Best Kissing Tips - Tips From A Sex Therapist

Are your kissing skills up to scratch? Or has it been a few years (or decades) since you last researched how to be an excellent kisser.
A lot of us feel a little insecure about our kissing technique. Or maybe you feel confident in your own ability, but you don't like the way your partner kisses...
There's a lot of sex advice out there about oral sex technique and sex positions, but you rarely hear discussions of kissing technique! So this week, we're going back to basics and talking all about how to be great kisser.
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[@LilNuggzzz]

I’m not sure why this showed up on my recommended. But I’ll take a hint.😂

[@aKIMpletevibe]

Same 😅

[@Strahbaerie]

Same. I clicked on it because I'm like it can't hurt.

[@chonkydoge1113]

The universe deemed us bad kissers. After this video, not anymore! 😜

[@joannaphiri3071]

😂😂😂😂😂Same eyy

[@eliakhalifa]

😂😂I think your sense of humour is enough

[@scottgray4623]

Lots of great tips! One thing I would've added in the "Take Breaks" section is verbal communication - it doesn't have to be full-on "dirty talk", but I find quiet whispers in between kisses to be incredibly arousing, at times.

[@vanessaandxander]

Yes! Love that idea Scott! Thanks for watching!!

[@monicasuyo1330]

I agree Scott! , btw, you have a beautiful name

[@scottgray4623]

@@monicasuyo1330 Thank you.

[@matt-g-recovers]

That's my secret. Gets em every time:)

[@bekind2374]

TIMESTAMPS 2:37 THINGS MOST PEOPLE DON’T LIKE DURING KISSING 3:02 Too much tongue 3:27 Pursed lips 3:42 Fish lips 3:57 Eyes opened 4:14 Bad breath 4:40 Dry lips 5:02 Going too fast 5:28 Teeth 5:54 Feeling like kissing has to lead to more 6:30 GOOD KISSING TIPS 6:35 Be gentle and start slow 7:06 Be present 7:23 Pay attention to your partner’s cues 7:53 Use tongue sparingly 8:35 Gradually increase the intensity 9:06 SPECIFIC FEEDBACK ABOUT THINGS PEOPLE ENJOY ABOUT KISSING 9:08 Switch which lip you’re focusing on 9:30 Switch the positions of the head 9:43 Nibbling on the lips 10:02 Running the tongue along their lips 10:10 Don’t forget about the hands 10:47 Kiss other places too 10:54 Eye contact 11:31 Breathe together

[@shakingbirdart]

Thank you!

[@bellapullman10002]

First time I kissed, I was drunk and gagged because of the tongue. I had my second kiss with my boyfriend a few months ago and was so nervous. It was very awkward the first time but now it's amazing and I love it. It makes a huge difference when you like the person on the other end 😅

[@madisonevans8275]

Love this so much! Learning this is so sweet and nice. My first kiss was just all tongue in my mouth haha my next was way better and it only got better from there!! ❤❤

[@JeanBeech-gc4iw]

I hate sloppy kisses where it's like your face is all wet when they draw away.

[@ceciliadube5097]

I started dating this other guy a month ago and OMG the way he kisses me is out of this world…His kissing techniques are the best❤❤I wouldnt want anything more or less from what im getting 🥰🥰

[@cherryangel4u]

Share some tips!

[@timmybeckman2758]

What’s so good about it?

[@petebeckett3756]

Did you 'hold his face' and make him watch this video first? :)

[@DwerbHD]

Here's a tip, watch the video at 1.75x speed

[@carolynnoce5097]

How?

[@lenkahomolova3715]

@@carolynnoce5097 you can tap the settings icon in the line on the bottom of the video and there is icon that says "speed" or smthng like that (i dont have youtube in english). I often watch talking videos on 1.25 or 1.50 speed, it cost me so much effort and time to watch someone think about they words with big pauses :D

[@fardinahmadpor1225]

I did on 2x

[@kushikushilotv105]

Thanks you❤

[@nri363]

That's perfect.

