Uncomfortable Questions and How You Should Deal with Them in English

[@happymunchkin2812]

May I have a request? By the way, love your videos. My request is that when you have a friend that every time you go out with them and they always talk bad about the other friends and you don’t want to hear about it and you don’t know what to tell her to stop in a nice way. I do like to spend time with her, but would like to talk about fun stuff or some events. Thank you in advance.

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Oh, what a great question!! Thank you for that. I will DEFINITELY make a lesson on this topic soon. I've added it to my list for April... so be sure to watch for it. Thank you for the suggestion. 👍 (P.S. I'm so glad my lessons are helpful to you!)

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Also, I recently did a lesson on what to say when someone is rude to you, which may be helpful but I'm going to do a lesson specifically on your question April 3. www.speakconfidentenglish.com/what-to-say-when-someone-is-rude/

[@happymunchkin2812]

Thanks for responding 😊. Can’t wait for that video.

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

@@happymunchkin2812 Hi there. I wanted to let you know that I have a lesson coming on Wednesday, April 3 to answer your question. 😉

[@happymunchkin2812]

Speak Confident English ok, great 😊. Will look forward to it.

[@brightphoebesays]

It's a problem even in your first language! I think new people use it as a way of gauging how strong your boundaries are. People can ask, it's up to us to decide whether to answer or not and how. In fact, it's an important thing to know, or people will take advantage of you and become even ruder.

[@muminabegum7466]

I remember being asked a personal question by one of my Aunts during my older brother’s wedding last year lol! She was sitting next to me in the marquee in our garden and started asking me things like, So you’re 26 at the moment so are you ready for marriage? And when I said “no, not yet,” she asked: Why is that? Is it because your family are not allowing you to? I then told her that I’m just not ready for it yet and she goes: Do you ever stress about marriage or something? I then said that I don’t feel comfortable talking about that and walked away with one of my friends.

[@efeuzel1399]

Thank you for this lesson. It is not only about English, these are good strategies in any language.

[@Laíspelomundo]

Sometimes curious people ask me why I don't have children or why I'm not married. I hate these kind of questions😤. Thanks for teach me how to answer some of those unconfortable questions

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Those are definitely frustrating and uncomfortable questions. I hope this video gave you some new strategies to use when responding.

[@mariateresacalvolorenzo2808]

Where I live I have learned what they do: when they ask you something you do not want to answer, you answer with something different or you remain silent, they may keep asking but not more than three times

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Oh, that's an interesting way to handle uncomfortable questions!

[@joseluischiquito5891]

I just told the intruder: I'm trying to leave this matter behind, I hope you'll be willing to help me.

[@yuyumie]

As a non native English speaker, i sometimes have trouble dealing w uncomfortable questions. Im so glad to discover ur video! And you’ve gained urself a new subscriber. Thanks so much Maam💗

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Thanks so much for watching and subscribing, Queen ! I appreciate it and am very glad to know you're enjoying my lessons.

[@rebeccafancon6344]

These are amazing thoughts or ways to deal with uncomfortable questions.. thanks Anne

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

You're so welcome, Rebecca!

[@cjsrnrdptj1009]

the way you talk makes us feel very comfortable. today I first encountered the word "intrusive" I will try to use it over and over until I get used to it. thanks a million for uploading great lessons continuously. you are one of the best. god bless you

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Thanks so much for your comment. I'm glad you've learned a new word and my lessons help you feel comfortable.

[@pauloauditor4419]

You help a Lot of people with yours videos. Thank you.

[@bizupsolutions414]

This lesson is always I was seeking, your class is more than perfect and best lesson !!!

[@ThuLe-ut2dy]

Really helpful tips . Thanks

[@Cydda13]

What a great lesson! Thanks a lot for that!

[@alexandroalmeida822]

How fantastic class you've just given to us! You are such an amazing teacher. So much love from Brazil 🤗

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

I'm so glad it was helpful! 😀

[@vivalapinkkk]

Thank you, this is actually really helpful!

