Female Orgasm - How to Know If You've Had An Orgasm

[@kaylajohnson5701]

I literally started this video thinking “if one more person says ‘you’ll know’ I’m gonna scream.” Thank you for going into detail - many don’t!

[@vanessaandxander]

You're welcome Kayla! Thanks for watching!

[@pakto9570]

😊q​@@vanessaandxander

[@JasmineBuckley-fj7ny]

Right??? I had a lot of problems of not knowing if I reached it at all when I first started with toys. Just when I discovered Sila I understood what what going on and learned more about my body. Stay positive! ❤

[@leahl2321]

IKR, ITS SO ANNOYING

[@samantha_316]

@@vanessaandxanderis it bad if I don’t squirt? I just get so wet!. Is it true if a guy sweats both of us technically it’s a good sign?

[@amieb8091]

I’m so glad to come across these videos! It’s so reassuring to have these guides around and know how not all women experience orgasms or express it the same way. First time experiencing it was like “wtf was that”. Thank you for providing such content!

[@LaRa-fi6cb]

You guys are really professional and loved the way you’re presenting ❤

[@vanessaandxander]

Thank you so much 😁

[@nacarreira777]

I have always felt like the guys I slept with were having a lot more fun than I ever did. Haven't experienced any of these but thanks for the upload.

[@Sofia-lw4fl]

try toys

[@nacarreira777]

@@Sofia-lw4fl It's not that important. I prefer gardening.

[@RoseKnowss]

@@nacarreira777lol this is the best comment I’ve read on any damn app ever

[@ElderandOakFarm]

​@@nacarreira777 you dont know what youre missing if you've never had it I suppose... But i love gardening as well, & I can promise, it doesnt compare to an orgasm!

[@missmacy4527]

The difference in intensity is so real. Also the difference between your SO and a random person, a person and a toy and a luxurious toy like the Enigma and a cheap one you get for 17$. Everything plays a role and everything's different.

[@lindsay8575]

I was sooo hung up on not knowing if I did or didn’t have an orgasm that it was actual blocking my brain from just relaxing

[@blairsterling6141]

Orgasm intensity varies. Usually they are more fulfilling and intense if a person really feels love ❤ for their partner(s). The love in mind and soul, intensifies the brain / genital connection. Yet, I remember one time with a casual girlfriend and the orgasm felt like my whole body exploded into millions of delicate pieces !!! My mind and body felt like a nuclear explosion !!!!

[@MarsEarth-zi5kp]

Even the idea of knowing there are women out there who dont even know if they had orgasms are killing me

[@pringlesup7672]

It feels good to know the last person I had sex with was experiencing majority of these descriptions ☺️

[@Connie-dw1il]

Lets link up😅

[@cfour7672]

Sometimes it's a small but it makes my headache go away. So light n nice

[@itsnunupie]

The wave and the sneeze are true for me.

[@tanushreehira780]

Thank you so much for this informative video ❤️

[@m1lkybra1n]

I get the body spasms, it feels like waves of pressure. It feels like my genitals feel like a warm but cold sensation. But it feel like it's not enough after the pleasure goes. It feels good but it feels like it's not enough. Like I want more so I over use it until my genitals are sensitive but even then it's not enough. It feels very anti climatic. And this is been happening for YEARS.

[@vanessaandxander]

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[@asthaupadhyaya8298]

I CAN LEGIT RELATE LIKE CRAZY

[@kobeibryant4356]

I been waiting for this type comment couldn’t find it. I experienced a woman who 5 minutes straight entire body was shaking in spasms while squirting the SHII was unreal to where I didn’t know what was going on all I could do was watch. Meanwhile once she was done I tried to touch her and it was oh no “I’m done” and she just layed there wouldn’t move nothing definitely definition of nothing left

[@AedanBlackheart]

​@Kobei Bryant then you did a great job and now she's gotta make you do that lol

[@GooglePlusPages]

Your Gentiles? I hope you give equal time to the Jews…

[@thelovelyunicorns]

Idk how I got here but as a female, this comment section makes me so sad :(

[@ness-lee-crunch]

Me too.

[@lunazhang6010]

Me2

[@A.J.R-16]

Wow, I had really been wondering. I had a sensation a couple times, but didn't know if it was an orgasm or if I was overexaggerating the truth. Thanks for letting me know.

[@AlmostReady504]

Prob an orgasm And as long as it was pleasurable don't worry about labeling it . Go with it

[@elizabethdunne8156]

Me too! A beautiful sensation, but not sure....Hence why i watched this.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

I mean you’re supposed to have tons of sensations all the times while fiddling yourself or being physically intimate with another person. Not every sensation is an orgasm. Not very pleasant sensation is an orgasm.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

I mean you’re supposed to have tons of sensations all the times while fiddling yourself or being physically intimate with another person. Not every sensation is an orgasm. Not very pleasant sensation is an orgasm.