[@mkmcu66]

You guys are so awesome. I love your truthfulness and how you open up about so many things. I'm 64 and a widow. My husband has been passed 4 yrs now. I met a great guy through a friend. We are going slow, but I love the intimate way he kisses and how he loves to hold me. He may be a keeper...Thanks to both of you, for making this fun, and taking some fear away, as I start this new journey in my life. You both are great. I enjoy how you can really tell that you love each other....my husband and I chose not to have children also. CONGRATS to all of us who love furbabies. Take care you two. I never miss one of your shows. Great work!

[@chrisrobby3311]

Long, slow kisses that last two days are great.

[@AoibheannDoyle-SoulTherapist]

Yes!

[@ikaramelya]

Yes

[@persianworrior100]

2 days?

[@Innerglow2024]

😂

[@happiieee7881]

Idk whtas wrong with ..i really feel aroused when i see a couple kissing like this but i dnt feel that enjoyment while doing it😢

[@alicemakarevich6762]

Listening to this gave me a lot of confidence. Apparently I'm using most of these tips

[@alirak9261]

I really think one of the most important part in relationships, including sexual is communication. Get that feedback from your partner. Tips or no, ppl are all different. It should be normalised to ask - did you like that? Should we change it up? Is it okay for me to do X during Y, etc. After all, if you can do it, you should be able to talk about it. It should also be an equal exchange, so finding the compromise that both partners enjoy is important.

[@OisinBuckleyAnimation]

No, it's not. It's this kind of attitude has lead to the psychological problems in we see in men today and why there are so many false accusations and fear in approaching the opposite sex. Consent ruins the moment entirely and creates awkwardness and anxiety in the exchange. And why are people still using the term "normalise"? why can't people do the world a favour and let the word die?

[@alirak9261]

@@OisinBuckleyAnimation consent ruins the moment? So you never ask for any? Got it. 🙄

[@OisinBuckleyAnimation]

@@alirak9261 Yes, exactly - you don't. Kissing is a non verbal act, if someone is uncomfortable by a person's kiss they can easily let them know, and they're REALLY psychologically distressed by the idea of a kiss they should seriously seek psychological help before they ruin someone's life entirely. Just look around you at the current climate we're living in, just look up the trevor bauer situation and that'll sum up everything perfectly. I really hope this all phases out in our culture soon

[@alirak9261]

@@OisinBuckleyAnimation "they can easily let them know"...... I'm glad you have an astounding level of confidence and physical and emotional security, but a lot of ppl don't. Also, I'm not saying you have to ask every five seconds, but just generally checking in with your partner is a good thing. It also doesn't have to be clinical. Ever heard of flirting? Dirty talk? Clearly announcing your intention in an appropriate for the moment fashion can make a huge difference. And communication doesn't have to happen in the moment either. Before or after feedback is important. Would you rather ask one time if something is okay or have your partner silently accept whatever you're doing for your pleasure bc they don't want to disappoint you? And I'm not talking only about women here.

[@OisinBuckleyAnimation]

@@alirak9261 you're missing my point, if someone has emotional insecurities it's not the other person's responsibility to accommodate that. That's this generation's problem, there's this pervasive attitude that it's the job of others to accommodate your issues (or else). If you're both thinking adults you need to act like it and be responsible for your emotions - whatever happened to this?? Secondly there are countries that implenting laws that if it's not entirely and "enthusiastically" consentual it's legally rape thanks to femenist groups, so maybe you're not saying you should ask every five seconds, but there are certainly people who do and it's a growing attitude

[@amyreay5007]

My husband and I have been married for over 31 years. We got together 39 years ago. That's lots of time to learn about kissing lol. Thing that I would say is don't over think it too much. If you are spending a lot of time thinking about technique rather than actually enjoying the kiss then maybe you are kissing the wrong person. That is not to say that we don't need to keep things fresh. We do. But while kissing enjoy it!

