Ua Neeg Mloog Lus Ces Mob Siab Tuag. 4/1/23

[@juliehawj3385]

If you're in your 40s and older, you'll know and understand why this woman listened to her parents...in our generation, parents were more strict and we weren't as acclimated to American independent thinking as the younger generations....we did our best to be a "good" daughter/son by letting our parents dictate what's good/bad for us, even though at times they were wrong...calling cops or going to women shelter was unknown to most of us...

[@heysoniher]

I’m in this age group and I can sympathize with her but I never let my parents dictate my life. My mom told me once she was going to marry me off to a cousin and I said if you do, you will never see me again because I will run away or tell a teacher. She never mentioned it again.

[@kevinher3546]

Will said it and 100% agree

[@amazinggrace8136]

They believed their parents/family had the best intentions for them, unfortunately it’s not. What they did wasn’t right then, and is not right today. The moral aspect of it doesn’t change regardless of time and place.

[@22091007519690]

Filial piety. That's what's ingrained in the older generation's mind. Collectivism vs individualism.

[@chuexiong]

I’m in this group but my father/parents were not like that. My father had never force us daughters. I am glad for it.

[@TubLaibVaj]

Damn women. First time I get cause you’re young but second time you still listen to your stupid old despicable dad. That’s on you. I would call the cops on your dad and your ex because you were underage. They can still get locked up!

[@ongxiong7921]

Well, after 45 years I finally got married. So I didn’t listen to my mom or family. They made me feel bad for years, but I wouldn’t be the person I am now, if my life didn’t go how it went. I’ve been with my husband for 16 years. Love is a real thing! That’s y people get divorced. I feel terrible for you hun, being with someone u don’t love is just sad. I hope one day u will love u more, and stand up for yourself!

[@22091007519690]

Yes! Better late and right than early and wrong. That's why the divorce rate is so high especially with Millennials, the generation that's stuck between tradition and modernization. Where you were forced to marry someone but knew self love enough to leave a relationship when it wasn't stable.

[@MeeKaZKT]

Do what makes you happy, not anyone else. They aren't the ones living your life and misery.

[@LymeeCha]

Your own fault for doing everything your dad says! You're in America, you have rights! You didn't learn anything from your first marriage 🙄🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@hlubvimkojusa2140]

🌹May Vang are you HAPPY NOW??❤👍👍👍👍👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@roseanimetor8157]

Why blame your dad? The first time it was your dad's fault but the second time it was you because you are over 18 and shouldn't let people make the decisions for you.

[@MSMAIYANG]

Her parents and spouse conditioned her and shield her from learning her rights. It's not because she was obedient, she has fear and that's how they were able to manipulate her.

[@lisvaj7375]

No matter how old you are, how many kids you have, your happiness comes first. Never put someone ahead of your life or your happiness.

[@maryly09]

That's what happened when u let your parents make decisions for u. You're a grown woman now. Don't let anyone decide your life for u.

[@achamua6314]

Zoo heev li os

[@kaoxiong6148]

Follow your own heart not your parents or anyone else…you control your own destiny😩👍🤠!

[@eurene366]

Tsis yog tias koj mloog lub es koj lub neej thiaj tsis zoo, yog qhov koj tsis muaj peem xwm thiab koj tsis paub txoj cais yuav pab tau koj. Vim koj tsis muaj peem xwm koj thiaj ua lub neej mob siab.

[@ambervang8074]

When my dad said I was a bad daughter for not listening to him. I said yep that's right. I don't live with you and you don't pay my bills. You already sold me once, your not selling me again.

[@yl7495]

You go, girl!!!

[@Ibvuag912]

Koj txiv mas xuaj tiag22 li os.

[@houavue7711]

This is America. When you were 13, it's understandable. That was your dad's fault. But when you were grown, that's all on you.

