UNFILTERED: The TRUTH About Living in Lagos Nigeria 🇳🇬 | What You Need To Know & Why I'm Leaving

[@princesslve]

UPDATE: Misogyny is not limited to hatred, it refers to contempt or prejudice against women and typically describes social environments where women experience hostility that men do not. So of course, the entire country does not hate women lol that’s silly to imply. However, there are certainly still misogynistic practices. Also, please remember, visiting Nigeria for 2-3 weeks is VERY different from living there for over 6months.

[@jamila-fulaninomad]

Thanks for sharing your experience. Lagos isn’t easy to adapt to for most people I agree. I used to go there for work trips while I lived in Abuja, and I would literally cry in the car - and that’s with a driver taking me from Ikeja to the Island. Abuja is less of a culture shock for those moving back home. I live in Canada now but whenever I go home, Abuja is still easy to adapt to.

[@sylviasworld9397]

Sis try Abuja. I'm a woman from London too but Nigerian parents. I stayed in Abuja for over a year and didn't have family there or know anyone at first, but I met so many good people who are my close friends now. I can't do Lagos for more than 4 days, sorry, I've just not come to this world to suffer, lol. I will go back to Abj soon, would love to show you around Abuja for a visit. The people there don't really like stress, sis .

[@passportandbeer]

Women are the most misogynistic, they are eager to shame other women for what they wear, their sexuality, all things that men made rules about

[@Raetalkss]

This is why I carry my husband like a handbag in that place😂🤣! I have a love hate relationship with Nigeria but cannot cut myself off from that place, I do enjoy myself there and have a very realistic view when it comes to the developing world so, I have very low expectations when it comes to Nigeria and like nations sad but true! Girl, I could relate to a few things here are some tips for those who may want to live in Nigeria: 1. Lagos is a BEAST! Try smaller cities and towns or unpopular places in Lagos 2. Try and go around with a local for some weeks, this helps with familiarising yourself with an area ( I use to go around myself a lot after sometime) 3. When it is market day, dress like a market woman or dress down😅. Point at items and when asking for the price kind of mumble🤣. I got to a point I would go to the same people in the market. This reduced my stress massively, I liked going LOL. 4. Driving - When it comes to anything to do with car maintenance get a man to sort that stuff out. I had driving lessons in Nigeria, girl I was always told I was the best student 🤭🤭🤭 5. I found I was treated with a LOT of respect as a woman, but when I was out with my husband people preferred to address him. Omo, I did not even mind. I do think there is a tad more respect for women in some areas 6. Nigeria is tough, and it reflects in the people's behaviour especially Lagos. Colonialism, bad governance, poverty and more have shaped the nation. 7. HAVE MONEY - hate how this is a must Las las omo 9ja is a vibe and I am looking forward to going back 🤣

[@princesslve]

Loveee these tips, Rachel and so glad you felt comfortable as a woman. I will firmly stand by the fact Nigeria is still very much misogynistic. There are thousands of women and young girls who don’t have the privilege of bringing their husbands everywhere. Hundreds of girls are denied education simply because of their gender. Young students face sexual harassment and blackmail from lecturers in exchange for grades. The poor governance from leaders and lack of effective law enforcement to protect women and girls from abuse. As much as Nigeria is home and I’ll always be back there, these things need to be called out.

[@Jascot-s9v]

​@@princesslveSee abg Lagos no be the only Nigeria!!nawa for una oo..go Abuja, porthacourt,Enugu this places are calm places.

[@princesslve]

@@Jascot-s9v lol you’re right! I need to visit more cities in Nigeria

[@TheMomLifee]

5 mins in and you have told not one lie!!! Lived in Nigeria 🇳🇬 born and bred 28yrs of my life straight and then off and on for another 10yrs.. you are absolutely correct! And no, not all African countries are like that.. I lived in Lome Togo almost 2yrs and never experienced anything like Nigeria 🇳🇬.. a way more laid back country and people are super respectful and not hostile in my experience..

[@lifeofamaka6479]

Lagos is NOT easy to stay/live in. I went last month and the way I was treated because of my American accent is crazy and made me feel so unsafe and sad, BUT despite the negatives i loved Nigeria down, and I would stay there for a bit, maybe not live but stay lol.

[@Jascot-s9v]

Amaka nwa afor..hope u know Lagos no be only place for naija??try go other places in naija na..Abuja,Enugu, porthacourt,this places are very very peaceful.

[@oceejekwam6829]

I respect you sharing your experience. Truth needs to be told to help protect visitors who are unaware of the dangers they face.

