Engagement rings are a scam, drinking underage & being friends with the opposite sex | Ep. 36

[@ChloeDezz]

What Abby said about everyone needing to be comfortable disagreeing and still be okay with each other, that’s SO true. I wish our world wouldn’t have gotten so offended by everything and sensitive. It should be a positive thing to share our differences in a respectful way❤️

[@bkessinger94]

100%

[@rebekkahnelson4192]

Yes completely. I feel like sometimes an entire view of someone is changed over one simple thing they said and that just isn't appropriate. Whether that view is the media's or an individual's, it's insane how much an opinion can change so fast over seemingly nothing to some of us.

[@itsme_savv28]

I absolutely LOVE conversations Abt hot-takes and controversial topics etc. It's so much fun!! I get so passionate no matter if they agree or disagree with me.

[@nfsking27]

100% it's okay to not agree on things. That's life. That's the beauty of difference but these days people just want yes men

[@nikkinaicker544]

Spot on 💯. See an individual and appreciate their dynamic personality, we're all singular non replica (yet😮) beings

[@heidimulcahey]

The way Matt constantly speaks love to Abby is so heartwarming! He’s always so kind to her. A true example of marriage. ❤

[@bridgetmulvenna3965]

Abby is hilarious! “You wanna see crazy, I’ll show you crazy!” 😂

[@lilystone9621]

Love when abbey is constantly aware of the disclaimers because she cares about people feelings not because she cares more about her channels. And love when Matt says that even if you disagree with us we can still be friends. And in these little ways, you guys are great examples and have real influence definitely not just nobodies.

[@amandamasters880]

As a die hard swiftie I appreciate the respect.. I get why people think she’s over hyped and it’s all so extra if they aren’t fans. But I think just to respect her as an artist. People don’t have to like her if they don’t want to.

[@bkessinger94]

Shes the smartest business woman around

[@purpl3loverz]

Right? I’m like I understand not everyone can like her music but I think everyone should respect how smart, dedicated, talented and just all around the person she is. (I’m also a die hard swiftie!!)

[@elephant1871]

LITERALLY! THANKS!

[@girlonlysquad]

yeah exactly. I am not really a swiftie but my sister is a die hard swiftie and all I hear in my house if taylor swift, but i have my respect for her as an artist because she has been a thing for so long and she knows a thing or 2 about the music industry and being a new artist.

[@Joejoyoyoyo]

I love Taylor Swift and I don’t think she’s overrated just because I’m a fan, but you need to think about why she would have so many people hyping her too much if there’s nothing there 😅

[@mikylareid7436]

My husband gave me his grandmother's ring as an engagement ring. It's beautiful and I so love that it's a family heirloom because it is extra special and makes me feel even more included in his family. The stone is amethyst, which ended up being the stone for our wedding month and the birth month of our first child. I love how it has all turned out!

[@alexandra-nd6kc]

Precious❤

[@amythompson2574]

“The worst kind of person is someone who makes someone feel bad, dumb or stupid for being excited about something.” - Taylor Swift. Confirmed that Taylor Swift doesn’t think you are dumb for starting a musical career.

[@robinmcdonald9084]

Yes! Agree 💯!!

[@PattyByrd]

THANK YOU FOR SAYING THAT!!!

[@MicheleWalkerWebb]

Absolutely. These two are starting to believe they can say or do no wrong. I'm basically done with it.

[@TheUnderCoverMother2020]

​@@MicheleWalkerWebbOh good grief.

[@josiestyers5784]

My engagement ring was appraised at 10k and it took 3 years for him to propose. Three months after I lost the main diamond. It fell out of the setting. I tore the sink apart because that's where I noticed it was gone. Thank GOD, I ended up finding it in my attic on the stairs where I changed my clothes. Immediately after that we took it to a jeweler and got the setting fixed and put two feet around the diamond instead of one and added a halo around the diamond. We got it appraised and insured in case anything like that ever happens again. Insurance on your valuables is the best thing you can do

[@josephinebonadonna]

Wow it sucks that people crapped on you guys for doing a podcast when you first started!! It’s literally the highlight of my week ♥️

[@HungerGamesLover-jl2yl]

Same it’s so relaxing watching them, I want to have what they have one day because it so beautiful

[@kaitlynwright8805]

He. C bc

[@amanda.c.ice.]

