FtM Airport Nightmare! (True Story)

[@mordechai_rotwein]

guy: has chest tsa: F E M A L E ?

[@muffin._.milk.]

s dennis hahaha, M E

[@sennacookie5043]

s dennis A space is missing between the 'L' and the 'E'

[@muffin._.milk.]

SennaCookie omg I didn’t notice... perfectionists unite!

[@overseasonedlamb5604]

SennaCookie now that I’ve seen this reply, that missing space is bothering

[@scrivenger_grim821]

Response: not by choice, but y e s ? *P R O B L E M ?*

[@Beefareeno]

I have an osteomy (bag attached to my side for poo to go into) and every time I go to the airport, I get scanned and patted. But the WORST was some old guy thought I was smuggling drugs in it, because my bag was full of poo. And he MADE ME TAKE IT OFF AND EMPTY IT. And just so you know, mine are a one use bag. And I only bring a few extras because of insurance. And my bag wasn’t with me in the back room. So I just stood there, covering my stomach, with poop leaking out onto my clothes... mortified. Sobbing. Let’s just say I got a free ticket after that for the severe incompetence of that airliner.

[@oldchannel3098]

I would have sued that old dude

[@JimmiAlli]

Oh gosh - what an awful old dude. He should be let go.

[@dionesdisciple3329]

That's so fucked up. Omg. I'm so sorry you had to experience that.

[@skylarjaxx2399]

That wouldn't ended there. That was terrible.

[@takeuchithere622]

im so sorry for you dear, you were very brave

[@notourz]

My mom when someone calls me sir: *pointing at me* FEMALE

[@ev4728]

OOF

[@qquinnifer]

SAME

[@Bee-ew8mm]

S👏a👏m👏e

[@heliosolum]

OOF many big yeets to you friend, rip

[@kyjo9618]

BRUHHHH I FELT THATTTT :C

[@tearfilledrum]

him: "it doesnt sound like the end of the world," me, a trans male: YES IT DOES WTF HOW DID YOU SURVIVE

[@samarsac4907]

gosh same

[@kingcharizardakaCX]

Mood. One time I went on vacation and I wasn’t out and the guy asked me if I was hiding something in my chest because he thought I was a guy and it was so hard to spit the words out that I was a girl.

[@lulolie]

@@kingcharizardakaCX ouch

[@serena8942]

Yes! I didn’t realize how heavily I had been breathing through the whole story until he said that and I noticed how tense I’d been 😅

[@C0lumbidae]

i think if that happened to me i might have just started crying

[@niccidean2659]

I’m a sis (not sure how you spell it) grandma 👵, even I can understand this must have been a horrific experience for you, I bet you wish the ground had opened up & swallowed you at the point. I do love watching your videos, you are indeed a very handsome man 😘

[@flissfloss915]

The word you're trying to spell is "Cis", it comes from the word "Cisgender" 😊

[@niccidean2659]

imsad andlow thank you so much 😊, I’m learning, slowly! I googled cisgender & now I understand even more, it’s all about being educated & I’m trying 🤗. Ty is great to learn from 👍🏻

[@loup4119]

@@niccidean2659 You must be a great grandma too !

[@biscuitsanddiscontent317]

You are so precious please be my grandma.

[@MagicVodca]

Nicci Dean omg you're so sweet!! i love you

[@luclaurent5131]

In Texas a tsa agent mistook my binder for a bullet-proof vest

[@saravus99]

Luc Laurent That would actually be pretty cool...

[@SkaiDragon]

In ATL they thought the same first time. I was wearing a new binder. Now, when I travel I have older binders that are softer.

[@boyo5455]

How

[@luclaurent5131]

@@boyo5455 the tsa agent saw something strange on the monitor and having no better guesses for what it could be, he doubtfully asked if I was wearing a bullet-proof vest. I told him no and explained to him what it was. He was surprisingly understanding considering it was Texas, but he still outed me when he got a female tsa agent to pat me down

[@farmerzonly]

metal

[@kenji1895]

So according to my parents, I have been "misgendered" many times at restaurants. Those small accidents make me really happy, but my parents get extremely upset about this. They almost got a waiter fired once, so I called back the manager when they were somewhere else and explained to him the situation. And not gonna lie, it looks quite odd when a 13-year-old (looking 7, my haircut was too long and I have that classic Asian bowl cut look) looking like a mix of both genders and a mop requests to talk to your manager. weird experience, really.

[@luluy7578]

Same lol

[@Nersius]

Is it just the haircut? If not (and if it keeps up), being in your 20's and getting mistaken for a HSer is ace AF.

[@Artemis1901]

It was really nice of you to get the waiter out of trouble. At 13, I would have never been brave enough to talk to the manager.

[@poolpaws]

employee: WAIT BOY OR GIRL? me: *shaking* *spaghetti falls out of my shorts*

[@TamaoMizuki]

lmao 😂

[@autisticnomad5421]

Them: "Male or female?" Me: "no." (One reason among many why I just don't fly anymore. Although not the biggest reason by far. I have a bronchogenic cyst so flying is a death risk.)

[@andrewamende3338]

Boy or Girl? Me: Bagel

[@JamieChenoweth]

Employee: Boy or girl? Me: Goth

[@jaydee6574]

Please don't actually answer that kind of stuff, just be helpful to the employees and say if you are biologically female or male

[@wanted__fundaddy5348]

Tip for trans guys: If you’re passing and they’re patting down your chest, tell them it’s gynecomastia. And if they ask what that is just say “health condition due to hormones, i have extra tissue in my chest so I’m wearing a compression vest to make it look normal and keep it how it supposed to be”.

[@poeticpotato]

@Randall Paquet My personal go to is "I was born with a hormonal imbalance" or "my body doesnt produce enough natural testosterone" when explaining why I have a chest, why I take hormones, and why I look more feminine in older photos. Everyone thus far hasnt asked what causes the imbalance, they just sort of accept it and get embarrassed for asking about my personal health. You could try that? Much easier to say than an actual medicial term lol

[@madgadgetss]

@@poeticpotato the best thing about saying this is that you're technically not even lying!

[@bonkkus]

@@madgadgetss I love things where your not technically lying. Makes me not feel guilty and I don't have to get into awkward situations trying to explain something that is a totally new idea to them.

[@finallyrob4231]

Thanks for that tip. I am taking out for a pat down way too often when I travel (obviously outside of pandemic)

[@isaac-runsonspite5218]

If i'm ever in that situation that's what i'm gonna say

[@shanec3098]

The scanner at the airport flagged me because the people operating it clicked female and the machine read me as male. Gender affirming machine. 10/10

[@Hinona.]

We stan that machine 👏

[@absolutefuckingchaos3785]

That's beautiful

[@chickennuggets3186]

trans ppl will b safe in the robot uprising

[@misomie]

I wonder if this happens for me cause I get flagged almost every time I go through security.

[@ahhh4117]

@@chickennuggets3186 This is great news I love robots

[@ebr7774]

This summer I was going home from Greece and the border security officer looked at me and then my passport as I was visibly anxious because I hadn’t had my name changed just yet (and already 7 good months on T so I didn’t looked anything like my passport) and after just a few secondes he smiled at me and said “have a good flight sir”. He made my day !

[@lemon-fv7bm]

Peter Brandsma this makes me so happy

[@mrbells8998]

to be fair if you are going to be changing your looks so much you really should be changing your pasport, security would have every right to stop and detain you for questioning and proof. yu are very lucky xxxx glad you are well

[@guy136]

Amazing!

[@kareemxo3]

❤️❤️

[@eyesofmuffin]

thank you for warming my heart with this story.

