was transitioning worth it? (ftm butch retrospective)

[@lars3603]

You're so right with needing to transition when you're trans! I pushed it down years ago when I was young and then finally did it and now I also feel great! I just felt this segment so hard!

[@radi0-pass1ve]

i love the idea of being masculine but not in a man way. that really resonates with me and i appreciate you unpacking that idea. i have always been like nonbinary but prefer to be percieved as a man, but i think i just prefer to be percieved as masculine. im so glad u are happy :]

[@Twinkdestroyer3]

Theos back from the dead

[@catsoupzzzx]

youre right about your face looking different, i noticed that immediately when seeing the thumbnail.

[@difeth_]

i think the analogy of swimming from the crashing ship and the need to cross the water is going to go right into my brain alongside the “if you’re trans you need to live” tweet and power me through the rest of my life

[@mars_starz420]

Man the last part about still feeling beautiful and w the girls as a masculine transmasc person really spoke to me. Sometimes I look at cis girls and I envy them, not because I wish I wasn’t trans, but because I still want to connect to that part of myself. And I want to feel beautiful, regardless of gender. So thank you for being that representation for me.

[@krazytravtrav]

D rock trans man here on KZbin made a video 10 years ago but Theo's video means that what was said in D rock trans mans video still stands today as both videos have the same points

[@Johnny_T779]

So happy to see you sooo happy ! Good advice you gave to transition as soon as possible, I had to wait for years and it was horrible... Now 6 years in I finally feel appeased. And yeah, it takes a while to realise that you don't HAVE to be pretty anymore. I stopped wearing makeup during the pandemic because I couldn't go out, and now I go out with my naked face most days without feeling uncomfortable . I can wear eyeliner but only if I want, not because I'm supposed to. Such a relief! Hope you will have time to post more, I've been missing you!

[@Racoonbitez]

The "being frm is a female experience" bugs me so much, I just want to be an actual dude not a trans man or a butch lesbian

[@heyheyhey0220]

Yeah i’m weirded out on how he thinks his masculinity is more female than a trans woman’s. Bioessentialism is so toxic.

[@elijahsamuel8177]

Part of transitioning is learning to accept and love that about yourself. ❤ you’ll get there ! things aren’t as shit the further into your transition you get

[@elijahsamuel8177]

You are an actual dude, and actual dude who’s a female. You can be an intersex man just like you can be a female man and that doesn’t take away from it validity.

[@sethesteem]

​@@elijahsamuel8177but im not a guy who is a female; i am a guy

[@just_a_dude75]

It also bugs me but you cant change a fact..

[@CallumTimothy]

What you said about needing to go with the urge to transition really resonates with me. I was in full-on psychological denial between ages 16 - 22, to the point where I couldn't consciously consider being trans but the signs pointing me in that direction came in my dreams at night. After I realised what the dreams meant, I woke up to the reality of being trans, and I chose to transition and live as a man. It was hard, it was scary, but it's like I knew I had to or die dissatisfied. I'm out and 2 months on T now, got a long way ahead still. I'm proud of making that decision.

[@aleks-s5f]

i can't quite explain it but this video made me feel so emotional... it's like a warm hug. life has been sucking so much. i'm pre- medical transition & hate being trans sometimes. this video made me feel like it's worth the wait. thank you for giving me hope

[@bobertbilliamiii3568]

For the people who felt awkward about the “female experience” comment, I totally get it, but I think he was talking more in a general sense about being RAISED in a body with societal expectations. Not that we’re the same as butch lesbians and queer women. More like we might have some experiences in common. :)

[@sethesteem]

it kinda depends if you were raised with those expectations or not tho

[@ZeddSlayer]

im mtf trans but the part about allowing yourself to be masculine still resonated with me, because for a while i was trying to be "feminine". Buying skirts and feminine clothes, and trying to avoid wearing darker colors or jeans, but i realized that i actually like being masculine. i love wearing cool flannel jackets and jeans and wearing dark colors. i like the way my voice sounds, despite having done zero voice training. ive definitely adjusted it subconsciously to have a more feminine quality but its subtle. but yeah, i really fw masc women and masc guys who dont have toxic masculinity, who still let themselves be emotional or cute or silly and have fun!

[@Veryvoidlove]

Oh shit you're the minoxidil guy i watched 3 years ago and then forgot about! Lol so much happened to me since watching that video. Like wow life is cool and beautiful but also most of the things that happened to me were kinda bad but also a lot of good things that i had to put a lot of work in to achieve and I'm glad I'm still here to watch this video and see how its all been.

[@waynefromhylics]

As a 15 year old trans guy the "was it worth it" section hit me so hard, I feel like crying. I want to feel euphoric, I want to feel okay, I want to stop feeling so miserable and dysphoric all the time. I don't want to have to wait years until I can even really start my transition. It's frustrating, but I know it will be worth it. I know eventually I'll feel okay, and eventually I'll be glad that I didn't drown in that sea or keep the tv unplugged. This give me so much hope, but at the same time it's just so difficult to wait.