[@rhiathao]

Wow, I never knew there are fathers like this father in this world. My dad was very protective especially towards us daughters and I can proudly said my father is the only men in this world that will never betrayed his daughters. I thought all fathers are like my father until I listened to this story. Tus leej txiv ntawm txoj neej neeg no tsis tsim nyog ua ib leeg txiv to any children li os.

[@mlee6092]

You were born only to be a slave fir your father to traffic from one man to another, sister. You need to come to this realization and leave your father/master behind before you will find happiness in accordance to your heart's desire. Until you accept that your father is only your slave trafficker, you will always obey him over your happiness. Liberation for you means getting rid of your dad and your family and going at life alone. If you can't cut off your family, you'll be forever a slave. Hope you free yourself. Good luck.

[@KaXiong-vs3jk]

Txhob tu siab nawb. Tsim nyog koj dhiav kev hlub thiab kev zoo siab rau koj tus kheej os. Koj twb laus txaus thiab paub txaus lawm. Txhob mloog mloog koj niam koj txiv lawv lus vim tias koj yuav tsum hlub koj tus kheej thiab. Koj txiv yeej tsis hlub koj nawb, vim yog nws hlub koj ces nws yeej tsis muab koj yuam yuav tus neeg koj tsis xav yuav. Thov Vajtswm foom koob moov rau koj es koj thiaj dhiav tau txoj kev zoo siav rau yam tom ntej no.

[@hmoobmekas2567]

Ib tug poj nrauj 30 xyoo es tseem tias ruam ruam mloog niam mloog txiv lus xuab tshaj Liam tshaj

[@salinasxiong3480]

Koj hais Yog tshaj plaws li

[@kaxiong2252]

Hais yog kawg li os tus me viv ncau Aw.. txoj kev mloog lus yuav tus yus niam yus txiv nyiam es yus lub neej thiaj tsi Xau os

[@cheexiong1634]

This lady omg make your own choice why keep listening to other people!

[@missysmart8620]

Right! That’s what so annoying to me.

[@maryly09]

She victimized herself too much.

[@Pajnag254]

Tu siab tshaj plaws uas yug los ua ib tug khaub ntxhais 😭💔

[@meexiong9961]

Kav tsij zoo siab hlo mus ua poj Nrauj...tseem Kaj Siab dua ua neej nrog ib niag txiv neej siab phem siab dub ....ua neej dhuav siab tiag tiag

[@thedark-_-lord8285]

You should’ve make decision on a man for yourself. You don’t need ur parents to pick a man for you. hopefully u know how to pick urself up and be happy for what is left of ur life.

[@trangmai9592]

Yog kawg lawm os niam laus aw cas koj yuav tham tau haum kuv lub siab tag nhro li ua tsaug os

[@maivvajchannel9068]

ca hai tau yog ua luaj li o kuv ce yog ib tug mloog niam thiab txiv hai thiab o viv caus aws

[@mayalor5081]

She's a victim and will continue to be victim until she educations herself and empowers herself. Trauma is real until she is willing to work on empowering herself. Some women are self empowered and others are not. A great lesson in life is don't be afraid of change.

[@maivpaxiongandjulie9721]

Zaj dab neeg no hai tau tu saib heev 😭😭🤣🤣😭😭

[@maihouavue6440]

I understand this sister story. Easy for all u ppl to say.. why she didn’t call the cops. First of all. Need to understand as a Hmong teen. U call cops on your parents than u are consider a bad daughter. 2nd.. that’s your only family u know.. but where will u be when your parents are lock up? When your dad relative dishonor u and no one accepts u? So b4 everyone says Why not call cops and why she does what she does is probably because she didn’t have a family support. As a Hmong daughter back than is abt listening to the elders and be good. Hmong daughter doesn’t have any rights to their life.

[@esfkk]

It doesn't matter her age or years of being trafficked. She's still a victim from young age; therefore, of course, she will be fearful no matter what until someone rescued her and educate her. Show some empathy no matter how many times she's been trafficked (traffickinb consist of many things that damaged a person in ways it can seem so easy for us to judge) and despite her age.