Same

[@nelliewellie6315]

We didn't get an engagement ring at all. We decided to put the money towards our wedding. My wedding band cost $79. My dress cost $450. We had a picnic in my parents garden for our reception and we spent the most money on our photos. Our total cost for our wedding was $8000 of which $5000 was the food/drinks (no alcohol). Am I happy we did it this way?? You bet!! And we have been happily married 25 years! xx

[@lauradalton8909]

We had a similar approach to our wedding and have never regretted it. Although I would hesitate to say this is universally true, I have noticed that in many cases, it seems that the more extravagant a wedding, the shorter than marriage lasts.

[@LisaBlevins00]

I’ve been married 28 yrs and I can say WITHOUT a doubt the reason we are still strong today is the fact we respect each other in every regard . That’s the one thing I share to couples asking how we made it so long and how we are still madly in love . Treat your significant other the exact same way you want to be treated . My husband and I are best friends and truly have the most ultimate respect for one another . It just works ❤ Love you guys 😊

[@samandchase6591]

As someone studying dietetics and working towards becoming a registered dietitian, YESS! All foods can fit! Thank you guys for not buying into diet culture 👏🏻

[@stephaniemueller4739]

Someone finally said it about fake eyelashes/ eyelash extensions. I've always thought they look so bad no matter how 'natural' the lashes are 😂

[@Amanda-ws5ty]

Agreed 😬

[@kkallsop]

There are some people who you probably don’t even know they have extensions because they look so natural

[@Luckyduck82180]

First of all, Abby has a sweet voice, Matt sings beautifully, and your podcast is one of the only ones that I can listen to the entire way through. Keep doing what you do, I love you guys ❤

[@melkaye]

I do not believe Taylor Swift is overrated. She built her empire as Matt said! She deserves the hype. And my husband and I do not have “rules” when it comes to talking to single women but he constantly reassures and make me comfortable with him talking to anyone. He tells me anytime a girl texts him even my sister 😅 I got a good one honestly. In my previous relationship this was a very toxic subject 😅

[@camilasenna145]

Note from your friends in Europe, EVERYONE should take their shoes off at home!!! It’s so common here, you just know to arrive at someone’s house and remove your shoes at the door. Some people have some cosy cheap slippers to wear at home themselves and also for friends and family that come visit ☺️ it’s just more hygienic and nicer.

[@travelmel904]

haha YES thank you for sharing that. When I watched it I was like "why wear shoes, it's so comfy without them" and everyone does it here haha :)

[@sunlight.travels]

wait Europeans do that? I guess it depends on which part since Europe is huge and they definitely do not do that in Germany lol

[@travelmel904]

what I meant to say is that most Europeans take their shoes off, sorry if that was miscommunicated haha - ich bin auch Deutsche und hab sie immer ausgezogen ;) @@sunlight.travels

[@camilasenna145]

@@sunlight.travelsreally??? I’d expect Germany to do it too since I’ve lived in Switzerland for years and now I live in Austria and everyone does it hahah :)

[@katie18976]

​@@sunlight.travelsit depends where in Germany they live, I know plenty of people in Germany who have shoes off in the house rule. So I think it just depends on the person/family.

[@QQ-NiniWu]

With the whole shoes thing, as an Asian, we usually have a set of house slippers in our home, so we have "outside" shoes and "inside" shoes. it's just part of our culture...

[@Chewygoo56]

Your podcast has become one of my favorites. I love how funny Abby is and am glad she is showcasing her personality. And Matt cares so much, about the podcast, about the product he produces, and they care so much about each other. It really is a great outlet!

[@LimeRickey71]

In Canada you ALWAYS take your shoes off at the door before entering someone's home, unless they specifically say it's ok to leave your shoes on. When you live someplace with a lot of weather fluctuation and all 4 seasons you have to! I was always amazed during my visits to the US how common it is for people to wear outdoor shoes inside.

[@Fixyourfatigue]

I am so glad you two are influencers for the younger generation. Very articulate and genuine. I appreciate your viewpoints and ability to share them!

