Voluntarily Stopping Eating and Drinking

[@Judith-wb3jl]

My mom did this. She gave up during Covid. She was in a nice nursing facility, 92 years old. She had a bad fall, and we could not visit other than through the window. She decided to stop eating and drinking. I brought in Hospice, this allowed us to visit during Covid. We took turns daily, encouraged her to eat, but she refused. She died in about 10 days. It was very peaceful with Hospice.

[@dimpsthealien333]

Oh, interesting. So my mom is on hospice and I'm putting her in Assisted Living because I can no longer care for her as it's 24/7. But I worry if "they" bring covid back and she gets locked down, I won't be able to see her. So if she's on hospice, we can???

[@Duckster183]

@@dimpsthealien333 yes I have head that’s true.

[@Grammapama]

I’m so sorry your mom felt this. You have been through a difficult experience and my heart goes out to you.

[@Chasing72]

I wish I’d known this @judith-wb3jl My mom also fell and was in a nursing home setting during covid. She couldn’t have visitors and there’s no way the staff could spend the time she needed. I think she just thought to herself, “No one’s coming to visit, so I think I’ll just check on out…”

[@dimpsthealien333]

@@Chasing72 that is so sad. I'm so sorry.

[@clydekeys1243]

As a retired family medicine doctor, I have supported this profound concept to be socially accepted for years. It is not suicide. It is not a rash momentary impulse. It will require all of the power and courage of your beautiful soul to carry the deed forward. Ask your Creator to assist you to enact your determined will and you shall be assisted.

[@leejohnstone3283]

My brother had inoperable and aggressive bladder cancer. Within 3 years he was riddled with it through his bones , just everywhere. In Australia he chose to say enough and invoked his right to die by not eating and drinking and with medical intervention. Sad for us but he was exhausted. He went peacefully 3 days later 😢

[@jadranova9711]

I feel sorry for you family. Hope you're okay with it now

[@romanastrasheim5226]

😢So sorry ...strongs.❤

[@kenw2685]

Julie you are awesome. I'm 70 and IF I would ever need a hospice nurse I would hope they would be an ANGEL like you!

[@michelelindseth8250]

I have a debilitating chronic neurological condition that has lasted over 30 years. My eyesight is very bad, as is my hearing, swallowing, and digestion issues. This is the late stages of my disease,, loss of cognitive skills and even dementis. When the nerves in my cardio, area die, i will die. Until then, i want to eat ice cream.

[@Missy-ql3us]

Bless you! Do you have Multiple Sclerosis like me?

[@horseladyjane4321]

Oh my lands! I was just thinking that I couldn't give up my ice cream and how much longer would it take to pass. I realized ice cream is worth living for....no joke.

[@wejoin]

@@horseladyjane4321😂 It is!!

[@wejoin]

It’s all my 91-year-old mom wants to eat - homemade ice cream

[@Rani-gr8yi]

@@michelelindseth8250 Enjoy your favorite ice cream 💜 When I get clarity as closer to my time, I am going to have ice cream and pie.

[@jamiestanley9234]

I didn’t realize this was something that could be done with medical professionals involved. Thanks for always sharing your knowledge!

[@chuck1728]

My grandmother did this. Our family doc was involved and was not supportive but he was very good, clinical and practical. My mother was not a fan to say the least. My feeling was and still is that my gram knew her body better than I and I just kissed her and said I support you in all things. She looked me straight in the eye and with whatever breath she had told me to go home. I always did what my grandmother told me!

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you for sharing 💕💕💕💕💕

[@LaLadybug2011]

She didn't want to pass in front of you. She must have been very close to you!

[@britty23]

@@chuck1728 I'm glad your grandmother had support from you in the end. Our body's know when it is our time to go. We have to honor them and respect the dying person's wishes. I'm sure she appreciated that.

[@TravisMcMurray]

My grandmother died this way. It took at least two weeks. She had advanced dementia, but had already documented that she would refuse involuntary feeding and liquids. It’s appalling to me that this was her only option. Death with Dignity should be legal in all 50 states!

[@Rani-gr8yi]

@@TravisMcMurray It is sad and appalling your Grandmother did not have options,but one. They could be more generous with rights in states that do have rights for exhausted sick people. Especially those with dementia. They been through enough. How to change the restrictions?

[@elizabethforsyth3054]

I agree, appalling.... If you don't have life insurance you are worried about then I would rather just end my life... dying of dehydration... shocking

[@kellyyork3898]

I agree. You shouldn’t have to starve yourself to die when you are at peace with the decision to stop your life. Ridiculous.

[@lisalapoint7022]

In end stage dementia it is common for people to not be able to comfortably or safely swallow food or drink. Elderly people with terminal illness shut down as a natural course. This is not the same as a person who can still digest food and drink and walk around mostly asymptomatic, and then have the legal right to kill themselves.

[@carolmartin4413]

This seems so sad...but when chronic pain consumes your life and you have nothing better in your future...end of this life becomes a blessing.

[@hospicenursejulie]

💕💕💕💕

[@coolmoon4382]

My mom when her physical pain got so bad. And, me when my physical pain got so bad..

[@EC-yd9yv]

Absolutely 🙏✨

[@kristensorensen2219]

I knew a frail gentleman back in the early 80's who was finishing his last manuscript. He was an author. This was his final goal and he was in his mid 90's with very little quality of life remaining. He chose to do this before it had a acronym. Hospice was very new to terminal disease care. He died within a few days after making his decision to stop food and water. I was only 25 at that time and understand why he chose this. Thanks Julie.

[@AngusHenry09]

My daddy begged me to help him not be here anymore, I couldn't. We called in Hospice, signed the papers but he passed that night. I truly believe people know when it's time.

[@qt4516]

I’m glad you didn’t. See we don’t know what happens in there last moments .i believe whilst there is breath there is hope. Hope in knowing Jesus Christ repenting and being forgiving for our sins. My partner was dying of cancer weeks before he died he said he heard Angels he didn’t believe really. My point is in those last moment who knows if an angel May visit the dying person. So my question to you is If you died today will you go to heaven? Here is how you can know. There will be a time that we will all face Gods judgement. God is righteous and Holy and we are all sinners. In a court of Law if you commit a crime and you was found guilty you will be punished and be sent to jail. Gods prison is Hell and because we are all sinners we will be found guilty. The 10 commandments is where we see if you have committed any sin’s or not. Have you ever lied? Have you lust over someone? Have you ever taken something that was not yours? Have you ever said omg or used Jesus Christ name as a curse word ? These are only 4 of Gods commandments and if you have said yes to any of these questions I’m not judging you but on judgement day God will judge you and will find you guilty for these sins and will be sent to eternal punishment. The good news is Jesus Christ came and paid the price for your sins He took the punishment we deserve . He died on the cross and If you believe in your heart that Jesus died and was raised on the third day and repent and ask in prayer for forgiveness of your sins you will be saved. Which means on judgement day because you have believed and trusted in Jesus and have faith in Him and have been forgiven,on judgement day God will let you go and you will be saved from going to eternal punishment. Jesus was sacrificed to save you and everybody else because of the love He has for us John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. The gospel is not God hatefully saying turn to me or I'll send you to Hell the gospel is God's mercy and Grace saying you're already on your way to Hell turn to me and I’ll save you. Romans 10: 9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. Download the gate way bible app and read the gospel of John and you can learn how Jesus came to save you. Please watch a video called ,JESUS saved me from HELL 🔥!! ⚠️ Warning! Powerful Testimony Channel is called: M A N N A Please watch a video called. Let's Talk About the Afterlife - 6 Things the Unsaved Discover at Death - The Rich Man & Lazarus Channel is called. A&Q Productions.

