Unbearably Beautiful | Gay Documentary | Stanchris

"Unbearably Beautiful" dives into the complexities of body image in the gay community, with a focus on the bear community. Filmed during the 24th Annual Bear Week in Provincetown, this documentary explores the challenges, stereotypes, and triumphs that bears face while embracing body positivity and self-acceptance. Through candid interviews and real-life experiences, we uncover how bears are breaking traditional beauty norms and celebrating diversity. Join us on this empowering journey of confidence, pride, and love for every body.
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[@StanChris]

Hit the like if you want more documentaries! 👍❤️

[@ridor9th]

Next time, please include Deaf Bears. We deserved our little space.

[@SeanShimamoto]

I love bears…always have. I used to live in West Hollywood 24 years ago, back when I was fit and just a little older than you are now, and there were bars where mostly bears would frequent…and I loved going there ‘cause I was usually the only small Asian dude and the bears would love to pick me up and give me bear hugs. Hehe. I’ve always said that I’d rather have sex with a bear ‘cause there’s more to hold onto and they’re the bestest to cuddle! 🥰❤️🧸🧔🏽‍♂️🧔🏿‍♂️🧔🏼‍♂️🧔🏻‍♂️🧔🏾‍♂️

[@WardConant]

You are really good at this, Chris, and getting better with each one!

[@richardbuckwalter8571]

Chris, this was a great documentary, you do a really great job!! Keep bringing the documentaries!! ❤🌈❤️

[@richardaustin5796]

Definitely want to see more documentaries by you in the future. You're producing great material, Chris, and being noticed for your talent in doing so, very deservedly. Get ready for more awards! Get this documentary out to film festivals right away, and all over the world. Great job. -Rich from Maine.

[@slreythuge8113]

As a parent of a gay adult child, I’m so thankful to have found this documentary. I was worried and sad that my child might not ever find love or will be accepted in the gay community because he is a bigger dude. This give me hope and happiness that there are possibilities and potential and I am happy that this community exists.

[@bcbindle]

There’s enough love out there for everyone!!

[@Commonsenseisntcommon666]

We need more parents like you ❤

[@slreythuge8113]

@@bcbindle There sure is!

[@slreythuge8113]

@@Commonsenseisntcommon666 Thank you so much. Communities like this and folks who shares their stories help me support my kiddo in ways I didn’t know.

[@holger_p]

@@slreythuge8113 You sounded more like holding your son back, by thinking "he is to ugly/extraordnary, he will never find somebody". Good you doubts are gone now, but don't have these thoughts in first place. You should tell your son "everything will work out for you" also without such videos. If you are unsure, you simply lie. That's what parents do.

[@davidsutton2948]

OMG. I wish someone would have had the courage to do a documentary like this 30 years ago. I didn’t truly come out to MYSEKF until 2017 at the age of 51 due to the gay community, stereotypical body shaming. Thank you for making this and I hope younger gays facing the same worries I had in my youth see this and realize they are accepted just the way they are. There is community in all of us if we let it show.

[@AfraidMonsters]

uh? that isn't "breaking gay body standards".... The guy in the thumbnail, and most of these guys, are obese. It's gross. It's literally being un help thea. I'm a twink and I think twinks are way better, but I also like bears a bit. There's a difference between just being a bear, and being obese. And I hate that obese men use "bear" as a term to feel okay with literally being closer to cardiac arrest, and MANY, MANY more he L tissues.

[@barrytolbert2026]

Amen I know how you feel..

[@AhmedAhmed-rn3yz]

I am a bear with muscles, hair, a beautiful and harmonious body, an Arab bodybuilder, and my beard is black. All the men and young men love me, but I live in an Arab country where I am suffocating because they reject homosexuality and see that stoning is only for straight people. I need the help of an association or organization to help me seek asylum and leave this country. Help me and save me.

[@matthewbradley5570]

I needed this so bad. My self esteem has been awful. I live in a rural area and struggle not being skinny. At work the other day a patient called me “the fat bald man, with a neck roll” it crushed me. This documentary brought me to tears.

[@pgbear]

Sorry to hear that, Matthew.

[@Blodreina45]

I just keep to myself at this point, I don’t even tell people I’m gay at this point. I’ve made peace with being a gay hermit.