[@May-qb3vx]

My phone gives me this just as I’m an anxious mess. I’m 25 and have never been kissed (never had a bf really) and I’ve been seeing someone now and they’re a little older than me. I’m such a nervous wreck because I haven’t gotten my bad kisses out of the way in my teen years. There’s so much pressure since the expectation by the 20’s to have more experience in that department. I’m a grown woman but I might as well be 14 in this department.

[@keiralum1797]

Oh, dear, don't worry, but enjoy, take pleasure! Don't think too much of yourself but about him - how to make him fly and blown away, how to share what you feel with him, your feeling, your pleasure :) be natural but delicate and everything will be fine! And smile :)

[@marigunyaga9262]

I'm 20 and never been kissed too..... literally laughing at myself rn😂😂

[@lsia4475]

Don't put so much pressure on yourself! It should be all fun and discovery! Feel free to tell this person how you feel if you trust them, I’m pretty sure they will reassure you. And trust me on this one : there’s no such thing as "bad kisses", it's different with each person and it can be great or not good at all no matter your age or your experience, ultimately you just have to try

[@sierikaninaj2107]

Don’t fret. I was 26 when I was taught how to kiss. By a girl. Lol.

[@rasha.n5748]

Me too you’re not alone ✌🏻 and I’m gonna be 27 this year

[@maxf.7467]

It took me like two years to just search for tips Idk why I was so foolish Asking for advice on such things really does get harder the older you get Thx for the content Helped a lot

[@alicia2713]

Yup! I know about Tiger Beat magazine. I definitely appreciate slow, passionate kissing, but I like to ramp it up every now and again to keep things interesting.

[@vanessaandxander]

Yes!!! Great ways to keep things interesting!

[@cak8132]

“Tiger Beat” was popular in the 1960s, too. It was sort of the rival to “16” magazine. It covered the Beatles and the Monkees back in my day as well as a lot of the other popular 60s groups. I looked forward to buying it every month.

[@Mahrimae]

“Fish” lips or lips that are too slack… or being too fast or slow… these aren’t things to fix (and I know you guys don’t think this way, but the format makes it hard to cover everything in one shot) bit to explore. These are issues of not meeting one another where you are and matching up. It’s easy dominate the situation and force someone to follow or to become the one who always accommodates their partner or feel like that’s what’s happening. But it’s like dancing - finding someone or being someone who can meet in an agreed upon place is the goal. And it’s also okay to say you don’t want to and decide to move on. And it’s also okay not to know what you like best in which case letting another person lead till you find out what that is is good too. Everything seems to be learnable in the realm of relationship and sexuality and it’s fascinating. Thanks for the supple and stimulating content 😊

[@carmensylvia4001]

I love this. Such a beautiful and insightful comment.

[@C.R.598]

I would add to not trap the person you are kissing. This sounds obvious, but I've experienced it with nearly every kissing partner I've had in my life. They pull you in with a hand on the back of the head or lean you against a wall, etc. and then kiss but there's not even an inch to pull away for a breath or anything. It always makes me feel anxious and trapped. I think the idea gets in a lot of men's (in my experience) heads that it's romantic or passionate or something when in reality, it ruins the whole experience.

[@Jenn-777]

I think most women tend to like this therefore it’s more of a personal preference you might have to share.

[@magnarcreed3801]

Think it’s a personal preference. Have you tried a hand to their chest and gentle push?

[@allisonharranmua8193]

I tend to like when my husband does that. But I was uncomfortable with that in certain circumstances before I met my husband. I think for me it's about trust. I trust my husband I know I'm safe with him so it does feel sexy and intimate but in the past there were definitely times I was uncomfortable because it was a person I just started seeing and I didn't really know if I could trust them yet.

[@kenadams3306]

​@@allisonharranmua8193 exactly this.

[@carinadolk8933]

I wish my husband would be more like that, take the lead

[@geunyooknyuh]

Kissing can be rough for me because of my really small lips. Not only do I feel self conscious the entire time, but I feel like having small lips impacts my ability to kiss! These tips help!