[@texasoutlook60]

When my mom was placed on hospice being a nurse did this on her own. Their was no big announcement or discussion she just refused to eat or drink. Her pain was managed and she died a week later, peacefully at home.

[@franneep]

Gosh Julie. What did we ever do without you except be afraid. Thank you for everything and advocating for we humans!

[@RobinaBarrie]

This has given me hope because I don’t see it as suicide. It gives me control over my existence. Thank you ❤

[@qt4516]

There is always hope never give up in life. There is hope in Jesus Christ. Did you know that God really loves you and wants a relationship with you. There will be a time that we will all face Gods judgement. God is righteous and Holy and we are all sinners. In a court of Law if you commit a crime and you was found guilty you will be punished and be sent to jail. Gods prison is Hell and because we are all sinners we will be found guilty. The 10 commandments is where we see if you have committed any sin’s or not. Have you ever lied? Have you lust over someone? Have you ever taken something that was not yours? Have you ever said omg or used Jesus Christ name as a curse word ? These are only 4 of Gods commandments and if you have said yes to any of these questions I’m not judging you but on judgement day God will judge you and will find you guilty for these sins and will be sent to eternal punishment. The good news is Jesus Christ came and paid the price for your sins He took the punishment we deserve . He died on the cross and If you believe in your heart that Jesus died and was raised on the third day and repent and ask in prayer for forgiveness of your sins you will be saved. Which means on judgement day because you have believed and trusted in Jesus and have faith in Him and have been forgiven,on judgement day God will let you go and you will be saved from going to eternal punishment. Jesus was sacrificed to save you and everybody else because of the love He has for us John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. Romans 10: 9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. The gospel is not God hatefully saying turn to me or I'll send you to Hell the gospel is God's mercy and Grace saying you're already on your way to Hell turn to me and I’ll save you. Download the gate way bible app and read the gospel of John and you can learn how Jesus came to save you. Please watch a video called: JESUS saved me from HELL 🔥!! ⚠️ Warning! Powerful Testimony, Channel is called: M A N N A Please also watch a video called. Let's Talk About the Afterlife - 6 Things the Unsaved Discover at Death - The Rich Man & Lazarus, Channel is called. A&Q Productions

[@foxecarpentress4964]

Sorry, but if you willfully do this to die, even tho God still enables you to eat, then it is the S…… word.

[@RobinaBarrie]

@@foxecarpentress4964 I’m sorry for my comment. I was in a bad place when I wrote it. Thank you for your reply. 🙏

[@debbiescott6732]

You have every right to your opinion. I don't see it as suicide either.

[@mlg445]

​@@foxecarpentress4964 no it's not. Stop speaking for god

[@lindabenny4454]

I was a nurse & have patients who have just done this by themselves. I had a gentleman who had a stroke, it was his second one. It wasn't so bad that he would die if treated, but he refused to eat & drink & have any treatment & had a living will stating this. After speaking with his family he basally just turned over & died. He didn't want to go home, I think he thought family might talk him out of it. He was given medication to make him as comfortable as possible, but it took very little time. He just seemed determined to do it. If I remember rightly if was about 5 days, & very peaceful.

[@Rani-gr8yi]

@@lindabenny4454 Great not a long process. I wonder how much we can do, to facilitate when we go?

[@joycejudd5109]

I think many would be surprised at how many actually have done this....before anyone thought it a "medical procedure".

[@EC-yd9yv]

I heard maybe even in this video, 🤔 that it was a horrible way to go, unless medical assistance involved?!

[@katherineg9396]

I'm an RN and worked with many patients at the end of life, Thank you so much for talking so openly and with so much detail about VSED. Patients and families need to know about and understand this.

[@loriwhalen2321]

My grandma chose this way to pass back in 2014. She had suffered a minor fall one morning, (nothing broken). As a precaution she was taken to the hospital, and the nurses wanted her to get up and walk the halls. My grandma said no, she was tired of living, and had nothing more to live for. She was months away from turning 100. A nurse told her that everyday she chose to not get up and walk, there was less and less chance that she ever would. Long story short, grandma went to a nursing home, where she stopped eating and drinking. Family visited everyday. She did complain of thirst even towards the end. One evening I called the nursing home and they said that no-one was with grandma, so I went over. Turns out that was our last time together. I could tell that she couldn't see, but she could hear. I read some of her favorite Bible scriptures and stayed with her until she passed. I've sadly witnessed a few people who passed in front of me, bu!but I thought that grandma's death was ugly and raw. I believe that she suffered a heart attack just before she passed. I saw a grimace pass over her face. It broke my heart and haunts me to this day. Thank you for your helpful videos Julie. You're an Angel.

[@daryldaryl913]

I feel you are correct that she had a heart attack at this time of passing. I am sorry for your pain.

[@Rani-gr8yi]

@@loriwhalen2321 My very sick dog, I was able to have her, drugged and no more pain. I cried,yet it felt the most comfortable and compassionate choice. Feeling thirsty and uncomfortable should not have to be part of process, when there are better options. Not drinking fluids has side effects. Laws that take away dignity, and rights to chose, outdated and intrusive.

[@loriwhalen2321]

Thank you. My grandma was a stubborn but dear lady. Once she made up her mind about anything, that was it! She was sharp as a tact and physically healthy, but just bored with life.

[@loriwhalen2321]

I agree!

[@immirvine2825]

My mum had cancer. She asked for strong pain relief. She said she will stop eating because she couldn't really swallow. I moisten her mouth by swabbing. She died in 10 days.

[@WickedWildlife]

The fact that death with dignity is illegal in some places, so people are left to starve themselves to death is appalling

[@mjbouchard6611]

This is sad😢for patients go thru starving…

[@tulasipriya]

@@mjbouchard6611 It's not sad. It's a traditional way to voluntarily give up one's life in certain cultures without being violent or abrupt. I heard of a woman in severe pain from cancer who chose to do this. Not only did it hasten her end without trauma, but fasting got rid of her pain. It takes a lot of energy for the body to digest food, and fasting helps reduce that strain. Taking drugs to end life isn't necessarily better. You don't know what effects it can have on your mind. Imagine having some horrible hallucination going on while everyone around you thinks you're peacefully drifting off.

[@Antoineduval159]

very well said if I may say so.

[@Rani-gr8yi]

@@tulasipriya It feels way better to take drugs and know completely done soon, for many. It can be a personal choice, if legalize. Without adding judgements, to other's decisions, that we don't even know. Some prefer to do morphine. Not any one else's business,really.

[@dimpsthealien333]

@@tulasipriya I agree 👍 with you.

[@michele-su6zy]

Wills and estate planning attorney here. Also, nursed both my parents and husband through cancer (my husband passed only three weeks ago - 12 weeks from diagnosis to death). Julie is absolutely right - it is imperative that you get your advance care directive in place as soon as you can. As difficult as it may be, you need to have the difficult conversations as soon as possible - for you and your loved ones.

[@Dayholly86]

I'm so sorry!

[@suem6004]

A dear friend had cancer. She tried that vsed. She stopped eating though allowed herself some fluids. 6 weeks of not eating she had not expired as she had wanted. She was disappointed. So, she stopped. She ate very little mostly smoothies and liquids. About one month later she did pass away. She really had wished our state had death with dignity.

[@Rani-gr8yi]

So much more comfortable and loving for sick ppl to pass in peace and not discomfort of thirst.. eating if can. It is a good option.. MAIDS is kinder and more comfortable.

[@Mel-zl4hs]

​@@Rani-gr8yiwhat is MAIDS ?

[@Rani-gr8yi]

@@Mel-zl4hs A cocktail of drugs that is legal for terminally ill, expected to die, with in 6 months. Not many states have made this compassionate option available. Should be between dr. and patient. Google will give details.