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Awesome, Brenda! I'm thrilled to know my lesson is helpful to you!

[@jesusrico6970]

Hahaha hahaha nosy people OMG ya gotta love them,your "supposedly friends"...Nyways great class Ann Marie & all this expressions we're new to me thanx & really loved the playful ones lol 💝🐤🐦🐥🙏🙏✋👍✌✌✌✌great job again Ann thanx 4 sharing stay blessed.

[@georgecortezee6091]

I. LOVE. THIS. CLASS THANK YOU. VERY MUCH

[@sonnalex897]

I'm Haitian, I really like watching your videos, they're very helpful, I'd like to be part of a group of foreign student who are practicing English, so we could discuss about interesting things and at the same time improve our English.

[@alicianaranjo585]

You are the best teacher. You rteach me as well how to answer in my own language (spanish)

[@haneenfares8733]

Actually I'm an Arabian girl that recently be a fan of you . I watched many videos in your channel and it's really so helpful, what I do is translating your strategies in the way that fit our daily talking here in my country . Sometimes I have a difficult situation and I don't know how to manage it or speak comfortably in front of someone like my teacher or someone else , can you help me to deal with that . Thanks in advance . ( sorry for my bad English )

[@ghembazaamine6931]

Thanks a bunch.the topic is really intersting and your explanation was awesome. ..

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

I'm glad it was helpful to you.

[@ricardomacias5088]

The best teacher ever

[@vinodrai7800]

Great! Thanks for your tips 🙏

[@vijayashetkar8857]

Hi Annemarie mam, It's a great lesson" How to deal with uncomfortable questions." Sometimes I don't want to answer unwanted questions or infact I am not comfortable. In this video you explained very nicely how to deal with that questions. * Sorry, is it ok if we talk about something else or we change the subject? * My lips are sealed on that. * I don't really feel comfortable discussing that. Thank you so much 😊

[@koute2010]

Thank you

[@jamesalexander1456]

Some people ask me: Why aren't you married? Why don't you have any kids? Why don't you have a girlfriend? All those questions make me uncomfortable. I'm tired of that!! This video is very helpful...Thankyou.

[@e.m.d.5478]

I did some strategy like you shared

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Wonderful! I'm glad to know that my lesson was useful to you!

[@jamie0056]

it is great. thank you!

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

So glad it was helpful!

[@absence14]

wow it's very very useful to me,thank you very much for this great video.

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

You're very welcome. Thanks for watching.

[@ilanavinitsky3115]

A very helpful topic!

[@vijayalaxmivara9206]

Sensational lesson mam.thank u

[@aizaalhashimi3220]

I loved your topics . Your are teaching us how to deal with diffecult situations in English. May ask you to present one topic about how to deal with a boss who is not appreciating your work and not recognizing it, even though you are doing a great achievements , which recgnized by the rest of team.,and on other hand she is appreciating some of employees who are dining miner acheivments

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Great suggestion. Thank you. I'll add it to a future topic.

[@paulooliveira-io3xc]

Thank you very much!

[@maamangala9583]

Fantastic vidio , ma,am. I was fool to answer . After watching this vidio I'm now confident to answer to nosy people .thank u , ma,am..

[@annagruszczynska3533]

My new phrase is " I am sealed ":) Thank you AM 😀

[@nsp74]

thanks a lot

[@Tutume1111]

Love it! Thank you

[@aamerali1498]

I have been asked by someone inappropriate equation like do you believe in Allah? I felt terrible at that moment then I respond by ( that's so personal for my to answer) I would like to say that must of this answer ways are know for me. I can't thank you enough. You really made my day.

[@joseluischiquito5891]

I would say; I don't believe in beliefs.

