I am 83 years and in very bad health. My husband passed away a year and a half ago I live along. I miss him so much. I had a heart attack several months after he passed. Lord has kept me here for a reason. I just don't know the reason because I am suffering, and very lonely, my husband went gentle, he didn't fight death he embraced it. I pray that I can go in the same manner he did.
@nkronertАй бұрын
Wishing you all the best. May your hopes be fulfilled.
@Outsider4JCАй бұрын
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy in the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and wants a personal relationship with you. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@NatureRocks.Ай бұрын
I'm so sorry for your loss and for the decline in your health. Do you have any children or family that live close? Please reach out locally to maybe a counsel on aging program to see if you can get someone to come by. I don't want you to be alone 😢
@shelleybaker2358Ай бұрын
Hugs and prays.
@mafp22wАй бұрын
Like you, I trust God that He can use your suffering for His glory just as He did with Jesus on the cross. My mother just died and she too had a very weak heart. My takeaways from watching my mother: I need to make sure to make it clear that I don’t want to drink unless it is clear that I do. Same for eating. And lastly, if my heart gets weak and my blood oxygen goes down, do not increase the flow of oxygen in a mask and extend my suffering. Once oxygen is no longer helping you get up and out of bed, it isn’t helping you. See you soon as we look forward to being with our Savior.
@yvonnebirch6026Ай бұрын
My husband was on Hospice . It was a godsend. I was prepared and so was he. I made the bedroom a sanctuary. With some flowers and a votive. He was semi unconscious. I slept with him in our bed. He quietly slipped away. I feel there will be an all embracing love at the other side of the veil. ❤ I became a dedicated volunteer for Hospice for 12 years and facilitated bereavement groups after I processed my own loss. I will be 89 soon.i am not afraid of death. Thank you nurse Julie ! ❤❤
@ravenmckinnon5526Ай бұрын
You sound awesome
@kirkkelley1899Ай бұрын
Goooood luck…….
@danamarie799324 күн бұрын
Touched my heart 💖
@beam381919 күн бұрын
@@yvonnebirch6026 your beautful
@bonniehoo436313 күн бұрын
What a beautiful beautiful person you are, you know that, right?
@carolthompson8159Ай бұрын
Im 60, on hospice for lung failure. I will encourage my daughter to hear your words. Thank you Julie.
@KaldoniaKaldoniaАй бұрын
Peace and ease to you @carolthompson8159
@vilien1978Ай бұрын
❤ a very big hug🤗 from the netherlands. Just for being you😘
@cje3247Ай бұрын
❤❤❤
@lavishty_Ай бұрын
@@carolthompson8159 sending all my love to you and your daughter. ❤️❤️
@gloriamaryhaywood221721 күн бұрын
Peaceful blessings prayed for you, hun.💜🙏
@danamarie799324 күн бұрын
I am 56 with long covid and preparing myself. I don’t have much, but made what I do have easy for my son (17) to be ok for a bit. This suffering has been intense for 4 years and there are no answers at all. But I fought hard and now I am weak. I just wish those around me would see, I can’t hold on much longer. This video was what I needed to hear, it inspired me to accept help. I was so independent and this has been the hardest thing thus far. But now that I don’t really have much of A choice, I’m allowing my heart to be open and allowing those that want to help ….. help. Sounds so silly but it’s real. A friend just brought over a shower chair. I accepted. Another brought food…. I accepted. It made them happy and it also made me feel so loved. The iron curtain is coming down and it’s time to allow people in. 💕
@wanderer44-xr5si10 күн бұрын
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@kevinw9073Ай бұрын
I have always said to friends I am going to see friends and family" that have moved on," and that gives me peace of mind knowing they will be waiting. My best friend came to me in a dream about a month after he passed. I was in a beautiful forest with the brightest leaves and browns. a bright light approached me on the path, and as it got close to me, I saw my friend as a young man when we were in college. He smiled, and assured me "everything is OK, and I will see you again." He put his hand out to shake hands. Just as our hands were one, there was a bright flash of light almost like an explosion. I woke up and felt a great level of comfort and peace of mind. 😇🥰
@milels69178 күн бұрын
This is beautiful I have see my family who have passed away if it were not for my children I would like to go because life gets harder with age My faith keeps me going I know the Christ is here to help me he sends good people my helpers I live a prayerful life I have no friends I can’t get to church my husband has dementia
@Teffi_ClubАй бұрын
Julie, could you please talk about people without a family and friends. Thank you.
@judementz-gibbons67307 күн бұрын
This is so important. Thank you for raising this issue. Some have no one at death which makes it so much harder. Others assume they do, but dying alone for whatever reasons is a growing dilemma in society.
@cbannen87 күн бұрын
That's exactly what I was thinking about commenting.
@dllpublic1587 күн бұрын
Yes please Julia. What about for those of us utterly alone.
@mircat286 күн бұрын
@@dllpublic158i have zero family like a lot of others. I have friends but good grief who wants to ask a friend to come watch you die?! How rude or thoughtless is that?!
@dlewis8959 күн бұрын
MY DAD REMINDED ME EVERY YEAR TO NOT LET HIM.GET OLD SITTING IN A WHEELCHAIR WITH DROOL.RUNNING DOWN HIS MOUTH WHEN HE HAD SIMPLE OPERATION BUT IN HOSPITAL GOT SEVERE TYPE PNUEMONA HE HAD MADE HIMSELF DNR AND I HONORED THAT SOME COUSINS DIDNT UNDERSTAND I SAID DADS LIVED WITH INTEGRITY LET HIM DIE WITH INTEGRITY. IT HELPED ME AN DAD ENORMOUSLY IM NOW 80 USING A WALKER HOPE STAY IN MY HOME TIL PASS THX TONS HUGE REMINDER ABOUT HOSPICE....IM ON MY OWN
@genuinsanityАй бұрын
When I was young , I thought I would never grow old / die...... the vanity of youth ....everyday we decay .
