Our love languages, marital satisfaction & things we would change | Ep. 33

In this episode, we tested how well we know each other by answering questions about our partner.
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[@dominiquedeslauriers1351]

Awww I love when Abby said she just wants to read to little kids 🥹 That is so pure. It would be so cool if Abby started a channel reading books to children…. I would certainly tune in for my son to watch 🥰

[@carmensamone]

I love that Abby is so sweetly simple. She just wants to be a mommy. 🥹🥹🥹❤️

[@ellenkkneal]

Ok what I got from this episode is we need a cook with Matt and bake with Abby series!

[@avahelman1173]

So true I want this so bad!!!!

[@jennifer6833]

That would be a fun series!

[@jhony845]

Tf 3:40

[@aleahchittum1520]

Matt: I think we’ve had a pretty good week so far. Abby: It’s only Wednesday

[@digimonfrontier2011]

Me LITTERALLY 😂

[@melodyharas6864]

Hahahahaha!

[@autumneads06]

I loved the lightheartedness of this episode!! My google started playing “let it go” when Abby said “hey google, play disney classics” 😂😂 love you guys 😂❤️

[@itsRecords]

I would absolutely not consider myself the “target audience” for this podcast, but I just love hearing your conversations. I find myself going back to episodes I haven’t yet watched, and even back to the ones I’ve already watched. I’m so invested into every episode because you guys are both great and your conversations are real. Keep it up guys (I’m listening to this episode in the gym).

[@maggieruth]

I gotta say, in the Im sorry argument, I believe Abby. The amount of times she has said “I told you that the other day” and Matt responds with “I don’t remember that”, tells me she does say I’m sorry and he just must not remember 😂

[@mylene_b]

He has ADHD, so it's normal that he's more forgetful.

[@user-lz7gc9ue3h]

​@@mylene_b Unless he has an actual doctor that says that he has ADHD he doesn't have it, it's not how it works, he can't just diagnose himself with because he has some of the symptoms.

[@missssieb]

@@user-lz7gc9ue3han adhd diagnosis is just the doctor asking the patient about their symptoms and if they have enough symptoms, they’ll diagnose them. they don’t measure anything objectively (there’s no blood test, brain scan, etc.) so while it’s best to get a doctor’s opinion, if matt has done his research and feels he meets the criteria, a doctor would probably agree!

[@OldMcDonald00]

⁠@@missssiebThey’ll do a physical exam, behavioral exam/test, go over family history, other types of questionnaires, and possibly even give you a referral. Sure, you can find any negligent, unethical doctor who will let you diagnose yourself and hand you a prescription like it’s candy, but it’s important to find that doctor who will take the time to go over all of those things with you to ensure an accurate diagnosis because people get misdiagnosed and over diagnosed ALL of the time. Nowadays it’s way too easy for someone to fake their way into a diagnosis for medication…. and attention or for the use of excuses lol.

[@missssieb]

@@OldMcDonald00it’s definitely over diagnosed & i wish there were objective tests, but where we are currently is that diagnosis occurs after simply asking questions about a patient’s symptoms (MAYBE interviewing people who know the patient, but that’s rare, especially with adults) a behavioral screening is also extremely rare, would be used more in the case of children. im not saying matt has it or anyone with those symptoms has it, but if matt says he has almost every symptom, then a doctor would probably agree!

[@morganmichelle1324]

Matt and Abby, I just want to say THANK YOU for simply being yourselves. I’ve found myself watching your podcast at all times of the night while in the thick of postpartum. My baby boy is 8 weeks old and I’ve had so many set backs in my recovery that have been so disheartening. However, being able to hear Abby explain all the emotions/struggles I also have experienced (that make me feel so alone and vulnerable) has brought tears to my eyes..because for a little time, I don’t feel like I’m alone. You make me feel like I’m right in the room with you guys, laughing and enjoying life. From the bottom of my heart, thank you for helping me work through this dark, yet incredibly beautiful new chapter of life. ❤ p.s. I’m also from the Midwest and live in Tucson 🌽➰🏔️

[@stephaniewolfe7524]

Don't be afraid to show emotions, ever. I became super emotional after the birth of my kids and still am to this day. Things affect you differently when you understand how much time, love and energy goes into things

[@ljjdsee]

My husband and I had our first date almost exactly 14 years ago and I still have the top I wore. ❤ 18 to 32, and it just gets better. Never give up on your love you guys!