[@elanahavy]

It's an African problem, not just Lagos. I have lived in 4 countries around Africa and experienced the same exact problems you just mentioned, and never been in Nigeria. I think the western part of Africa is the worst in normalizing oppressing women. The eastern part is more focused on the traditional etiquette of thinking a woman can manage on her own without a man, but I have never experienced insults in the eastern part as I did in the western part of Africa. It's very sad. Africa has raised men with just manhood, and morals have left their brain cells; the insecurities are too loud

[@princesslve]

That’s so interesting! The only eastern countries I’ve been to is Kenya and Tanzania but I would love to travel more around Africa despite all these issues. Thanks for sharing your experience.

[@JuracyLopez]

Atlanta, GA. is somewhat similar in comparison.

[@elanahavy]

@@JuracyLopez this is crazy, considering the facts that it's one of the cities with most black people, especially from African heritage... Smh

[@sylviasworld9397]

I found Tanzania worst when it comes to aggressiveness or backwards attitudes towards women. Many youtubers have told of their experiences too.

[@Jascot-s9v]

​@@elanahavyIncase u wanna visit Nigeria visit other places

[@tourandrelocationcommunity]

Im 2 minutes in, and from what you said in the first 2 minutes, thank you for telling the TRUTH, it is the same in Ghana, Accra, just less aggressive than Lagos, Nigeria. The sentiment is the same. I think this is the case across Africa at the present moment.

[@reesepatron2320]

You have a beautiful voice and you're a beautiful young woman. Much success and peace to you as you continue to seek your happy place.

[@princesslve]

@@reesepatron2320 aww thank you 🫶🏾

[@anuhassan5596]

Awwww loved this video so much. I also grew up outside of Nigeria (Brit like you) although I did visit often, but moved back a year ago because my parents decided to retire early and I didn’t wanna stay in this country without them lol but yeah so much of this was felt! I think something we do not fully take into account is that Nigeria is a developing country and it is a COMPLETELY different society than the UK. Personally I had a great time but that was only because I set my expectations accordingly. The society, culture, customs are just completely different and not what you’re used to. Some better, some worse, but overall, it’s just different. I’m very fortunate and privileged and I live in my father’s estate on the mainland and we have domestic staff so I really cannot relate to the *average* Nigerian, but then again, my circle and network is not average if that makes sense? Biggest thing I loved was a you recognising that there is nothing like “soft” in Nigeria especially Lagos. Everyone respects craze, and you have to show them you too get more craze than them else you will be stepped on. Great vid!

[@princesslve]

@@anuhassan5596 “Everyone respects craze, and you have to show them you too get more craze” 😂😂 This is so funny but true!! Honestly, I love Nigeria and I’ll definitely be going back but please, I just want to live a peaceful life. Not everyday craze 😩

[@sylviasworld9397]

Abuja is actually generally soft.

[@Onedayatatimewithmercy]

Everything you said about Nigeria and Legos that is exactly what it is over there

[@drda6910]

She aptly described a typical experience living in Lagos for someone with her background. She was spot on. Lagos like most fast paced and third world cities are not for the faint hearted. She will have to brace up, guard herself to go through the grind of living in Lagos with minimal social safety net. Except if she chooses to live with her uncle she spoke about l, especially if he is rich (among the have it all) and can afford personal home staff and a chauffeur to drive her around to social events when it matters most. I doff my heart to her for taking time to have her own relatable experience of Lagos life and for surviving her stay. She should do it again. I wish her a successful academic pursuit at UCL for her masters.

[@MissMaryMak]

Huge congrats, I'm so pleased for you! Thanks for your candidness. My male friend has always been open with me when I've spoken but my considerations to move there and I quote 'it's unnecessarily difficult navigating certain things here'.

[@princesslve]

Thank you bby girl 🫶🏾 Nigeria is not for the faint hearted!!!

[@SittaLuvz]

Hello beautiful, I came across your videos a few months ago, and I just felt so connected to your channel. I’m happy for you for this exciting opportunity, pray for God‘s grace as you go on it. Thank you for speaking up about your experience in Nigeria, people romanticize, moving back without really flushing out the reality of it, and I feel like it sets people up. It’s important to know what the full package experience will be like, and it’s also important for us to honestly mention our privilege. A lot of people are suffering in our countries and it’s really important to pay respect to their experiences as well.

[@princesslve]

@@SittaLuvz thank you so much and Amen🫶🏾 not everyone will agree with what I say in the video but it’s the harsh reality.