@MarcEmerson-zv5bsАй бұрын
I just went thru this with my wife of 39 years. 10 years from first diagnosis, two semi rare cancers withe no available treatments. We made it ten years, she was 65. As it progressed rapidly after covid, we started the hard conversations including legal and finance. She was denided respite care and that was a blessing, she came home and wanted to die at home. I was the primary care for seven months and with a limited home hospice support i had to learn it all, cleaning, pallatiove care she knew her body and so did I, very important because you are the advocate! I learned all the signs and effects of organ failure. The most important thing i can say is keep up with the mental asspect... I spent the last 7weeks of her life 24/7... But every day i would say i love you, the dogs, horses and me will be fine and if you want to go its ok. On her last day i said i love you and she barely said i love you to. Home hospice os not easy but very special and i would not have it any other way.
@shelleybrandon2825Ай бұрын
You are exceptional
@MarcEmerson-zv5bsАй бұрын
@@shelleybrandon2825 thank you Shelly for you kind comment. I wrote this after she died. The Last Dance, Farewell my love We all know we are going to die We don't know when where or why When bestows upon you You tell yourself lies Life will show you the path without ties Acceptance will come, not as you think it to be Light will shine on you to see Take healing in your time Everything will be fine Embrace your new journey Keep hold that it's worthy I now say goodbye and let you go I loved you then, now and forever this you know Good by my love Marc Everett Emerson
@kryssynation6366Ай бұрын
I am so sorry. The was extremely lucky to have you for a husband, just know how much she thanks you for being there with and for her 🥰
@gloriamaryhaywood221721 күн бұрын
Your wife was so blessed to have you as her husband. I'm sure she felt so loved and truly cared for. Also safe and protected surrounded by your love.💜
@beam381919 күн бұрын
What a loving man. Your amazing. To die at home is often the best if someone like yourself can do the hard job to care for a dying wife. Not many do. My regards for the blessing you where to your wife in her last months, may you meet again. Ret nurse Norway
@mayannjudithmaske6456Ай бұрын
i am 63, i have parkinsons for 20 years going 21, my very loving husband passed peacefully last year, i am alone now, i pray for a peaceful and quick death, i thank you for all the information
@peacefulone4461Ай бұрын
✝️ 🙏
@toryberchАй бұрын
Hi 👋 I am 59 have Parkinson's and Lewy Body Dementia I'm in the middle phase now and live wth a husband who is a narcissist. It's scary to not have anyone to share your fears with in your own home and it's even scarier to think about nursing facility but someone told me that if you have an advocate you will be safer in the facility
@suemcknight9051Ай бұрын
@toryberch…my prayer for you is a resolution to your situation that brings peace into your heart. ♥️ 🕊️✝️
@toryberchАй бұрын
@@Michael-fs7su I have a daughter and she knows what my situation is but oddly enough her husband is the same So it's up to me to pray about the best decision moving forward 🙏 Thank you for caring
@lauramartinez7057Ай бұрын
@@toryberchI had to advocate for my brother and then again 7 months later for my mother. They need a floor elderly people. Those really young nurses didn’t know anything about dealing with elderly people. Then the NP in the rehab facility kept telling her she couldn’t go home during holidays because people were all at home with their families. She was so anxious (we didn’t realize she was already her process, only approved HALF a Valium to help her sleep! I can’t imagine had I not been there to advocate for her.
@frankeppenridge2027Ай бұрын
I can only hope that when my time comes, someone as beautiful as you is there.
@denisemeredith2436Ай бұрын
My mom is 85 and is preparing herself, she has heart failure which is getting worse, she has said many times that she wants to go to sleep and not wake up and that would be a lovely way to go. Right now she is hanging on because she is busy with her greenhouse and growing some tomatoes and cucumbers. Even though gardening is now a struggle, she plods on making her huge garden look beautiful. She has been telling me the names of plants as well as her pet names for them to remember those who have since passed who gave them to her.
@sueb6662Ай бұрын
Cherish every moment with her so beautiful she’s looking after the garden.
@Sweetlyfe21 күн бұрын
How beautiful and difficult to share these times with her. Have you told her it’s ok to go, that you love her and will miss her but that you will be ok. My Mum died a couple of months after her 61st birthday, I was 31 and I nursed her at her home so that she could die in her own bed. My Dad didn’t want to die at home, I think so he wouldn’t be a burden to his wife and maybe because he was born in that house. I told both my parents it was ok to let go and my Mum did a few hours later, and my Dad about 10 minutes later. My Mum in the last few days she would wake up frustrated that she was still alive, and one morning said it’s boring, I said what is Mum and she said this dying business it’s boring. Try and write down the names and nicknames for her plants, they will mean a lot to you after she is gone. Also tell her that it doesn’t hurt it feels really good and peaceful, I had a near death experience the week before my 30th birthday and spent 5 weeks in the hospital and 6 months of work recovering. But that experience helped me to understand my Mum’s needs and wants while I looked after her. I have never felt as calm and peaceful and immense love before or since that experience. I’m not religious before or since, but I know it was the love of my loved one’s who had gone before. I also know I will see my soulmate again when it’s my time. Tell your Mum to imagine how her dying will feel and that it will be peaceful and that it will happen in her sleep, it really helps to make that happen. Sending compassionate and peaceful vibes.
@msdixie1Ай бұрын
I just got a phone call from my mother’s hospice nurse this morning that she is rapidly declining & that death will most likely be soon. She has lived a very healthy life until she had a stroke in December (the day after her 100th birthday), but she has struggled with severe anxiety her whole life. Her anxiety has been out of control since the stroke & she was in & out of rehab three times until the decision was made in March to enter hospice. For the last week she has been mostly unresponsive &, although this is so hard, I’m glad she’s finally relieved of her anxiety. I’m 75 years old & grateful, not only for the years I’ve had my mother, but also for this channel & Nurse Julie letting me know what to expect in the days, weeks, or months ahead. Thank you.
@larrydavis3645Ай бұрын
My wife had a peaceful death. After 2 weeks in the hospital, she became more and more unresponsive. Shortly after she was taken off the ventilator she spoke and told us we were loved and then a few hours later she went through the process you have shown in your videos and died after 12 hours.
