UPDATE on Ray January 2024 & Our GIFT to RAY

[@katherinerothgeb2584]

Dearest Kelly and girls, letting go is exactly as you are saying. My mother and my husband passed at home and in Hospice, respectively. While keeping them comfortable is always our first concern, they are trying to hold on for some event, person, sign. My mother passed the day after my eldest brother's birthday and I know she held on until the next morning just to not "cloud" his day. My husband waited for his daughter and grandchildren to arrive. Ray may be waiting for you all to whisper that it's okay for him to go and you will love him always. Maybe he's loving the sight sight of the wonderful puppy. Thank you for sharing this impossible chapter in your lives, Kelly. You are teaching us all how to love in the divine manner: selflessly. My heart is with jyou. Katherine

[@melanieschoenberger5566]

This is exactly what I was going to say. I gave my parents each "permission" to let go and go see Jesus. It's the hardest thing to do but the greatest gift anyone could give. Kelly, you all are loved and covered in prayers. Lean on God's steadfast love and know He's there for you always. ❤❤❤

[@amyshelton3250]

Praying for y’all ❤

[@trishhorton6514]

please tell him it's OK to go. all of u need to sat with him now not later. it will be hard. but he needs to hear it. prayers for u all. peace will come in time. we have walked this path. God bless u all. ❤❤❤❤❤❤😢

[@kellylong3746]

I am so sorry.❤🎉

[@shirleyjohnston1256]

I'm so very sorry. It's a hard thing to say goodbye. I had to tell my mama, it's ok, we will be ok.. take Jesus hand and ill meet you there. Wasn't but a few minutes my dear sweet mama stepped into glory land. She hadn't walked in a long time but no doubt she ran in Jesus's arms! It's ok to cry sweetheart! We all are crying with you! We love yall and continue to pray. God bless you and your family ❤

[@paperinkspirations]

When my dad was placed on hospice care, one of the doctors came in to see him for the last time and when she left she told him "I wish you a gentle journey." That is what i wish for Ray...a gentle journey. ❤

[@ladyjane5401]

❤🙏

[@KellyBarlowCreations]

That brought me to tears! I love that! I wish you a gentle journey! That touched me deeply🫂

[@joanncole9603]

My husband passed away a little over 2 months ago and I am forever grateful for his gentle journey.

[@Taliesin1997]

@@joanncole9603 My sympathy to you Joann. God bless.

[@nancys.100]

🙏 lost my husband three yrs ago after a battle with an aggressive cancer. Take care of yourself it can be exhausting. ❤

[@lindaross4828]

As a former hospice nurse, Ray is going through his own grief. Let him know that it’s not a sign of weakness but of strength to know the end is near and to allow his last days to be comfortable. Let him know you and the girls will be ok. He may need to hear that. And hearing if the last thing to go. Talk to him, even when he’s unresponsive. He’ll hear it. Don’t forget to take care of yourself. This is so unfair. Your family has my prayers.

[@dianasimplifies]

❤❤❤

[@christinebrennan4484]

@lindaross4828...you could not be more correct! ❤❤❤

[@margaretgreason1785]

❤❤❤ Your family is in my prayers!

[@ladyjane5401]

❤

[@ladyvigo8806]

❤

[@lisas7890]

Ray, you are always going to be your mommas hero. Kelly, we are here crying with you. We are all praying. Much love to you all.

[@jeangrandy8672]

Maybe he is waiting to see his Dad!! May he go in peace!! God bless you all!!!🙏

[@jacqulynsmith1237]

Kelly, Hold Rays hand and whisper those difficult words that it is ok to go. Those are the hardest words to say to someone we most cherish. Sometimes its those words that gives our loved ones peace in their hearts. Remind Ray of all the wonderful things he did in your family's life and that it is not goodbye but "honey, I will see you later". Many prayers being lifted up to you all.

[@GrandmaLM]

Absolutely a beautiful message. Made me cry.

[@belindalucero9622]

I asked my mother to go to Jesus because we would be taken of and the grandchildren would be cherished as she would have done. It was so hard to let her go as she was mother and father to us because he had died when I was 17. As the oldest child of the family, I stepped up to help Mom with sibs. I assured her that she needed to be with Jesus so she could see us with no pain. I was alone with her and I felt her heartbeat and wished God would grant me a heart like hers. It was so strong and loving. I said "It's okay to go. I love you and don't want you to be in pain anymore so go be with Baby Jesus and all the family.". This was the most difficult thing I ever said to her but it felt right and necessary because she was such a strong and protective mother to us all. She left soon after. I cherish that time with her and will never forget how important that was to do because letting her go was so important for her to hear and go in peace. Kelly, Ray will go with God when he hears you say you'll be always with him in your heart, but as his mom you want him not to hurt anymore. It will give you comfort, peace and strength to know you eased his passage to his next, beautiful life and Tobe your greeter when it's your turn. I ache so much for you and wish Ray a peaceful journey to be with his God. God bless you and yours. You are wonderful.

[@LovesJESUS]

Willow is adorable, I couldn’t think of a better gift for Ray. I pray daily for Ray. May the Lord hold him in the palm of his hand and give him peace.

[@groovin2mytune285]

Amen to that @LovesJESUS. Well said. Sending love and prayers to you Ray, Kelly and family.

