Txiv Cov Lus Foom Tub Thiaj Nyob Tsev Laus. 7/16/24

[@TheLynierose]

Not loving your parents is the biggest Karma and fast…love them if you have kids it like a circle

[@roseanimetor8157]

I hope the Millennial generation changes this old traditional mindset and loves both sons and daughters the same.

[@yeevue7322]

Yog kawg peb cov niam cov txiv yeej hlub lawv cov tub tshaj, txhua dollar nyiaj lawv tseg rau lawv cov tub xwb, tab sis peb cov ntxhais tsis pom ib dollar li.

[@genuanneli]

NOT TRUE

[@yermoua8685]

Tsis hlub tej laus ces kev npam yeej muaj tiag2 nawb mog

[@nkaujsaiszimwang6990]

Yog lawm os 😊

[@Kai-t5h]

Peb niam peb txiv lawv yeej hlub lawv cov tub tshaj kuv niam tus tub ces niaj hnub pw haus yeeb thiab nyob noj nyob pw twb g pab nws ua ib txoj hauj lwm los lawv yeej zoo siab tshaj os ho yus khwv22thiab muab ua rau nws noj xwb lo zoo li nws twb g hlub yus li tiag

[@chorlee6835]

Tu siab tshaj peb ua neeg nyob tub ki yog yus yug ib yam tub thiab ntxhais los yog yus yug kuv tsis nkag siab tias cas muaj ib txhia Niam thiab txiv pheej hlub cov tub ntau dua ntxhais nws tsis yog kev ncaj ncees!

[@crystalxiong735]

Tiam no tsis tsim nyog niam txiv yuav nyab rau tej tub li lawm. Kuv hnov ntau case mas yeej yog tim tus nyab ntau xwb. Qhov uas tim ob tus laus mas yog qhov tsawg. Very good story. Thank you for sharing. Thiab hais tau zoo kawg.

[@Dleeyaj]

If these parents are good parents they would never foom their kids but let karma do it's job. I can only imagine how kus kes they are. I would never burden my kids and make them take care of me. I told myself that once my kids are married they need to move out and luve their life.

[@ibobpebplaub9354]

The parents give so much money to these kids. You give zero to your kids that's why you feel nothing.

[@kuvthiabkojchannel1554]

Cov Xeeb Ntxw tseem ntse dua tseem paub ntshai dua li cov tub Nyab

[@xaavsimkhaab214]

Cov miv tub miv ntxhai noog ua kev kawm os mos.

[@HuJi-s1d]

เราก็เสียใจเหมือนเธอ พ่อแม่เราไม่ชอบสามีเรา เขาไม่ชอบและไม่รักเรา😢 แต่พี่สาวเราและสามีเขา พ่อแม่เรารักมาก 😢

[@kaoxiong6148]

You can only reap what you sow…😩! It’s all the father’s fault in the beginning…sad…!

[@BeaSong-d3g]

Sister u should nt feel bad about it since your dad create the problem. The core problem is your parents create it to influence your brothers to become bad person. History repeat itself until one individual learned how to respect n love.

[@maimoua1371]

💯 agrees

[@yhyh3788]

Pppppppko

[@nyc594]

Yes. Our parents who are supposed to love their children unconditionally continues to curse their children, that has to change. Some of our parents don’t realize what they ask their children to do sometimes is not doable. Now you have to work not just one person but two then adding yourself as the caretaker of a parent who is not mobile takes on another stress of responsibility. You are putting your children in a tough situation and having them choose between their parent or their wife and children. Cursing your children you are only cursing yourself.

[@nkaujsaiszimwang6990]

😮😮😮 wow you really think that. I think people should start respecting the elders especially your parents if you want blessings. So god bless you

[@mkgreenluv]

Agreed. No one knows how it is unless they have this responsibility. Sometimes the elders don’t make it easy for you to care for them either. The curse has to stop. Perhaps, they’ve not cared for their parents in this day and age so they’ve not realized the hardships involved yet, demand to be taken care of because they’ve raised you.