@debbim4172Ай бұрын
I am 65 and in generally good health, my husband is 4 years older and has multiple health issues. We had built our “ dream home” in the mountains of NC but realized it was going to be too much to live our lives out in so we moved closer to family in Fla. and moved into a 1 story, no steps home renovated the master bath to a walk in shower with a seat and enough room for a shower chair if needed and grab bars. Changed out the old toilets for raised to be easier and generally made this our home to grow old ( God willing😊) in. I feel very blessed to be able to have done all these changes before we got too old. I watched my parents in a 3 story townhouse struggle as they aged and it was a real life lesson for me. Your common sense advice is always on point and very much appreciated! Keep up the good work and congrats on your BESTSELLER book 📖 ❤❤❤
@maggietaylor9475Ай бұрын
I’m 68 with quite a few chronic health conditions, but I’m compos mentis and that’s what counts for me! My husband is 65 in September and still works. We recently downsized, like you, to a smaller property so that when one of us dies the other can manage the house easily. Yes, a large garden was nice, but very time consuming and took a lot of effort. Let’s hope we all have peaceful lives and a peaceful ending as well ❤
@lillis887Ай бұрын
❤❤we love our home floor plan but looking at renovation plans now in our late 50’s that will enable us to care for a completely disabled loved one at home!!❤ One floor, changing regular shower/garden tub into a walk in/roll in shower! Have a large formal living/dining area that will easily fit a hospital bed and additional equipment if needed. I’m a nurse determined to never let any of my family members be placed in LTC!! If you’ve actually taken care of family at home post hospital and have any suggestions they are much appreciated!🙏🙏
@brianamitchell8078Ай бұрын
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@wizzardofpaws2420Ай бұрын
I believe this is one of the top 10 channels on youtube. Everyone should see it.
@jillcncАй бұрын
When is our society going to get over this thing about denying us the ability to exit on our own terms? I am alone with no spouse and no children, and while I am in good health now, I know we all deteriorate sooner or later unless we get hit by a bus or the equivalent. I do not wish to be a burden. When my time comes I want to be able to exit painlessly on my own terms. But we have this underlying idea that suffering before death is something necessary. It comes from a religious framework that not all of us have and should not be imposed on everyone. I have no desire to grab every possible minute here or to be a burden on anyone. If I know death is inevitable, I want to go as quietly and painlessly as possible.
@Bluebird19-ll8suАй бұрын
I'm almost in the same boat. I have a spouse but he is not in good health. If he were to go, I'd be pretty much alone. No children or family to speak of, no close friends, either. I agree with everything you said.
@jillcncАй бұрын
@@Bluebird19-ll8su I was widowed 11 years ago. My husband was unable to regain consciousness after a stroke without going into constant seizures. I had to make "The Decision" and he was able to leave this world quietly on palliative sedation. It is hard but with determination building a new life is possible. It won't look like the old one, and it might not even be partnered, but it is possible to live a good life after widowhood. I hope your situation does not come to that.
@Bluebird19-ll8suАй бұрын
@@jillcnc Thank you for your reply. I'm sorry to hear about your husband- that must have been a difficult time. Yes, I believe it is possible to live a good life after widowhood. (To be honest, one of my biggest fears would be finances. That is scary to think about, in all honesty). But one day at a time, and cross each bridge when you come to it.
@elizabethashurst9466Ай бұрын
My brother in law had a peaceful passing. He deteriorated rapidly after a week of being in hospital. He was too ill to be moved to a hospice. We had to quickly get our heads around it as he never told anyone that his cancer had spread. We found out a week prior to him passing away. I’d experienced enough death to know what to expect. Your videos also helped me a great deal. Thank you for helping me cope ❤❤
@susanfitzpatrick3369Ай бұрын
Thank you!!!!! Thank you! I cared for my mom with the help and love from home hospice. She had an incredibly peaceful death. Her diagnosis was quick and everything happened so god damn fast. She was in hospice for 26 days. I spent 24/7 with her. We talked about everything. I knew exactly what she wanted and I honored that. I know at first her diagnosis was a shocker to her. She had still been working, memory better than anyone. She was also a very private person, and didn’t want people worrying about her. I relocated back East to care for her. As traumatic as it was to accept that my mother/ best friend was dying. I was all in to make the last time of her life here on Earth the very best. She died 2/17/24. The day before her 80th birthday. I am struggling. But I tell myself a 100 times a day that she is at peace, no more pain. Plus I have gotten signs from her.i am just selfish and she was a constant in my daily life that I just want her here. I miss her tremendously! My heart is completely broken. But i am so very honored that i was able to go take care of her and be there. She truly was a perfect person. ❤
@jimrebrАй бұрын
I’m so sorry and I am going through the same thing x 2. My mom fell in January and my mom and dad had just finished their wills and their DNR’s, bought cemetery plots and both caskets and gravestone, all finished, so she thought she could relax and enjoy living in their newly renovated home, but sadly that wasn’t God’s plan. I am the eldest of sis, female and the Honeymoon Baby, born exactly 7 days after my mom’s 20th birthday. We talked about everything and we planned on spending our birthdays together in May, she had their caretakers fix my old bedroom up so cute for me, hippie boho gypsy, my mom knew me so well and I knew her better than anyone else, except my husband and kids. She told me in November that we were almost better best friends then mom and daughter, which we were, we but I remember my feelings, I thought,but didn’t say, but I need you as my mom, I didn’t want her upset. She was doing really well, but she was getting warn out caring for my dad, who is deaf and he has dementia/Altziemers, and they were put on at home hospice. Shem my mom fell in January and cracked or broke her femur, my sisters and our only brother were all there and my sisters took her to the ER, she was in so much excruciating pain that they couldn’t do a Cat Scan or MRI, because she couldn’t handle being touched or carried, the doctor put a Fentanyl patch on her & we had to move our parents to a 24/7 hospice care home, near them in Riverside, California, because none of us 6 adult kids live in California, we are spread out to the East Coast up to Washington, next to Canada, so we couldn’t stay there and take care of them. I have been disabled since 2005 from several bad accidents at my workplace. My husband and I arrived in Riverside, about a