Watch this BEFORE you move to Mexico City... esp if you look like me

[@ArturoAyalaMargain]

Well... I'm Mexican. So... I can say this much about Mexican men: as an attractive black woman... you are an uncommon beauty. It's not just the skin color. It's your features. Your hair. Your eyes. You are considered more attractive than blonde-blue-eyed Americans. You will get stares. ANd will continue to get a lot of attention. Racism due to skin color is not something Mexicans have. Black Americans will not be discriminated against because of skin color in Mexico City. Think of how a blonde, blue-eyed American girl will get noticed in Asia. Like... in Tokyo or Beijing. She will get noticed because those girls are not as common there. With you... it's the same. You are a rarity in Mexico. Don't take it the wrong way. It may feel like too much. But take it as a compliment.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you 🙏🏿

[@marianaguzman-bd9bj]

I am blond, blue eyed, Caucasian, I get stared at and I'm overweight and almost seventy. It's just the way some Mexican men react to females, even grandmothers.

[@rolandoxaviergarza2679]

I don't think you have been keeping up with the news about tourism in Europe. Some cities are fed up with tourists and the over tourism of their cities and want them to go home. They are fed up with the gentrification of their neighborhoods, the high cost of living that comes along with massive tourism, their bad behavior and lack of respect for their culture and cultural heritage sites.

[@fashionista101kt]

Europe has no room to complain tho lmao most countries that are fucked up in the world are because of Europe sucking the life out of them

[@Tolu.Travels]

That's understandable, thanks for sharing

[@johnsimon4263]

Is gentrification really Just cleaning up and improving an área? Do you really want to leave blighted areas alone? Never improving them.

[@rolandoxaviergarza2679]

@@johnsimon4263 Gentrification is more complex than you realize. You can't just narrow it down to "cleaning up" an area. In one way, you are cleaning out an area of people that have lived there for decades.For people living through it, it means having a roof over your head one day and then being out in the street the next. You are dealing with people's lives, not a piece of trash that you dispose of.

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

@@johnsimon4263it’s raising the prices and making the locals homeless because they can’t afford to do the same things that others can do

[@Uroboros663]

People staring is mostly because they're not that used to seeing someone of your skin color and this also happens to white people as well, so it's just because you do look like a foreigner to them but they're just curious. If they had the courage most of them would walk up to you and talk to you to get to know a little bit about yourself and make sure you are enjoying your time there.

[@priscilla5706]

I coincidentally found a video of this channel last week when I searched for "mexico vlog black girl". I instantly liked your vlogging style and the vibes you were radiating, and when I saw that you were christian I understood that was the reason why haha. That all being said, I bingewatched your videos the past week and I really enjoyed watching your journey. You're truly an inspiration❤ Mexico City is definitely on my bucket list now. And thank you for being so transparent with us in this video. Pardon my English and much love from Germany!☺️

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@priscilla5706 Aw thank you so much for your sweet comment✨ It’s my pleasure! Happy to have you here all the way from Germany💕

[@sweetandsimple.]

The pollution is real no lie. The dust is my biggest issue. Another one I agree is the men. Now I truly understand the reason for the women's only section. Especially during rush hour on crowded trains I've experienced men deliberately pressing their junk on me. Ladies, definitely use the women section during rush hour.

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@sweetandsimple. I’m sorry you’ve experienced that! The women’s section has been such a game changer 🙌🏿

[@magda3999]

I feel you on this sis. I wear hijab so when I go anywhere in Latin America I get a lot of stares. Its low key exhausting when you go outside knowing you will have to deal with stares. I guess that's the blessing of living in other parts of the world where people just don't care and you can walk around without people batting an eye lol 😅. I really hope you find a place of tranquility. 💙💙

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@magda3999 it’s definitely something I realized I took for granted!🥲 thank you so much, me too 🙏🏿

[@timasuna1756]

Don't let people lie to you about LATAM being some religious rainbow tolerant place

[@johnsimon4263]

There is a lot of heterosexuality in Mexico City. In the US heterosexual men have been harassed and threatened at work to the extent they dont look at women. So heterosexual behavior can be shocking for people not used to it

[@francescafrancesca3554]

Is not heterosexual darling. You can feel things and not act on them until you know the other person will enthusiastically enjoy it. Is consent. Entonces no es cuestión de dar halagos, es cuestión de respetar a alguien que no conoces. Es diferente para los hombres porque socialmente casi nunca se les halaga, entonces es lógico para ellos pensar que dar "cumplidos" sin pedirlo se va a sentir bien para alguien que no conocen. Eso es si siquiera están pensando en lo que la otra persona sentiría y no en como se sienten. Entonces no es amor, es respeto.

