VLOG | Maintenance Court | Giving Up | My Kids Are Back

Hey friends
Welcome to a few days in my life. Hope you enjoy this video

[@anelisahephzibah]

Yazi Amanda, just listening to this clip really just did something within me. Kub’hlungu to listen to the injustices of a father towards his own child. The officer is literally trying to break it down to him to show him how unfair he is towards his own child, not towards you but his OWN! Jesus help us guys.😮 I’m astonished at the depth of selfishness ekule ndoda. Amanda sisi, remain pure at heart. Qhubeka uthande abantwana bakho, uthande umndeni wakho, uthande nabantu. God is going to increase you further as He has shown you. You’re doing incredibly well and I commend you for who you are! Kwande ntombi. We love you❤

[@TheMillennialMom1]

What a beautiful comment Anelisa. Thank you so much 🥹❤️

[@toolietools1316]

Amen❤

[@mahlakogalane7027]

This comment got me to emotional 1st comment I read b4 I could even watch the vlog🥺🥺🥺. Amanda you are loved genuinely loved mommy❤️🌹.

[@lisasibanda3172]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤You will never lack Mandy. GOD IS FAITHFUL

[@XolzRandomWriting]

OMG I felt this ngoku kungeyoyam 😭💕💖

[@AndiswaMojapelo]

"You can not keep making babies and then say you can't take care of the babies that are already there." There's a special place in heaven for this lady. 🙌🏽

[@maikenhamaluba817]

Maintenance officer for president 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@ThabiNyoni]

33:57 you will never say let me give her 200 rand for pizza - YESS MAM

[@tshepisokebotlogetse1675]

From my mouth to GODS ears Amanda you'll be BIG!❤🎉❤❤

[@TheMillennialMom1]

I receive 🥹🥹🥹

[@Lesegoo3753]

Supported

[@khayelihlezulu9188]

So as her angel girls❤

[@prisca2blessedxoli662]

A big Amen to that

[@siphokaziluzipho4197]

This hurts , hurts a lot. A trigger as a single mom. May God always provide for Amanda and her daughters.

[@maikenhamaluba817]

You’ve fought a good fight babe. you’ve done your part, let God do the rest. He’s a pure narcissist and he won’t see peace until your heart is at peace . Let go and Let God Amanda!!!! Watch God do wonders in your life

[@TheMillennialMom1]

🥹🥹 thank you babe ❤❤

[@Thoughtsbyme-ts4jz]

I am proud of the maintenance officer, she really treated you and Milani with respect. Sisi was asking all the questions that needed to be asked, she was fighting for you.

[@ayandamvelase3988]

Period!!!! She told him all about himself and this man still wanted to justify him having more babies while he does not take care of the ones he already has

[@yanelamtati8131]

That Officer is a Mother … God bless her for the role she plays on behalf of all who suffer under these Narcissists🙏🏽

[@abilla_m4222]

Yazi Amanda, I've been watching in silence ever since I subscribed, and today allow me to comment. You are one amazing person who is firm with what you stand by. You have inspired me in so many ways ❤. Sharing your journey was brave and just know I have been supporting you from day one.💐💐

[@melmel5345]

Never forget how amazing you are Amanda. So good to see the girls back home. I am proud of you Amanda. You fought all you could and it is well done. The future holds so much blessings, joy, success, happiness, laughter, wealth, health, love and so much more for you and your family.

[@LethoHali]

It’s EXTREMELY draining dealing with these men!!!! I am also 5 to giving up! I just wanna totally cut ties! Like he never existed. Wish that was possible with someone you share a child with!

[@annamokhema7377]

As a person who doesn't have a child yet, I think the behavior of this guy traumatized me to even be scared to have a kid, cause it's so sad that men have a bad privilege of packing their bags and leave the child to be the responsibility of the mom as if the mother impregnated herself 😢 sending you lots of love and hugs momma❤

[@gailmokwatlo]

I concur, I’m at child- bearing age and I’m so terrified of the possibility of just being left to do it alone with a man like this one.

[@poolingampillay5021]

He is to answer to God

[@Joy25-ce6vz]

But he didn't want the child right from conception, why force him to parent?