[@ohlamaria697]

"FEMALE!" omg I'm sorry I'm laughing but the way you tell the story it's so cute. Sounds like your worst nightmare and also sooo rude.

[@Oscze]

María Bebito um first of all it’s not rude to guess a gender sjw

[@ohlamaria697]

@@Oscze it's rude to acknowledge that someone it's trans and scream the gender they were born with for no practical reasons.

[@Oscze]

María Bebito first of all he was 2 months on testosterone so he/she wouldn’t look like a man he/she would look like a female still

[@Mezjo]

You guys are weird, he didn't spoke well in English, and might have understood that there is a problem with him doing the patting, so he yelled for female. Also they probably wanted to do this fast so that was faster. Would it be better if the guy was more descreet, sure, but then time and language barrier. Looking nervously probably didn't help., lessons learned experience gained. One must be ready for things like that occurring from time to time. One should also be never afraid of what one is, where one came from, and what road lead one to this point in time.

[@Oscze]

welp thanks for the attention :)

[@kryldon8146]

Background: I’m a trans guy. I wear a binder but I don’t pack. I was coming back from Guatemala one time and had to go through one of those big tube scanners during security check. The machine goes off, the attendant looks at her screen weird, makes me go through it again. At this point my anxiety is increasing dramatically and I’m thinking that I’m about to be outed in front of the people I’m traveling with (I‘m stealth) as well as all of the strangers around, which was absolutely mortifying. Just as I’m thinking this, I hear the attendant say to her partner, “it’s around his crotch!” And it was at that point that I went into full panic mode. The other TSA person came up to me and told me that he’d have to pat me down. He asked if I’d like to have it done in front of everyone or in a private room, so I opted for the private room in case I had to come out to him. So he leads me off to this little room. I’m scared, one of the people I’m traveling with is in there with us, the guy seems chill but I’m totally freaking out. The first thing he says to me is, “hey, you’re not wearing a money belt, are you?” And I realized then that I’d forgotten to take off my money belt. That’s all it was. He still had to pat me down, but he didn’t “find” anything else. That’s what I call a close one.

[@lucas6382]

kryldon wow 😂

[@fuckinwhat7626]

What is a money belt? Sorry english is my 2nd language some words i do not know

[@jacksonbutler1828]

@@fuckinwhat7626 man, im english and i dont know what a money belt is

[@fuckinwhat7626]

@@jacksonbutler1828 BRUH lmao

[@semigaylord3176]

@@jacksonbutler1828 me too, man

[@hsjsnsjzjzshjsksjsjs4220]

I never went to an airport. But when I went to church with my friends it was new. My pastor knew me before when I was known as a girl. But he realalized that I was trans. And asked if I want to be known as a he. I said yes. It was a very exepting church. I still go to this church. Me and my pastor have figured things out. To help me pass. He even got me my first binder. He is amazing. And I am very grateful for him to exept me.

[@whotookfrvck]

aw thats really great

[@hsjsnsjzjzshjsksjsjs4220]

@@whotookfrvck aw thanks

[@evieh6900]

He sounds really nice!

[@hsjsnsjzjzshjsksjsjs4220]

@@evieh6900 he is

[@ev4728]

He sounds so cool, every one should try to be as accepting as him

[@420fruitloop_]

I am a pre transition ftm and have never experienced really being called a male, only on three occasions, I got called sir twice and a him once. It is such a good feeling, I wish it would happen more often.

[@miles6601]

as a fellow pre-transition ftm miles I can relate to this comment

[@roroo]

i am closeted debating whether im ftnb or ftm and i was called they and he before and.. that rlly is such a good feeling 🥺

[@darkshark320]

Keep your head up lad.

[@kieranbutt798]

I had the same sort of experience with my packer at a music festival over here in The Netherlands. I was pre T and still had my female ID on me. And I was taken out of the normal queue and put in the "random selection" queue. I was then patted down by a really nice lady, because my ID said female. So I felt uncomfortable when she touched me, and when she reached my groin, she looked up and said: "You're trans aren't you? I'm so sorry, I should've sent a guy over. I'll get my colleague." So this guy patted me down ever so slightly and went "Dude, you look more buffed up than I ever did. Have a great day and enjoy the festival activities!" Weirdest moment ever and my ex-gf reminds me of the moment every so often😂

[@OhItsNekoAgain]

Hey, at least they were very polite :D

[@willow531]

This made me smile so big :)

[@justmart4455]

This b the world I wanna live in

[@TreespeakerOfTheLand]

I had something alike happen. I'm a Dutch transwoman and pass often, but my ID is quite... pre-transition. However, when I voted a few weeks ago, the guy looked at my ID, my passing face and just handed me the voting materials.

[@adrianzenmiller7749]

I wanna live in the Netherlands! :D

[@shortjohnsilver4605]

Five minutes into random patdown and chill and the TSA agent gives you this look

[@samuelelias3781]

Lol the look your pfp is making?

[@Parker-jp4bm]

A trans MTF friend of mine and I were going through security at Boston Logan. She was literally asked to remove her silicon breast inserts in front of everyone and had her hands swabbed for drugs. She was humiliated and I was left furious. They didn’t ask me to remove my packer or anything, but I’m still really angry at the situation. I’m sorry this happened to you, it happens to the best of us..

[@cattyghostly7414]

Fuck...Couldn't they have given her at least some privacy and respect.

[@anni9666]

What the hell??!! Seriously, what is wrong with people... Where is the respect and privacy...

[@hawthornetherose2295]

Sounds right. I get the full pat down at Logan every time I fly.

[@linkin2363]

It's best to go through TSA without any foreign objects in your clothes or on your body. I understand it might make you dysphoric, and they definitely should have given her some privacy, but it's understandable that they did that. Them thinking that breast inserts = drugs makes sense, especially with how anal TSA is about literally everything. Remember kids, BE SAFE and BE PRACTICAL. For your own comfort and ease, it is best to not use a packer or stuff your chest with anything other than fabric.

[@Parker-jp4bm]

Linkin I totally agree, I haven’t risked anything since then and I got top surgery too. But it’s still pretty sucky going through a whole day without the “necessities” you know? Especially in a very public place where you’re going to be around a lot of people for a long time.

[@fionaclayton253]

BIG TRANS TIP: Getting TSA Pre-Check prevents you from having to go through the big scanner and just go through a simple metal detector. It works great every time and you should have no trouble with the agents. It does cost more but is definitely worth the cost. I hope this helps someone!

[@misomie]

Oh I'll prolly have to start doing this when I travel again. I already get stopped constantly and that was before being on T

[@thatgaltabitha]

I had just gone from around 165lbs to 120lbs in 6 months. It was during a stressful semester in college and I hadn’t taken time to shop for new smaller clothes. Went through the airport and my pants were so loose, especially since I was required to take my belt off, that I was trying to keep one hand on them so they wouldn’t fall down in the scanner. They must have thought my actions looked odd and suspicious so I was ordered to have a pat down. I kept tryin to yank my pants back up in the process but at one point the TSA lady’s actions caused my pants to come down and I essentially mooned her. Easily one of the most awkward and uncomfortable experiences of my life.

[@nintendoman3761]

Thatgaltabitha rip

[@sunflowercatie]

The worst thing that ever has to me by tsa was they asked me to remove my hearing aids so I did and couldn’t understand what was being said to me so I asked if the lady knew sign language and she’s shook her head no and I then started crying and my dad was right behind me to it made me uncomfortable I need my hearing aids to hear. I also am pretty sure they can’t ask you to remove your hearing aids

[@tofutii]

yeah that's against TSA protocol you can report that

[@momin9739]

jesus christ that sounds horrible (and also really unprofessional)

[@rensellars5972]

Sami Seidl I’m so sorry

[@mist3146]

"Take out your hearing aids so I can talk to you" That's terrible, but the thought of is is quite funny to be honest. Whoever did that is seriously an idiot

[@whoopsydaizy]

Wh... what did they think would happen when you removed your hearing aids?