[@matthewbradley5570]

@@Blodreina45 same. I’ve given up. Just used to the fact I’ll be alone. Maybe one day I wish you the best

[@matthewbradley5570]

@@pgbear I appreciate that❤️

[@witchmorrow]

but why not try to seek out other bears like in the event above? you don't have to be alone, they will accept you there

[@resedabear]

Everything said here is spot on. Including the fact that we have been disrespected in many ways - not just on body image, but of other aspects which have been touched upon in the doc. There's classism and elitism within LGBTQ+ spaces. You deal with it, but it still pisses you off. As much as you want to do something about it, you find something constructive to do so. Just rise above the din and be yourself. I'm proud to calll myself a gay man who is bear-identified and not-so-classicaly chubby. Hell, I'm just me. Good job on this doc, Chris!

[@robertsterett4260]

The most attractive Gay Men are those that are ok with who they are and accepting about all around them. That's attractive, fun and great!

[@AfraidMonsters]

uh? that isn't "breaking gay body standards".... The guy in the thumbnail, and most of these guys, are obese. It's gross. It's literally being un help thea. I'm a twink and I think twinks are way better, but I also like bears a bit. There's a difference between just being a bear, and being obese. And I hate that obese men use "bear" as a term to feel okay with literally being closer to cardiac arrest, and MANY, MANY more he L tissues.

[@barrytolbert2026]

Well said ❤

[@aden1466]

@@barrytolbert2026 lets get real... this isn't true.

[@TayWoode]

So true, same goes for straight men. It’s all about confidence without being arrogant. Nothing worse than an incredibly good looking guy with an amazing body who is so insecure. I briefly dated a guy like that, everyone thought he was amazing but he did nothing but be insecure about everything from his feet (which were perfect) to the smell of his house (didn’t smell of anything) to the colour of a top he was wearing. He was very masculine and straight acting which made it weirder coz it’s not what you’d normally expect. I’m pretty sure he was bulimic but I had no proof

[@GLopezMad]

Not

[@marksule0]

I have found a lot of acceptance in tbe bear community as well. They are friendly, chill, and down to earfh. ❤

[@Georgpreube]

Hi handsome 🥰❤

[@pr1666]

I'm a older gay man and full time resident of p'town. I like Bear week the most. Its the week that people will smile, wave and actually see me as I walk down the street. Its nice to see people who care about the person rather than the image.

[@duane_f]

Excellent work, Chris. I hope you plan to submit it to some competitions. 👍👍👍👍👍

[@JustinMcCarthy-cy1mv]

totally agree... this feels more like a prize-winning documentary than "just" a KZbin video.

[@bach1750]

I remember finding Bear magazine in the 90s. Saved my life.

[@ConeyIslandKing]

how?

[@ridor9th]

@@ConeyIslandKing In 1980s, it is easy to find these porn magazines under the water towers. Don't ask me why it is there but they tend to be there.

[@MightySJB2]

Thanks for all you do in support of Bear acceptance!

[@johnamstutz]

I've always been so surprised that a persecuted minority like ours,persecutes our own members. You'd think we'd be a little more compassionate. I really enjoyed your documentary, looking forward to more.😊

[@AfraidMonsters]

uh? that isn't "breaking gay body standards".... The guy in the thumbnail, and most of these guys, are obese. It's gross. It's literally being un help thea. I'm a twink and I think twinks are way better, but I also like bears a bit. There's a difference between just being a bear, and being obese. And I hate that obese men use "bear" as a term to feel okay with literally being closer to cardiac arrest, and MANY, MANY more he L tissues.

[@Ephebvs]

I agree! Totes!

[@newagehero9605]

Well you never know unless you are in the receiving end just like white privilege 😂

[@FarfettilLejl]

Not finding someone attractive is not persecution

[@johnamstutz]

@@FarfettilLejl making fun of someone is!

[@thederekfrazier8791]

Chris, I just wanted to say thank you so much for opening this door and making awareness to a community of men and people that are very beautiful and this is a conversation that is long overdue.

[@AfraidMonsters]

uh? that isn't "breaking gay body standards".... The guy in the thumbnail, and most of these guys, are obese. It's gross. It's literally being un help thea. I'm a twink and I think twinks are way better, but I also like bears a bit. There's a difference between just being a bear, and being obese. And I hate that obese men use "bear" as a term to feel okay with literally being closer to cardiac arrest, and MANY, MANY more he L tissues.

