As if men don’t want 50/50.. it benefits you men also but choose when to apply it , and when not to

[@___sinqobile1373]

Brother what happens when that 8K sister surpasses you

[@EltonMatheko]

Than she goes off looking for a higher earner all of the sudden she finds fault in all you do everything you say😂

[@0sigak]

You forgot the aspect , when you grow and open the gap,you also start choosing women at the level a tad higher. Relationships are a scam.

[@Mr.ExtrodinUniverse]

Women need to stop this “as a man you are supposed to…” line. Relationships aren’t scripted.

[@makabongwengcobo6792]

I just respond with “When you grow a d*ck & nobody is there for you, come back & we can talk about what men must do”

[@AndileMM608]

But this line has always been used on women

[@MasegoMutloane]

Baba❤❤❤

[@Nthabeleng507]

Y’all enjoy bashing women. How’s about your mommy issues. Not knowing what a woman is there for in your life? imbokodo that raised the men of today to be complaining now and again about women that state what they want. Why don’t you as a man just state what YOU want too. And easy. How many of our sister are single mothers now? Because men lied and said they love them then girl gave in with her loins next thing she is bitter and raising victims now. Men should invest more time to advice each other.

[@NobodyXSomebody]

Pointing out women's flaws =/= bashing. Mommy issues implies some woman somewhere fucked up during the parenting phase, so let's not make blanket assumptions about the quality of imbokodos quality of parenting. Men pointing out fefails and their ways is not a sin. It should be celebrated by society because we can't move forward if we are still sheltering these fefails egos. Single motherhood is between the woman, her vagina, and the men it went for. Too many contraceptive methods and even places to perform abortions for me to feel sorry for single mothers. Too much social media talking about the good, the bad and the ugly of unsafe sex (and even the ugly of men according to feminism) for me to act like women don't know the cause and effect of certain sexual behaviours. Most men like the one you allude to don't lie because she is already too horny for her to reject him and he knows it. Some of these dudes will flat out tell women about their 5 other situationships and girl number 6 will want a piece of that pie. You were almost right about one thing, the comment about loins. When women's loins are too wet for their brains to be sober there is no amount of logic or common sense that can persuade her otherwise. And lastly, men do advise each other. Pretty sure you've heard of "stay away from single mothers". Fit, feminine and friendly. "Don't be her clean-up man". I mean what is this video and channel if not advice? What it seems like to me is, advice that threatens women's future options because of their past stupidity is not welcome by women. Women would rather our advice be about pandering to women's whims and other shit. Replace "advice" with "indoctrinate" because that's what I think women want men's spaces to sound like, an indoctrination camp for men to be more open to dealing with fefails.

[@itumelengmahaole5890]

You can't be sending money for an outfit,nails and such things on the first date! Dude we're basically strangers 🤷🏾‍♂️