[@kimfudge7738]

I'm praying for Ray, you, and the girls. May the Lords peace and comfort envelope you.

[@tondacottle8454]

Kelly, I won’t even pretend to know what you are going through, but as a mother I know this has to be the hardest thing ever to get through. As a parent, watching a child suffer is unbearable, but so is the thought of loosing a child. I pray for all of you every day. You are family to me. This is so heartbreaking. Ray is driven, goal oriented, and determined because he was raised by such an awesome, loving mother. You are my go to for an example of strength. I admire the fact that you are willing to share with us. I know it has to be hard to do so, yet you muster up the strength and courage to carry on and in turn you give us strength and courage to carry on when we face hard times. I don’t know what to say except I love all and pray for you all. ❤🙏

[@taraquo]

Amen. ❤ Ray and family, you all deserve peace. ❤️

[@cherylsalinas1548]

Willow is adorable. Maybe Ray is waiting for you to tell him it’s ok for him to go. My sister, after battling for 10 years told my father she couldn’t fight any more. He told her that it was fine for her to go. Hardest thing he has ever done but she went peacefully. She was 44 when she passed. My heart goes out to you and you all are in my prayers. ❤️❤️❤️

[@terryoconnell9773]

You are absolutely right. I had to do that twice. So hard to do but I came to the conclusion I had to do this for those I loved. Sending prayers.

[@teresaezell6048]

When my husband passed from esophageal cancer, he said he was sorry about leaving me and I told him that I will be okay. Two hours later, he passed away in my arms. I think he just needed to hear me say that. Prayers for you and Ray. Your family is very special.

[@saramcintosh2183]

We had to do that with our Mum too 💜

[@caregiver1418]

Yes, that happens with so many people. Once they are told that it's ok for them to leave, they let go and find rest. :( I pray that Ray seeks the Lord's face in all things and reaches for His hand.

[@karenelewis2039]

My goodness his vigil looked beautiful. Why do such beautiful young people get such a horrible disease nobody will ever know. Your pain much be unimaginable . May God be will you all.

[@rebeccasanford8607]

Holding you up in Prayer Kelly. I’m a retired RN and worked several years in Hospice. Giving Ray your permission to change his Residency to Jesus is very powerful. For all of you. Ray wants to hear yall will be ok. Allowing that release will give you all Peace with the time you have left together.

[@christinegibbs2429]

Willow is absolutely adorable ❤ I have no words Kelly 😢 My heart is breaking for you. God bless Ray as he transitions. May he go in peace. May you, Ray and the girls have the ability to find comfort. You are loved and prayed 🙏 for.

[@rebeccaschanlaub2863]

Im so glad Willow makes Ray smile

[@mariewinterhalter9058]

There are no words for your loss. Just know that you and your precious son and entire family has been in our prayers. Warm hugs for the broken hearts 🌹💔🌹💔🌹💔

[@Floppyearsmomma]

Kelly, I think you are the Angel. You have done everything you could possibly do for Ray and your daughters. I'm so glad the prayer vigil was there to give you just an inkling of how much you are loved. I pray for Ray, you, and the girls too. Holding you in prayer, Laura.

[@loiserwin5991]

As hard as this is to say, may Rays passing be peaceful. His journey has touched the lives of thousands. He will forever be remembered by those who new him and for those of us who got to know him thru your videos Kelly.❤ Never give up on a miracle💞 Kelly, as a Mom, you never want to see your child suffer. With all of my heart, you and the girls need to tell him you love him and it's ok to go. He is waiting to know you all will be ok when he is gone. You will be doing what is best for him and that is the greatest gift you can do for him. All my 🙏🙏🙏 go to you and the girls❤

[@Aurora-lk3ln]

Ray has touched many people's hearts. I know how hard it is for you and the girls. Ray may be hanging on for you. He may be waiting for you to t err ll him it is okay to go home with the Lord. My mom was waiting for me to tell her it was okay to go. After I told her she could go, that I didn't want to see her suffer anymore from the cancer. Within 3 hours she had passed. It was the hardest thing I had to do. Sending continued prayers for you and the girls. 🙏❤🙏

[@brendacooper2712]

❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤

[@sherylbahl8422]

Kelly as hard as these updates must be for you, I appreciate you taking the time to do them! You and yours have been in my thoughts and prayers for sometime and will continue to be there. I wish you strength and peace and healing in the days to come.

[@evekuropas803]

I am so sorry for all the pain Ray is going through. As a mother, I know how hard it is for you. We all have to pray for strength for all of you to get through this.May the Lord put his hands over Ray and guide him . Praying for all of you!

[@meuscitizen7043]

You are all in my thoughts n prayers!!!! I lost my son at 16 from a car accident, he wasn't driving. He was taken from us that early evening. I know how hard this is n I know the awful feeling that it's something you cannot fix. Be thankful you actually these extra days with him! I wish I could have had more with my son! There's a reason why Rays still here. He loves you all n maybe he is not ready to let go, or maybe he's scared to let go. Just keep loving him like the AMAZING MOM YOU ARE!!!! God bless you all! Hugs n Prayers are being sent to you by the tons everyday! We All Love Your Family, n Im sure most of use have tears in our eyes n heartaches for Ray! Wish we could help stop the pain you all are suffering! We Loe you Kelly Barlow n your entire family! We are all here for you all too any time day or night!!!