[@pageturner72]

never lose your energy. you are so free

[@GE3P_GL0RP]

i watched this channel a lot when i was younger. it helped me figure out my identity and recently i have been considering detransitioning. when i saw this notification i realized thats a dumbass idea. thanks theo!!

[@Lolzyhahas]

WE'RE SO BACK!!!!!

[@Pandastra]

I have my first GHC appointment on Tuesday and this has just made me so much more excited (I mean I was already excited but MORE) and confident in my identity and that this path is right for me. Like you said, the best thing for trans people is being yourself and transitioning!! Thanks for this perspective Theo :D

[@Kirifana]

I cant believe its been 3 years, I just finally started T back in october and I was surprised to see so much change already. I already feel more confident and its just like damn well I am going to lose my mind in the best way possible with time LOL I started watching about just right before the beginning of Theo starting T and its just crazy that were here already, definitely got much further than I expected, like seriously Also the thumbs thing made me die so hard LMAO 😭

[@S13l_Um3n0]

I'm glad you're happy, but as a trans guy - the "being a trans man is a female experience" made really dysphoric. bro, I feel like shit. the stuff you say implies that all transmasc people/trans men are masc girl, but that's not true for all of us. not for me, not for any of my transmasc friends. I am a guy, a straight guy, not a butch lesbian.

[@lyonclaws5737]

i think theos just talking about his individual experience

[@Hanks-pd1ge]

@@lyonclaws5737 he did give a blanket statement about trans men and really nailed it in the coffin ngl. i see his point as i relate to some degree and i do think it's true afab masculine people of any gender identity have something in common, but the delivery was, eugh.

[@elijahsamuel8177]

It implies that all trans men are female that doesn’t imply that we are women. Gender≠ sex

[@butchbastard9096]

No offense but like, the video is called “ftm butch retrospective”. He was obviously going to speak from the perspective of a trans person who associates with being a lesbian. He literally said he doesn’t view his masculinity the same way as a man, but it sounds like you do. That’s okay, but he’s not obligated to adhere to your perception of gender in his own video about his personal transition.

[@GreenSnapShot]

I mean being a trans man objectively is a female experience, A male will never be a trans man- that’s the entire point. The only way to be happy is to accept that.

[@one-dude]

I love anytime you talk about gender stuff and being a lesbian ✋😔 so real man

[@awesomep4ws]

thank you so much for this video. i am trans and i have been looking into t but i am still pretty young and my parents are really worried about me regretting it in the future. but watching this video has really helped me be more confident in wanting to do this :3

[@alatsus]

being a trans male is not a female experience and you should know better than to say shit like that. we aren't women and a lot of us didn't even experience girlhood, womanhood, etc. we're just men. a lot of us just transition and go on to live our lives as men. even pre everything we're still men. it's cool to have your own experience but it's not cool to label us all as being under the "female experience" because you're essentially just saying we're all women at our core because of how we were born/raised which is pretty fucked up

[@alatsus]

i liked the rest of the video though and it was cool to hear from you

[@phoebegee54]

The tricky thing is that you're told you're having the female experience, which can be very confusing

[@alatsus]

@@phoebegee54 i guess? but i don't consider any of what i went through to be of the "female experience" no matter what anyone says. if anything my life post puberty was a body horror esque nightmare akin to the sci-fi/horror movie 'alien'. i don't think it's fair to attribute that to girlhood/womanhood when i went through the exact opposite. i *had* to transition everything about myself to be as male-aligned as humanly possible so i could function, because otherwise, i was so heavily disassociated and dysphoric that i couldn't even leave my own room. i never had a female experience, more like an experience in being cursed.

[@Freak__boy]

Man I am swimming so hard. I want to reach the better life .and now I'm just watching your video and it's spaier me so much

[@krunch3444]

About the aging on testosterone thing, that's not exactly how it works. The reason cis men get x change at x time is because of how their body releases testosterone. So for a trans man age isn't really a variable since we're fully in control of how much T is in our body. Unless you're way old or so young you havent gone trough estrogen puberty yet, T will do the same thing regardless of age.

[@ketz_165]

Thanks for making this, so many people today will listen to anybody but an actual trans person on this topic.

[@praalgraf]

theos back from the dead (like ghosts. sort of) also ayy nebido gang

[@huyvrot.66]

no but the ‘being a trans man is a female experience’ gives me a massive ick. you know most of us won’t relate to that so why speak for everyone?

[@alatsus]

yeahhh I hate when people say shit like that. I'm not a woman, I never had a "female experience," never wanted to, and never will. really a shame because I liked the rest of the video and I've been following theo for a long time but eugh

[@huyvrot.66]

@ ikr, his experience is obviously unique since he still considers himself a woman ig? so when he talks about his experience as an absolute its just ridiculous. no, most of us don’t want to be equated with girlhood. also lowkey bio essentialist, cuz he says that basically by virtue of being born female you have the woman experience. thats just straight up transphobic.