week after they were moved there. Mom told me not to touch her below the neck, except we could and did hold hands. She was in excruciating pain and I knew from Nurse Julie what I was seeing, my mom was dying and she begged me to stay with her till the end, which I did, watching over my mom and monitoring her food and liquids, she didn’t even want food,, in mid March she refused all food and liquids, and of course I wanted her to have a peaceful death, I knew on Saturday the 16th of March, she had entered the Active Dying phase, she managed to tell me how beautiful I am and how much she loved me, on Friday March 15th, my brother grabbed 1 of my sisters and drove straight to the hospice on Sunday the 17th. Mom passed so peacefully at 7:03pm on March 19th. I thought I was prepared, but I truly wasn’t, the grief has been so difficult, the only thing that makes it ok, is we have our 3rd grandchild due any day, so it’s the circle of life. In May, mine and mom’s birth month, we went to Riverside and visited my dad and I took flowers to moms grave 3 times, but the pain and grief just doesn’t stop, my dear sweet sister in law, told me May 18th, the day before we left for California, that it took a year or two to move through her grief at her parents deaths.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@susanfitzpatrick3369Ай бұрын
@@jimrebr I am so very sorry that you too have been through this. All I can say is it sucks. I cant describe it any other way. Its such a blessing that you were able to be with your wonderful mom in those final days. It also is so painful! I replay those 26 days in my head everyday, thinking… if i did this, would she be here? If i did this? its like a cruel joke our minds play on us…. The pain of facing each day knowing we won’t hear their voices, hold their hands, kiss them, laugh with them, cry with them. Gut wrenching. my mom also had a fentanyl patch… I remember thinking .. holy crap, she is the strongest human i know and the fact that she needed this, and it definitely brought her the pain relief she needed. I held her hand everyday and begged and pleaded with God to heal her. ( silently) The last week she was alive . I begged God to take her, she had accepted she was dying shortly after finding out her diagnosis. I told her I just wanted her here forever, she told me she would never leave me. She was right. I feel her with me, she gives me signs. But i still cry everyday. sometimes for just a few minutes. Other days on and off all day. I wish this was something none of us have to experience. Im also so fortunate and honored that I was with her. Like my husband reminds me, “ you were the last one to hold her hand, kiss her, tell her you loved her” she was at peace and knew it was ok to go. 💕😘 Prayers and hugs to you on this emotional journey!💕
@jimrebrАй бұрын
@@susanfitzpatrick3369 I am trying to find a way to respond, I have been crying daily, not long, I just miss my mom constantly and I want to talk with her constantly and I keep having to remind myself she isn’t here, but speak to her, I still do, because I know she can’t hear me and she is always close. I still have her voice in my head. I am praying for Susan!!!❤️
@EC-yd9yv12 күн бұрын
✨🕊️💙🙏✨
@Human0906_Ай бұрын
Hi Julie. I’m 47 and I have debilitating nerve pain from a spinal cord injury. I have been given the green light in Switzerland for VAD. It’s brought me such peace. I’m a PA ortho trauma and eas also a body builder I’m bed bound I can’t accept living on pain meds for the rest of my life in bed. So I’m grateful for this gift
@WendyHammond-y7tАй бұрын
@@Human0906_ I don’t know you but my heart is with you. Peace and embraces.
@Ginny202Ай бұрын
@@Human0906_ God be with you always
@kryssynation6366Ай бұрын
Sending much love and prayers
@kryssynation6366Ай бұрын
Sending much love and prayers
@Ginny202Ай бұрын
@@Human0906_ God be with you always
@Melissa-gn3dvАй бұрын
Judging by the first family you talked about, it sounds like the plan for a peaceful death starts by living a good life. His family was willing to be there for him and comfort him.
@chevelle68100Ай бұрын
My dad and husband both were very brave. They didn’t show fear. I hope I’m as brave.
@Catherine1151Ай бұрын
Thanks to you I no longer fear dying and death. I'm 73 and in relatively good health. I've set up what I want done should something happen unexpectedly. My loved ones know my wishes, i.e. organ donation, DNR etc. And this is all thanks to you Julie. ❤
@brianamitchell8078Ай бұрын
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@bmiller949Ай бұрын
In our family we have each other's DNR docs. We went though this when my father died 40 years ago. We remember how glad we had those docs back then.
@nekosensei76Ай бұрын
I just bought your book. Dementia. My dad is dying from Parkinson’s and Vascular Dementia. So far, it hasn’t been peaceful. He’s on hospice, but sometimes, he fights my mom and brother when they’re changing his diaper. Things are really hard right now. And some terminal conditions are not easy. Dementia is one of them.
@jamiestanley9234Ай бұрын
I’m so sorry! I can only imagine how hard this is for you and your family. You’re in my thoughts 🩷
@carolyndalton7775Ай бұрын
Excellent video and information. Every time I mention death, dying and planning my funeral, my family cringes I feel it is very important not to leave them with all of those plans and decisions when they are least likely to be able to make the clear decisions. I want to spare them from have to go shopping for a casket, a vault, etc.
@dfirth224Ай бұрын
I have already made and paid (not cheap) for my burial. Direct burial with no embalming, cheap wood casket. If anyone wants to do a memorial service that's on them, not me. BTW, after you pay for your arrangements they give you a wallet card to carry on you. You should also let family and friends know you have done this.
@Armedjoy9117 күн бұрын
I’m in my 30s so I’m not expecting to die anytime soon, but I’m already prepared for when it happens. My wife works with medically donated bodies in a research facility, so we talk about death a lot. I also am a recovering heroin addict and had a few close calls before I quit 6 years ago. I’ve learned through all I’ve been through to go with the flow and live in the moment, so your videos have taught me a lot and have made me realize how prepared I am now at 33. I should be very much ready when the time comes in the ( hopefully very distant future) I’ll be completely at ease and ready to die.
@goldenreclinerАй бұрын
I went through Hospice training several years ago, mainly to support my dearest friend after diagnosed with ALS. I gave it up when he died. i THANK you so very much for your advice, insights, experiences, wisdom, intuitiveness, compassion, etc. Not only are you an inspiration, but you, (maybe unknowingly) set all our minds at ease about our own immortality. thank you, you are a rare gem and an old soul to us all. I turn 71 in a few days, and you inspire me to get back into it, so thank you.
@DebbieHerbertАй бұрын
Ordered on audio! My husband and I are in our 60s with medical challenges. Thanks for your reassurance. Both my parents died in hospice care and it was a relief that their passing was gentle and seemed pain- free.