[@ivonna.tinkle]

I was watching @stanchris video tonight, then I looked at the time and I realized I was missing one of my favorite shows Big Brother, minutes later you popped up, Big D from BB23!

[@jimmychiado1722]

Thanks for sharing your story …really added to this video 👏👏👏

[@skyblueo]

Thank you for being a part of this and representing for the Black Bears in such a thoughtful way. Big hugs from a 63 year old Black Bear.

[@titoburrito4450]

Say it Derek!!

[@smainsadji3796]

All the people who participated in this wonderful documentary are simply beautiful. Don't let anyone tell you the opposite. Thanks for sharing your video, Chris.

[@nisto1518]

Thank you for this. I'm sitting here crying my eyes out because I've kept all the things in that these guys talked about. This helps me so much to know I'm not alone, and helps get some anger and self-loathing out of my head.

[@jelsner5077]

🐻🧔🐻 {Big Bear Hug} 🐻🧔🐻

[@monitorlizard1]

It's good to cry. Don't keep it in. Yes, ALL of these comments in more. We are our own worst critics MUCH more often than anyone else. We know how to dig in and press our own buttons. Seek help. Please. You are NOT alone. If "community" helps you, find your people. Call, text, anything when it's hard. There ARE people who care.

[@ElioOlander]

What an important and adorable video Chris. I am a trans boy bear Cub. It has helped me change my way of viewing what I used to see as l minimal female curves to just being a chubby little guy. 🐻‍❄️🏳️‍⚧️

[@User_Az_0]

Same here, but I'm chubby and curvy. I'm naturally curvy, pretty sure it's just how my family is.

[@TheREVOLUTION690]

Chris , you are really an awesome person. I have sort of lost faith in the gay community for myself at least. its truly amazing to see someone like yourself trying to make a difference and make documentarys on taboo subjects and especially subjects that I have been waiting for someone to cover. I think what's amazing is also the love and respect you have for your boyfriend. including him in your videos and seeing the kindness you spread. it shows that it comes from a non judgmental place. it sort of brings me away from the narrative that most gay people are not kind or genuine but you are proving me wrong every time you release an amazing documentary like this one showing that there's space for everyone to be happy and proud who they are.

[@cubbycuddles88]

this video is everything. When i came out i was told i was cute but fat over and over. As an adult im realizing how damaging that was. I hope to go to more bear events and find a community to be a part of :)

[@jelsner5077]

🐻🧔🐻 { Big Bear Hug!} 🐻🧔🐻

[@monitorlizard1]

Exactly. Slim meets Puberty and creates husky and with peer pressure and a constant diet of guilt and shame, then to see "obese" in the doctor's notes, it all just craters inside. I should go to a Bear event.

[@gipsydanger5020]

Enjoy your echo chamber of bears. You can get away with eating like crap and not exercising when you're young but you WILL develop multiple health issues as times goes by. But hey, at least when you have diabetes and heart disease you can say "at least I found bear events to be part of"

[@olivermorgan9479]

Chris, you should submit this for a reward. Perhaps there is a body positivity magazine or something like that. This deserves a larger cultural look!

[@mjb_143]

We all want to feel valued and accepted. Thank you for such a positive and powerful message.

[@Matt_H2O]

Love this Chris. As a major influencer in the gay social media community you ae setting the standard in quality viewing. I admire the courage of these men to speak out and show how we can embrace each other. True beauty come from within. 💖💖🌈🌈🐻🐻

[@Georgpreube]

Hi handsome buddy 🥰 you look so handsome ❤

[@edwhite7457]

Having been a bartender in Palm Springs, Ive dealt with the West Hollywood gym bunnies and the Bears and Bears are much more fun to be around aand to wait on. Bears have happier spirits.

[@ivanrodriguez268]

I agree. The muscular types have a lot of cattiness and elitism around them. It's so idolized that they have become these monstrous narcissistic people who do no wrong because everyone defends them. I'm glad we are looking past this.

[@adamsmith9636]

As a BEAR lover since I came out in my early 20's I find they are just as cliquish as the skinny perfect guys . Doesn't mean at 60 I'm still trying and hoping to find my own Bear .

[@eddiejohnson3366]

Your journey has been so fun to watch. Watching you grow as a KZbinr is incredible. And now here we are, watching your short films and documentaries! Side note I’m from western Massachusetts so I know Ptown and it’s entertaining watching because of its familiarity. Keep up the good work!