[@gilda995]

Thanks for your videos! I am a fan of you! I see the PERSIA book behind you in the bookshelf! Are you interested in Iran and Persia? I come from Iran. Nice to see that people from another country interested in my country. 😊

[@fooofa.bin.h6783]

Thank you so much it is useful lesson for me I hate when someone ask me why do you still single till now specially when this kind of question comes from the old one😂😏 I don't now how to answer or deal with them I will try to use these strategies to answer them

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

That's always a tricky, frustrating question for sure. I hope these strategies will help.

[@pauloauditor4419]

Great video! Adoro, te amo!

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Awesome! Thanks, Paulo.

[@pauloauditor4419]

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[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Cool. I've got a lot of Brasilian students!

[@pauloauditor4419]

Speak Confident English 😍😍😍😍

[@alicianaranjo585]

Oh! fantastic your video. I helps me in my own language (spanish). Sometimes I don´t know how to answer avoiding to be rude.... you give me ideas! I like i.e. "´Id rather not to speak about it...

[@aimannomourad6996]

Thank you for your great efforts. Can I ask you How old are you? Are you married? If yes do you have kids? How much do earn a month? Where is your department? What your phone’s number? How many subscribers do you have on your channel? Are you rich? Do you love money 💰 Finally I think if someone asks me uncomfortable Question I will say to him that it’s not your business. The new expression l learned it’s a personal thing please talk about something else.

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

As you can see from the video, those are all inappropriate questions. Glad you learned a new expression.

[@thatswhatisaidCA]

Maybe you can help me. It's April 2021, cvid times. More awkward than what you mention here: how 'bout, Are you vaccinated? when everyone expects you to be, wants you to be, and hopes you are, and you're not. I understand the panic generating the concern, but i find medical stuff personal and private between me and my doctor, and i have a valid answer that is a long answer, and i don't want to get into it... I am torn. Thanks for any help on this. Very good video, thank you.

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

This is such a good question! This has definitely become a common question and, for some people, can be uncomfortable. The key is the motivation behind the question. Are people asking because they want to see you, they genuinely care about you, and they want to be safe? Are are they asking out of personal curiosity or to make a judgement. In the end, it's your decision to share details. If you feel comfortable sharing your answer with someone because they truly care about you, then you can answer as much or as little as you want. But if you prefer not to say, you could simply state: 1. I'm not yet vaccinated. 2. I'm not yet vaccinated. It's a long story that I don't want to get into. Or use an alternative from this lesson. I hope that helps.

[@stck2908]

that makes sense. I finally get it. :)

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Awesome!

[@ghazalaaamir2249]

Amazing!!!#

[@jishavarghese1488]

Annemarie, you are an amazing personality. I love the way you teach. Oh! My God!. I am too late to be your student. I recorded my conversation today for the first time. I did it for you Annemarie, not for me as you are too good. I want to meet you once if God wishes.. Thanks for your help.

[@bhasilej]

Great

[@givergiver8640]

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[@kashifalikhan5124]

Nice. video

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Thanks.

[@seekingthemiddleway4048]

I've had people open a subject, give lots of info and when you respond to show you're listening and interested throw a tantrum because you're being intrusive. That's manipulative. They want attention from you that's all.

[@m.j.4711]

I wish it was that easy with my narcissistic nosy mom who absolutely takes no "no" for an answer and throws a full tantrum if I "shut her down"

[@kurnygina]

Hi Annemarie (what a beautiful name by the way), I have an idea for a video, something that I’m struggling with every day actually. So I work at a retail store and always act very professional. But! Sometimes men try to take our conversation the other way, and, well, hit on me. I know it the second they start asking something about me, but I can’t just say: “don’t waste your time, I have a boyfriend”. I try to always bring conversation back to the products I’m selling but then they seem to get upset. Is there a nicer way? Thanks!

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Hi Daria, this is definitely a challenging and uncomfortable situation. I've added it to my list for a future topic.