[@SavannahLeighandMeredithRose]

I think this is such a bad problem with TSA because they are so strict with "females only pat down females" and "males only pat down males" to protect their employees from accusations that gender fluidity and trans-ness never crosses their minds from a policy standpoint. Employee trainings, policy changes, and even allowing customers to choose who pats them down could prevent some of this.

[@KayKashi]

Savannah Leigh the amount of ppl acusimg someone of touching them vs trans travelers makes that a mute issue. I’m trans and %50 of my training when I went to work at the airport was how to avoid touching ppl in any way that may even seem uncomfortable.

[@SavannahLeighandMeredithRose]

​@@KayKashi I think your training reflects Ty's story though--if 50% of your training was how to avoid touching people in any way that made them uncomfortable, it explains why the man might have freaked out when he realized he was trans and it's probably a policy made because of previous accusations. Touching a cis males chest is probably not an issue, but touching a chest with breasts is often deemed "uncomfortable" to most who have them (cis or trans). But your airport must have been amazing; I have been patted down nearly every time I have flown and it was...uh...very thorough and uncomfortable.

[@KayKashi]

Savannah Leigh yep, hearts field Jackson international airport in Atlanta GA. You take classes on how to properly assist people without touching them. I thought it was overkill. But the amount of foreigners and women who will call your manager if they think your “thinking inappropriate”. I don’t work there anymore lol. But I still love traveling with them.

[@SavannahLeighandMeredithRose]

@@KayKashi Sweet! I'll be visiting that airport soon for my honeymoon!

[@Xeno0210]

eXCUSE mE I’d LIKE a TRaNs Man TO pAt ME dowN lol

[@robbieross509]

Ooh boy I got a little story. So in September I had my top surgery, and I had to fly outta state because insurances and stuff. Well flying there I’m in the tube, it goes off cause I’m passing as male but my chest reads like I’m strapping. So I get patted down, no biggie had to do that plenty of times throughout my transition. So I get to Florida, have my surgery, and am there 10 days. I get to the airport and my mom who was traveling with me had arranged a wheelchair for me. Originally the airport staff said that with a wheelchair I wouldn’t have to go through the tube, but I do. Whatever, I tell them I can’t lift my arms that high seeing as I had just had surgery. The scanner goes off again because of the ace bandage, and this time when they pat me down the guy flagged for more men and took me into a small room while my moms looking petrified. I’m told to take my shirt off in front of two TSA agents, and almost to take my bandage off until I explained what surgery I had. Kind of terrifying actually.

[@KayKashi]

Robbie Ross that fucking sucks

[@Nuvolenny]

I'm sorry for u

[@YuubiTimberwolf]

The hell, you should just explain it and show a sorta confirmation paper or so for the surgery.... not this thing, thats scary

[@ItsAllNunya]

YOOOOOO i would have had a heart attack, them tryna take the bandage off! tsa agents arent even trained for real situations so idk what i expected but you'd think they'd recognize a surgery site cover-up.

[@CreationsBy]

That sounds awful!!

[@Vinnehkins]

My grandpa has a favorite story to tell: He has metal replacement knees and carries his card which is supposed to get him a free wanding instead of going through the machine. TSA wouldn't have it. They made him step through multiple times despite him showing the card and saying he knew he was going to set off the alarm because he has metal in his knees. After about the third time and having nothing to remove, he steps through and they wand him. THEN they decide to do a pat down. My already embarrassed, overweight (think jolly Santa) grandpa assumes the position and let's the guy pat him down. Well APPARENTLY my grandpa's balls aren't just figuratively big, because this agent spent enough time fondling his junk for gramps to offer him a joking, "I haven't been able to get it up for years, good luck with that." Which made the guy quickly move on and let him go. TSA agent wasn't happy with being called out for his unnecessary groping. Honestly, these stories are the kind of stuff that make me not want to fly ever.

[@calamityjean1525]

"Honestly, these stories are the kind of stuff that make me not want to fly ever." Amen to that.

[@Baachan]

omg I would had cry or get angry like *points at him* "FEMALE" *points at the official* "Assho-" well, maybe not like that, but yes (?

[@AxolotlQueen]

LMAO if i had skill id animate that

[@devingodricmarsh7953]

I actually had a really affirming experience travelling from London to Sweden this summer. I forgot to take off my money belt so I got called over to be pat down. I was 6 months on T, binding and packing. And up to that point I hadn’t passed so well, so I was terrified I’d be called over to the woman. But I got patted down by a man who called me “buddy”, and it went fine and he didn’t question the binder or the packer, and then he said “thanks mate you can go now”. And I felt so awesome that I had passed even under that close scrutiny! :)

[@aahpuuh]

might also be that they had been educated about the subject before and given a way to handle us trans people at a security situation

[@moviehaus3492]

dude, that's epic

[@FuzzyElf]

@i will pimp smack you with the back of my gem A belt designed to hold and hide money. Safety precaution when travelling.

[@captainskylink5894]

Just recently my family and I were returning from a visit to the states, and we were heading through security. Now, since I'm mtf and haven't started E yet, I was wearing girly clothes but still have my deep, masculine voice. I'd just gotten through one of the whooshy detectors, when the lady on the other side asked if I'd prefer to be patted down by a woman or a man. It's probably been the best encounter I've had with that sort of thing so far, and it really made my day

[@nintendoman3761]

Captainskylink awwwww, that’s so nice to hear

[@nalabees]

something so simple can make a world of a difference. Hopefully there's more people like that lady in the future. unrelated comment: it's kind of funny how much more frequently you hear "T" said then "E" my pre t voice... just started t... 1 month post t...

[@Cucumberturnip]

You need a high IQ to get the E

[@ping4d064]

E doesn’t change your voice tho, I had to do a bunch of voice lessons

[@ping4d064]

Beached Rat it doesn’t (maybe a little bit after years on hormones but not rlly). The vocal chords thickening caused by testosterone isn’t reversible, wich is why ftm detransitioners also struggle with having deep voices. I just wanna reinforce that because it was really sad for me to face that those reports of ppl saying that estrogen completely changed their faces, voices and etc were just projections of they wish had happened and no pill would get me there

[@ky5743]

Literally just came back from the airport. Had my binder patted down. The guy and I just made eye contact, he understood, and let me go.

[@minreie]

Last time I was in an airport, they took my wheelchair away because I "look OK" I also had a 9 hour layover there so I was stuck for 9 hours without a wheelchair but they claim, it wasn't their fault because I "didn't hit my head hard enough to get a concussion". needless to say, I ended up pretty pissed off...

[@Grass-mc9ur]

Wait so they only cared if you got a concussion? Tf

[@AxolotlQueen]

SUEEEE

[@danamichel8655]

You keep opening my eyes & I've lived in San Francisco for the past 45 years! We truly don't know what others go through on a day-to-day basis. Thank you for your honesty. You make me want to be an overall more compassionate human being.

[@AutumnAryn]

"I was, a young, baby trans"

[@misfitr]

Aryn Miller a lil translet

[@seanluzdeluna8153]

Good comment! 😂

[@esppupsnkits4560]

That’s adorable to me for some reason

[@thebirdsareuptosomething4938]

Sounds like a nature documentary

[@childishboyo5215]

Aryn Miller me tho

[@Jay-gj6kn]

''i just caught you motherfuker" lol

[@seanluzdeluna8153]

Ikr! Perfect! 👌

[@eev14]

Oof.. yeah, my parent went through this when she was still transitioning, at the time on her Passport it still said 'male' so every single time they'd take her apart to talk to her and pat her down.. Honestly i remember she found it so degrading at the time. Now that she has 'female' on her passport it's no longer a problem and she doesn't have to deal with this breach of personal space anymore but i can only imagine. Being taken out of line and patted down just because your gender is 'suspicious' to them, really embarrassing and uncomfortable.

