Unpopular Opinion | Marriage | Polygamy | Virginity Testing | Divorce

In today’s episode, Gogo Maliyavuza shares some insights on the virginity testing for woman, on how it is performed and why. She also discusses what can lead to polygamy, who is best positioned to be in polygamous relationships and why she advocates for it.
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[@YolokaziChagi]

TikTok lead me here love her soo much ❤❤❤❤

[@xoliswadinekantombela1344]

Thank for the conversation, special thanks to Mam Busi, her favourite phrase when you are in her home “Abantu mabaxoxe”. Let’s have the conversations so that people can be healed and for them to know better 🙏

[@nyashamahleko7007]

Thank you for the subtitle. Did Gogo just Condemn under ages Girls for being pregnant? Does she even know that most of the time underage Girls are impregnated by GROWN MAN? How could she excuse Male behavior by saying those Children look like grown Women? How can a 9-year-old look or even act like a 27-year-old? How could she say something like that. And why didnt anyone hold her accountable for that statement? Molestation, incest, Domestic violence, Child trafficking, and Rape are happening in this country. And the biggest victims are underage girls. GROWN Men who are impregnating 9-year-old are called Pedophiles. We don't need Virgity testing . We need more control over GROWN men and Young Boys who are lusting over little girl Children.We need real Woman Elders.No Elders who Worship Man. And promot Polygamy and wants African Woman to stay in Violance Marriage.African Woman should never selfsecrefy themself for a Marriage.Our Mothers have done that.And some of them ended up in Depression,Suicede or selfharm.

[@cheletemali6457]

Finally, a real woman. Give thanks!

[@unpopularopinion_za]

Please note that there are subtitles available. Please turn on your captions/ subtitles. We are aware that in some instances the subtitles do appear and in some they do not. We are escalating the matter.

[@MsMousy82]

It says "subtitles unavailable". Can you not edit it into the video anyway?

[@unpopularopinion_za]

@@MsMousy82 They should be available now. Issues resolved.

[@andrettam6896]

What i agree with with virginity testing is that they can see when a child is being raped because children really get raped at a very young age and sometimes nobody can tell because it is done by somebdy close to the child☹

[@musabaloyi5390]

This mama is such a vibe. I love her 🖤

[@ditiraFinances]

Opening of this conversation is so key. "What is a girl child/ubontombi?" Obvious in African context... Through such conversations, I believe we can get a common ground of reversing ill systems that are in our lives. We really need to restore our lives

[@herburnedutainment4668]

This was needed .......more to such❤

[@mpumelelompumelelo4464]

Makhosi your attire is always on point 👉 👈

[@khensanimlaudzi8955]

Firstly she didn't emphasis on how testing regarding girls who encountered rape occurs. What initiation processes men go through to prepare them for initiation within the zulu culture. The interview was thought-provoking and informative but it just reflected the patriarchy that persists within culture.

[@unpopularopinion_za]

Fair enough, but we will also invite people that can speak specifically to how men would be initiated. We think it would only be fair. Thank you for watching.

[@matstof]

I am also very curious about what the end goal of ukuhlolwa is. What happens to the boys or men who touch them with no consent or rape these girls? Who inspects them?

[@senzomajola6805]

Maybe we should first establish when did culture become patiarchal, was it at the beginning or it's something we got along the way? Also, men are brought up in the way that they have to achieve manhood. You don't become a man because of your genitals, you prove yourself through actions....being a man is a constant journey of proving yourself. Boys are (or were brought up) with the mentality that the ultimate goal is to be a man and along the way uyadodiswa so you learn about the meaning of being a man.

[@khensanimlaudzi8955]

@@senzomajola6805 in pre-colonial Africa patriarchy didn’t exist so it’s something we definitely learnt along the way due to religion , colonialism, etc.

[@nyashamahleko7007]

@@matstof There are to much double standart in this culture. That is the reason why I have abandoned my own culture long time ago. It has became a s..e..x paradise for African Man.If a Man is having multiple of Woman he is practising Polygamy. BUT if a Woman dares to have one or more lovers she is practising Adultery.

