want to find out who you *actually* are in 2024? try this. (101 sustainable goal setting guide)

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Happy New Year everyone!! I am so excited to be back and share some of the wisdom I was able to collect through eternal suffering 8)
No but fr I hope you had a nice December and were able to spend some time with your loved ones (that includes yourself)!! I can't wait for what this year will bring and am so excited to be sharing whatever it'll be with you! Love you Gorge!!
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2:37-4:08 i have no clue who i am
4:09-7:47 let's redefine how we 'know' people
7:48-12:47 how to find out 'who you are'
12:48-14:55 how to set sustainable goals
14:56-15:33 love ya!!
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why new years resolutions suck
why new years resolutions never work
how to set sustainable goals
how to achieve all of your dream goals
how to know who you are
how to make 2024 your year
how to make 2024 the best year of your life
why you need to celebrate your growth
how to grow as a person
why you need to script your life
why you need core moral values
how to set core moral values
how to change your life
how to actually change your life in 2024
how to sustainably change your life
how to use the butterfly effect
why you should script your life
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how to write your life's script
how to stop daydreaming
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how I manifest

[@homeiswonderland]

7:44 "why couldn't I be a f-cking bird or something?" simultaneously burst into laughter and tears because I've thought this exact thing and just... whew.

[@izzymaio]

i thought the same exact thing and also burst into laughter ahahahah

[@bbella99]

no but actually the way you break down every avenue of the process of even beginning to start on these kind of things are sooo helpful. a lot of "self help girlies" on youtube kind of just throw random, vague advise at their audience and it feels kind of hard to realistically impliment without feeling like youre doing it wrong. i really appriciate the way you give so many examples and even relate it to your own experience in the past, its really hard hitting stuff ! you've really inspired me to rewrite myself as well

[@spacebar9733]

Yes I love her content I feel like I manifested her 😭

[@pixelzebra8440]

Yeah it feels as though she’s actually thinking about the advice she’s giving instead of giving vague advice she’s heard before a bunch of times and thinks she understands

[@shaelyngarcia9468]

In case anyone else is struggling to narrow down their core values here's what I did: 1. Go through the list (I used the same one she did in the video) and just highlight every word that resonates with you. 2. Take the highlighted words and group them by meaning (eg. liberty, independence, and freedom might go together, or fun, humor, and joy go together) 3. Take the 5 biggest groups and pick one word from each to represent that core value. Tada~ There's your 5 core values! Just figured I'd share since I'm way too indecisive to narrow a 200 word list down to 5, and this made it easier for me :P

[@solnyschka7654]

great advice, thank you!!

[@Kirsten4260]

Just tried this thank you so much :D

[@popovka]

Love this, thank you

[@CakePOPBookBOX]

😂😂😂😂

[@vlbrto]

OMG THANK YOU

[@kthy31]

I predict your channel will blow up this year, the originality, humour, quality of content and editing us just beyond amazing

[@mariaelenibalagiani385]

I was just about to write the same thing!

[@Kirsten4260]

She’s seriously underrated

[@syshu07]

fr fr

[@nina_ana333]

Facts!!

[@EveryFurtherMile]

I was thinking this too

[@talitha2513]

Narrowed my top five to: - growth - passion - connection - clarity - acceptance

[@kathk]

I just turned 49 and I love watching your videos for two reasons: 1. I remember so much of this angst from my 20s. You're not alone! Many (maybe most, maybe all) of us go through this too, and just living through your life will help teach you how to "contain multitudes". I hope that's not condescending, I mean for it to be reassuring. 2. I spent the last 3 years helping out my increasingly ill and infirm parents, culminating in 2023 in hospitals, a nursing home, and their deaths. So much of *me* has been my role of "caregiving adult child" that I'm once again stopping to think "just who the f am I??!!". So, this is one of the new life phases where your advice is very helpful (even to middle-aged Gen X ladies). Thank you!

[@EnchantedXennial]

Also GenX and agreed. Sorry to hear about your losses. A YTer said (sorry I can’t remember who to credit) looking back your highs are never as high as they felt in the moment but your lows are never as low as they felt at that moment either. IDK if that helps, but it clicked for me. Lost my Dad in 2018 and my Mom is on the other side of the country with dementia. Here’s to figuring out who the eff we are in our late 40s!