[@rebeccamiller1741]

Relieved that in Canada our M A.I.D programme ..allows for kind euthanasia

[@catlyn777]

If a person really wants to die sooner they should not drink fluids either.

[@sharynmuzik2368]

My 82yo father (late stage of prostate cancer) chose this method and he passed in his own home 14 days later. 😮 His eyes did open briefly with few tears from both eyes when he passed. Hospice care was excellent 😊

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Sharyn, how's your day going with you?

[@Paulohlsson7]

@@sharynmuzik2368 thanks for the thumbs up, how are you spending your spare time?

[@SuperMissblueeyes]

I just want to clarify... Just because there are those of us who wish to go on living with multiple chronic illnesses, it doesn't mean that we want those chronic illnesses. We're just not ready to give up our lives yet. Don't get me wrong, I get why people get to the point where they believe enough is enough. It's just that we would rather live our lives without having to deal with our chronic illnesses, but since we have those chronic illnesses, we still choose to carry on. I have God to live for & I want to see my 4 four beautiful nieces & 2 gorgeous nephews grow up & become amazing people themselves. I'm not ready to give up my life. Yes, I get fed up with it sometimes, but those moments pass. Please don't take this the wrong way. I'm not offended & I don't want to offend anyone else. I just want to educate people, which is what this wonderful channel is all about.

[@loriadams7724]

My thoughts exactly. You aren’t alone. With 2 chronic pain conditions, there’s moments where I wanted to not continue living. But I’m young, and a Mom and a wife. It’s only the grace of God, and by His strength, that I have overcome. That doesn’t mean I am healed. It means that I choose each day to live, and give God the glory that I can. I’m needed, I know this. But boy do I understand. And I empathize.

[@pcnative8225]

My grand was born with heart defects. She had 3 open heart surgeries by 3 yrs old She was suffering from failure to thrive after the 3rd surgery She wouldn't eat or drink The drs told us to take her home to see if her condition improved. It did and now she is 21 She just needed her home environment family and friends to help her get well

[@victoriafinney3043]

I am chronically ill, constantly in pain, and entirely dependant on care. I do not believe in god. I do not believe any loving creator would claim living in such suffering glorifies him. When the time comes this is the choice I've made for myself.

[@pippadot679]

This is the most beautiful comment I've ever read. Also for me the most important. I suffer increasingly bad from many chronic illnesses. I suffer with some unreal fear of dying since 2nd grade.i get scared thinking about it everyday. I was told by my family that my faith was not strong enough then that scared me bad. I had never heard of this method but have heard of the death with dignity stuff. Again making my thoughts race back to God is the reason I'm here he gifted me this life so it would be sinful to ever aid in ending it. Like you I want to please God and live for God so I am in a great state of confusion.

[@kiwioffgrid2437]

Perhaps what is needed is for some of us to look into the cause and expose why so many have terminal/chronic/life altering health conditions. It's my belief that it's not genetic but epigenetic. That is beyond genetics. It's our environments and toxins/chemicalst/pesticides/medications etc hat we have been exposed to throughout our lives causing sky rocketing chronic illnesses, cancers etc.

[@PracticerOfMetta]

The United States medical community and legislators should reevaluate their stance on end-of-life care. Prolonging life should not come at the cost of prolonging suffering. Just as we show mercy to our beloved pets when they are suffering, we should afford humans the same dignity and allow them to depart peacefully. With the aging population and dwindling number of medical professionals, it is essential that we address this issue and prioritize humane end-of-life care.

[@MarksElectricLife]

💯 The law has no business forcing dying people to stay alive.

[@sandracastle-od1lm]

If a person has the ability to choose and follow through with not eating or drinking, in my opinion they should have the choice to qualify for voluntary assisted dying.

[@paulineb66]

I understand the concerns about this, but I agree that people who aren’t going to get better should have this option.

[@Rani-gr8yi]

@@PracticerOfMetta Yes, well said. With unaffordable care, and not all care is good that is available, this does need to be addressed. Hospice is not 24 hour care. Not all have family to care for the other hours of a day. I have seen neglect in so called facilities,that were given credit,as being some of the best. Best as making profit for corporate owners.

[@Rani-gr8yi]

@@MarksElectricLife Absolutely! Just as no force used in expecting all to want this choice.

[@byousroxy]

Wow thank you. I never thought of this as an option. I just love your channel. You are so helpful. Thanks again

[@wildgeese5707]

Omg yay! Thank you for tackling this topic. Everyone in the world needs to know this information!

[@sharaddeo1052]

In India, we have a process called 'Prayopveshan' (प्रायोपवेशन) where an aged person, not necessarily with a serious disease but someone who feels s/he has lived a full life chooses to voluntarily stop eating and drinking. It is not considered as suicide and legal action is not taken. Chhaya Deo

[@shawnamunyer9680]

I have an extreme fear of dying. Julie's videos are calming.

[@aaronmorrill3716]

I watch these videos not because someone close to me is currently dying or in hospice. I deal with an extraordinary amount of trauma from a period of my life when seemingly everyone that mattered to me was dying one after the other. On top of that It started when I was 14 and lasted till my late 20s. Most of the loss was sudden and involved teenagers or people lost long before their natural time. I just wanted to say that your videos are the only relief for my trauma that I've ever genuinely experienced. I'm no longer afraid of my own mortality and feel complete confidence that I will see my loved ones and Friends again. I can't tell you how impactful the work that you do has been on my life. It's changed everything for me. I will support you and the work that you do for all of my days. Oh, I'm a 43 year old man from Phoenix Arizona if anybody's interested in those details lol. Anyways, I don't normally comment and you probably will not read this comment but it felt extraordinarily important that I let you know you have changed my life, forever and for the better. Thank you sincerely from the bottom of my heart.

[@Rebelynn56]

I never should have listened to this video. I am 68, have terrible arthritis in both knees, am morbidly obese, and have depression. I am not very outgoing, and don't go out much. So, can you read my mind? It's good to know that that is a real thing, a real option. I'm not doing anything right now, so don't worry. I will tell my therapist when I see her next. I am NOT suicidal, it's just another tool in my toolbox. Thank you!

[@joanblack6672]

Go on the Carnivore Diet! Research it on YT. Your arthritis pain will disappear in just days and you will easily lose weight!

[@qt4516]

There is always hope never give up in life. There is hope in Jesus Christ. Did you know that God really loves you and wants a relationship with you. There will be a time that we will all face Gods judgement. God is righteous and Holy and we are all sinners. In a court of Law if you commit a crime and you was found guilty you will be punished and be sent to jail. Gods prison is Hell and because we are all sinners we will be found guilty. The 10 commandments is where we see if you have committed any sin’s or not. Have you ever lied? Have you lust over someone? Have you ever taken something that was not yours? Have you ever said omg or used Jesus Christ name as a curse word ? These are only 4 of Gods commandments and if you have said yes to any of these questions I’m not judging you but on judgement day God will judge you and will find you guilty for these sins and will be sent to eternal punishment. The good news is Jesus Christ came and paid the price for your sins He took the punishment we deserve . He died on the cross and If you believe in your heart that Jesus died and was raised on the third day and repent and ask in prayer for forgiveness of your sins you will be saved. Which means on judgement day because you have believed and trusted in Jesus and have faith in Him and have been forgiven,on judgement day God will let you go and you will be saved from going to eternal punishment. Jesus was sacrificed to save you and everybody else because of the love He has for us John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. Romans 10: 9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. The gospel is not God hatefully saying turn to me or I'll send you to Hell the gospel is God's mercy and Grace saying you're already on your way to Hell turn to me and I’ll save you. Download the gate way bible app and read the gospel of John and you can learn how Jesus came to save you. Please watch a video called: JESUS saved me from HELL 🔥!! ⚠️ Warning! Powerful Testimony, Channel is called: M A N N A Please also watch a video called. Let's Talk About the Afterlife - 6 Things the Unsaved Discover at Death - The Rich Man & Lazarus, Channel is called. A&Q Productions.