[@cathrinenzimande8906]

Can already feel in my spirit it will be a great one

[@Mother_2_A_Tribe]

I loved the episode. The issue is when we have a man chiming into issues of womanhood. It would have been great if another woman was hosting.

[@CingwaneElihle]

As a 28 year's old Virgin who still goes for virginity testing, I am so dissapointed to hear uNomehlo saying she encourages virgins to date and marry men, who are already married to other people. This is sooo dissapointing and I feel for the young girls that are being guided by loMama. If kukhona izintombi NTO that will see this comment, please know and understand that ukuzigcina awenzeli umshado or abantu but yourself!!! Please love yourselves and know your worth! In my opinion as intombi esindala, I believe that uma uyintombi you deserve a man that will choose you and only you. Kunezifo esikhathini samanje. Also, please stay in school, focus on your careers, get successful and become the best version of yourself, this thing of ukubeka amadoda phambili before anything else has to stop, we've seen what it has resulted too kwabangaphili kwethu!!!!

[@edmundsishange3608]

Thank you dadewethu

[@mqondisi3759]

Imvelo ithi ekugcineni kumele sigcagce... Mina kungangiphatha kabi uma umtanami engaba yitshitshi kuze kweqe. Makagane sibone okuhle akuphathelwe nguMdali nemvelo

[@edmundsishange3608]

@@mqondisi3759 yize kunjalo akuwona wonke umuntu ozogcagca ngoba akuyena wonke umuntu odalelwe loko

[@mqondisi3759]

@@edmundsishange3608 ngizwa kahle nkosazane, inkosi ibusise

[@ngatecollett7189]

Strawman is what u sayin.

[@alvinamaseko3388]

😂😂😂😂 I really enjoyed this episode...❤

[@LyricsHavenTv]

Hello, am Ugandan and I love everything discussed here, I listen in on every session but now the issue is I get lost at times. Some English subtitles would be great. Thanks.

[@makhoDutch]

There was an issue with subtitles but they are working now. Turn on your captions/ subtitles.

[@stillimagery]

Great conversation I love uMama ❤

[@mlungisimahlobo2013]

Wow!!!! Thanks for the information I will needn't watch again this time with my note pad. Thanks to you My Brother for asking relevant questions and thanks To MaKhosi for providing good answers. This had to be one best.

[@rachelpieterson4104]

Lol,😂😂😂😂😂😂 Gogo Maliyavuza I'm in tears 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@KgasagoMothapo-ut7ke]

Thank you for the conversation. Would you kindly shed some light on the act of abortion, more especially on dealing with the child that should have been but is not...

[@Thibla]

Once again....siyathokoza khulu wise ones....most of your guests are the people who should be given accessible platforms to engage with the larger part of our people as we are truly lost....our being has been violated in the worst of ways.....please continue to resucitate...Sithokoze

[@mathabomatshitse3137]

I enjoyed this so much, I can say that my perspective on a womanhood has changed. Thank you so much. Excuse my English 😂😂😂

[@mduduzindlovu4934]

Thank u Bab Maliyavuza this was truly interesting. Can she please come back for more insight on abelaphi

[@LESSONPLANSFORTEACHERS3]

I’ve been learning from this channel that as a woman I am my own god. That I am a goddess and I move in a realm that is beyond what the mind can imagine. In the same breath today I’m told to wait in line with several women to serve one man. It’s quite confusing now hey…Which is which?

[@freepeacelove8]

The first part of your statement I would follow that part..only! ☺️

[@illuminatemathenjwa3002]

More blessings

[@nomawethugama8822]

Very true on that bipolar note

[@Mfundo_ng]

🙌the untold truth

[@thabithadiale8999]

Beautiful topic please make a video in future about kereke ya spreri

[@lihlekhayiyana6171]

Big up gogo

[@KasiTvForKasiTribe]

Ngiyabonga for the interview 🙏🏿 that's all I can say

[@bongimpungose9909]

How can we get a hold of Gogo?