[@JSee-i3i]

You are so loved!

[@charlottegiannotti51]

Kelly, you are such a beautiful example of mother’s love. I can’t imagine your pain and the emotional journey you are walking through. Ray knows your love is, and will always be with him. God has you and your family in his hands. What a wonderful thoughtful gift Willow is. God will give Ray the strength to let go.. in His time. My prayers for peace are with you💕

[@lorihendricks8617]

My heart aches for the pain you're having to endure throughout Ray's cancer journey. No mother should have to go through it. You're stronger than you think you are. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. May God comfort you and Ray during this time. Sending love and hugs ❤

[@mariannevalencia9960]

Dogs are gifts from God. I got mine 8 years ago after my husband died. I named her Willow. She has been a constant source of companionship and comfort ever since. I truly believe your Willow was divinely sent to you and Ray for the same purpose. Thank you Kelly for your bravery and for helping countless others by sharing your story. God is with Ray, you, and your girls as are all of us who are inspired by you to be strong, positive and better people every day. My prayers are with you all. God bless.

[@louisefulton2267]

SO very sorry. Such sadness. Uncomprehendable.

[@joanmidgette6511]

If you haven’t already, Kelly, tell Ray what you just told us: it’s excruciating and heartbreaking for you to see him continue to suffer; you don’t want him to fight to hang on because of you; when he’s ready, it’s ok to give up the fight. I believe he will pass from this misery to a place of such love, beauty, and light that we, as mere mortals, can’t even begin to comprehend! ♥️🙏♥️

[@kaedee13]

🙏

[@Mary-qo2jq]

Amen

[@dixiewoodard7516]

Kelly, I haven't commented much lately because I know that words and advice , no matter how well intended or heartfelt can sometimes hurt more than they help when you are the one walking through this. Whenever I think of you, which is every day and every time that I look at/think about my own son who is Ray's age, my heart breaks and I pray for him as though he were my own. I have lost a child. His name is Trey. And I say IS because he is always with me! The pain is unfathomable and there are no words to make it feel better. It is the most painful, unfair thing you will ever face. There is comfort and peace when you are ready. But grief and anger came first for me anyway. I'm not proud of that now. I had to remember that now I am the living testament of my child. If anyone will ever know who he is here on earth, I will have to show them. God is with you. He is wanting to offer you comfort and peace and understanding but I was not ready to accept that for quite some time. He understands though. He lost His son too. Anyway, please know, my heart, prayer, tears, and very soul are lifting up Ray, you, and Ally, and Kayla! Now and always!!! ❤❤❤❤

[@lindaross4828]

@@dixiewoodard7516 I’m sorry for your loss but thank you for your beautiful message.

[@TeresaCarr-qx1pj]

As a hospice nurse I understand what you are all going through. My heart hurts for all of you. Ray is truly a strong man and you have helped to make him the fighter and man he is today. The hardest thing you will have to do is give Ray permission to go. I cannot imagine how that feels as a mother. I had to do this with my mother. Know you guys are not alone, you are all being lifted up in prayer and love through all of this. Thank you so much for sharing your heart with all of us. ❤

[@patatherton7657]

Praying for a peace for Ray that only God can give him. I am praying that same peace for you and your girls . God will walk beside you and give the strength you need🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@ShelleyMaas]

❤️🙏❤️

[@TrimansWife]

@@patatherton7657was going to say the same thing.

[@dw6150]

I don't hear you mention Ray's Dad. I hope for Ray and his father that they are connect right now and able to share this life together. In order for them both to finish their life's journey. I pray for you, Ray, the girls and Dad. God be with you.

[@tammyhaggerty9227]

I am praying for you and your family. I’m so sorry for what you are going through, may god bless you

[@sandracraig3070]

I'm praying God will take Ray peacefully and quietly into his loving new home. His short time with us has enriched the lives of so many, his work here is almost done. May he slip gently into his new life. Continued love and prayers Kelly for you all. ❤🙏 from 🇮🇪

[@hyacinth2264]

God bless you, Ray, and your entire family. I’m praying for you all.

[@GingyRN]

My heart goes out to you. My daughter passed just before Christmas. All I wanted to do was take her pain away. I prayed for her to get well and she fought. About a week before she passed she told me she was done and just wanted to go home. I then prayed that God would help her pass peacefully. She left behind a wonderful husband, my adorable grandson and so many family and friends. I have shed many tears and prayed many hours for you and your family. Godspeed

[@mysonusaf50]

Sending prayers to you also

[@annieg3106]

So sorry for your loss. May you find peace and comfort in your memories.

[@MissTupsy]

I'm so so sorry. My mom passed away New Years day after being sick with cancer for a year. It's almost inhumane to watch them suffer but I feel a sense of relief that she's no longer in pain. Prayers for you and your family for God's peace and comfort.❤❤❤❤

[@robinmentzer7974]

So sorry for your loss, Prayers for your family.

