Want to Break Unhealthy Patterns? (Watch This)

[@BagznBirdz]

Okay, the guy he called - ladies, take notes; Did you notice when John told him that his wife is proud of him, his voice started cracking. That's one of the biggest things a man needs to hear, especially from his wife. If you have a man you're proud of, TELL HIM. And men, if you have a wife you can't live without, TELL HER. She needs to hear that.

[@Jessfitz844]

Going through a divorce with my ex of 10 years. It will be my first Christmas without him and his family and I’m devastated. This is the hardest time in my whole life so I appreciate you reminding us to create boundaries and take care of us first ❤ I decided to stay out of state with friends for Christmas this year.

[@michaelnavarro9833]

Man I'm 4 year away from 40 never be married all wanted work gone though hard time I can't imagine what u going though life don't wait for no one good bless

[@Lovinmc69420]

I literally was this kid. I played football in 6th grade and was extremely anxious about getting hit and homework done. I didn’t know what was wrong with me or why my parents couldn’t understand, it turned out, as an adult, I was autistic and hypersensitive to being hit and socially anxious at school. All made sense in retrospect.

[@Nonya12608]

The first thing I think of when I hear someone gets bored with jobs and quits is, ADHD. After hearing about the rest of his story, he 100% has it. As someone who wasn't diagnosed until 47, going through life not understanding why everyone around you can adult so easily, while you are struggling to get your dishes done, or be content in a job, is devastating. It is a self image and self esteem killer.

[@luzvalencia987]

I love how Dr. Delony, he is so passionate about his work, his high energy is so contagious 😁God bless him and his family!

[@kellymorehouse4561]

❤John, this is why you're so good, loved and we listen to you because you're genuine

[@csleung444]

I was John and first caller constantly changing jobs, wanting to move, finding fault in co workers, finding fault with my romantic partners. Answers are within. BUT entry level jobs also suck and being now mid level with better choices, better co workers and i finally found the aspects that make a happy life for myself which helped me find the right partner and it gets better.

[@wittyvixen2]

Seriously, the best talk show ever,

[@balamb25]

Can I throw something out there?.... this is my absolute paranoia talking, but please don't show him dialing the phone numbers and the tone tones? It opens these people up to being called back either by stupid people just playing jokes or by scammers who may call back and say they are from your organization with a special offer and steal their identity. Idk, the world is full of people who take advantage of these opportunities. (I hate to spoil such a wholesome phone call, good for this guy working on his life to overcome generational crud. He's such in inspiration)

[@GwenMotoGirl]

I’ve thought about this, too! And yes, I love that calls, too. Love the entire show. But the tones - I wonder if they can be interpreted and a person’s number revealed.

[@wayneandpeggydreher2725]

For the kid with Dyslexia - Dyslexia is a gift in many, many ways, but it requires kids to work extra hard to read and succeed in school. Part of the stress of having homework might be the feeling that his hard day of work is not over yet. He ran his marathon at school, but now he has one more mile to run at home. Celebrate his successes, especially in activities that he loves to do!

[@TheTravelingThrifter]

God I adore this podcast. That last message was empowering! GO DO. No more excuses. I really needed that motivation 👏🏼

[@bebois2529]

But you can feel even more lonely with the wrong company. Meaningful connections heal

[@kellysmith7163]

Middle School is such an anxiety inducing environment. Add to that dyslexia and an anxious dad? Not easy!

[@harrietbaker4484]

I love your entry with the whoooo and energy and passion you bring to your work!

[@makhinxumalo4820]

'Money and titles won't fix it.' I like that one.

[@kristencargill8745]

Love the Eminem reference. That song has kept me going through hard seasons. Good words.

[@mmkvoe6342]

If the mom of the boy will be safe enough for long enough, and curious enough, and kind enough, the kid knows or will find out and become able to articulate "why." Parents don't have to be the experts...they have to learn to let the kid be the expert, and believe what the kid says! When, as a 15 year old, I had a breakdown and spent two weeks with nonstop migraines, I was low on sleep, but I also knew exactly why I felt awful and what I needed--and it was because my parents weren't actually zoned in to their family like they thought and insisted they were, and I was carrying so much load that wasn't mine, but there wasn't anyone to pick up the slack if I dropped what I was carrying and I couldn't trust anyone else in the world to become prepared to carry it--the trust and evidence weren't there. Thankfully when I made a statement that my mom took to be suicidal (I don't think I was necessarily but whatever it took) she finally woke up more and took that seriously, although she still didn't know what to do; and I was kind of surprised that she knew enough and cared enough to take that seriously. But yeah, it was awful times.

[@sarahalderman3126]

You were surprised, at 15 years old, that your mother knew enough and cared enough about you to notice that you were overwhelmed with your childhood responsibilities? Wow, that is truly sad.