[@lindseyrybicki2438]

The little back and forth about the cloud… 😂 also Abby so nonchalantly being like “Oops we were late getting the pictures” to FREAKING PEOPLE MAGAZINE. That’s not their type of priority and I respect that so much.

[@MarineWife0707]

My parents were married 49 years when my dad passed away..... and he swatted her butt up until he passed away. They had a beautiful marriage, raised 6 children and 22 foster kids. I think it keeps you feeling young and keeps the passion alive. Don't let people shame you for being you. Enjoy life --and each other. Perfectly fine to grab butts and front hugs. 👍😁

[@Leslygu]

Matt showing his competitive side not wanting to give Abby her deserved point for the movie 🤣

[@user-jf7vm9pt2i]

Hi Matt and Abby. I've never commented on a video before but I was so touched by this podcast that I had to tell you guys. I've been subscribed to you guys since before Griffins birth. Your channel immediately made me excited for the day that I will one day find the love of my life and start a family. This podcast particularly showed me that having that special someone in your life is such a precious thing. You guys have inspired me so much. I know you Abby doesn't usually read comments but I hope you know how much you've inspired me as a woman. I love both if you guys so much and you're officially my favorite youtube couple! 💗

[@daniellemaranto8735]

I know this is work for y'all, but sometimes it really does feel like we get to be a fly on the wall in your relationship while you spend some quality 1 on 1 time with each other. the little bickering to completely bursting out in laughter is just so fun to witness. i know im speaking for all of us when i say we love your love!

[@veerebel7112]

Such a cute couple. I love how Matt's mind goes a mile a minute, and Abby is the only one that can understand him. This is exactly how my husband and I engage.

[@briwhineandwax]

LOL I’m a full body waxer! It is definitely not weird and I recommend everyone to try and get waxed at least once no matter if it’s your eyebrows or a personal body part! Thanks for the shoutout! 🎉😂

[@ShadowMoonSkyXX]

Ik u guys probably wont see this but Abby you've helped me out with confidence by showing its okay to cry and have all the feelings show. You inspired me about having 2 kids. And struggles of being a mother etc... Also you both are so smart!! Keep up the strong work and my 1 year old son loves watching u guys with me. I can relate to alot of what u guys talk about in your videos.

[@sarahnoelhutchinson6154]

43:44 would love to add that from a neuroscience/psychology standpoint, memories are tainted by the emotions felt at the time of recall. Memories do not exist as stories set in stone on a shelf, but with each recall of that memory, the individual components of the memory are recompiled. This is how memories can change. Think of the movie inside out- the memories emotional backdrop changes depending on the emotion of the person at the time of recall. I love the psychology of memory so i thought I’d throw that in! :)

[@shamrocksandrockets1736]

Absolutely music can cause strong emotions in a baby/toddler. My oldest song would get so sad to “you are my sunshine” EVERY time, starting at about 6 months. (It was on a playlist, would have to skip it). They can be sensitive to the sad tonality of songs, not the lyrics. I’ve seen many other little ones react to music - instant joy, tension, etc

[@AC-iw5mv]

Scary

[@IronRanger132002]

I have 3 songs that tear me up inside. Teddy Bear by Red Sovine, Phantom 309 by Red Sovine, and Don't Take the Girl by Tim McGraw (this one hits me the hardest).😢😢😢

[@JadeGUERY]

Loughing so hard that you just can’t breath is like THE best love language 😂❤

[@moderator7169]

whats loughing

[@JadeGUERY]

@@moderator7169 English is not my mother tongue I meant « laughing »

[@natashagarcia491]

​@@moderator7169obviously they meant laughing. Be nice.