[@mother8696]

God Bless you my dear and comfort you and give you peace

[@1956alyson]

I can’t begin to imagine what you and your family are going through! Even listening to your update brings tears to my eyes! Prayers! 🙏

[@carlabergeron2171]

My heart is so heavy for you Kelly.... Please tell Ray it's okay for him to go....that he will always be with you no matter what... You and Ray and the girls deserve peace and love.... I Respect you so much as a Mother.... You are truly the definition of the word MOTHER... MUCH Love and Respect... Carla

[@zeliasantos8826]

Of course u love your baby boy!💙🙏and he loves you and worries about you! Kelly as a mom am crying cause this hurts ! Been watching you! For so long u like family Am sorry Ray is going though this! 💔🙏sending you prayers🙏💔

[@denisetarabori553]

As a former Hospice Nurse I share the feelings and agree with the comments of so many others here. We know you feel our empathy and our sympathy of the struggles you are all going through and that you feel our love and support. And I hope you know that we will continue praying and holding you all up through this journey and beyond with so much love and compassion. ❤❤❤❤

[@claudiarusso6702]

Ray is so brave, bless him. Sending you my prayers, a big hug and to Ray, may our dear God keep him in his graces during this very brave yet painful battle.❤️🙏

[@119pwarren]

Prayers for your and your family! I think Ray wants to make sure you will be ok . There's nothing like losing a kid. That's the strongest love I think there is ,its loving a child. I know you want him out of pain and can't stand to see him like that. Prayers !

[@kimhannah166]

Thank you for the update. Outside of KZbin I don’t “know” you but your willingness to share this hard time with others shows what a loving heart you have. It’s a reminder to be thankful for the time we have with the ppl we love. That is more precious than anything money could buy. I’m so sorry he’s in pain. Whatever out there bring peace and healing to you and your family

[@AudreyLMcFarland]

Yes, Ray is hanging on for you, because of the love you have given him, he is returning. No matter what the rest of this journey is, you have shared so much with us, and shown such courage, honesty, strength, and great care. You and your family are amazing, and no matter what, THAT is your family! Amazing. .. Willow is a beautiful addition, and is a very lucky dog. She will give your family so much joy!

[@vickiemorgan8654]

Love the beautiful furbabies How precious ❤

[@Mom2ChinaGirls]

My step-son, that I helped raise, was just diagnosed with rectal cancer and today we found out it is Stage 3. He is only 48 years old. We are at the beginning of his cancer journey. Your openness about Ray’s journey gives me strength to be there for my precious son.

[@KellyBarlowCreations]

🫂🫂🫂

[@denisepope8599]

Praying for you and your family.

[@sharonmaykovich1165]

Love and prayers.

[@akeshachapa]

Praying from Califotnia❤

[@lindafromcalifornia1155]

Praying 🙏 you and your family

[@SandraYoung-g2o]

You and family have been in my thoughts and prayers.

[@kimshockley6377]

Crying along with you Kelly as my son is on hospice with brain cancer. My heart goes out to you. I agree with your statement about feeling this isn’t my life. It’s something we never would want anyone to have to experience. Continued prayers for your family.

[@gwenwilliams7881]

I pray that God Bless you and your son at this difficult time 🙏🙏💓

[@RudiiAnn]

❤

[@talithaschweitzer]

Praying for you and your son ❤

[@kimnicks8590]

Kelly, I'm so sorry, cancer is evil! I lost my husband to it a couple years ago, but I can't imagine losing a child. I'm so sorry Ray is suffering, I will be praying for a peaceful passing for him, as heaven is waiting for him.

[@softballmom332]

As a Nurse and a mother I’m so sorry. He is waiting to hear from you that it’s ok to go, he sees that you and the girls are in so much pain that he is trying to fight to stay alive for you all. Let him know it’s ok. 💕🙏🏻❤️😘

[@msramona60]

Kelly I have been a nurse for 35 years. I concur with some of the previous comments. You should consider telling him it is okay to cross the vail. Tell him you will be okay, because you will. Your a fighter too. He may not be ready to let go but he may need to be reassured that it’s okay.

[@tamibooboobritt]

Kelly thank you so much for the update on Ray. Willow is precious 💕 Praying for you and the girls. Praying that Ray's transition is peaceful. God bless you all.

[@carolynoffice1673]

Ray you are strong hold on God is with you prayer can change things.❤

[@carolynoffice1673]

I’m sorry you are making me cry to

[@carolynoffice1673]

Always in my prayers always we love you Beautiful

[@suzannetaylor9110]

Praying for Ray and you guys. ❤

[@julielavers3394]

Oh Kelly, as a mama I hurt for you, my heart is breaking for you. Please know that even though we’ve never met I adore you and your family and am holding you close to my heart and in my prayers - ever single day. Yesterday I spend a few hours working on my bullet journal and I binged your videos. I wondered how you and Ray, and the girls are doing, then today the update. Thank you for updating us, I can only imagine how agonizing it must have been for you to make this video. Kelly, you are loved by so many, let Ray know that we are here and we will be there for you. We will cry you until you feel strong enough to walk, then we will hold your hand until you feel steady on your feet again. We won’t let you fall. We won’t. Much love to all of you. Hugs! ❤❤❤

[@marshastiles1]

@julielavers3394 beautifully said and so very true.

[@PaulaAnn423]

Beautifully stated. And so very true!

[@coleensonnenfeld5519]

My prayers as a mom too please god give this mom the courage to say what she has to for her son and please bless her home with peaceful feelings and hugs from all over

[@sherryverdini5127]

No words. 😢 i am praying for your family. ✝️✝️✝️✝️

[@linnaellis212]

Agreed, well said.