[@bockrottom4877]

The advice in this video was very revolutionary for me personally. Sometimes I get so hung up in my "identity" I forget that it changes day by day and the fact that, that isn't a bad thing. Your video really helped me gain clarity on what matters most to me. It seems obvious... but looking at these five words as almost a mantra keeps you grounded while also embracing change

[@kaavyyakesarwani]

You edit so well it’s crazy

[@iCharlyprime]

thank you so so much!!

[@carlybun231]

watching this as a Buddhist is a pretty interesting ride. this is basically the gen z version of anatta (no-self) and anicca (impermanence) with some healthy doses of dukkha (suffering), the three characteristics or marks of existence. anyway, you're very entertaining, this is wonderfully edited, and really enjoyed this. dramatically gazing over a body of water is also my favorite way to find myself (:

[@nina_ana333]

This and "let's not waste another year in your head" felt like a warm hug

[@philoki]

you are the only youtube that I can't watch on 2x speed

[@jlthopper]

I’ve become disengaged with my search for myself, part of me thinks I’m too old to “discover” anything about myself anymore - like that was for when I was younger, and if I didn’t find anything good or interesting already, that means it isn’t there at all. Something about this video reminded me that there’s no reason to stop trying to understand myself better. Change and growth really are continuous, and if I feel detached from myself that may be something I can fix with a little attention. Thank you for sharing something authentic and thoughtful with me. ❤

[@meloncat1257]

Thank you for this. This is the first video that felt really personable. I’ve tried to watch so many other guidance videos, but none of them got my attention (I have such a short attention span). Your editing adds that bit of pizzazz the other channels we’re missing, keep up the amazing work!

[@AnNeMaRieCe]

Frohes neuees: )) I am LIVING for your creativity, it feels like mini movies (the quality of your videos I MEAN ❤) just packed with life lessons. but real. and raw. This series will become my New Year's tradition to binge watch

[@sydney9011]

Charly, your last video on how to ACTUALLY change your life was so inspiring and I can't believe you've done it again with this one! This year I'm looking to change that part of my life entirely. I've rejected my own needs for others for FAR too long and I'm ready to take the reins on life and actually enjoy it instead of worrying what others will think. It's going to be so hard starting out but I know that difficulty now will become proof of capability. I'm so excited to take these steps and it's so comforting and inspiring to see this video when I'm going through it all now.

[@pixelzebra8440]

It is absolutely insane how I managed to find this video. It’s so amazing. The video had a relevant topic to me, the shots were changing to keep the video interesting, and I felt like I was genuinely thinking and got new and original advice as I watched this video! Thanks. I hope to see you channel grow and thrive

[@pameladenicolo3300]

Let me tell you: It takes such an intelligent use of humour to implement your down moments in a funny "storyline". It's so refreshing to watch. Thank you

[@emmascheible9480]

this video was so refreshing. there’s so much pressure to create resolutions for ourselves that aren’t even based in our idea of who we are but rather who others want us to be or who they appear to be. the binging the self care advice is so real and i’ve had to learn to listen to my own inner voice/guide. figure out what works for me, what i need adjusting in my life, reflecting on my standards and things i want to learn in this lifetime, and want to experience. thank you for such a thought provoking, introspective conversation. also the “dont yuck on my yum” part absolutely KILLED me😭 youre hilarious

[@Snudru]

Today was the day I realized there are people out there who have the exact same thoughts and experiences that I do and that I am in fact NOT that uniquely miserable. This is good. Subscribed. Inspired. Or maybe having an ADHD episode. Idk yet.

[@OddKorett]

OMG GIRL YOUR VIDEO EDITING!!! I didn't expect a cinematic experience. Thank you! 😭

[@KhristinasCrystals]

Back with an update for my 5 areas: Stability, Playfulness, Kindness, achievement and self-reliance. Thanks again for this video I've found it really helpful x

[@kiaqp8815]

please continue doing this!!! I love this series

[@fut308]

I am really happy I found your channel. I am going trough a super rough break up right now and I really needed to hear this.

[@vanessaprincesssa]

These videos are so precious ❤ I am continuously coming back here, re-watching and trying to learn as much as possible. I am on the same journey of re-discovering myself as you are. Thank you for your efforts and for your content ❤❤❤

[@maudscientist]

i love your content. truly healing.