[@Siwe_Gama]

I am so proud of you Mandy for fighting for you and your kids , that magistrate was also so understanding. I wish you so much peace and also lots of money and growth in your career ❤ And yes your therapist is right, people treat you the same way you treat yourself so be gentle with yourself and your friends will definitely do the same ❤

[@mamania369]

We love you so much here in Nairobi, Kenya♥️♥️♥️. Watching you at midnight love, but can we talk about the man's audacity, him talking about his other kids at the expense of his other one. So annoying!!

[@Phindihlophe]

There’s one point the judge made and I liked she said “ you cannot keep on making babies and say you can’t take care of the baby that’s already there” bravo 👏🏽👌🏽

[@khatisikhweni6999]

I don't know if this will help anyone but as far as I know, if the baby daddy doesn't pay the maintenance you are able to apply for a garnishee order that is served to the fathers employer and orders the employer to pay the maintenance money to the mother directly from the fathers salary every month so when he gets his salary, maintenance money is already deducted. I am not sure of the process guys please research but I know its possible because it was done to someone at work cause he was not paying maintenance. It is sad that we need to go through so much just to get a person to care about their own flesh and blood. I wish you s much peace Amanda and added strength to continue going💞

[@XolzRandomWriting]

Congratulations on your journey of self discovery. Congratulations on choosing yourself because a better version of you is an even bigger achievement for your girls. Congratulations on being a role model for your girls when it comes to modeling to them that winning doesn't always equate to the traditional number one that we are all used to. You haven't given up but you have basically reached an epiphany of realizing how much you've left yourself behind in the quest of fighting for your precious girls. You haven't lost Amanda, you've just simply turned to the most vital chapter in your life, which is you. You've had to walk through all of this to get yourself where you are in this video. I can't wait to witness your next because you are like an onion at this point, every time a layer of you peels off, an even brighter version of you comes up. It's such an honour to be part of this. Thank you for sharing, thank you for teaching, thank you for your vulnerability, thank you for changing your mind about things you had already decided on (showing its okay to change your mind and not worry about what people will say), thank you for being selfless. Your perfect imperfections are truly a testimony to most of us. You know I love you right? 😘

[@khensybakes]

The maintenance officer is the real MVP 🙌🏽 My baby daddy was paying only the school fees, he found out we were on holiday last week, got jealous and decided that he won’t be paying the fees this term. 😅 I literally take care of EVERYTHING else. I also decided that we’re never speaking again. I won’t be seeking any kind of support. I just focus on increasing my income opportunities and leave the narcissistic hoe-man alone. I love my peace too much. I admire your bravery though. So well done mommy.

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Not him being jealous you’re on holiday 😂😂. Deadbeats are funny

[@louiscanthyshakela88]

His JUST stupid that's it

[@babalwagcweka9616]

That's them mydear.. the more they see you smiling and being happy they think its their lousy maitenance that is making you happy. Bazizibhanxa Yhuu.

[@sindiswampungose9242]

This is inspiring. I thnk i need a holiday with my kids

[@ndulanashandi4465]

So we shouldn’t be going on holidays in fear he will stop paying fees . Please increase your lncome streams , go on those holidays and make sure he gets message that life goes on with or without him playing his financial role in a child’s life.I am done with our black guys and families are quite not even rebuking their brothers and sons ….eish guys.

[@deemashabela9982]

The ending of this video makes me so happy for you Mandy 🥰, cannot wait to witness you step more into your delicate, fragile egg era ❤️❤️. You are such a beautiful person!

[@smangelesibeko9541]

Your videos are truly inspiring. From how you articulate yourself, to how you are able to express your emotions. Super proud of everything you have achieved this year alone. Sending you lots of hugs 🤗 🤗

[@mayacangua]

wow i can so relate to you, went through the same thing with my baby daddy 11 years ago and i just decided to let got and stop fighting. My son is turning 16 this year and God has carried us. I am proud of you hun. Sending love and kisses from me 🥰🥰🥰

[@zakithimhlongo3085]

Arg Mandy 😢 this is my favorite vlog. It feels like a turning point not only for you but for us as a community on this channel. It's the self awareness and the self realisation. It feels and sounds like freedom to be, to express and explore who you genuinely are AND I AM SOOOOO HERE FOR ALL OF THAT🎉🎉🎉. This is beautiful. Thank you for documenting all of this. Through each phase and each chapter of your life no matter how difficult, sad or happy it is I still learn something. Yabona lena yakho neTherapist ngiyayithanda shem. Encouraging me to start my therapy journey ASAP. Been meaning to ask if you don't mind did you find your therapist through a site? I like that it's online in the comfort of your own home. ❤

[@prudencesimelane6429]

You don't have to be a mom to feel all the emotions that you are currently going through. I am breaking for you and your Princess as I'm watching this. Bless the prosecutor for telling him as it is. We love you Siswam and kutolunga ngegama likaJesu.