[@vanessaandxander]

We're so happy to hear that you found these tips helpful Alanna! We also have an entire podcast episode on kissing if you want to check that out as well: podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/what-makes-a-great-kiss-and-what-to-do-if-you-dont/id1569466131?i=1000528221536 🥰

[@patricktangredi6824]

I have big lips. Im self conscious about kissing. Isn’t that ironic? Small lips are great, don’t think anymore about it.

[@frostz.223]

Hi baby ❤😘😍🥰😘😘😘😚

[@nri363]

To big lips aren't good too.

[@Calakapepe]

YOU MENTIONED DRY LIPS BUT NOT WET KISSES?! those normal kisses with closed lips need to not cause me to wipe clean. a must!

[@beautifuldreamer8803]

I don't like sloppy kisses and I am concerned about hygiene levels. (Yes, I know its important to get to know the person well first).

[@chrisrobby3311]

Floss and gargle with mouth wash.

[@jewellmargolis3192]

Me either. My ex boyfriend was a sloppy kisser.

[@Marybookly]

a very helpful video, thanks I need that. and also thank you for normalizing to talk about kissing and sex, I often felt ashamed to talk about what I like and what I don't like but now I feel encouraged to talk about it more often.

[@rockandrolleracdc]

I never saw an article in a magazine and my first real kiss was recently, probably at the age of 29 years old. My girlfriend hates the way I kiss, it makes her stressed and then makes me stressed. It’s something that really worries me. I am hoping that this video can help us.

[@johnnyjohnnyhottiethottie8345]

you guys should just practice kissing together it will help and you can learn how to kiss better and she can give you feedback and also be really good for your relationship

[@alidee5119]

I would love something to help me teach my partner to kiss better. He feels really offended when I say " Let's just play with kissing." or let's try new things. He feels judged. The problem is he really needs help and I don't know what to do.

[@thomasberridge2504]

Oh, and one more thing, specifically about the kissing video, is you only mentioned once about saying something to your partner. I used to think that it was weird to talk about things while kissing or having sex, but really it can heighten the experience because we respond erotically to each others' voices. Of course the tone should be soft and a little dreamy but it's ok to say things like "do you like it when ..." or "how would you like if I ..." or "Gimme some of that tongue." Let's not be shy.

[@angelatuller2867]

YES!! Tiger Beat with the frame by frame pics of the kiss!!!! Loved it!!!

[@jazznbluessinger]

Tiger beat... hilarious! Yes I'm afraid I do remember that magazine. Blast from past!

[@toniiedward]

I'm glad this video showed up on KZbin for me to watch. It's been over 40 years since I kissed a man. Great information. Thank You.

[@shaybar93]

The person I’m dating purses his lips when he wants a kiss and it comes across as goofy and not sensual. We’ve also been trying to master the rhythm of the tongue. This video has made me realize that I’m not the problem and I gotta reel us in. I appreciate the slow, sensual, and connected route. His lips are also way bigger than mine…so….but we got this! ❤😊

[@samleo1977SG]

I must admit most of the men I have kissed over the years haven't been very good kissers. lf I come across someone who I really like and feel a proper connection, I will tell them to follow my lead and kissing techniques. I am a very patient and an affectionate lover. My new boyfriend (bf) of two months tells me all the time how much he enjoys my kissing techniques. * He loves it when I run my tongue over his lips or inside his lips. * He enjoys when I lick his upper top lip or when I ran my tongue over his gums or teeth. * Or when I use my tongue to lick on the outside of his chin to his lower bottom lip.

[@jeffayya]