[@suesmith3744]

@Rebelynn58. I’m in the same boat suffering from 3 chronic conditions that cause me varying levels of pain 24/7 . I only stay for my son and grandkids , believe me I’ve had it up to here with life . I don’t live , I exist …..this will be handy for my toolbox also . Best wishes x

[@suesmith3744]

@@qt4516 God loves me as I love him , he knows and understands exactly how I feel…

[@qt4516]

@@suesmith3744 are you a born again Christian

[@judymadge7347]

After 2 falls, my Mum stopped eating and drinking...we tried to encourage her with her favorite foods, but eventually realized that nothing would entice her to eat. It was about 8 weeks before she died. We had her service today. Despite it being a bit of a rollercoaster ride for us...one where she would be awake and lucid compared to days of her appearing to mostly sleep, her final journey was peaceful, respectful and full of love from her family.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Judy, how's your day going with you?

[@debragiblin-davis6681]

Fifty years ago, when my grandma's eyesight went and her pain from arthritis was so, so bad she couldn't work in her garden any more she got herself all cleaned up, got into bed and stopped eating and drinking. My aunt rushed her to the hospital, they hydrated her and sent her home. She was determined, she was ready, and they finally let her go peacefully.

[@mamalovesthebeach437]

I’ve done regular water, fast for extended periods of time. After reading Loving and Leaving the Good Life by Helen Nearing, decades ago, I made the decision if I should have an incurable debilitating illness at some point I would choose to do what Scott Nearing did, stop eating. Thank you for bringing this to light Julie.❤

[@siusaidhchaimbeul5499]

Thank you for reminding me of Scott Nearing.

[@mamalovesthebeach437]

@@siusaidhchaimbeul5499 ❤️

[@mamalovesthebeach437]

@@siusaidhchaimbeul5499 you are welcome! Two of my most favorite books in life are from the Nearings. You might also enjoy Henry Beston’s, ‘The Outermost House’.

[@foxecarpentress4964]

If you get to the point where your body won’t let you eat, then God has decided how you leave the earth. To purposely decide to end your this way, is killing yourself and not okay.

[@misham8698]

Thank you very much for posting this description of the process. Both my mother and her sister chose to stop eating and drinking water after they turned 98. Neither had any significant disease diagnosis, but both were unable to enjoy their favorite pursuits: reading, and playing bridge among others, because of macular degeneration. Hearing loss made communication difficult as well. For each, it took over a month to die. Hospice was consulted in advance. They needed only morphine, and the nurses said the doses were significantly lower than most patients requested. Both women remained conscious until a day or two before they died. These deaths occurred in 2010 and 2012. I do not remember hearing the term "VSED" at that time. This is the first time I have encountered it.

[@capicolaspicy]

71 year old man with Stage 3 (almost 4) COPD in Florida, so this is extremely valuable information - thank you Julie!

[@penelopegarcia6573]

Good luck to you, sir. ❤

[@KactusKM]

@@capicolaspicy ❤️

[@Klaracica]

Don’t give up yet,tomorrow will the sun shine again ❤

[@patriciawest4189]

I too have stage 4 COPD . I can't wait to pass 🙂❤️ I'm tired. I know I'm going to a better place. I'm only 54 but it's hard to even walk. So I understand. God bless us all.

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you- glad you're here

[@poundcake47]

It's sad, but I love that there's a legal way out. Thank you so much for sharing. I'm most definitely gonna show my parents this.

[@foxecarpentress4964]

It is a manmade so called legal way. It is up to our Creator to end a human life, then we will be accountable for all we did in the body He gave us. Killing the body, purposely, cuz it was too painful, is not a good answer……

[@poundcake47]

@@foxecarpentress4964 then this isn't the end of life care for you, & that's okay! May God bless you.

[@janlabbate3277]

My Dad did this quite a while ago. He had broken his hip and was in a nursing home. But my Mom decided to put a feeding tube in him (he did not want it) and he died that night. I was angry with my Mom for quite a while and finally she said, she did it for her-I understand that now but I have told my children that they are NOT to do that to me. Stopping eating and drinking doesn’t hurt, I’ve been told by a patient. Retired RN here.

[@Helen-km9zn]

Absoutely, we need to honor the wishes of those who are dying. If you can’t choose then, when can you? I am 82 and can well imagine doing this, though now I am Fine and feel Well. But it’s not a bad way to go so why not?

[@Helen-km9zn]

Absoutely, we need to honor the wishes of those who are dying. If you can’t choose then, when can you? I am 82 and can well imagine doing this, though now I am Fine and feel Well. But it’s not a bad way to go so why not?

[@Helen-km9zn]

No one should make you eat at that stage if you don’t feel like it. Have you ever been sick and didn’t feel like eating? I have, but when you are dying you ought to be the boss! When you feel done, it’s okay yo be done. Our loved ones need to give permission to go, and we need to share that with them so that they can!

[@Helen-km9zn]

I am looking forward to it. Everyone says it is wonderful!

[@nuggets0717]

My grandfather did this. His wife (my grandmother) of 69 years died 2 weeks prior to him, of a massive stroke. He was 91 and had emphysema but he truly just didn’t want to live without her; he had said his whole life he’d want to live only a day longer than her, so he could always be there for her. I was 14 and visiting with him at the time in his nursing home. His last meal was actually with me, because I asked him to. I was so scared, but I understood.

[@EmergeSpousalGriefSupport]

Thank you Hospice Nurse Julie! I run a caregiver group for spouses who have LBD. We LOVE your videos! They are educating and preparing us for the end of life so we can feel more confident and not so afraid. We especially love the dementia videos...keep them coming. Thank you for all you do!

[@wildgeese5707]

If you are in NY and considering this, you’ll need an advanced directive and a MOLST order where you specify no artificial nutrition and hydration. For everyone: you should also make a video explaining why you are choosing this route that demonstrates you are lucid and of sound mind. You can also have a written VSED statement that you have notarized. Your lawyer, caregivers and doctor should all have copies. Try to find a hospice in advance that will work with VSED. If not, you may have to reach the point of no return before they will come in. But at the very least you can ask the doctor to prescribe you medications for pain and anxiety. As a hospice caregiver dying from dehydration is primarily what I see as the ultimate demise anyway. People get weaker and sleep more and don’t have the urge to eat or drink and once thoroughly dehydrated, they perish. VSED mimics true natural death, and you can always change your mind in the early stages. It gives me great comfort to know that if I get a terminal DX or life altering disease this option exists. It’s empowering.

[@deborahr1723]

Thank you for all of this information. It is much appreciated. 🙏🏽

[@EC-yd9yv]

Absolutely... I've been suffering for decades chronic severe pain /illness. Nobody has Ever mentioned this 😮 Great news!! ❤

[@anntunaley9974]

What does VSED stand for and what is a MOLST order please? I’m in palliative care with severe chronic long term pain from a rare illness. And I live in NY. Not sure I would want to do this , but I’m glad it’s an option if I ever decide to choose it.

[@sunflowerfields4409]

I watched my stepmother die from ALS. There is no way I would go through that. If I were diagnosed, big party, lots of friends and family, and favorite music. Then the curtain closes.

[@capicolaspicy]

Had a best friend who died of ALS many years ago - it was brutal towards the end, he begged for someone to help him end it.

[@sunflowerfields4409]

@@capicolaspicy 😥That's awful. I'm so sorry for your loss.