[@suzilindsay5931]

I’m a retired RN who spent much of her life in pain. I fractured my hip twice as a child and no one believed me. I was punished because I couldn’t walk. There was a single nurse who intervened for me, and I remember looking at her through my 11 year-old-eyes and thinking, “I’m gonna be just like you.” And that’s what I did, for 50 years. Ray is so lucky to have a loving mother like you. Even if you can’t relieve the pain, you can be there for him. May your higher power hold you and your children in his arms like a bunch of flowers, surround you with love, and sing thee gently to sleep. Love and peace, Suzi Lindsay

[@jcgom7487]

As a mother who has lost 2 daughters 1 to a brain tumor at 24 my heart breaks for you! I know the feeling of watching your child suffer and in pain. I finally had to tell her it was ok to let go that I would be ok. That was the hardest time of my life, and the only way I was able to get through it was to lean into my relationship with God! My other daughter I lost when she was 39 with 4 kids, it was a car accident again my heart broke! I’m raising her children now. It’s so hard to be strong for everyone around you so they won’t worry about you so I pray God peace that surpasses all understanding be with you and your family. And that you will comforted by his love and grace. From one mother who knows all the pain you feel. And I’m so sorry. You are in my prayers 🙏

[@Hope8x28]

I am so sorry for your losses!

[@leahfoy7844]

I am so sorry

[@katyhess4844]

Kelly, I send you and your family hugs, much love and prayers. Cancer is never easy. Ray is continuing to fight because that is who he is. I wish you all strength. Please remember to take the time you need. I hope his father is available to be there for him also. And for you and the girls. May God watch over you all and keep you in the palm of his hand. Sending more hugs and prayers and love. ❤ 20:09 20:09 20:09

[@mccoynewf]

Bless you 🙏 I’m so very sorry for losses.

[@truthsetsufree]

I'm so sorry, that has to be so incredibly hard to live through. God Bless you!

[@kimfrye609]

Prayers for peace and comfort for you all Kelly💙❤

[@Gingersplanscraftsbeauty]

I can never know the depths of your pain unless I am faced with losing one of my children. But I can understand it and right now I am feeling your pain. It is everything in me not to scream out WHY?! right now. How strong and selfless of you to share your story. And remember it's ok not to be strong right now, it's ok to not be ok right now. And you stay there and take all the time you need. Prayers for you, Ray, and your family.

[@lananicolas160]

Sorry Kelly for what your family is doing through. We lost our son just over a year ago to brain cancer. There is nothing worse than watching your child suffering. I know Ray loves you, l remember how well you took care of him when he had covid. The day our son got his diagnosis the first thing he said was what is this going to do to my mom and dad. At the end hospice called us in and said he probably won't make it through the day He fought for 5 more days until we called the hospice chaplain to come and pray for him one more time. I held on to him and told him it was time, he finally took his last breath. I pray for you for I know what you are going through and what you will be going through after

[@joyceboston2933]

Kelly, Ray and you and the girls are consistently on my mind and in my heart. I wake up in the wee hours of the morning and throughout the night with all of you on my mind. I always take the opportunity to pray for all of you. This is a reminder to me how important Ray is to the Lord. He has people praying and standing vigil on Ray's behalf. You're running on auto pilot right now. I know because I've been there. I'm happy you brought us this update, it guides me in my prayers. Always, always thinking about all of you. I wish there were words that could ease the pain for all of you but I know there are none, just, support and prayers. Love and hugs for every one of you my friend. God will carry you, Ray and the girls.

[@sallythierer8406]

Unfortunately I can relate so to you Kelly. I lost a daughter to cancer 16 years ago. Nothing compares. I think of your family so often as I go about my days.

[@kimberlyshurley6756]

I started watching your videos a long while ago. We all watched as you kept encouraging others while going through your own losses and difficult times. We got to know you and your channel became more, than what brought us to watch in the beginning. Like others that have commented here, you, Ray and the girls are in our thoughts and prayers. You have built a community. Much love from many who care deeply about you. Although we have never met you in person, you have shared so much with us. God bless you and comfort you as you and your family navigate through this most difficult of times.

[@marylovestexas]

Kelly your bravery gave me the courage to write this note to you. After watching your last update I began praying for Ray and you and your girls. I served 20 years as an Army medic during the Vietnam war, as an LPN, and then as a medical evacuation pilot - pain and suffering as always been a part of my life. I lost my sister to cervical cancer just before her 40th birthday so I know how it feels to lose a loved one. But as a mother I can't even begin to understand the pain you're going through! Continue to be the brave and loving mother you are and know that Ray will ALWAYS be with you!!! Keep taking videos and pictures so that years later you can continue to experience the emotions and love you are sharing as a family. May God be with you forever and ever Amen - Mary in Texas

[@arlenestacko3647]

Thank you for serving our country. Pain and suffering as always been apart of my life to

[@brightmoon008]

As hard as I know this update must have been, I truly appreciate it. I have your family in my thoughts daily. Willow is absolutely adorable. What a precious gift for you to give to Ray. I wish for peace for your whole family.

[@lk6045]

You inspire me❤ I don't know you, but I ❤you! God bless you and your family. You're an inspiration .. prayers for Ray.