[@johnsimon4263]

Nope. Gay Straight or whatever someone has to take the chance that while they are smitten the other person may not be. Hey people dress sexy that stylish look may be designen to attract Just maybe not you. Someone has to take the shot and try to find out. Even if rejection hurts

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

It’s shocking because it’s not normal. All heterosexual men don’t act like animals

[@fracpadilla]

I don't even drink water from the tab here in the USA. Growing up in Mexico city, this is what we learn from other men, we think it's ok and if we don't do it, we are not men enough (it's a pressure from society too), we think it's cool and we think this will impress the ladies but it's the opposite. I'm just giving you a man's perspective, it's a machismo culture, but it's too much and it's not ok. We , as Mexicans, need to fix this, especially in Mexico City.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you for sharing this perspective!

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

It’s a world wide problem

[@calloscar1948]

pressure from society? are you nuts? who the hell cares? you can drink water from the toilet and nobody would give a crap...

[@eristotle2380]

a significant other could help minimize all the staring. i lived in queretaro with my son who was 20 at the time, and i had no problems when he was with me. now when he wasn't it was a little different, but not unbearable... having a man makes all the difference in the world. thanks for sharing!

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@eristotle2380 of course! I definitely agree that it’s not as bad when you’re with someone else

[@lolid5158]

Your hair really does look beautiful 😊

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you so much!

[@gioarias75]

In Mexico, if you’re attractive woman, you’re gonna get constant attention and they’re not shy about it. That’s just how it is. It may be very uncomfortable for women. I know I hear the stories, but that’s really what it is especially if you’re different from the population, all eyes will be on you.

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

That’s worldwide

[@gioarias75]

@@somebodycomelistentothispo7217 Nope not true. For example, I have a very pretty coworker that always complains that when she goes to Italy, the male attention is nonstop and when she gets back to the states, she always says “Did I just turn ugly why does male attention stop here!

[@wardosravin]

Yeah, my partner is Mexican, and an attractive young lady, and she gets a lot of attention. She learnt at a young age to not look at men when walking down the street (she doesn't even like to walk alone). The difference compared to when we are in my home country, England, is night and day. In England people respect your relationship if you are holding hands walking down the street, and barely look (or are at least discreet).

[@gioarias75]

@@wardosravin where do you guys live as a couple in England or in Mexico?

[@wardosravin]

@@gioarias75 We lived in México for 4 years but are now giving it a go in England. However, we are currently in Toluca visiting family.

[@JdelaLamaC]

Well, you are very pretty. So you'll have to get used to it. Things are changing in México, but it will take time.

[@BecomingMexican]

19:31 Thank you so much for sharing your experience. It’s cultural. Coming from a western country there are somethings like what youre explaining can be confronting and takes getting used to. There are things that are outside of our control, becoming aware , learning and understanding more about the culture and how to integrate helps. Your friends advice is good. I lived in Mexico for almost 5 months so I understand what you are saying. ❤

[@Tolu.Travels]

It's my pleasure! Thank you 🙏🏿

[@JK-nq1dl]

We lived in CDMX, Merida, Queretaro and GDL. I recommend QTO as a place for long term living althi😢CDMX is more exciting. Also, Eastern Europe offers the low prices with incredibly beauty, less tourists and we are also black and I promise they showed us love in Budapest, Belgrade, Sarajevo and everywhere else we lived while in that region as digital nomads. Budapest is #1 over CDMX for me with Belgrade close behind.

[@Tolu.Travels]

That's amazing that you've been able to travel so much! Thank you for sharing

[@tomascastillo4676]

Afro people are exotic in México until very recently. In CDMX and even more in provinces. That combined with the fact we are very machist country explains this.

[@user-pt4xx4wu2i]

Its good to know that part as well. Thanks for sharing.

[@Tolu.Travels]

of course!

[@carlosvenegas2120]

As mexican I can tell you that We love to watch beautiful women but if you are stranger tha's going to increase a lot not just for black women but for blondes with blues eyes as well because aren't very common for us . If any man tell you something disrespecful you can call the police. I'm sorry that you have had bad experiences in my country but you are going to keep having a lot of attention because you are exotic and beautiful.