[@Moefongoe]

Fat shaming within the gay community is wild as hell. Bears are One of the sweetest groups out there. Always meet fun loving peeps in thar group. Grey wolves are my weakness lol

[@gipsydanger5020]

We need more fat shaming in addition to health promotion. If you're old and want to be fat that's your decision. Telling young people that "big is beautiful" is setting them up for failure and long-term health issues

[@scottschellenberg2421]

Genuinely inspiring. Thanks again for having us! 💕🧸

[@ND-wp4qk]

Honestly, I have rarely watched your content for various reasons but this type of content is thought provoking and informative. It is good to challenge perceptions and open up conversations. So yeah, this is a good one.

[@pandabear153]

I never had that issue about body size. I just pray to meet someone that will love me no matter what and I him! I met him in 1975. We were together until his passing 2 yrs ago such shy of his 95th birthday. I'm 5'1". He was much bigger and handicapped.

[@Steve-YT383]

I find myself attracted to many body types.

[@Ephebvs]

I love your kitty heh heh!

[@craigharvey-gurr337]

So do I.

[@holger_p]

Could it be, you just ignore the body ?

[@hebrewmarcelin5879]

My mental health was in the toilet as of late and it was nice to welcome this positivity into my life. Great video!

[@robschrader7587]

Chris, you are absolutely so good at videos like this. I would love to see more documentaries. I love to see you broadening your horizons like this. I could tell you my story, but it probably wouldn't make any difference. I do feel a lot like most of the guys in your video. I almost cried through the entire thing. Keep up the great work, young man. ❤

[@larrykruse8808]

Chris, this is the finest work you have produced to date. It showcases your skill, artistry and professionalism. Keep moving forward with determination. Great things are coming your way.

[@steverasmussen1905]

Chris, thank you! This was a fabulous video. Made me feel even better about myself. Love this type of content, thanks again! And love to all the gorgeous people featured ❤

[@ParvaizRaja]

I’ve watched you grow into a more mature man and become even better at content creation over time. Sending love and blessings from Iran-Pakistan.

[@pwblackman]

Keep making documentaries, it will open up a whole new pathway for you that will hold you in good stead as you age. Well done. 😊

[@GlenRN64]

Chris, I really appreciate and enjoyed this documentary short. You are coming into your own as a filmmaker and you have a beautiful and meaningful message. As an old bear who has now been out for nearly 44 years, it is a joy to see and share in your journey over the fast few years.

[@richardlynch6536]

THIS. The BEAR community saved my life- I only wish we had this amazing group of men back when I was "a kid"... Thank you for this documentary- more, please!

[@kaitocosplay6026]

Thank you so much Chris for this eye opening documentary. I feel this needs to be even more known than what it is now. Keep up the great work and again thank you so much for this.

[@michaelresnick9962]

Thanks Chris. Awesome documentary. It really shows how big gay guys can experience trauma and eating disorders. I too really lost a bunch of weight when I was younger and it was so unhealthy. Your content is awesome around this subject. Big hugs.

[@FRESH-SHAMLAN]

I love how honest and forward their answers are!! it tells you alot about how they're surrounded with support and safe environment

[@tedtorres3919]

Hi. I'm so impressed how much you have come to mature. I just turned 60 and wasn't aware of some of these issues. Thanks for keeping me grounded. And, this is a very thoughtful project, well structured.

[@chirpsie]

Wow what a great documentary! Fascinating! I'm an older gay lady and learned so much from this. The lesbian community could definitely benefit from watching this. Well done chris!

[@alaskafan21]

Wow ! What an excellent documentary. I will watch it again. Chris every time you make a film they keep getting better. You have such a knack . I hope you can get this to eventually find an outlet that wins you an award, you deserve it ! Love and hugs.

[@moni_here33699]

You have taken down a huge burden from my heart. I cannot thank you enough, Chris. I do exercise for my better performance at work and at creativity in general nowadays. You have returned me a spark I had lost.

[@rcoppock44]

Hi Chris, Well you have made being bare foot very frequent for me because you keep knocking my socks off 😅Thanks Chris for an amazing journey ❤❤❤😊

[@nathanprime2434]

OMG! The twink when he said you need a lint roller afterwards! AHAHAHAHA

[@the1andonlytrav]

It brings me so much joy seeing documentaries like this. I came out at age 17, but haven’t been a part of the gay community for many years. I’m a non-sexual person and I don’t fit into any categories. 😅

[@jelsner5077]

🐻🧔🐻 { Big Bear Hug! } 🐻🧔🐻

[@chatsnoirblamo]

Thank you lil papa bear. You’re tops at this documentary thing!