[@m0thman815]

i’m sorry, that’s really weird and kinda upsetting. i’m glad it isn’t a problem for her now though

[@liamwhitt736]

I was traveling home from California and this TSA worker stopped me and patted me down and when he got to my packer he GRABBED IT and he took me to a room and told me to take off my clothes and I panicked and I tried to explain I was trans but he wasn’t listening so I took off my shorts and pulled out my packer and he was so shook

[@whotookfrvck]

he probably thought it was a "toy" big oof hopefully he was educated afterwards

[@mirikira8632]

People can be so stupid. He cannot make you take out your packer. It is just awful.

[@melima_]

Next time you can say it's a prosthetic which it is and I think then they aren't allowed to pull that shit, but don't quote me in it, maybe research it before :)

[@vampiravoid]

Packers (and binders as far as I’m aware) are considered prosthetics and you are not at all required to show or remove them for TSA agents. You simply state that it’s a prosthetic (and it’d probably help to mention you’re trans as well) and you should be good to go.

[@zackduffy2458]

Sounds like he wanted you honestly...since he grabbed it. Thats probably why it shook him so bad when he saw what it really was. Ahole got shook like he deserved.

[@avosthyric]

"And I know it doesn't sound like the end of the world" The amount of second-hand social anxiety I'm feeling right now certainly thinks it's the end of the world, too. Oh boy.

[@maia23zade98]

I'm not trans, but I have an airport misgendering story. (I am an androgynous-looking cis female.) So, I walked into the bathroom at the Cleveland airport (I think it was Cleveland?), and this woman heading out said to me, "This is the women's restroom," and I was so stunned that all I could say was, "Yeah..." After like a second, she said, "Oh," then left. That kind of shit doesn't even affect the people who do it, yet it's so humiliating for people to question you like that. I can't even imagine your pain. :[

[@HomemadeCosplays]

I had a similar thing happen to me except im FTM, but not passing or anything. I was in the bathroom in the airport during a layover washing my hands (the women's bathrooom because of obvious reasons) and two women came in, took a look at me and started talking to eachother in swedish (my language, and we were in like turkey) about if they were in the wrong restroom and I just went "no?" in our language and I swear they looked so shocked and I just left, told my dad and laughed at the situation

[@GuacamoleKun]

I'm also a pretty androgynous female. One time a lady walked into the bathroom, saw me washing my hands, made a surprised face, turned around and walked out... and a few seconds later walked back in, looking at the floor, and went straight into a stall. She thought she had picked the wrong bathroom. I didn't even think I was looking very masc that day.

[@nintendoman3761]

I get this at least 3 times a day, this is why i never go to the bathroom in public and at school. (I’m not out as ftm)

[@okestperson6016]

I got pulled aside for wearing a pad when I was like 12 and the tsa agent patted me down because she assumed I was an adult when I, obviously, was not. Luckily my mom came to my rescue and told her off. Glad I wasn't travelling alone that time

[@cierraseghetti1195]

Like a menstrual pad? Cause my goodness that's ridiculous if so

[@TheCinnamonJ]

How do you even get in trouble for that

[@zsuzsisz9263]

Children can get pat down too

[@viupcake8062]

I got pat down once for wearing a pad as well. I was only 10 when I started my period, so I obviously looked pretty young to be wearing a pad, but still. It was really embarrassing...

[@alexwatson6530]

Exact reason I would ask for a male patdown and call them prosthetics they can't make you show a prosthetic(and yes I've looked it up, binders count in this they can't make you show or remove it), so unless they try to be illegal I get to be me and just say I have prosthetics.

[@SAS-wm2gm]

Alex Watson That's horrible.... let's hope the terrorists don't find out about the Prosthetics exception, because a prosthetic would be the perfect place to hide a small bomb.

[@redhood8141]

Ha, I didn't know that. You learn something new every day, thanks. Anyway, hope you guys are doing well

[@kali6753]

@@SAS-wm2gm now they're gonna know about it, because you wrote here. (>.

[@gabepetro358]

@@kali6753 lol. It's never going to happen , for that reason.

[@e_N_n]

Alex Watson That's crazy bc TSA made me remove my back brace as a child! They said I could smuggle drugs underneath and strip searched me, I wish I couldve told them it was a prosthetic!

[@ALLTHEDRUGSFORCREATIVITY]

Me: finally being gender correctly by someone Everyone in the room: *F E M A L E !* Me: "hello darkness my old friend..."

[@Sapph0619]

Im MtF And just hearing that story gave me sympathy dysphoria

[@probablyalex]

I've not had any airport experiences but anytime my birth name is involved with ID or showing proof of changing it. They always yell it? Does anyone understand privacy??

[@whoopsydaizy]

I have to spell my name out loud for prescriptions and when filling out government forms for the employees. I haven't changed my name. It's just a German name... I feel you though.

[@michefulkerson736]

When I was traveling to Seattle for treatment the tsa agent said I had to remove my feeding tube because of the liquids. I tried to explain that I was in the middle of being flushed with water through the tube and could disconnect my feed after it was finished in about two minutes. The tsa kept insisting I had to disconnect RIGHT THEN and decided to save me the trouble and do it for me. He grabbed my pump and yanked the tube out (while water was flushing into my nose and down to my stomach). He got soaked in water while I was being patted down. The female tsa who patted me down started making comments about my weight and body, saying I was skin and bones along with other unhelpful comments. I was severely anorexic at the time and weighed about 70lbs (I was 15 at the time). So then I started crying and I got so worked up that I threw up my tube in the middle of the airport. All of my formulas as well as the pump had to be specially scanned and when I got to the hospital in Seattle I was given another feeding tube. It was awful.

[@evieh6900]

That's terrible!They should have respected you more!Hope nothing like that happens again and also I hope that you are not still anorexic, you are beautiful.

[@michefulkerson736]

Wotanaiso It’s definitely in the top ten worse moments of my life lol, thank you for the support. 😘

[@rhiannonclarke6894]

Im so so sorry you had to go through that. As someone who is chronically ill with a bowel disease, i can understand what its like to experience things like feeding tubes and have people in public not understand the significance of medical devices. I also have an ostomy bag and thankfully havent had to have an airport experience with it quite yet but i am NOT looking forward to that one day 😳

[@aesaphyr]

That is truly horrendous, and some people (myself included) cannot have a nasogastric tube inserted without a general anaesthetic, which carries major risks as well as being costly. For that alone, basically damaging essential medical prosthetics/equipment, they should compensate you. But for the comments that were made about your appearance, that is legally considered discrimination against disability and they absolutely could be sued for it. I hope you put in a serious complaint, although I understand if you didn't, because it must have been so distressing.

[@thehighravioli9518]

You sould have gotten a free flight

[@transmasc]

I was patted down at the airport recently and it sucked. I tried to explain what a binder was but the lady wasn't listening to me and I essentially outed myself which was embarrassing because I had actually been passing for once. The TSA has a whole section for trans passengers on their website but I don't think they actually instruct their employees on how to deal with us.