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@carlosvenegas2120 thank you for your comment 🙏🏿 I understand the curiosity, it just gets to be very uncomfortable at times

[@calebedwards5171]

Im a black man living im CDMX Im 6'7 and I get stared at ALOT! Lol I just take it as a compliment.

[@fcplop98]

Staring is a big issue in my visits to Mexico too. I am Mexican American and it was still a big culture clash for me. When i visit my moms hometown in a rural area i get stared down so bad because i dress and act different from the folks there. It took me a while to get used to and feel comfortable with the people there because of it. I also have started wearing my hair in its natural very curly state in a short blonde style and now when i go to Baja, i get stared at so intensely sometimes, it makes me feel like im in a zoo exhibit. Most of the time its positive/ neutral attention but i dont enjoy how it makes me feel. Its totally okay not to be okay with it.

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@fcplop98 I appreciate your comment, thank you✨ I definitely relate to feeling like a zoo animal sometimes, I’m sorry you’ve been experiencing that

[@alexmadrid6043]

You get so much attention, 😂 i think You should be very pretty for mexican eyes

[@LAMaman]

Interesting… I didn’t feel that in Mexico City but maybe I didn’t notice. I was with my husband and kid tho. You are very pretty so it’s not shocking.

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@LAMaman Aw thank you, yeah i actually don’t notice it as much when I’m with people but walking alone is when it’s tough

[@johnsimon4263]

Ok home price in an area pre gentrification is X. Then activity starts. New owners buy property to repair in almost all cases Mexican buy property from sellers in almost all cases Mexican and rejuvenate property. The new renter lets say US immigrant pays more for reworked property. Usually the US renter is unaware of what price they should pay but compared with where they come from it seems great. The legacy renter usually Mexican gets priced out. But remember the property is different than what was previously rented its better been improved and the price reflects it. Why are you sad for the Mexican renter who got priced out of the zone they lived in? But the US immigrant came from the States effectively got priced out and moved to Mexico for lower price. The US renter was gentrified outnof the states. Why no tears for them? The best news in all this is that in Mexico City at least you can stay away from other US natives pretty easily and enjoy Mexican culture.

[@DrCrystalHarris]

VERY helpful. thanks for sharing. just discovered you thanks to the algorithm. I am a slow traverl and planning to spend a month in Mexico (leaning towards starting in Mexico City).

[@Tolu.Travels]

I'm glad this was it was helpful!

[@JimenayaretziPerezpuente]

In Mexico, a tall and beautiful black woman like you gets a lot of attention, it's not really that common, and they admire you not in a bad way. Although it is true that harassment by men does exist in general for women, but it has improved with protests and raising awareness, but it is a process that women in this country have fought for. Maybe you have a little of both points that I told you 

[@jazz6500]

girl! do they have black hair dressers down there? that’s the only thing i’m worried about !!! i need my braids and i can’t do them myself 😅

[@Tolu.Travels]

I've only heard of one! This is their insta : instagram.com/africairshopping_mx/ I do my own hair so im not too sure if there are any others

[@user-qx7uk9qk3w]

Thank you for being so transparent and open about your experiences. I am a black male considering a move to Mexico and am researching the social history of Mexico toward foreigners. Even though I believe Mexico may have some growing up to do, my expectations are much higher than in the US. I am empathetic for your situation. You may consider searching for a less populated city near CDMX. Keep the faith and stay strong. Wishing you well.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you! Likewise, and hopefully this video helps in some way 🙏🏿

[@IntrovertedMonkey]

Let me just say this as a Mexican who has taken his beautiful black wife to meet the family in a very rural part of Mexico. We had random people staring at her hard AF!! I have visited so many times growing up to visit family and friends but this was the first time I ever felt like i needed to set that town on fire. Like we are from Chicago, the south side of Chicago, and yea its like that sometimes where your girls gets the slight stare here and there but we have never had all types of people just dead eye stare like a town of serial killers. Even little kids where like the Mexican Children of the Corn Tortillas! Point blank, Mexicans do not experience black people that much and they are a curious rude. My wife and I still had the best time and she still felt very at home in my little town and was treated like part of the family in like a millisecond. She really wants to visit Mexico City in the near future but her protective husband is like...."there is no way".