[@kuvxwb11]

Tej laus txoj mi kev uas cia cia siab rau cov tub es nim hlub hlub cov tub tsis hlub cov ntxhais os....pom tsis pom. Txog thawm kawg hos mus nrog tus ntxhais nyob paus txaj muag.

[@DhjkFghj-zz7di]

Tus muam koj zaj no ua cas yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj

[@vangyang4118]

The way your Father treated you, he must have been worse to his daughter-in-laws

[@pomegrants7448]

Tsi txhob tu sab rua koj txiv vim nuav yog ib txuj cai kws ntau tug tseem nsteeg. Nwg nuav peb paub lawm ces peb coj txawv hab hlub peb cov mivnyuam tuab yaam.

[@kuvthiabkojchannel1554]

Cov laus ces cov tub cov ntxhai yog cov lawv yug lawv Yuav tsum hlub

[@yerchang1633]

Sorry but not sorry when parents choose to love their sons more! Being a parent we have our favorite child but we loves each and everyone the same. We do not know what our future and their will be. It’s sad in our Hmong communities when we, lady, are born as a girl. We don’t have a say until now in this age.

[@colleenchan9872]

Cia txoj neej neeg no rau cov niam thiab txiv pheej hlub hlub tub tseg cov ntxhais ua kev kawm yuav tau hlub cov laus thiab cov ntxhais os mog..kev npam muaj tiag nawb thiab npam sai heev ov es yuav tsum paub fwm thiab hlub cov laus...

[@ncouazooxwbya1552]

Cuag li koj tus nyab & nus tsis txawj laus li os yom! Nobody know what future hold!!

[@xailee1235]

Hmoob os hmoob aw cas twb npam2 tag lawm los cas tseem siab phem2 ua luaj li os tu siab tshaj plaws li os peb nim yog ib tug me ntxhais es tu2 siab li os peb cov me ntxhais es peb nyias nim muaj nyias ib txoj me kev tu siab tshaj plaws li os.

[@MsLizard06]

Tiam no ces... Ntxhais hlub niam tais thiab yawg txiv tshaj li lawm os. I don't understand why they keep on hoping for their sons to love them.

[@meemeeh33]

It's not just our parents. If someone have loved us whole heartedly and in the end. We don't love them and disrespect them in any way, karma gets us. Your parents loved your brothers a lot until they hit old age and they no longer wanted them is cruel.

[@tubhmoobhmoob2944]

Yog ib qho tu siab

[@youwatchme3631]

Tim koj 2 tug nyab, yog nyob mus hlub niamtais yawm txiv kom npam tus nyab ho

[@nkaujntse5196]

Sad that hmong families lives are being destroyed by their live savings. You are not alone sister. Many of us experienced similar situations as well. Most important is to love with or without expectations.

[@kylesmommy26]

I have to say I hope that we Hmong parents change their way of thinking that the son will love them and want them when they are old and can’t do anything…but in reality the sons won’t want them…it’s the daughter who will take them and care for them. I hope we Hmong will change about this.

[@CouaYang-fw8fq]

So sad to continue to hear stories of sons don’t want their parents. 😢😢

[@YangXue4]

That's only half the story.... A big part of the issue is the daughter-in-laws. The westernize way of life is not very forgiving to our elderly. It just so happens that women in general are more likely to adopt the nuclear family lifestyle.

[@lovetoplaywithyou3530]

The husband will not accept the wife parents too so it’s both way

[@monkeybanana9269]

​@@YangXue4: If the sons are too lazy to nurse and care for their parents, why blame the outsiders that were never raised by them? Absolute nonsense. Problem with most Hmong is they are way to stubborn to change or adjust when circumstances change. If not for their strict religious beliefs too, it might make it easier to receive help.