@Paulohlsson7Ай бұрын
Hi Debbie, how's your day going with you?
@maryjane1741Ай бұрын
I just bought my third book! I gave the first 2 books to family of residents in my mothers memory care facility, whos loved one took turns for the worst unexpectedly ( although caregiving these days at memory care facilities absolutely sucks). The 3rd one is for me to read to prepare for my 93 year old mothers departure once she is ready to go. I have a wonderful inpatient hospice facility I will move her to once she qualifies. My goal is to make her death beautiful and her transition seamless. It has been a long hard journey for her to get here ( 13th year of dementia). Thank you for sharing your wisdom on the subject.
@carolmartin4413Ай бұрын
Nice guidance for everyone. Getting close to the end now, much of what you're saying is what we preparers are doing. First, you have to come to terms with your mortality...as you adjust mentally..the rest follows.
@Paulohlsson7Ай бұрын
Hi Carol, how's your day going with you?
@premilabenjamin4444Ай бұрын
My husband was a heart and kidney patient for ten years undergoing dialysis. He had a close communion with God and the Word of God BIBLE. He thanked me for being a good wife and told me that he committed his life to the will of God and asked God to forgive him of all his shortcomings. He began to thank God saying God was so good to me he helped me to live a life of triumph and victory. The maker of the Heavens and the Earth helped me thus far and he eas Praising God. Unexpectedly my son's family and my unmarried son were there with him and he when all his loved ones were with him he passed away peacefully. PRAISE THE LORD GOD ALMIGHTY FATHER in the mighty name of JESUS CHRIST for my wonderful, generous,kind, loving and caring husband who was praying day and night so now l feel the presence and the Providence of the LORD GOD ALMIGHTY FATHER in my life after his passing away.
@Janeburns-mi9dhАй бұрын
Julie, you've helped so many. Thank you so much. You are an angel.🤗
@HaggisloverАй бұрын
My grandfather died of lung cancer. The whole family nursed him at home and he was taking oral painkillers until his last day, when he became unable to swallow the pills. The doctor was called to administer IV pain meds, but took too long to get there. My grandfather, the manliest most stoic man I have ever known, died screaming in pain.
@jimrebrАй бұрын
I’m so sorry about his death, may God comfort you. I hope he has found peace on the other side of the veil…❤
@marjoriegarner5369Ай бұрын
I'm so sorry to hear what you all went through. May you be at peace now and always.
@blowitoutyourcunt7675Ай бұрын
I have powdered tablets when IV meds weren't available and swallowing them wasn't an option, it's gritty but better than nothing. I'm sorry he passed in such distress!
@JanetmontesanoАй бұрын
My dad passed beautifully and peacefully last May. 🥹 After a devastating diagnosis he chose MAiD ( Medical Assistance in Dying 🇨🇦). This gifted us with meaningful intentional time with him: no words left unsaid 💙. We held him until his final breath and affirmed our love as he passed into eternity. His wishes were fulfilled and he did not suffer. Bittersweet…..🙏
@colleencaseyranieri532013 күн бұрын
I hear ya..🙏🏼🩵🙏🏼🩵🙏🏼
@Aineb1039Ай бұрын
I am 81 and watching all your videos trying to learn what to expect as a Christian I know I am going to be with my Lord but I wanted to know all I could.
@patwo9719Ай бұрын
Thank you for all you do. This is a really valuable channel and I hope all the people who need to see this find it.
@cathyg1099Ай бұрын
I’m 60, single, with no family, and in poor health. Death terrifies me since I will die alone.
@cravingthings1188 күн бұрын
You are not alone "Jehovah God "will be there every step of way !! Pray and accept Jehovah God as your Savior and call on him!! Trust me you will go peaceful my spirit told me to tell you this!! Most of us don't won't to go but we leave this Earth to be in Paradise like Jesus told The thief on th Cross!! May u your journey be smooth and peaceful!! Praying for you 🙏🏾
@bryanfindley1438Ай бұрын
you are such a WONDERFUL SPIRIT Julie.. I thank you for the videos, and all that you do.
@friedaferrick7059Ай бұрын
I am so grateful that you are sharing all of your knowledge and love, to help people have a better, more peaceful death. Thank you, Nurse Julie. Many years ago, my dad was dying, I left my husband and 4 sons and went to be there. My mom, sister and I were with him when he died. Thanks to a nurse who saw he needed help, she suctioned liquid from him and he went peacefully and we were with him. I knew, I would do something with that experience, and 10 years later I was a counseling intern at Hospice.
@GeorgeStar22 күн бұрын
The most influential book I ever read was, The Denial of Death. We are the only creatures cursed with the knowledge of our own demise. So much of our dysfunction and unhappiness revolves around trying to submerge that reality as far into the subconscious as possible.
@barbo11067 күн бұрын
This makes so much sense. That must have been so comforting for that man to have his family respond in such a loving, accepting way. 🥰
@traciwilt8017Ай бұрын
I’m a hospice nurse and had my dad on hospice 2 years after a stroke. The last week of his life was beautiful. We were all with him for that week and we told stories about him, the good and bad. My sister, mom and I saw the change and we were able to hold his hands and love him as he took his last breath. It was very calm and peaceful ❤
@patwo9719Ай бұрын
My son was the caregiver for his father for the last 10 years of his life. We had been divorced for years. In the last year or so he had dementia and unfortunately the end was not peaceful. My son was somewhat traumatized by the bad ending and worried that he hadn't done enough for his dad. He did a great job and I keep telling him that. Two years later he is moving on with life and I am glad.
@Paulohlsson7Ай бұрын
Hi Pat, how's your day going with you?
@mainetides670Ай бұрын
You are wonderful, Julie. I think God placed you here on KZbin for this purpose; to help SO MANY PEOPLE not fear death. You are a comfort. Thank you! ❤
@leslienewhouse5276Ай бұрын
Julie, I am 75 and practiced medicine for 41 years. I was a scientist until my wife passed away. After she passed away strange things started to happen around the house that I couldn't scientifically explain. My daughter and daughter-in-law are nurses and have both worked in hospice. My daughter-in-law still does. They talked me into putting in a security system with cameras because of the strange things that were happening. I am not sure that some members of the family believed me. Low and behold I was able to video three of the strange things that happened. I saw your interview about your miracle, this is my miracle. My grandson put together a video with the 3 miracle videos in it and put it on KZbin because people were asking me to prove it and see the videos. It's called A Random Life Love Never Dies. It's only 5 minutes. I thought you might like to see it. Thank you, it takes a very special person to work in hospice.