[@ThePrincessWorrior]

She could sneak to call the boy friend, but not 911? What kind of sympathy is needed?

[@maiaflatebo]

@@ThePrincessWorrior that’s because if she called 911 her parents will get in trouble for trafficking her too. I was in similar shoes before, I know the feelings. 😢

[@itsmaichee]

Some people don’t understand. It’s sad that they attack her and call her stupid :/

[@leevlis3860]

1aà

[@maivang6987]

Koj txiv yuam koj mus them koj txiv cov nqi es lub neej twb tsis zoo es koj tseem mloog koj txiv thiab thiaj txom nyem es tsis tas mloog li ua li yus nyiam xwb yuav zoo duas

[@Loves_GodSR]

Man this old days suck! We tried so hard to please our parents/family only to learn some parents never really cared for the daughters the way they care for their sons. This that had parents who love/support their daughter in this era are so lucky!

[@jsjuwus2542]

Koj zaj dab neeg no yeej yog li koj hai kawg os tab si koj twb yuav tau nw lawm ce ua siab hlub nw os me viv ncau

[@chang3568]

So sad. Please don't bash on this sister. She was controlled by her parents from a very young age so she's used to listening to them. I hope u find happiness one day sister.

[@tshuvkwmchannel4819]

Zoo hv li os

[@thestoryofmylife6979]

Listening to stories like this, I wonder why these hmoob people still want to come to the S.U if they still want to live life like nplog teb. Why come here when you don’t want to better your life? Cas nyob luag ntuj es tsis yoog luag txuj.

[@myyearmouanoutoua6908]

Kuj Tim koj thiab xaum ib mas Tim koj txiv Cas zaum 2 koj ho tsis tawv kom.dhau ..Es mus yuav kiag tus koj nyiam mas

[@17maukabtsab]

I feel so bad for this girl. 😢

[@fuethao8872]

Xyoo 85-2000 ma cov ntxhais nyiam cov tub laib tshaj plaws vim lawv txawj hlub ntau thaj hlub tau txhua lub sib hawm li cov ntxhais lub siab ntshaws ntag

[@pajlisyaj1716]

Txoj niag kev quaj yeej pab tsis tau koj os siv koj txoj kev ntse los pov puag koj Tus kheej thiaj pab tau koj Lub neej na,

[@PajnagYaj-ob5ws]

Hia tau raug kv hv li o niam laus aw😢😢😢

[@pajthao4813]

Koj ruam yog ruam ib zaug thaum koj tseem yau ces yog twb yog zaum ob lawm koj tseem coj li qub tej zaum tim koj xwb yus twb laus lawm thiab koj twb paub lawm tias tus koj tsis hlub koj yuav es mob siab npaum cas

[@yolandavang1885]

Kj yog ib tug ntxhais ua yeej raug npam tiag tiag li kj hais vim kj yog ib tug ntxhais txiav txim siab tsis tau kj cia kj niam kj txiv yog tus txiav txim rau kj lub neej xwb kj thiaj raug kev tu siab kev mob npaum li kj tiag me viv ncaus kj zaj neej neeg no mloog tau meem tzom heev vim kj txiav txim siab tsis tau kj tsis muaj peev xwm kj thiaj plam tus neeg kj hlub thiab nws hlub kj lawm

[@pajrosedawb8047]

It’s not obedience. It’s stupidly. No guts, no glory. Live life for yourself and live it purposefully. Otherwise, you hand yourself to dry in the sun.

[@hmongCAM]

I agree. Lub npe ntxais mloog lus kuv tsis ntsaw. Nov yog ib qhov chaw tsis zoo rau kuv tus kheej tab sis zoo rau luag xwb.

[@maivpaxiongandjulie9721]

Tug txiv siab dub xwb os mi viv n 😭😭🤣🤣😭😭

[@keith23615]

So true 😢

[@ongHo-sh1hg]

Eb om tu siab ua luaj

[@cindichean]

I don’t know…I would still report my dad and my ex-husband to the police. It’s the right thing to do and a closure for you. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@jackieyunan4899]

Leave your husband, but don't go back to your ex.. and take your time looking...