[@janascallan87]

I don't normally comment on KZbin but I've been following your journey with Ray, from the beginning. Nobody can tell you how to grieve or when to tell Ray that's it's ok to let go. Only in your time, when you're ready! I can't imagine what you're going through and I'm praying for Ray, you and the girls! Lots of love and hugs headed your way!

[@trishsocialthinking2274]

My thoughts and positive energy are headed your way!!!!❤❤❤❤

[@vickigoodman1614]

This is a very kind, gentle and uplifting message. I just want you to know I actually felt uplifted just reading your message. Thank you. ❤

[@debbiecarroll5672]

Hi Kelly..I've been praying for all of you

[@zeliasantos8826]

Kelly stay strong !💪🤗you a since a beautiful person!and u get alot of love!!🤗💗🙏

[@shannon_w.]

Willow is as perfect as can be! Oh my gosh when you picked Winnie's head up to kiss her it was so funny how she just plopped her.head back on the pillow. Kelly, you are such an AMAZING, STRONG Mom and Ray is so blessed to have you as you are him, whether it is in this life or another he will ALWAYS be with you, protecting you and the girls ❤

[@pamelaspurrell8067]

Thank God Ray made it through the holidays! He is so strong, as are you! I can't imagine what you are going through, my heart is breaking for you! I have been praying for Ray ever since you let us know last year! I will continue to do so. God bless you all!!!!!!❤

[@dtropepe]

Willow is a beautiful fur baby ❤ Kelly you’re so brave to give these updates. Sending love and light for your family 🙏

[@laticiad.6762]

You and your family are constantly in my thoughts and prayers during this most difficult time in your life 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽.

[@JBIRDRN8]

Willow is adorable. Animals are such a comfort. I’m so sorry to hear that Ray is having to fight so hard. I’m praying for him and your whole family. May God give you all the comfort that you so desperately need right now. Lean on God and never stop praying. ❤️❤️

[@cindikiser8282]

As everyone here prayers for continued strength. Thank you for sharing Ray's journey and your never ending love. Bless you your girls and Ray and all his friends ♥️ 🙏🏻 💔

[@consuelacovington8169]

From one mom to another mom is the biggest hug I could possibly give you. You and your family are truly amazing. I think Ray is an amazing, strong young man.

[@annierobles37]

My prayers lifted for you , Ray and your family

[@debraday5682]

Willow is beautiful! We pray for Ray, you, and the girls EVERY day!

[@velmahoilman7744]

The hardest thing a Mom has too do is love her child enough to let them go. Telling Jennifer to pick up her wings and 🕊️ fly, was the hardest, but a moment I will always remember. You will always cherish these moments. Our hearts and prayers are with you all.

[@GrandmaLM]

So sorry. A beautiful message

[@cindydermid7572]

Letting them go is hard but watching them suffer is unbearable.

[@taraquo]

❤

[@cherylbrowning3303]

Prayers for your family and Ray for Gods will in Jesus name Amen

[@robindekorne4009]

Pick up your wings and fly...what a beautiful vision, sorry for your loss

[@Airmaiden63]

Girl I am breaking with you. My 29 year old son was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer with metastatic disease to brain, bones and liver. Everyday is a battle. It’s the most gut wrenching thing I have ever dealt with. Prayers my friend as a fellow momma with a child with cancer 😢❤️😢😢

[@chrissiecarr5721]

Stay Strong you are not alone, everyone who is reading this is sending your son, you and your family Prayers💞🇦🇺

[@lydiamcpherson7925]

Airmaiden63: So very sorry for what you are going through. Godspeed.

[@talithaschweitzer]

I am so sorry to hear that. Praying for you and your son ❤

[@carolsutton9097]

Praying for you All. Ray will know and, in return, let you know. Hardest part is watching and cant do anything. Memories and rejoicing the gift of having him in your life as long as you have and can, is gods gift to you. Rejoice his life and all the gifts he is.

[@janicescherwitz7885]

Congratulations on your new family member. Kelly, tell him it's ok to leave. Tell him you and the girls will be ok. I worked for hospice and my Mom passed in hospice. They told us to tell her it was ok to go. Sometimes they need to hear the words as hard as they are to say. Tell him the best gift you could have right now is knowing he is out of pain and at peace. Einstein said energy never dies. Ray's energy will always be with you. So give him permission to move on. We love you. We are with you. It's going to be ok

[@KellyBarlowCreations]

Your comment hit me in a way you will never know for reason I can’t voice! But thank you for who you are🤎🤎🤎🤎

[@betsymcgovern5672]

Willow is so cute, I love her color. All the dogs are wonderful .great gift for Ray.

[@MichelleVeronick]

The hardest thing to do is to tell someone you love that it is okay for them to let go. God bless you, Kelly. And God bless Ray.

[@BarbGardner-e4m]

Prayers for you & Ray & the family! Thank you for your transparency. 🙏🙏💕💕

[@marshastiles1]

I wish i could offer more, but sadly i have to pay for my dad's funeral Friday. I read through the comments here and it brings my heart comfort in knowing how God himself is working here umongst your viewers. That my friend is moving and offers hope and healing. It represents the magnitude of the impact Ray's life has had on so many.