[@moderator7169]

@@JadeGUERY hey i thought i was missing something new lol

[@moderator7169]

@@natashagarcia491 did you read something rude? Why insert yourself and make it something it isn't? self entitled much

[@merlejune]

That was fun to watch. I‘ve got the feeling that you grew as partners so much over the past months. Thanks so much for sharing!

[@anna-mariamartinovic2272]

Just started the podcast and already love it! You’re looking a lot more happy for some reason 😊

[@bimberlish]

They need a merch shirt that has Abby’s famous line of “Mathewwwww” every time he says something inappropriate 😂😂😂 love you guys

[@fallonmesler7083]

Specifically “Matthew JAMES.”

[@bimberlish]

Yes lol!

[@user-cz6xy1rm8c]

35:24 Matt: What do we win? So if you win or I win, what do we get? Abby: A kiss Matt: How bout a make out? Abby: Honestly, I just want a cheeseburger 🤣🍔

[@user-xi7ih3cf7f]

🤣

[@Sarah-sr8zw]

the same thing happened to me as a kid with disney songs! they’re so powerful!! the first thing i thought when you said that abby was that griffin has your emotions - so sweet!

[@carolynturk-hu7je]

Listening skills are honed over time. And can be in any relationship, family, friends, significant others, spouses. Listen and be invested! ❤

[@MadisonHutter]

I was dying laughing with you two when Abbie was saying “and these large muffins” 🤣 I love this podcast and how relatable you both are

[@sunwarrior5999]

12:15 “somehow your clothes fall off” LOL. 😂😂😂 When Matt says quips like that, that make Abby 😮, it reminds me of me & my husband.

[@claudiadogan-coles8519]

I rewatched the part about the cloud like 5 times 😂😂😂 “Abby you don’t even know what the cloud is” “No I DEFINITELY don’t know what the cloud is” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@cindyvw]

As I read this, the cloud convo started hahaaaaa What the f is the cloud hahaaaaa. I have to watch that again

[@cindyvw]

What's the f'ing cloud

[@cindyvw]

No, I DEFINITELY don't know what the cloud is

[@patriciaburton1697]

Matt's unspoken fear is either about sex or getting hemorrhoids. 😂

[@bkessinger94]

Cant get it up is my guess.

[@WillowS-it2sy]

I’m sure it’s career related. Probably failing at being a singer 😬

[@labab1048]

@@bkessinger94 Why’s that? You think he’s gay?

[@bkessinger94]

@@labab1048, negative. I definitely dont think hes gay.

[@carolynturk-hu7je]

Remember that selfish is as selfish does. There is no "me" in the word team! True love wants more for the other than for themself. ❤

[@ShellyWilson-ro6pr]

I loved hearing you all be able to laugh together. I know that you have had some rough spots lately. This too, shall pass. Enjoy this season with your sweet babies.

[@Heidiy]

Just popping in to inform that the Spotify version cuts of at 23 minutes!

[@kelseyDOD]

Why did I think I was the only person on earth that breathed the Rhythm of songs while I ran in cross country😆 laughed out loud MULTIPLE TIMES in this podcast and I’m only 30 mins in so far

[@katiecleaves9716]

I absolutely love you guys! Everything is real, funny, and raw! It's not two people putting on a show. It makes me relate so much! Thank you both for all you put out!

[@sidneysmithhhh]

pov: i’m putting on my uniform as a waxer at european wax center while matt and abby are talking about sharing the podcast with a waxer 😂😂

[@marybillington8235]

Matt’s always a great husband bc he is always serving and doing things for Abby!❤

[@boitumelomalebo3326]

Are you a bot??

[@zahne7213]

He is a perfect husband....infront of the cameras

[@brittanyhoward9186]

Their ease of communicating with one another is so rare.