[@YangXue4]

@@lovetoplaywithyou3530 I've heard multiple stories (from Hmong Story) where the husband has taken in the in law(s). This story would serve as one. And yes, there are cases where the sons don't do their part. That is a disgrace. But all I was saying is that in a lot of the examples we are hearing involves a nyab who is ousting her in laws because they are aging and no longer fully able to take care of themselves to her standards. Examples in this story where the nyab is telling her husband and children to be wary of her in laws because they will catch what they have is absurd. Everyone of us will when we get older. And true there is a argument to be made against Hmong traditions. But that is what tradition is. Once it change it's no longer tradition. They are used to what they were brought up with. It's not fair for us to expect them to fully immerse themselves into western norms.

[@xuethao3108]

Hoyo tsev neeg no ces xyov yuav npam txog tsawg txheej tsawg tiam li lau

[@jasminexiong3603]

Tos tej laus foom tej tub nyab los tej niam tej txiv yeej hlub tej tub nyab tshaj, yeej tsim nyog tej tub nyab yuav los lub tej laus. Tsis hlub tej laus,tej laus lub kua muag poob lawv thiaj foom yus. Nyias yug tau nyias ib pab txog yus yus thiaj paub. Hlub tej laus yus tej thiaj lub yus nawb.

[@niammeejvaj2980]

😢😢😢😭

[@valerieslifeadventure3209]

Tusiab tshaj plaws yog ib tug ntxhais, peb niam thiab txiv yeej hlub cov tub tshaj li. Peb cov ntxhais ces yeej muab tso puag tom qab . Tsis tau kev hlub, kev pab li. Tabsis cov hlub niam thiab txiv yog cov ntxhais xwb. Cov niam thiab txiv zoo li no ces tab tom ntxim mag cov tub nyab tsim xwb lau. Yug menyuam hlub tsis equal ces mag npam li no lau😞😞🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️tabsis yuav tau hlub tej laus mas..especially the sons.

[@BANNA_007-r6q]

3 side to this story

[@pajthao4813]

Tsis ua zoo rau cov laus ces neej yeej tsis zoo qhov twg li os chim ntxub tejlaus npaum cas los txhob ua rau lawv poob lub kuamuag thiaj tsis npam mog

[@nyc594]

There’s always two sides of the story. Would like to hear the other side.

[@cocopha5778]

Npam tiag tiag laiv yom

[@lovinguniversity216]

Old tradition new tradition I don’t CARE! If I was the daughter I would take my parents in.

[@amazinggrace8136]

If you think retirement home is bad, you don’t want to see what hell will be like! Only Jesus can save you from your sins.

[@douayang1435]

Koj ces kawg mus church mus lees txim seb puas dim kev npam xwb mas. Cov laus los yug me nyuam los ris kev npam xwb es zoo dab tsi thiab nawj.

[@maithao2694]

We are similar, bt I didn't get to take care, my Mommy vim nkawv niag tub siab phem coj kv nkawv khiav mus nyob different city lawm😢. Kv niam nkawv ho muaj kv& nkawv tus tub xwb 2leeg xwb tu siab tshaj li.😢

[@missysmart8620]

Lesson leaned for all sons uas tsis taus txiv hlub lawm niam thiab txiv vim ntshai2 tsam tus mes poj niam khiav. Nco tias poj niam muaj ntaus tabsis niam txiv ces tas raus ob tug no lawm.

[@zonglee5700]

Nyob zoo os sister may Vang aw cas koj pheej tso koj cov neej neeg dab neeg tsawg2 lawm es koj khwv22 los cas tsis txhua tuaj hais ntau2 zaj lawm na los xa22 mloog li os ❤❤❤❤❤

[@isabellexiong227]

Au cas npam ualuaj li

[@caaspasvang7427]

Cov me nyuam xab maim no tsi ntseeg ces phem tiag rau cov laus ces npam tiag os sawv daws yuav tsum paub hais tias noob neej yeej tawm nrog ntshav tsuas ntawm leej niam ob ceg los niam nrhab ceg ces tawm niam qhaws ceg ces kawg tuag xwb es nco ntsoov tsi txhob ua phem rau ntej niam tej txiv nawv mog

[@LisaLee-k1c]

Kuv mas niaj hnub ntshai tswg tsam ces ib hnub twg tau tus nyab zoo li no xwb tiag lub neej tom ntej ces tsi paub li os lawv aw thaum laus lawm es ntshe yuav tau taug txoj kev no os

[@genuanneli]

That's YOUR story and YOUR one sided lesson. There are parents out there who only love and support their daughter and son-in-law and neglect to give the same love and support to their son and daughter in law. The lesson to be learned here is, parents need to love and support son/daughter in law and daughter/son in law equally.

