Oxford graduation, sadness, boys & my new job: a personal life update

[@TheFlowerGirl77]

Hi Vee: I will try not to be as loquacious as usual. 1. Party - ABSOLUTELY!!!! Why? You have worked incredibly hard to reach this goal and EVERY achievement is worth CELEBRATION whether big or small especially because we NEVER know what is going to happen tomorrow. So CELEBRATE now! Your description does sound like a beautiful wedding but do what makes YOU feel special because this is about YOUR accomplishments!!! Sometimes I do a little dance for nothingness. Cleaned all the clothes and none left in the hamper (for a family this is a BIG goal) - dance party! There doesn’t need to be a justification from ANY outside source to be proud of yourself, be proud of what you have done or want to celebrate it either. YOU DID IT BE PROUD, BE LOUD, DON’T LET ANYONE OR ANYTHING BRING YOU DOWN! 2. Boys/Men: Now I have my Mom hat on. First of all, I am sorry you have experienced heartache, true heartache. Doesn’t matter if there was a relationship or not. The loss of what we felt still hurts A LOT. Secondly, the BEST way to sort through this is to be open and honest with the person you had felt these feelings towards. NOT for their sake, for yours. They may have never felt the same or may have at one point but then didn’t act or may have but felt it wouldn’t have worked or may be extremely flattered but never knew or thought about it. That is not the point. The point is, being honest with that person will allow you to know that your feelings weren’t “stupid,” or “unrealistic,” or “fantasy,” or anything else. They were real, you are happy for the person and whatever their personal situation is now and you know they know how you felt and, 9/10 they will have at the minimum felt touched and at the best felt the same at some point too. Example 1: I was very young and met a young man who I genuinely genuinely loved. He wasn’t perfect nor was I - far from it - but I felt true love for the first time with him. We did date briefly but, at the time, our lives were on different paths. He broke up with me (in a kind manner) and we both went our separate ways and our separate relationships. Many years later a situation occurred when I ended up speaking with his mother. She asked me about my present situation and then she said words I would never forget. She said, “Oh, that’s a shame.” Just like that. In that VERY instant I knew - He had loved me all along and had let me go anyway. You see, at the time we broke up, our lives really were heading in different directions only neither of us had ever spoken about what we wanted long term at all and, had we, we would have realised we were, in fact, on the same page just not reading at the same rate. Many more years later I ended up in a situation where he got in touch with me again. I told him about the time I spoke with his mother and he was, of course, surprised, but then said: Yes. It is true. I was deeply in love with you but I thought you wanted A and I wanted B and the two were not compatible. Now, we didn’t somehow magically end up together again (this is not a movie) because our lives had developed over many years into actually separate paths completely but had he just said then and I had said then what was never said, who knows. Example 2: I knew a friend many, many years ago. I NEVER had feelings for the friend and I NEVER saw myself with the friend. We NEVER dated and we lived very separate paths. Many, many, many years later this friend suddenly declared he loved me and always had. I STILL did not feel that way and never will, but I felt flattered and wanted not to hurt him so gently and gracefully thanked him for loving me but explained the feelings were not mutual and hoped he would find someone who could give him those feelings fully in return as well. I was not cruel and he was not angry. I felt flattered he had been so brave to tell me and I didn’t want to mislead or misconstrue anything but I also didn’t want to hurt him either so I spoke kindly and openly and gently about how I really felt and wished him every happiness in his life to come. It was brave and I applauded that bravery. However, my feelings were not the same. In both examples, the actions carried out were carried out by people who could respect that their lives just didn’t have that Happily Ever After attached to them but there was still love, respect and honour in the being open and honest to such an extent as to not cause harm to either side. The heartbreak of the loss of love for me in example 1 still meant we both lived good lives apart and the loss of love for the other party in example two still meant he felt free to let me go and find someone who felt the same elsewhere. Just be honest with the guy. Let your friendship figure out next steps. Whether that be your being happy for him and his future without you and he you or it be you both have actually felt the same and just didn’t realise. Just be honest and that, and that alone, will let you both move forward in the path meant for you. PS - I know it is not my business, but a man like Josh is a marrying kind of man. He loves you even if it is a mutually respectful friendship. That is the kind of love that makes lifetime commitment work. 3. The book: SUPER SUPER EXCITING! Have watched you doing the audiobook. Long hours and lots of repetition but it will be sooooo worth it!!! Congratulations yet again!! 4. Returning to a sleep schedule. Best thing to get your body back to a tired by 22:00 life, excercise by midday for at least an hour. Not later than midday as that will kick start your energy again. Early morning to midday exercise, moving your body around, even if it just climbing the stairwell in your office building as a break or before eating lunch. Sleep is natural and deep when our physical bodies are tired but our minds are at rest. Love that you read at night. Do it in bed. Turn off all blue lights and overhead lights. Use a small lamp if needed , a warm drink (chamomile based works great) and unplug at least 45 minutes before you want to be asleep. With practicing this (and sticking to it), within a week or two, natural sleep at night will return. You have to make an effort though to TURN OFF. Lights out, in bed, as comfy as possible. Book is good, but not TV or KZbin or just one more thing on the computer etc. TURN OFF. Love you! Incredibly proud of you! ALWAYS behind you!!! 🌹