I have my own few not wants 1. Bad breath- this is number 1 turn off for me. I only had two men that I had first kisses with. 1st was an ex-bf and 2nd is my husband. I had pretty much bad first kisses experiences. The first one, yes he gave me the most connecting electrifying 1st kiss experience but dang the bad breath was bad. That after that kiss, I wake up everyday and smell my breath and notice I got his bacterias for like weeks. Like no matter how I brush my teeth, chew gums or mint, it doesn’t go away. And the same when I had my first kisses with my husband. It gives me bodily sensations and there is connection but then it’s distracting. I’m a nurse, so I’m kind of germaphobic since I saw germs from microscopes and learn about them. It also explains why I’m OCD in cleanliness and why I can’t fully function well when the house is dirty and unkept. It is not irrational. It is scientifically based. Mouth is actually the dirtiest in our body. And no kidding! And I don’t want it when my husband just had mint or something to mask it. I want my husband to really kill what is causing it. So mouthwash is a go for me. Thankfully my husband do mouthwash. If he can’t kill the cause, I still love him anyway! 😅 I mean what is bad breath compared to marriage. 2. I don’t like it when there is no electrifying connection and bodily sensations when kissing. It’s like kissing a log or a lifeless matter. It’s awfully a turn down. I like it when we’re just kissing and doesn’t have to go there. 3. I don’t like being rushed also! I want to take things slow and really feel and enjoy. I like it when my husband is trying to explore my body and me if I’m feeling him or what. I like it when his full attention is there with me. 4. I don’t like staring or wrong eye contact. I like it when his eye contact is with me even while he’s checking if I’m enjoying things or what not but I also like it when he’s closing his eyes to really feel with emotions and use the mind in giving love and receiving love even in the very act. # I’m not claiming to be a good kisser. I don’t even know what’s the standard. I only use my experiences as the basis and as a stage for learning and improving.

[@zeiddouak9833]

Oh my GOD thank you very much I needed that really. I was confused.... but what you said about switching the focus on lips and the head position... REALLY REALY ORIGINAL and interesting for the flow and THE BALANCE thank you. I just want to say that the guy is smilng more than enough , I don't know but something is weired..I just hope if there is more masculine energy balanced with the feminine energy of the woman. THANK YOU I needed this advices I hope for you more levels of knowledge and wisdom and long term success

[@s.helenedavis615]

I learned about kissing by kissing. The experience of kissing. No classes or training. If it feels right,its right. If you know you know. Attraction and affection for your partner helps kissing alot.

[@richape9288]

there's clearly a right and wrong way of doing it

[@Cantetinza17]

I'm an 8o's baby, so of course I know that magazine, BUT I didn't learn from a magazine, I just jumped into it. I love kissing, it gets the juices flowing it also lets me know what type of lover you are. I agree I hate feeling rushed or like I have to have sex.

[@bitchplease123]

My husband is a terrible kisser with a capital “T”….We’ve been married 35 years & at 60 I finally put my foot down & said ‘enough is enough’! I’ve got to show you how I like to be kissed before I go insane! 1) Don’t peck at me. Pursed lips are for a quick greeting in public for your mother-in-law’s cheeks on either side. Maybe not even touching her skin. A hello or goodbye in front of others you’re not familiar with. 2) Even if you’re settling into a kiss & relieving pent up energy or showing you’re comfortable with me & getting relaxed, do NOT initiate a kiss by exhaling deeply through your nose up my nose & hanging on me. My sinuses aren’t the release chamber for your respiratory pressure valve! 3) Wet, floppy fish lips are a big turn off. Not too hard (pecking). Not so soft (slobbering). Match my firmness & be assertive without engulfing me. 4) Don’t make me ‘hunt’ for your tongue in YOUR mouth. That’s just plain lazy. You’re the man & should be pursuing me, not the other way around. 5) A stiff pointy tongue is not something I want to engage with, especially when you’re holding it back in YOUR mouth. Meet me halfway here, dude! 5) Again, don’t hang on me. Hugging my shoulders is great, but how about holding my face in your palm(s), tipping my chin up with a finger to meet you, pushing my hair back away from my face or around my ears, caressing the back of my neck with your hand to draw me in? 6) Sealed with a kiss is not just for snail mail. Our lips should be in sync with each other’s. Fit together, not gapping and gaping. I’m going to start with these and go from there. I have been kissed unbelievable well by other men so I hope he catches on soon!

[@comeuphere5417]

🤣🤣🤣love it!

[@earthmamma85]

My husband is awful too. I don’t know how to tell him without him getting so upset. I really don’t enjoy kissing him most of the time.

