UPSETTING AITA REDDIT STORIES EPISODE 30

[@HobieInTheBox]

A car accident can give you severe head trauma. Your brain is the body's drive, damage it, and your life can change forever. Even change who you are. Head trauma is no joke.

[@LifewithIsabellaLanter]

That makes soooo much more sense now. I was literally so lost on that for a minute because I didn’t get the correlation! Damn that’s so sad

[@HobieInTheBox]

@LifewithIsabellaLanter Yeah that's understandable! It's so heart breaking, many people have 'lost' loved ones bc of this. 😢

[@calinac1671]

@@LifewithIsabellaLanter yeah sometimes a tbi can hit a certain part of your brain turning something on or off making you a whole different person. its really interesting on paper but intense and scary in person. its so tough being in those positions you just dont know what will happen

[@LifewithIsabellaLanter]

@ definitely gonna look into this. Omg that’s terrifying

[@BrigitteDiessl]

That's automatically what I thought of.

[@Xenocrossing]

As someone with adhd and time blindness I am ALWAYS on top of when I’m leaving and what’s going on. I set alarms, reminders, write it on the calendar. If you care enough about someone you will put in the effort.

[@cindyy4866]

I cannot stand people who run late. I'm always early because it's a habit and feel anxious if I run even a minute behind. I've stopped dating people who ran late a lot. It's just not something I can deal with. I do not blame the mil poster for not planning the wedding.

[@boogiebear3095]

As someone who is slow at getting ready I have to give myself half an hour early head start. Or else, I’m late 💀but I get ya. When it’s habitual it can be so 😖 annoying

[@TheIndigo1child]

I mean, that's fair. Being late is rude for sure, but you know what I find equally rude? This is probably a hot take...I find it just as rude when someone is overly early. For example, if I said 4 pm, don't show up at 330 or 340pm because I'm not ready. I would much prefer someone be a little late than too early. I hate it. I end up having to rush around trying to get ready because someone showed up too early. I would much rather be waiting than rushing. No one likes being rushed.

[@Ashleightheaddict]

As an ex dancer. We would love that. It gets so annoying having to deal with perverts all night. When someone wants to hang out, that's a good night

[@LiliLedesma-rw2kg]

I think the running late is a cultural thing. I'm bi-racal, half white, and have Mexican. At Mexican family parties, coming late is being on time. If you come on time like the time, the invite is the host will still be setting stuff up and often won't let you help out so you kinda stand there and feel like your in the way. For a Mexican party with my family, at least 30 minutes or later than the start time is on time. However, white parties, being on time but preferably slightly early, is the move. Late at white parties is rude. So if I were the fiance, I'd get the hint. This mom operates under the perspective that late is rude, so daughter in law should adjust to that, especially if mom is doing them the favor of planning the wedding for free. Daughter in law can be late to culturally except able things to be late to for her, but if Mom in law stresses she doesn't tolerate late, be respectful of that rule when interacting with her.

[@carlastone3937]

Same, I'm Black and if I show up on time then that means you're there to help set up or will get put to work LOL. Like I've learned how to code switch you have to have mental switch. Am I meeting up with someone in my culture okay cool, I can be 15-30 minutes late. If I'm not then I need to plan to leave early so I actually get there on time.

[@LiliLedesma-rw2kg]

@carlastone3937 Exactly! Code switching is a talent. Some of us were just raised to get it.

[@tarajh]

The worst thing about my ADHD is that I have NO concept of time. Like, none. I put everything on my calendar w/ reminders, leave myself notes, set alarms on my phone for everything: "One hour warning! 30min warning! 15min... out the door in 5min, etc.." I even set my microwave & car clock ahead a few minutes and enter all the appointments on my calendar for an earlier time than they actually are. Despite all this, I'll still occasionally be late - or overcorrect & be really early. I'm constantly shocked at how much time has passed, whether hitting snooze for 5min or realizing that thing I thought was 3 days ago was actually 2 months ago! It's frustrating and stressful. My point is: people can be trying their best and still be late. I never get irritated with anyone else if they are late because I appreciate the grace they give me. I also understand & fully accept the consequences of my tardiness because that's just how real life works.