[@tyara.collins]

This was one of the best episodes! I was laughing so hard the whole time. You two with the icks were hilarious when Abby starts talking about Matt’s toes and hearing how dry they are… “vomiting, instantly vomiting” 😂😂😂

[@ellianna.keller]

Yes Abby did bounce back so quick she looks great postpartum, partially genetics I'm sure but I bet it's also the fact that she's only 24. Kids that you have in your twenties it's much easier to bounce back from (all the moms have told me that lol + science)

[@BipolaranticMallory]

She also worked out her entire pregnancy. She looks great!

[@ellianna.keller]

@@BipolaranticMallory yes working out does definitely help as well!

[@mionaa1021]

True but my mom had me at 36 and bounced back immediately. It is genetics for the most part. We’re also Balkan so the woman is 53 now yet doesn’t have any forehead wrinkles it’s craazy

[@ellianna.keller]

@@mionaa1021 yes genetics do help to an extent. I know a lady who had ten kids in twenties thirties and fourties and bounced back for all of them, but ultimately when she was younger still the bounce back was faster than as one gets older. Genetics really help tho

[@mionaa1021]

@@ellianna.keller Of course!!!

[@boitumelomalebo3326]

Absolutely love Abbys personality. Shes so much fun.

[@elisewilham3234]

Ok you all just mentioned the song “Cinderella” and I started crying immediately. The power of that song is insane

[@monanana-04]

Honestly, the point Matt made about romanticizing about the past/dead people….so true. It’s good to look for the good, but we don’t really see/know the negative actions/vices they had or acted upon. It’s good to remember their just humans like us.

[@realtaravlogs7223]

“They made a whole movie about that, it’s called a bugs life” I’m dyin 😂😂😂

[@user-bs5mz5xj1r]

Find a partner who loves you as much as Matt and Abby loves crumble cookies🍪💖

[@theofficialmadihart]

“What’s the effing cloud?” - Abby Howard, 2023 😂😂😂

[@Jmyin]

I don’t know why but this episode was so funny. I laughed so many times… and I rarely laugh out loud during funny podcasts

[@efeminism3063]

Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage. This is a video set that someone recommended to me and I cannot keep it to myself.❤

[@tabathabrown6508]

I appreciated the light heartedness of this podcast. I appreciate all your videos. I could pick up what you were putting down with trying really hard to keep it light. Thank you for sharing with us!

[@nicoleelizabeth6693]

🎉🎉🎉 always super excited for this podcast, always so funny and feels like I could easily be in the room laughing my butt off with you both!!

[@MindfulMovement12]

Its so cute how you guys have managed to maintain being in love with each other after all these years, parenting is hard and sometimes takes strain on your relationship, even you mentioning your fights its the truth its real life and I love that we can relate!

[@krystaldonovan6335]

Laughing so hard together it hurts, yall soulmates never give up on eachother ❤

[@joslincarothers6542]

I’ve been watching you guys since the start but haven’t really ever commented, I have to say I love you guys and how kind you are not only to your kids and their future, but each other and the world. You guys have had some of the best moments and I love how Abby is such a great mom and how Matt puts his heart into all of your social media content. You guys work so hard at what you do and so we’ll together! I love this podcast🤍🤍🤍

[@kavyajhawar]

when y'all post, my day gets better so, thank you!!

[@appalachianfamilyrecipes4647]

I’m totally with you Matt I’m not wearing shoes inside or dirty clothes in bed!

[@joannaleatherman9572]

You guys are the sweetest, so sincere couple. I am so glad to see people who cherish and realize how important family is. As well as how blessed you are to have this opportunity. I wish I had this opportunity when my kids were small. I missed out on so much with my kids. I'd love a spouse as genuine as Matt. Keep up the great work.❤

[@jadehart1562]

"Shake my egg" "I have these large muffins" 😂😭 laughing as hard as Matt and Abby right now 🤣

[@alylambdin6589]

I just love how happy you both are together and how much you laugh. Makes me happy to see!