[@bitchplease123]

@@earthmamma85 What is it that makes his kissing so bad? Poor oral hygiene? Lack of enthusiasm or too much enthusiasm? Chapped or cracked lips? Facial hair getting in the way? Too much tongue? Not enough tongue? Are you getting along otherwise? Do you still find him attractive? Is kissing important to you? If the flame is dead, depending on how long this has been the case, then embers can be reignited. With my man I just straight out told him…Your lovemaking is great, the kissing part, not so much. I stated “Here’s the deal, as of today, you’re going to learn how to kiss me the way I want to be kissed.” And I just went step by step for at least 20 minutes a ‘lesson’. He’s proven to be a pretty good student, still a work in progress. I also loosened up a few of my boundaries that I thought of as too kinky/taboo as a reward. Something he wanted to try between the two of us that I wouldn’t have considered, With openness and honesty I found I trusted him more not to go too far and hurt me and found out I actually LOVE it!🫦

[@pirateslife4me]

Some things you can teach, but I've learned the hard way fantastic kissers don't necessarily make fantastic husbands! 🙈

[@bitchplease123]

@@pirateslife4me OMG! Truer words have never been written. My top two kissers I’m sure would have been TERRIBLE life partners/husbands😳 I shudder to think of ever having even considered it! Yikes 😱

[@anwedd]

Tigerbeat 😂😂😂 I completely forgot about that magazine! What a throw back in time.

[@cheriecrettol1620]

Tiger Beat magazine was very popular back in the 70s. All the popular pop stars were on it. Now I feel old

[@lindylee1139]

I’m curious if there were gender differences in your kissing poll?

[@JChristianMueller]

I'm old school. Also had great parents, who would not shy away to show affection all their life, also in front of us as children. Magazines? At 17 I was initiated by my 1st girlfriend from Southern France and we hit it off immediately. My fiancée/ later wife told me she loved how I kiss, especially with tongue. It has to be tender, playful and most important with love.

[@Modnyy]

Tiger beat was everything!

[@user-qq2se1lu5c]

Take the scenic route, work your way to the lips after playing with air on the neck, ear lobes, hand in the hair, start slowly, and be respectful about the other person's space by not being too aggressive. Treat it like a warm up and time to appreciate your partner. And the way they kiss, with respect, shows you what is to come, hopefully building slowly.

[@monicasuyo1330]

yes, Tiger Beat, and a bunch of others I can’t remember right now - back when “The OUTSIDERS-guys were so in! , but I had a huge crush on Jimmy McNichol - I know - nobody knows?? kissing is THE MOST important, in my opinion part of sex

[@katiesudhalter7630]

Also, if your lips are dry and or breath smells, it is an indicator you aren’t drinking enough water and staying hydrated. Drink more water!!! Love tongue ;) Keep saliva swallowed at a good pace so it’s not too sloppy!

[@norf5582]

I was today years old when I learnt from a video. It's just been trial and error so far

[@vanessaandxander]

Glad to hear you found this helpful! 💖 Be sure to subscribe so you can stay up to date on future videos as well!

[@cwright3623]

It was called Cosmogirl 🤣 Andy probably learned from all those magazines back in the day 😅 Yes I read Tigerbeat!

[@ropongi1008]

I can only speak for myself, but I'm never been a fan of kissing, and I suspect that I'm not the only one who feels that way, but who knows.

[@ThatWasGreatLive]

Any advice for relaxing while kissing? I so nervous that I stand as stiff as a board.

[@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau]

Maybe lying down or cuddling.

[@washingtonsandi4404]

😂😂

[@mej6400]

And I am half asleep while kissing 😂 but it’s bc I am with my fiancé now 2 years lmao I love making out with him but I get tired after 5 minutes lmao

[@SithCelia]

I suppose I learned about kissing by watching a lot of movies through childhood. I remember Tiger Beat from middle school, but it was when I was 18 right out of Navy boot camp when I had my first kiss. Before I ever lost my virginity, it was passionate kissing that I often fantasized about. My first kiss was made hotter by the introduction of ice cubes. Mostly, the experience was pretty slow and intense, so I was able to intuit what worked best for me.