[@lily37433]

I’ve been really struggling lately, so thank you for this video. There’s been several tragic and sudden deaths in my family and inner circle of friends in the past year. It launched me into a bad place mentally. I’m trying to get out of that now, and the first thing I need to figure out is “who I am” after these losses. Thank you so much for sharing your insight and being vulnerable - it really made an impact on me. I wasn’t expecting to, but I teared up at the end. I wish you all the best 🩷🩷🩷

[@DeilyDarcy]

I love the way you create content keep going and thank u for making this series ❤❤

[@iCharlyprime]

thank you so much I am genuinely so glad to hear people are enjoying what I do ☺️

[@kikokiko9327]

thank you so much for breaking down each.and.every.step. of the process and including your own experienceT_T when you feel your absolute zero and dont believe that there's even a need for "you", seeing a realistic, non perfect, "clumsy" solution out of a similar stupor is really grounding. like wow u really feel seen

[@meghanpresley]

I RELATE TO YOU SO MUCH. Thank you for being you and using your platform to create videos like these. My therapist knows about you because of how helpful you have been haha : ' )

[@tanihrt]

ur channel is sososos amazing, all your videos are like EXACTLY what i need at the moment and it is so reassuring to know that the very speciifc thing that im going through is also something so many other people are facing at the moment and on top of that the solutions/actionable advice you give are so top tier!! like it is helpful and fun and not overwhelming. i hope your channel is so very successful in 2024 and you have an amazing time this year in every possible way

[@veeranjanchamoli3255]

core values: purity, peace, power, love, knowledge, happiness & bliss So glad to have stumbled across this video its soooo cinematic!!

[@leonadarby2996]

i love knowing that smosh was your inspo for learning english bc it leaks out sm in your humor :,)

[@KhristinasCrystals]

I love this sooooo much! Gonna try out finding my main morals now as I really love that concept. You're videos are so fun to watch but also inspiring xx

[@ivana67dj]

THE LABELING BIT WAS SO GREAT YOU ARE BRILLIANT

[@vizzyven]

Another great video! I think establishing those core moral values is really important to understanding the "self." I remember a while back I made a list of tenets for myself that I try to live by, and it's such a good exercise to think about your thinking and your beliefs. We are fluid and change, and it can be so easy to be scared of becoming someone else, but being alive is a process and not a single point in time, and I think that that's way more comforting than being stuck in one box labeled with my name. Happy 2024, I'm excited to watch more of what you make. :)

[@IsabelaFaleiro]

the way i subscribed in the first 20 seconds lmao the writing, the editing, your humour and authenticity... it's been a while since i've felt so seen!!!! hope your channel blows up soon!! you deserve it 🕊

[@uchi3v]

RIGHT WHEN I NEEDED IT I SWEARRRRRR ive been getting into core values lately as well and i finally need to go through that long ass list to pick mine ahhaha but i swear, ur advice always speaks to me on such a deep level like i can relate SO much to the state you've been in bcs thats me rn and i'll just really have to work towars the much needed change...THAT IM OBV SCARED OF TOO

[@marinas1017]

First let me say, I love your videos. I have been trying to identify my core value too around New Years, as I have stumbled upon the concept in another video. Both creativity and community are up there. The first one was pretty obvious for me as I kind of always knew I valued creativity, but the second one already explains so much for me. I never really noticed before, how much community matters to me. Compassion is big one too. So it makes sense why you're videos resonate with me. As for the other core values, I feel like I still have to figure out which ones I really see as a priority.

[@starlord7526]

You may not know but I can relate to almost all your issues, thank you so much for these videos Cinderella, these videos really helped specially when my physical appearance insecurity is at its peak, god bless

[@yessica5231]

I think I'm on the same struggle bus with you and it feels so comforting seeing someone who's just in the process of figuring things out and not already having figured it out. Also the variety of ages and backgrounds in the comments are so nice.

[@33elena33]

exactly what I needed ❤

[@gabbysomething]

i always love your vids and watching this helped me out so much! i’ve been telling myself over and over again my whole life i can’t accomplish the goals i dream of, but watching this helped to quiet that critical voice :) excited for what you create this year!!

