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Why do we use our bodies as commodities in relationships? The traumas that some get in these relationships, what effect does this have on the people’s bloodlines?
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[@sophe.nelly777]

I also love how he touches on both genders without blaming the other

[@RM-fw6mj]

Consider when arranged marriages in the villages helped to keep clans together inorder to build family and community. The levels of debauchery izikhathi zamanje...Let's explore the true cost of not being aligned with the Land, Nature and our Blood Lineages.

[@buntun3670]

Abba is right, the story of Juliet and Romeo was a tragic sitcom - it was meant to show the foolishness of umjolo. Basically, we all need to outgrow umjolo its for teens

[@nkonzoimbikatikati9434]

Ndicela ukuza engqumbeni

[@AnnaMarrie-SWT]

This gave me chills. What a tragedy to our bloodlines, to the family structure, to our spirituality😢😢😢😢

[@riovsop]

Love it, wish the episode was longer but grateful none the less

[@bonganidlamini5309]

We need a full podcast on this particular issue, this is a very very important topic. How do I get hold of you sir?? I'm a mess 🙏

[@itumelenglesegojele1851]

The problem doesn't begin with "Nthabiseng" rather with her father who has failed to be the epitome of fatherhood. Where will "Thandi" gain knowledge of the value of her bloodline when she's raised by a mother who is imbokoto on father's day and a mother on mother's day. Mjolo isn't even the root cause of the problems we are witnessing in our community.

[@MZUALTINA]

So if I may ask the reason why Nthabeseng is misbehaving', The reason why she is misbehaving its the missing of the father figure, Plz correct me if I'm wrong. But what if the father is present in Nthabiseng"s life but she still choose not to listen to her father she is full of arrogant with the behavior she adopted from the street to her friends? Do we still blame the father? because most of the fathers tried all their best to be there for their children's.

[@lesedi629]

Wow! The truth is surely a bitter pill to swallow but good for the soul. Thank you.

[@kananeloqhobosheane402]

I don't know if it's my algorithm or what ,but i keep getting these conversations about the relationships we're having in the current. I just jumped from Penuel' live on facebook to this on youtube.

[@thabangmazibu1612]

One day we need to address the issue of western clothing (shorts and long pants) as a statement or status of respect or societal decorum and demeanour

[@sophe.nelly777]

as a 2k baby that follows this podcast religiously I’m so triggered 🥲🥶

[@DMkz111]

I LOVE YOU ABBA ❤🙏🏿 Thank you for getting this Truth out there

[@Milleniadiaries]

These truth is what we need.....thank you ABBA

[@SOTRATOTHEPEOPLE]

something is very touching and i cant help but voice it,with the men you say their boys because theirs fathers did not choose to marry and change their surnames,is it their fault that they were born to unworthy men?my question is,should a ''boy'' like that marry himself into a surname that does not want them just to be called a men?

[@OnlyCC1018]

Yes. It should be that way. That boy must find a new path in life.

[@langabi408]

The truth in this🙌🏾

[@lesibabarnabas3699]

Today I learned many things.Keep it up

[@perrynyalungu8720]

Undisputable facts, inkomu

[@tshepomotshepana7635]

Maduma Abba relaboga nako ya gago and ur efforts to heal the nation. Thokoza👏🏿

[@percympmakamo3455]

The truth hurts but someone have to say it... I'm also burdened with trauma coz of "Mjolo" and we think it's a badge of honour to have multiple partners.

[@Mel0UltraMel]

Someone send this to Penuel

[@rapsontsikhudo5038]

Yerrrrr This hit tooo deep.

[@lambiliabrown7786]

Powerful. Well said!!!!

[@kgotsi]

Profound.

[@themaifiaceremony3105]

Abba not sure if ive missed an episode where you explain why do you cover your hair? Is it a traditional thing or a personal preference.

[@mzekelotukushe7275]

Uxabene Mbona. Uxabene Tshayingwe. Andisoli nto kodwa kuba uthetha iinyani zodwa. Qhuba Mpandla simamele!

[@babalwamabuya6243]

Heeeeey kuxatyenwe nyani😀

[@honeybsosilly7537]

the fridge part killed me

[@selbyleo1265]

I've been there😭😭😭😭hell of experience

[@simthembileukangcuka5803]

Kanti unguMbona, well said

[@user-wx8gj6hz6m]

Siyabonga ukufundisa sesikhulume sakhathala

[@Fishosho]

Danko Mkhulu

[@ayoba9797]

Greetings Abba. Can u touch into unpopular Khoisan History. Are they Xhosa or the other way around or not even similar? Why are they not considered a Bantu nation.