[@confessorsedai]

Wow, they really are some of the most open-minded and down to earth people. It was a beautiful doc! 🐻♥️

[@joelovb]

Thank you for doing this @StanChris. Perspectives like these are needed in our community. Big Hugs!

[@mikemac7221]

A really excellent piece of work Chris. I'm in Ireland and am a bear. Not out but love what i see here and the super sense of community. Keep up the good work Chris you are a great ambassador for the gay community. Love how your youtube journey is progressing.

[@pgbear]

Good luck to you, Mike. Being Irish and a bear, that's two cool things right there. Best wishes to you.

[@Garconmodel]

Beautiful documentary, Chris. As a gay fashion brand, it really opened our eyes to the need for more body type diversity in our branding. We’re committed to doing better, and our next photoshoot will proudly feature and celebrate the bear community. Thanks 🙏🏼

[@christianmolick8647]

🐻

[@huntra728]

Thank you for this, Chris 🖤🤎🧡💛🤍

[@alexanderfelton9760]

This is a great documentary! It's lovely to see how far we've come as a community and how far we still have to go. I thank Big D for being present in this doc as the only Black voice there. It's still hard for me to feel comfortable in gay spaces because I'm not seen as desirable in the same way as my non-melaninated peers. But that's on me. I deserve to take space, even if I have to make it myself.

[@Escmacrae95]

This is excellent, you should be very proud of yourself Chris! This documentary has certainly opened up my horizons

[@hairybear47]

Thank you so much for your video. Bear week is part of my life since the beginning.

[@GeorgeWells00]

This is a beautiful piece of work! I completely appreciate the content and as a bear myself, which I’ve only recently accepted, I really enjoyed all the details included. Truly a stellar documentary! Thank you so much.❤❤❤🇨🇦

[@kadikaado]

Thanks for this video, it is amazing. I loved how kind you were with everyone. Wish more people treated others like you treated them in this video.

[@DinGrogu16]

The guy who called himself a 'black bear' is hot. Don't change hunni! 🔥

[@frankcorrea8691]

Yes that young black bear is very handsome znd I am sure there are all types of guys that would like to go out with him, he is a handsome one, and the documentary was real and poignant, and very touching, thanks for your work!😮

[@23gizmo32]

Thank you so very much for this long needed and professionally created video. I could never quite get why many in the gay community reject other gays who don't have the "correct" body shape. And it's not just bears. Sometimes it feels like there's been an on-going battle between gays and lesbians. And way too often transpeople don't get treated the way I believe that they should. We are ONE community and should act as such, strongly supporting one another. Your video is a step in making that happen.

[@EwaldBarrink]

The black bear speaks nice words. It is often in our community based on looks. Beauty and brains. Are we really so inclusive as we say 🤔 @ stan great vid love to see more content like this. You and Art shows us how the community is worldwide. I really ❤ the vids. Take care bro and love and hug to you all. 🥰

[@michaelblank9597]

One of the best documentary I have seen recently. So many things I can relate to. Thank you Chris for this. Accepting Yourself and Your body is the best way to enjoy life even more. Great work. Your are one the best. All the best from Germany. Michael

[@brentbraniff]

Well done on this documentary. You had lots of good cover video for your interviews, it flowed well...and it was well shot. The interviews were good as well. A friend and I had a conversation just today about confidence and it pertained mostly to people who are older and comfortable with who they are (we were actually talking about nudists and how we admired older and larger men who attend nudist camps and how their nudism radiates their confidence). We also talk about something you brought up about how guys who are conventionally good looking have a head start on the rest of us since they were complimented and admired their entire lives. I was told I was ugly and worthless early on in my life and because it was programmed into me, I carried it with me yet to this day. I thought that once I came out as gay, I would be accepted but because I felt I was unattractive I fell back and never thought I was worthy of being part of the gay community. It's a rough thing to get over. I still don't feel comfortable being around gay guys. I just don't feel good enough. So, when I see pictures of beautiful gay men as couples or in a group, I just figure that I will never fit in and never be able to live fully as a gay man. Anyway, thanks for this video. You did a good job. Keep doing more!! Thanks!