[@catimonster]

I just discovered this channel and am going to sit down and binge many episodes. Thank you for making these, this is going to be immensely helpful in helping me navigate this journey with my Mom and communication with family members. Speaking to her hospice nurse after digesting all this info is a blessing as I can better understand and make the best decisions for her. Thank u!

[@Querencia7779]

It’s very very sad that people have to turn to this instead of being able to take a pill and not have pain and discomfort.

[@Sharon-Carrell]

I agree!! We put our animals outta their misery Yet we make our Humans SUFFER!!

[@lisah1507]

Agree. I came across a KZbin account where this beautiful woman was dying of terminal cancer. She did take a pill / concoction and passed within 10 min. She was fully aware and thriving mentally and knew what she wanted. Beautiful woman inside and out. There are options. We just need to research. I definitely do not want to lay in bed or in a wheelchair with little to know cognitive ability nor physical ability.

[@Kashyap_Trivedi2]

​@@lisah1507Can you tell me the name of that KZbin channel?

[@lisah1507]

@@Kashyap_Trivedi2My Journey through pancreatic cancer. Her first name is Donna.

[@joansmall9019]

Great information that I don't think many people know of. Some things people don't want to talk about but needs to be done and make informed decisions.

[@robkimberlin959]

As always with you, this video is very compassionate and very sensible. This process must be very difficult for loved ones to have to witness even when they accept that it is what the dying person really wants. This information should be as helpful for them as for the individual who chooses this option. You are doing a great deal of good in the world.

[@katwitanruna]

My grandfather was in a wreck and broke his back. He’d been an athlete all this life. One day when my grandmother was in hospital he turned his face to the wall and refused food. That was Sunday. Hospice came in on Wednesday and he passed as soon as the papers were signed.

[@dmorgan6503]

so sorry

[@jamiestanley9234]

Wow

[@NormanChester882]

May the good Lord comfort you

[@mariamiculit8040]

Thank you for the information. I did not know there is help out there.

[@aliciacosasdelavida679]

@@katwitanruna wowww ... my respects.... I can only imagine how he felt...

[@kristenwahlstrom5365]

I want Julie to be my hospice nurse if that time ever comes ❤ your so knowledgeable

[@susangoodwin8067]

My brother had ALS and he did this. He did tell me it was taking longer than he thought. He was a neurological nurse practitioner so he knew what was ahead for him. He was losing use of his arms, hands , balance and problems swallowing . He gradually decreased how much he ate, he really did not feel like eating anyway. This was his decision before ALS took away everything . He was at peace with his decision.

[@Delicious.Garden]

Thanks so much Julie for sharing your knowledge and content with the public. Invaluble and so helpful to everyone in any part of life. Topics that have been bleached away from modern society in the US. Well done and congrats on your channel! PS thank-you so much community for sharing your personal experiences. So very helpful. Well done and may you bloom wherever you are planted ❤

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Jacky, how's your day going with you?

[@bonniehortman8203]

Thank you for this video. I never knew there was anything out there like that. You described the topic really well. Thank you again.

[@rhondamcloughlin3773]

My mother didn’t want to eat and rarely drank on a Friday, hospice on Sunday, passed on Thursday. AML diagnosis 3 weeks prior and it was just too much for her. Another piece of the puzzle was that my dad passed 3 months prior. The progression you described was spot on. Circumstances a bit different but it was clear the lack of eating and drinking added to the quickness of her passing.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Rhonda, how's your day going with you?

[@kavitadeva]

Thank You beyond words. I have Chronic illnesses And have severe pain. Also how come some mental health issues are considered not at all a legit reason for assisted dying or what You're speaking about tonight. I am 66 years old I have severe COMPLEX PTSD, and severe treatment resistant depression that combined with pain basically being bedbound and there's nowhere to go nurse Julie there's just nowhere to go. And I'm calling the S hotline. I DO NOT WANT TO DIE, HOWEVER I DON'T KNOW HOW TO LIVE LIKE THIS. I wish people would understand that. Also my very own doctor when I asked him to watch a 7-minute video about what my underlying condition is he said he would watch it and then I found out that he never watched it. That's how bad healthcare is now. And try getting any kind of pain relief well that's a joke I really feel the whole thing is like a evil system that just has a person like me who is intelligent sometimes more than the doctor and can't really get anywhere. I'm not going to get better I'm not going to have a healing this is me getting worse. I have meltdowns at 66 years old because I get overwhelmed so easy and cannot regulate those emotions. I'm in a state where I don't know what to do and I have heard of what you're talking about I don't know that I could do it unless I had some support Thank you for bringing everything you do out into the open everybody's fighting for life and fighting for life and fighting for life To me, my question is why? Why If you're so miserable like I am fighting for more of it is not a very intelligent choice.

[@qt4516]

There is always hope never give up in life. There is hope in Jesus Christ. Did you know that God really loves you and wants a relationship with you. There will be a time that we will all face Gods judgement. God is righteous and Holy and we are all sinners. In a court of Law if you commit a crime and you was found guilty you will be punished and be sent to jail. Gods prison is Hell and because we are all sinners we will be found guilty. The 10 commandments is where we see if you have committed any sin’s or not. Have you ever lied? Have you lust over someone? Have you ever taken something that was not yours? Have you ever said omg or used Jesus Christ name as a curse word ? These are only 4 of Gods commandments and if you have said yes to any of these questions I’m not judging you but on judgement day God will judge you and will find you guilty for these sins and will be sent to eternal punishment. The good news is Jesus Christ came and paid the price for your sins He took the punishment we deserve . He died on the cross and If you believe in your heart that Jesus died and was raised on the third day and repent and ask in prayer for forgiveness of your sins you will be saved. Which means on judgement day because you have believed and trusted in Jesus and have faith in Him and have been forgiven,on judgement day God will let you go and you will be saved from going to eternal punishment. Jesus was sacrificed to save you and everybody else because of the love He has for us John 3:16 For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. Romans 10: 9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. The gospel is not God hatefully saying turn to me or I'll send you to Hell the gospel is God's mercy and Grace saying you're already on your way to Hell turn to me and I’ll save you. Download the gate way bible app and read the gospel of John and you can learn how Jesus came to save you. Please watch a video called: JESUS saved me from HELL 🔥!! ⚠️ Warning! Powerful Testimony, Channel is called: M A N N A Please also watch a video called. Let's Talk About the Afterlife - 6 Things the Unsaved Discover at Death - The Rich Man & Lazarus, Channel is called. A&Q Productions..

[@kavitadeva]

@@qt4516 I am a Jesus follower. Thank you for sharing with me. I know though by reading the Bible and being very sincere about my trust in God that that is no ticket to being healed. I just want to feel the presence of God more in the midst of my suffering. Any suggestions? 💕

[@suesmith3744]

@kavitadeva. I empathise more than you will ever know… this isn’t LIVING rather EXISTING … Best wishes x

[@catherinecarter8987]

Dear @kavitadeva Allowing nature to take its course is not the same as forcing the issue by deliberate suicide. I am not a doctor but I do know the difference between having a bearable quality of life and being self destructive. I have been in both situations and have in my younger days made errors involving these choices. Now I am nearing the end of my life, I do not choose suicide, and likewise, I do not desire to prolong poor quality of life either with drugs and surgeries if I get to a certain stage. I am in the situation now where I will speak to my doctor as soon as I need to make legal medical decisions for future treatment whilst I am 'of sound mind' as they say. The doctor who is dealing with my issues will help me make these steps legally and safely in accordance with my needs and I will also have a trusted family member involved. I hope this helps. As to the biblebashers who jump on board and take advantage of every persons weakness to push their beliefs on people, remember, if you are interested in religion there are established Christian churches where there are trustworthy Priests, who have been ordained through thousands of years old traditional and historical tried and tested Theological training and who know what they are talking about and that it is an individuals choice which should not be coerced or prompted by fear. I have an autistic member in my family and I know that online knowalls can do a lot of harm. If one needs spiritual guidance, there are plenty of Traditional Churches to find a Spiritual director, Likewise, if one needs a doctor, they too are available and trained in their respective fields of expertise. Hope you get on ok ❤