[@raqueldj6]

Thank you so much for the work that you put on this video and for sharing your experience 😍 The beginning of the video was like listening to my internal dialogue the last few years but you actually provided en outlet if not a solution. For once, I did the exercise and my list at this moment is: - Justice - Creativity - Respect - Humor - Peace of mind I need to figure out what I want to do with my life to embody that but I'm excited to think and work about it ☺

[@HikarunekoNya]

this is the first video of yours for me and I'm kinda in love (sorry for the drama) the way you express yourself does feel incredibly authentic. thank you ❤

[@ffin25]

I’m living for all this insight. Please keep going!

[@TheeSeniorJr]

Thank you so much for making this video and putting this out there in the universe!

[@ave_smirnova]

you are amazing! i wish your channel to blow up this year!

[@Shoekarton]

thank you for doing this series, its very helpful !!! i'm almost 26 yrs old and i find myself stuck in yet another degree i dont care about (already dropped out twice before) and feel kind of lost in my life. ur speaking to my soul lol

[@goofygoofster07]

GREAT SCRIPT & EDITING !!!! you deserve more recognition

[@wivineyambo6297]

I love your videos so much omg This ones a hit, it really really speaks to me! Im so ready for the rest of the series!

[@dreamyyboy]

I really really love ur videos !! :] The way you explain things while at the same time trying to figure them out yourself feels kinda comforting, like not being alone on a journey. also love the way u edit your videos, big fan and inspo 'cause someday I would like to also make videos. ( sorry my english is not fluid but I just wanted to express my appreciation for your channel ok bye :333 )

[@trompeta79]

When we're forced to define ourselves in people-pleasing words for resumes and the like (personal brand, gross), I think it's lovely to hear reassurance like yours! Thank you!

[@fabianavieiradebastos2776]

You are such an inspiration. Thank you so much!

[@soylucho9403]

Oh my god this video threw me into therapy and doing those tips. I am currently feeling the exact way you did there. Oh my god. Gorge ily.

[@jasminespunkt6079]

Thank you so much for this video (and for the others, too)! I'm in a similar situation as you were back then and you're giving me some kind of perspective and inspiration for the next steps. It's nice to resonate with someone. Besides, your videos are really high quality, your filming and editing are just so good. ✨

[@hannah-rk2cs]

This video is so good...inspiring, funny, comforting, aestetic❤

[@RK-bn2mc]

This is one of the best self help videos I’ve seen on KZbin hands down. You are hilarious and authentic and I am so glad I found your channel

[@nathmartins3154]

Your videos are so challenging to watch (but in a good way, don’t worry)! I tried to listen to them like you listen to a podcast, when you just put on headphones and go do your skincare routine or organize your room, but I kept feeling like I wasn’t really understanding everything (maybe also because English is my second language, I guess? Your subtitles are a life saver, by the way) and it just annoyed me because I really relate to you, your crises and journey, so anyways, what I want to say is that you are one of the few creators that make me want to actually sit down and pay full attention to what I’m watching. You’re amazing, keep making videos, they’re really helpful💖

[@Jaygonzalez4205]

This series is amazing thank you

[@fut308]

wow I am pleasantly surprised by this video. This is exactly what I got taught in therapy. One of the most actually helpful videos I have seen on here.

[@junesgardenclub]

the editing, the commentary, everything>>>>>

[@user-xr8ud4nh6k]

you are just so talented omg

[@lydiamiller6325]

this truly resinated so much with me, I am so glad I found your channel!

[@vlbrto]

did not expect to leave this video with a new perspective on life!! thank u SO much.

[@adroitsanika7935]

I really appreciate your efforts into every video you make. You're the first person i saw on KZbin that i can actually relate. Keep making videos like this. Good luck for your journey❤

[@pacattack6772]

you are my new favorite youtuber. this is the channel this is the one

[@shanaesmith112]

I used Scott Jeffrey's method from his list of 200 that said to let your values reveal themselves to you because you don't actually CHOOSE your values they choose you - and through his exercise of defining meaningful moments in my life AND moments that made me feel frustrated angry and upset (suppressed values) I've narrowed it down to my top 5: winning, connection, performance, loyalty, and experience. I NEVER would have chosen those before doing the exercise. All that to say 1. Don't pick your values, see which ones have chosen you to be expressed. 2. What do I do now? How do I use the information that I value winning? 🤣🤣

[@alexithriel]

my top five values, in no particular order, are: playfulness, hope, bravery, passion, and kindness.