[@Freddy-b-chillin]

Another great production - relevant, relatable, and such a spot on topic for the community. Way to go Chris.

[@angrycupcake8241]

A wonderful documentary, so fun to watch - thank you and hello from Germany ❣

[@ivanrodriguez268]

I have to say 'bears' are some of the nicest people I have ever met and I have lived in many cities all around the world. They are kind, respectful, and very empathetic to others. I think all of us as gay men should learn from them.

[@loveislove4879]

I really enjoyed the documentary Stan. You did a great job and I hope to see more. Thanks for all your hard work!

[@Georgpreube]

Hi buddy 🥰, You look so Amazing ❤

[@gjhartist3685]

I love bears, always have since finding out about them years ago. Great series of interviews Chris!

[@robertsteffler9184]

What's attractive is if someone is comfortable in their own skin. I would suggest not focusing so much on your appearance but instead focusing on actual health standards like heart health and blood sugar levels. Guys can be heavy set and healthy and happy at the same time.

[@seaotter64]

Life changing! Going to my first bear event in two days (at 60 yo!) and was feeling nervous about it. I feel so much better. I don't know how I missed out on being a part of this for so long. I'm glad I found it. Thank you for all you do to support us!

[@GregAgopsowicz]

The irony I have always found is no matter the size, gays still ostracize based on how good looking you are whether you are 300+lbs or twink. Which I have always had issues with. Every one is beautiful and should be accepted and loved.

[@dragonslayer125]

You have hit the nail on the proverbial head .........

[@zaydae6394]

So proud of you Chris! Your channel has come a long way but this is something I can definitely appreciate love and respect. Was a beautiful documentary. Would love to see more of this out there. Sure we have pride but there are so many stigmas and insecurities still existing with in our own community that needs to be addressed more often! This was brilliant ❤❤❤❤❤

[@datcatsavedme7071]

Give us a documentary on ghosting next!

[@Ephebvs]

Cute kitty!

[@TheDirtDoctor1]

Great work Chris. I appreciate you covering this topic.

[@EvanKilos]

You need a lint roller after you get out of the club with them. That is the most self-absorbed shallow thing I have heard. Thank you Chris for making this video

[@the1andonlytrav]

Yeah… I didn’t find that humor very funny.

[@dragonslayer125]

It's a p-hair-amone ...... You don't like it - dust yourself with baby powder and get under the duvet - but it is a part of man-scent. If you don't like it, I am sure they have clubs for under 18's - hairless being a requisite. Wasn't very funny - and bearness is a thing ..... Get used to it.

[@EvanKilos]

@@dragonslayer125 I absolutely agree with you. I find from this video and other comments complete self-acceptance and acceptance of others which is hard to come by in the gay community

[@SpinalGT]

I'm 40, and in the 90s when I was a teenager I always felt weird and that something was wrong, why was I attracted to big hairy chubby guys? I didn't quite understand why I was always interested in that particularly type, then in the late 90s early 2000s I found out about bears on the internet, remember seeing for the first time chubby and big men naked, oh man, I remember feeling in paradise, it was surreal. And me as a big fat man myself finally felt that I belong to some group. I'm 6ft5 350 pounds or 1.96m and 170kg which prior to that discovery meant that I was unfit, outcast, unwanted. Thank you BEAR community.

[@strykeyboi]

As a gay trans man, I'd love to see you make a video on the gay transmen/mascs and the struggles they have in the gay scene.

[@richardwilliam185]

This documentary should be shown everywhere. So important to love everyone for who they are

[@robh5174]

Do a documentary on gay cops, would love to watch and maybe even join. I’m sure Bret can tell you, it’s not easy especially depending on the department you work for.

[@AfraidMonsters]

male cops are always so sexy... gay male cops that are attractive would be mmm

[@Ephebvs]

Totally agree! Great idea! My husband is friends with cops. We have a bi friend who's a federal agent and he works in the São Paulo (Brazil) international airport which is the biggest hub in South America. I was also friends with a married gay guy who's a sheriff and I have American friends who served in the military. A gay American friend of mine served in Somalia as a medic.

[@cantwin8105]

Absolutely. From nc here and my partner is a former cop. It luckily didn't effect his line of work at all

[@holger_p]

Isn't that a too small group ? I mean there is kind of a uniform fetish - but you talk about the real profession ? So what's next, gay bus drivers, gay farmers, gay bakers ? I don't think that are really noticable groups.