[@faithsibisi9988]

Oh Amanda 💔💔💔😭😭😭 I literally cried hearing you tell the maintenance office that you're tired 😭😭😭😭💔💔💔 fighting with deadbeats is a different kind of battle 😭😭😭😭 different kind of exhaustion 😭😭😭😭 currently in my place of tired. I'm so tired 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 Just want to say thank you for sharing your story 🥺 thank you for giving some of us something to relate to. Not because it fixes any of our problems but it makes you feel like at least I'm not alone. There is some comfort in that. God is going to bless you abundantly Amanda ❤️ God is going to bless you and your children.

[@nosisekodidi3111]

Same. I cried real tears 💔💔

[@ursulamasinga274]

Manje mina ngikhalelani?😭

[@axabmas]

Amanda my lady, I am also on the same boat, mine is as worse as they comes. Having a "you can't touch me" attitude and the courts are entertaining it. He hasn't paid child support for the last 6 months. I know what you are going through and I am glad you came out a victor in this fight. Men are just the same, SA are Nam🇳🇦, same WhatsApp group 🥴.

[@zeeSokhela]

I’m so triggered! I also gave up coz dealing with a narcissist deadbeat is not what I wanted for myself this year. Kudos to you mommy ❤

[@thutonnena3092]

You'd think that these narcissists were born of the same person. 😢😢😢😢

[@lungilekale2042]

OUR FAVE!!!!! thank you for this great good night send off❤❤❤we love you and them babies keep your head up and just do your best as always💛❤

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Thank you baby 🥹🥹🥹

[@lungilekale2042]

bravery comes packed in letting go at times ❤well-done on this egg era and when you ready to drag if it happens we going to support 😂

[@LindaMary]

I'm soooo proud of you Amanda you have no idea. You've done what most of us don't have the strength to do. You've fought for your children mama and I can't wait to see you discover who you are and enjoy life fully. Listening to that court clip was so engligtening. It's something personal that you didn't have to share but you've helped a lot of people by doing that. Thank you.

[@sibongiseninojoko4364]

“Firstly, it’s him talking about his other children 💔 Unemployed wife” The Privilege Hayiniiiiiiiiiiiii🤧💔 There’s this English I wish I could Klaap out of him! Im so proud of you Sisi Mandy. Yhoooo May God Bless you and your children 🥹Thank you for sharing

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Thank you so much my babe ❤❤

[@Eviste07]

Maaan that English is going to waste man realy....😂😂😂only if it was raised in his child school meeting or something productive...

[@_claudia]

you’re such a healer 🥹🥹 your use of words is so liberating!!!!

[@LindaMary]

I'm so happy you're getting brands that value you and it's not a push and pull when it comes to payment ❤️

[@rudymasilela711]

Why do women have to go through such pain. Men they want to be pushed to support their kids. Ayi mani bayadina laba.

[@maureenskinuthia]

Love you Amanda you are a strong woman ❤❤❤❤❤from 🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪🇰🇪

[@vhahangwelenekhavhambe8088]

Stay strong for your children. You are doing better than you think mommy. You are a great mommy and a fighter for your children. I cannot even imagine what you are going through. The environment that you've created for your girls is amazing..❤❤

[@kutalabam]

This vlog was interesting, think I learnt all I needed to offload my misunderstanding of people who don't take time in my life, family, socially and economically at work that is, the deadbeat, thanks Amanda for making me feel normal. Because with this 1vlog I understand me and how and why people treat me the way they do, I'm not mbokodo, I fought because I have to and it will be nice to have someone fight for me except having a husband or man in my life, and people take a closer look and see me, not no you can't cry at work or socially what will people cause their perceptions of you is this not that. Thanks Amanda I think you cured me, by being you and there's nothing wrong with you people say, so I'm good, hopefully my last comment in your vlogs ever, good luck to 100K dear I pray before the year ends, keep on healing others😊✌🏾

[@TshegoMalakaje]

As we enter into your iqanda and answered prayers era😂❤ kere Modimo ki oo Had to quote few lines from this song may His favor be upon you And a thousand generations And your family and your children And their children, and their children May His presence go before you And behind you, and beside you All around you, and within you He is with you, He is with you In the morning, in the evening In your coming, and your going In your weeping, and rejoicing He is for you, He is for you He is for you, He is for you❤

[@bongigarane4399]

God always shows up and shows off cc. Enjoy this season. May more brands approach you, and things overflow financially for u

[@sethugumede]

This whole video made me so emotional ! Amanda thank you for your vulnerability, it is so healing. And watching your healing journey is so liberating. I am so in Love with your heart, your essense 👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽👌🏽 THANK YOU!

