Ukwelapha kuqala ngesibongo - Addressing the Identity Crisis

Thokoza,
Awukwazi ukwelapha umunutu osebenzisa isibongo esingafanele. Futhi awukwazi ukulungisa isibongo ngaphandle kokwazi umlando womuntu nezinqumo ezathathwa ubaba kanye nomama wakhe - nogogo nomkhulu wakhe. Ngoba kunezimfanelo ekumele zenziwe ukuze akwazi ukusebenzisa isibongo sikababa wakhe. Nowesimame okhetha ukweqela ngaphandle, ebe eganile ngokuphelela aze athola ingane nenye indoda leyo ngane esinkingeni. Ngicela nilalele nizwe ukuthi uthini ubaba uMkhize ngaloludaba.
You cannot heal someone who is carrying the incorrect surname. You need to start here. And you can correct the surname without knowledge of their history and the decisions taken their mother and father as well as their grandparents. This is because there are processes which need to be fulfilled for you to be able to use your father's surname. And the women who choose to step out despite being married correctly and fully, going as far as having another man's child - that child is in trouble. Please hear what Dr. Mkhize has to say on this matter.

[@Unc2165]

DrV.V.O you have deep knowledge sir. I respect you

[@mendysimelane1818]

Thokoza gogo uma mama washada nam ngabizwa sibongo salapo eshade khona ilungiswa kanjan leyo uma sekukudalela izinkinga

[@lorramokoka7778]

Ntate Mkhize thanks for the advices. We are listening and getting enlightened.

[@lubabalosisusa2542]

Powerful message mkhulu Mkhize

[@nomvulanxumalo8713]

Maye ngiyabonga Khabazela. Thokoza👏👏 I am clear manje.

[@happyalga]

"Sihlukumezeka ngenxa yokuswela ulwazi." Mm. Siyabonga, Mavovo. Asisaxoxelwa lezizinto njengabantu abasha. Uthola ngisho ogogo nomkhulu abasazi nabo. Ulwazi olu-basic ngesiko lwenza lukhulu. Ngicela niqhubeke nomzebenzi omuhle. 🙏🏾

[@sheltermkhwanazi93]

Yooo mkhulu dank boooo ashiiii siphelile

[@thobelanibrightzondi641]

Ngiyabingelela Khabazela Emlambomuye cela unginabele ku nombolo 2 cela isixazululo ngiyabonga👏

[@mjmeternal2696]

Cha yena uyabeka uKhabazela kodwa kuyancinka kwidlozi. Mina nje ubaba watholakala ngendlela okumele abizwe ngelongo. Kodwa wagula into ongayazi amadlozi ethi awamdingi nathi imisebenzi dololo kumnyama. Sabe ukuthola isibongo saleli khehla elimzalayo kwakhanya siyasebenza sakhile ikhaya kuhle. Ithwani ke leyo?

[@skyevisions499]

Siyabonga🕯️

[@nomvulanxumalo8713]

Asithokoze Khabazela🙏👏👏

[@mamphazimahndlangamandla3085]

Siyabonga khabazela ngeke zisalahleka izingane zami kogcina ngami

[@sihlemweli328]

Siyabonga Gcwabe

[@mlambonhleh9411]

Babu mkhize nginenkinga kagogo wezingane usahlala phantshi iminyaka ewuseven asazi ukuthi yini sesihlulekile sicela usibonise singamenzenjani siyabonga ngicela izinambha zase mlabhomunye

[@sarahbasi1451]

Siyabonga Mumbo omhlophe

[@fikilenxumali2842]

Mmh thank you mkhulu

[@XolisaDlomo]

Camagu Mkhulu, undileqele intaka ibindishiya.👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@kunupinyana]

Thokoza Makhosi 🧡

[@sphephindo3342]

Ay ngikuzwile impela, ngingumelaphi kwasanami kodwa siyafunda lukhulu lapha ekhaya

[@ellenntjana7945]

Siyabonga baba well said

[@maphumizuma5935]

Hawww baba mkhize waze wawukhulula umoya wami mina umawami wangithola ngaphandle komshado wakhe ngenxa yokuhlukana nobaba ayeshade naye and nje ngibiza isbongo sasemshadweni wakhe and nami nginengane nayo futhi ibiza sona lesbongo ngoba ubaba wayo akukho akwenza sekukhona nomzukulu wami naye ubiza sona lesibongo and bangfaka nesphandla sakhona kudala bethi ngifakwa esbongweni ngokosiko ngathelwa ngenyongo ngabe leyonto uwusiko olufanele yini empilweni yami