[@leevue7803]

Pab hlub koj kawg tias cas los yug yuam kev rau tej tsev niag neeg liam kawg kiag li

[@nkaujhmoobtuszoo]

Hahahahahaha tuag tsi tuag!!!!

[@lotusvert7024]

Tus vivncau aw koj yeej tsis ruam os koj twb txawj hais tag npaum no nev ! Qhov tseeb ces yog koj txiv yog ibtug neeg qias neeg tshaj quav lawm thiab ua rau nej kobhuam tag, ces koj tsis xav kom koj txiv raug tua koj mus theej koj txiv lub txhoj xwb. Es stop ! hais tias koj nim ruam ruam no xwb.

[@jeanpaulthao7610]

😂😂😂😂 poj ruam xwb tiag mloog niam txiv lus zoo lis niam txiv nrog koj ua neej naws 😂😂😂😂

[@koumoua2980]

We live in America and I willing to listen to my parents for good advices on everything else, but to marry someone they chose for me, heck no! The OG way it’s a No, No, No in America.! I just don’t understand why those girls that their parents forced them to marry someone they didn’t like and why they didn’t get help from all those agencies out there. I will rather die than marry someone I never knew/dated.

[@เบยเบย-น5ข]

Tus niam hlob lo yog tus niam ntxawm aw cas kj txoj neej neeg no yuav hais raws kiag li kv lub neej thiab lo

[@maithao1417]

Omg, so much excuses 😂 ugh, I couldn’t finish this story cause of her nonsense excuses! Not once but twice!! SMH, I’m feel so sorry that you can’t make your own decision the first time. But the second time there is no more excuse! 🤦🏻‍♀️this story makes me so frustrated 😂

[@thatasainboy1346]

Koj ruam dhau ces nyuam qhuav ntxim xwb os ntuj aw

[@missysmart8620]

Yep! Thaum taus tus tsis hlub mas nyob taus lawm txhias niaj txhias xyoo. Hos taus tus hlub yus ib zaug los uas hlob li hlob tsis xav hlub!? Only complaints but can’t move on.

[@chouathao2122]

why a grown ass woman still need to listen to her parents? no one gonna fight for you if you don't fight for yourself.

[@tiachang-sn5ic]

Too sad 😔 😢sister

[@ouradventuresnspecialmoments]

How sad...your innocence & youth was taken away from you at such a young age. Your parents don't deserve to be Parents!!! I hope you'll have a good life in your older years.

[@JRxwb]

This farther deserved to be punished he made she suffer for his sins!!

[@ມົ້ງທໍ່ໂສດທຮ]

Nyob zoo os koj

[@nkaujleentse6482]

Thov ntxim ntau 2 thiab txhua yam nw yog koj xaiv xwb g tsim nyog liam txim rau koj txiv vim koj twb yeem tu neeg e yog yam g xaiv g yeem tiag tuag kiag lo twb tuag tau tshuav kom dig

[@hwmxaibhwmxaasphaaslis8020]

Koj txiv yog ib tug hypocrîte nwg mus tsim2 teeb meem es thaum kawg nwg muab nej cov me nyuam coj xiab nuj xiab nqi, koj txiv mas yuav ua neej tsi muaj txoj kev kajsiab mus txog hnub tuag li loj, muab hais los mas koj txiv thiab koj niam yuav tsum tau mus nyob tsev loj cuj kom lawv thiaj paub nkawv txoj kev ua txhaum cai rau tej me nyuam naj.