[@asdjklsh]

you are my new hero

[@fruitydexter]

i used to be obsessed with the concept of self help. i loved being engulfed into it, making myself feel better every day. at some point, i stopped and realized that its all bullshit. this video is the first one in years that actually made me want to listen instead of saying "i know all of this but i wont do it anyway so why bother". thank you, stranger on the Internet. your advice sticked.

[@bella-sx1zt]

This video is incredibly well made omg!!

[@funcats1999]

3:00 - truly cannot be understated. excellent video

[@MorriganJade]

It's nice that the previous video on this is like D&Dified CBT (like one of the comments mentioned), this is actually simplified ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy). Where you focus on accepting everything, your feelings, and how how you are, defusing techniques to not go into negative spirals, and then check what your values are, and focus on living by them.

[@wvanweert3712]

This is incredibly well made. Thanks!

[@juanitapardogarcia3153]

I love your content Charly! You have been an uplifting company for me through difficult days. Thank you

[@iCharlyprime]

so so happy I could be of good company ❤️ Thank you for being here 🌞

[@madyestromboli]

you are incredible at these videos :) thank you for sharing your thoughts

[@dominikakruk2178]

I can't recall the last time that I left a yt comment however this video was so creative ad meaningful that I felt the need to say that publicly

[@Baba6782]

This video is exactly what I needed to hear, so deep & funny ❤

[@linaoop9756]

I love ur channel so much

[@Whoops_its_Lucy]

Positive & productive content? Definitely something I need to consume more. I appreciate your videos ✨

[@pupu6948]

I just found your channel and I immediately fell in love!! New subscriber right here, can't wait to see more of you 😍

[@rafaellarocha4732]

I really appreciate you anx your content. Thank you so much!

[@louiserichardson5212]

You are insanely creative and your content is bewitching.

[@bloatedcorpse2728]

i love your channel so much.

[@iCharlyprime]

thank you so much!! ❤️❤️

[@serpentes_rosacea]

as a borderline baddie undergoing years of therapy, self relflection and the literal most amount of energy i can muster at any given moment to grow and learn through a literal constant stream of literal trauma " everytime that life changes we change" has been the final key to it all. in ways it has completed me being finally seen. for someone to know, even if they don't know me, that being absolutely broken means absolutely building yourself up. there isn't something wrong with me, i am actually a human being doing my absolute best through a literal stream of literal trauma. thank you for your content. I hope as, with this, i finally come out with videos that you see them. maybe even like them. you tight af.

[@user-fc4wy6vf8f]

oh you are a SCHOLAR (but without the elitism), you broke it down so easily when it is such a complex topic, i am in awe. Your previous video made a huge impact on me, and this one feels like a sweet bonus on top, thank you for what you are doing

[@mica924]

girl the wohle bit with the sticky notes that ended in prick had me on floor, ur so funny and creative!!

[@georgeandraos2509]

thank you so much you have no idea how helpful that was

[@spacebar9733]

Okay ever since you uploaded the video I’ve been narrowing down my list, I think I’ve finally got it: authenticity, community, bravery, knowledge, confidence. … im a Hufflepuff with severe Gryffindor tendencies 😁

[@gabriela6317]

your videos are awesome, i'm definitely trying it!! love from brazil 💚

[@BecomingTiana]

I’m glad I found this video! It was very informative and entertaining 😊

[@dasmoex]

Animations as amazing as always

[@lauramurrell6430]

Just a thank you, I love your videos! ❤

[@hasinithirandee1062]

Best Person, Best Content ever

[@LeonesJournal]

Thank you for this video, I'm going to try this out as much as I can

[@JennyT101]

This video was actually very helpful.

[@bedheadacademic]

I've done a similar exercise and I chose 3 values: purpose, belonging, and persistence.

[@prince.c8458]

This video was so helpful! Thank you 🙏

[@Harryismysavior]

i fricking love the editing

[@umulia678]

I just found your account and its a blessing, thank you !