[@autumnclack6073]

I am a single woman with married guy friends. I worked with a guy who was one of my closest friends for a while. We ate lunch every day at work together. It was completely platonic. I met his wife and kids attended their birthday parties. Loved his wife. We don't work together anymore, and don't live near each other, but we will still message each other to check in. Having a friendship with someone of the opposite sex is completely possible. Just need the spouse to feel confident in the relationship and comfortable with the friend as a person.

[@katie18976]

Exactly 👌

[@claudiadogan-coles8519]

😂😂😂 Matt: Hot Take-which pop tart is the best pop tart?? Abby: Hot Take-pop tarts are disgusting Matt: EH wrong….brown sugar cinnamon 😂😂😂 you guys crack me UP

[@jasmineade11]

Hot take: the unplanned podcast is SO GOOD 👏🏾

[@war5561]

Totally agree. I can not understand why people spend money on engagement rings and weddings when they could just use it as a down payment on a house.

[@S_Car28]

Some people work hard and have money.

[@KendraSmith087]

Weddings too! It’s such a waist!

[@sarahneubert3377]

I realize I’m very fortunate but my dad paid for my wedding. He said he had saved that money specifically for my wedding. And that money wasn’t available to us for just anything. It was for me and my siblings if we wanted a wedding.

[@shirleysilver3040]

Sometimes you get gift amounts that equal the price of the wedding and you have something to enjoy with family and friends

[@MHSMagicLuver]

@@S_Car28yeah.. that’s why we waited 10 years after being together and 5 years after being engaged to have our wedding. I wanted a dream wedding. It was 30k which is the average wedding price. We waited until i graduated grad school and started working for a couple years so we could afford a wedding.

[@deniseheins2133]

My hubby and I were so poor when we got married in 1996, we didn't have money for engagement rings. We bought our rings at a pawn shop. A plain gold band for him, a diamond cross band for me. And.....here we are.....celebrating 28 years in April. We did talk about a lot. What happened to those people, to their marriage? I wouldn't change a thing.

[@rhyanopel2358]

My engagement ring is from my fiancée’s great grandma’s aunt so it’s super old and cost nothing! I believe in reusing family rings because there are so pretty and it stops the rings from being a scam!

[@anncelestedavis]

Just dropping a comment to say that I’m local & looking for buddies 💗 My husband, toddler & I moved to Phoenix just a few months ago and finding some friends who are moms too has been so hard! We left all of our family behind in Florida and it definitely feels lonely “momming” alone. Our little one was born just 2 days after Griffin & my husband is very outdoorsy and loves hiking! Love y’all & your hot takes!

[@rutgali5779]

They should see this!

[@JB11334]

We are local too. My husband and I moved from California. Two daughters. It is very lonely especially in the hotter months. No one comes outside in Arizona.

[@Karina-jb4sc]

I can relate with Abby about having to have a breakfast type of food first no matter what time of day it is 😂 it feels weird jumping into any type of lunch/dinner food first haha

[@Samantha_Squires]

Church is such a great way to find a community when you move somewhere new. You could go with Bella and Dallin!!

[@AmeliaUnleashed]

That first hot take. I grew up with bangs, got rid of them through uni and then came back to them when I started my teaching career and become a mom. It felt like coming home when I chopped them again. Maybe it’s because I’m a redhead, but they suit me so much better and I wished I had bangs for our wedding day! But the key is to know how to trim them yourself confidently, makes bags a waaay better experience.

[@MHSMagicLuver]

I’m 32.. and I’ve had bangs since I was 17. 😂 side bangs. Have not cut them. I feel I look weird without them.

[@DustieBeavers]

My husband and I moved to Las Cruces NM from Fort Worth TX last year and immediately became pregnant. So not only did we move away from all of our friends, we had a huge life change. It’s been very lonely. Still haven’t found community here. I enjoy watching your podcasts because you guys are so relatable and it makes me feel less lonely ♥️ thank you both for being genuine and authentic. The world needs more people like you.

[@MrsMuffin11]

Hot take but there are some opinions people have that are non negotiables with me. Not talking about religion or politics but for example overly posting your children on public online accounts. Your friend Bella and Dallin I think his name is, I stopped watching them because every single post or video is of their new baby. It makes me super uncomfy. I also dont follow anyone I know personally who has a public IG and posts their kids. I just dont support it. Thats my "hot" take lol

[@bettywyatt]

I completely agree, your kids can’t consent to have their faces on the internet and people can make deepfakes of anyone and there are so many creeps on the internet who follow others purely for their kids

[@samanthaadams2397]

I AGREE MATT! The brown sugar cinnamon pop tart is so underrated! Pop that baby in the toaster and it’s so bomb!!!