[@pajntxivduaj2231]

Ca tu ruam e yuav ruam txog ntua qhov lwm tu txiav txim thiab yog tu xaiv yu lub neeg rau yu, ho tu ntse ma ho ntse ntse txog ntuag qhov ua phem rau lwm tu thiab. Twb nyob teb ncaw me ka e koj twb txiav txim tsi tau koj twb lo ua hlua nkauj zaum ob koj tseem ruam txog qho koj cia koj txiv txiav txiv rau koj thiab ce nw kawg zoo li koj xwb vim koj tsi Paub txiav txim rau koj lub neej koj thial lwb siab

[@sengheu1875]

Nkauj hmoob Mai vaj koj muaj ib ces khaub ncawb xwb los cas hnav dub tag li xwb na los zoo zoo nkauj ntxim ntxim li koj hnav kom tsim cog thiab ma ok

[@pajyeeblaujchannel1519]

Ruam npaum koj ces txhob nroo nroo tsam koj tau ua poj nrauj dua os

[@wangxiong5628]

Koj mas tsuam plawg koj ca koj txiv xaav rua koj yog kuv tes tug thib ib ntawm xwb tes kuv tub hu tub caav xwv rua koj nam hab koj txiv lawm es koj tseev ca koj txiv rov yuam duas tug ob hab koj yeej los ruam naj yog koj tsi ruam tes yeej yuam tsi tau zag ob lawm

[@PM-oe5mk]

Being a good girl doesn't mean relinquishing your rights to happiness over to your father. You act like you live in Laos instead of the U.S.A. I can understand life was out of your control the first time you were forced to marry because you were just a kid. But there's absolutely no excuse for you to let it happen again after your divorce because by then you were a grown woman. This time your unhappiness is your own fault. You clearly don't live by the advice you gave in your story. When you don't use the rights given to you by the U.S. government, then it's your own fault if your life is unhappy.

[@YengPodMingAnalyst]

Ask yourself, Why your parent sole you and keep over look your life.

[@pajlisyaj1716]

Thawj tug twb yog Tus ua koj txiv xaiv ne vim li cas koj tseem cia koj txiv xaiv thiab peb nyob teb chaws vam meej na leej twg yuav quab yuam tsis tau yus na vim koj xwb tej niag neeg quav phaib li koj txiv es yuav hais tau lawv na koj txiv twb hais tsis tau thawj tug ne

[@blueberrysmilie1]

Txhob ua neeg mloog lus!!! Dont think so highly of your father. Cov txiv phem li no txhob saib nws cov lus muaj nqi. He will not get my love as his daughter. Dont look dont on women who has been through more than one man! Because thats a double standards! Men have been through more than one and no one thinks its wrong!

[@suabyihawj4297]

Cav ua rau kuv npau taws rau koj tshaj li os.

[@Miababee]

Sis, you were traffic by your own family and it was a forced child marriage. Had you gone to the cops, you would've never had yo experience this. Smh

[@maitongvue5397]

Yeej yog tim koj ntau dua txawm koj txiv hais li lo yog yus tsis yuav ces ua kom dim xwb pob vim twb ntsib zaum 1 lawm lo tseem mloog zaum 2 thiab ne

[@shengkue3286]

Sister, why u let your parents choose your life?. U have to find the one that u love!!

[@leefamily6061]

Sister I feel sorry for you. It's too bad your father was never punished for his gambling crime. You need to find your own happiness forget your dad he never cares for you

[@caaspasvang7427]

Sister koj twb Tsi yog me nyuam yau lawm cas koj pheej cia koj txiv yuam tau koj es yog dab Tsi tiag😏😏

[@ooinkssies1142]

What a horrible father you had. I would never forget and forgive him.

[@fuemoua8345]

ua cas koj ho tsis hu pus liv mas yus yeej yeem yeem yus

[@jqhuahawj3272]

A piece of “property” to pay off her father’s debt, not only once but twice! There’s a saying that goes “fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” I wished you would’ve had enough courage to say NO‼️, especially the 2nd time around. Having come back divorced & with children! The good daughter mentality should’ve went out the door the 1st time your father “sold” you to pay off his gambling debts!