[@Tolu.Travels]

Oh wow! Thank you for sharing, I'm sorry y'all had to experience that. It truly is a different experience out here lol

[@alfzac77]

Me gustan mucho tus videos. Me agrada tener vecinos (de vecindario y de país) como tú.

[@aiming4peace929]

The stares are ALOT! I was in CDMX In April and had to modify what I wore too to feel more comfortable. But this aside, I had such a lovely experience. Such a beautiful country.

[@Tolu.Travels]

I agree!

[@MsPleasurPalace]

Just left there last month. People came up too me all day all night. Asking for photos. Asking questions. I’ve gotten stares my whole 50 yrs. Yet this was a lil different. I left there with Covid. Yet my trip was okay. This maybe 1 and done.

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@MsPleasurPalace 😩 Im sorry to hear that

[@EduDiaz-d8k]

Hi, Tolu! Thanks for saving me on the hike! I love CDMX. Have you been to Plaza Garibaldi - known as the epicenter of mariachi culture in the capital. Also, the iconic El Tenampa bar, Templo Mayor, or the legendary Estadio Azteca? Let’s explore! ☺️

[@Tolu.Travels]

Hey Eddy! No problem at all; I haven't been to these spots yet but thanks for the recs!!

[@f4llenstarr]

Any reason you choose CDMX over other cities? I know a lot of people are in Playa Del Carmen for example

[@Tolu.Travels]

My sister invited me to visit with her and I fell in love with the city at that point! I haven't had a chance to visit any other cities yet

[@caof2005]

If you don't feel ok here, then you shouldn't move here. Consider this, if the water, the air, the excess of appreciation, the crime, the cost of living or whatever bothers you and is important to you then don;t come here. Moving to Mexico City or any city in Mexico is an important decision, that should be deeply considered. As probably you may noticed Mexico can be wonderful but also awful at the same time, and as many things in life, Mexico is not for everybody. ADAPTATION is key for this, millions of people moves to USA not because they consider your country wonderful but because of socio-economic or geo-political reasons; (though USA certainly has good things and advantages too), and those people need to adapt and suffer not only the problems you mentioned but far many more. And if they complain and are not willing or be able to adapt themselves to your culture, your food, the racism, the crime, the drugs, the cost of living or what ever the problem, then USA is not for them and the country does need them too. For others is quite the contrary. In Mexico as you may have noticed, there are a tons of people from other parts of the world that were able to suffer the problems you mentioned and still adapt themselves and find the country a good option. If not take a look at the 1.5 millions of persons from USA that lives permanently here since many years. the same happens with a bunch of guys from Europe, The Caribbean, Central and Southamerica that now Mexico is their new home. So ADAPTATION is the key word. Many Mexicans tries to offer the best of the country to foreigners, but also know about the problems that exist and do not expect that by hidden them those will dissapear, quite the opposite, we are trying to fix them, and we think that even with that, you still found many things so attractive that are willing to come again. In other words ====>>>> "Mi casa es tu casa" but "Mi casa" still with all the problem it has, we offer it to all the ones that can adapt to it.

[@wardosravin]

My partner is Mexican, and an attractive young lady, and she gets a lot of attention. She learnt at a young age to not look at men when walking down the street (she doesn't even like to walk alone). The difference compared to when we are in my home country, England, is night and day. In England, people respect your relationship if you are holding hands walking down the street, and barely look (or are at least discreet).

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thanks for sharing! It's so interesting how different cultures can be

[@lorenzorios1]

Hola hermosa saludos desde guanajuato Mexico 🌷

[@thememphite]

Stay alert Sis and always follow your instincts.

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@thememphite thank you, will do🙏🏿

[@ellah2920]

I've been to Merida, Mexico and I found that the staring was more curiosity or flattery than anything to be offended by. I think the locals there practice a bit more restraint than in Mexico City. But one time at the zoo some random women took a photo of my adorable 5 year old son together with their daughter and he refused to smile. He hated the attention, and being treated like an exotic animal. I learned from this experience that what is flattering for one person might be insulting for another. I should have politely said no.

[@giljusino]

Two cons for me, the water issue and not being able to flush tp.

[@Tolu.Travels]

I agree!

[@whitneybrown4067]

This is Gonna b Truly Informative T2🔥🔥🔥👍n Happy Sunday😀….