[@lindseypicquet3754]

I also LOVE that Abby is educated! Especially with her relationship with food 💕

[@josephinebonadonna]

I agree with 99% of your hot takes 😂❤️ love it that you said you can have different opinions but still be friends. I love having different viewpoints than my loved ones. People who disagree with you ARE NOT BAD PEOPLE. We’re all entitled to our own feelings and opinions. I love y’all. ♥️

[@samanthawilliams3206]

Abby your voice is lovely and really suits you. People can be horrible. Hope you don’t listen to the negative comments from jealous people. ❤

[@MayMay-qf9rk]

It is not the first time I hear this hot-take in the podcast and I want to address it. Having close friends of the opposite sex should not be a problem, it masks jelousy issues of the person. What if the person is bisexual or pansexual? Then they cannot have friends? I understand for couples/marriages of 2 heterosexual people that may be a thing they do not thinn about. But just saying it here becauae it keeps popping up. Anyway, love the podcast, it is somehow comforting to hear you both speak. I wish you both and your little ones the best!

[@merlejune]

I found that episode really inspirational. Especially the part with being parents and being good at your job. Thanks for sharing!

[@shaunafeds4909]

The podcasts I love the most are the ones where u guys are just chatting ❤

[@veerlevanbeest3278]

My favorite episode so far. You guys seemed so insync. It was very relaxing to watch an listen to. ❤keep it up!

[@lyohanam]

Hot take: You need to be able to talk for hours (like this) about everything with your partner to know your marriage will last. THE ONLY PODCAST I WATCH RELIGIOUSLY!❤ Love you guys

[@rebeccamarchant3330]

My favourite podcasts are the ones with just you guys chatting ❤😊

[@NaomiandMatty]

Abby is beautiful inside and out and I love her voice it makes me sad that there are people who would want to make her feel otherwise

[@melodyescobedo7188]

Finding community at church is really great. Joining a small group helped me a lot

[@daniellefield3827]

So true! Definitely recommend this! and generally a good church has lots of family values 😊

[@LoraJoSchneider]

You are exactly right about being that friend/being the one to ask. I once heard a speaker at an event talk about friendship, and that if you want to have good friends, you need to be a good friend, and part of that is being the one to be willing to do the asking and serving…if you have found a good friend, they will do that in return! Also, about wanting community/friendship/people to do life with…find a church you like, and join a small group and a mom group. You will find your people.

[@chloejones_21]

People are SO mean on your videos Matt, I hate it. Your videos are amazing & you’re the best!

[@miabrasil942]

You don't have to be a crazy fan or a long time fan to enjoy music!! If you like any of Taylor's music and want to be a swiftie then you are!

[@kaailyntaylor]

Also Matt, your singing is no joke! Your songs come from the heart and you're a good singer so let the haters hate!

[@shirleysilver3040]

The diamond itself can retain value. I think the family pass down jewelry and redoing the ring is the sweetest.

[@somericanfam]

Matt I hope you know to your core how truly talented and inspiring you are. If anyone thinks it’s “cringe” or bad somehow to cherish your life with a family and be brave enough to put yourself out there and pursue your dreams… I mean that’s a clear them problem. I hope you are as proud of yourself as a creator, father, and human being as we all are of you ❤️ Love you guys

[@kelseyd4701]

Church! Church has always been the place I have found friends, no matter my age/ life situation.

[@astrozz3830]

I really love your podcast. Keep doing what you guys are doing, yall are amazing. Crocs are amazing.

[@sherrywalker6903]

I appreciate Abby’s vocabulary and educated words! It’s clear you went to college. What a good example you are for young women! I’m a Grandma, I would be proud to have you as my granddaughter, Abby, and I would love to have conversations with you!