[@sphamandlagumbi2908]

syabonga baba ukusihlahlel indlel mina nj ngicel ukubuza ukuth ukhon yin umtwan oyilongwe ophila kahl nje ongenankinga mayelan nempilo

[@thobelanibrightzondi641]

Ngicela ukuchazeleka ngo number 2 embangweni ngisizakala kanjani baba Mkhize

[@sthembisombatha6508]

Baba'Mkhize can you please address the issue and the process of ingane ezalelwe ekhaya, then uyise alobole unina bashade bagcagce. Would that child automatically fall under isibongo sikayise?

[@gugulethumhlongo6590]

Inkinga yethu..sikhule sibizwa .ngesibongo sikababa kodwa manje sesithole ukuthi ubaba wayengazalwa khona..Futhi sesibatholile abantu lapho kuzalwa khona ubaba. Inkinga umkhulu ozala ubaba babegashadile nogogo ozala ubaba. Phezu kwalokho ubaba nomama babengagcangcile. Ngicela ukwazi ukuthi isiphi isibongo okumele sisisebenzise.

[@ballardbanele8713]

Ngyakuzwa khabazela, kushuthi ake ngithi uma uzalwa indodakazi ezalelwe ekhaya kumbe ehlawuliwe, kushuthi uyizibi zakwa gogo omzalayo

[@ndumisosibeko6076]

Cha kuzwakele baba. Ngezwa kusuka okuthile emahlombe ami. Ezinye izinto sizifaka kuzo zingabheke nathi.

[@itisdalo]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@silodlomo935]

Kwenzeka uma ubaba uma esashona sekusele umama bengagcagcanga kodwa kwalotsholwa futhi bebehlala ndawonye bahlukaniswa ukufa

[@mthitohmthiyane8680]

Ngiyakuzwa khabazela phambili

[@thandekasindane6052]

This is enlightening, but I have found that things differ across cultures. Thina emaNdebeleni things are slightly different with regards to the surname issue.. And maybe we should not make the mistake of ukulandela practices of other cultures or customs

[@Nokss87]

That's why PARENTS mut teach their children the truth and ask their parents the truth. That's how tradition is, it's KNOWING where you come from.

[@SydneyD28-6]

There are commonalities in African practices, with slight difference depending on the tribe

[@Sane-Light]

Hi, I'm Ndebele. How do we do things differently? I'm still learning about culture

[@zengezile]

Yelele nkosiyami saze sona, isengalungiseka yini lenkinga uma seyentekile? ucala kuphi nje? Siyabonga Baba

[@ntokozovilakazi6066]

Good evening, Can you please take me through the process of adopting a child, how do i phahla for permission and ukubika process

[@luthosohoma9102]

Are there any books on traditional healing?

[@phumlilemfukuli8708]

It doesn't get clearer than this

[@sandilezondifashion4513]

Mele uyeke ukukhuluma isiZulu usihlanganise nesiNgisi uma nikhuluma ngezinto zesiZulu nanokuthi nje amagama esingisi awachazi lokhu okusho ngesizulu.

[@nomvulanxumalo8713]

Khabazela🙏 uma umawakho egcagce enawe bese ubiza isbongo sika step father, kwenziwa njani

[@nomvulanxumalo8713]

Ngiyabonga ungiphendule mawugoqa. Akwande Khabazela, sengiphendulekile🙏

[@9onkentbc833]

Kunzima empilweni abazali baqala izinkinga bezishiye kanje zisale zixaka thina bengasekho kunamuhla ngiyilulwane ngenxa yabo angfisi ukufa ngingaganiwe angfusi izingane zam zkhule njengam

[@zithulelemalinga8991]

Mkhulu ngiswele imilomo yokubonga ngezinkulumo zakho ezisakhayo siyisizwe somdabu, ikakhulukazi thina esizalelwe emalokishini...