[@ismaelmartinez9114]

They stare because you're gorgeous

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you 🙏🏿

[@acuellar7438]

You are very welcome. Never heard about the "staring" situation. To a certain extent it might be considered normal, but not with that intensity.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you 🙏🏿

[@fashionista101kt]

I think after Italy, I dont notice staring unless they look like they want to kill me lmao so thats one con that I dont think I noticed there as much but the rest of this video is spot on -stayed there for 2 months

[@Tolu.Travels]

Interesting!

[@claing-nd9tb]

"you didn't want anyone coming for you"?? Lol - then don't read their responses! You have an important message to share and that's what' matters. Why does your generation always care so much about what people on the internet think about you??

[@noemiavenido4608]

My Uber driver when I was there said he loves when people visit his city but not when they move there.

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@noemiavenido4608 yes I’ve heard that too!🥲 totally understandable

[@ariadnameza6594]

14:51 I’ve seen groups in social media dedicated to hating on foreigners; purposely giving them wrong directions, telling them they won’t talk unless they speak spanish, like you mention guiding them to dangerous areas, hanging posters with threats about one day kicking them out. And just wishing ill on them. I’ve seen them growing recently. As someone who likes to travel it’s scary to think locals have a growing resentment towards you but as someone who was born and raised in Mexico I’ve seen and lived the unfairness of being displaced by foreigners, specifically Americans. The government should put a foreigner tax tbh and diversify land use so that central areas can be inhabited by people of different types of incomes, unfortunately there’re so many obstacles to achieve that, mainly the building sector being very corrupt and powerful in the city. Until anything changes, the resentment from the locals will continue to grow. And to avoid that you can look for locals who give tours (checking opinions ofc) that are outside of touristy areas, I think people will treat you nicer if they don’t see you as the typical tourist. Also get an idea of how much things cost outside of touristy areas and buy within that range, even if you can afford to spend more, even if you have to walk around a bit. Help your economy and ours.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you for your comment! It is scary to think about but I totally understand this sentiment. I'll keep doing my best to help in ways I can

[@pennynocry9174]

I'm a 60+, black woman, Reverend considering a 3 month Spanish language immersion program for spring 2025. Is there a place to get black hair care products and have you found a black or mostly black and English speaking church community?

[@Tolu.Travels]

I've heard of this place! They sell products and do hair. This is their insta : instagram.com/africairshopping_mx/ I know there is a black community here with different groups you can find on facebook but I haven't been too involved in them

[@Kenesha_]

Yess for the hair! You did that sis 🤎 Thanks for sharing your journey in CDX and sharing the real. I am from Orlando and I noticed the Spanish men from a young age that would would stare at me and I was always uncomfortable. I’m sorry that you have to experience that. 😩 I am always mindful how I dress here because I never want to get any type of weird attention. It’s sad that as women we have to think about that before stepping out our door. I’m still trying to decide what city I want to try for a few months. 🤔

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you so much 😌 And my pleasure! I hope we can find places where we can truly live comfortably in this regard

[@firewine]

I visited two different cities in Mexico because i was considering luving there; both cities were no bueno! I'm the same color as the Mexicans, but it doesn't matter. I got stared at and felt a lot of hostility.

[@Tolu.Travels]

I'm so sorry to hear that!

[@papalupa]

Hey Tolu, I'm a Nigerian man, I've been living here since 2005, they are looking at you because you are Black 😂😂, Mexicans in general appreciate Black people, don't worry even we Black men have the same experience 😂😂😂, I have stories for years. You eventually get used to it, and stop noticing it, before I met my Madam, I used to have this problem with dating because while out on dates, my dates will get uncomfortable and they used to ask me if it were normal, and I used to tell them that I was so used to it, I stopped noticing it, if you think it's too much now, if you arrived here in 2005, you would have experienced 10x this. As for the rents, look for places like Colonia Alamos or Colonia Portales, those are good places to rent.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you for sharing your experience! I can't imagine how it would have been back then

[@allaboutchrist2793]

Sis God Bless, You Keep the Video Coming May the Lord Protect You and Provide for You in Jesus Christ Mighty Name

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you 🙏🏿

[@Ughhhleeki]

NO LITERALLY after the first few days I was ready to book my ticket dsfanasjnkajn I actually have gotten used to it more now perooooooo it was rough

[@Tolu.Travels]

🙌🏿💕✨

[@manuelgallardo1322]