[@jazznbluessinger]

Keeping eyes open... Question: what does it mean when a guy keeps his eyes open but isn't looking at you, he's looking around the room?? Makes me feel like he's thinking about something else. What the Heck is the psychology behind that?? Newly dating btw, 3 months in

[@jeffayya]

I don’t think we should always find the psychology behind things. You prolly already know the answer he’s thinking about something else or not really present. Better yet, ask him. When I was a virgin I don’t know what I’m doing so my eyes are prolly wondering off or closed praying and asking God what to do😅

[@allisonharranmua8193]

A man who is truly in to you won't be able to focus on anything but you during those intimate moments.

[@cfour7672]

Lol. That's odd

[@victoriamandala4662]

Lol so unromantic and Scary,, bite his lip next time😅 to bring back his focus or attention 😀

[@WilliamMcDaniel-hu7kc]

thank you, I really needed this

[@monicasuyo1330]

MORE KISSING definitely!!!

[@monicasuyo1330]

I LOVED EVERYTHING you all said here!!

[@vanessaandxander]

❤️

[@neniaemat1079]

Thank you so sharing ❤ I never been kissed its a good Idea for me I learned tips by watching you guys

[@cyn5962]

I remember Tiger Beat. There used to be a teen version of Cosmopolitan magazine.

[@dfausti66]

I learned how to kiss from a girl who came up and kissed me in the middle of a hallway in junior high between classes.

[@joebagodonutssummertime8267]

Also, what ways can you groom mustache to not be so prickly.

[@FarzanaHaq1]

Thanks for the advice - Great tips ☺️

[@mimimo555]

I loved Tiger Beat!!

[@NurseJacqueline]

Totally remember Tiger Beat mag and loved it!

[@AliciaAlonzoPaulino]

Yeah. This can be the Bible for kissing. Great tips.

[@huei-yipan]

Yes gradually and very slow is good…

[@huei-yipan]

I am old enough to know what Tiger Beat is lol 😂I read that as a young girl as well as Teen Bop, Teen Magazine, Seventeen magazine, etc. I like to kiss with tongue provided that it is done right by me and my partner…

[@user-ib6uh8gq2r]

Yes, I’m 55 tiger beat was popular before I was age 10. Only saw the covers when my Dad took me to variety store to buy my Archie comics, that was my thing. I do remember liking Shaun Cassidy on the cover of T B 😍

[@ponygirlup]

ugh! the bouncy back ground music! :( Good advice here, appreciated.

[@DoctorNicole]

No idea what that magazine is lol. Lots of cosmo in my college dorm though

[@vanessaandxander]

Love it!

[@walkrshaw7244]

I told a girl once kissing is a dance, not a wrestling match

[@mariajelliffe1661]

Yes, I loved Tiger Beat and hung the posters of Shaun Cassidy and Rob Lowe!!

[@noni-u6x]

great video! thanks a lot!

[@mariaelisabernalvega8538]

I loved the Tiger’s Beat!

[@bruktawitgirma4446]

I like your suggestions. Thanks.

[@jenniferdebro8634]

I loved Tigerbeat magazine! I read Young Miss magazine to learn about kissing in teens!

[@sherrisouthwell8160]

I love great make out sessions-with tongue😁 I love getting creative changing pressures and penetration mixed with some light biting.

[@Hijadelviento9]

I miss being kissed 😢and kissing 😅

[@hannahh8119]

I can't imagine that kissing feels actually great for people. :DD Interesting. (Probably aroace though)

[@frankfontaine2906]

First time I was tutored on kissing was by you two.

[@HaileyMarieAllie]

Me: *in relationship for almost 5 years, married for almost 2… has a 17 month old and is pregnant with baby #2* still watches the video🤣

[@susu_su9316]

why wouldn't you?

[@caitlinsampson269]

Thanks for the suggestions. 😊

[@arnonym3118]

Me, nearly 18, never having had a kiss: 😋

[@taimartinez722]

I recently turned 18 and i have only pecked one person 😹😹😹....tbh I'm kinda disgusted with the whole action..