[@evabhmongocadventure9831]

Sorry for the father but he’s not loving the daughter the same. His son’s cursed was his fault too.

[@thaevang5369]

Qhov ko twb qhia tau tias muaj vij sub vij sw loj nawb.

[@myyearmouanoutoua6908]

Cov laus no los ..nyuam qhuav phim xwb mas . Cov hmoob laus ..tsuas hlub cov tub thiab nyab xwb ..yeej tsis hlub cov ntxhais ib hlos li

[@nkaujmoobleeg]

See, when you put all of your eggs in one basket, this is what your parents get! For your 2 brothers, yuav kawg tsuab quav noj maam le taag nwg sim neej. I dont feel bad for the parents nor the brothers. Wearing gloves folding your dad's clothes? Come on! Your mom was eating dirt? That was going to be the biggest karma on your brothers. They deserve each other...

[@kellielee9829]

So dumb. There is nothing wrong with using the same washing machine. What a lame excuse! Hate people like that 😤

[@neejkhuamsiabyang2944]

Nyuam qhuav haum Rau tej niam tej txiv xwb thiab os .peb niam peb txiv los ua ib yam Li Thiab tej tub yuav Tau tsev mas niam thiab txiv nim yuav me txiv ntoo mus Rau lawv tej tub cog hos yus cov uas ntxhais yuav Tau Vaj tsev mas yeej tsis pom lawv TSOb txiv ntoo pub Rau yus cov niag ua ntxhais no cog mas . lawv tej nyiaj txhua tsav yam mas lawv nim VAM thiab cia Rau lawv cov me tub xwb .tab sis lawv twb tsis paub lawv Tus tub twb mus yuav Tau tej poj niam sab nrauv los es twb yuav los ntxub los Tsim lawv ntag los lawv twb tsis paub Li . Muab xa los tu..siab kawg kuv thov kom lwm Tiam muaj tiag kuv yuav tsis yug los ua lawv ib tug ntxhais lawm .

[@maimoua1371]

The OG hmong people ces 90% yeej nrog koj tus parent no 6 tib txhais number of shoes. Koj txiv g yog 1 tug neeg zoo tas2 yog nws zoo txawm koj 2 tug nyab g hlub nkawv los twb g tsim nyog koj txiv foom2 nws 2 tug tub bam tas ua ntej thaum nws twb g tau tuag .you father created cursed 4 his whole family

[@xaiher9236]

lwm hnub ce koj tu nu tu tub es muab nkawm lub tsev muag tsi qhia rau koj tu nu nkawm tu tub lo yuav tua txoj kev npam ntawm ib yam nkau li koj nu thiab tiag ce yuav npam ib txheej dhau ib txheej ib tiam dhau ib tiam li tiag

[@chuvang5487]

Twb muaj sob lus haistias tsev neeg noj mov zaub tsuag nyob sib hlub zoo dua tsev neeg muaj noj muaj haus rov sib ntxub. Hwm ntuj thiaj tau ntuj ntoo, hlub niam hlub txiv thiaj li yuav tau lub neej zoo. Hmoob twb xav tau cov tub dua cov ntxhais thiab niam txiv tsuas hlub cov tub xwb tseg cov ntxhais ces hnub no tau mus nyob tsev laus txhob tu siab. Hmoob ruam mékas twb ntse heev cas tseem paub tsis txog tej no thiab ? Muaj tej thaj chaw nej khawb tob zog ces yeej muaj dej li ntawd tsis yog tim tus tuag ntawd ua.