[@cathydutton362]

It feels like I’m in another world

[@vanessaandxander]

Love that description!!

[@vanessalittle-sellers7981]

There is no question in my mind!! MMMMMMM🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@emilymeyer7788]

"You will know" is true though. There is nothing similar to an orgasm. If you are questioning yourself whether you had one, you didn't. It is true that orgasms vary in intensity and sort, but they are always recognizable, I don't know how one could possibly not know they had one

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

They’re like 10 sneezes together

[@care7663]

I think you will know once you have one, but I can see those that havent had one questioning 9f they have or not. Because Ive had sex before & it feels really good, but I didnt orgasm... I know that because Ive had one before.... I can see someone having pretty good sex, but not being sure...

[@mariahfolkard929]

It feels so good that how do i explain 😂 but at the moment you don't want to stop and after that you want to stop 😅❤

[@NikkiEdmunds]

I’ve heard that when one is having an orgasm, they can actually use that moment to manifest anything that they want. Isn’t that absolutely phenomenal?

[@nicolepeterson401]

I have a question! Is it possible to get one while working out? I was doing some push-ups and I felt a weird sensation similar to what you described and it freaked me out because it seemed to come out of nowhere. Thank you for this informational video btw!

[@cfour7672]

Yes. Cause blood is pumping down there. Endorphins too

[@flutenanyidk1806]

As a matter a fact yes it is

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

100%

[@ruthiesacree4855]

I orgasmed while taking weed.. there

[@hutbookclub]

Very insightful and and and all that

[@katrinam6795]

The sudden not wanting any more stimulation is an orgasm? Not to be critical, bit are you sure? It feels like my brain simply shutting down any action.

[@NatashaW1]

Yeah same here. I always thought I just needed to go on longer but it hurts? But it doesn't hurt? It's a weird feeling and I feel like I can no longer go on any longer

[@shutit4024]

@@NatashaW1 same here I just gotta wait like 5-10 minutes than go again

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

It’s an orgasm if you’ve had an orgasm right before that lol. Like not if you’re doing something with absolutely no orgasm or orgasmic feelings and then you just don’t want any more. She means after you come, your actual genitals are super sensitive and you go into a refractory period. Doesn’t even have to be that long

[@leonsmith5258]

Biggest thing is feeling extremely euphoric like how people describe ecstasy/MDMA

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

Definitely not. That sounds like arousal, not orgasm.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

In fact most people can’t finish on MDMA.

[@amidave9888]

Omg .. except goosebumps I have experienced all the other kinds of orgasms .. I also had brain freeze few times afterwards 😅..

[@darijaandrejeva7202]

Hello, thank you so much for such great content that is so scarce on youtube!!! I want to ask one question, if there were some of the signs but there were no pleasant sensations themselves, only that it should stop or loss of sensitivity as if I was about to finish, but at that moment sensitivity is lost, what is it?

[@ashleyruthtolman3697]

Following because I have the same question!

[@Jerusalxm]

It’s like finding that itchy spot

[@youretheai7586]

I feel really bad for the people that have to question it. If I have one while standing up I might fall over. There's really no doubt about it. I'm honestly shocked I haven't passed out from the intensity.

[@izzyishere111]

So to describe how a small one might feel… It starts with my legs they get cloudy and fuzzy feeling the I get a little hot in my head. My head also feels cloudy. Some of my muscles throughout my body something slightly twitch, but nothing to crazy. This is a what it feels for me

[@anushkasrivastava.__]

Same

[@comments3179]

Feels like climbing a mountain and escalating until you reach the top and then there is a massive, satisfying explosion of pleasure.

[@muskaanrathore511]

Should all the signs happen together or even one of them is considered that you had an orgasm?

[@vanessaandxander]

It could be. If you have more questions, please feel free to email us at info @ vmtherapy.com so we can see if we have some resources that would interest you. - Jackie with TeamV&X

[@lindsay8575]

Our body’s are so amazing

[@jesss1510]

Ok so yes I had one know I know thank you 😄

[@savvyxdd]

i have a question. is there anyway to have a one on one. my husband keeps insisting that an orgasum is something different and it has been coasing issues in our relationship. he wants me to orgasim . but i think i do on a regular basis now it’s just not what he wants it to be.

[@vanessaandxander]

While we no longer do 1:1 counseling, we definitely think this a great situation to engage a sex therapist's help! -Team V&X

[@jamestrentham8576]

Was there any issue before, or do you feel you're doubting yourself?

[@desireeperham7093]

Erm... he's telling you how you should be orgasming? Wow.