[@kavitadeva]

@@catherinecarter8987 Hi Catherine, I am sorry but when somebody says taking one's life by harming themselves, I stop right there. It is not harming your self to alleviate non-stop unyielding agony. I have not read your whole reply yet as I came across that part and I went oh boy here we go we're going to look at somebody reaching out for physician assisted dying and calling it not natural. But Catherine, is it natural to be born a preemie at 1 lb 6 oz and have to use the hands of doctors to force this baby to continue to stay alive is that okay? Because God gives us life and God taketh away is that what you're trying to share with me? Because see God didn't give his life he gave birth but not life Man forced the life by tubes by intubation by all kinds of very painful things to this tiny tiny infant to force it to keep breathing etc. So, I DON'T BUY THAT SAYING AT ALL. I am going to go back when I am less triggered and read your entire reply. If you put out the effort to share your thoughts and feelings then I feel I owe you to read what you wrote. It's just that even though I as a Jesus follower I seem to disagree with mostly everything Evangelical Christians think about this subject. Thank you for putting so much time and effort into your reply and I will get back to you Thank you very much.

[@melindahernandez8778]

I was my mothers proxy. In her last two months I agreed to no feeding and no water for her because she was lingering. To this day I cry when I remember witnessing my mother's eyes dry up to the point where she could not open them. Seeing her tongue start cracking because of no hydration.i couldn't change the order because the doctors said this is what was best for her. I was okay with no food because she couldn't eat. But, I will forever have a guilty conscience about denying my mother a drink of water. Soooo cruel😢😢😢

[@Dayholly86]

Rest assured, she didn't experience the pain the way you did. Nerve endings aren't firing as much. Your brain won't receive pain signals as clearly.

[@GailFeltman]

Two months ago my brother n law just stopped eating/drinking/talking … he was with my sister who had Alzheimer’s in an apartment connected to the nursing home. When she had to go to the nursing home first … he sold their house (with daughter’s help) … then he went in to be with her ( he was frail and needed help anyway). They were there about two to three years. When he stopped eating etc., Hospice was called … I don’t remember exactly how long he lasted but his daughter said he contacted Covid and ran 103 Temp … and died. (They are in MT and I in Alabama). This all happened to him about two months ago … they moved my sister to a single room … and she was alone … her Alzheimer’s had progressed a lot. My niece called me yesterday and my sister had stopped eating/drinking/talking … just like her husband did. So as of yesterday my sister is on Hospice and actively dying … nurse said maybe she had two days left? Her daughter had a dream the night before that a young woman was telling her that her Mom had died and in the dream … she recognized that the young woman was her Mom! She hugged her and then she woke up. She told her husband about the dream and she said she wouldn’t be surprised if the nurse called her that day. Well … Hospice Nurse called her that afternoon and my niece said it gave her goosebumps … her Mom was Actively Dying … maybe had two days! This couple had been married 65 years … both in their middle 80’s … now they will be together for Eternity soon! She was seven years older than me … I am the middle child … our baby brother has been gone for 28 years … our dad died two years before his son and my Mother lived 15 years longer than my dad. My husband and I moved my Mother in with us … had a light stroke that affected her left side. My husband died three years ago from a massive heart attack in front of me … so now all my family are gone and his! Immediate Family that is! I am in the same town with my middle son and family … not completely alone … but live alone for the first time ever. This is all part of the Cycle of Life … I had to write this for my sanity! And my first cousin died July 16th! It feels like I am in a nightmare but I am not … just experiencing life to the end and thought I would share! 🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️❤️🇺🇸🇺🇸🫶🏻

[@rhondathomas7952]

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 All so hard. May God bless you!

[@tulasipriya]

Thanks for sharing your story. You're not alone in your suffering. I wish you the best.

[@GailFeltman]

@@tulasipriya Thank You! 🙏🏻 🙏🏻

[@melissamills31ytb]

Your story reminds me of the saying, "The only thing constant is change." I'm sorry that the latest changes for you have been so awful. I hope that some little good things will happen to you today, to make the hard changes easier. We're all in this humanity thing together for the good and the bad. I'm sorry you're suffering. I hope things get better for you!

[@GailFeltman]

@@melissamills31ytb Thank You!

[@CharismaticAngie]

My mom sort of did this. She was in a nursing home, had been in and out of nursing homes and hospitals for 10 or 11 months. While at the nursing home she requested to be on hospice and had stopped her medicine, dialysis as well as eating and somewhat drinking. She ended up wanting to be moved to hospice house. There she ate for about a week and this past Sunday at 6 pm (she always loved the number 6) she passed away. She had been a diabetic for over 20 years, and ended up with kidney failure when she passed. It got so bad she couldn't even walk. She was only 58 years old.

[@EastSeasons]

Hi Julie I've dealt with breast cancer since 2018 I'm going strong because my foods and beverages are green choices It truly works that if we eat clean, think clean, exercise, have a happy social circle, then the will to live is extraordinary. But if I get tired and weary I'll choose to be done and roll into heaven. You're awesome! Thank You

[@valeriegood8427]

Thanku so much Julie. Youve been a wealth of information on end of life experiences, care & the importance of having a clear Advance Directive. Its been a comfort learning about this topic while im well & able.

[@susankelty4814]

Many thanks, Julie, for sharing your knowledge compassionately

[@asmile4u]

My dad was very sick and in the hospital. He did this and my mom had the hospital put in a feeding tube. Us kids knew he would die and all gathered at the hospital to say our goodbyes. With the feeding tube, he became well enough to leave the hospital by ambulance. He 'lived' another two weeks and was back in the hospital. My mom had the hospital put a feeding tube in again. She called us again to come and we were all furious that she wouldnt let him die. Finally, my mom left the room to call me and guve me an update and he passed away while she was gone. By the time she gor back it was too late to do anything. He knew as long as she was there she would keep him alive against his will. Because my dad had dementia, she got to make all the decisions even though the rest of the family said she was just dragging things out. To be honest, there needs to be a point where the rest of the family can override the spouse if the spouse is not making reasonable decisions.

[@kathyrickards7457]

@@asmile4u Am so very sorry that you and your family went through this! Horrific that a spouse would not honor the person’s last wishes and allow the process to happen. My heart is broken for you.

[@mortygoldmacher]

You can do that with a living will, advance directive, or a power of attorney for personal care.

[@lisalapoint7022]

Feeding tubes in advanced dementia is a terrible decision. The body in that end stage stops being able to take food. If the demented person cannot take pureed foods or thickened liquids and does not respond to the offer of the food when fed, then they are ready to transition. But some people feel that if they do not hospitalize and use all medical means necessary, then they are complicit. It is a lack of education on end of life.

[@SynfullyWkd67]

I just turned 57 this past July, and have many debilitating chronic conditions. I am in constant pain, and lost my health insurance last Dec. and so now I cannot get any of my meds that were keeping me alive. All my Dr.s never gave a time frame, but they have said I am a "ticking time bomb". I appreciate this video, and have been actually discussing this with my husband and daughters. I don't want my hubby to come home and find me "gone" I feel this way would be easier as he could be by my side. We have been together for 37 years now. My daughters say I am being selfish and now making me feel guilty for wanting to take control of my life for once. I have diabetes( now uncontrolled because I no longer can get my insulin) I had a double by-pass 10 years ago and need another now on the left side ofmy heart, I have severe peripheral neuropathy, Polycythemia Vera,which I was supposed to start chemo for this past April, and my gastroparesis has gotten so bad I can't keep food down and it's become very painful, also have PAD and Athrosclerosis... I've lost over 160 lbs now. Was supposed get a feeding tube as well this past spring, but again not an option with no health care. I already experience a lot of the symptoms you've talked about when having 6 months or less. All I want to eat is smoothies, ice cream and ice. Am I being selfish in wanting to do VSED??