[@ElegantllySculpted]

I really took notes 📝. This is all so helpful 💖.

[@mandasoha]

Wow, this comment really spoke to me. Thank you!!

[@addeliajambwa456]

♥️♥️♥️Heartfelt

[@ibrohimjohari8193]

Your comment is sooo thoughtful and genuine and sincere. You're amazing. Thank you!

[@aaaaaaskdkfn]

girl I'm having a panic attack of your KZbin comments on Vees videos. Life is much more than using the time to write an essay under yt I-

[@Scout2797]

Have the Party!! You always talk about celebrating life so why pass up on celebrating this huge achievement? We didn’t get to celebrate a whole lot for more than a year because of the pandemic so go ahead and celebrate your achievements. You have so much to be proud of ❤️

[@meghanfowell7306]

Super excited about your audio book as I'm blind so reading a traditional book isn't really an option!

[@mercybanda4142]

Hey Meghan, I find it so inspiring that you are able to write a comment.So proud of you Do you mind please sharing what you use whenever you want to write eg a comment online? Thanks

[@meghanfowell7306]

@@mercybanda4142 thanks for Asking and educating yourself. I have an android so I use talkback to write my comments. Talkback is a feature on android devices that basically allow me to see what I'm writing without being able to see because it reads me what I'm writing as I write it. Feel free to ask more questions if you have them, I love helping to educate!

[@anitaezeh]

@@meghanfowell7306 thats a really good feature

[@uniquelady1234]

I don't care how many parties you have had, the idea alone for it sounds lit, you need to do it!

[@am13007]

Vee is such a girlboss. You're fierce and you KNOW IT girl!! Thank you for inspiring us and making us belive in the best versions of ourselves!!

[@TotalDramaOwenandNoah]

Wdym? She's one of the most chill people on youtube

[@TotalDramaOwenandNoah]

oh no it's one of those feminists who hype up everything a girl does- no offense or anything, but please calm down. I agree she inspires us and definatley she makes me believe in myself, but why are you making her sound like a Diva XD that's the real question

[@am13007]

@@TotalDramaOwenandNoah what do you mean make her sound like a diva lmao when did I do that

[@TotalDramaOwenandNoah]

@@am13007 sorry, just the way you describe her lol

[@samiraansari5686]

@@TotalDramaOwenandNoah Think that‘s your personal interpretation rather than what they wrote buddy😅 Didn‘t sound like that to me at all.

[@gunjanmehbubani8157]

DO IT! DO IT! DO IT! WE NEED THAT PARTY VEE!!!

[@naangokainge]

"Going through heartbreak about a relationship that doesn't exist" 😭😭 100% relatable 🥲✋🏾😔

[@itsloveandsybo8110]

Very😂🤲

[@takudzwam]

I felt thattttt🤣

[@denisemendoza507]

Story of my life

[@saminajackson7295]

Have a graduation party Vee, celebrate that phase of your life, even if it's belated, celebrate yourself! Because you're amazing. I got chills when you were talking about how you're transitioning from feeling like a child to embracing your womanhood, becoming a woman, you're absolutely blossoming and it's a pleasure to be watching your incredible life journey.