[@xdxdxdxd4575]

You're husband has no idea of how females work, he need to learn about it immediatly, coz that thing can lead to not getting you any orgasm, later on, and you end up just faking it with the "simptoms" he wish for.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

What does he think one should be?

[@melinabatista9776]

I still don’t know 😭😭😭

[@chrisn5079]

I can attempt to show you..... (Not trying to be a weirdo [although I guess if you have to say I'm not being a weirdo, probably I am lol jk] ) What I mean is there's no problem with exploring. I can show you. You just need to be relaxed and comfortable, or it won't happen.

[@OceanCarpenter]

I always get really energized and my boyfriend is always exhausted afterwards so I sit there and want to talk and cuddle and my boyfriend is asleep in like 5 to 10 minutes😂

[@johnshujon420]

Women orgasm are way strong full body experiences & they can enjoy it infinite times ! Women are very lucky

[@cfour7672]

Agreed

[@xdxdxdxd4575]

No, we are not. A lot of women never ever experience that feeling. Some of them sometimes, and just very few had it. I didnt count that, but I had just under 10 times in my life during sex. And I don't know about other woman, but for me clitolyc and G spot orgasm is not the same. Clitolyc is kinda centers just at the female parts of the body and stays there (I think that is more likely as a male orgasm), while G spot orgasm goes to the full body, and explodes, plus it can be longer. If you make come a woman at G spot she wold experiece not just one moment but she can be high till you doing her (at least tgat is my experience). More woman experience clitolyc than G spot, and lot of them never ever experience G spot (that is why it is more important to go to clyt and not focus on penetration). I am 42, and had just three G spot orgasms through penis in in my whole life.

[@ktxtenskz7441]

Some women aren’t so lucky lol. Some of us physically cannot have one.

[@secretgiggle]

@@ktxtenskz7441 then before going in bed , think positive , have hope this time will be better and trust with your partner , definitely you will get orgasm

[@ness-lee-crunch]

Idk I’ve never not known. I think we’re calling lots of things that are arousal and sexual reaction “orgasm.” They certainly can be varying intensities but I don’t think you’d be confused.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

100%

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

People call being aroused “coming” they call squirting “coming” they call the build up to one “coming”…. Meanwhile if you wear a blood pressure monitor and pulse ox while diddling yourself you’ll realize

[@cfour7672]

Stars!!! Or on top of a mountain Bliss

[@yvonnegaywood5487]

I sure know when I am having an organism it so sweet I wine so hard and then I laugh

[@sarahjoponziolifeteamprinc6060]

I have! 😂😊 my head back far !

[@leilahakulinen]

It's impossible NOT to know and you want more all the time 🥳💥💥💥💥💥

[@DoodlePoodle199]

It’s highly addictive 😂

[@sannehol6942]

Thank you so much!

[@vanessaandxander]

Of course Sanne! Glad you found this helpful! Be sure to check out our IG (instagram.com/vanessamarintherapy), where we have something exciting coming on this topic this week!

[@sannehol6942]

@@vanessaandxander I will check it out thank you so much ;)

[@jamestrentham8576]

Hi, how are you now, any progress? Don't feel any pressure if you're sexually active. Take you're time

[@Little_piggie_on_ice]

It’s hard for me to tell if I’m about to have one, having one, or just had one lmao. They should show this in sec ed at school they didn’t teach us shit.

[@vanessaandxander]

If you REALLY want to learn how, email us at [e-mail] and I will get you some resources! - Team V&X

[@amydecker6207]

What??? I KNOW whem i have had one. How can you not know?

[@ktxtenskz7441]

Cos some of us physically can’t do it lol

[@lunazhang6010]

Because many women can’t come. I am one of them 😅

[@ktxtenskz7441]

@@lunazhang6010 Baffles me how many people either don’t know this or chose not to believe it. The amount of men who say “you just haven’t been with the right guy yet” is atrocious💀💀💀

[@danacamp5437]

Exactly. If you don't know if you've had one, I've got news for you: you haven't had one lol.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

The people that don’t know haven’t had one or have issues

[@michellemetcalfe3161]

Yes

[@smallbusinessmarketerfreel4885]

Legs shaking and gush of wetness is reported by my partner. But my vagina is not contracting... nor do i have pulsation... i feel like peeing 😢 EXTRA LUBRICATION... YES... THOUGH...OMG😮i intentionally go pee now in advance. But i still dont know 😕

[@nolwazi_khumalo]

Sounds like you're about to squirt, not pee

[@MariaL42709]

that’s me

[@elinanilsson6476]

Same

[@teresapeevey970]

Same here.