[@mmkvoe6342]

@@sarahalderman3126 so much that could be replied to this. I don't know exactly what someone else might be picturing as far as "childhood responsibilities" (that would never have been a phrase in my house growing up at all--either you didn't have responsibility, because you were a kid whose parents didn't give responsibility, or you had responsibility the same as an adult might have, for whatever areas of stewardship parents thought it was a good idea for the kids to have, because you were growing up to become an adult and learning to leave childhood behind), but at age 15, my responsibilities were feeding up to five younger siblings two and up to three meals a day, managing all laundry and clean dishes for a family of up to 9 people, schoolwork, church youth responsibility, complete with adults both in and out of the family constantly giving feedback, almost assuredly negative, on anything they ever heard that the youth were doing, babysitting younger siblings every Friday night (no pay or anything) plus plenty of time every day,, learning to drive, considering how I was going to get a job that would be an approved job by parents when I turned 16, splitting the yardwork including lawn mowing, pruning and gardening with a few of the other siblings, music practice on three instruments daily (that was my choice and what was helping keep me sane for the rest of life), but what was hardest was emotionally being Dad's wife when he couldn't communicate with her for so many reasons, and emotionally being Mom to the younger kids, and emotionally being the scapegoat of Mom's inabilities to do many of her own things, you know, all that stuff that an oldest girl does in a big family where the parents are overwhelmed and one of them is narcissistic anyway, stemming from her own upbringing and Dad is passive and depressed stemming from his own upbringing and also running a business to support the big family because the career change didn't go anywhere. So yeah, my parents didn't actually know what was going on, and I had responsibilities that definitely weren't mine and someone needed to do and no one would do, or even could do, if I dropped my load.

[@maiaheiss2991]

@@mmkvoe6342wow. That’s so much, so overwhelming. How old are you now? How are you doing? Have you been able to find a life routine that allows you to nurture yourself and find joy? And people in your life who help you? Is there time and space for peace and rest in your life now? I can relate to much of your experience but through very different circumstances. I wish the best in healing and a beautiful life for you. ❤

[@carter_1]

I have 4 kids (2 are teens, & 2 are young adults). They want you to LISTEN, & feel like they're heard. Light advice is fine, 1/10 of it will actually be applied😅 They mostly want to vent & then talk about random stuff. I've listened to 100s of hours of lore from their favorite show, comic, book, video game, niche topic, hobby, etc. I also have gotten quized 🫣😬 so you gotta pay attention even when you're dying to tune out. Venting is huge, to be able to simply unload Also praise their progress. I hear sooo many parents say "my kids won't talk to me, or tell me anything!!" & I can't get mine to shut up (just kidding). But I really have tried to stay connected to my younger, messier self... and just not judge them, rather let them unload. Even if they did something BAD, but told the truth... & I know, in that situation, how hard it was to tell the truth... Instead of getting mad, I commend them for being honest. My famous words are: "if I don't know the real you, how can I possibly help you,

[@RyH10]

Delony killing it with the Eminem lyrics!

[@redzin8818]

The first caller needs to pray and ask God if he is placed where God wants him to be.... Also, he needs to know that the mission field is where you live, work. Here. Working that mission field is just as important as people who travel to 3rd world countries! A humble man who loves God and will go the extra mile can be used by the Creator. Also, he could start checking with his church ways he can serve each week. Purpose is important. 🙂

[@jacosisaba]

Yeah leave it to the invisible man in the sky to determine what to do with your life. No he needs to bunker down and stick to a job and plan. He needs to go and get stuff done, not stand around at a church. They are so greedy they would try and milk the poor guy dry and mess up his life even more. That or they'll just turn him to a hateful zealot. Most Christians are wonderful but the church is so corrupt and the people suffer.

[@redzin8818]

@@jacosisaba his willing to give a few hours of his time a week within his community is not being taken advantage of. It's about him serving other people and finding his purpose within that. I didn't say he should quit his day job...you really ran with what I wrote.

[@devonalston20]

Do NOT go to Curch Hill Mortgage!!! They treated my mother so bad to the point she had to switch lenders a week before closing!!! She had to go to the table with Movement Mortgage, and that was the best decision she made! We should have started there!!!

[@Thinkforyourselves64]

I had both a cruel 5th grade teacher and a horrid piano teacher that affected my self-esteem very, very bad. The witches are both dead now. That was back in the 60s when teachers could get away with abuse.

[@carter_1]

Kids today have no clue!!

[@joelsuarez6321]

Listen to positive music straight edge punk hardcore no sex no drugs no alcohol we rule

[@kaylasherrard3076]

“I told you to stop saying that.” 😂

[@HeidisHereAndThere]

NOW, HES PUTTING WORDS IN THE GUYS MOUTH??😮 (Patrick)

[@tinam761]

I GUARANTEE the boy in middle school with anxiety… he picked up on his father’s anxiety and they WILL try to solve for that. It happened in my home and I didn’t notice it until it was too late … my kids are still affected by it and function with their dad in the same unhealthy way 20 years later. Dad working on his anxiety and doing it “publicly” within the family would be amazing for this son to watch. I’d follow up in bullying too … middle school years are notorious for that.

[@Teenywing]

You know that mom with the football kid iSnt going to do anything she was told.