[@KellyBarlowCreations]

Thank you so much for your kindness and support. It really does mean so much to me, more than I can put into words🫂

[@talithaschweitzer]

I'm so sorry for your loss ❤

[@marshastiles1]

Thank you so much ❤

[@melodyvoss4074]

Willow is an angel to your family. As a disabled retired RN who worked in long term I have told individuals it is okay to go and be at peace, your family will always keep you in their hearts. My heart is breaking for you. Please know there are so many of us keeping you all in our prayers. I’m on a limited income and wish I could help you out financially. What I am doing is going back and watching your videos (while cleaning I just let them run), if I didn’t like it before I am doing it now and leaving “prayers” as a comment, o and watching the ads. My understanding is this will help your income from FB. Every little bit will help & I hope others here will do the same. Prayers and love for you all

[@mmarguritte]

My heart goes out to you during this incredibly difficult time. I can only imagine how hard it must be for you to see your son go through this. Please know that I'm sending you all my strength and love.

[@lorriescott7965]

🙏💜🙏💜🙏💜🙏😢

[@kristinawoolums3749]

Thoughts and prayers out for you and your family, Kelly. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@ecbrent2]

We can all relate as humans, but those of us who are mothers know exactly how much you love your child and We're all crying and hurting with and for you Kelly. Youre in an impossible position and i can't give you advice, but i want you to know you're never alone. Ive thoroughly enjoyed watching you DIY, but maybe there was always a bigger reason for your channel. Maybe God gave you us for this agonizing time in your life. Take advantage of that gift. We are always here. Much love to you, Ray and the girls. ❤

[@angelabowman1085]

Kelly, I applaud your bravery and strength to be able to provide us updates on Ray. I understand this must be the single hardest thing you have ever experienced. We are all behind you 100% and love you and your family. May God's strength and comfort be with you always.

[@danawilliams777]

Infinite amounts of prayers for Ray, you, and your girls are being sent up, not only for his comfort but for peace for all of you. I have to add though, that I'm including prayers for his father. No matter the circumstances of your divorce, he too must be hurting and grieving over his son in his own manner. My hope is that as this tragedy continues to unfold you can lean on and be supported by each family member. Please give Ray and extra hug and kiss from his prayer warriors in Florida. God bless each of you.

[@crystalbailey6553]

Love and prayers for your family. ❤

[@phyllishogg2443]

Prayers for you and your family.

[@cristinajosephson9199]

Ray is in my prayers. I pray that the Lord will give you strength for him and your daughters. I watched my mother be so strong when my kid brother was dying. She and I sat on his bed and she told him it’s ok, we were going to be fine. We wanted him to be in peace. I lost my mom recently, she was the strongest women and I know you are as well. Stay strong, God bless you and Ray.

[@stormysworld1242]

You are all in my loving thoughts and prayers! ❤

[@lindaleathers4696]

I lost my brother to this same cancer! He was more like a son to me than a brother! My love was so deep, but knowing he was going to a better place, with no pain ,no more suffering, I was able to let go of him! Oh the grief and pain was there , but with Gods help we were comforted by HIS strong arms. Praying for you all!

[@nellmagnera4868]

My dear Kelly, I know the hardest thing as a mother is to watch her child go through this detestable disease but even harder is letting them go. My daughter’s journey was 16 months. Like Ray, her cancer was so aggressive it took over her entire body. I know she was fighting because she worried about her daughter and myself. In the end, the whole family gathered at her bedside and told her how much we loved her and it was ok for her to go, that we would be okay and within a short time she left us. You and the girls will find the strength to tell him it’s okay. You are all in my daily prayers and thoughts. Much love and huge Gus to all of you.

[@leahfoy7844]

I am so sorry for your loss.

[@kimberlyelkins8150]

You will find the strength! I dont understand how it happens, but it does.

[@terridantzic4361]

😭 You were there when Ray came into this world with all the joy that a little one gives. You are are here with him as he is going out of this world. Your hands will be touching him as one of the last things he will feel on this side of eternity. Kelly you have been so strong and there for Ray. It is breaking all of our hearts for all of you. 💔 you all remain in my thoughts and prayers.

[@nellmagnera4868]

@@terridantzic4361 You are absolutely correct. As a mother, bringing a child into the world is a precious moment but being at their side as they leave us is also very precious and I have to believe that they take that moment with them into eternity. I look forward to the day I’ll be reunited with my precious daughter. Love and hugs.

[@ASoule-ks6yq]

Hello Kelly! You've been in my prayers and thoughts. Happy New Year 2024❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@hilaryhand-howitt2131]

Thinking of you and Ray and your daughters. Sending you love. ❤️

[@melaniehess8224]

Sending prayers and love. My husband passed away from cancer 4 years ago now and I'm still on the grieving cycle. Every day is a new day with unexpected experiences. I just take it one day at a time and stay strong for my kids but I don't hide my grief from them either. It's definitely a new normal once they're gone. 😢❤ Tell him you wish him peace and that he can go and no longer suffer. I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's unexplainable. 💔

[@sherryvaughn7632]

Oh Kelly... my heart just breaks for all of you. I felt you and I cried with you. I can not imagine what you 're momma heart is going through! Being in Healthcare though I have seen it myself sometimes that they need to be told it's okay and you will be alright. That you will take care of ?? What ever may be in his mind. Easier for us to say on this side of your circumstance. Just something to think about Kelly. I Love you!! I Love your heart!! My continued thoughts and prayers are with you, Ray, and your daughters. May God pour out his Mercy and Peace. May Ray gain comfort in the days ahead! And your family find Peace that passes all understanding. 🙏❣️

[@velmamendoza1120]

I completely agree with what you are saying. So many times our loved linger on for us. We have to tell them how much we love them, it's ok for them to leave us and rest in peace.. My hope is for Ray to be at peace. Sending you all love and prayers.