[@nicolejones3184]

Y’all need to get Vivek Ramaswamy on here. I think you guys would do such a good job asking questions to get to know his life story. That would be super cool! 😅

[@MrsSela343]

I have one question to you: Why you deleted podcast about Dellas family....? There was Della,husband and baby.

[@naomiwalker4130]

“Well you guys thank you so much for listening to this episode. We need to go because I really need a cheese burger”😂😂

[@sunshinenrainbows9339]

Having my morning coffee while watching this :) its becoming a morning routine

[@dotunderscore]

House shoes/slippers can be SUPER helpful :) Also, I had the same toilet seat/lid issue when I was living with guys. We had a cat that liked to play with the water, so I finally took a picture of her and taped it to the inside of the toilet lid. It was a visual reminder for the guys about putting the lid down. It worked and was a great icebreaker for house guests 😂

[@Idkwhattomakemyname02]

Guys I need the Cinderella song like i just imagine me as an adult dancing to this with my dad at my wedding and like it’s so sweet so like I need it

[@savannahsewell6139]

My Google started playing when you wish upon a star ❤

[@hello_danielle]

Abby telling the viewers about their icks about their feet had me dying laughing. I have never commented about their feet “bothering” me but it’s true 😂😂😂 Y’all were hilarious today and multiple times had me cracking up. Thank you for doing this light hearted video today. In the postpartum phase with my now one month old and laughing tonight was just what I needed.❤

[@carolynturk-hu7je]

No, Sprouts is a chain. Wish they had one on our area!

[@lindseypicquet3754]

“What’s the effing cloud?” 🤣🤣🤣 I totally vibe with Abby..

[@backtheblue5422]

The song about Dancing with Cinderella has a very sad story. The artist Steven Curtis Chapman lost his daughter in a car accident and he wrote the song for her. Very sad but it’s a very sweet song. Also love the podcast series it’s so amazing!

[@brittanyscott4971]

He actually wrote the song for both of his daughters before Maria's accident.

[@alishakolasinski3184]

The way you guys are laughing so hard at everything 😂 that's the sign of sleep deprived parents 😂😂

[@colemancampbell28]

Im not kidding, when you said hey google, it activated the google on the other floor of my house!

[@carolynturk-hu7je]

Abby you could do local theater! ❤

[@nmkol13]

“This is Abby, she’s so pretty” 🥹🥹🥹

[@user-gi5vv5jm3d]

My absolute favorite podcast! Even before the podcast loved you guys! So relatable in life and you guys show real life!

[@Leah57320]

Your effort in these videos always makes me smile 🥰

[@ruthplummer6847]

Try 25 years!! & 18 of them married !! It’s hard work but I couldn’t/wouldn’t be without my man ❤️❤️

[@triforcetriumph7192]

Yay! My favorite podcast EVER! Also feel better soon guys 💜

[@julial.r.5383]

Also breastfeeding helps a lot with the slimming! All my friends and family members who breastfed lost weight fast. My best friend also said that whenever the baby pulled, she felt the tummy contract... 😳

[@julial.r.5383]

Oh and in my country there's this saying that when a mother breastfeeds she should eat for two, as a lot of what she eats goes out to her baby.

[@matthewabanks]

This podcast was so chaotic and so all over the place but I still love it. Y’all are great, y’all are awesome, y’all are so funny!!

[@macaylaclements1758]

I snorted when he said "somehow your clothes fall off"😂😂 just keeping it real dudes love it!

[@elainehardy3502]

We been together a freakin long time". 😅 You're still in the newlywed stage. My husband and I been married 36 years . Three girls, 5 grandchildren and 6 great grandchildren 😮

[@Aliciaberget]

So refreshing to see you two laughing so hard! This episode is hilarious!!