The starring is definitely a cultural thing from a majority, not all, but a good majority of Mexican men. Then on top of that you add that in Mexico a darker complexion is seen as exotic. Puts more eyes on you guys to where they come out as weirdos and creepers. But is definitely a cultural thing that women keep fighting in Mexico. In rural areas it can even be worse.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you for sharing some insight, good to know 🙏🏿

[@teeshante]

Honestly I’m in Chicago, IL, I’m a chocolate woman as well and my entire adulthood with Hispanic men has been super exaggerated, fetishized even… I think it’s an every where kinda thing

[@user-wk9cy4dr7y]

Have you considered moving to Merida Mexico? Merida is Very nice good people low crime stress free financially much better than CDMX

[@JK-nq1dl]

I disagree after living in both that it’s financially much better.

[@mjohnson1741]

Merida has a huge black expat population.

[@Tolu.Travels]

I definitely want to visit soon!

[@aleejay2007]

⁠@@mjohnson1741yeah, we are pretty big! But Mérida is getting expensive.

[@mariahansen9882]

Tolu do you have any suggestions for places to get your hair braided?

[@Tolu.Travels]

I've only heard of one! This is their insta : instagram.com/africairshopping_mx/ I do my own hair so im not too sure if there are any others :/

[@mariahansen9882]

@@Tolu.Travels it's always I do it myself or my auntie/cousin does it! the world is so unfair! 🤣 but seriously thanks for the recommendation for those who aren't as blessed 😆

[@LivingandenjoyingLife]

I get the stares also, it's just that difference many haven't seen, and the stereotype that goes with it. I get it a lot on cdmx. But its about getting used to it, cdmx is so huge. Just know, cdmx is expensive, but so much varieties of food there, if you see one taco stand empty and the other full, go to the full one, my stomach learned the hard way. I live in playa del Carmen now, less traffic, beach life.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you for sharing! 🙏🏿

[@ashesrockstotaldrama]

We’re moving to playa del Carmen in the fall! ❤

[@LivingandenjoyingLife]

@ashesrockstotaldrama welcome, you will definitely enjoy it here, you will see all the wonderful decorations. If I can help with anything, I am here

[@noreenperez8666]

Travel Panama , you may like it🤷‍♀️

[@MorningSun-k4r]

I was waiting for this comment! 100% agree. Panama is my happy place and my brown skin blends right in. Definitely recommend. 🤎

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@noreenperez8666 omg I’m actually planning to go this year so I’m glad to hear it!

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@MorningSun-k4r perfect! I’m actually planning to check it out next month🙌🏿

[@UniquePathWellness]

@@Tolu.TravelsAlso if you haven’t yet look at Portugal, I think you would blend right in

[@hectormoralesfranco6850]

Rigth now the rain season have started but with a lot.. a lot of water....now the flood are the problem....but it better a lot than nothing

[@priscillacatalina1065]

I was in Mexico for two weeks did a tour we had to take a train and was packed like sardines. A Mexican put his hands down my pant’s yall 😡very disturbing experience please be careful ladies….Other than that experience my overall trip was nice.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Im so sorry to hear you experienced that, that's awful!

[@Isaiah11823]

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[@Tolu.Travels]

@@Isaiah11823 ✨

[@kimberlyp.p]

Hey Tolu I met you at church! I’ve been in Canada. I still enjoy watching your videos from cdmx 💞

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you Kimberly! Hope Canada is treating you well ✨

[@cwtrucker4963]

Dam you look 👀 good I’m a subscriber

[@DreamGirl650]

Where do you get your hair braided in Mexico City

[@Tolu.Travels]

I do it myself!

[@1EQUALS-INFINITY]

So gorgeous, I love your dimple. Come to Queretaro, we have an Queretaro Expat group and we love getting together. Join the group, we'd love to have you.

[@actionvj]

Great information and details about living in CDMX. After living in CDMX & visiting Ethiopia, is there any culture shock when you come back to America?

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thanks for watching! I think the biggest thing is the diversity. I took for granted how diverse the US is and how special it is to be surrounded by people from all walks of life there. Another thing I noticed after living in CDMX is the visual aspect of many cities in America. CDMX is so green, colorful and lively in general whereas, if you want to experience this in the US you have to drive somewhere specific

[@BibleSamurai]

u speak spanish? if not how do u get by

[@Tolu.Travels]

I speak a little and can understand quite a bit! learning everyday

[@alexmadrid6043]

You are sooo beutfiful and exotic 😅 i hope people do not harrass you....