[@LydiaTaylorMusic]

Strummin' my pain with your comment Singin' my life with your words Killing me softly with your song 😭😭😭 cause this is me irl

[@alexthekelly]

This is me too. I'm still learning and growing good habits around my adhd and time blindness. It *also* affects my work so some degree, never somethign I'm doing out of a lack of care and I have to remind myself that I'm not lazy constantly. When im ten minutes late to a casual thing and still get negative comments it fucking hurts

[@kelsiegrobben5211]

Story #4: People CAN change after a traumatic event like a car accident, especially if they injure their head during the event. There have been solid evidence that head trauma can lead to a change in personality.

[@LifewithIsabellaLanter]

Totally learning from these comments. I was super lost on that. Makes total sense! Thank you for sharing this

[@kelsiegrobben5211]

@LifewithIsabellaLanter no problem! I understood your confusion, lol.

[@AndyyWithAY]

I'm so furious at the mom in the account story. She's not a girl's girl. She literally lived this and so did OP. Instead of being so proud, she wants more money. They already give to her. Most important part is THE WIFE decided to move to Alaska. He left everything including a business for her. She now wants to move AGAIN. Daughter has a spouse and her mom, there's zero reason she needs OP too. If she's that useless, she should've waited to reproduce until her brain developed. OP also has his dad.

[@jazzsteed6071]

While cleaning my wardrobe for the FIRST time in 3 years I would like to weight in here. My husband does everything and I appreciate it and him for this. His love language is doing things for me. I was in deep depression for years and when I couldn't even get out of bed, he ensured stuff was done. I am a princess and treated like one too

[@estherroos4908]

Ok the first one is awful especially because it’s the holidays???

[@AleiaBreaks]

Op said it's family gatherings, so it's not the holidays. If Op wants to host events like that so her children can attend she can totally do that. I believe she's leaving out some details, like her kids are not well behaved, especially for the reaction of her whole family.

[@AleiaBreaks]

For the second story, if she starts telling her the wrong time on purpose, the DIL will figure it out and just be late by even more time.

[@LifewithIsabellaLanter]

Exactly!!!!!!

[@charli9083]

Always the most interesting stories!! Would you consider finding more stories with updates? Sometimes feels anticlimactic without updates or edits. Much love Isabella ❤

[@ashleyduckworthyt3224]

17:30 L48= Lower 48 us states

[@sarahthrasher9287]

Perfect timing, I just made lunch 😍

[@mariahwong5704]

Not me getting called out immediately for not subscribing 😂 (for the record, I thought I had already lol)

[@boogiebear3095]

I feel so bad for OP in story 3. People would love to have a spouse like that.

[@TLNITSTR8]

Traumatic brain injuries (TBI) can drastically affect decision making abilities. Moodiness and poor decisions are very common among combat veterans with TBI.

[@brendaradziwon-zapora4450]

Yessss... I was actually notified!!!! Excited for all your videos on both channels beautiful!!❤

[@boogiebear3095]

Story 4: wtf. It’s none of the family’s business!

[@zoezinkowski111]

these keep me going at work thankyou so much girl 😭❤️

[@BrigitteDiessl]

I googled the L48 because I live in New Zealand and I hate not knowing things. It means the lower 48 (states in the US.)

[@Nintendofan4000]

For the last story, as someone who has reach roughly 70% of my fitness goals through embracing safe, realistic calorie deficits and learned all of the pit falls that can derail most fitness journeys, I can indeed say what she was eating was insane volume. Especially if she isn't using any of that consumed energy in intense workouts... That burrito alone is two meals worth of calories for most. I'm with you, Isabella, on them having a conversation about what exactly she wants as a goal but ALSO about more calorie friendly, denser, still very delicious alternatives for her weekly meals.

[@tiffmitch702]

Way off topic but can u do a hair routine video or show what products you use thanks

[@tortiz98]

19:57 omg ily ❤😂

[@petrastedman669]

I know, right?