[@cfour7672]

No worries. Patience

[@krystalgoethe8007]

This was a great video! Especially the tongue part. Less is definitely more. 😊

[@Alice-lw9mg]

I love kissing and definitely do not always want things to move on it can be so sensual.

[@DrIreneB4080]

Hahaha yikes not tiger beat magazine!!! That was my favorite!!! Especially when New Kids on the Block was the middle poster 😂

[@lily-anneb.g.2662]

Tiger Beat was the first ever teen magazine I ever got 😅

[@brittlefevre898]

Great tips!!

[@vanessaandxander]

Thanks!

[@giannacascarini8681]

Also personally I'd say from my experience having a partner who genuinely cannot kiss well is a major turn off

[@sonyacurti]

Tiger beat with Scott Baio lol! 😅

[@at_tro_sizematters]

I learned how to kiss from a girl that was 16 when I was 12. We were rodeo kids and I learned alot during those 2 summers that I knew Annette.

[@robincapps3588]

I knew about those magazines

[@deanarjones9114]

I have not been kissed near enough

[@mitchaudhari4151]

Hey when you open eyes smile and it will make it perfect , when you smile your muscles will show your pleasure , your enjoyment, you happiness & last but not least it will show a sign of you being preset in that moment of kissing. You’ll really amaze your partner if you’ll find the perfect time to give that smile. You can take a pause smile and then go back gently and slowly back to kissing👍🏻

[@tammysiemer4872]

What if you wear glasses

[@pamelamckinnon]

Yes to Tiger Beat! 🐯

[@writeract-p5z]

Yes you guys nailed it. Thank you for the reviews. Yes just a little in the beginning. Wow

[@underneaththecape4055]

Tiger Beat, OMG!! That was one of THE magazines to read when I was a teenager!

[@keonie]

Ooh I am glad I knew all of this. I have been kissed by and taught how to kiss by apparently awesome kissers. None of them did these no-no's. Ha, lucky me!

[@twobluestripes]

I learned kissing techniques from COSMOgirl (yep, there was a teen cosmo!) magazine, my favorite teen magazine as a kid/teen, like starting age 11. I didn’t have my first kiss until age 17! And both men I’ve been in a relationship (first kiss guy and then next relationship at age 22, with like a 3 year gap between the 2 where i kissed no one!) commented on my being a great kisser after a couple make-out sessions. I was surprised! But I remember the tips it gave and used them to great effect. The best tongue tip I remember was to put the tip of your tongue 1/3 to 1/2 of the way in to your partner’s mouth and run it to one side, pull it back after a second, and then do it again on the other side, like imagining he has a mint in there and you’re doing little sweeps to find it. Thank you to every teen magazine i ever read! And the stories of the first time my sister encountered a really bad, sloppy kisser completely shocked me! He was such a nice guy and very cute, but she was so turned off by it that she said goodbye after just a couple dates.

[@maryhawker5003]

My first kiss was by a guy that used that tongue sweeping method you mentioned and it was the worst experience ever. Ruined French kissing for me and I never want to be kissed that way again. Just the tip of the tongue is fine. Any further than that and I’m grossed out, remembering my ex’s method. The tongue sweeping motion was also just the grossest thing ever, I couldn’t even kiss back bc I didn’t know where his tongue was going and I couldn’t keep up. Ugh and he bragged he was a great kisser. Yeah no.

[@ChocolateJewels]

I love kissing just for the sake of kissing. Really slowly and just exploring, definitely not too much tongue. Just teasing. My husband has the best lips, so I guess I’m lucky :)

[@gwensterlife]

There was a Cosmo girl magazine!!

[@dianasleja5474]

Thanks

[@berthaburntstone3375]

Didn't cover sound. I love throwing in loud and quiet kissing sounds. Fun to be so silly and let go!

[@robertmcminn544]

Yes I remember that magazine 😃

[@MyDarling572]

The nibbling on the lip : a guy actually injured my lip. Never again that kiss move.