[@bperson4153]

As a fellow army and a member of the lgbtq community, I'm so sorry you had to go through that. You sound like a strong, brave man💙

[@lasool9378]

August van Nieuwenhuysen That must have really sucked;-;

[@veanyx6351]

Oh geez I’m sorry you had to go through that :(

[@luco5769]

My ex's brother is trans, and we all went on a ski trip to Japan, and it was the first time he consistently presented as male for like a month, so both my parents were trying really, really hard to use the correct name and pronouns (his parents knew, but keep going back and forth). He's to young to go on t or blockers, but passes really well, and we had some very awkward moments where the guy checking our id referred to him as female and by his dead name for like five minutes, and we had to figure out if we should tell him or just play along and try to get it over with, as well as not being able to recognise the picture because it was taken pre transition, and having to clarify by loudly calling out his dead name. He also wasn't comfortable using male bathrooms, so he got a lot of weird looks, and most of the showers we had access to were communal, which didn't help.

[@jungkooks_microwavephobia]

This is almost a metaphor for what happened to you when you were a fetus... *A fetus with a massive dude soul* „FEMALE!“

[@Leo-ki5cf]

I was in Orly airport (Paris) once, and a security guy looked at me and asked about my luggage. He was like "excuse me lady... Sir... What are you exactly?" And I burst out laughing in the middle of a security control. I mean it was 3 a.m. I was travelling since 2 days and I was just so tired 😂. He felt so bad for me that he let me go

[@alexiguess6018]

*excuse me, lady, sir, what are you* I’m ded

[@olivemahan1235]

Long story short, when I was 14 a couple mistook me for a six year old girl and insisted on helping me find my parents....Let's just say they were quite surprised when my brother came back from the bathroom and asked them why they were hounding his 14 year old brother...

[@unrepentantjaegerist7236]

They were probably pedophiles, genius

[@awstenfromwaterparks7736]

@@unrepentantjaegerist7236 pedophiles or oddly caring adults

[@kingamiko382]

Similar thing happened to me two months ago: my gf had some kind of church celebration and I was invited but I was like a minute too late and couldn't find her family so I just stood a little disappointed in the back of the church, in a dress, with make up because my mom hates me and wants me to look like a girl. Suddenly came like ten different parents asking me if "the poor little girl needed help to find her family" and offered me to sit with them, in that moment my girlfriend comes in, kisses me and asked those people what they were talking about with her boyfriend. As they then walked away I overheard one of them explaining their child: "This was a trans. He is a guy but dresses as a girl because he wants to be one" I mean... it's not that wrong... I'm trans and I'm a guy and at this point I was dressed feminine... But I don't want to be female...

[@bones2700]

i went to the airport in mexico when i was really young and i didn’t know spanish then and the tsa agent made me put my teddy bear on the x ray machine thing and i thought she was taking it away forever and i sobbed!! good times

[@karenlinares7541]

O no

[@coffiedemon6076]

In case u had drugs in it 😂aw fuckers

[@Squirrels_On_Film]

I know this is an old comment but I wanted to chip in anyway. When I was a little kid we were flying out of South Korea and the agents were removing the stuffing from all the kids dolls checking for drug smuggling (this is in the early 80’s so I guess that was a big thing at the time?). My teddy bear was already old and well loved - I had gotten it as a hand-me-down when I was four, but they decided it was suspect and, much to my horror, gutted it! Bless my parents who did their best to defend my bear. Mom did “surgery” to save it’s life when we got home. Upside - I still have that bear, lol!

[@yeetodeletore]

@@Squirrels_On_Film aww nooo! That’s terrible :( sucks how much terrible people influence daily life and make everyone have to be suspicious of the most innocent things. I hope your bears still in tact and at least it has a good story attached to it now ✌️

[@Squirrels_On_Film]

@@yeetodeletore Lol, that poor bear looks like Frankenstein’s monster and later lost one eye to a curious puppy but, to be fair, it wasn’t exactly winning any beauty contests back when I was four either.

[@thatpantransguy]

😭😭😭😭😭 ohmygod this made me feel so triggered. I’m glad you got through it. I probably would’ve started crying or something. p.s. I just had top-surgery (1 week post-op). Woohoo!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@gamingstew703]

Yeah big mood, as a trans girl, everytime I go through TSA I have to explain why regardless of the male or female scan they do, their either going to find "something" on my chest or my crotch "out of the ordinary," and basically choose my poison: aka which part of me I'll allow them to pat down.

[@sevenofquills]

Oof how nerve-racking! He was concerned with procedure I guess because men have to pat down men and women have to pat down women? TBH I don't care who pats me down as long as they don't embarrass me publicly like they did to you. I'm cis but, you know, I'm trying to put myself in your shoes.

[@dionesdisciple3329]

Same here

[@benjaminreyes3624]

Yea but people of the opposite sex especially woman onto men claim sexual harassment. The rule is there to avoid it. Men dont normally call out other men even if it was a weird situation.

[@n3v3rm0r3]

@@benjaminreyes3624 probably because bad experienced. I had a doctor check my breast for lumps without telling me what he was doing first not a good feeling even if it's part of his Job.

[@jordonandre9080]

Omg I’m so sorry that happened, I’m a MTF, and so tucking is key, that machine picked up on it. Got the pat down and got asked if I was concealing anything. It’s a horrible experience, after explaining what it is, they let you go. It’s sad to think one must out themselves when going stealth

[@whoopsydaizy]

Jordon Andre Whisper in their ear "Yes sir, I'm concealing my cock." They'd probably shut up and leave you alone, but I can't imagine you would be comfortable saying that. I'm sorry you had to experience this 💔

[@v.v.9.9.]

I know it must be upsetting for you, but they have to do their jobs tho. Drug dealers and criminals can be very creative. It's for safety. Everyone has to go through it.

[@clockworkhearts4085]

concealing DEEZ NUTS

[@Nick-dx2pt]

​@@v.v.9.9. so getting traumatized is okay????

[@v.v.9.9.]

@@Nick-dx2pt did I say it was?? Read my comment again and quote me saying "it is okay to be traumatized". Security doesn't know us personally, they have to keep the protocol regardless. It's terrible, yes. If they are not assholes about it, you can't be mad for people doing their jobs. Like I said, we know we are good people, but bad ones can be creative. Security staff has to make sure, and prioritize everyone's safety.

[@woolhatlovebeads]

one time when i was like 14, a tsa agent was visibly frustrated with me for having cuffed my jeans................... and then she proceeded to pat down my ankles VERY aggressively which wasn't like uncomfortable per se but it was very... weird and strange lol.

[@thumbsup5524]

natalie tucker what 14 year old would be smuggling stuff in their cuffed jeans...

[@jaredlikesmusic]

natalie tucker when I was 14 I forgot to take off my studded belt before going through the scanner, and they were obviously suspicious but I was like, “oh yeah, that was probably my belt” I still got aggressively patted down. I was so mortified

[@whoopsydaizy]

ANGRILY GLARING UP WHILE KNEELED DOWN AND TAPPING CHILD'S JEAN WITH PALM OF HAND I N C R E A S E S

[@dylanculp8629]

Saaame. Once I went through tsa with adidas joggers rolled under and I had an agent pat me down and ask me multiple times why it was so thick at my ankles and I got so pissed having to tell him so much that yes, I’m super short for a guy and my pants are way too long.

[@kee7374]

Tf 😂😂😂

[@gravity4950]

I don't travel by air often, but without fail, every single time I've gone through TSA they've patted me down. I've never packed in an airport, but I think it was binding or just looking androgynous (last time I was under a year on T) that was causing issues. Hopefully it won't happen next time now that I've finally had top surgery! Edit- it was still kind of affirming in a weird way when they would send a male agent to pat me down though, especially before I was on T. Once it seemed like they were really confused about my gender and argued about it right in front of me (before eventually just asking who I'd prefer lol) It was embarrassing and sucked at the time but it's kinda funny now.