[@debbiemarlow]

No u r not, sometimes enough is enough

[@gailgallipeau6838]

This needs to apply to people with dementia who can’t no longer make decisions that last for more than a second . My mom used to 94, approaching stage 7 and it’s time . She is ready

[@dpberry]

I had talked with you on Tik Tok when you were speaking on medically assisted suicide. I asked if it was available for ALS patients. You said that, unfortunately, it is not for them as they have to administer the cocktail themselves and with ALS, they simply cannot. However, this sounds like the loophole if they plan early. I am glad there is a death with dignity where one suffers less. Progress. ❤

[@bifeldman]

Julie is a hero.

[@WestieRescueMom]

THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU!!! I was not aware of this option, but it's absolutely the way I choose to go.

[@hospicenursejulie]

💕💕💕💕

[@Indianaparadise]

It’s good to know they can’t force intravenous nutrients on someone

[@NoseyNana]

Correct me if I'm wrong, but someway along my son's training, he's a surgeon, he decried people who turned down any life saving procedures & he mentioned IV feeding, as it was painless & to not make that choice when there's a chance that person could live.

[@calicat1996]

If you are not of sound mind and have signs of confusion, even if these are your wishes, your POA can force IV fluids, feeding tubes, restraints etc. It's devastating and feels like we are torturing humans. ALWAYS make sure you pick a POA who knows all your wishes and will support that and not involve their feelings. Advanced care directives will also protect yourself if you arent of 100% sound mind, it's so easy to go into a bit of a delirium due to say infection or dehydration and now your wishes are not followed and the decision then becomes your POAs (or if you have written advanced care directives)

[@wildgeese5707]

Bodily autonomy. As long as your wishes are spelled out in advance, no one can force you to do anything.

[@calicat1996]

@@NoseyNana in my experience surgeons are *the* worst for embracing death and dying and want to save everyone, regardless. Fluids can make death more painful/uncomfortable. When very ill, usually it becomes a situation of is this treatment going to prolong life, or is it going to just prolong death. If you're prolonging death it's a very respectable decision to halt all interventions and focus on comfort measures. A lot of people suffer by receiving care and treatment for slightly more quantity, at the expense of quality.

[@KactusKM]

@@wildgeese5707the issue is those instructions so carefully spelled out in advance needs to be present before EMTs or hospitals start life saving measures because they will immediately.

[@Mary-od4gi]

Thank you. This should be talked about more.

[@Monkey114]

God bless you Julie. You are an 😇 angel 💙

[@yvette-f2n]

JULIE I AM SO PLEASE WITH THIS INFO THANK YOU WODERFUL INFORMATION

[@binkleyrules]

More great info, Julie! I'm going to look this up. Thanks 💕

[@hospicenursejulie]

You are so welcome!

[@punkinpatch1856]

Thank you for this information. My father recently passed after a long battle with Parkinson’s dementia. I am glad to know that there is an option for me to end my life on my own terms. I will be changing my advance directive and speaking to my health care provider about this.

[@MoonlightX1004]

My mom did this but I had no idea why and I ended up torturing her for another 4 months by showing up and taking care of her. But I realize this was her last gift to me… to allow me to care for her. She shed her pride and dignity to allow me to show my love by allowing me to bathe her, changing her diapers, clean her ostomy, feed her, shampoo her hair, clip her nails, massage her legs, feet and hands, stand by waiting for her to have a surgery (to put in a feeding tube to help her eat 😭) , to watch her sleep, let me give her all her medicines, put on chapstick and face mask… It took me 3 years to realize this. She had early onset Parkinson’s and recurrent colon cancer age 70. Thank you for sharing your knowledge through these videos. I can finally grieve properly now. For so long, I didn’t understand why I couldn’t just let it all go. Now I understand. Thank you.

[@dianemcallistertarot]

So glad to learn about this, had never heard of it. Thanks Julie

[@lisatingley8953]

My aunt and uncle both were in their late 80’s in a nursing home in separate rooms. My aunt had Alzheimer’s, my uncle dementia. My cousin told us my uncle confided in her that they were depleting THIER savings and he wanted my aunt to have enough money to continue to stay there. He said he was going to stop eating & drinking. I didn’t ask how long that lasted but he did pass. My aunt passed 2 weeks later. She didn’t know, she had quit recognizing him along time ago. They were married over 60 years. I don’t think they told the nursing home. Now that is true love.

[@valeriegood8427]

When theres no will to live & you are totally miserable and youve had enough then i believe its ok to be sedated to numb the pain of your reality. I hope if im suffering someone will do whatever it takes to keep me comfortable and peaceful.

[@EC-yd9yv]

​@@Paulohlsson7Freak

[@mzgizz]

@@Paulohlsson7 Can admin block this 'thing?'

[@misskittymcg630]

Thank you! I have always actually worried about what ifs when it came to this. It is a loophole basically! I have alot of just stupid crap happening to me with arthritis and replacements due to it. I'm only 53, but I can't imagine fighting these pains into my 70's, etc.

[@revathik9225]

Am in the same boat, I'm 48. Life without mobility and this much pain just to walk a few steps in the house is not worth living.

[@EC-yd9yv]

I hear you 65 ... Doing this pain/suffering too many decades. Why have we never heard of this... A blessing 🌺🕊️🙏

[@BrianHornak]

Thank you for all you do and equipping us with the vital information we likely won't get elsewhere..have a great day

[@susanwedell7627]

My daughter went into hospice and she did not drink or eat . She did have pain medication and my daughter approved this type of passing. She lasted 16 days and then passed. It was very peaceful.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Susan, how's your day going with you?

[@LiLaLizzy8]

I have Lupus and I am also thinking about VSED as it is the only legal option in my state. Was it very doffocult to see that process (weight loss etc), I feel this will hurt my parents very much to see me get weaker and weaker and thinner and thinner...

[@Moo2oob]

Thank goodness I live in Canada where we have MAID (Medical Assistance in Dying). Not do-it-yourself. Requires physician involvement. Intravenous injection. You just go peacefully to sleep. Takes mere minutes. Only problem for dementia patients (at this point in time), you can't have an Advanced Directive for this.

[@lyndatullett5319]

Yes we have it but heard a report that when done autopsy they discovered people actual drowned to death and could say or do anything because they've been given medication that won't let you move . That's the report I heard. Had a friend do it and I was so upset to think she felt like she was drowning 😢

[@Moo2oob]

@@lyndatullett5319 Hmm... unfortunately there are conservative detractors of MAID who create false narratives like that. That's the report you "heard"? Source? It's nonsense. For one thing, autopsies are not performed on people who exercised their right for MAID. The death certificate indicates the cause as the patient's underlying disease. There is no reason for an autopsy. Relatives of the patient also say it was the most beautiful and peaceful process to witness. A celebration of their life before the procedure as well.

[@annjames1837]

​@@lyndatullett5319I also heard this. And also people who are depressed can choose MAID. Maybe the slippery slope has come to Canada. Scary

[@qt4516]

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[@MsJPinMadison]

Thank You So Much. It is so great to know this is an option.

[@cyndiross7197]

You are helping so many of us with great information❤

[@deborahhebblethwaite1865]

Thank goodness I am🇨🇦 and we have a wonderful service called MAID that will send you off to your heavenly reward beautifully. No having to starve yourself to death God, you people are archaic down there.

[@timtruett5184]

I think what you're seeing is the influence of religious fanatics in the US.