[@brianwannamaker7263]

I’d just like to thank you personally on an amazing job. As a Bear and a x-journalist it’s nice to see such a positive video on the male body in today’s society. I love how you covered it all from the struggles within to acceptance. Keep up the great work. You have definitely been a wonderful addition to the bear community 🥰 love and big bear hugs !

[@lawsonhillmusic]

Thank you for doing this 💛

[@alexeiguren]

Thank you so much for the work you and your crew did putting this documentary together, and a big thank you to all the bears and bear lovers that contributed with their interviews 🐻🩷💜🩵🐻

[@brianellis869]

Excellent job on the documentary. I feel it's accurate and informative!

[@peterashman5749]

Brilliant documentary, thank you. Identified so many of the issues I have as an older larger man, trying to be someone different et cetera. I hope one day I can live with who I am in the way that the people you met do.

[@frankcorrea8691]

Hey you will be surprised when that someone finds you, we tend to keep ourselves in that box, and don't explore who we really are!😢

[@franciscopagan3255]

Yes! I like more documentaries!❤

[@michaelbrembs9443]

Thank you for you and thank you for creating this documentary. I’m an older guy who identifies with the Bear community and its affirmation of the body . Love the acceptance and love of the bear community. 🐻

[@derecktemple4259]

I love this so much! I feel so seen! Thank you! Also.. I’m a huge Barbie collector so I need to know who the Barbie blogger is 😅❤

[@MyKenundrum]

MyKenundrum that’s me!!!🩷🩷🩷

[@timstetson1281]

Thank you for making this! Loved it!

[@listenluo2333]

What some gay guys really need to change is their mindset! Why do you gotta make others like your body? Just because other gay guys aren't interested in your physique doesn't mean they're discriminating against you. All you gotta do is accept yourself the way you are, and embrace the fact that others might not find you physically attractive. It's their prerogative!

[@connor7048]

Did you even watch the documentary? It's not as simple as you wanna make it seem. When the majority of a community ostracizes you, judges you, doesn't want to be around you or associate with you because of how you look, it is extremely hurtful. The community is extremely toxic and we need to acknowledge it.

[@Ephebvs]

Same with race and color! You can't force yourself on somebody, that's assault. I agree there's no need to be mean and unpleasant to people hitting on you or just making conversation. The gay community needs to lay off the toxicity and have more empathy. I agree with lightening up like the bear guy that said bears are just more compassionate and likely to smile. When I was a teen I thought the gay community would be really a community with guys having camaraderie and being approachable, especially cuz gay men used to be persecuted in the Western hemisphere. I don't get why so much animosity. Gays who act like Heathers and Mean Girls need to chill. Regarding skin color, some people might date or marry within their race for several factors, it might be the demographics of where they live or they just don't want to be fetishized or idealized and just want to be treated normally. It is sad to try to shame someone into going to bed with you. Regarding body types even with a small gay pool in some regions, there's the web, you will find someone. My husband is older than me, a xennial gen X who used to be ripped and now has a dad bod and I love it.

[@newagehero9605]

The problem is , is that bigger guys are on the lower scale when it comes to Beaty standards meaning like they have 3/10th chance of another gay guy finding them attractive that’s so easy for you to say when you’re higher on the scale meaning you have more opportunities and “options “ for dating. Keep in mind also in some city’s the gay pool is smaller making chances more slimmer like yeah you can love yourself all you want but at the end of the day most men are going to put looks first because most men are not demisexual. You might never understand it if you haven’t experienced it, it’s like trying to explain to a white person what white privilege is unless they really cared enough to analyze it. Pretty privilege is the same and rather or not you don’t consider yourself pretty there is scale and being slim or skinny looking puts you up a notch in the scale automatically. Beauty standards is a complicated topic because people don’t know how they became to be attracted to the type of people they are when it comes to looks, a lot of people need to look into fascism.(btw im speaking in general so I’m not assuming what you look like/ and yes I am on a weight loss journey)

[@cosmictraveler1146]

Girl…the issue is when people insult you because of xyz and this “advice” is meaningless when the cause of the distress is external and not a negative self image

[@gipsydanger5020]

@@connor7048 I don't want to hang around fat people as my inner circle of friends. You tend to pick up the habits of the people you hang around with most. I want to associate and date people who are into a healthy lifestyle, sorry

[@rob-time]

This video is so revealing and important. Im a 61 yr old fit daddy. I grew up before the bear culture was like it is now and the emphasis was solely on the muscle queens. I was a skinny twink in my younger years, which I hated so much because those muscle guys never noticed me. They were all into each other. Now, I am muscular and everybody wants a "dad bod" to go with the white beard. I just can't win. I'm still attracted to muscle guys but they still aren't attracted to me, even though, now I am closer to one of them. I am jealous of the bear community.