[@menavue9633]

From my stand point, yes, parents needs to stop cursing their kids. Ur Father did create the problem, however, fathers back in the 80s are very strict and has high expectations and demands of lots of respect and love from their children. I dont see how ur 2nd bro received ur dad’s curse. Its logic that we shouldnt trust anyone with what we have including our own kids. Ur brother did it to himself and blame ur Father due to fearing he might receive the curse one day. About ur older brother, it seems about right that he did receive ur father’s curse. Maybs because ur father was living with him and he took ur dad out of the house without ur parents permission. Though ur brothers mean well, due to the society we live in today, all families needs to survive financially too. And the curse falls quickly upon him because it was his house ur dad stayed. He had more authority to allow or not allow ur dad to stay. Im glad u guys took in ur mom. I believe there was a lot of misunderstanding between the Father and son and nyab. We live in America, we are educated to use mask and grove when necessary. However, elderly would take this as an insult. There is nothing wrong if people use gloves to fold ur clothes. I believe lack of education on both ends that led to big dramas. If someone was to tell ur dad, ‘Dad, its okay they use gloves to fold ur clothes. As long they get the job done and help u, that should be fine.’ No support of encouragement for both parties to accept and adapt to each other.

[@Hmoobsibhlub2022]

Hmong culture really no good doesn’t matter if son and daughter need to be love equally and the son and daughter in law no good yus muaj tub thiab yuav npam thiab yus cov tub yuav ua rau yus os

[@akulathao4654]

I love how hmong og's alway told us not to be mad but why this dirty old man fooming his boy's for?

[@koumoua2980]

#1. Too bad that your parents chose to love your 2 brothers more than you. Hmoob people need to stop loving the boys more. #2. Your one brother and your Nyab hlob tseem yuav npam loj tshaj qhov nkawv tau txais ko ntxiv vim nkawv tau siv koj niam thiab koj txiv nkawv cov nyiaj thiab noj koj niam koj txiv nkawv lub zog ntau dhau lawm. Ntxias koj niam thiab koj txiv nkawv zov, zov lawv cov menyuam loj tag es ua siab phem2 thiaj npam nkawv li ko. Kev nkawv tseem tshuav ntau heev li.

[@timlor1789]

A story filled with bad decisions that has nothing to do with karma. Your dad wasn't so kind to begin with, seemed like the A$$hole type. I would never send my mom to a nursing home, but I seen how tough it was for my uncle to caretake for my grandma who suffered from alzheimers. Bad family chemistry from the get go.

[@maylovang1880]

Tej tub tej nyab no ua cas lub siab yuav phem ua luaj li no ned yus twb tsis txawj xav hais tias yus yuav txawj laus thiab no nab.cov tub cov nyab siab phem li no mas thov kom khaum loj tshaj lau kom nws yav tuag los tuag tsis tau mas thiaj li tsim nyog os, thov kom txhob khaum tus tub xwb thov kom khaum niag nyab thiab mas thiaj tsim nyog qhov lawv ua phem rau yus niam thiaj yus txiv. Siab phem npaum li no thaum twb pom ib tug khsum lawm mam los thov txim mas tsis txhob zam txim kiag li Cia kom khaum nws thiaj paub

[@BeaSong-d3g]

Tim yus tus tub ua tsis tau txiv thiab Tim yus ua niam ua txiv tsis ncaj ncees xwb. Txhob tu siab kiag nawb. Nco ntshoov tias hnub twg tej tub yuav nyab lawn ces tub tsis paub nws niam nws txiv yog leegtwg lawn aw vim tuag rau pojniam ob ceg lawn aw.

[@leelaiyah789]

Nco ntsoov tias cov tub coj li no ces yog niam txiv tsis txawj cob tsis txawj qhia menyuam kom txawj hlub txawj hwm cov laus. Thats what happen when you spoil your brats too much. Tsev neeg foom tub, tub foom xeeb ntxwv npam tag tiam. Dont marry this family.