[@ZeeSanGo]

Shu! What a journey it has been. Well done! It may not be all you wanted it to be but it sure inspired lots of women. Your fight was what was needed for this time, for your kids and all those you touched. Regret nothing, take lessons and move forward. I think you're an egg 😅 but eggs can withstand boiling water too man. It's all you, the strength and the gentleness. Sometimes you just need the other more than the other and this past journey needed a boiled egg 😂😂😂. Be soft now, you deserve that too ❤

[@ndimpiwetabata930]

God has seen your tears and heard your cries and he'll answer you soon enough sis wam don't lose hope. Your kids are blessed to have you as a mother ❤❤stay strong standwa sam ❤ kuzolunga my love❤

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Thank you so much 🥹🥹🥹

[@Batsithegreat]

That maintenance officer is a LEGEND!

[@valsweety__]

I really can’t relate to what you’ve been going through in regards to the maintenance issue, but ever since I started watching you last year I’m hooked I couldn’t even imagine missing your vlogs, I absolutely love you. ❤❤my forever favorite vlogger. I see you growing and progressing really well .I love you all the way from Namibia 🇳🇦.Keep shining honey ❤

[@vinoliaseraseng9846]

The clip and today's vlog left me in tears and to think that I'm facing the same thing but just the emotional part of it exhaust me my son is 5yrs old and I'm going thru the hardest time 😭💔I LOVE U SO MUCH MANDY❤️

[@DearLisa]

Don’t stop fighting okay, these men want exactly that for women to give up. Take it as God gives the hardest battles to his strongest soldiers. This too shall pass and we’re all here for you 🤗

[@nqobilengubane4207]

A mother who is a ride or die for her kids and that’s why I love you 🥺🥺❤️❤️

[@NoNameChannel677]

It's Alwande picking you up while huging you for me...😂😂.. you doi g great mommy❤

[@minenhlemaphanga9548]

This man basically said he can't compromise his sons expenses for Milani. I did not hear you mentioning Alwande, why is he mentioning all his kids each time Milani is involved. This is about Milani sir, ukuthi you are expecting another child is not Milani's business.

[@Neo-Angela-Mashike]

Am glad Mama was there kodwa through all of this, the timing was actually perfect and also glad that you are in therapy, you are going to be alright sisi. Love and Light.

[@babalwamanci8151]

I guess I’m the only one watching at this time😂 Pupupuuuuuuuu🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@aveladywili]

Silapha nathi dzaling😅

[@friedanepaya7375]

We are within 😊

[@christinemaina5618]

We are here

[@ursulamasinga274]

Spoke too soon 🤣🤣

[@Hlengiwe0717]

We here hun

[@ThandieLesufi]

yoooooooooooooooooh guys this is so emotional, the pain in Amanda's voice in that courtroom got me seriously teary.... you are such a very strong woman sisi, God got your back... im lost of words..... i pray upon your happiness.. before sunrise kumnyama (night) so trust and believe that great things are coming your way, for all this pain you feeling, happiness & blessings will be 10 times greater, i seriously cannot wait for a time you come here and share the great news.. strength to you sisi

[@wezekabeja6379]

I felt that too😭

[@gailmokwatlo]

I have watched you since late last year and you became a huge part of my everyday, watching all your past videos. Seeing this whole process and your journey, has helped me understand my mom better. It’s not easy parenting alone but today I’m heartbroken- hearing someone give those justifications as a father just made me cry for the 1st time since I bumped onto your channel. I’m sorry Amanda🤍

[@noziphomotha1796]

Why do I always cry watching your vlogs🥹 ohhh my goodness you love your kids so much 😭 ohhh Mandy God bless you ❤️❤️

[@therealkamogelom]

Yhoo listening to the clip Mandy😢😢 his reasons are just wack for me I felt like he was indirectly saying "I need to make sure my kids at home are fine this one we will see" 😢 you doing a great job filing in the gaps hey, I have been through the most aswell and alot of people just box me and say "kamo is strong " 🤷‍♀️at some point am even holding back to ask for help bcos am seen as a strong person You are beautiful and love you..