[@Bearwwwcomofficial]

Excellent documentary. Thank U Chris.

[@JeffMartinez-wy2xw]

What an incredible job!!! As someone who went through middle school and high school being bullied for being fat (at one point over 500lbs) I truly understood the points that were made THANK YOU for really being open to the subject matter, not being judgemental and being brave enough to make this.

[@JeffSartain_atx]

🐻Thank you Chris! ❤🐻 Very nicely done. I'm proud of you and my community! 💋❤️

[@summerwithmike]

Great job on this, Chris. Wide range of voices and identities. Love it!

[@Stories885]

Everyone can be extremely judgmental in the gay community. Really doesn’t matter. The only thing you need to do is make sure YOU are comfy in your body. It REALLY does suck to when you have a crush and it’s not returned. It’s ok not to be attracted to certain body types. You don’t need to announce what it is or what your attracted to. I’m getting kind of tired of gay men who rub their anger and aggressiveness out on people who don’t find them attractive, but then will sit there and know for a fact that there not interested in a certain type either. People really do have people they really would never dare date because of how they look. This isn’t to say we shouldn’t have our own time to vent, but if you are sitting there acting nasty and acting out , I want to truly look inward, love yourself, be patient with yourself and know that you are deserving of love and that there will be people out there willing to give it to you.

[@listenluo2333]

Totally agree with you.

[@newagehero9605]

The problem is , is that bigger guys are on the lower scale when it comes to Beaty standards meaning like they have 3/10th chance of another gay guy finding them attractive that’s so easy for you to say when you’re higher on the scale meaning you have more opportunities and “options “ for dating. Keep in mind also in some city’s the gay pool is smaller making chances more slimmer like yeah you can love yourself all you want but at the end of the day most men are going to put looks first because most men are not demisexual. You might never understand it if you haven’t experienced it, it’s like trying to explain to a white person what white privilege is unless they really cared enough to analyze it. Pretty privilege is the same and rather or not you don’t consider yourself pretty there is scale and being slim or skinny looking puts you up a notch in the scale automatically. Beauty standards is a complicated topic because people don’t know how they became to be attracted to the type of people they are when it comes to looks, a lot of people need to look into fascism.(btw im speaking in general so I’m not assuming what you look like/ and yes I am on a weight loss journey)

[@Stories885]

@@newagehero9605 I have plenty of fat freinds, who are also older, that are in loving, committed relationships and have no problem finding hookups or sex. Small towns or big towns.

[@newagehero9605]

@@Stories885 those are YOUR friends that doesn’t make it true for anyone else plus they’re are other factors like race and height, money and status

[@Stories885]

@@newagehero9605 some of the people I know that fall into that category are of all different classes. I’m not trying to be fatphobic, mean or hateful at all. I’m just trying to say that we ALL have things we are attracted to and are not attracted to. Im not of conventional beauty standards either. I know what it means to struggle when it comes to it, but the main point I am trying to make is not to make unconventionally attractive people look like VICTIMS. Because that doesn’t breed acceptance it just makes people feel sorry and pity them most of the time. I’m not saying you can’t feel bad or sorry for them sometimes, but framing them as victims isn’t the way to go.

[@andisgeste]

Feels like home. Thank you for your nice work and cheers to all the guys, who bravely told their stories!

[@tom_mik1]

7:42 you need a lint roller after going out of the club with them 😂

[@PhilipWeisman-dl4ik]

The internalization of being bullied just makes you a bully to others. We need to change that as quickly as possible. Good job Chris ❤❤🎉🎉😊😊😊

[@alanhughchandler5504]

Thanks for doing this Chris as a bear some times I've felt unattractive

[@rz1974]

Bears can be just as exclusive as jocks, it's still an intensely predominately white space, and within the community there is still a hierarchy of what's desirable, that standard then informs if people will include or even engage with you