#AITA

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@skinsciencebymira 9 ай бұрын

I love that you’re doing these! After you’ve shared your thoughts, would you consider reading a few of the top comments too? I think it would be really interesting to hear some other perspectives on the story and if it aligns with what you said, if it changes your mind, or if you think it’s a bad take.

@Raddiebaddie 9 ай бұрын

I’d like that as well

@GetElevatedWithMe 7 ай бұрын

Yesss very much this! The comments never disappoint

@boogiebear3095 9 ай бұрын

The first one. Look I feel bad that the friend lost her sister. But he’s going to have his relationship go to the wayside and that’s 😤

@petitmains 9 ай бұрын

With the lending wife? Give it to her right back. Oh where's your foundation hun I loaned it to my co-worker Cheryl She looked like she could use a better formulation. Oh what happened to your expensive bottle of your favorite perfume Oh I gave it to you a friend at church I think it's smell better on her and she said she really wanted it. Oh what happened to your laptop Well I gave it away to a kid at school who really really needs it to do their homework I mean you don't mind right like you're giving away our s*** all the f****** time....

@de5072 Ай бұрын

Unpopular opinion on the first one. I dont think hes an asshole. As someone who recently went through a tragic loss if i hadnt have had the kind of support he was showing his friend i wouldnt be here. Yes he definitely needs to make his home life his priority but hes not an asshole for being there for his friend who had no one else to support her.

@macdaddykeesh Ай бұрын

I thought I would be the only one who thought he wasn’t the asshole. I genuinely believe that he was just trying to be there for his friend. Her take in it was a little brutal honestly.

@alexia-rosealaya6643 Ай бұрын

Agreed! If people called my friends 'assholes' for supporting me in this EXACT way after I experienced a tragic loss of a family member, I would be devastated. She struggles with mental health, her friend is being a GOOD FRIEND. Let's not forget that OP has advised he was friends with this girl since childhood which means he likely knew the sister as well and is also experiencing his own grief at her loss.

@natunfiltered2.0 11 күн бұрын

Agreed. I feel like her take was too harsh. Maybe he can dial back hanging to just one day and giving a call or text every few days to check in. But yeah life is about balance.

@Lovelybug777 9 ай бұрын

Sahm here! I have to tell myself it’s easy to get through the fuckijg day!!!!!! But in reality I want to cry! 😭 when my husband is home on his one day off I’m crying to him! We go out sometimes and I’ll get a break! But video games painting and baking is a whole days worth of activities! If he is painting, baking, airplane video games, going to the library, how much time does he really spend with his kid and girlfriend, I bet not a whole lot! And I have cat that loves to knock shit over after I clean.😂😂😂😂 but staying at home is a blessing and I and happy 😅😊

@janewaysmom 9 ай бұрын

Also, my compliments to you for doing the hard work with being a SAHM. As a kid I never realized how much work that could be, and I'm sure lots of people still don't, but I think your work is very admirable and even if your family doesn't see it, I know they benefit from your care immensely.

@boogiebear3095 9 ай бұрын

You sound busy. Yeah being a SAHM or SAHP sounds stressful and very busy. Good luck

@Lovelybug777 7 ай бұрын

@@janewaysmom one night I decided not to cook dinner we had plenty of leftovers, my son looks at me and asked me, what’s for dinner? What are you going to cook? I let him know he say didn’t we have that yesterday, I took a minute and explained to him I wasn’t going to cook. Im blessed to have a husband that understands its exhaust fee and he doesn’t expect me to cook every day. It takes a lot on the mental health to be a sahm.

@Lovelybug777 7 ай бұрын

@@boogiebear3095 🥰

@janewaysmom 9 ай бұрын

That last story has me feeling so much for the mom. When my parents split, I'm not sure who told me, but they just said they were really unhappy together, and that sometimes the person you marry is not who God wants you to be with for your whole life, but God wants you to be happy most. I didn't find out until very recently in my adulthood that my dad cheated on my mom, because neither of them wanted me to see my dad in a worse light like that. I don't know why these parents were splitting up, but maybe just saying that they were not meant to be together forever, but only were meant to be together long enough to have the kids, and keeping the serious info like a cheating allegation away from her. Also, that daughter is probably upset that her parents have split up, so she's putting that upset on the step dad, because he and her mom are a safe place for her to express her feelings. I think if they talk a little more about things, and if the dad gets his ass in line and works with the mom on this, they could resolve this. I hate to see parents hurt their children by talking badly about each other to the kid. I sure hope this dad is not that kind of guy.

@macdaddykeesh Ай бұрын

100% agree. I don’t believe the mom is the asshole here. Again the child is six years old. She doesn’t need to know the full on details of the break up. The mom wasn’t ready to tell her which is completely okay. I feel as though the father is the asshole in the situation. Yes, she’s old enough to ask, but that doesn’t mean that she has to know every single detail. She’s a child.

@janewaysmom Ай бұрын

@macdaddykeesh agreed completely. That kind of stuff - the knowledge of just how messed up your parents can be - that stuff should be held back until the kid is old enough to process it.

@jenniekoellergarcia280 9 ай бұрын

The tricky part is when one parent poisons the kids against the other. It is considered abuse now but was not in the early 2000's . I still do not have a relationship with two of my kids because I chose not to share the truth and abuse from their Dad. Was I right or wrong ? Who knows but I wanted them to have a gentle happy childhood.

@Sarah-psalm127 9 ай бұрын

I missed a part of the begining and thought he was being a sweet husband doing all that with his wife. But a different girl while he has a newborn at home? Oh heck no. Thats insane. It would be bad if it was a guy friend. So much worse being a girl.