[@TotalDramaOwenandNoah]

And my day's gotten better again. Vee's a legend in the making.

[@charmionbrown1202]

Sister girrrrrrrrrl, the guys I'm attracted to normally don't know that I like them either or even worse... they don't know I exist😭😭 major heartbreak and they don't even know it.

[@beleme9252]

Girl, you should definitely have a party . Like you said , it should be like a wedding . Because it is a HUGE achievement, it is something you did for yourself and for your future so is a great act of love to yourself , so why not celebrate at large ? . Also I just wanted to say I’ve been watching your videos for a couple of months now and it is sooo motivating and inspiring . I am a 35 years old Argentinian woman who just now is starting to see the rewards of self love, hard work and consistency and I LOVE IT. Thanks to channels like yours I was able to keep pushing on days when I didn’t feel like it . Still have a long way to go but I love my life now and just wanted to say thank you , I guess . Sorry for the long long comment . You rock ! Cheers!

[@LivingLight]

It's you saying you are "marrying your books" for me. Get it girl and YES YES YES...Do that mini wedding. Celebrate this milestone Vee. You are an inspiration truly...

[@chipotlecharm9013]

YESSSS!! Marry the books girl, you deserve it! Go all out and live your dreams Veeee! So happy for you! ♥️

[@gracie2670]

5:56 😭🤚 marrying my books lollll, but I think you should! FOUR YEARS OF HARD WORK!! You deserve it👍😭

[@shakattackkkk]

Girl, SHOW OUT. Celebrate yourself & all your accomplishments.

[@user-mn7nk5iw5d]

Please have the party. You really deserve it!!! Many people are very proud of you and you need to have a break and just party your heart out!

[@Katie-rg3if]

vee your skin is glowing oh my godddd!!

[@alenalim1479]

absolutely loving your content since i discovered your channel a couple days ago. your mindset is incredibly strong and i am so impressed w how far you've come since two years ago! wishing you all the best in your journey henceforth

[@joonik3618]

Girl, who told you everything doesn't have to be about you?? It's YOUR life, of course everything is about you!! I'll tell you, if I was graduating from Oxford, I'd throw a party every week until the day of graduation. Do whatever makes you happy! Let's have that Oxford graduation party vlog!!!

[@beinghope511]

It's time to celebrate Vee, throw the party!!!!!!!

[@emiliembayi97]

Hey my love, party your education. You deserve it so much. Much love from Germany 🇩🇪❤️

[@Amber-yo8vc]

Vee! Your skin is GLOWINGGGGGG Also have the party, youre only young once. Soon all parties will be about the kids. Live 👏 it 👏 up!

[@DeonnTheProfessional]

Yes girl you better have that part and celebrate your successes!!!

[@angelstar7775]

Have that party after all the work you put into your degree you deserve it

[@aworimarcellah9669]

"Everything is always about you" you said. Sis it should be about you its your story so write it the way you want I say celebrate 😊

[@naangokainge]

Have the PARTY!!! 🥺

[@NosiphoD]

My inspiration🙌🏾👑 Celebrate yourself girl! You’ve worked for it!

[@itsloveandsybo8110]

You already have the PARTY PLANNED ..do ittttt

[@starkamuala]

Do the party!! It's worth itttt. This is absolutely something to celebrate and go all out on.

[@b.smirinova]

Vee, absolutely don't let this party slide!! Honour and celebrate your achievements, you worked SO hard ♡

[@Ms.yellow.nu7]

Do the graduation party let's be extra in life

[@SweetCandy0208]

When it comes to the graduation party I fully understand both points of view. Obviously you should do whatever you want - that’s the most important thing. If I were to give some advice maybe you could figure out whether you’ll have another opportunity to gather everyone that’s close to you and throw a big celebration this year. Because that would definitely create the chance to do so. But maybe there will be other things to celebrate? On the other hand I completely get wanting to do something special for yourself after achieving so much and finishing an incredible university. So if you have the time and finances and want to create another memorable event - go for it!😊

[@leratodiane2308]

Congratulations Vee .I am so happy for you , you really deserve it

[@johnjosephsastrillo4269]

Let's have a party V!! you deserve it!!

