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Okay so the type of kilt is a bit academic for this video. What the lads get to discussing is family and spousal support for the kilted lifestyle.
What do you do if your significant other does not like you wearing the kilt?
How do you have a productive discussion with them about why you want to do it, and what the kilt means to you?
Rocky's basic take is that open and honest communication is crucial. The goal is to determine exactly what about the kilt is disturbing your spouse. The most common concern is that the kilt looks effeminate, or is too ono-conformist for the community in which you live.
This may be more personal than "what will the neighbors think?" In many cases we have found, especially with women, the concern is over what family members, parents or immediate circles such as a church congregation may think. This will require a lot of discussion and parsing out your mutual priorities and needs. It may be the hardest hurdle of them all.
Another classic unspoken feeling is jealousy. Some S.O.s are simply insecure about themselves and the strength of the relationship. They worry that the kilt wearer will get a lot of attention and, shall we say, invitations. In this case, special attention and support is crucial. You must make sure they realize how important they are to you and that they are absolutely "along for the ride" as you enjoy the adventures of life.
On a brighter note, sometimes the issue is a more surface-level insecurity - they may feel you simply look better dressed than they do when you go out. They may feel like they have to put on some kind of show to match your fashion statement. This is usually the easiest worry to overcome. Sometimes through playing with matching outfits. Sometimes through making sure you are toning down all aspects of your outfit except the kilt (ie. "normalizing" the kilt).
In some cases, you may need to "agree to disagree" and find a compromise. We don't feel this is optimal, but one way to do this is to agree to only wear the kilt when you are going out without your S.O. -- an "out of sight out of mind" approach. This can work. It can also be a stepping stone to normalization. The more often they see you kilted, the more they get used to it, and the less they want to take the time to worry about it if you have something you both need/want to do out of the house.
No matter how you decide to play it, be as understanding of their feelings as possible. Stand up for what you want to do, but acknowledge them and their concerns. Time is on your side and patience is a Good Thing.
Tartans of the day:
Rocky: Stewart Old Wilsons of Bannockburn colours
Erik: Cameron Erracht Muted
Mac: Red Hackle
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