[@pamkammann1176]

Hugs for you , I lost my husband of 43 yrs to cancer in May of 2020 , we only found out April 16 when he had a stroke and May 27 he passed away 😢. It’s been very overwhelming , it’s a long process.

[@jayneweathers]

Pam I can relate. My husband of 46 years was diagnosed at the end of May 2023 and passed Aug 15th. Grieving is hard work. I go to a grief group through hospice, and it's the best thing I did for myself. It's so wonderful to talk to people who understand you. I felt like I had been talking some unknown foreign language and was on a different planet. Then when I started going to this group I found out they spoke my language and now I am not alone. I hope you have found some help too. From one widow to another, may you continue to find your way through this fog of grief.❤​@@pamkammann1176

[@PellyjellyMom]

Kelly, if it gives Ray any comfort to know that thousands of us out here are praying for him, we want that for him. We prayed for a cure and now we will pray for release from his pain. And then we will pray for sweet memories for you and the girls as you continue on. He will never know the help his sharing has given through your videos with families going through the same situation that know they are not alone. You do not have to meet someone face to face to love them. Remind him for all of us that he has given his all and God is waiting to offer him rest. He has surely deserved it. 🙏🙏

[@erikas974]

That so beautifly written. Thank you for you lovely words. 🫂

[@ribbonsrosesandlace8401]

Could not have said this better. I join you and everyone in this prayer

[@meridithkish2076]

Oh gosh as a mom this breaks my heart for you. I've watched your channel for a very long time. My heart goes out to you. Thank you for the update. You are definitely in my thoughts. Ray is in my thoughts and as a mom I'm with you for his pain and suffering to to stop. It's so sad when I hear about people who lose a child. I can't imagine that heartache. I can't imagine having to tell your child it's ok for them to go. I truly hope you have all the support around you all that will allow you to go through what you will go through. I will be here when you need to talk, cry, be angry or whatever you need or feel. Sending you love from ohio. ❤

[@leliabell3730]

Kelly, much strength to you and your girls. 😢❤

[@ShannonT116]

Sending many prayers and much love to all of you. 💜🙏🏾 Willow is adorable!! Great gift for Ray! 🐾

[@brendaflinders7601]

Kelly, you and your children are in my thoughts and prayers. Ray is an amazing son and loves you and his sisters more than anything. I pray that he will come to know that you and the girls will be ok. I pray that he will feel peace and comfort and know that you will honor him by living your lives doing the things that he knows will make you happy. I can’t even imagine the pain you’re all going through. You are such an amazing mom and have fought this fight hard with him since it began. I pray that you and your sweet daughters will know you are loved by so so many. May God Bless you all at this time with His love, peace and comfort. ♥️🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼♥️

[@conniejohnson5095]

I really have no words, but you and your family are in my prayers. I know God is watching you and your family, from one mom to another, big hugs.

[@Gracie92323]

Willow is absolutely adorable!!! Praying for Ray and the family..puppies are so incredibly therapeutic.

[@a.lauber-942]

Soooo sorry Kelly we were all wishing for brighter news in this sad journey. We send our love and prayers 😢😢😢❤❤

[@diannebernau3293]

Dear Kelly, thank you for sharing your update with us during this difficult time. It is so hard watching someone you love suffer so much. Cancer is such a cruel disease. I lost my parents to it, Mum within 6 weeks and Dad from Leukaemia. Perhaps Ray is holding on to get as far away from the Holiday season as possible for you. The vigil was a beautiful sight and I was glad that Ray could see and hear it. My thoughts are with you and your family as Ray says goodbye to you all. Love and peace from Down Under 😘💕🥲🕊️🙏🇦🇺.

[@cdnky22]

Prayers Kelly. I know what you are feeling. My 17-year-old son was diagnosed with cancer (for the second time) in Oct 2022. He lost his battle in Feb 2023. I pray for peace, comfort, and strength for you and your kids.

[@GrandmaLM]

I’m so sorry

[@staceymurphy6910]

I am so sorry. I can’t imagine your heartache.

[@talithaschweitzer]

I'm so sorry ❤

[@livingauthenticallyonmyownterm]

Ray is such a strong soul to want to live! I’m praying for you all. Willow is such a cutie pie, and I’m so glad you were navigated towards her. For her to make Ray smile is such a blessing. Kelly, even though your heart is breaking watching Ray fight, I so appreciate you giving us updates on how he’s doing. As a mom, I get you that you don’t want your baby to suffer. I wouldn’t want to watch my kids to go through that either. I send you big hugs, lots of love, peace and strength! 🕯✨❤🙏🏼✨🕊

[@evelynbranch8350]

I’m definitely keeping you and your family in my prayers stay strong ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@DianneScott-wx9hh]

Willow is adorable ❣️

[@KathyH231]

🙏🙏🙏