[@NoName-pu5ls]

US very backwards country

[@shindoggy]

yes TY for this!!! i have wondered other than the few states that allow for end of life decisions - what other options to allow for families to make the decision for themselves.

[@karelfick5174]

Thank you for this important and useful information.

[@janefoster7126]

According to Satish Kumar they do this in India, where it's called 'fasting unto death'. His mother did it. I've just ordered Julie's book. Love the channel ❤

[@GailBudoski]

Hi Julie I took care of a alcoholic and he ended up in hospice less than 3 months. He was in pain and moaning at the end. But he went in to a coma and then died. I was very relieved from this problem but didn't want too see what he went thru. Thank you for educating me on some different diseases.

[@greeneyedpixie2]

Nurse Julie, You are awesome, Thank you

[@gsilcoful]

Thank you.

[@denisek292]

Thank you for educating me about this option. As someone w/ progressive MS, my quality of life is nonexistent. No DMD’s work are effective. I’ve lost the ability to do participate in hobbies that gave me pleasure. I can’t drive and depend on my married daughter to bring me everything. I sleep all day, not by choice, but because of MS. I’m tired of going to a gazillion doctor’s appointments. The tremors, trouble speaking, mobiity and balance issues and now dependence on diapers is the last straw. Before my MS progressed, I was a different person; happy and outgoing. Now everyone’s talking about putting in a nursing home. I’m not afraid of death, as my Salvation in Christ is strong. What I am afraid of is a family member not honoring my wishes.

[@LiLaLizzy8]

I have progressive Lupus. I think about VSED and have a death doula whi could accompany me. Do yiu think that this will be punished in the afterlife? I am worried about this, but I can't live one like this.

[@denisek292]

@@LiLaLizzy8 I’m deeply sorry you are suffering. You did nothing to cause yourself to develop Lupus, nor cause its progression. If you’re a Christian, you will not lose your salvation. The unforgivable sin is not believing in Christ. Catholicism believes you will, but that’s nowhere in the KJB. I had a Christian counselor, a very Godly woman, tell me suicide does not send you to hell. A precious man at my church, committed suicide. He had taken wonderful care of his wife, who had Alzheimer’s for several decades…he brought her to church looking beautiful, even though I know she wore diapers….total commitment to his wife. After she died, he met a sweet lady. They were engaged to marry, but her grown children (who I think were extremely selfish and more worried about their inheritance) convinced her NOT to marry him. He was crushed, and took his life. There’s no doubt in my mind he’s in Heaven. Think about this: During 9/11, some people jumped to their death. Do you believe those, that were Christians are in hell? I don’t. It was either burn to death, or chose another way to end their suffering. We’re in the same boat. We’re suffering. Lupus is a cruel, cruel disease, especially when it progresses. In my honest opinion, modern medicine only makes suffering worse, as they ply you full of medicines made to extend our lives. You’ve probably been on meds like those. The last MS drug my neurologist prescribed, has only created more suffering. Is the cancer patient, who refuses chemo, and is a Christian, going to hell? No. VSED is legal in all 50 states. I live in Alabama, the heart of the Bible Belt, and it’s legal here. You are not going to be punished for deciding not to eat or drink to hasten death. Yes, everyone will stand before God in judgement.. Believers in Christ know their fate is Heaven. Unfortunately, non-believer’s fate is sealed, which is tragic. Please know I have already prayed for you, and won’t stop. You are precious in Christ’s sight. I may not be far behind you. God bless you, my sister in Christ.

[@EC-yd9yv]

Severe chronic pain/Chronic illness homebound over 15 years... NEVER heard of this... But Will absolutely look into it. Surviving to exist is Not living.. for me. Family etc have abandoned or rarely ck in anymore.... Its me ... That cks to make sure their ok. I'm 65 kids are grown... Im married but feels more like a sibling rlshp... I don't think he wants to live alone.... But I Got to think of me. Im a shell of former self n def NOT getting better. Wld love help with exit .. def wld not do to self.... God bless an best to you ladies and all going through this. 💗🌺🙏

[@denisek292]

@@EC-yd9yv It is the loneliness and deterioration via MS that has “paralyzed” me. I’m so sorry you suffer from chronic pain: I know what it’s like, and the CDC and DEA have contributed to decreased quality of life. My daughter just found-out she’s pregnant, so I won’t for now. Honestly, I’m anxious. Her mother-in-law has already taken-over, never acknowledged me, except calling me “white trash.” Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for my daughter, but my energy levels and money can’t compete w/ MIL. My neurologist just put me on a stronger antidepressant. I want to be the MeMaw that my my MeMaw was; she died when I was 8. She is the only person in my life who gave me unconditional love, not my parents. Please pray for me, and I will do the same for you. My prayer for you is God will ease your pain and bless you.❤

[@LiLaLizzy8]

@@EC-yd9yv I feel you so much. The relationship between me and my husband is just friends. He suffers. He is just forty, I am sure he would find someone when I am gone. I am quite young, but I cannot live in a body that's that broken. Others could. I know that. But I can't.

[@richardmacpherson3924]

Thanks!

[@hospicenursejulie]

Thank you!

[@garygrimshaw9941]

Thanks Julie. A serious option, but deserves consideration. My mother died by this several years ago. A chronic condition, but I never knew of this!!! She died peacefully eventually. And I hasten to say she was having daily assistance from carers up to her death! Dunno if same rules VSET in UK. But suspect does exist cos witnessed it with my mum God bless her. Love Gary in Seaton Devon UK X thanks

[@patallojomom]

Thank you for all your information. My Mama is 90.

[@NGD1953]

I had a family member who choose to do this not very long ago. She had cancer and knew her time was limited. She lived with her daughter who couldn’t handle dealing with her any longer. Her daughter said she didn’t want to spend money to put her mother anywhere or hire anyone to care for her. She took her mother to the hospital and told them she couldn’t handle her mother any longer. Her mother then made the decision to stop eating and drinking. Her doctors let her stay in the hospital and did help her get through the process. I thought the whole thing was horrible. She only made the decision because of her daughter refusing to care for her any longer.

[@Paulohlsson7]

Hi Nancy, how's your day going with you?

[@debbiemarlow]

A selfish daughter indeed!

[@cateharding]

I have MS and one of my fellow warriors chose this process to hasten his death. He had obvious and swift decline and his wife supported his decision. He is greatly missed but I am glad he had this choice.

[@deded1057]

Thank you for this valuable information!

[@ReineObermier]

Thanks for Sharing this information very nice to know this option I wouldn’t want to deal with certain diseases

[@Helen-d1b]

I am so glad to hear you talk about this. There was never any need for legislation to make anyone assist another person to die, otherwise called murder to some of us.

[@doompdx401]

Thank you for your informative channel. Veterans facing the civil and human rights abuse of untreated pain should have access to VSED at VA hospitals. The cost of private hospice for VSED is way out of my reach financially. If the VA has issues with the care involved in VSED, I would be willing to waive the care if they provide a bed and simply bear witness to one of the many known 'unintended consequences' of their disastrous pain policy. VSED > Persistent Psychological Abuse of Stigma and Medical Gaslighting. "In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds meaning, such as the meaning of a sacrifice' ~ Viktor Frankl

[@michaelamann3060]

Thank you so much for this video. It is what I have been looking for. I didn't know about it. Though in my country it might be more difficult.

[@meep2576]

Thank you ❤

[@junedolson1642]

My brother and my husband both did MAID (medical aid in dying ) my brother had congestive heart failure & my husband had Lewy body dementia. Both terrible, they were both younger. I think this is a better option than starving. I'm in Canada, so not sure if this is an option where you are.

[@LSTAR06]

I had no idea this was an option, thanks for another great video.