[@sambulomngadi9595]

SYABONGA BABA AMEN

[@sne732]

Yebo nginenkinga yofuzo abodokotela bathi ayikapheli ngabe ngesintu iyalapheka? Kanjani ngiyabonga

[@boitumelopooe8632]

Dumela ntate Mkhize yanong Papa haho bile ao siya wa holela ha bo malome wetsa jwang

[@madgelinegati4490]

Thokoza mkhulu I have a question that bothers me hear what does tradition say about the LBTQI.are this people safe in the ancestors

[@EstateManager-mb9br]

Thokoza mkhulu ,uma wakhulela esbongweni ekungasona esakini from kumkhulu ozala ubaba wakhula ngesbongo ekungasona esakhe nhlobo,ngenxa yokuthi wayesesele no aunty wakhe bobabili ,u aunty waganela kulesbongo umkhulu wakhulangaso....ilungiswa kanjan lenkinga?

[@ncamsilezwane3557]

Baba nginengane engasadluli ingaliphindanga ikilasi u6 u7 uwuphindile manje ufeyilile

[@mxolisidlamini6982]

Ngicela ukubuza if ingane izalelwe kababa wayo inkaba yayo ikubobaba wayo kodwa ingakhokheliwe ngesimo sokuthi umama wayo bamuxosha kubo leyongane eyakuphi?

[@busisiweshangase170]

Baba ngicela ukubuza ugogo wami akgcagcanga nomkhulu .ubaba wami walobola umama khona kuwo lowomuzi bashada umshado waphuma khona futhi kwagogo uya kubaba wami.okunye umama wami ngeskhathi eshada akabikwanga akuhlatshwanga lutho lokimbika ukuthi useyogana kodwa wafike wathelwa ngenyongo kwababa wAmi thina sikusiphi isbongo njengamanje

[@zamanjeanele6760]

Cela Mina ningichazela Uma balobolaba njengoba esho ubaba kodwa bayaphila bobabili ubaba akafuni ukugcagca nokulobola thina asikhiphe komama mele Mina ngilotsholwe kuphi

[@XoN363]

Camagu Tata

[@ntokozosibanyoni6960]

Sawubona baba. I have a question. My mother n father were married he paid lobola bashanda ngokwesintu ngakhabo mama benza konke kahle however abakhabo baba makumele bayovuma umakoti bazihlabela imvu that was meant to be yakhabo mama bayidla and azange asathelwa ngenyongo kodwa baqhubeka basha. Unfortunately Wandlula emhlabeni umama mina ngisabiza isibongo saka mama. Baba honestly angizazi kume ngibize siphi isibongo, sengize ngashintsha ngabiza saka baba to stop izimpi ebezikhona ngenxa yesibongo.

[@ntokozosibanyoni6960]

Yisiphi isibongo ekuyisona ekumele ngisisebenzise n which correct steps my be followed by both families?

[@siphamandlabrainmnyandu7618]

Khabazela Siyabonga ngokukhanyisela isizwe, ngicela ukucaciseleka ukuthi kwenzeka kanjani ukuthi umlanjwana ophila ngokuphelele ngokuphelele esibongweni sikanina,kuvuke esizukulwaneni sakhe ukuthi akayena wesibongo sikanina kukhaleleka isibongo salapho okwakuzalwa kuso Lo ozala labantwana?

[@nomusathobejane8269]

Sikuleyo nkinga nathi kidwa kuyaxazululeka

[@tandiwekeswa9798]

Mkhize yaz yandithint inteth yakh gath ubhekis kum ndiyabong kakhul ngencazel yakh ngesbong

[@9onkentbc833]

Khabazela ngcela usizo ngingumfana ozalwa abantu abangaganananga okwathi uma beshona bancwatshwa ngokwehlukana koda babehlala ndawonye skhuliswe yibo umama kwaphoqa ukuth ancwatshwe kubo kanjalo nobaba wancwatshwa kubo sasala kubo kababa manje izinto azihambi kahle benghlushwa amaphupho ngphuphe ngihujwa izinja kube khona eyodwa engilamulelayo manje ngfuna ukwakha umuzi ngabe ngiwrong yini uma ngakhela umama umuzi ngiwbize ngesbongo sakhe ngoba nathi kwaphoqa ukuba sishintshe isibongo slandele esikamama umlanjwane uyawakha yini umuzi?ngingamlobolela yini ubaba ukuze kuchume isbongo sakhe ngsizeni akusayeki kwakhona la esashiywa khona ubaba inhliziyo ivele yale

[@integriseckwikspace1414]

Ngiyakuzwa baba manje uma ubaba wami elilongwe kube izinto ziyabheda kimina kutholakale kuthi amadlozi akobaba awasinakile kuchazani loko?