[@sbuxaba1462]

Haibo !

[@sipheemmanqanabeni1281]

I appreciate your teachings. Is Co-parenting healthy for a black child?

[@user-ty1su2ki7q]

Thank you brother. Mjolo is not the issue. Its mental problem yes. But patriachy is the root of the problem its the unnatural mental issue created by us. Its unnatural basically criten. Nolly Mhlongo

[@ng9047]

Patriarchy has nothing to do with this, umjolo is a western concept of forging relationships. That is the problem.

[@yamkelaswelinkomo1973]

Go deeper ABBA so that humans may get healed from this deadly disease

[@nomalungelomthimunye9579]

Sad truth

[@ZakhelePrince-zn9bk]

Lol about denilton em30....😂😂😂😂😂 im from Groblesdal

[@babalwamabuya6243]

Madolo kayihlo😢😂oyhini Abba

[@infinityabundance]

😭😭😭😭😭 ibrukwe efrijini dusted me aibo ngempela 💀😭😭😭

[@inganathizwane3015]

So as umntana ovela emjolwen not raised by my biological dad who I've just known to be ngikhula ka zwane li mpondo utatami wenyan

[@mawandebidi986]

Undibidile kengk "isixhosa asithi" umntanentombi ngowakulonina?

[@luyolomndayi]

Tell them baba 😅😅😅😅

[@thatomothibedi229]

Wa bua go tlala seatla Kgosi Yaka, Kgalema

[@mbali9317]

What happened to Ntsiki Mazwai?

[@GlenNkuna-eu6xk]

Truth hurts hey.....

[@lusaphomgoduka9702]

Mmmh

[@mogopodiphiri6286]

Arranged marriages maybe 🤔 they were useful and could still work, *💬 thinking 🤔*. . What do you think 🤔, friends?

[@sibonisomofokeng3825]

,🥶

[@user-ye6wi3gn5k]

Camagu. Kwande kumkani

[@BeaconOfLight_1997]

Pants in the fridge? 😱🧐😅🤣

[@KAPINGTON_DC]

[@mbusomahlangu1956]

Kunzima...

[@babalwamabuya6243]

Shuuuuuuuu!

[@molemoemmanuel5032]

Onendlebe uzwile .

[@MMINO-pr4pu]

The negativity my brother always shows is disturbing, We don't learn from him anymore, I went hear is him criticizing others Mara are yena o spiritual.... Nah man... Teach stop criticisms

[@BigThapelo]

Khona amadoda afakha amabrukwe efridgini? Kanjani manje😅

[@ayandagumede8055]

Yes 😭amaJean amanzi those expensive jeans

[@BigThapelo]

@@ayandagumede8055 haibo. Nithini manje lol what are the brand names?

[@potentdrug]

Why yall bleeping now? Give us uncut, raw dialog

[@sihlematandela2754]

That one word the keep bleeping 😢

[@Sirr_Oyena]

This man said umjolo is a mental illness, and went on to say to Jol is to have fun...so having fun is basically a mental illness according to you him ? Let him cook

[@TeamIrepsofresh]

this is biased, failed to acknowledge that there's issues that lead to such instances and people do not primarily put themselves in these disgraceful situations...just cause you had your good ways paved for you, you sit today recording this from "your fathers house" mind you, while some of us have nowhere to call home, it gives you no right to judge others upon situations that were way out of their control...i like the fact that you've touched on issues that put people in these situations yet here you sit today laying judgement.

[@RM-fw6mj]

Just a thought, if Abba is his parents last born, then he is where he's supposed to be culturally. Angiti uthunjana does not leave the parents homestead. Could be why many last borns become displaced n ungrounded, by leaving the homestead instead of maintaining n developing the same for it's descendants.

[@sonininyaniso9683]

If the shoe fits...

[@OnlyCC1018]

Nah @Teamlepsofresh you're being sensitive for nothing. These situations are caused by parents and not other people. With that sort of thinking you might as well blame yourself for someone else being born in a broken home. That kid must grow up and find a new path.

[@lekis5975]

@@RM-fw6mj Well said.

[@yamkelaswelinkomo1973]

You need serious help my brother before you go mad completely

[@itsgoodgalriri_1991]

So I take it this is the real Men's Conference? 🥲