[@Mercymeee]

Congrats on your new chapter love❤ beauty and brains 🧠 for sureeee! I appreciate how honest you were, in sharing your experience in Nigeria. Unfortunately it is not the place for soft life 🤌🏾

[@princesslve]

Thank youu hun 💗 There are people who are definitely living soft in Nigeria but you have to be very intentional about creating that sort of life.

[@eamy9960]

Girl Nigeria is a wild adventure as in no dull moment while Uk or the West in general can be isolating and depressing

[@princesslve]

Oh, I completely agree!

[@eo9572]

Thanks for sharing your experience. I really appreciate the honesty in this video, as a lot of people tend to romanticize living in Nigeria. I lived in Nigeria for about 3 years and had a similar experience.

[@thekrayers]

As a Nigerian not from Nigeria, I wouldn’t go. Honestly. The cops being blatantly corrupt is a giant reason why. The poverty and lack of support from the government is awful and I can’t possibly imagine living amongst it. Which is crazy for me as an American.

[@princesslve]

Let’s not pretend that the US and the UK aren’t among the most corrupt countries in the world. Many of Nigeria’s problems stem from colonisation and exploitation, whilst the US/UK has benefited from being a colonial power. Both countries have challenges but it’s unfair to compare them because the history is so drastically different.

[@TORIMONGER]

Yesss... people seem to be constantly coming from a place of lack and trying to use you. It's emotionally draining. I hate it.

[@Dami_diary]

Thank you for sharing your perspective. People tend to romanticize the move to Lagos and I'm just curious about the truth of living there...

[@josephbrown1573]

I work in the Medical field in the US and I am used to leaving work at 11 pm to drive home without a thought or concern .I would never drive anywhere in Nigeria at that time , and if I had to I would be very very apprehensive !!

[@sylviasworld9397]

I think the US is way more violent and dangerous in many places.

[@FluteCheerios]

The US is definitely more advanced developmentally, infrastructurally & somewhat security wise than Nigeria, yes! BUT can be just as dangerous. Many US cities have a crime problem, there are metro 🚇stations that are unsafe to be around during a certain time. I work at a department store connected to a mall & we had a break in a few days ago, luckily no one was inside, there are high crime neighborhoods along with some towns that are filled with full on hate groups & extremists. Yeah, there is some healthy flexibility, where there are considerably safe areas, but even in the United States it's a privilege to live in a zip code where you're safe & where the police will even keep you safe, especially if you're black! Carjackings are still a thing here in 2024. If any place would rank as safe, maybe the Scandinavian countries or New Zealand.

[@JohnMurray-u6r]

We have this believe of "trust no one" cuz anything happens anytime, you get used to it soon

[@johnnwabuforudemezue1108]

Nice meeting you

[@millieconsultancy]

This is so true, and I also experienced that women reinforce the misogyny. I had to wear a ring all the time and dress very old. What I will say is that Lagos, to me, was the worst city in Nigeria. Other cities were much better. UYO state was my fave.

[@yayadrew]

Have you ever visited the States, NYC in particular? Would you ever consider living there?

[@princesslve]

I’ve visited the US a few times. Been to NYC twice and it feels like London on steroids lol! I could live there but not forever.

[@ameenahshebe2717]

I'm really sorry this is your experience

[@princesslve]

@@ameenahshebe2717 Oh, no need to be sorry! I have a love hate relationship with Nigeria but I’ve also had so many positive experiences there. I just happened to share the negatives in this video. Now I feel like I should talk about the good things too, to balance it out lol.

[@ameenahshebe2717]

Honestly you give me Abuja girl vibe more than Lagos girl

[@sylviasworld9397]

Yes I agree. Lagos is one of the most rough and unforgiving places to be in Nigeria. Abuja is more soft life and people mind their own business a bit more.

[@princesslve]

This!!! Visited Abuja once and fell in love

[@frannypeter7240]

@@princesslve should have moved to abuja instead. I'm confident that your experience would have been different. Even as a Nigerian born and bred, living in Lagos is a crazy idea.

[@sylviasworld9397]

​​​@@princesslveI'm glad sis . I'm born and raised in London too and fell in love with Abuja 😊 Next time you decide to visit Abuja let me know. Maybe we can hang out if I'm also in town?

[@Lifestyle-withVee]

Ps get a friend to go with you to market whenever It will be easier and as time goes on you would be fit to go alone

[@princesslve]

Thanks for the tip but I don’t even bother going anymore, I just send someone.