[@CeritaKribo]

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[@ekkamailax]

what happens when they respond with "wow no need to be so sensitive"? What do you say then?

[@markviana4960]

Thank you so much for this useful video! Yeah! Sometimes I get uncomfortable questions online, such as, Can you give me your Whatsapp? Or your Facebook? I just do not answer those kind of question because is personal information.

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

I hear you. That seems like a great opportunity to brush off the question with a joke. 😀

[@meryalmeryall7297]

Hi thanks for your lesons,i have so upseting experience about this,i have a english partner now,when i go any where to have some fun and nice time together,most of english pepole around us starts asking some qoestions very frendly and i feel so uncounftibele ,my partner dosnt like most of time but he couldnt stop them, like this,are you marrid or just living together as a happy partner?(they ask me so frendly !!!!)....how long you are in uk? ...whats your uni subject?...so you are here to do your degree?...what you want to do with your degree?...how long you are here?....how you manage your uni fanatiolly?...did your family helps you for your uni? ... its hard for them? ....where did you go with him most?...out of uk or inside the uk? ...after you finish your uni, you will stay with him and marrid or you want to comback to your familly? ...how is life with english partner ...?and ......!!!!!! and they ask my partner like this ,did you visit her familly in india? ....whats your job? ...how money pepoel you work with them?... how often you get take away food when you have non english partner? ....and..........! All this qoestions mixt with some frendly vords and smailling face and you just feel you cant having relaxing time with your partner,we both so upset and we feel we cant stop them ,so last night we diside to not going any party ...or any fun with english frends sadlly....plese if any one have same experience ,tell me how they manage this nosey frendly qoestions?.....😒

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Hi Meryal Meryall. I'm so sorry to hear about your upsetting experience. I hope this lesson provided strategies that will be useful to you. You might find the following lesson helpful as well: www.speakconfidentenglish.com/answers-to-small-talk-questions/

[@starofouruniverse963]

Hii i am from India and Please help me ma'am ..... 😑 I am preparing for govt exam competition.... My relatives always ask me after every month or two..... Do you pass that exam ??..... And now I am fed up😑.... .... What should i say now Pls advice me

[@maribelrodriguez8170]

Im gonna answer “it’s non of your business”

[@jishavarghese1488]

This is the worst question somebody can ask.. I get upset easily and hard to answer since I am a divorcee. A colleague of mine asked me last year, 'what is your marital status'? I didn't answer at all. I just walked away. This is too painful. Why do you wan to hurt someone?

[@kranthichitty5617]

What makes you to come to U.S ? That's the question people ask me. I don't know it's appropriate to ask other's or not?

[@Speakconfidentenglish]

Hi Kranthi, that's a good question. A lot of people in the United States are curious about why people move to a new country - is it for a new job, better opportunities, just for fun? If the question doesn't make you feel uncomfortable AND if it's asked with curiosity (not rudeness), then it could be a great question for conversation. How do you feel when most people ask it?

[@kranthichitty5617]

@@SpeakconfidentenglishThankfully, I don't feel bad about that question . I just answer them because of the job. As you said , it's a good conversation starter I guess.

[@Bob-ju2ge]

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[@thilakasirispathiranage9981]

Short and sweet ..... It's really not appropriate.

[@SH-io3li]

Can i ask you something? - No you can not :)

[@MegaMissfitz]

Is now a good time to tell you to mind your own business? 😤😤😤😤

[@avatar2610]

Too much gibberish before getting to point

[@MYTHOMINHTRAN]

My response always as one can find here: ""Thank you for asking, I appreciate your interest. However, I prefer to keep that aspect of my life private for now. I hope you understand. Is there anything else you'd like to talk about?" This response acknowledges the question while politely declining to answer. It also opens the door for the conversation to shift to a different topic, showing that you're still open to engaging with the person. Remember to maintain a friendly and respectful tone throughout the interaction!

[@abubakarlawanharuna573]

Great