[@mmabathodesireemphahlele3408]

Gogo Maliliyavuza for president! 🤣🤣🤣

[@feelings1804]

The sex topic is a bit confusing for a young 21 year old male like myself, most of my relationships Do not work out because they say " I'm slow" when it comes to initiating sex in my defence I always tell my friends and peers that for me a relationship is much more than a sex transaction situation

[@moe_ramz]

Please don’t change. You’re a good man, be slow. Sex is spiritual. Don’t attach yourself to every woman. 🙏

[@sphephilezwane5539]

I agree

[@nyashamahleko7007]

Can she also shares some insights on the virginity testing for Boys.Are there even any Testing groud for boys.Or is those Rituals only for controlling Girls. And pleasuring African Man

[@nathankgabi7401]

Yes traditionally boys are encouraged to protect their seed, that the longer they stay virgirns the stronger they become until theyre ready to have a family! To never waste it! Only reserved for activities with your wife! Patriarchy is a white man thing to bring about an unbalanced people which we used to be.

[@thatochabeli4303]

It’s a pity that these are dominant voices regarding African culture because this narrative is poison

[@nyashamahleko7007]

@@thatochabeli4303 It's a pity that African Men don't even Try to Understand the pain, suffering, and abuse African Women go thru in the name of African Culture. Polygamy has destroyed a lot of Families. And I am speaking of personal experiences. And putting a Woman's value on her Virginity is abusive. Yes, African culture has destroyed many individuals. Maybe one day we can talk honestly about our Culture. The Woman in my Family suffered in the name of African culture under their Husband and Family in Laws. If telling the truth is poisoning then I am going to be Poisoning.I stand i my TRUTH

[@edmundsishange3608]

@Nyasha Mahleko thank you, well said! We tend to glorify our African culture too much and forget that no culture is perfect, these cultures didn't descend from some heavenly place, we need to be brutally honest about our dogmatic African culture and yes its caused a lot of harm in many respects, we must be willing to confront this instead of hiding behind: "it's our culture "

[@edmundsishange3608]

@Nyasha Mahleko I don't think Thato Chabeli's comment about poison is directed to you, I believe he's addressing it to the podcast

[@xseedmusicalmutant515]

thanks for the teachings but please ad part1 part2 when naming your because now im wondering part3. kealeboga

[@badimobatemothuoptyltd7702]

Nami ngilapho Mkhulu 👸🏿🤴🏿👑🙏🏿🐆🦁NIYAJULA NGEMPELA MAKHOSI AMAKHULU

[@khulekanimthembu5752]

We are within

[@yourexcellencysindane6211]

this lady cracks me up yoh

[@siyandahadebe]

Mama gogo plz sicela usishiyele number kade sasifuna intombi or omama abazokhuluma kanje ngentombi zabo plz

[@user-bd4cu6js2w]

Informative 💯🔥

[@TheMothership999]

Are boys tested for virginity? The maiden alone should not berate burden of an indiscretion that included a male. Also girls in the culture should be protected, if yo find a girl that is not a virgin- there should be an investigation.

[@ngatecollett7189]

Firstly she is not man where she tell you about male virginity. 2 this girls are not forced as she explains no burden is on anyone expect volunteers. This are the kind of disease she talking about lack of comprehension, misinforming your mind

[@tshiamolekwene9724]

the 2nd woman and we learn nothing productive though 🙁 nah ake happy ,

[@senzomajola6805]

Kunzima kakhulu okwabantu ngoba sifundiswa kakhulu abantu abafuna ukusiqeda ubuthina. Sikhuliswa abantu abadukile futhi abangaqondi ukuthi kwenzakalani emhlabeni

[@W3ndy339]

Camagu 👸🤴thanks for the interesting show. Kindly advise how does one start the journey of learning insight if one didn't take this journey on their upbringing especially if you come from background that's christian and don't believe in culture

[@archiemokhethi8464]

1st thing to do is to know your family tree and lineade. Isiduku or isithakazelo are very important. My 2c worth. Camagu

[@W3ndy339]

@@archiemokhethi8464 OH, thank you.