[@sibongiseninojoko4364]

Jonga , that same school narrative he’s trying to push!! Hayini😭💔 🤧Sickening

[@Koketsomoraka_]

😭😭💔💔

[@malobamahlatse6709]

10 past 4 phoooooooo! Mandy blessed us with yet another vlog❤ Thank u for sharing the maintenance proceedings with us.. after this I respect u so much xam u are a strong woman.

[@runzoh_nkon]

35:00 that maintenance officer.... She told him facts.

[@ThobileNdimande-db7tv]

I'm so sorry Amanda, hope you pull through,Thank you for your story and you really triggerd me on the part of who are you outside the trauma.Yhooo! It hit home girl eish! I suffer from the same thing I've been the face of imbokodo in my friend group and entire family it's not nice. If you don't mind sharing your therapist please let me know if you can with her contacts.❤2023 is for healing for sure

[@christinenkatha1309]

Mama Milani❤ It is time for your soft life era❤ You are such a sweet soul. May life be kind and sweet towards you from now henceforth. Amen. Lots of love from Kenya

[@AndiswaMojapelo]

And you’ve fulfilled this purpose to the best of your ability, Mandy now watch God step in and show off in ways you won't even believe!! ❤

[@toolietools1316]

That's what I been sayin in my heart. She is becoming a big name and that has already begun.

[@minenhlemaphumulo-ju5fl]

Im soo proud of u makaWaw..i went thru the same thing with my own father for 3 years kwaze kwafika la esiphika khona with my siblings wafuna iDNA test for all of us..The court case was soo bad that waze waBriber the Maintenance offer ukuthi amaResults aphume abe Negative but that didn't work out for him and that just made him extremely angry ngoba the system was on our side....the last year of the case it got soo bad that kwakufanele size sibalekiswe angasazi nokuthi sikuphi becos of death threats nokuthunyelwa ngenkabi every single day..that's when we woke up sathi we are done..we were done fyting ngoba this journey is very draining emotionally..mind u we only wanted R1000 each wathi yena no he can only afford R500 for us to share..the nerve..and he only paid loyoR500 for only 3 months wayeka waze wayeka ngisho umsebenzi ngoba engafuni ukondla but ke all is forgiven nd we move

[@siyanjobe]

I love you, you're a God sent. Let me cry and sleep. I will comment properly again tomorrow. To soft landing ♥️♥️

[@priscamwendabai1447]

Eish Mandy listening to this has made me cry so hard… Look I respected you before but now??? My level of respect for you has tripled. You’re doing well Mama, God is watching and he will provide for you and the kids. DB can keep his money, his reward for this injustice towards his own daughter is coming, Bet! You’re in my prayers, keep strong for your lovely daughters 🤍

[@kareenlebogangbanda5345]

So proud of u, Mandy!! This vlog made me cry so much that recording was so painful, but I'm glad u were able to go through this whole process. U are such an amazing mommy,may the good Lord keep on blessing. I love ur mom she is just like my mom she's so supportive. Love u all❤

[@vanessawambui59]

First on the comment section today and first to like it ❤❤❤❤. Sending you flowers 🌹🌹🌹 you are a good mom and a beautiful lady

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Thank you so much love ❤

[@vanessawambui59]

I have been following since you started going to the court with this guy...but you deserve the rest. The things women go through,and you still think it's the woman who wants the money and it's your kids who will be benefiting.