[@blueberry_mango6977]

I completely understand what you’re saying, like 100%, but I think they were just talking about their nonbinary experience? Like I don’t think the intention was to apply it to everyone

[@huyvrot.66]

@@blueberry_mango6977 the path to hell is paved with good intentions or how does that saying go. most ppl who say fucked up shit don’t intend to. it would be all fine if he just didn’t say that generalising part about how being female means that your experience is inherently the woman experience. just bio essentialist bullshit

[@huyvrot.66]

@ exactly, he just perpetuates bio essentialist bullshit when he says that basically by virtue pf being born female your experience will forever be different to cis men and basically is a woman’s experience. idk why my replies dont show up, strange

[@reallyradrabbit]

you are my favorite queer youtuber theo genuinely thank you i look forward to every upload

[@s4ppyblaz3]

YAYYY NEW UPLOAD

[@pageturner72]

i totally understand what u mean with feeling like u dont need anything else once you have the best version of yourself that youve always wanted. like thats so real. been thinking about coming out to my transphobic dad & i was worried that he might refuse to pay for my college, but then i was like, well thats fine. because i would finally get to meet myself. isnt it crazy that transition can make us so happy that we would sacrifice things that once seemed important? but thats the thing about us trans ppl that transphobes dont understand. transition is unbelievably important; its everything. its the most real thing some of us will ever do. it is an act of self love. its a gift to ourselves; its done for ourselves. its honesty. also the "you have to transition" point is so real. like i know youre right, i know its true that it would be totally worth it. like i do have fears about what people would think but the fact is that transitioning is something we just cant pass up.

[@klaymistic4810]

If you stop bleeding completely, you’re going to have severe cramps because you’re going through an atrophy and that can cause your system to become septic if because of the atrophy you get infected with bacteria and it is trapped so if you stop bleeding, you may need estrogen down there in cream form

[@s3rial_des1gnation_v]

Yeah your face looks pretty different Anyways thanks for making these videos, they're very informative as someone who wants to go on T someday

[@bizarreraisin]

We’re so back!!!!!

[@Veryvoidlove]

I just did my first shot today!! Yay🏳️‍🌈 :3

[@thecomputercube]

Please stop calling being a trans man a female experience.

[@vstro_i]

ahhh when i needed them to post, he returns also also theo what happened to your custom battle jacket vest patch video

[@krazytravtrav]

D rock trans man here on KZbin made a video 10 years ago but Theo's video means that what was said in D rock trans mans video still stands today as both videos have the same points

[@APotatoe324]

thank you so much for your videos the ship allegory really helped me see that thank you (:

[@ronan-outoftime]

we are SOOOO BACK ‼️

[@Veryvoidlove]

(Also i am so happy to see ftm and butch in the same sentence bc like OH ME! yay! that's why i clicked lol) 🏳️‍🌈💖

[@heyhey8528]

your voice has changed

[@M00nGlitz]

I've debated with many liberals online who've claimed that no young females would ever transition because it's a "cool" thing to do. Thank you for proving them wrong. I need to show them this video.

[@TrevorPhilips1967]

Im cofused wdym

[@elijahsamuel8177]

Bro didn’t understand anything that was said in this video 😂

[@rainbow_duck1481]

this video made me violently sob

[@jesspetty8163]

where's the Iceland video? did u kill that poor sweet girl in the volcano?

[@livberglund1941]

I don't know about the whole thing with you telling people that transitioning will make them feel so much better and solve all their problems. Dont tell kids to transition as soon as possible. These things take time and feelings and identity change a lot during the process of growing up and in different stages of life. You have to be really sure before undergoing transition.

[@elijahsamuel8177]

I really do feel like people who were rubbed up the wrong way by the “female experience” comment are just pre transition and mad. I would of totally reacted the same a couple years ago. I really think a huge part of transitioning is accepting and learning to love your biological sex.

[@hucks4]

why would i love my biological sex if i knew since i was a toddler that my anatomy was inherently incorrect? why would i ever WANT to embrace that? it would only make me feel like shit and i would probably off myself due to having to live with an incorrectly arranged body

[@sethesteem]

i mean im mad and post top surgery and like 2 years on t. it's a weird comment 2 make

[@LucaReng]

I really appreciate your thoughts on masculinity. It’s rare to hear people express such complicated relationships to gender, femininity and masculinity. I’m a trans guy who’s just shy of 3 months on T. I feel like my relationship with femininity and masculinity are probably going to shift around as I get further along in my transition. I know I’ve always felt masculine as a ‘girl’, but seeing myself as a guy has made me more comfortable expressing femininely (in a gay guy way). But I’m feeling like that might not stick all the way, just like your femboy phase. Idk. It’s a journey, and I’m happy to end up wherever I end up! Also, thank you for the little transition pep talk. I still have doubts about top surgery sometimes, even though I know it will make me so happy. I’m just really scared of surgery itself. But I know I have to / want to do this for myself. It’s choosing my own happiness over what society says, an act of kindness towards myself. Thanks for the video! Looking forward to more from you

[@stupidityisholy]

yesssss we missed you