@johannabeal852Ай бұрын
@leslienewhouse5276 I just watched your video, and love that I can't explain it either
@kimsmith8505Ай бұрын
I watched it! It’s amazing
@robinalexander1765Ай бұрын
I just watched it and it gave me chills
@dfirth224Ай бұрын
Strange things have happened to me all my life. But after my dad died in 2009 REALLY strange things began to happen. Door bell rang when no one was there. An alarm clock on the mantel suddenly started "dinging" one time a day for three days. It stopped after three days when I found the source of the dinging. The alarm had not been used in more than 5 years. I tested the alarm and it worked, but I could not get it to ding just once. One night i was sitting at the desktop computer when all of a sudden a device on a shelf above me TURNED ON BY ITSELF. I just sat there and looked at it for a minute or so before turning it off. It never happened before or since. Things have suddenly disappeared for no reason, etc. There is a video called "The Life After Death Project". True story. Several things mentioned have happened to me. I got the DVD set on Amazon. It may also be on KZbin or online.
@grnpeepers2683Ай бұрын
Oh I'm so sorry for your loss of your wife. But how beautiful she's letting you know she hasn't left you either! As an elder care giver I've witnessed so much so I am a believer & I'm definitely gonna go watch your video! ❤Thank you, many blessings, & I wish the best for you🕊️
@joyyoung8959Ай бұрын
I want you with me when I go. I’m ready but in great health. At 83. And from long life guess it will be a while. Thank you so much for your info.
@Outsider4JCАй бұрын
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@brianamitchell8078Ай бұрын
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@user-xl3gv6uf6bАй бұрын
I am 60 and having will and power of attorney set up. I am in good health but pre-planning.
@Monica-gj2yxАй бұрын
So have I, at 66 years of age.
@user-qr5hk3je3xАй бұрын
Thank you for this channel. It showed up in my feed and I am glad. 4 years ago my parents died within 3 weeks at home and in a palliative hospital before Covid fortunately . I spent his last night with my father in the clinic and he was very agitated which was scary. I wish I had known about this. He was able to say good bye with looks and touches of love but it was hard that he could not speak any more in the end and was breathing with so much effort. Your descriptions were true and I wish we had known before. I subscribe and thank you from Germany
@dalequale9365Ай бұрын
Amen 🙏 DENIAL is a killer. Some 20 veterans neighbors and friends here at Patriot Place have left feet first, expired or to the hospital. PRIDE is up there, too. So many bad ☠. I'm empowered by my health choices and your channel. Age 69.🤞🙏
@robertacarroll8481Ай бұрын
My husband and I have made prearrangements for our death we already purchased our plot at the cemetery, our headstone, opening and closing of the gravesite twice. The only thing we need to do is cremations of our earthly bodies. For the most part we are set to go. Oh and the most important part is excepting & acknowledging that Jesus died on the cross for our sins, that is number one. I am heaven bound.
@Paulohlsson7Ай бұрын
Hi Roberta, how's your day going with you?
@cherylweber8406Ай бұрын
Nurse Julie, you speak the truth! My friend who was diagnosed with stage 3 ovarian cancer, she really prepared herself and family for her death. She was very open with conversations about her death. One day, she and friends planned to go to lunch but before we had to attend catholic Mass at her church even if you weren't catholic. She said, "I want you all to attend my funeral here in this church, know where where it is!" She talked about death, as matter of fact. One day, when we visited her at home, she was rather excited to show use her funeral urn to be used for her ashes. She loved jigsaw puzzles, and completed a puzzle for each of her close family members to frame and display. She was an awesome person and a retired hospice nurse, I worked with who really lived her life till she died. She was a blessing, and prepared for her death❤
@Paulohlsson7Ай бұрын
Hi Cheryl, how's your day going with you?
@shrs.3448Ай бұрын
Thank you Julie. You are the best in talking about hospice thingy. You have and will be helping many many people facing death. I am pretty sure your name is on that book of life for heaven. Blessings from LA.
@rickschwab8270Ай бұрын
Thank you for sharing all the information!
@jameshoeve4466Ай бұрын
Julie, I love what you're doing. It iyour calling. calling. My mother passed away, many years ago, Ina hospice facility. It was a loving experience for most of my family, but not so much for one member, the one who couldn't let go and face the change. It seems the more adaptable we are in life, our coping skills seem to to strengthen. Thank you, and all the hospice caregivers out there. You're angels.❤❤❤
@debbiejoe5Ай бұрын
You are fantastic. I wish there were more caregivers like you!!
@lyciamessersmith5348Ай бұрын
My family did this for my mother. We tied up her trust paperwork, let friends come say goodbye and stayed in room/bed around the clock until she transitioned. The whole process took 3 weeks. It was a beautiful ending. No fighting afterwards either!
@blondiegirl5460Ай бұрын
Peaceful is knowing the Lord.
@linda-taylorwest4435Ай бұрын
@@blondiegirl5460 HALLELUJAH 🙌
@kathybrem880Ай бұрын
Not for me
@marilyncausey9348Ай бұрын
🙌
@JesusHasThisАй бұрын
When, Where who knows cept GOD. I am blood bought and born again in JESUS so no issues on the passing from this body / life when Jesus says " Come Home Shannon". I know people who went out laughing and yelling " Its beautiful here beautiful" and swosh gone❤
@Sicilian120Ай бұрын
Thank you Julie. You have confirmed what I have felt for years, especially after watching my husband die. I have learned a lot from your videos and am now going to order your book so that my family can read it. You are an angel!