[@TheMillennialMom1]

I appreciate this so much my love. Thank you ❤❤

[@Mokgadi_masedi]

Every time milani comes back from Durban she looks different man❤❤❤❤❤

[@DiamondQuality1]

He is the devil😈....mxwii I'm angry. We thank God for that maintenance officer

[@nosisekodidi3111]

I’ve always known I didn’t want a child out of wedlock cause a lot of these men are so flimsy and the knight and shining armour you once knew shows you their disgusting true colours once you have a baby THEY helped make 💔. I’m 29 and always hear people asking me when am I having kids; it’s annoying I won’t lie 🙄. This puts things into perspective. Thank you so much for being vulnerable and sharing Amanda. Praying for all the women going through this and please take a lesson ladies. No matter how much you love him; double up on that birth control until he makes some sort of commitment to you because men ain’t 💩

[@Eviste07]

God have seen your tears and the struggle the DB put your through. He is just doing it in a way that you don't have to suffer anymore ❤❤ God is working through these companies

[@TheMillennialMom1]

🥹🥹🥹🥹❤️❤️❤️

[@kemoabetswesenokoane3228]

Yhoooooo Mandy ❤❤,that clip at the maintenance court was so cringe😭😭😭.It’s the fact that he doesn’t care a damn .I also think there is not caring ,then there’s THAT😢 He stood his ground with baseless things and just tried to inconvenience you by suggesting impossible things .The maintenance officer was spitting facts and he still did not back down sies ….Modimo agofe matla ngwana batho .🙏🏼🌻

[@Lelawes]

Hy gal, just know that you're a great woman, it's takes a fake human being argue over his own daughter's upkeep, he made it happen, he now has the audicity to deny his child the right to stay happy in this world. He will one day see this little soul and regret, take over step up and trust the process, God is your protector, provider, shelter and everything, may you never luck, God be with you. Hugs..hugs.. gal.

[@mbalenhlegumede6964]

All the best with the self discovery. You are amazing.

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Thank you Mbali 🥹🥹

[@nthabisenghalahala3979]

Loved the last part the most ❤❤❤ the excitement that comes with you realising that you are more bigger than all of this 😊& now you going to operate on a level of your soft girl eraaaaaaaa🎉

[@zimasanqoko9239]

Yho awumhle for all this...but we gon' be alright sis. God bless you and your kids. Much love sis ♥️

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Ndimhle for le kaka 😂😂😂😂. Lol thank you babe ❤❤

[@leratobela5621]

Eish cc angazi your strength, you are dealing with a childish idiot nje. Kodwa yazini kuzomfica....

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Kuzomfica babe ❤

[@teyamkhonza7439]

Yaze yangikhalisa ivideo emsebenzini. Listening to that clip broke my heart for you and Milani. Kodwa ke uNkulunkulu wobaba mkhulu bakho will never forsake you sisi. Your children will always have in abundance. Angeke niswele. INkosi ikhanyisele ubuso bayo phezu kwakho ibe nomusa kuwe ❤️

[@haileytanaka]

Notification gang ❤💃...it's the consistency for me

[@johannamanchu]

haven't been for ages, today i will be binge watching the videos, i pray to get brands that works like that unlike the once that takes advantage of us, hai some brands yohhh. you have fought this for ur kids, you did great and i shed a tear when u start saying u are done, the officer was so clear and that man is full of himself, its as if the baby is not his, so ena he will only satisfy the ones in his household. yohhh Amanda.

[@mfundisozuma5810]

I genuinely can’t believe this is a real person speaking there in court.

[@asanelemtsana258]

The audacity, the confidence .....it's funny how angry I feel 🥺

[@sibongisenisakhele3114]

Narcissists have human parts but they don't function like a normal human being does. Unfortunately, they are sick in many ways. There is no cure. Only can try get help to manage the illness.

[@conversationswithfaith3697]

Manda😊 sis your giving some therapy sessions through yours😊 thank you so much❤ I can never get tired of you because you're showing us that in this world of God we go through phases and those phases are there to teach us lessons for a reason, as painful as that is😢 we will over come there. I am excited with you to see the next person that you will become, I knew that there are mother like me out there but you just put a stamp to it that listen girlies we are more hungry for change and a better us... Love you soo much 😢 you're like a sister I never had

[@emmaculate_gee9819]

My data is not gonna make it till the end of the vlog 😢😢😢😢 but you know what its okay.I will sleep after this . ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Astridah_M]

This was beautiful Mandy, thank you for sharing yourself and like always speaking your mind

[@melmel5345]

Hey Mandy I have been waiting on you from this morning and kept checking. I really hope all is in your favor. Ok let me watch the video. Wow I wake up not feeling well in my spirit and was just telling myself the same thing that I am just tired of fighting and feel like to hand my daughter's father over to God especially with his behavior even removing himself from her life recently and saying he doesn't want his family contacting our daugther so to hear you say you are tired Amanda I soooo understand. Our daugther is so young, 3 years old, I just pray she will be okay since this is how he and his family choose to show up towards her and I pray your girls and you will be okay too.