[@LifewithIsabellaLanter]

@@tortiz98 I would love to do that 😂💙

[@tortiz98]

@ same gurl same 💗

[@amberdawn868]

Okay I am absolutely LIVID at the family in the first story. I can understand excluding kids from one-time events that wouldn't work for them (fancy weddings, baby/bridal showers, adult-only birthday parties, etc). But I would absolutely not tolerate my kids being excluded from every single family event because children are just as much part of the family as everyone else. IMO if the sister's problem was actually with the children being out of control, she would have (or at least should have) just told the OP outright, "Your kids aren't allowed at my house until you can get them to properly behave in (X, Y, Z) ways." At the very least a decent compromise SHOULD be, "Hey, I need to childproof my new house still, can you wait until next year holidays to bring your kids? They will totally be welcome once I know there will be safe at my house to the best of my ability." OP is so NTA, but as to whether the rest of the family is made of of a-holes entirely depends on why the sister is excluding the kids and why everyone else is taking her side. It could be the kids don't behave because the OP and their spouse don't parent the kids, or it could be the sister just doesn't like kids and never wants to be around them no matter the relation, or maybe none of the family likes kids idk.

[@AleiaBreaks]

I think OP is leaving out some info that explains why her kids are not invited.

[@tiza7053]

@@AleiaBreakssometimes there is no explanation of why kids aren’t invited as a kid some family didn’t want kids around period no matter our ages till we were all 18 not just one part of the family’s kids but all. Some people just don’t like young kids and it’s not an explainable thing and even if the kids are bad not inviting them to holidays and demanding their mum still comes is weird. All my opinion and experience

[@AleiaBreaks]

@@tiza7053 yeah, but the thing is that op said that they weren't being invited to family gatherings at her sister's house, op assumed that *maybe* the holidays will be the same but she didn't ask or communicated her fears to her fam, op can plan some reunions at her own place were her children obviously will attend and then see if it's actually a matter of who or where. The way she is explaining things I understand that she in fact did not attend even one of these events because her children are not invited, since her sister's rule is new (min 1:41). She also pointed out that her other sibling doesn't understand what it's like trying to balance her parenting and keeping a connection to her family after they told her "she could probably use a break", so that means there's actually something else going on if they're concerned about her mental health. IMO this is all about miscommunication and OP being defensive about the fact that she's the only one of her family with children. Maybe she's not telling us all, maybe her family is a bunch of AH and she doesn't know how to cut contact. So yeah, I do feel she's keeping out info.

[@nem_614]

yayy i love these vids

[@tvviggz]

The smile you gave after saying you want to give money to pretty women was so stinkin cute 😂Same boat!

[@walnutsrcool]

I mean if he got a head injury in the car accident that shit can seriously alter your personality out of NO WHERE

[@Exhaustedmillenialz]

If any unqualified man tries to tell a woman how "easy" it is to lose weight and doesn't start the conversation with 'i know it's easier for men because we can eat so much more and you have to be so much more careful but what I found worked for be was...' I assume they are an uniformed tool.

[@octopus8978]

12:03 Also OP works at home aswell

[@rayraffiki1856]

I'm wondering if the daughter in law in the always being late story is hispanic. When I was living in Mexico that was very much the norm that I saw

[@harmonymerideth1455]

It’s NOT a HANDOUT- it’s payment for all of the hours she works as a stay at home mom. It’s her SALARY since she is working within the home. Possible explain it in this manner. YOU ARE AMAZING as a human and husband!

[@MsNikky1996]

Well I have ADHD and I struggle to be on time for myself and for my own personal events I’m excited for. Executive function is difficult for us sometimes I can be early but lateness is always a struggle. It’s not intentional and I’ve struggled with it my entire life. 28 yo, I think people aren’t nearly understanding enough of ppl who have struggles with this. It’s not always that simple for everyone. If you struggle with it you know 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@awkwardlyamy3765]

I mean at the end of the day if a spouse works a good job usually they put money into things such as a retirement fund or my husband has different emergency funds and if this happens our family will receive such and such or if that happens I will receive whatever whatever and so on and so forth so it's kind of like the same thing as a savings account

[@edmundjimenez9136]

Okay the saving money for if something happened. That his wife is good. Why the wife saying no hand outs. Bro y'all are married. Its not a hand out taht he has a saving account made for you if something happens. If he said hey this account is for if i die you and the kids are going to be okay. Would she call that a hand out??? No. So how this any difference??? He just has live though the whole my dad didnt die but he got hirt so badly that it was unsafe. So he wants to make sure his kids dont deal with that. Also fuck the other family. He has a saving account for his wife and kids. You are mom and sister. Wife and kids come first and sounds like your are not dying. So why they think they deserve any money.