[@lazarocedeno5270]

Cat calls is very Latin American. Specially when you are atractiva. You need to learn to deal with it. It is really cultural. You need to learn to ignore it. The culture is not going to change. Please, don’t take it the wrong way. I am telling you from a place of love. Do not let that spoil your experience.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you 🙏🏿

[@XcellsiorConsulting0305]

Our women of color are amazing beautiful. We are of many different shades of color. Because of there is a hynottic admiration of men. Not just Mexican men you probably have noticed this with other men it may be just be a look. I still get this also from men. I have men that virtually stalking me. I don’t give any personal information on KZbin. I am extremely careful when I go out. I am very cognizant of my safety. Women must be cognizant of their safety always. Women of color yes men look at us as a fetish especially if they are of a different ethnicity. This happens to all of us it has happened all my life. Just be careful and whenever you go out be cognizant of where you are. Perhaps you should move to Merida in my research it says it is the third safest country in North America; Canada is second, take care and God bless. I will pray for you, men don’t realize how this affects us.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you for sharing ✨

[@slobbix]

I’m from Mexico City and as a woman I understand your frustration to this situation. It’s annoying and disrespectful! It’s quite common that men harass women that they find attractive in the street or public transportation. I guess is part of the machismo. I’m sorry, wish was different. Also the earthquakes is a con. And yes, Mexico City citizens can be cruel too.

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@slobbix I know, I wish it was different too 😕

[@whatsonmymind3366]

I experience that staring in Egypt. It’s annoying and frightening. Makes you feel objectified .

[@bettyc1841]

The staring sounds creppy and disrespectful. I would walk with friends, especially male friends, whenever possible. There's a lot of "macho" culture in Latin America and not respecting women very much. Seeing them as pieces of meat. Be careful! And I recommend a place like Spain next. I know someone from there and she loves the easy life/more slow life. Here in the US, it's work and just work.

[@Tolu.Travels]

@@bettyc1841 yeah it’s pretty unfortunate😕 I have definitely been thinking about checking out Spain so I need to put it on my list!

[@firewine]

Kind? Welcoming? Ummm, no, that damn sure wasn't my experience! I was in Playa Del Carmen for New Years, then Guadalajara in Feb. The locals were rude and racist! U shud leave -- consider Columbia or Panama.

[@Tolu.Travels]

Im sorry that was your experience! Thanks for the recs

[@mysticheart4685]

Mexican people are the best people above all other cultures. The best food. The best culture. That’s why people migrate there and not Europe, Asia, or Africa like they do Latin America

[@Tolu.Travels]

🙏🏿

[@olayinkaoyo]

Hi Tolu (I'm taking Naijia liberties by addressing you as if I know you, even though I don't.😉) First, I do not say this as an excuse or justification for the behaviors & cat-calling interactions you've experienced. There's no excuse for it. You are VERY beautiful - absolutely gorgeous, more so than you likely know. You also have a glow and a vibrance. It is all your God given portion. Be you. Wear what you want. Don't modify your appearance in an effort to temper the behavior of others. Next, my solo experience in Italy (Torino and especially in Milan) was much like what you've described in CDMX. It was nuts! A previous commentor (@eristotle2380) mentioned she had no problems when walking with her young adult son. I think there's something to that. I was in Mexico City last summer 2023. When walking, my teenage son was always with me, and I didn't experience any of the cat-calling behavior I experienced in Italy. Be you.🤎

[@Tolu.Travels]

Thank you so much for your comment and kind words💕 I've definitely heard walking with a man helps things, I'm glad you were able to enjoy your time in CDMX ✨

[@olayinkaoyo]

@@Tolu.Travels Thanks love. I enjoyed my time in Guanajuato even more. No cat calling of anyone there. Check it out. 😘

[@ellah2920]

I've been to Merida, Mexico and I found that the staring was more curiosity or flattery than anything to be offended by. I think the locals there practice a bit more restraint than in Mexico City. But one time at the zoo some random women took a photo of my adorable 5 year old son together with their daughter and he refused to smile. He hated the attention, and being treated like an exotic animal. I learned from this experience that what is flattering for one person might be insulting for another. I should have politely said no.

[@Tolu.Travels]

I've heard good things about Merida, I hope to check it out soon! Im sorry yall went through that. I know it's intended to be flattering but yes it can be very uncomfortable