[@tildheandersson1101]

This is almost the best episode so far😂❤️ And yes, my Google Home went of and started playing😂 And the best part, I talk swedish with my Google😅

[@rebeccapatterson8049]

OK I don’t think you guys even know your own favorite superpower. It’s ok because I got you. Abby: teleportation. No getting kids loaded up in the car or hard travel with baby. You can link arms with your family and poof you’re in Paris. Imagine the date nights in Epcot and Saturday afternoons in Hawaii. Matt: being able to pause time. Like there’s a pause button and the whole world stops but you can keep going. You could have an extra hour to get your work done and be so dang productive but also be able to be super present dad and husband. Everyone would be like “wow how does he do it” also maybe share it with Abby a little for an extra hour of sleep here and there.

[@carolynturk-hu7je]

Remember when Matt said on the podcast with Derek and Sarah that he should be tested for ADHD or ADD. When will Matt go to be tested?

[@BriBorgersen]

why would you question him on his medical information? Weirdddd

[@carolynturk7368]

@@BriBorgersen Weirddddddddddddddd yourself, why you would question my comment! Are you the comment police? It was a valid question and not an infringment of the Hippa Law. Matt has mentioned it before and again here.

[@BriBorgersen]

@@carolynturk7368 I just think it’s weird to be so attached to whether someone has an adhd or add diagnosis

[@OldMcDonald00]

⁠​⁠@@BriBorgersenHow does someone asking one question about something that Matt continuously brings up, make them “so attached”? It is absolutely a valid question because he constantly uses it as an excuse for everything, but go off!

[@BriBorgersen]

@@OldMcDonald00 Y’all are too attached in general. Read through the comments. These videos are here for entertainment yet y’all are commenting like you actually know them in person. Like I said, it’s weird.. but hey that’s the new normal for this society…being obsessed with the personal lives of people you’ll never know it real life 😂

[@rebeccapatterson8049]

I 100% believe Abby when she says she said something because in this podcast alone Matt would get too excited and just miss-hear something she just said 😂. Y’all are so funny and relatable and seem fun and real.

[@jordanlangley2487]

It’s so cool that you guys are from Springfield. We live about 30 minutes away so we know all about the places you guys mentioned

[@lauriepierce4068]

Possums are actually very sweet and mild animals. They are marsupials and they do not carry rabies and they like to eat ticks. They are very clean animals. They look kind of creepy when they get big and they make a creepy sound but they’re actually super sweet.

[@hollyryanmc]

Love your content! Matt and Abby have inspired me to start vlogging as a new mum with my one family ❤️

[@Bethmarie44]

Awwww. Morro Rock. My neck of the woods ❤ glad we could provide a core memory for you. Love this episode.

[@keitaeve]

I always enjoy the podcast buy Abby seems very nippy in this one. Nipping at everything Matt says.

[@user-ng2ez6ul3l]

Matt- "That was beautiful" Abby - "That was dicey" 😂😂😂

[@haleycrowe0]

Why did y’all stop talking about your faith and Christianity?

[@MusicIsMyAeroplane09]

did they ever talk about it? genuinely curious

[@jodil1209]

I love these podcasts!! I was playing my music in the car yesterday and your song Falling In Love came on. My daughter, who is huge into edm, actually asked "who sings this song?" I have it on Amazon, not Spotify tho. She added it to her songs, too.

[@anniedavies6761]

What's the betting baby #3 is happening in the next year... 😆 The love Matt and Abby have for each other is so beautiful and very visible 💕

[@QQ-NiniWu]

i wanna see Matt and abby sing a song together

[@susanlee1827]

I think your relationship goes to an entirely different level after you have kids. Your brains go into parent mode and it’s hard not to see those Ick’s in an entirely different light. It’s a whole new life, so adjusting can be a trial. ❤ Oh and I love it when you are barefoot. That’s me! I hate shoes, so it’s just a comfy, at home vibe. ❤ And…if you don’t close the toilet lid before you flush…there has been studies about the droplets in the air floating from the flush action 🤢…put your toothbrush in the drawer 😵

[@username9999]

I don't think Abby has a real favorite movie if it has only been her favorite for a week.

[@cierafehl1832]

The shake my egg and muffin miscommunication and then as soon as they compose themselves Abby thinks Matt says dongs 🤣