[@cecelialaine816]

What language is being spoken so I can learn to study it?

[@W3ndy339]

IsiZulu

[@cecelialaine816]

@@W3ndy339 thank you

[@RamotsekiLesibo]

The problem is the guy who is not specific in terms of asking the question stop circulating my brother.

[@mngadiayanda]

Mama🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@user-tg3vv8si9p]

@unpopular opinion, which cameras are you using?

[@rorisangcharlesmotsotso7437]

U Mtungwa uyabonga kakhulu futhi 👌

[@thandekamlangeni5341]

I have a genuine question: Is the virgin testing not a patriarchal and by extension, a colonial construct? How is this part of usiko?

[@vusimongwecomedian7027]

U failed to prepare for this one MR you were found wanting Well done gogo

[@anthonycooper8997]

I don't know if it's cause I'm using my phone, but there isn't even an option for subtitles. Very unfortunate.

[@unpopularopinion_za]

Please check again, the technical issue has been resolved

[@lindokuhledube5767]

Mama ngicela ama number and location.

[@riovsop]

Captions unavailable still

[@NosiphoBusisiwe-qt4wq]

😂😂logogo ngyamthandayaz ihlolwan intombi ize ibena28😅

[@buyisiwetshabalala7261]

39:15😂😂😂😂😂 host iphelile yezwa😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sindz_m8115]

Uxolo makhosi KwiSthembu sona andizi🙌🏻ngeMental health ka bani? Yoh ngeke I don’t kheredam about the reason yesosthembu

[@kongopriest7487]

Subtitle for non Zulu speakers please

[@palesaayesha181]

Pretty please

[@unpopularopinion_za]

@@palesaayesha181 Please turn on your captions/ subtitles.

[@unpopularopinion_za]

English subtitles have been uploaded

[@MsMousy82]

@@unpopularopinion_za it says "Subtitles unavailable"

[@zandilenxumalo1205]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👌🏿

[@modisaotsiletau9919]

subtitles please please

[@makhoDutch]

Turn on captions, there was an issue but they are appearing now.

[@marvinxulu7816]

16:29 making a note

[@marvinxulu7816]

19:20 bookmarking

[@Mpeya_yao_1oma]

❤❤

[@protectusafrica7355]

noma Singazama kanjan ukulungisa lento ,, Angeke ksalunga Lutho bafethu and amantombazane ke manje akafebi akafebi Go tyooo

[@marvinxulu7816]

30:00

[@kupewataaka6917]

No subtitles😔😔I am from East Africa

[@unpopularopinion_za]

We experienced a technical glitch, but the subtitles have been uploaded

[@unpopularopinion_za]

Please turn on your captions/ subtitles.

[@kupewataaka6917]

@@unpopularopinion_za Thanks

[@mzekenamanjearistokasi6832]

Hopefully umama does not have a twang.

[@herburnedutainment4668]

Isintu esigcwele umlomo 😅 kuphela

[@marvinxulu7816]

26:00

[@gostodj]

She went in yoh lol...

[@marvinxulu7816]

22:25 ay man lomama wenza ama other

[@DanRam-gg6wt]

This is disappointing.

[@makhoDutch]

Certainly unconventional, especially considering the way life is now & some of the things said especially by a woman. I get the sentiment she's coming from, maybe in some parts don't necessarily agree with the approach. I recently met someone who as a first wife was in a process of find a 2nd wife for her husband. A well educated lady, working for a reputable company. I seemed to be more bothered by her life, and marriage while she was looking forward and seemed happy to have this responsibility. So what Gogo is saying here might be out there for some people but others I appreciate this way of living. If the people involved are happy and have good lives for themselves then I personally should not be bothered. That's my thoughts 😅 may I ask what disappointed you?

[@God_is_an_Atheist666]

Finally Aba wears pants, give Tunx! 👏

[@mngadiayanda]

Mama🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