[@thatoM3]

Ahh mama😢. I was raised by a single mom, my dad was wealthy and did the bare minimum. But friend I turned out alright, I forgave and my mother is a queen. You are a queen. I agree let it go. It brings peace my mother had peace by not expecting more. She is bitter but she is an amazing women. It will all work out my ❤

[@gardeningwithbettyk8840]

I always have heart attacks when I see you buying things I have in my garden 😅😅😅😅

[@derickmabala5818]

Listen! Don't give up , don't leave them alone completely, I'll say take a break but strike again they deserve No peace #i love you ❤️

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Let’s give it 5 years 😂😂. Will strike again

[@derickmabala5818]

@@TheMillennialMom1 ha.a mntase 2 years ke 😉

[@ditebogollale7220]

Yohhhh ka tla ka lla lang kutlwa… what a video … thank you for being so vulnerable with us on this journey…

[@monicamashiloane399]

7:03 who chopped the onions 🥹 it’s the excitement for me ❤

[@Eviste07]

I chopped and went back just to replay that part...sweet emotions❤❤❤

[@jainelangat]

This vlog took me miles away, you do something that some mom's are unable to do. Myself I figured if I started the back and forth with my baby daddies I would never be in a position to know who I am, esp realising you are dealing with a narcissistic person who wants to see you suffer and them thriving in your pain. Glad you have taken the step to let people see the other side of you,besides being strong, there is peace and discovery in letting things be Much love mamaa

[@kgosigadi1379]

Love the make up and the hair chile .you're so gorgeous 😍

[@unathikave548]

It is better to verbalize how you feel, I think people close to us think saying you're strong is a compliment but no one wants to hear that all the time. I have taken to telling my friends I am not strong circumstances dictate that I do things that are necessary for survival and self-preservation because in my circle its become a norm to say Unathi is strong which ends up putting me at a disadvantage because I need support but because of the title you're strong I don't get it. it's actually hurtful because I have gone through a lot by myself because of that. Thank you for saying what you said.

[@nonkolo_faith]

You are SUCH an amazing mom... such an unshakeable mountain, I cannot believe how normal this BS has become to women, to be SO STRONG!!! Men (not all) will forever be trash!! I wish nothing but LOVE and financial overflow for you and your beautiful daughters! You are going to be alright!

[@ndulanashandi4465]

About to start this process for one man who I have two children with . I am pretty good economically but just want to teach him some responsibility too . I love her bravery

[@TheMillennialMom1]

Yep. This was the case for me mommy. I can def afford my kids but it was to teach a lesson. All the best if you do start the process ❤❤

[@filwe_a]

Even to us who might not be in the same situation we are able to relate and be affirmed and empowered but remembering to be soft with ourselves ❤

[@KabeloMokhine]

I love the positivity and how you love your children, the trauma of maintenance its alot. Lots of love & hugs❤

[@BeccaMojapelo]

The maintenance clip 😭😭. Love and light to you and your babies Mandy, God will provide.

[@solorizzy8689]

It's so unfair how the father get to basically pick which child he wants to take care of. My son's father tells me he has his own life to live. We woman have to fill in the gaps that these fathers create. One thing Amanda God will never forsake a single mom. Some how your blessings will keep rolling in and he will have to pay in this life or the next for his actions.

[@Lethu_Sereme]

You know wot!? I applaud you for your boldness my love whatever the out come but you did it. Ngithanda the way usukumela iingane zakhò ngakhona and whenever you get emotional i shed a tear too, im a single mother too Mandy going through the most and i feel your pain of disappointment. How you never wanted things to turn out this way, all i can say your strength cometh from the Lord darl wena keep on walking till you finish your race. Lezinto sizithola la emhlabeni sozishiya khona la ... just serve those lil ones finish and klaar. #we need a seminar for women [ single and married ] aniyi organizeni with Lu. ❤❤😊

[@sina4628]

Sending you love and hugs I'm sorry that we didn't realize how much we were taking from your cup that we didn't fill it back with kinds words, I felt your tiredness through this video and I'm glad you're now about to find out who's Amanda and we here cheering ke Sisi one thing I know you very kind may you the kindness be receprocated back 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️We love you

[@bonniekenosi7674]

Wooow!!! I just managed to finish this vlog and I loved it . I’m so happy for you Mandy