[@seikosoko6579]

Can't wait for the book.. Ps do that party girl. Life is too short....

[@tatendametzger6056]

Absolutely celebrate Vee, super proud of you! ♥️

[@assanekaba1549]

Ofc! You should totally be unapologetic about your successes and not be afraid to celebrate/cherish these moments of joy imo! 🤗

[@phaidrasmith8613]

Vee your skinnn!

[@sarah_7251]

if that makes u happy, why not do it! u have worked hard for it

[@jaiyana73]

One Word "Energy" love it Sis 🖤🤎🖤

[@lindokuhlevumazonke5500]

Have the party! 💃🏿💖

[@silvialogan9226]

Vee, you should have the graduation party for earning your degree at Oxford because you have worked so hard and you deserve it, so by all means.

[@harare14]

Awwwww you are so adorable with the heartbreak with a guy that didn’t know about you crushing on him 🥰 So cute

[@Jaydery]

Vee said I’m going through a heartbreak for a relationship that never happened 😹😹😂😹. I’m dead! Did I felt that 😭😭😭

[@Lorea464]

Yes celebrate!!!

[@elenapapoutsi1919]

Girl throw the party and enjoy everything life brings u

[@aaaaaaskdkfn]

MAKE THAT PARTY AND MAKE IT BIIIIGG. ITS BECAUE OF YOUR OXFORD JOURNEY IM WATCHING THIS CHANNEL!

[@hanifamamajonova32]

GO all out girl, you deserve it!!!! AHHH I'm so proud of YOU

[@joseazahares6558]

Plssssss have that graduation party. If you think otherwise I DONT WANNA HEAR IT!!!

[@sharonberhane8]

HAVE THE PARTY!!!!!

[@Lu.Mwaanga]

Girl have that party. You deserve it!!!🍋💛

[@Epiphania]

Girl throw that party. Let no one stop you.

[@nolwandlelembede2055]

ahhhh cant wait to read the book!!

[@aleciaescourse8469]

HAVE YOUR PARTY SIS!!!!

[@PillarMhlekwa]

Throw that party Ma’am!!!💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

[@sanelevilakazi9237]

Yes Vee have another graduation party. You deserve it. You work so hard academics is hard. Go all out.

[@michellechabu4566]

Have the partyyyy!!!! You deserve it Vee💓

[@Am-dz8jt]

Vee you are my soul sister!! I’m having the same issues like sleep schedule , relationship struggles etc so glad to hear I’m not the only one that can thrive in every other aspect of her life except Boys 😂😂 also yes yes yes to the party you deserve it we only have one chance at this life 💜 sending love ❤️

[@louisemcgarry4963]

You should 100% have a party!!! Girl, you worked hard for that degree, you deserve a huge party!!!! Work hard, party harder!!!!!

[@tarieee_]

Have your party Vee it will be absolutely amazing!!

[@hlengiwehlatshwayo8667]

the glits and glam winter wander land idea is a go

[@santiagovazquez1167]

Some opportunities rarely arrive. Chose what’s best in your perspective, do YOU feel proud, covered in happiness, joy, and emotion when you think about your degree GO FOR it!! Otherwise don’t!!

[@Shaninxq]

hey gurl , you really need a party !!! go for it because you deserve it ❤

[@aworimarcellah9669]

I say have the party girllll. It's an huge achievement in your life so celebrate it big😊. It should be black tie mixed with winter wonderland because Great Gatsby needs to be a theme of its own

[@kundaigogoma9420]

Askana!!! ita zve mafaro!!! have the party sis Yolo and you worked VERY HARD to be where you are. you need to celebrate with your loved ones, I regret not being able to attend my graduation party with my friends. Please do it hey❤️❤️💯

[@phumelelemayeni2185]

I absolutely love this for you! I wish you all the best sis

[@sahar-dx1qu]