[@kita3256]

The lady with the anxious 6th grader …I’m pretty sure she plays a part in her son’s anxiety. 41:01

[@Kevin.Grindel]

I agree she is “helping” him with his homework every night I’m sure it is a nightly struggle and she doesn’t let him fail so he is scared of failure. Kids need to fail so they see it’s not the end of the world.

[@alleykeosheyan4779]

@@Kevin.Grindel Agree, my folks never "helped" me with my homework, I preferred to figure it out on my own. If I needed help, I'd ask for it, but only after I exhausted most options!

[@annareimer8647]

Canalta

[@mirosDV]

It sounds like the big smile in her voice when she said: "he's a straight A student" kind of contradicts the part of him not being pressured to be one and that it's okay for him to fail. Too much emphasis on the being a straight A student in my opinion.

[@rebeccaoprea9917]

The caller about the job might have ADHD.

[@blueseptember2174]

So true adhd and flip flopping go hand in hand

[@sheilaghburchart3513]

Dyslexia can also cause incoordination

[@amys.6673]

One of the gems of the episode: "She's finding out that she might be married to, like, a wet piece of toast."

[@bettybutterbean5759]

Please recognise your child's special educational needs. If they don't float in mainstream school, they sink! I've seen it.

[@coledebbiealbright1360]

“I told you to stop saying that” 😅😅😂😂

[@9384cows]

The guy with the anxiety with the many jobs. It was mentioned that he and his wife have been married for 6 years, do not have kids but does not work. Why? She could take some of the pressure off of him. Unless she cant work. Just wondering.

[@KC-dr3cg]

The most difficult thing I'm dealing with this year is that I don't have enough money to buy Christmas presents because my Christmas fund money is going to pay for my heat. I already choose between having lights on and having hate I have opted for candles and" early to bed early to rise makes a man healthy wealthy and wise" hopefully that works out.. so I tried giving my grandchildren a couple of very nice gifts earlier in the year and explained that I'm not going to be buying Christmas presents only to have my son tell me that there's going to be a Christmas present under the tree for my nearly adult grandchildren despite my request that we not exchange gifts.He makes more money than most people.. and I'm retired

[@sarahalderman3126]

Don’t you realize that accepting these gifts from your grandchildren is about love, not money. Perhaps he wishes to instill a sense of generosity when blessed. To give generously when we’re able, whatever it is that you’re able. As a grandparent you are positioned best to spend quality time with those kids before they’re off independently. With our culture and society in utter dystopia a view and stories of different times could alter their future lives, long after you have passed. Trips to the zoo, museums, or something like bird watching or boat building. Whatever it is that you’re informed or interested in would work… most importantly is the time and connection though. Many things cost nothing but are priceless. Giving of ourselves is FAR more valuable that some stupid gift that they probably wouldn’t even like.❤

[@OM-or3im]

I know this is late but. . US is a rare country where the retired parent struggles to keep the lights on yet the kid makes all the money in the world and it doesn’t even occur to him to help out. This actually makes me angry… and makes me question what is wrong with people’s values here.

[@kimberlywatt5828]

Kinda hoping that the song choice would be from Hamiliton..."Not gonna miss my shot!" 😀

[@stuff247]

How can i get on the John Delony show with success?

[@clericstorm2009]

Sounds like the son wanting to avoid injury is the sane one vs the adults who think smashing kids into each other over and over is good for them. Plenty of other athletic activities to explore.

[@blueseptember2174]

You have a point 😅

[@dana102083]

Eminem..good ending, he is such a good rapper/poet!

[@JA-re8gi]

Daa foosball is daa devil!

[@CynthiaHutchinson-c1m]

I love The Water Boy!

[@DeRocco21]

one thing a woman will never say, honey im pround of you

[@sheilaghburchart3513]

Also the child who is having pain - maybe he has a medical issue.

[@HeidisHereAndThere]

Why push them to go to new age counselors?? 😮 Again, no reference to the Bible, and what it says. Always interrupting the caller.

[@blancagalvan3829]

❤

[@vinniedeluca2188]

Oh ya my wife is 100% perfect, not a single thing wrong with her, these are the exact same statements that most husbands make before a divorce, be a man and be real, we all know women are far from perfect so painting her out to be an angel is pointless

[@anthill1510]

The last guy sounds clearly depressed and Dr. John hyping him up by shouting won`t do anything for him. You can`t hype up a depressive person.

[@jenniferhuerta9824]

Now I have to unsubscribe because of the Bakersfield comment. 😂 just kidding

[@blueseptember2174]

Went through Bakersfield to get to Sequoia natl Park. It was beautiful but is was so endless lol.

[@reneel2441]

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[@maryrock7698]

football is a horrible game for any brain. STOP FOOTBALL

[@hawaiisilver9141]

Emotional is the female realm. Use logic and do what needs to be done is masculine.

[@jacosisaba]

That dumb idea is why so many males become emotionless husks that can't connect with their kids and wives and live completely alone. Emotions and logic isn't tied to a gender, that's such a antiquated way of thinking.

[@jessm2560]

🤔 ah yes emotional hysterical women with their floating uteruses. it makes them incapable of logic and rational thought. Those doctors in the 1800s sure knew their stuff