[@bryntendo]

Heh, oh man, that must've been so horrible for little baby tran Ty hahaha. If it's any kind of consolation though, the other people around probably thought he was calling out 'female!' to ask for a female TSA agent to pat you down too, like a second opinion, rather than assuming he meant you were female. I mean, that'd be a bad way to ask that, but obviously if there's a language barrier people tend to brush that kind of thing off. That's what I'd have told myself if it happened to me at least, lmao. Glad you had a good holiday and it hasn't happened since!

[@samanthabates9847]

So I pass sometimes as a guy but bc I’m not on T I pass as a little boy so I was about to go through the scanner when the security guy was like “how old ARE you?!” and I’m like ... 18. and the look on his face. god I hate airports

[@secondrateseth8360]

Oh my Lord, someone else with this problem! I too, pass only as a little boy. Just yesterday my Dad had someone over and obviously mentioned his son was around, because when I emerged the person looked like they'd seen a ghost. (Obviously I didn't pass for a hot minute) Then they seemed to calm down and said; "Oh, are you the son?!" and when I told them "Yes," they recovered and said; "Are you home sick from school?" I had to reply like, "... I'm nineteen. I'm at Uni." But this! I get children's menus, or worried looks and probing questions, all the time and I always feel like an idiot next to people my own age. People say I should be thankful to pass at all, but what dude can honestly say he'd have been chill about people thinking he was eleven when he's legally an adult, with all the interests that entails?!

[@kylishawillow9372]

I went through the metal detector in the airport and it goes off. I was about 9/10 and I freak out because the dude comes up to me and he thinks my dad is using me to smuggle things into where we were going. He spends ten minutes talking to me and patting me down then he looks me up and down, goes over to another dude and say “cripple” loud as hell. I’m disabled and have METAL arm crutches 😂

[@skylarjaxx2399]

Oh no.

[@Michaela-yh9sm]

what an asshole

[@Cyriginalsgood4now]

Being ftm myself i got an airport story. Not that bad but it sucked for me. So when me and my dad were flying from nm to las vegas we went to the scanner thing and of course having short hair and a giant hoodie made me just barely pass as male. BUT OH BOY MY DAD SURE HELPS TELL PEOPLE IM ACTUALLY FEMALE HAHA. Anyways back to the story, once I got out of the scanner the male tsa agent was patting down my dad and so he gestured for me to be pat down by the female tsa agent. Me being 13 with loads of (diagnosed) anxiety I was on the verge of tears. But once it was over I quickly grabbed our stuff and yeah. My dad didn't ask but he did give me a weird look. It also doesn't help that my family ignores the fact that I have BEEN DIAGNOSED with generalized anxiety. Rip, but the trip as fun, from there we went to san fransisco.

[@ahhh4117]

Cyriginals parents can suck but if I get some serotonin (for bipolar) I’ll be sure to send u some too

[@aristarlight2969]

Holy shit, your story is not at all over exaggerated because I feel that way all the time when things like this happen to me(I'm an 18-year old baby trans boy without T so I feel like I have to conceal "way more" but I could imagine)! I literally gasped in shock and facepalmed my head out of exhaustion once you said he shouted "FEMALE!" and pointed to you oh hhhhhhhhh booooiiiiiiiii I would not survive that! I would weep out of pure embarrassment tbh like "nonononononoo my fear!" Tbh ANY time that I am announced as a female up front of anyone is a huge pain to my confidence honestly! I still haven't changed anything on my ID/legal info so just college makes me antsy!

[@lisamcclanahan3438]

Nothing pisses me off more than when something like this happens to someone. I don't understand how and why people have to embarrass others like that

[@DrKristinaRizzotto]

This also happened to me this summer at the MSP airport! The TSA agent asked loudly “Male or female?” I froze for a few seconds. Flying out of there again next weekend; let’s see what happens then. I also lived in Oklahoma (Norman) before moving to Minnesota. Love your channel, Ty!

[@Starhawke_Gaming]

Update? How was your flight back?

[@GreenTigger22]

Wow :( I'm sorry that happened to you. I really thought the TSA had more training or education about trans people but turns out- NOPE!

[@Starhawke_Gaming]

@@GreenTigger22 - I usually find it best to be proactive to call the TSA for the airports I will be passing through and talk to the supervisors to make absolutely sure the agents that will be on duty are properly trained and reminded of what the policies regarding transgender and gender non-conforming individuals. This has headed off experiences like this since I started the policy. This of course should not be necessary, as all agents should be up to date on this training and policies anyhow.

[@heehoo8868]

Oh, welcome to Minnesota, eh?

[@carterlearned8796]

Oh I’m leaving from MSP in April and I’m super terrified to fly because of being a trans guy who always packs and wears a binder...

[@cartwing4660]

I was 4 months on T when a TSA agent asked me if I was “a pink or blue person”. I was so confused and really didn’t know how to respond.

[@FissionCube]

ASHDLHSHDHSJDH why are those kinds of cis people.. Like That

[@cecilevalmont3709]

@@FissionCube I think it is a cute way to ask. Not saying male or female But you can troll them any time by saying 'rainbow'

[@Prof9299]

"I'm more of a purple kind of person, personally"

[@collinsje5]

If you were getting attitude, I would have just said lavender. I have a bud who is a cop that told me TSA agents are pretty much cop wannabes that would never make it through the academy.

[@feralpossum2089]

"Actually my favorite color is green tho I don't know what that has to do with security stuff"

[@joet3349]

I had to go through airport security while wearing my binder and I got through the scan okay, but they did have me for a “random check.” So this dude pulls me aside and pats me down and pats my chest a few times and just. “Are you wearing something under your shirt?” And I’m about to cry so I just get out “Chest. Chest compression.” And this dude goes pale and just waves me through as fast as possible. I told my parents that it was the metal buttons on my jacket and they left me alone but!! It was embarrassing.

[@graveserpent]

Joe T ugh that sounds so embarrassing! I’m sorry that happened +~+

[@IsiArcadia]

"A young baby tran" -the only thing that came into my head was a transmasculine fawn...just a casual little hybrid baby...yeah I'm a little weird, what of it

[@laurenevans7910]

the way you waved your hand at the camera when they waved you through literally made my heart palpitate with anxiety for a second

[@amberleckie4143]

This exact thing happened to me. I haven't come out as trans to my family yet, but we were going through airport security and I went into the scanner thing and they pulled me aside. They said they were going to pat me down so I said ok. This guy starts partying me down and my mom goes, in the loudest voice possible, "Stop that, she's my daughter!" So the security people are all looking at each other very confused and eventually one of them has me go back through the scanner and I'm free to go. This may not sound like much, but I was 12. This terrified me.

[@nintendoman3761]

Catty Leckie oof, I feel u

[@sonichaven]

I'm just imagining this somehow broke that man and for the rest of the day he just kept yelling female.

[@vilistarlight10]

XD

[@WhoamI-su7pg]

😂

[@shane4508]

Not only does TSA question where my parents are and ask me my age... but after they find out I'm actually an adult, they will hit the "wrong" button on the body scanner and then make me get scanned again. It happens every time because I can pass as a boy, but my voice says girl and they get so confused. It makes for interesting airport trips.