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Asibonge Khabazela

[@msizisandile2645]

kuyezwakala mkhize kucace bha winkunzi inzulu lwazi le

[@zakhelenkosi2928]

Inkinga baba uKhabazela Mina ugogo ozala baba wagana kwaSithole baxosha bathi akazali wazosebenza egoli wahlangana nomkhulu wakwa Nkosi bathola ubaba manje ngiyadideka ukuthi ubaba kumele abize siphi isibongo. Esala kwakugane khona ugogo?esase khaya komawakhe kwaMbatha noma esika baba wakhe kwa Nkosi ngididekile

[@vai_vai]

Thokozani makhehla nani bogogo ngicela ukuthi ngiwezeke la , uma ngiganwa umlungu ngisinelwa kanjani?

[@skhumbuzodludla8251]

Umsuka wezinkinga zami ukuthi ngingumlanjwana, ngathatha isibongo sakababa ngokungazi. Ngase ngithatha umfazi wagcagca wathelwa ngenyongo yaka baba. Mangiyohlola kwacaca ukuthi senza iphutha. In short sashweleza umsamo wami waphindela komalume kodwa manje amadlozi don't recognize my wife, angifuna umfazi okukhulu ukuthi asezikhethela wona isancinza not my wife even though esebabele wabalethela nombondo abasekhabo mama.

[@bongsmzayiya2646]

Hambo lobola kutsha ndoda..

[@libalilengubane9946]

Ngyeza baba manje Mina ngashada kodwa kaze beyibike ingane yami kubo futhi ayikhishwanga ekhaya ngokosiko mhla ngyoshada

[@banjanithulisa1646]

Uma ugogo ozala umah wayengashadile nomah wami naye wangashada nobaba kodwa ubaba wahlawula ,wase eshona sebevumelene kwamalume ukuthi uyangithenga ,kwenziwa njani ? Xazilula baba.

[@sibusisotonight6217]

usaphethwe ngamathonga akogogo wakho .yonke into yakho isabizwa kogogowakho.

[@sherrym7371]

Thokoza Mkhulu..... What if u dont know ur fathers surname.. And ur mother doesnt know him.. But the ancestors on that side want to claim rights to you

[@mxolisimtshali2405]

Kuyezwakala, kodwa ake ngibuze lana babuMkhize.Nakhoke bayangidala abazali bami ngiyavela emhlabeni gwiqiqi sebeyahlukana bengalobolananga, ngikhule ngikwamukele futhi ukuthi ngingumtwana wasekhaya komalume. Bese kuvela ukuthi kunomsebenzi/iskhwama ebgisinikezwa abant abadala bakomalume, ngikwamukele futhi lokho.Kuthi kusenjalo kuvele umsebenzi manje engiwunikezwa abant abadala basekhaya kobaba, simiswa kanjani isimo esifana naleso mkhulu? Uthole ukuthi bonke labantu futhi beza ngolaka kunombangiswano ngawe.

[@lungelwamthunzi1039]

My story...😓

[@bonganisibisi6718]

Ngicela ukubuza, uma ngabe ungumlanjwana sewakha umuzi, wakha umuzi bese kuba umuzi kabani? Ngoba ukma wakha umuzi usuke wakhela ubaba wakho, uma ungumlanjwana wakha okabani umuzi? Ngicela usizo

[@sibusisotonight6217]

kaKhulu .ozala ugogo

[@Mbewuleni]

So basically if you are born out of marriage you are born under a curse,because you can't change your surname.I don't know of any boy child who identifies with his mother's side of the family.All boy children want to be associated with their fathers.But if you are born out of marriage you are now living under a curse and following a wrong surname.No man can truly be happy if he is not using his father's surname.Now if you are umlanjwana you must be a fool who follows arround your uncles.You can never be a leader or an heir like when you when raised by your family's side.Being an heir is not about materialistic things is about recognition as the first born son.If your parents never married you are nothing but a dog no matter how wealthy you can be in life.You have no true identity. All great leaders of the world are produced through marriage.I am yet to see a President here in South Africa whose parents were never married or divorced.

[@thulisilezulu5291]

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