[@maivang448]

Sister, koj twb hlub tau koj thawj Tus txiv laib muab koj ntaus ntaus ce ua siab hlub koj tus second husband bec he seems to love you. Stop yearning for your lost befriend bec it's too late and eventually you become a divorcee again if you continue to do so.

[@mrshanglily5647]

Not 100% true…most parents want the best for their kids. Your father has his own intentions…not every parent are like him 😜

[@btthoj5523]

Your father wasn't a father to begin with.

[@colleenchan9872]

Koj yog ib tug neeg ruam siab zoo dhau xwb os.. koj ces yug los xiam tiam lawm xwb! Tos koj txiv tuag tso mam nrauj tus txiv ko es yuav tus koj hlub koj ntshaw thiaj tsis muaj tus los txwv txiav xwb lau

[@lotusvert7024]

Koj ces xyov yog dabtsi lawm ruam tshaj ruam lawm.

[@hmongremark2686]

Lub sij hawm ntawv mas nej cov tuaj tom qab rau teb chaws no tseem tsis tau ntse rau sab twg li ces koj thiaj tsis paub nrhiav kev pab cawm koj. Thaum koj mus ciaj luag poj lawm, koj tsis muaj cai xyeej luag txoj kev txi nkawm saum txaj chaw. Yuav luag txhua tus poj niam kam ua lwm tus txiv neej niam yau yog tau kev tws hauv nws lub neej lawm xwb. Koj txiv yug koj yog ib tug neeg qhuav kev twv txiaj yuam pov ces nws tsis yog ib tug txiv tsev vam meej rau ib tug tib neeg twg li. Yog nws cov mi nyuam follow nws tej directions, lawv taug kev yuam lawm xwb.

[@m468hue5]

Tus vivncaus aw koj yeej ruam tshaj plaws tsis tus tus ruam li koj lawm koj txiv twb tsis yog neeg koj txiv yog 1 tug txiv dev ua twv txhiaj yug tej menyuam los yuam nqi xwb koj niam nkawv yeej tsis hlub koj meme kiag li kuv yog koj ces txawm yog kuv txiv kiag los kuv yeej hu Police coj nws mus qhia kev Cai rau Kom nws paub kiag xwb txhob ntshai ntshai cov txiv dev zoo li no es lawv thiaj tsis muaj muaj plhus mas

[@errantlove]

Wow, sister you are so incredibly naive. No one can force you to do anything. You allowed it to happen so it's no one's fault but yours.

[@ky7518]

Pog ruam! Tsis txhob tuaj qw2 os

[@akulathao4654]

Lady! You preach and complain but at the end of the day you back to listening to your good for nothing dad!

[@amazinggrace8136]

Screwed by everyone around you. Parents, culture and religion. I always question why anyone would choose to believe in things like this when it doesn’t even match with reality.

[@happylifexiong6534]

It is your fault for letting your parents doing that to you and you let yourself into that situation so blame yourself for the suffering pain......

[@yeevang1223]

You old enough choose your own life not your parent( vim kj ruam zog lawm xwb yus lub neej tsis yog cov neeg laus ruam ntawv ne)

[@leek-te5dx]

Where this country at? How old are you? I'm confused! 😮

[@gaosayvu6554]

Cas twb nyob teb chaws Mekas es koj ho tsis hu police tuaj coj koj mus nyob shelters los sis nyob foster homes nas?

[@ThePrincessWorrior]

li pog no yuav yog hom ruam twg ne yom? 🫨 Tsis phim tuaj nyob miskas, phim nyob tim qab tsuas ntab qhov twg xwb as, yog ruam npaum li tiag na.

[@วัฒนาบัญชณิภา]

niag neeg twb g tsim txiaj li es cas ho mus mloog hais ua dab tsi na mi ntxhais aw yog koj txiv yog tus neeg tsim txiaj mas koj mam mloog hais yus lub neej thiaj zoo hos

[@saalienahvajj5506]

So you go listen to your dad the second time??? Smh