[@KarsenRyanLuis]

Shane Hicks same! Every time I’ve flown for the last six years I’ve been asked how old I am before I go through the scanner because you have to be twelve to do that smh had to have a real awkward conversation with a TSA guy last week in Dallas when he had to pat me down but needed to know where my parents were before he did it and I had to tell him I was twenty and my parents were four states away

[@drewlonberger1485]

I’ve had this happen to me. It is literally the scariest thing I have ever been through. Being freshly out as trans and then the machine picks up my packer 🤦🏻‍♂️ I had 2 female security ladies walk me off to the side and pat me down. Explaining to them that I had a prosthetic penis because I’m a trans man was the most horrifying experience I’ve ever been through. The flight back home, my packer was in my bag until we got through security. NEVER doing that again 😭

[@noodleofdanger3322]

I feel so bad for you. Honestly I felt anxiety just watching that. I can’t imagine what I would do if I was in that situation.

[@charliesvard3556]

Im from Sweden and Im also FTM. I havnt started T yet. In June I traveld with my dad and brother to USA. And on the way there ore home I had to go through that scanner and I was so scared because of everything Ive heard from others expierience. The TSA she asked me if I wanned to be scanned as male or female and I said male. I had a binder on so they obviosly had to pat me there so the guy who should do it looked at the girl confusing and she said, "I asked". But then he did it he was uncomfterable. But I thought it was good that they asked. It was a bit uncomfterable but still better experiance than most trans people.

[@chilip7386]

Charlie Svärd ey jag är också svensk

[@abookishfable8268]

Hänt mig också .-.

[@wiiboiwill]

@Rin Rin why tf are you correcting their english? This ain't school leave em alone

[@Dr3Mc3Ninja]

Yeah, a friend of mine, her mother lost a breast to cancer and she has this large, silicon prosthetic one. When going through the scanner, it went off and the person showed her the screen and there was just this big triangle on screen where her prosthetic was. So the scanners can see a lot. Pretty sure there was a story about how there are concerns with how much these scanners see since it will show genitals... You can imagine how wrong that it considering children are scanned.

[@Ryanrobida7469]

All the airports I've been to don't allow children under 12 to be scanned

[@o0Spurs0o]

Minors don’t go through those scanners. Until I was 18, I only ever went through the metal detectors.

[@Dr3Mc3Ninja]

Faith Robida Not an adult until 18, so that is still kind of weird to me.

[@Dr3Mc3Ninja]

Maggie Bond I was flying out of the US and I had to go through one, I was 16. It may depend on the airport, destination and all that whether they scan you. I was flying out of New York.

[@commanderange8826]

@@Ryanrobida7469 Yeah same. One time when i was 18, I was at ATL and i naturally step into the big machine to be scanned and nothing happens and a women pops her head in and is like, "How old are you..?" And I'm just like, "18..??" And she looks at me kinda surprised, weirded out, and then just says, "Oh ok." And proceeded to scan. Lmao. So I guess I look under 12???

[@MartynaPac]

One time a school nurse called me a girl on the front of my class.. I thought that I would have to tell them that I'm transgender. But my class thought that it's something going on with her and laught at her, thinking that she has mistaken me for someone else 🤣🤣

[@egglegs2396]

5:43 I felt second hand dysphoria it-I’ve never even gone through TSA wth

[@Lilacleaf49065]

I'm a cis female and I have huge respect for you, because if it was me I think I'd be too scared to travel at all. Already a nervous wreck in airports! I hope airport security are better trained and more sensitive nowadays.

[@dailyzae3764]

im male to female but dangggg i got anxiety just hearing this good lord

[@gamzee3610]

I have a similar story, but the pat-down guy just grabbed my chest, (I was wearing a baggy shirt, and binding, but I'm like a c cup, so you can feel tiddy) and I could feel the existential dread on this poor German airport guard that just wants to get paid, (but I heard there's a male / female button on the scanner that the people have to press, which is Not Fun if your trans.)

[@dezmond9325]

Well I don’t have a story like this but I have Tourette’s and you can already tell where this is going I yelled bomb...I was so uncomfortable, and I got so many looks.

[@luf1820]

Inhispaws didn’t you steal that story from a popular youtuber who has tourette’s?

[@alextheactor42069]

Oh god

[@Danny0lsen]

@@luf1820 Probably yes, probably no...

[@localloki392]

my friend has tourettes and rolls his eyes sometimes he was talking to an adult and he rolled his eyes the adult thought he was being disrespectful so he had to explain what ticks were

[@eliasochoa4407]

Your not alone I did that to

[@waasnoode986]

Nah dude, that sounds mortifying. Your feelings are deffs valid!

[@ethant7843]

I'm catching this several years after the post, and man, I can just F E E L the stomach drop

[@keithgm9574]

omg id literally DIE! when i was in school and my name wasnt legally changed, i emailed all my teachers to tell them my good name and my pronouns. So then when i was in one of the classes, i got up to talk to the teacher to make sure he read the email and corrected my name, and AS I GET UP, he starts reading the presence sheet and he calls my birthname FIRST. and i was standing in the middle of the room and i just like raised my hand ( i could have just shut up idk why i raised my hand) and it was the most embarrassing thing !! i cant imagine how id have felt in ur situation bc just in a class it was already like the end of the world for me

[@daniel_k_music]

That happened to me too!! Same teacher, every single week in gym class. She never bothered to change her attendance chart

[@romandanvers926]

I don’t know if it’s true or easier to deal with, but I’ve heard from quite a few transmasc people that bind and pack that you can ask for a pat down (they discretely explained the situation to a TSA agent) instead of going through a scanner. That way you don’t have to deal with the confusion of being perceived as male/female, while the scanner is picking up female/male. I’ve been told it’s helped people avoid being awkwardly outed to a bunch of strangers. No idea if it’s an easier alternative or not. Regardless, it sucks.

[@daisanders82]

I present (most of the time) kinda ambiguously genderwise and I've had it all: from people at the check-in desks getting confused by my ID, Security being confused when they've patted me down, getting bomb scanned and asked to remove certain items of clothing so they can have "better access". I've had airport staff ask me "what are you?" etc. This isn't all the time mind... ...most of the time it's a breeze and nothing out of the ordinary happens, but it's always the awkward/anxiety inducing times that stick out the most.

[@torrinashley6076]

That's so fucking rude. "What are you?" People are pieces of shit

[@annaewilliams1523]

Thank you for sharing your story, being a female (transgender), i always worry when going through any scanner or security, cause are they going to be kind and knowledgeable or rude and abuse their power like they did to you? Recently getting my name legally switched, it was cold in colorado, so i wore my cute knee high boots, that have some flat studs on both sides. It set of the metal detector, also, I was wearing a underwire push up bra, but, anyhow...the security screener at courts was super cool, didn't make me take anything off, and for boots had me zip them down, step out of one, then put back on and then the other, which is how it should be done. Even if you don't personally like transgender people, just show us respect, and think about if you had something that might cause something to make you feel out the "normal" then please think about when dealing with out people, please. On the plus, maybe just got lucky, but when visiting my brother in oakland for his fortieth, i don't completely pass, which is okay, but thankfully security going back from california was really cool, and think the screening agent just wanted to open my carry on because i had the limited edition David Bowie Dark Star album. If was funny cause i thought oh the goddesses what now, but instead first thing she did was go to my Ameboe's records bag and pulled it out gently. it was awesome cause she used all the correct pronouns, told me how she liked my hair, and then told me how she got to see Bowie with a friend and how she got totally turned onto him slightly later in life. So i guess try to keep positive and don't let anyone tell you whom your are or not, its there problem not yours, but, just don't be rude or pass on negativity back cause we just don't need anymore of that.

[@joyl2981]

*watching this and looking at Ty in that shirt & adorable face* Wait... I'm NOT a lesbian?!