[@kelsiemcconnell2540]

I liked this video a lot, I love hearing other people opinions and discussing that it’s okay to be different and still have a strong friendship. If you agreed all the time life would be boring. I watch a lot of your videos and would consider myself very different from you guys but enjoy seeing different perspectives! 💪🏼

[@suephillips4606]

I absolutely loved this podcast. Very thought provoking. You guys are awesome xxx

[@ashleysanchez7543]

I absolutely LOVE that you know of Chris!!! As soon as you said, Chris in the Croc heels, i knew exactly who you were talking about! He's such a vibe and love him!

[@americanwomantoday1928]

I'm very glad you guys are doing the podcast ❤️😊 usually a silent viewer

[@erinfennessy5332]

Matt’s take on the haircuts is simply YES

[@jordanbontrager186]

As a registered dietitian, THANK YOU for the food hot take at around @43:00! Completely agree 👏🏻

[@hannaha6724]

I totally agree with y’all that if there’s a dream you have- just do it. Nobody mocks small beginnings after success has occurred - but in the beginning it can be brutal when the harvest hasn’t come in yet. Keep planting, y’all. 🖤🖤🖤

[@waffleman8673]

Please don’t come for me but I wasn’t keen on Abby’s voice when I originally found the channel but I love it now. She’s the sweetest person with a voice to match ❤

[@jazminehernandezz]

This is my favorite podcast ever

[@chantelleroddy]

Getting involved in a local church is a great way to build a strong community in a new environment! Especially for families

[@autumhauser3080]

ABBY YOU DID NOT MISS THE SWIFTIE TRAIN!!! ITS NEVER TOO LATE AND YOU WONT REGRET IT!

[@Csincsilla1234]

Taylor is sooo great 10/10 ❤ not at all overrated, she is just genius 🎉❤

[@mackenziejones9973]

Wait I love Abby’s voice! I actually find it so calming

[@FairlightChristianna1Cor318]

Yes, Abby! Love love love what you said about people needing to disagree well! Having varying perspectives in your life is so important!

[@juliebrazee4930]

I love Abby’s voice & Matt’s singing voice!!

[@brennathiessen5600]

I love the podcast and I LOVE Matt's songs!! You are so talented, Matt. Never stop singing!

[@EmmaZehr-gp8dz]

I just listened to Matt's songs, and I'm obsessed!!!

[@jodil1209]

Matt, the brown sugar, cinnamon pop-tarts are the best!! I also agree on the drinking age. My nephew got to be an exchange student in Belgium, and he was 17. The 13:52 whole family that he stayed with had beer/wine daily. It was never an issue over there because it was just normal.

[@amandamasters880]

The “how did you know the concert was here?” GIRL WE ALL WENT THROUGH THE GREAT WAR TO MAKE SURE WE WENT TO THE CONCERT😭😭 I agree though with concerts but if you like the person enough you follow them and find out when they announce tours. Giant swiftie here though so.

[@kaitlynbyrd13]

Abby I never thought twice about your voice. When you first said that people hate on your voice all the time I was shocked because your voice is so normal to me. I think you do sound sweet like Matt said. If anything it sounds like you have a permanent “phone” voice, like the higher pitched voice you’d have while talking on the phone (unless if I’m the only person that does this) 😹 but there’s nothing wrong with your voice!

[@begreat1542]

Let's agree to disagree. My best friend and I are COMPLETE opposites! I'm a 30 year old white women and she's a 45 year old African women and at one point we hated each other and now we love each other because we actually had a moment to communicate And although we are very different. We are very much alike too. We complement each other, and she explains things in a point of view I would have never had. Truly beautiful. ❤❤

[@BrookeSmith-uh9po]

you guys seem so be doing so much better mentally!! happy for you guys!

[@gillianwebb2619]

So so so true about the diets! I’ve lost 40lbs without cutting anything out. All in moderation and knowing what you’re doing with your goals.

[@SabrinaBontempi-cc9ee]

i love your podcast, so fun to watch. i love all the guest you bring on the show but i almost love when its just yall two a little more!!

[@sonyankonda]

I totally agree on Disney’s movies in recent years not being as great it used to be but I highly recommend watching Soul! Very deep and meaningful but still accessible for kids also!🙃

[@WoodFamily4]

Oh my gosh! I wish we lived closer, I totally want to be your friend. Plug into your local library's kids events, and play groups. That's an awesome way to make friends when your kids are young.