@deniseconaway701Ай бұрын
Julie, i just want to thank you, my mother died this Monday, and because i have watched and listened to you, i was more clear to understand what was happening, and in truth it hurts and i have tears, i feel more at ease, and got to be there as she took her last breath, Thankyou ❤️
@meadows408Ай бұрын
Thank you Julie, I finished reading your book yesterday and the timing has been perfect. She is in assisted living and I found a good one. I am relieved of caring for her basic needs. This is hard and sad but it is ok, I believe when you say our bodies know how to die. Your book is required reading for my family so I can exit in peace. God be with you always.
@charlesdp18 күн бұрын
Hi Julie! You know, I´m gonna be 66 this Aug. 19th and I´m alone with my two doggies. I do have a sister and two sons but I´ve been put into "estrangement" by them, so very little contact if any. What I did a few years ago was prepare a letter with very specific instructions for if / when I become either unable to communicate (say by stroke) or die. I put it in an envelope and placed it where everyone can see. Preparing is everything! P.S. I also recorded my voice with a post-mortem joke. The sound of my voice as if I were pounding from inside the casket saying "Hey! It´s tight in here! Let me out! Hahahaha
@treespirit9102Ай бұрын
Thank you. This was so comforting. I'm terminally ill and have been planning. I have my songs picked and soon I'll be living near my grandson. I recently came to the conclusion that I no longer can take 100% care of myself all the time. I can still live independently but I need close family nearby. I'm not so much planning my death but my transition.
@cecilgriffiths6399Ай бұрын
The thing that worries me about death is not really the physical pain side of things but more the mental and emotional side! Any advice or thoughts on this? Your videos are Amazing! May God/the universe bless you!🙏🤗🌟
@TraumaSurvivorCynthiaАй бұрын
😢 My 84 yr old Uncle Bob said NO to hospice care because he was told that his 💔 heart pacemaker defibrillator would be turned OFF!! 🤔 Instead of hospice care...... He bought a 2023 Corvette Stingray and named it HOSPICE!! ❤ #davesandersstepdaughter
@jamiestanley9234Ай бұрын
I’m glad he did what he wanted. Sometimes it’s hard for us to watch but sounds like he had a great sense of humor! Prayers to you 💕
@JeffsGypsy23 күн бұрын
My husband is currently on hospice for CHF. It is Patients choice to leave it on or turn it off. Monday he is having a Cath Lab to see if a mechanical heart valve would be appropriate to ease discomfort.
@marya4717Ай бұрын
This is a tremendously encouraging and insightful video. I wish everyone would watch it. Thank you, Julie!
@straywolf77Ай бұрын
Julie....you are so wonderful. Love your videos. You are doing God's work. Death is a portal. We will all be called home someday. Al I can say is...folks need to embrace it. Death is heavenly. Thank you.
@dixieleeranchАй бұрын
You are very soothing. Just bought your book. Thank you.
@user-wt1jd4rc9n10 күн бұрын
I am not afraid of death, I am afraid of the suffering that accompanies the last moments, months or years of life. If I end up in a lot of pain, I want to go to a country where voluntary death is allowed. That's what I understand by a peaceful death, a death without pain. Someday human beings will progress enough to realize the right of every human being to make the decision of when to die. We humans take the lives of animals that are suffering greatly, and we adults also deserve the same compassion.
@laurencole422223 күн бұрын
This is outstanding! I want to see a greater death acceptance in our society. Makes it so much easier for everyone. A friend of mine was handed a book the day before she died. If we have an understanding of the whole death process during the entirety of our lives, then we and our loved ones will be in a more understanding frame of mind when the time comes.
@judementz-gibbons67307 күн бұрын
A peaceful death when one knows they are a good person and have a clear conscience with little regrets. Surrounded by someone whom they matter to with compassion and love.
@brucesweeney108722 күн бұрын
I love U nurse Julie,you are so animated and easy to understand...thank you
@diannec732Ай бұрын
Excellent content and presentation of almost every piece of knowledge that we need to face our own death or the death of loved ones. Thank you, Julie, you are a saint👏👏👏
@pelayanjpa70864 күн бұрын
My friend died of cancer. A day before He died, He told his wife, "Jesus came to this room but He didn't ask me to go with Him." He died in peace.
@carolyndalton7775Ай бұрын
Excellent video and information. Every time I mention death, dying, or planning
@carolecrystal6360Ай бұрын
A beautiful educational video !❤
@joyfulmindstudioАй бұрын
You are one of the people in this world who are bringers of peace. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for this work that you are doing, so well and so compassionately. 🙏🏻
@shellon873213 күн бұрын
I appreciate your videos as my mom is in this process. The communication to us as a family is very poor so we're fumbling along learning this as we go. Thank you.
@mashelly1000Ай бұрын
Have you ever seen a death from PML or MS related complications? If so, would you please consider making a video about them? Thank you. ❤
@AngusHenry09Ай бұрын
What do you do when you have no one ??? Am now going into a wheelchair and am terrified.
@My-cat-KimchiАй бұрын
I’m not afraid to die. I’m more afraid of dying alone, but I don’t think my family would care enough to help me do it gracefully. I’m not even close to death and they all ignore me so I have to assume I’ll be on my own in the end. I live with my daughter and grandchildren which makes it even more sad to know what is coming.
@Monica-gj2yxАй бұрын
This Fall, I am looking at hospices in Vermont even though I am in good health. Why Vermont? Because they have legal Medical Aid In Dying (MAID). Be aware 90% of hospices don't allow MAID, even in states where it's legal.
@Outsider4JCАй бұрын
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@cavgrey8Ай бұрын
Totally understand. I too plan on doing the same. I want to go out in my own terms and not be bedridden. 8 years of chemotherapy resulted in liver failure. Treatment bought 16 extra years but with major collateral damage.
@blowitoutyourcunt7675Ай бұрын
Interesting, in my experience, even in Texas where euthanasia is definitely frowned upon, nurses here will not hesitate to Morphine you out of your misery. Maybe it's the long-term discussion ahead of time that they perceive as breaking the law, is west it comes down to? Very strange stuff....
@premilabenjamin4444Ай бұрын
JESUS CHRIST the Prince of Peace.
@Rink03Ай бұрын
Being mentally prepared as the one dying and as the family helps the transition go smoother and less stressfully, such helps
@garycoloradosprings3947Ай бұрын
Love all your videos. This one was especially helpful. Great job!