[@mm-ob5df]

Bisexual awakenning

[@awesomedirt3]

Traveling back to university at LA X I got stopped because the machine where they check you for metal I guess can now scan your sex I could see the machine was telling them I was female so I had to get scanned 3 more times after that they were very confused why I kept coming out as female when I look like a full out dude it was embarrassing because everyone behind me was getting really frustrated with how long it was taking I’m ftm by the way

[@awesomedirt3]

Dyl Nolan that would be scary if they did

[@parallel4]

​@@dylannicks1146 Do you even know what an algorithm is? Lmao. Algorithms don't get "confused". They throw errors if something goes wrong, but they don't have feelings bucko. AFAB and AMAB skeletons aren't different, you bioessentialist troglodyte. Oestrogen widens the pelvic bones and testosterone widens shoulder bones and long bones, but oestrogen and testosterone aren't a part of ASAB. There are plenty of AFAB people who have never gone through oestrogen-based puberty. Also, they wouldn't check your skeleton. That requires x-rays, and they wouldn't x-ray just to get through TSA. > Machines don't care about your feelings. OP never said otherwise.

[@parallel4]

​@@dylannicks1146 > t r i g g e r e d Hilarious and original! Keep these fresh memes coming comrade. > men have larger skulls, Brow bossing, hands , feet , different centre of gravity compared to women's being hips and men's being shoulders , narrower hips and completely different shape at that, different jaws, noses , I mean do I really need to go on All these are effects of testosterone. People who are assigned female at birth can have these traits if they go on puberty blockers and testosterone.

[@dylanmyrick7297]

Damn that's so soo annoyin!!

[@madisonthegreat44]

Ben Shapiro machine

[@demonerium]

How on earth did you pass after only 2 months on t??? I'm 10 months in and my voice is still high as hell 😔 my chest is big so that doesn't help but rip

[@stupidelfmain2485]

it's different for everyone honestly. i'm four months in and my voice hasn't changed at all.

[@Raptorworld22]

I'm not on T yet and I pass already, it's different for everyone. Probably helps that I have a medical condition that causes a beard though.

[@gosubtoal4ua632]

When you turn the 18 you can Yeet the Yeet like meeeeee

[@gosubtoal4ua632]

I meant teet

[@zackduffy2458]

I'm 7 months on T, but I have pcos-PolyCystic Ovary Syndrome- which causes me to have extra testosterone anyways (so before I even knew I was trans I had SOME facial hair and my voice is deeper than most females but not able to pass as a guys unless I purposefully change it. It also caused me to not get my "monthlys" regularly. Sometimes I'd only have 1 a year.) So I guess since my voice is already deeper than most females, I haven't really had any voice changes...naturally. I have noticed I can sing a bit deeper and have lost some of the higher range singing wise. But my talking voice is still the same. 😒

[@sunnyshine9876]

when I was in the huge atlanta airport going home as a minor I had to stay with the workers so I could make it to my planes and while waiting for the plane to get ready I was with this older woman and she was the first person ever to look me in my face and call me male and my heart was like !!!!!! exploding in joy bc I know I do not pass like at all bc im pre t and stuff and idk why bc im pretty sure she saw my packet thing with my tickets and info but bc she called me a boy the others I encountered with her also had to call me a boy bc they heard her refer to me as a he and I was obviously not correcting her and some of them looked a bit skeptical but no one argued and it was probably one of the happiest moments in my entire life so !!!

[@dickottel]

how did she know 😱

[@matzeteo5576]

I am in tears, this sounds so horrible, i m so so sorry that happened to you!

[@ron100]

I’m so sorry for your experience. That’s a shame you had to go through that.

[@moonrender680]

why this mans background a missing texture

[@voidtapwater4676]

Jackmerius Tacktheratrix holy fuck 💀

[@someguy9344]

Most underrated comment

[@CollPStone-kk1jk]

Ty, this actually happened to me at ATL International... I was completely mortified. I was told that I passed so well as make that when I went into the body scanner and the scanner showed I had a chest like a female they thought I had something attached to my chest like I was attempting to smuggle something. When the guy started patting me down he was shocked when he felt my chesticles and yelled out he needed a female to search a female... So it was a good & bad moment for me cause I passed so well but wanted to run & hide when I got outed... Has to be a better way for the TSA to deal with trans ppl...

[@Ryanrobida7469]

Oh no that scares me. I go to that airport all the time. I haven't been on a plane since I started passing, but I'm going to have to in the next week or two.

[@SkaiDragon]

I travel through ATL International usually 2 a year. And it always marks my binder. I am not on T, so I rarely pass. The first time dumb ass lady was so persistent about binder, she couldn't understand what it was and I refused to go to the room, because they might ask me to take it off. Those people really need to be educated. Last time I traveled through Germany, they sent a guy to search me and he was ok when I explained to him that I am trans.

[@ausblick]

@@SkaiDragon It is really sad to read how it is done in the US, why can't that TSA people just a little bit more polite and understanding what is going on. Like in Europe, like your experience in Germany. People are just ok here with trans people, no big deal. Explain it, accept it and let them go. no harm no foul

[@CollPStone-kk1jk]

@@ausblick so agree with you about in Europe no bats an eye at a trans person. I was born/raised in Malta and I travel extensively in Europe & I have 0 issues in Europe. As a matter of fact I have traveled all over the world and only time I have any issues is in the USA.

[@ausblick]

@@CollPStone-kk1jk I am actually a little bit scared, but not, to travel to Florida next year, good thing HRT won't kick in until then, so my last vacation till some years from now to go outside western europe, where people don't give a shit about who you are or what you are and just let you live your life. I wish, the whole world would be this way in some years. even at work everyone is supportive with my decision to change my life. it is not people's business of some is transgender or not, just treat us like a human, no harm no foul. hope you will have better experience next time outside europe, we are not alone :)

[@thekylechronicles]

This is why I only ever travel in baggy pants and shirts w/ a sports bra underneath (instead of a binder). Its partially due to the binder possibly making my anxiety worse (feeling too constricted in an already constricted space) and also cause i’m terrified of getting a pat-down and weird looks when “something doesn’t match up”. I also haven’t flown since i’ve started to pass in public though

[@alleybaby135]

I...I have strong anxiety just by hearing this...

[@TheSilvermidori]

Didn't hit like because of the situation, but because you actually have the courage to talk about this stuff. I'm starting T soon, finally, and definitely will watch more of your videos!

[@itscomplicatd]

Similar thing happens to me every time I fly places. They always put me through the body scanner and you can see the red boxes over your chest and crotch on the screen and my heart drops every time cause I know that means they have to pat me down. One tsa agent actually stuck her fingers inside my waistband to check for stuff and it was so awkward.

[@emellisor7167]

My friend has a bunch of metal in her spine and we almost missed our flight because the guy, who admitted he was new, was mortified by what he saw on the scanner and didn’t believe the truth that she had had her back shattered as a kid.

[@chiamamimilo]

I'm non-binary. I pass as a boy most of the time and I'm cool with that. Once I was at the airport with my dad and something beeped while I was walking through the metal detector. A woman came to pat me down but she asked me to call my dad first. So I called him and the woman said to him "I have to pat your son down". She patted me down and then she said to my dad "You have a very cool daughter". She was nice and it was actually funny that she called me both son and daughter.

[@mvxiemax]

Cat rolls against gender roles This warms my heart.

[@royalteaanimations]

lol I'm NB as well. Not very along in my transition yet tho. Can't wait for those moments XD

[@callmeeko517]

Cat rolls against gender roles I am also NB but we ain’t that strict.... I will probably do binder and just explain.

[@윤영서-e2i]

0:04 the mood and everything..was just perfection Ty

[@w0mpw0mp.c0m]

Going through security is so scary because someone could put something on you that is contraband... ANXIETY GETS SO DAMN HIGH..