[@KristenLynn]

I totally agree that people tend to have a negative attitude towards people when they are first starting something new, it’s not until you’ve ‘made it’ until most people start to show their support.. it’s hard not to take it to heart though, especially since you usually need the most support when you are first starting ❤ I started my KZbin channel just over a year ago, and my mom tends to state more negative thoughts towards it. Although I try to ignore those comments, because I know she loves me and just doesn’t want me to get my hopes up, it does hurt my heart a bit when I hear it.. especially from someone I care about 😕

[@NaturallyEssence]

Abby! My lashe extentions are super natural, I know you'd love them😂❤ I know most people like extravagant lashes but not me, I like them natural and always get compliments on them. P.S Matt is right - your lashes are great!!

[@kaailyntaylor]

Abby, I love your voice!! It's not annoying at all!

[@AliceIbrahim-gu1pz]

39:30 the “I’m flattered” 😂❤

[@pattucker5272]

Love you two, you are so honest and open and if those haters out there don't like it they don't have to watch. Keep on doing what you are doing.❤❤

[@ginaiannozzi6282]

At my job we preach having a balanced diet and not sacrificing things we love. EVERYTHING IN MODERATION. Love it

[@Ramirez2303]

My boyfriend said you make good music Matt and your voice reminded him of Troye Sivan. We love it Matt. You and Abby are awesome 🫶🏼🤎

[@travelmel904]

Omg I am so glad I am not the only one who NEEDS a breakfast food before eating anything else haha - the other thing I cant do is go to bed without dinner

[@karlaparada5832]

Abby I love your voice!!! You should act! Matt keep singing!!!❤❤❤

[@TheGlowingqueen]

Matt, I love your singing. And that you are showing love for your family. Anyone who says different doesn't have a heart.

[@cheyennelincoln5623]

I listen to your guy's podcast every morning while getting ready for work. Love you guys!! ❤

[@GenericBeans]

I love your hot take on bangs! I have bangs and have had them for awhile and maybe it’s time for a change! 😂❤ love listening to other peoples opinions, we all have different experiences in this world and it’s important to listen to others not just your own! Love you both! ❤❤❤

[@StefanieA319]

My hubby tried to sell his ex’s ring and wasn’t going to get anything for it!! So we actually did get a pawn shop ring and it is so beautiful I get compliments on it all the time and we paid $750 total!! ❤

[@andreaneil3330]

Totally agree about the engagement rings. My now husband was so worried about the money for a ring and what I “deserved” i said as long as I get to marry you I do not care. We ended up choosing a white sapphire ring and I LOVE IT less than $300

[@micheleroush3450]

To me a ring is a ring, it’s the meaning & love behind it. And the commitment you make. Abby your ring is gorgeous! You guys are so smart! Love you & your family. ❤️

[@melisa8256]

I’ve been married for 23 years and my first wedding rings were $300! My main stones are sapphire with a couple little diamonds sprinkled in. I have another set now but even then I didn’t want my husband to spend more than $1500.

[@micheleroush3450]

@@melisa8256 that’s great! I’ve been married 32 years. My ring which included the wedding band was $1200(my husbands choice). But if I were to lose it, I would definitely want to go with a moissanite over a diamond.

[@lindafett1826]

Abby😊 your voice is NOT annoying. It is cute and your laugh also and Matt has the nicest smile😊Matt listened to your song on Spotify beautiful 😊

[@melodyberger3539]

people making fun of abby’s voice is so sad! i think her voice is so calming!!

[@pattyharp725]

Pretty ring. You are both so fun to watch🙏🏻❤️

[@poisonivy8474]

I just got into the video and you already hating on my bangs!!! 🤣🤣🤣 hahaha I actually think I look very good with bangs but I can see your vision Matt no worries 🤣🤣🤣 love you guys! Great episode , very entertaining just as the ones with guesses if not even more 😊greeting from peru

[@kategrossi8717]

I totally agree with you about having friends that have differing opinions.. I am pretty conservative and one of my best friends and her husband are very liberal and thats totally okay. We talk about the topics and listen to each others reasonings and we have mature conversations about it, but it doesnt define our relationship.

[@NinjaWhoSaysNi]

I speak for a percentage of the 99 who don't look good without a shirt on: " Show us how to workout Matt 🙏" I've enjoyed a different perspective on you guys lives