LMFAO IM LAUGHING SM AT THE PART AB BOYSSS vee you’re so inspiring and bright!! Also DO that party. You sound so hyped about it - would anyone really be able to talk 4 minutes about some party if they didn’t want to have it?? R u crazy girl!!! Anyway keep being amazing. So proud of you. Xxx

[@bolter2203]

I can feel you so bad on the part with the graduation ceremony! I got my bachelors degree right at the beginning of covid last year and there was nothing (Germany university). No ceremony, no handing over the certificate in any way just receiving it via post. It was kind of devastating considering I worked my ass of to get the degree just to receive a paper without being like congratulated by the university/faculty? Hence why i want a ceremony so bad for my masters when I'm done because we deserve to get some praise for our hard work.

[@danicacharles3701]

Hey, Congradulations. I seriously think you should. Every success must be celebrated whether big or small. Go for it. God bless. ❤❤❤

[@t.3484]

hmmmm maybe do a big book release celebration and mix it with your graduation celebration? Then go all out! Something big something dramatic like make it the celebration of the year 😩❤️

[@LittleSoul1999]

I think you should have the party!!! I just graduated from undergraduate and I believe that having that party is a way for you to finally close that chapter❤ that opportunity is very rare so yes celebrate to life!!❤

[@lofentsemoema3016]

Girl have that party!!!

[@bennylaurel8770]

Definitely have the party!!!

[@hlengiwehlatshwayo8667]

And Vee thank you for posting the full empowered by vee event 😀🙏

[@Silverrsprings]

I loved this!

[@leratomonakedi1915]

You have worked so hard Vee for everything you have achieved today... Have that party,celebrate yourself and enjoy 🌱❤.

[@chongongonga3271]

We love you too Vee❤️

[@stembabe740]

its important to celebrate life and enjoyyyy

[@shaungeorge1090]

Maa girl true that evrything u said especially abt the relationship that never even happend ...🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣ahhhhh just the besttt

[@naomiamakpavboya2962]

Vee is literally me😂😂.. I'm in a relationship with someone who doesn't know😂😂😂... Btw have the Oxford grad party. Life's too short and you deffo deserve this because you work soooo hard. Love ya babe ❤️

[@antonialangner5632]

Do the party Vee !!

[@ractal]

Do the party Vee🥳🥳🥳

[@mmeonboard6088]

Sorry for the heartache Vee, it happens unfortunately. Just tick it as something you have gone through in life. Definitely do the Oxford Graduation Party💃❤. Can you do a life update of your friends, if they are confortable with the idea abput where they are in life

[@shalomuwase6981]

I'm just going to say it: skin is givingggg!!!

[@nei247]

omg i’ve been waiting for this videos

[@emily-wo6jr]

too

[@edithypiafd845]

me too haha

[@kxdii]

Be extra !!! YES have a party 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@marilis12]

You absolutely deserve another 🎉

[@dawnmbulawa3624]

I think you should have another party to celebrate your hard work. I love you.

[@Yennie97]

It sounds like you really want the party! From the sounds of it you've almost mentally planned it out, you should have it :)

[@shalottesam8229]

Vee your lighting is gorgeous what are you using?

[@franziskajellinek]

i totally thin you shoudk do a party! Yes, you already had several parties, but you have achieved SO MUCH you deserve it. If a party makes you happy, you deserve it!!!!!!

[@mrsbsbakes987]

Have the party!!!

[@NyembaTembo]

Everything SHOULD be about you! Celebrate girl!

[@emilylesleymiller]

The love life part... I've been through a very similar situation this year. You're not the only one 😂❤️

[@chongongonga3271]

Yass gal!have that party🎉

[@scarychewinggum]

Yep, have another party - just make sure everyone takes a lateral flow test beforehand

[@abbytrandel4284]

I think you should have a graduation party because this is your achievement.

[@keodt2746]

Have a graduation party hunny🔥🎉, you worked for it You're such and inspiration btw❤️😊

[@shenaatuhaire]

Hey! Love your content 🥰 could you talk about your faith journey ☺️

[@red2anabdella656]

Have a party!!!this is such a big accomplishment how can you let it pass . Some people did not celebrate because of the pandemic. you have such an opportunity and you wanna let it pass!!?