[@skendles]

Your experience is so valid and shared!!! The market experience is so true!!! I just do all my grocery shopping on chowdeck/glovo as I save my self from the market hassle…. My stance about driving is I’ll defo learn how to drive but I will have a driver to navigate(me learning is just in case the driver decided to act mad😅) Also congratulation on your admission to UCL. Can’t wait to follow your journey if you wish to document. Hopefully you experience of Lagos doesn’t stop you from coming back🥰🥰🥰

[@princesslve]

@@skendles thank youu and yes I plan to share regular vlogs of my UCL experience. A love hate relationship with Nigeria but it’s home so I’ll definitely be back! 🫶🏾

[@Kakarott2023]

so interesting! Please make more videos of living in Nigeria

[@africanayasmin6210]

Go to Ghana 🇬🇭 is calmer

[@millieconsultancy]

No , their more manipulative with their behaviour not calmer😅

[@Teeconsultingg]

The people walking behind you gave me anxiety 😂😂😂

[@princesslve]

LOL

[@POLITICO90]

I disagree with you that Nigeria is misogynistic. And your statement that "Hundreds of girls are denied education simply because of their gender" is simply not true and ridiculous. Where did get that from ? Children not going to school in Nigeria especially in Southern Nigeria is because their parents are poor and not because of gender. All the females in my family are well educated. I think your problem is your over expectation and your western sense of superiority. Lagos is not for the weak. There are many Nigerian that are born in Nigeria but cant live in Lagos. And there are many ladies that were born in UK and moved to Lagos. And guess what, they are coping. Example is the popular female DJ called DSF. She has been doing well in a trade that is naturally dominated by Men. So it depends on individual. Stop comparing London to Lagos. And remember that you cant even wear an expensive or luxury wristwatch in central London anymore without getting robbbed....and that's UK not Nigeria

[@princesslve]

@@POLITICO90 Lol, I never claimed the UK is perfect so I’m not sure what point you’re trying to make. According to the UN, Nigeria has the highest number of out-of-school children globally… around 14 million, with over 60% being girls. Yes, education in the south is more inclusive and I’ll be the first to say many Nigerian women are extremely well educated but aren’t those numbers still concerning? Of course, gender inequality isn’t the only factor contributing to this, but there’s no denying that women face various inequalities. DJ DSF has been very vocal on multiple occasions about the challenges of navigating Nigeria. Also, I never once said women can’t be successful. Nigeria is home to one of the wealthiest Black women in the world! My point is that you have to be incredibly tough and know how to adapt so people don’t take advantage of you. There are concerns and obstacles that you may not have to face in other countries. Anyway, Nigeria is home so I’ll still be back whenever I want lol.

[@anuhassan5596]

@@POLITICO90 everywhere is misogynistic btw so this critique doesn’t really make that much sense because misogyny is a global systemic issue. I think when you hear misogyny you’re mind jumps to extremes like Afghanistan or something and that’s why you’re denying misogyny exists in Nigeria. Like all systemic issues, it exists on a scale. Nigeria is a very misogynistic country. It is not unique to Nigeria, for example the US is also misogynistic. As is India. But the level is higher than developed countries. I do agree with you saying that in the south girls are not purposefully being kept from schools and you are right in saying that’s more of a poverty issue, however denying misogyny is really disingenuous

[@raizafricana]

Nigeria and Ghana are the worst countries in Africa to live

[@unwindwithlisa]

Misogyny is a strong word, it means hatred towards women, don’t just use the words you don’t know the meaning of and by the way, I am Nigerian and have lived here all my life and you just sound like a cry baby, my experience is different, have you ever thought that maybe they treated you the way you portray yourself?

[@princesslve]

Misogyny is not limited to hatred, it refers to contempt or prejudice against women and typically describes social environments where women experience hostility that men do not. Have you ever thought to consult a dictionary before sounding like an uneducated fool online?

[@millieconsultancy]

You sound like the girls I had to work with for five years in Nigeria 😂 The Misogynistic masters😂

[@Lifestyle-withVee]

See me looking for you on instagram wanting to see more of your content ,didn’t know you were not a content creator 😅 Guess I’ll just stick to KZbin

[@princesslve]

Hahaha I mostly create content on KZbin and just stay in my own little bubble. I do occasionally share on instagram though 💗

[@Lifestyle-withVee]

@@princesslve alright great I’m following then

[@LukeniV]

try Ivory Coast or french speaking countries.

[@elanahavy]

@@LukeniV they are exactly the same