[@nergregga]

Unpopular opinion, maybe, but I don't think it's in the girlsfriend's best interest to be thinking about losing weight at this time. To me her attitude give red flags that she might be developing disordered eating patterns, that could lead to a full blown eating disorder. The best OP can do is to stop commenting on her eating patterns, amd maybe keep the fitness talk to a minimum.

[@TLNITSTR8]

L48= Lower 48, as in continental US states.

[@AndyyWithAY]

Oh girlie L48 is lower 48 😂😂 It didn't click till I replayed it. But, the contiguous US, everything besides Alaska and Hawaii. Wanting to give pretty girls money? Same 😂😂 Like if we went to a strip club to befriend the strippers I'm totally cool with it. But lap dances or private shows are a no for me. But, some people have different boundaries. Each relationship is different. They've discussed this multiple times. If this is a pattern, it's breakup worthy. What else is someone going to say to cause her to be easily swayed. What if someone tells her something crazy about how people shouldn't have kids while she's pregnant and she decides she doesn't want the kid y'all tried for for years. An extreme example, but people like this are not good relationship partners. Too easily influenced

[@KushKittens]

You’re my safe person

[@jessicab5080]

That story where the husband is putting money in savings for the wife probably just needs to explain his line of thinking to his wife and emphasize the impact it had on him to see his mom go through that. I can understand as a wife how it can feel weird for my husband to set money aside for me to leave him. It would feel like he may have something going on to make me want/need to leave. Though I would be very grateful and understanding once explained. Perhaps the better thing to do may have been to tell her how you felt about it and then ask her to have her own separate savings for a rainy day. If she’s a SAHM, just explain that she is working and you are supplementing her income based on task that they would need to pay for if she worked such as childcare since he said she was too proud to just take it.

[@charlottetooth1457]

Here is how a car accident can make you a cheater - he probably hit his head and ended up with a traumatic brain injury. These can literally change your entire personality! I literally experienced this with my ex-husband. He had epilepsy which was not well controlled. Every time he had a seizure, he ended up with a concussion (A TBI). And over the years he went from a really nice guy to a nasty, cheating, violently abusive asshole! That is why he is my ex...

[@devonmoore5472]

L48= lower 48= the rest of the U.S. minus Hawaii

[@maryowens1972]

L 48 is lower 48 states.

[@KarlMalowned32]

I need to know how good Isabella is at pool!!!! Is she a pool shark???

[@LifewithIsabellaLanter]

I’m dogshit but I love playing 💀 I justttt started lol

[@Sonali11]

14:02 i bet the dad had a severe brain injury hence the cheating etc - brain injurys can change people forever Its so sad

[@no-rq8dh]

13:29 traumatic brain injury 🙁

[@IsabellaLanter]

That makes so much sense!!!! I was like “wait pause I’m absolutely missing something here”

[@awkwardlyamy3765]

Maybe the husband can say this is a savings account for you to help raise our children if anything happens to us. The children savings account is for their schooling or a car or whatever else.. maybe this way she won't look at it as a gift or maybe not feel as bad about it. Does savings account is for you to help raise our children if anything happens to us

[@nataliepyn1]

L48= lower 48 states

[@AndyyWithAY]

Last OP is definitely AN Ahole, I don't know if he's THE Ahole here. Him talking about how fit he is and how he lost weight and her being bigger. Just all very eww. It's very common for people to grossly under estimate consumption. Neutrality doesn't seem to be his strong suit. If he'd been like for breakfast you had X calories, etc for a total daily calories of Y, that would be better. But, it sounds like he gave an itemized list and probably critiqued the choices. Weight loss is also often far more complicated for women. A man with no credentials other than he lost weight is not qualified for this. The tracker is a good starting place. Maybe a professional to help too

[@octopus8978]

PLEASE TELL ME U HAVE SEEN THE UPDATE TO THIS STORY 11:40

[@AndyyWithAY]

Definitely NTA in story 1. Okay you can choose who comes to your home, but you expect OP to leave her kids at home on Thanksgiving and Christmas!! Complete nonsense. The comments are trying to imply OP is a bad parent and this is valid, but I strongly disagree. I think the sister is the golden child and for whatever reason she made this stance and the parents support only because it's her