@EC-yd9yv12 күн бұрын
💗 thank you, awesome info, you present so well. God bless 🕊️🙏✨
@bcmfinАй бұрын
I've already had a peaceful death. I was at work when I suffered a cardiac arrest. No vital signs for 9 minutes. My co-workers administered CPR and zapped me three times with the AED. I 'm still here, but if I didn't make it, it was peaceful. I was at work, then I wasn't.
@stevepanza2570Ай бұрын
This is great advice! My mom is in Hospice, and will probably pass this week. What you describe in being prepared is on point. My mom never planned for this, and always did everything herself so Hospice has been difficult for her and she is fighting it all the way.
@warrenmcgaw4036Ай бұрын
My father in-law is in his last weeks of life 😞your videos are such a gift and so much education.Even though I have been a professional caregiver for 15 years you are a blessing to myself and my partner in this time where after caring for him for the past 2 years you really are making such a difference in our life as we feel empowered too give him the best death possible 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼thank you thank you thank you nurse Julie ❤️
@margieaustmanАй бұрын
Goose bumps!! I totally agree with acceptance… Being open to talk about death with your family and friends, and back to acceptance! The best way to pass over and to be present with your loved one
@MomotheJoyful9 күн бұрын
Thank you So helpful You’re beautiful Inside and out A blessing in This world 🙏
@dmitrymanchenkov2996Ай бұрын
Thank you so much, Dr. Julie, for another inspirational video and for that lovely poetical metaphor of the ocean you've quoted. Although you, too, are already planning for death, I wish you to live and to stay with us for many, many more happy years. Your energy, your positive vibes, your power of narration do bring a great consolation and a hope for the peaceful and beautiful death. You help us to accept the necessity of this phenomenon and to regard it as not smth. fearful, but as a necessary and usual final stage of life. I guess, we all should be prepared at any given moment of our lives, knowing that the end is always near and it can happen to us at any second. If we are prepared, death will never take us by surprise, and thus we'll have more chance to face it calmly and with dignity, no matter in what disguise it may come to us.
@LoisSharbel21 күн бұрын
What a helpful commentary! Thank you for this sensitive, direct talk . Very helpful!
@frankiepeters5434Ай бұрын
Hey you wrote a book! Good for you! I’m sure your book has helped and will help many people. On a side note, it’s a bummer you are not single.😏😁
@smoothjazz195417 күн бұрын
Thank you, I really appreciate this. Something I need to work on. So afraid of death , I want to outlive my cats. Not sure about burial issues. I’m 70, young. 😢😢❤❤😊
@ndnpony25 күн бұрын
Julie, THAT was the best video, IMHO, that I have seen. It was real, it was honest, it was well presented! Thank you!
@gratitudeistheanswer2 күн бұрын
Cant afford your book , I live on a fixed income and every penney matters but thank you for some great info. I did find 2 Dr's to help me with Death with dignity here in VT, I have just started Hospice. Thank you for all you do.
@Outsider4JCСағат бұрын
Just want to remind you about the most most important decision we need to make before we die, and that is to receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I just wanted to let you know a little about what the bible says. It takes more than just believing in God. John 3:3 says, we must be Born Again to get to heaven before our time is up.. Everyone has sinned and fallen short of God's glorious standard, and all need to be made right with God by his grace, which is a free gift. We need to be made free from sin through Jesus Christ. Bible also says, its not by works should any one boast. So being a good person does not get you to heaven either. The only way to heaven is by repenting of your sins, which means a change of mind, and putting your faith and trust in Jesus. Romans 10:13 says, Whosoever shall call upon the name of the Lord shall be saved. So you see, there is a need for salvation to get to heaven. That is why Jesus died on the cross. He took all of our sins upon him, so that if you accept Him as your Lord and Savior, you can have eternal life in paradise. You do not get there being a good person, or doing good deeds. Many people believe that is all it takes. Jesus also says, that I am the way, the Truth, and the Life, no one comes unto the father, except through me. So please make that decision, so that you can have peace and comfort before your time is up. Its the most important decision of your life. You can then have that peace and assurance of salvation in your heart. All you have to do is humble your heart and pray with faith,... "I repent of my sins, and I turn to You. You said in Your word that if we confess with our mouth the Lord Jesus, and believe in our hearts that God raised Him from the dead, we shall be saved. I ask You Jesus to forgive me of all my sins, come into my heart, and take control of my life. From this day forward I want to live for you. ..... It's not about the words, it's about your heart. The Lord will then send His Holy Spirit to live on the inside of you. The Holy Spirit is Gods seal of salvation, and your evidence you have been Born Again. He will transform your heart and mind. He will bring you into a personal relationship with Jesus. You will become a new person inside. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says: “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new”. Its truly amazing! You will be filled with peace, love, and joy of the Lord inside you. All the fruits of the Holy Spirit. He will comfort you in your time of need, and give you the strength to endure. No matter what you are going through, Jesus wants to help you through it. You can lean on Him. Its the most important decision of anyone's life. God's Word says that we are saved by grace through faith in Christ Jesus and not by our own efforts or works (Ephesians 2:8-9). Grace Alone. Jesus is the only way to heaven. Please believe me, its all in the bible. Its the Word of God..I am not judging or condemning anyone, just letting you know there is much more if you put your trust in Him. Jesus cares for you, and does not wish for you to be separated from him. Please don't wait. Today is the day of salvation. He loves you, and does wish for anyone to be apart from Him, but to have eternal life in heaven. I'm praying for you. Please ask Jesus to come into your life today, my friend, You are special to Jesus. Romans 10:9-10. "If thou shalt confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shalt believe in thine heart that God hath raised him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. Be blessed
@christineolexa5116Ай бұрын
Thank you! Thank you! Priceless!!!
@louiseemerson331Ай бұрын
Hi Julie! My dear family members who have passed before me have all waited until we left their side and then they died peacefully with the exception of my father and fortunately my sister was with him. Is this something that’s common as well? I’ve always wondered. this is the first video I’ve seen you do and I will continue to watch more because, I worked in healthcare for 30 years and I agree with everything you’ve said and I have encouraged family members to do these things prior to passing. Thank you for sharing!