[@sarahlawson1695]

Yeah for me I feel like I pissed myself and like I almost have to contract my muscles to get it to release. Idk either man

[@DaniEllah-fb2ns]

Most times I feel like electric shocks in my legs during sex ...is it normal

[@MariaL42709]

happens to me so ig 🤷‍♀️

[@cfour7672]

Interesting

[@zipporahgorny7146]

The first time I had an orgasm i jad to stop, it felt le i was falling or was a roller coster it scared me, I've gotten more used to it now but it was shocking the first time.

[@Jack_sparrow-am-different]

What is that question

[@RadicalValkyrie]

Okay, good to know I have had them just from foreplay alone with my new partner.

[@zsizzles4002]

I can't tell for myself. Sometimes i feel a number of those signs mentioned especially the clit pulsation, the breathing, the interest change, the flush and so on and it has happened when I'm by myself reading or thinking about those stimulating things. I can remain perfectly quiet during those moments, like no sounds of pleasure and it also doesn't feel like there's a whole lot that comes out? Idek how much counts as a small orgasm and if what i have is less than that. I also feel dizzy afterwards and my ears get blocked out, so does my vision temporarily but idk what to make of it. So yeah I'm super confused and I'd appreciate if someone can help me understand wtf this all means for me😭

[@meagain2222]

your body looks like your blood pressure may have dropped.Have someone measure that for you at the time.

[@samia6888]

@@meagain2222yeah the last part sounds exactly like that when my blood pressure drops.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

@@meagain2222that happens after orgasm.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

Do you mean this happens after diddling yourself or just sitting there?

[@justlucy2554]

I still don't know, even if I have these symptoms, they never stop or stay on the level, it can always get more intense. Like after 20 minutes of sex, if I'd continue the amount of pleasure would just go higher, so it always feels like the "you'll know it" point will come in just a second, but it doesn't... Sex is amazing for me and I don't need the orgasm, I love every second, but Iit would be nice to know...

[@konstantinapapaioannou4306]

Oh honey, you'll know.

[@desyloohoo]

I have no idea why this came up in my feed but here I am hahaha. I find the intensity varies greatly based on stimulation (partner, self with hands or toys and different toys etc) along with location of the stimulation. Clitoral has a strong pulsing with an urge to arch my back and I find my joints become extra flexible for a few seconds. I’ll often end up with my hips popping and it feels like the ligaments all relax. I love that part. G spot is a much more full body sensation of intensity. I’ll have an uncontrollable urge to bear down as waves of pleasure spread through me rather than centreing on spot. I typically will have a big gush of fluid (I don’t squirt but do gush) from that and will immediately need all stimulation to stop and not be touched lol. Cervical and anal feel very similar for me where it’s like a deep internal ache that doesn’t really have a crescendo but just feels so amazingly good that you want the stimulation again as soon as it stops. That one is the most difficult for me to describe

[@TheMallyjoe]

When you know you know.

[@tiffanywoodman3964]

For me it feels like my body is tingling. My hands, mouth and face, my head rushes. My hands physically wanna clench up and I try and open them but it’s like they’re spasming and won’t open 😂 Feels like a weird buzz and like my head feels fuzzy but in a good way. That’s usually my signs but I’m not sure if that’s an orgasm but I’m pretty sure it is 😅

[@brandonsettgast5177]

If you have to ask, then no😅

[@ShirneyMnisi]

I've never had that during sex

[@40dollarmarigolds]

Easy…. Liquid comes out…. Not pee ;) if you know you know

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

Squirting isn’t orgasm dodobird

[@tinydust6835]

So, I always get a feeling of it getting more and more sensitive quickly and then all of a sudden all the pleasure just disappears. It instead just becomes really sensitive and I just have to stop. I've always thought that there's NO WAY that was actually an orgasm because it just feels like a straight up disappointment 💀. But after watching this i guess it is anyway? Its just really small, underwhelming and gives me like zero satisfaction 💀💀lol

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

Not an orgasm. Are you on antidepressants? Bc this is a very common issue with them. And several other meds. It’s like you get all the buildup and you get the post orgasm sensitivity and yet zero orgasm

[@tinydust6835]

@@nataliaalfonso2662 Nope, I'm not on any meds at all. But, I have heard that anxiety and stress can also ruin things and I have had struggle with it so I'm wondering if it could be that 🤔. It's not huge problem to the point where I get anxiety attacks and stuff, but it still effects my everyday life a lot and I almost never feel truly relaxed and optimistic about the future 😔. I think a big problem could be that masturbation makes me think of sex, and sex makes me think about the risk of pregnancy and whether or not I should have kids in the future. This is a problem because that is a HUGE worry and dilemma for me (even though I'm still just a teenager) so that could very well be a big reason why I can't relax. (Sorry for kinda over sharing)

[@andrewward7042]

Vanessa is so hot!

[@chocolatebrain6002]

Brain fog and lethargy.